at night
so who here has heard the phrase in
husband and wife fight nobody gets into
Spoon
probably what you should have said
I have already said that phrase
phrase when that phrase I was younger
I had no real understanding of what
it meant only knew not
get involved in anyone’s private life
Do you know when your friend’s boy is not here?
being nothing cool with her knows when your
neighbor yells so much at his neighbor in
What can you hear from your house?
Do you know when your father locks the door?
room and makes her mother in a
living room
ready do not whistle after grown
You’ll understand better things.
the world will translate deconstruct
discourses dropped as common sense in
changes
I changed when I came to understand that
was behind the phrase in
husband and wife no one spoons
is it was domestic violence
I came to understand in a very
It’s better when I understood what
meant abusive relationship
I even realized that I already had
passed for a year I am ashamed not a
abusive relationship is more harmful
for the woman than we can think
imagine here for the women who are
In this situation it is more dangerous to
at home in your world and private with
people who know what’s on the street
if everyone here knows the risk that is
on the street, which contained simple
people have worked
the world is very cruel to women
let’s stop to think people
are more concerned with knowing why
women are in relationships
abusive than knowing why men
are abusing women feel the
pressure even seems that the fault is
that is in the toxic relationship and
No, it’s not my people.
this scene has a way
boring to blame the victim for everything
She always does, somebody comes to me.
will do renata but she is in this relationship
it’s because she likes
Who do you like that he suffered?
women between the ages of 16 and 24 are
those who suffer more abuse in
relationships because usually they
do not know who they are that are in
abusive relationships
she does not know why they never had
many previous experiences to
identify the fear of the church of the
aggressor
social pressure the removal of
family and friends, because the
aggressor makes the victim of all
close people
makes her stay in that
relationship is up because you
I knew the woman was more dangerous.
outside the abusive relationship of the
in that the relationship that when the
The aggressor ends, he has nothing left.
to lose and these are the cases of zeal to
daniela perez microlins y ou
remembering this but for a lot of people this
not enough
someone always comes to me and talks to
renata but she picked up took the scream
something she did to deserve this
is the type of speech that blamed a victim for
aggression suffered
I’ve heard reports of women
that this was the question that the
police officer made the time she decided
make a report
what did you do to get this slap
there is a cycle the abusive relationship
which are the series of common actions
between the aggressors
abuse such as verbal aggression to
shouting or cursing is a crisis of
jealousy bans
in this first phase the woman already begins
to have your psychological very shaken
usually the aggressor talk to know that I
Thank you for being with you that only I
It can not even handle your family.
Thank you, God, you have me.
this in mind we witnessed
clothing size in the color of the
so lipstick a woman sometimes speaks
This woman is forbidden to leave home.
she is literally locked away from
key in the house after the first
phase comes the explosion of aggression
physical
and there are the punches and kicks one of the
kick -breaking smash push is
death threat
this time the woman sure that only
in abusive relationships because
aggression and marks visible
cut rate is the broken arm is the
black eye
At this time she decided to take action
firmer
He asks her out and says that will separate
can not take it anymore and
consequently the aggressor in the
the third stage of the cycle that is
they repent
He starts saying, my love, please.
Sorry, I did not want to do it.
This I lost my head I do not know what
It ‘s because I did it because I love you so much.
