we evolved because it’s what we can do it’s what we should do
it’s what we should do
it’s what we should do Today Tomorrow forever
I’m too loud I’m a drill sergeant I do
I’m too loud I’m a drill sergeant I do TED Talks and yoga pants I am far too
TED Talks and yoga pants I am far too
TED Talks and yoga pants I am far too much for people and I’m actually pretty
much for people and I’m actually pretty
much for people and I’m actually pretty annoying these were just some of the
annoying these were just some of the
annoying these were just some of the comments on the last TED talk I did now
comments on the last TED talk I did now
comments on the last TED talk I did now I could stand here and tell you negative
I could stand here and tell you negative
I could stand here and tell you negative comments from complete strangers I
comments from complete strangers I
comments from complete strangers I brushed it off and I moved on with my
brushed it off and I moved on with my
brushed it off and I moved on with my day but then I would be lying when I
day but then I would be lying when I
day but then I would be lying when I first read these comments on my last TED
first read these comments on my last TED
first read these comments on my last TED talk I was devastated
talk I was devastated
talk I was devastated I went home I’m gonna be honest I’m not
I went home I’m gonna be honest I’m not
I went home I’m gonna be honest I’m not much of a crier I went home and I bawled
much of a crier I went home and I bawled
much of a crier I went home and I bawled my eyes out i sat at my computer and I
my eyes out i sat at my computer and I
my eyes out i sat at my computer and I allowed all my time and energy to go
allowed all my time and energy to go
allowed all my time and energy to go into this and the bigger picture was i
into this and the bigger picture was i
into this and the bigger picture was i sat there now keep in mind my first TED
sat there now keep in mind my first TED
sat there now keep in mind my first TED talk was about owning who you are about
talk was about owning who you are about
talk was about owning who you are about loving your life about accepting your
loving your life about accepting your
loving your life about accepting your loudness or whatever or whoever it is
loudness or whatever or whoever it is
loudness or whatever or whoever it is that you are and then I was back up
that you are and then I was back up
that you are and then I was back up computer questioning everything thinking
computer questioning everything thinking
computer questioning everything thinking maybe I am too loud maybe I should have
maybe I am too loud maybe I should have
maybe I am too loud maybe I should have worn different pants and I sat there and
worn different pants and I sat there and
worn different pants and I sat there and I questioned the message that i
I questioned the message that i
I questioned the message that i authenticate rule II live my life by the
authenticate rule II live my life by the
authenticate rule II live my life by the message that I am so passionate about I
message that I am so passionate about I
message that I am so passionate about I put it out to the world and then I
put it out to the world and then I
put it out to the world and then I snapped out of it
I want to ask you a question and this
I want to ask you a question and this goes for everyone in this room whether
goes for everyone in this room whether
goes for everyone in this room whether you’re in high school whether you’re a
you’re in high school whether you’re a
you’re in high school whether you’re a parent whether you’re a business person
parent whether you’re a business person
parent whether you’re a business person have you ever posted anything on social
have you ever posted anything on social
have you ever posted anything on social media – only five minutes later go back
media – only five minutes later go back
media – only five minutes later go back and start checking how many likes to get
and start checking how many likes to get
and start checking how many likes to get who commented who didn’t comment and
who commented who didn’t comment and
who commented who didn’t comment and then based on the reaction from your
then based on the reaction from your
then based on the reaction from your post you start a story in your head oh
post you start a story in your head oh
post you start a story in your head oh maybe I should have used different
maybe I should have used different
maybe I should have used different lighting maybe I should have posed
lighting maybe I should have posed
lighting maybe I should have posed different maybe I should have posted a
different maybe I should have posted a
different maybe I should have posted a different picture cuz you know you took
different picture cuz you know you took
different picture cuz you know you took 50 pictures to post the one you posted
50 pictures to post the one you posted
50 pictures to post the one you posted you’re like oh so true maybe I shouldn’t
you’re like oh so true maybe I shouldn’t
you’re like oh so true maybe I shouldn’t have even posted at all and you have
have even posted at all and you have
have even posted at all and you have based the story off the reaction of
based the story off the reaction of
based the story off the reaction of other people or how about this
other people or how about this
other people or how about this have you ever found yourself an hour
have you ever found yourself an hour
have you ever found yourself an hour into scrolling on your phone to only
