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[Music] thank you for that brilliantly fearless
thank you for that brilliantly fearless
thank you for that brilliantly fearless introduction I’m a clinical psychologist
introduction I’m a clinical psychologist
introduction I’m a clinical psychologist and I work with people experiencing
and I work with people experiencing
and I work with people experiencing common mental health problems like
common mental health problems like
common mental health problems like anxiety and depression this is me aged
anxiety and depression this is me aged
anxiety and depression this is me aged about thirteen with my lovely mom and
about thirteen with my lovely mom and
about thirteen with my lovely mom and sister and as I’m standing here in front
sister and as I’m standing here in front
sister and as I’m standing here in front of all of you my first thought is why am
of all of you my first thought is why am
of all of you my first thought is why am I voluntarily sharing a picture from my
I voluntarily sharing a picture from my
I voluntarily sharing a picture from my teenage years and secondly I think I’m
teenage years and secondly I think I’m
teenage years and secondly I think I’m going to be in trouble with my sister I
going to be in trouble with my sister I
going to be in trouble with my sister I should probably have asked her
should probably have asked her
should probably have asked her permission but there’s a reason I’m
permission but there’s a reason I’m
permission but there’s a reason I’m showing you this picture as although
showing you this picture as although
showing you this picture as although today I want to talk to you about what I
today I want to talk to you about what I
today I want to talk to you about what I believe the foundations of happiness to
believe the foundations of happiness to
believe the foundations of happiness to be to put it all into context first I
be to put it all into context first I
be to put it all into context first I need to take you on a trip back in time
need to take you on a trip back in time
need to take you on a trip back in time so here I am at school I was an average
so here I am at school I was an average
so here I am at school I was an average student never the first to hand in
student never the first to hand in
student never the first to hand in homework I did fine but I was never
homework I did fine but I was never
homework I did fine but I was never really engaged I wouldn’t have been
really engaged I wouldn’t have been
really engaged I wouldn’t have been named most likely to do much by any of
named most likely to do much by any of
named most likely to do much by any of the teachers all my friends my dad even
the teachers all my friends my dad even
the teachers all my friends my dad even said to me after I completed my
said to me after I completed my
said to me after I completed my doctorate in the nicest of ways would
doctorate in the nicest of ways would
doctorate in the nicest of ways would never have expected you to be the one to
never have expected you to be the one to
never have expected you to be the one to do all this
for uni I wanted to study psychology
for uni I wanted to study psychology whilst I’ve never had a favorite subject
whilst I’ve never had a favorite subject
whilst I’ve never had a favorite subject I’ve always been interested in people
I’ve always been interested in people
I’ve always been interested in people probably verging on nosy I sat all the
probably verging on nosy I sat all the
probably verging on nosy I sat all the career tests and psychology came out top
career tests and psychology came out top
career tests and psychology came out top score excitedly went to tell my mum
score excitedly went to tell my mum
score excitedly went to tell my mum about my chosen profession
about my chosen profession
about my chosen profession Harris once all the psychologists I know
Harris once all the psychologists I know
Harris once all the psychologists I know are depressed
after a failed attempt to study medicine
after a failed attempt to study medicine following in my grandparents footsteps I
following in my grandparents footsteps I
following in my grandparents footsteps I took a gap year and applied for
took a gap year and applied for
took a gap year and applied for psychology it wasn’t until I discovered
psychology it wasn’t until I discovered
psychology it wasn’t until I discovered psychology at university that I finally
psychology at university that I finally
psychology at university that I finally found a subject I loved I felt engaged
found a subject I loved I felt engaged
found a subject I loved I felt engaged and curious and I wanted to know more
and curious and I wanted to know more
and curious and I wanted to know more the trouble was I was also interested in
the trouble was I was also interested in
the trouble was I was also interested in having fun at 22 I graduated and moved
having fun at 22 I graduated and moved
having fun at 22 I graduated and moved to London to be with my friends I’m
to London to be with my friends I’m
to London to be with my friends I’m finding the easiest way to make money I
finding the easiest way to make money I
finding the easiest way to make money I got a job in IT recruitment not a
got a job in IT recruitment not a
got a job in IT recruitment not a considered decision I’m very good at
considered decision I’m very good at
considered decision I’m very good at convincing myself of things and at the
convincing myself of things and at the
convincing myself of things and at the time I thought that I could be motivated
time I thought that I could be motivated
time I thought that I could be motivated by money and it would give me access to