that I hit you is because I
I love you so much that the time King of the ladder
Look, I promise I’ll look for a
psychologist this will never come back
happen because if you separate from
I do not know what I would be able to do
this is the famous honeymoon phase where
all the vows of love are spoken and
unfortunately believed and forgiven
this cycle happens once after
happens again and again and again
making it almost impossible for women to leave
alone of this relation to each cycle of
abuse that she is more fragile
pictures of herself she stays and
It is at this hour that the power of empathy
should enter the scene
who has heard of the medium
to welcome we are a collaborative network
that help women get out of it
just abusive
the spoon is an idealization
my how are the four friends
laay thaisa in one of five
knew before and we were born in
March this year at a startup event
and we have only one idea in common
create an online platform that helps
women to leave relationships
abusive
we had 54 hours to think about a
innovative entrepreneurial solution and
high exponential impact
we were in the event of
technology and we wanted to show that
the generations of tap is also made
by women
To start with, we all thought and
internet do a search
and we’re going to the county that does not
choco and still shocks much every time
I speak
every hour and a half a woman is
murdered victim of violence
domestic in the country
An hour and a half we have
notion of it
only 16 women today will die
victim of domestic violence in the
parents
our second step was to do research
field we went first in
police station the woman who has on only
police men serving us was
also in the reference center of
support to women in reef on
It was also closed for service
Because it was the weekend and we’re going
talk to people on the street people
I wanted to know more than people
had to tell us and a phrase in
common among all that we have found
very interesting was that they spoke
more or less so I help in a
woman who has a relationship
abusive
even though I did not know at that time
we started getting full idea in the
head full of ideas and ideas and
people needed to validate all these
ideas that we were having
and nothing better than a social network
to see if it will generate a buzz
shares short and everything else
and so we created an account in the
facebook and on a weekend we
already had a thousand page followers
few hours before the event ends
Our first vbox help request
was a woman from the paraná telling
had had an abusive and abusive
that even after all is over
needed help to recover from
traumas that he suffered soon after
He began to get others too
only women they wanted to help
came from Recife and came from curitiba and
another river and we prepared a
registration form in the world to
they
I found the one to respond where they lived
when and how they contact them
could help us separate three
categories emotional support help
and helps to bid on the
job market
these categories did not come from nowhere
we learned that the emotional
shaken up
lack of knowledge about their
rights and financial dependence of the
companion is the one who most
women become relationships
abusive
The main idea of the goal is to
connect women who are needing
help with women who want to help
stimulating empathy and the idea that
no woman should suffer alone what
happens when you connect these
women you may be
wondering what happens in the mass
a magic parade
happens the sound is that
the sonority is the union and the alliance
among women
based on empathy and fellowship in
the pursuit of joint objectives
sonority concept is strongly influenced by
present in feminism but if people
translate we can call hashtag
together we are stronger hashtag none
– hashtag stirred the same with all
wehtags let’s go together
the purpose is when women become
I put in the other share
even feeling disabled and help
Something good will come out for sure.
There are no people who say snow shinari um
bit of woman together does not
not even when we are
together people burn bras to people
back we put the feet out
people become head of state
We win the Nobel Prize to people.
become the owner of one’s own business
to come own the nose
We got the plague to come
Until the name of Maria da Penha
at that time of life from half a spoon to
It helped maria know
our network through a program
TV police officer who was going to
about us and is soon
then he came and talked to us for a
box for ten years that Mary was
trying to get rid of the threats of his
ex mate but I did not believe
more in the complaint
for her the protective measure was only
a piece of paper that said the ex
Her companion could not approach
her and that nothing really none of
it made sense even in another
relationship and she also in another
life against the companion
Maria was not without being threatened by
he and she came to us to give
say that he needed a
lawyer guides her in the process she
was already under way in court and
We did this the maria ConnectU to
lawyer who was registered in our
network and together they talked to guide the
process mark the new date
audience and Maria received all the
guidelines on how to proceed
days later, Maria comes to us
the girl is because now it’s me
want to help a kind woman, Maria
How cool are you trying to help who it was?
so I want to help the current
that is my reason why he is doing with
she did everything he did to me and how
I know what he is capable of.
I do not want to leave her alone in this
situation understood the word
sonority until now much spoon already
directly helped more than 50 women
all over Brazil with only nine months
life and all of it online and I
I’m going to make only one request here.
for you goal a spoon
if you are neutral in situation of
justice
you choose the price side if you
Complaints complain about a problem and
does nothing to resolve this
problem
you are part of the problem since
There’s a phrase that for me she does all the
the best way to complain is
make three out of five young women
Brazilians live or have lived in
abusive relationship three each
five young Brazilian women
need you women to help your
mothers and their sisters their friends the colleague
the work of the neighbor to that girl who
did you see at the bar take in the boyfriend shout
help converse support scouting metá
spoon she needs more of your ear
what a solution your goal to reap
question what she really wants is
make a complaint is to separate is
to continue in the relationship do not judge say
only that she is not alone, she remembers
hashtag together we are stronger
This is the truth and we men
We not postpone you after all you are
our parents brothers sons colleagues of
work neighbor friends flirt
we know that a
our every day makes you
victims also have to be the catcher
It has to be the male has to be
aggressive
It has to be all that annoying must be
every day prove that he is a man in this country
so come on, we’ll come to the
humanitarian side of the
share aggressive punch line
on facebook do not share that
that your friend sent you a moment of
intimacy with ideli and is now
running through the tap there is no
hand on the head of your friend who is
being aggressive with his partner
do not think the woman is by your side
is your property a spoon meta
and also people to finish
I wanted to say that the whole thing starts
the spoon does is for me is to put my
wonderful beautiful partners that I love
too much play with them is mine
My mother for my sister for my
friends is for you and the daughters of
You are for all the women of the
Brazil, what I’m asking, I have
very proud to say that in a fight of
husband and wife, we spoon
Yes
thanks
[Applause]
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