into scrolling on your phone to only
into scrolling on your phone to only look up and start to feel inadequate
look up and start to feel inadequate
look up and start to feel inadequate about who you are you start
about who you are you start
about who you are you start second-guessing your body ah I do need
second-guessing your body ah I do need
second-guessing your body ah I do need to lose weight I am too fat I am too
to lose weight I am too fat I am too
to lose weight I am too fat I am too thin I am too big I am too small I’m too
thin I am too big I am too small I’m too
thin I am too big I am too small I’m too old too many wrinkles too much this to
old too many wrinkles too much this to
old too many wrinkles too much this to me you start second-guessing your own
me you start second-guessing your own
me you start second-guessing your own business because you’re obsessing about
business because you’re obsessing about
business because you’re obsessing about other people’s businesses oh I’m not
other people’s businesses oh I’m not
other people’s businesses oh I’m not doing that right maybe I should do this
doing that right maybe I should do this
doing that right maybe I should do this maybe I should do that you have spent
maybe I should do that you have spent
maybe I should do that you have spent this time scrolling to only second-guess
this time scrolling to only second-guess
this time scrolling to only second-guess everything about you based on their
everything about you based on their
everything about you based on their people’s reality we will compare our own
people’s reality we will compare our own
people’s reality we will compare our own families our own children our own selves
families our own children our own selves
families our own children our own selves to what people are posting or how about
to what people are posting or how about
to what people are posting or how about this have you ever focused so much on
this have you ever focused so much on
this have you ever focused so much on the negative that you completely
the negative that you completely
the negative that you completely bypassed the positive this is exactly
bypassed the positive this is exactly
bypassed the positive this is exactly what I did when I started reading the
what I did when I started reading the
what I did when I started reading the comments online on my first TED talk I
comments online on my first TED talk I
comments online on my first TED talk I became so consumed by the negative
became so consumed by the negative
became so consumed by the negative comments that I completely bypassed this
comments that I completely bypassed this
comments that I completely bypassed this community I completely bypassed the
community I completely bypassed the
community I completely bypassed the people that want to lift each other up
people that want to lift each other up
people that want to lift each other up the people who have positive
the people who have positive
the people who have positive to say and you know what we’ve all been
to say and you know what we’ve all been
to say and you know what we’ve all been there you could have ninety-nine people
there you could have ninety-nine people
there you could have ninety-nine people tell you how great you are how great
tell you how great you are how great
tell you how great you are how great your business is how great you’re a
your business is how great you’re a
your business is how great you’re a mother your father your this your that
mother your father your this your that
mother your father your this your that one person says something negative and
one person says something negative and
one person says something negative and it’s all we focus on this is not how we
it’s all we focus on this is not how we
it’s all we focus on this is not how we evolved comparing ourselves to others
evolved comparing ourselves to others
evolved comparing ourselves to others basing our success on a number of likes
basing our success on a number of likes
basing our success on a number of likes and focusing so much on the negative
and focusing so much on the negative
and focusing so much on the negative that we bypassed the positive we’ve got
that we bypassed the positive we’ve got
that we bypassed the positive we’ve got to change this mindset this perspective
to change this mindset this perspective
to change this mindset this perspective and we’ve got to change this
and we’ve got to change this
and we’ve got to change this conversation this is a universal message
conversation this is a universal message
conversation this is a universal message it doesn’t matter if you’re in high
it doesn’t matter if you’re in high
it doesn’t matter if you’re in high school or you’re a parent or you are
school or you’re a parent or you are
school or you’re a parent or you are somebody that stands up here and does
somebody that stands up here and does
somebody that stands up here and does TED Talks there’s going to be a point or
TED Talks there’s going to be a point or
TED Talks there’s going to be a point or many points in your life which I’m just
many points in your life which I’m just
many points in your life which I’m just going to be honest people are gonna be
going to be honest people are gonna be
going to be honest people are gonna be mean somebody’s gonna say something or
mean somebody’s gonna say something or
mean somebody’s gonna say something or do something that’s gonna knock you back
do something that’s gonna knock you back
do something that’s gonna knock you back you’re gonna be moving forward and all