by money and it would give me access to
by money and it would give me access to doing things like traveling trips nights
doing things like traveling trips nights
doing things like traveling trips nights out new clothes I lived in London I had
out new clothes I lived in London I had
out new clothes I lived in London I had fun I went out a lot I quickly realized
fun I went out a lot I quickly realized
fun I went out a lot I quickly realized that money definitely didn’t motivate me
that money definitely didn’t motivate me
that money definitely didn’t motivate me and whilst recruitment might be a route
and whilst recruitment might be a route
and whilst recruitment might be a route to riches for me it wasn’t a route to
to riches for me it wasn’t a route to
to riches for me it wasn’t a route to happiness this voice kept saying I want
happiness this voice kept saying I want
happiness this voice kept saying I want more my water work would take me through
more my water work would take me through
more my water work would take me through temple I take a back route through the
temple I take a back route through the
temple I take a back route through the law-courts it was one of the highlights
law-courts it was one of the highlights
law-courts it was one of the highlights of my day the buildings are so beautiful
of my day the buildings are so beautiful
of my day the buildings are so beautiful and although you’re right next to the
and although you’re right next to the
and although you’re right next to the bustle of London the gardens are so
bustle of London the gardens are so
bustle of London the gardens are so peaceful temple church it’s inside a
peaceful temple church it’s inside a
peaceful temple church it’s inside a quiet courtyard tucked inside a maze of
quiet courtyard tucked inside a maze of
quiet courtyard tucked inside a maze of buildings and it’s like going back in
buildings and it’s like going back in
buildings and it’s like going back in time I got here one morning and I found
time I got here one morning and I found
time I got here one morning and I found myself sitting down in tears this is not
myself sitting down in tears this is not
myself sitting down in tears this is not how I want my life to be I felt
how I want my life to be I felt
how I want my life to be I felt directionless without purpose I wanted
directionless without purpose I wanted
directionless without purpose I wanted to do something that meant something to
to do something that meant something to
to do something that meant something to me I thought about all the things I’d
me I thought about all the things I’d
me I thought about all the things I’d enjoyed doing and I kept coming back to
enjoyed doing and I kept coming back to
enjoyed doing and I kept coming back to psychology it was the one thing I’d done
psychology it was the one thing I’d done
psychology it was the one thing I’d done that did really mean something to me
that did really mean something to me
that did really mean something to me it felt worth working hard for in fact
it felt worth working hard for in fact
it felt worth working hard for in fact it didn’t really feel like work at all I
it didn’t really feel like work at all I
it didn’t really feel like work at all I loved the puzzle of people and the
loved the puzzle of people and the
loved the puzzle of people and the theories and research just made so much
theories and research just made so much
theories and research just made so much sense to me
sense to me
sense to me despite everybody around me saying it’s
despite everybody around me saying it’s
despite everybody around me saying it’s not a solid profession it’s not going to
not a solid profession it’s not going to
not a solid profession it’s not going to give you what you need I followed my
give you what you need I followed my
give you what you need I followed my instincts
instincts
instincts and went back to school I found a course
and went back to school I found a course
and went back to school I found a course I convinced my work to let me go
I convinced my work to let me go
I convinced my work to let me go part-time
part-time
part-time and I got a master’s in health
and I got a master’s in health
and I got a master’s in health psychology it was doing that course that
psychology it was doing that course that
psychology it was doing that course that I did a module in clinical psychology
I did a module in clinical psychology
I did a module in clinical psychology and then I knew what I wanted to do two
and then I knew what I wanted to do two
and then I knew what I wanted to do two years later I got a place on the
years later I got a place on the
years later I got a place on the doctorate course I loved training I
doctorate course I loved training I
doctorate course I loved training I finally felt like I was in the right
finally felt like I was in the right
finally felt like I was in the right place headed in the right direction I
place headed in the right direction I
place headed in the right direction I was a person in the front row of every
was a person in the front row of every
was a person in the front row of every lecture with my full attention on
lecture with my full attention on
lecture with my full attention on everything being said I remember feeling
everything being said I remember feeling
everything being said I remember feeling so smug that I wasn’t out working like
so smug that I wasn’t out working like
so smug that I wasn’t out working like my friends but being paid to do
my friends but being paid to do
my friends but being paid to do something I loved it was on the course
something I loved it was on the course
something I loved it was on the course that I came up with the idea for the
