I think surely we are all very
family
men and women do not live the
city in the same way and this is not
this one truth is a reality is not
a perception but you
they will ask and then what is life like
Women’s
have you ever wondered if it is that
There is a difference between men
and women in small decisions
we take in every day but they have
asked the answer is yes and the
differences are many and start from
that we get up until we
we sleep for example the first
difference is to say that we are going to
put image and not necessarily because
it would be the closets did not give enough that
usually happens with quite a lot
Frequency at least to me but because
we have to know what we are going to do that
day to decide what not to use then if
is that we’re going to get on the bus
we’re going to put on a skirt or we’re not going to
put on dress and then decisions
that we have to take are
against evading situations of harassment
sexual and men in exchange do not have
what to do they get up and shower
a trouser and a shirt and they go out to do
their day and in that time they really
do not wonder if it is that the dress
that they chose is going to be a reason for
suffer sexual assault does not happen to them
by the head
to us yes and then if the day does not
we left the house we have to the
work or we are going to study or we are going to
have fun and we have to keep taking
decisions based on not being harassed
so we are not going to walk through that
street where we have seen that there is a
construction and if we see that there is
a group of men pretty if we’re
or the then probably better
let’s cross the street we ‘re going to go
on the other hand and so we continue to take
decisions
just in function of not suffering the
thing
and of course we also have to
worry about safety issues and
we also have to take care of the portfolio
we also have to take care of the cell phone
just like men is to say we
we also have to take precautions
depending on security but apart
of those precautions we also have to
take precautions to avoid being harassed
so as not to be touched so as not to be raped
they are going to be killed by the mere fact of
be women for no other reason and
all absolutely all of us said ‘no
it is practically all of us have suffered in
some time in our lives a case
of sexual harassment in the streets or in
boxes
it may have been mild, there may be
serious was that saying once was that
has been several times but in some
moment we suffer it and in that moment the
things change because we are in a
society in which sexual harassment
street is somehow like
invisibilized not true is things like
as something that is not not debated is not
discuss and then we have to think
which is a compliment
we have to be super flattered because
they tell us it did not inspire us
we are very gallant and and not the truth that
we the only thing we are doing
that is , the obese and how beautiful it is
today but behind that perception
There is a reality that we have to know
that exists and that reality is that the
body and life of women is not
our but that is available to
society and then that society
decide that yes it is that our lack is
High whatever it is that because it
so subjective or if the escort
is very low the pants are very
tight
then there is a reason why we
something happened
that day in the city or also the city
the city the society decides that yes it is
that a woman went over drinks or if
she went out alone at night
so surely I was looking
and I say this because this is that of that
the body and life of women
belongs to society
some years ago that is the way in which
I did not feel
when this kind of thing happens to us
some years when I was still
studying was already working and had
the luck of living near my work
a privilege that few people can
have in this city
and of course, what better than working?
walking work because of course you do not have
to get in the car and be in the
Quito traffic stress or you do not have
to get on the bus and have to put up with
the mistreatment of bad service
public transport that we have
and then what better than to be able to walk and
clear me happy
it was summer 8 the morning walking on the
avenida amazonas and in my work and I saw
a man who approached me and then
I was walking like me
surely he was full to his work at
that me and every time he came
I liked it too close but I
honestly I did not know what it meant
that and when this man passed by
my own
for soto cano in my private parts and
if I eat that if nothing had happened like
that if that was a routine more in his day
that came out and played the women and I
agreement
It’s been a few years but the truth is
They have not forgotten the feeling
I was paralyzed I did not know what to do
sincerely I was freezing I stayed
paralyzed I started to cry and and cried
because he did not understand why that person
I had decided that I could touch myself
can touch my body is mine only me
I can decide to whom I give that right
or if someone tells me privilege and this
person had simply decided that I
he no longer had that right which is the
right to abel and I felt like I did not
actually worthless person was not me
I felt like an object
and from that things change to
from that first experience to the
age that you have whatever is slight or is more
serious
things change then yes I can already
he did not walk even though they both walk
my city
we have to decide to change the routes
maybe some can tell us at
public transport can not all
then we are doubly exposed and
clear as street sexual harassment
what is this form of violence is the
main form of violence to
women in the public space is to say
violence to women no longer just
is at home is not at work
not only at work is in the public
is on the street be on the bus is on
the square in the park is in those
day-to-day experiences where the city
it’s supposed to give you spaces
of coexistence not the city becomes a
decisive space and that aggressive space
and it is to that expression of violence to
women in the public space is the
street sexual harassment because that is what
does it transforms the lives of women
then jean the city is not the life of
the women of the city is not about
our possibilities and our dreams
and want to live our city that
enjoy our city when we left
but it comes back to bring
impossibilities until what we have
what to do to avoid being harassed
that the brothers
not wearing a skirt, not being dressed, does not come out very
at night alone do not take the solar taxi not
no no no no
when in fact if it is that the harassment
street sex was not so
normalized and it was not a subject that is
a compliment is a compliment or that is
consequence of a decision that
we have taken as is the
clothing
then so women would not be
built around avoiding that and
around finding ways to
avoid it and in addition especially a
story built around fear
and distrust because that is what
we think that lascivious look that
hill is that compliment that touch is going to
turn into something else is going to turn
in a chase
in a rape in a femicide and it’s
I miss on the bus that looks at us
a lot or those steps that we heard back
ours as very close when we are
returning to the house or that man who
spend in your car and you spend honking and
saying something you have to ask yourself if
is that that is going to turn into something more
imagine the fatality and the fright of
live in a city where
you are continually asking if it is
that they are going to attack you in which
continuously we have to change
your decisions and make decisions in
function of not being attacked or more serious
even in a city where any
man can become a threat
how ugly to have to think that the other
they can be a potential threat and what
ugly me uglier av
think that everything is so naturalized and
so normalized that it’s part of the day to
day that is already as normal there is no
you have to live it and it’s like that and I’m
sure that you do not want and I
neither
we do not want to live in a violent city
aggressive
we do not want to live in a city that we
discriminates we want to live in cities
where public spaces really
they are meeting spaces are spaces
of coexistence
we want to live in a city where
we can have where all men and
women we can mobilize calmly
and safe and where we have the same
ability to freely choose our
options without being afraid and I like
You know, I’m a fan of the cities
I am convinced that cities are
the main space of the
social transformation because the city
is where we live where we do
our dreams where we develop
and human relationships are so
important to us and I think that
we humans are that we are relationships
human beings we developed around
have human relationships but not
only these interactions that are
our closest not with the family
at work with friends but
as well
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