you’re gonna be moving forward and all
you’re gonna be moving forward and all of a sudden you might get sideswiped but
of a sudden you might get sideswiped but
of a sudden you might get sideswiped but here is how a community evolves by each
here is how a community evolves by each
here is how a community evolves by each and every one of us realizing we cannot
and every one of us realizing we cannot
and every one of us realizing we cannot change other people’s energy actions
change other people’s energy actions
change other people’s energy actions what they post on the internet but what
what they post on the internet but what
what they post on the internet but what we can do is decide how long we
we can do is decide how long we
we can do is decide how long we participate in it so today I’m gonna
participate in it so today I’m gonna
participate in it so today I’m gonna give you three ways to evolve as a
give you three ways to evolve as a
give you three ways to evolve as a community on social media but also in
community on social media but also in
community on social media but also in your everyday life but I need to know
your everyday life but I need to know
your everyday life but I need to know who’s with me
hmmm I don’t know if you guys have heard
hmmm I don’t know if you guys have heard of me
of me
of me but I’m too loud and I got my yoga pants
but I’m too loud and I got my yoga pants
but I’m too loud and I got my yoga pants on let’s try this again
we have to be the change we have to
we have to be the change we have to stand up for ourselves and stand up for
stand up for ourselves and stand up for
stand up for ourselves and stand up for one another so here it is number one
promote what you love instead of bashing
promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate put out to the world what
what you hate put out to the world what
what you hate put out to the world what you love if you don’t like something
you love if you don’t like something
you love if you don’t like something move on from it if you find yourself
move on from it if you find yourself
move on from it if you find yourself wrapped up and negative comments and
wrapped up and negative comments and
wrapped up and negative comments and negative people walk away turn your
negative people walk away turn your
negative people walk away turn your phone off
phone off
phone off leave the conversation this is online in
leave the conversation this is online in
leave the conversation this is online in in your own life if you’re hanging
in your own life if you’re hanging
in your own life if you’re hanging around people who don’t lift you up who
around people who don’t lift you up who
around people who don’t lift you up who don’t make you feel good move on promote
don’t make you feel good move on promote
don’t make you feel good move on promote what you love instead of bashing what
what you love instead of bashing what
what you love instead of bashing what you hate number two I want you to
you hate number two I want you to
you hate number two I want you to unfollow anyone that makes you
unfollow anyone that makes you
unfollow anyone that makes you second-guess who you are yeah you can
second-guess who you are yeah you can
second-guess who you are yeah you can clap for that that’s a good one yeah so
clap for that that’s a good one yeah so
clap for that that’s a good one yeah so simple right you guys are all like oh I
simple right you guys are all like oh I
simple right you guys are all like oh I never thought about that yeah that’s
never thought about that yeah that’s
never thought about that yeah that’s good but why do we do this and we will
good but why do we do this and we will
good but why do we do this and we will sit and we will become consumed you
sit and we will become consumed you
sit and we will become consumed you think looking at somebody else’s body
think looking at somebody else’s body
think looking at somebody else’s body that makes you feel insecure is gonna
that makes you feel insecure is gonna
that makes you feel insecure is gonna give you the motivation it’s not
give you the motivation it’s not
give you the motivation it’s not spending hours comparing your business
spending hours comparing your business
spending hours comparing your business to somebody else’s isn’t going to help
to somebody else’s isn’t going to help
to somebody else’s isn’t going to help your business and that leads me to you
your business and that leads me to you
your business and that leads me to you have to take back your power you have to
have to take back your power you have to
have to take back your power you have to realize that the two most precious
realize that the two most precious
realize that the two most precious things we have are our time and energy
things we have are our time and energy
things we have are our time and energy and too much of it is being spent on
and too much of it is being spent on
and too much of it is being spent on negativity comparisons and judgment and
negativity comparisons and judgment and
negativity comparisons and judgment and we are going to be the change so here it
we are going to be the change so here it
we are going to be the change so here it is today
is today
is today I ask that you take back your power
I ask that you take back your power
I ask that you take back your power everybody stand up at any moment you
everybody stand up at any moment you
everybody stand up at any moment you need to realize you have the power to
need to realize you have the power to