that I came up with the idea for the
that I came up with the idea for the books the ideas we learned about were
books the ideas we learned about were
books the ideas we learned about were fascinating but many of them were so
fascinating but many of them were so
fascinating but many of them were so simple and common-sense and so easy to
simple and common-sense and so easy to
simple and common-sense and so easy to put into practice I could see they could
put into practice I could see they could
put into practice I could see they could make a real difference to people and
make a real difference to people and
make a real difference to people and that others could benefit from them even
that others could benefit from them even
that others could benefit from them even if they weren’t suffering from
if they weren’t suffering from
if they weren’t suffering from depression even if they didn’t have
depression even if they didn’t have
depression even if they didn’t have anxiety and that knowing these things
anxiety and that knowing these things
anxiety and that knowing these things might even prevent some of these
might even prevent some of these
might even prevent some of these problems
problems
problems for example thoughts aren’t facts when
for example thoughts aren’t facts when
for example thoughts aren’t facts when your mind is chatting away and thoughts
your mind is chatting away and thoughts
your mind is chatting away and thoughts are running through your head often we
are running through your head often we
are running through your head often we don’t even stop to question them I did
don’t even stop to question them I did
don’t even stop to question them I did really badly he gave me a funny look
really badly he gave me a funny look
really badly he gave me a funny look they hate my talk instead we accept them
they hate my talk instead we accept them
they hate my talk instead we accept them as the truth especially when we’re
as the truth especially when we’re
as the truth especially when we’re feeling anxious low or insecure and
feeling anxious low or insecure and
feeling anxious low or insecure and those thoughts feeds into your mood and
those thoughts feeds into your mood and
those thoughts feeds into your mood and leave you feeling even worse but as real
leave you feeling even worse but as real
leave you feeling even worse but as real as it might feel it’s just a thought a
as it might feel it’s just a thought a
as it might feel it’s just a thought a hypothesis it’s your interpretation of
hypothesis it’s your interpretation of
hypothesis it’s your interpretation of what’s going on your thoughts are
what’s going on your thoughts are
what’s going on your thoughts are definitely not facts it’s such a simple
definitely not facts it’s such a simple
definitely not facts it’s such a simple way to think about your thoughts I’m
way to think about your thoughts I’m
way to think about your thoughts I’m really obvious but I only knew about it
really obvious but I only knew about it
really obvious but I only knew about it because I was lucky enough to be doing
because I was lucky enough to be doing
because I was lucky enough to be doing the training course it made me think I
the training course it made me think I
the training course it made me think I shouldn’t be the only one who knows
shouldn’t be the only one who knows
shouldn’t be the only one who knows about this I wanted to make these ideas
about this I wanted to make these ideas
about this I wanted to make these ideas more accessible I completed my doctoral
more accessible I completed my doctoral
more accessible I completed my doctoral thesis and was married a few days later
thesis and was married a few days later
thesis and was married a few days later it was a wonderful time I was married to
it was a wonderful time I was married to
it was a wonderful time I was married to an amazing man and soon to become a
an amazing man and soon to become a
an amazing man and soon to become a clinical psychologist
clinical psychologist
clinical psychologist and she lived happily ever after that is
and she lived happily ever after that is
and she lived happily ever after that is what I was thinking at that point but I
what I was thinking at that point but I
what I was thinking at that point but I think you know it’s never that simple
think you know it’s never that simple
think you know it’s never that simple after the birth of my son I felt like I
after the birth of my son I felt like I
after the birth of my son I felt like I had to make my work count there any time
had to make my work count there any time
had to make my work count there any time away from him had to be worth it I
away from him had to be worth it I
away from him had to be worth it I became really gold focused I set my
became really gold focused I set my
became really gold focused I set my private practice I got a full book deal
private practice I got a full book deal
private practice I got a full book deal and I was pregnant again soon after my
and I was pregnant again soon after my
and I was pregnant again soon after my main focus was on getting the books done
main focus was on getting the books done
main focus was on getting the books done before the baby came I hit all my
before the baby came I hit all my
before the baby came I hit all my deadlines and my second child my
deadlines and my second child my
deadlines and my second child my beautiful daughter arrived inside that
beautiful daughter arrived inside that
beautiful daughter arrived inside that box and my books they just arrived it’s
box and my books they just arrived it’s
box and my books they just arrived it’s the culmination of years of hard work an
the culmination of years of hard work an
