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Empatía, signo de grandeza | Abel Trillini | TEDxPaseoAlameda


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today I’m going to talk about compassion empathy

that of putting ourselves in another’s shoes and

walk by his side in his pain in his

grieving in your addiction

when I was four years old

my parents separated Europe went my

mama silvia my sister inés and laura and

I was left homeless at the end of

beginning of the eighties government

military there was little work and my mom

I had work but it was not very good

payment

so she reinforced with raffles rifaba

anything rifaba cosmetics rifaba

plates cups things from your marriage and

up to a hammer once when

did nap or forget the

numbers the numbers were a cardboard

divided into squares of 100 that

he played at night because neither the

mendoza

I took it to take them to sell

numbers I at five had

decided to help calls you to create my

little sisters one afternoon he went out to sell

numbers and hit a neighbor’s door

and merchant but we all knew

I asked him if he wanted to buy a number

for a raffle

He said yes and made me pass his

intentions were not those his intentions

they were raping me

and he did stole my childhood he stole my

He stole my innocence all at school

nobody asked me what was wrong

He asked why I stopped writing

neat because he cried for no reason or

because I started to lower the ratings

on the second grade

the teacher went through the bank and gave my

ravine notebook from my desk and

directed the direction of sadam day of my

arm and I was shaking 21 swimmers that

he told me you do not have to come here

they can go to school Mongolian side

of course the school next door was for kids

with different abilities like syndrome

down

If it was, I knew there had been at that moment

that I was being violated if I had

known of the terror he had that he

fulfill his word to rape me

sacred little sister that little empathy had

that lady with me and how important

it would have been that he had her maybe not

I counted

I felt dirty unworthy I did not want to live

in my head I heard noises I heard

noises heard blows

how to explain it was annoying not what

I could think one day I could not do more with the

noises

and I threw myself head down from a car type

almost died and when he came to himself we

took to the hospital

says my old woman I do not remember anything

to the hospital lagomaggiore near home

the noises ceased for 24 hours because

I lost consciousness the rivers followed

one afternoon my rapist the school pami

take it to my teacher an apple

orange I do not know what it was and he greeted me

but he greeted me a dirty way and the

noises returned this playground

and I threw myself upside down tree because

the rivers did not stop

once again the noises for not by 24

hours after that hit

something changed to I started to see patterns

in things framed in letter numbers

in words

I think it was the blow they took me from

emergency to the fleming hospital where

curiously the doctor who saw me that

day has just spoken

the albino doctor thanks dr he me

knocked down a euro to a neurologist

I do not know if the blow woke up in me the

epilepsy or the patterns but that day

changed and changed everything

something also changed at that moment I

violated once more and for the last time

because I realized that I could run

tired of his threats tired of having

fear I said I’m going to run because I do not have

nothing to lose

He took everything from me and practiced running and

If I wanted to tell someone what

we had done that llama had threatened

to do it and get to tell him why

he has nothing left to lose all

so I learned to run to save my

life as the lion zebra

luckily in those years too

appeared empathetic people like my

grandmother speck that with her mantle her love her

house covered us very little one appears a

family daniel mónica and her three children and

brothers daniel a very thinker type a

very serious guy but he hugged me with

food hugged me with clothes hugged us

with vegetables from his farm and he took me to

walk to see spectacular places

Marta’s mother also appeared luke

she kissed me with hot water shower

of hot water that we did not have at home

I sat at the table of your family a

honor

I really bought beautiful clothes that

my house was always celebrated a lot and I

gives a kiss on the forehead and said hello

negrito changed everything

so simple

at 10 years old we went to live for

iata and acquaintances

many people but one especially us

she had a chikito restaurant in the

commercial villa and we lived

back in his apartment and he

comments like silvia my mom was that

logo a guy bought four myths the

payment I came looking for you you want it

had done for us who knew that

We were going hungry

that and a lot of things more empathy

thanks to empathy today I am

talking to here thanks to them that

they did not give me the important back in the

empathy

thanks to daniel thank you. thank you

Marta thanks Peru because her love and her

love was not in vain

I’m here

how important is empathy in life

from the people

one believes that it is not so much not today

I’m married to her yes we have two girls

I have a house in a car, I have a job

I’m happy when I was very young we did not go

to live in the United States where they were born

the girls until it was time to go back

I got tired of running and escaping and here

we’re

one day my nephew Matías who is a musician

he wrote a song to me to me

write a song and we are listening

the and this song spoke lived dreamer

live a fighter who is a kid today

family that today has love that today has

everything asks that he won his life

I did not see myself if it was already off

tired and I thought if this kid of 20 years

You can see me like that and you do not know all my

story like I’m not going to see myself like that

I started working that day on my

remember me and who was then a Tuesday

a card and figurones is fulfilled and me

I put on this suit that I married

sushi in 1999

I went to the highway junction and

zapata at six in the morning to the

semaphores where I had noticed that

there was a fight that there were fights that

I hate people that sheput is already going this

stupid that broke my mirror this

moment I can blame hit me

cut and I thought I can fix this

place

I can make this change with a

idea of ​​the cartels

I thought I could make a change there

then that Tuesday I went to the knot

road with my first sign below the

arm and I brought and I did not dare to open it

for fear of rejection

then I started to calculate what I gave him

I say time patterns at traffic lights

and the cars in the amount that

they passed and I realized that they were 45

seconds of red for 45 seconds duty

of the reds are mine the greens are of

them while they have red and open me

Carter and people can read it and

monteverde scene where the cars

I propose something under my arm to not

cause an accident but I did not cheer up

the 7 35 had already calculated many

gt patterns repeated

I stopped and opened my first poster as well

and my poster said they smile because they’re

alive and that’s why today can be a

beautiful day and the first thing I saw was

smiles and the second I saw more smile

and the third smiles 150 times open the

poster this morning and all I saw was

smiles and I said in the right place

the next day it came out in a local newspaper with

another poster where they nicknamed me the

motivator of new vial people started to

realize that I was there and the

people began to notice I imagine that

they thought and with so little a mine and

fibrones this type can change me the

day

I can also do something started

to come out ideas to fulfill my dreams

my dream was of dreams many but

some were open dining rooms and we opened 1

and allies to several open schools or

shelter homes for people in

street situation or vulnerability for

that do not suffer so much salt and diaries

I went on TV they appear in reports by

everywhere because it’s something different

we open a facebook page with my

wife and one of the posters for example

of 35 million and past visits or more

things change with so little not

so I want to ask you something

let’s help us help those who are

fallen do not leave us there as such if not

they would have helped me to get up that

it would be my life’s life

I ask you to do it because when

you have

the privilege of changing a life not

only that life is changing but

the following generations

and that’s a worthwhile idea

share thanks

I will not leave my partner

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