need to realize you have the power to walk away you have the power to unfollow
walk away you have the power to unfollow
walk away you have the power to unfollow and you have the power to decide where
and you have the power to decide where
and you have the power to decide where your energy and your time goes so I’m
your energy and your time goes so I’m
your energy and your time goes so I’m gonna end this Tugg TED talk just like I
gonna end this Tugg TED talk just like I
gonna end this Tugg TED talk just like I did my last one obviously I wore the
did my last one obviously I wore the
did my last one obviously I wore the same outfit because I believe in this
same outfit because I believe in this
same outfit because I believe in this message more today than I did two years
message more today than I did two years
message more today than I did two years ago
ago
ago I believe we have to love who we are we
I believe we have to love who we are we
I believe we have to love who we are we have to live who we are and we have to
have to live who we are and we have to
have to live who we are and we have to own who we are so what I’m gonna ask two
own who we are so what I’m gonna ask two
own who we are so what I’m gonna ask two things when I say quit this is what
things when I say quit this is what
things when I say quit this is what you’re gonna do you’re gonna go like
you’re gonna do you’re gonna go like
you’re gonna do you’re gonna go like this you’re like I didn’t wear the right
this you’re like I didn’t wear the right
this you’re like I didn’t wear the right shoes yes you did now here’s the thing
shoes yes you did now here’s the thing
shoes yes you did now here’s the thing I’m gonna say quick feet you’re gonna go
I’m gonna say quick feet you’re gonna go
I’m gonna say quick feet you’re gonna go like this when I say drop you go ha and
like this when I say drop you go ha and
like this when I say drop you go ha and you just come right back up don’t go too
you just come right back up don’t go too
you just come right back up don’t go too low don’t go yeah parents you’re doing
low don’t go yeah parents you’re doing
low don’t go yeah parents you’re doing this to okay but here’s the thing we’re
this to okay but here’s the thing we’re
this to okay but here’s the thing we’re gonna drop something this is where would
gonna drop something this is where would
gonna drop something this is where would we gain our power we’re gonna drop the
we gain our power we’re gonna drop the
we gain our power we’re gonna drop the judgment we’re gonna compare us in and
judgment we’re gonna compare us in and
judgment we’re gonna compare us in and we’re gonna drop the insecurities all
we’re gonna drop the insecurities all
we’re gonna drop the insecurities all the negative comments every negative
the negative comments every negative
the negative comments every negative thought that you’ve had
thought that you’ve had
thought that you’ve had you’re gonna leave in this room and I
you’re gonna leave in this room and I
you’re gonna leave in this room and I will take care of it quick feet go quick
will take care of it quick feet go quick
will take care of it quick feet go quick feet go I want to hear this room shake
feet go I want to hear this room shake
feet go I want to hear this room shake come on come on come on
come on come on come on
come on come on come on ha okay okay okay
ha okay okay okay
ha okay okay okay that was good okay all right that was
that was good okay all right that was
that was good okay all right that was good turn to somebody get my high five
good turn to somebody get my high five
good turn to somebody get my high five turn to somebody get my high five in the
turn to somebody get my high five in the
turn to somebody get my high five in the back Kim high five
all right all right
all right all right oh we’re not done we’re not done okay
oh we’re not done we’re not done okay
oh we’re not done we’re not done okay all right we’re gonna do that one more
all right we’re gonna do that one more
all right we’re gonna do that one more time I’m gonna go quick feet ha quick
time I’m gonna go quick feet ha quick
time I’m gonna go quick feet ha quick feet huh and I need to hear you ready
feet huh and I need to hear you ready
feet huh and I need to hear you ready quick feet go creepy tail come on this
quick feet go creepy tail come on this
quick feet go creepy tail come on this is where we drop it in the back I can
is where we drop it in the back I can
is where we drop it in the back I can see you come on come on come on
alright here it is now so good so good
alright here it is now so good so good people
people
people I had twin girls seven months ago guess
I had twin girls seven months ago guess
I had twin girls seven months ago guess what I’ll back here it when I say you
what I’ll back here it when I say you
what I’ll back here it when I say you are you say awesome ready you are okay
are you say awesome ready you are okay
are you say awesome ready you are okay okay that was good a little bit more
okay that was good a little bit more
okay that was good a little bit more let’s end this ready you are you are
today’s the day you take your power back
today’s the day you take your power back because the opinion that really matters
because the opinion that really matters
because the opinion that really matters is yours
is yours
is yours I’m Jenny schatzel thank you so much
I’m Jenny schatzel thank you so much
I’m Jenny schatzel thank you so much [Applause]
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