the culmination of years of hard work an idea that started when I was training
idea that started when I was training
idea that started when I was training and is now a reality my checklist was
and is now a reality my checklist was
and is now a reality my checklist was complete doctorate in clinical
complete doctorate in clinical
complete doctorate in clinical psychology my own private practice a
psychology my own private practice a
psychology my own private practice a husband I love two amazing children a
husband I love two amazing children a
husband I love two amazing children a beautiful home but rather than
beautiful home but rather than
beautiful home but rather than transforming my life I felt disconnected
transforming my life I felt disconnected
transforming my life I felt disconnected and lonely I’d achieved everything I’d
and lonely I’d achieved everything I’d
and lonely I’d achieved everything I’d set out to I’d done all the things I
set out to I’d done all the things I
set out to I’d done all the things I thought would make me happy I just felt
thought would make me happy I just felt
thought would make me happy I just felt exhausted in dread I was hitting my
exhausted in dread I was hitting my
exhausted in dread I was hitting my goals one after another but the feeling
goals one after another but the feeling
goals one after another but the feeling of contentment wasn’t there it was a
of contentment wasn’t there it was a
of contentment wasn’t there it was a really hard time I had a new baby I’d
really hard time I had a new baby I’d
really hard time I had a new baby I’d get up leave two kids at home go to my
get up leave two kids at home go to my
get up leave two kids at home go to my office promote my books on my days at
office promote my books on my days at
office promote my books on my days at home I was getting to grips with looking
home I was getting to grips with looking
home I was getting to grips with looking after two small children I didn’t feel
after two small children I didn’t feel
after two small children I didn’t feel like I was getting much right and there
like I was getting much right and there
like I was getting much right and there was no space for happiness my co-author
was no space for happiness my co-author
was no space for happiness my co-author without instagramming pictures of the
without instagramming pictures of the
without instagramming pictures of the boats and boats doors posting them on
boats and boats doors posting them on
boats and boats doors posting them on Facebook signing copies of the book I
Facebook signing copies of the book I
Facebook signing copies of the book I couldn’t even open that books
couldn’t even open that books
couldn’t even open that books I stood in front of that box of Burke’s
I stood in front of that box of Burke’s
I stood in front of that box of Burke’s looking at the package thinking why am I
looking at the package thinking why am I
looking at the package thinking why am I not happy I really had to sit down and
not happy I really had to sit down and
not happy I really had to sit down and think why why am I so uninterested
think why why am I so uninterested
think why why am I so uninterested this is an idea I was so passionate
this is an idea I was so passionate
this is an idea I was so passionate about at the start and now I feel like I
about at the start and now I feel like I
about at the start and now I feel like I don’t even care if reaching your goals
don’t even care if reaching your goals
don’t even care if reaching your goals doesn’t mean you can enjoy life and be
doesn’t mean you can enjoy life and be
doesn’t mean you can enjoy life and be content what do we need to think or do
content what do we need to think or do
content what do we need to think or do to be truly happy based on my experience
to be truly happy based on my experience
to be truly happy based on my experience and knowledge knowing me and how
and knowledge knowing me and how
and knowledge knowing me and how psychology works why am I at this place
psychology works why am I at this place
psychology works why am I at this place I thought my mum was right crossed my
I thought my mum was right crossed my
I thought my mum was right crossed my mind when I was younger I thought of
mind when I was younger I thought of
mind when I was younger I thought of life as simple and predictable you grow
life as simple and predictable you grow
life as simple and predictable you grow up you work hard you achieve your goals
up you work hard you achieve your goals
up you work hard you achieve your goals and life just slots into place
and life just slots into place
and life just slots into place I think I’d expected life to be perfect
I think I’d expected life to be perfect
I think I’d expected life to be perfect when I look back at my earlier self
when I look back at my earlier self
when I look back at my earlier self I can see I’d fallen into the trap of
I can see I’d fallen into the trap of
I can see I’d fallen into the trap of believing that the next goal the next
believing that the next goal the next
believing that the next goal the next achievement would mean I was there
achievement would mean I was there
achievement would mean I was there wherever there is that something
wherever there is that something
wherever there is that something external needed to change before I could
external needed to change before I could
external needed to change before I could really relax and enjoy my life this is
really relax and enjoy my life this is
really relax and enjoy my life this is how my life was before the books came
how my life was before the books came
how my life was before the books came out I’d sacrificed everything that
out I’d sacrificed everything that
out I’d sacrificed everything that didn’t fit with my goals telling myself
didn’t fit with my goals telling myself
didn’t fit with my goals telling myself I’d get back to it when I was done
I’d get back to it when I was done
I’d get back to it when I was done believing this is how it would be
believing this is how it would be
believing this is how it would be afterwards loads of time of my family
afterwards loads of time of my family
afterwards loads of time of my family hopefully a holiday time with friends
hopefully a holiday time with friends
hopefully a holiday time with friends definitely time for exercise but you
definitely time for exercise but you
definitely time for exercise but you never actually get there there was no
never actually get there there was no
never actually get there there was no great change in my life as I’d expected
great change in my life as I’d expected
great change in my life as I’d expected it’s like the pot of gold at the end of
it’s like the pot of gold at the end of
it’s like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow
the rainbow
the rainbow it just keeps moving over the next hill
the key realization I had is it’s not
the key realization I had is it’s not reaching your goals that matters but how
reaching your goals that matters but how
reaching your goals that matters but how you get there that is most important I
you get there that is most important I
you get there that is most important I was thinking of life as a race to a
was thinking of life as a race to a
was thinking of life as a race to a destination what I really needed to
destination what I really needed to
destination what I really needed to recognize it is it’s an adventure in a
recognize it is it’s an adventure in a
recognize it is it’s an adventure in a race you take the quickest route to
race you take the quickest route to
race you take the quickest route to where you want to go in an adventure
where you want to go in an adventure
where you want to go in an adventure there is no perfect route the main aim
there is no perfect route the main aim
there is no perfect route the main aim is to explore is having a daily life
is to explore is having a daily life
is to explore is having a daily life that fulfills you rather than waiting
that fulfills you rather than waiting
that fulfills you rather than waiting for a time that never comes this is how
for a time that never comes this is how
for a time that never comes this is how I now live my life that doesn’t mean
I now live my life that doesn’t mean
I now live my life that doesn’t mean that every day is a great day
that every day is a great day
that every day is a great day it’s okay to have ups and downs often
it’s okay to have ups and downs often
it’s okay to have ups and downs often it’s the challenger’s we gain the most
it’s the challenger’s we gain the most
it’s the challenger’s we gain the most from an adventure should be meaningful
from an adventure should be meaningful
from an adventure should be meaningful and enriching but that doesn’t mean big
and enriching but that doesn’t mean big
and enriching but that doesn’t mean big changes or grand gestures my motto now
changes or grand gestures my motto now
changes or grand gestures my motto now is that what you do every day is what
is that what you do every day is what
is that what you do every day is what makes the biggest difference it’s the
makes the biggest difference it’s the
makes the biggest difference it’s the small steps that lead to the biggest
small steps that lead to the biggest
small steps that lead to the biggest changes how we feel is a natural product
changes how we feel is a natural product
changes how we feel is a natural product of all of the choices we make but
of all of the choices we make but
of all of the choices we make but especially the small choices that each
especially the small choices that each
especially the small choices that each of us makes every day and those small
of us makes every day and those small
of us makes every day and those small changes when added together one by one
changes when added together one by one
changes when added together one by one can have a massive impact like trees in
can have a massive impact like trees in
can have a massive impact like trees in a forest or the bricks that went into
a forest or the bricks that went into
a forest or the bricks that went into making Temple Church it’s not reaching a
making Temple Church it’s not reaching a
making Temple Church it’s not reaching a goal that means you’re arrived it’s
goal that means you’re arrived it’s
goal that means you’re arrived it’s using what you have in your life right
using what you have in your life right
using what you have in your life right now we all have within us the
now we all have within us the
now we all have within us the opportunity to live a happy life
opportunity to live a happy life
opportunity to live a happy life whatever our circumstances so to finish
whatever our circumstances so to finish
whatever our circumstances so to finish I’m going to tell you about three small
I’m going to tell you about three small
I’m going to tell you about three small changes I’ve made from my everyday to
changes I’ve made from my everyday to
changes I’ve made from my everyday to put my motto into practice the first is
put my motto into practice the first is
put my motto into practice the first is I take each day a little slower I was so
I take each day a little slower I was so
I take each day a little slower I was so busy rushing around doing everything I
busy rushing around doing everything I
busy rushing around doing everything I thought I should be and taking myself
thought I should be and taking myself
thought I should be and taking myself far too seriously though it wasn’t
far too seriously though it wasn’t
far too seriously though it wasn’t stopping to appreciate the richness of
stopping to appreciate the richness of
stopping to appreciate the richness of my life one day I didn’t even stop for
my life one day I didn’t even stop for
my life one day I didn’t even stop for milk on my way home from work because it
milk on my way home from work because it
milk on my way home from work because it would take time out of my plan if you’re
would take time out of my plan if you’re
would take time out of my plan if you’re going at 100 miles an hour it’s hard to
going at 100 miles an hour it’s hard to
going at 100 miles an hour it’s hard to have an adventure it’s only by slowing
have an adventure it’s only by slowing
have an adventure it’s only by slowing down and switching out of autopilot that
down and switching out of autopilot that
down and switching out of autopilot that we can really take things in I had
we can really take things in I had
we can really take things in I had everything I needed rather than waiting
everything I needed rather than waiting
everything I needed rather than waiting to achieve a goal I appreciate what I
to achieve a goal I appreciate what I
to achieve a goal I appreciate what I already have in my life and slowing down
already have in my life and slowing down
already have in my life and slowing down helps me do that there’s no hurry
helps me do that there’s no hurry
helps me do that there’s no hurry sometimes I have to repeat that to
sometimes I have to repeat that to
sometimes I have to repeat that to myself quite loudly secondly I leave
myself quite loudly secondly I leave
myself quite loudly secondly I leave myself some empty time I don’t want my
myself some empty time I don’t want my
myself some empty time I don’t want my time so filled I don’t have a moment to
time so filled I don’t have a moment to
time so filled I don’t have a moment to sit back and take it all in I’ve learned
sit back and take it all in I’ve learned
sit back and take it all in I’ve learned that not all time needs to be productive
that not all time needs to be productive
that not all time needs to be productive we’re not machines we don’t need to be
we’re not machines we don’t need to be
we’re not machines we don’t need to be doing or thinking all of the
doing or thinking all of the
doing or thinking all of the rest and recovery are essential parts of
rest and recovery are essential parts of
rest and recovery are essential parts of a healthy and happy life empty time lets
a healthy and happy life empty time lets
a healthy and happy life empty time lets me step back switch off and reflect on
me step back switch off and reflect on
me step back switch off and reflect on where I am and where I’m headed it gives
where I am and where I’m headed it gives
where I am and where I’m headed it gives my mind a chance to wonder and come up
my mind a chance to wonder and come up
my mind a chance to wonder and come up with new ideas
with new ideas
with new ideas it lets me check in with how I’m feeling
it lets me check in with how I’m feeling
it lets me check in with how I’m feeling and to listen to my body and mind it’s
and to listen to my body and mind it’s
and to listen to my body and mind it’s like a mini version of when you go on
like a mini version of when you go on
like a mini version of when you go on holiday and you come back with renewed
holiday and you come back with renewed
holiday and you come back with renewed motivation and feeling like everything’s
motivation and feeling like everything’s
motivation and feeling like everything’s back under control it’s only by stopping
back under control it’s only by stopping
back under control it’s only by stopping that we can restart with a fresh sense
that we can restart with a fresh sense
that we can restart with a fresh sense of perspective making time for the
of perspective making time for the
of perspective making time for the things I enjoy is my third change the
things I enjoy is my third change the
things I enjoy is my third change the natural highs natural highs are the
natural highs natural highs are the
natural highs natural highs are the things that make you feel alive your
things that make you feel alive your
things that make you feel alive your favorite music turned up loud running
favorite music turned up loud running
favorite music turned up loud running the outdoors doing well at work being
the outdoors doing well at work being
the outdoors doing well at work being part of a performance doing something
part of a performance doing something
part of a performance doing something that makes you feel great whether it’s
that makes you feel great whether it’s
that makes you feel great whether it’s giggling or just having fun natural
giggling or just having fun natural
giggling or just having fun natural highs are our relationships kindness
highs are our relationships kindness
highs are our relationships kindness giving back or being part of something
giving back or being part of something
giving back or being part of something bigger than us things I had given up
bigger than us things I had given up
bigger than us things I had given up when I was focused only on achieving and
when I was focused only on achieving and
when I was focused only on achieving and my goals since I’ve changed my approach
my goals since I’ve changed my approach
my goals since I’ve changed my approach I feel happier and more content it’s a
I feel happier and more content it’s a
I feel happier and more content it’s a byproduct of doing what you enjoy and
byproduct of doing what you enjoy and
byproduct of doing what you enjoy and find meaningful you can’t chase it or
find meaningful you can’t chase it or
find meaningful you can’t chase it or find it it’s one of the great paradoxes
find it it’s one of the great paradoxes
find it it’s one of the great paradoxes of life the simple tree says taking off
of life the simple tree says taking off
of life the simple tree says taking off the checklist will not make you happy
the checklist will not make you happy
the checklist will not make you happy yes I have goals
yes I have goals
yes I have goals I still love goals getting rid of them
I still love goals getting rid of them
I still love goals getting rid of them isn’t the answer it’s making sure we
isn’t the answer it’s making sure we
isn’t the answer it’s making sure we approach them in the right way my goals
approach them in the right way my goals
approach them in the right way my goals do not define me I do not suffer in my
do not define me I do not suffer in my
do not define me I do not suffer in my pursuit of them and they’re not some
pursuit of them and they’re not some
pursuit of them and they’re not some kind of test of my self-worth my life is
kind of test of my self-worth my life is
kind of test of my self-worth my life is now being with my husband hugging my
now being with my husband hugging my
now being with my husband hugging my kids being in a room with any one of the
kids being in a room with any one of the
kids being in a room with any one of the amazing people I have the privilege to
amazing people I have the privilege to
amazing people I have the privilege to work with working on new ideas
work with working on new ideas
work with working on new ideas catching up with my mum and dad giggling
catching up with my mum and dad giggling
catching up with my mum and dad giggling with friends over a glass of wine
with friends over a glass of wine
with friends over a glass of wine walking along the seafront where I live
walking along the seafront where I live
walking along the seafront where I live running this morning with my music
running this morning with my music
running this morning with my music turned up loud being here with you
turned up loud being here with you
turned up loud being here with you that’s what I’ve thought about to me
that’s what I’ve thought about to me
that’s what I’ve thought about to me that’s an adventure of a lifetime
that’s an adventure of a lifetime
that’s an adventure of a lifetime so if you take only one thing from today
so if you take only one thing from today
so if you take only one thing from today it should be this in terms of happiness
it should be this in terms of happiness
it should be this in terms of happiness and fulfillment what you do every day is
and fulfillment what you do every day is
and fulfillment what you do every day is what makes the biggest difference how we
what makes the biggest difference how we
what makes the biggest difference how we feel is a natural product of all of the
feel is a natural product of all of the
feel is a natural product of all of the choices we make and it’s just about
choices we make and it’s just about
choices we make and it’s just about doing one small thing with what you
doing one small thing with what you
doing one small thing with what you already have in your life not next week
already have in your life not next week
already have in your life not next week not when you complete your goal but
not when you complete your goal but
not when you complete your goal but today we can gain satisfaction from the
today we can gain satisfaction from the
today we can gain satisfaction from the simplest of things whether it’s how we
simplest of things whether it’s how we
simplest of things whether it’s how we view our life and value it or the
view our life and value it or the
view our life and value it or the actions we take small steps might not
actions we take small steps might not
actions we take small steps might not sound so dramatic but they add up you
sound so dramatic but they add up you
sound so dramatic but they add up you don’t climb mountain and suddenly you’re
don’t climb mountain and suddenly you’re
don’t climb mountain and suddenly you’re at the top it’s many steps that take you
at the top it’s many steps that take you
at the top it’s many steps that take you to the summit when I was trying to work
to the summit when I was trying to work
to the summit when I was trying to work life out and miss the point there is no
life out and miss the point there is no
life out and miss the point there is no perfect formula everyone’s adventure
perfect formula everyone’s adventure
perfect formula everyone’s adventure will be different and like any great
will be different and like any great
will be different and like any great adventure it’s a process that never
adventure it’s a process that never
adventure it’s a process that never truly ends
keep ethica always in your mind
keep ethica always in your mind arriving there is what you were destined
arriving there is what you were destined
arriving there is what you were destined for but do not hurry the journey at all
for but do not hurry the journey at all
for but do not hurry the journey at all better if it lasts for years so you were
better if it lasts for years so you were
better if it lasts for years so you were old by the time you reach the island
old by the time you reach the island
old by the time you reach the island wealthy with all you have gained on the
wealthy with all you have gained on the
wealthy with all you have gained on the way
way
way not expecting Ithaca to make you rich
thank you for listening
thank you for listening [Music]
[Music]
[Music] [Applause]
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