and
my mom says that I’m not curling my
Mom says that I ‘m not a crefat but that
I was annoyed by the hair that I left
there as that rule do not take advantage cream
to comb then like that if it’s like
let me go then practically the
truth is that it was very convincing because
at the beginning of my life I had a hair
very long and the arrival of melo de se
I totally entangled every night they arrive
versions press these giants on top
put one channel after another after another all
and super tight and painful so that I
I would have and my hair does not curl for
then I had beautiful hair true
long but it was not frizzy it was very
convincing my mother as a child created
by wolves
I believed that I was not curled then
I kept holding my hair
basically true I was being teased what
tied if against my scalp
impressively in all my years of
adolescence
He looked like a metalhead
and the worst thing is that the little monkeys that
I put it like it was busting me in the
hair and then towards a frieze that I
it would placate with a lot of gel really a
disastrous thing
during all those years of my life I
had a characteristic part a part
fundamental of my denied erased to the
strength be they would only have said west
cut the hair that is that the
Adult men need not
have long hair
then they would have killed a part
very strong roses one hit then
advertising would basically have been
voided true and there suddenly
we would understand how when a foreign voice
it is imposed on us then we are erased
fundamental part of who we are
I know that my mom did not want to frustrate
milú that that was not his intention is already
I was trying to guide me second
they have instilled all their life because
it is historically the hair
Crespo has been connected as a concert
disheveled the lower class then
for my mom a woman as straight hair
the glamorous one had a lot of class and goes to
get easier husband because he had
face of knowing how to sew old age had
true ironing had cliba face and
very good for her a woman with hair
smooth was never going to be discriminated against ever
will be rejected
all of these are obviously imaginary
but she thought it was a crepe
word is a part of what I am
a characteristic of me and load like
with all this all this stigma in the
mind of many people including me
mother and I inherited it for a long time
because there are words with which one
load throughout life and
they end up as determining parts
essentials of who is one of how one
it relates to oneself as it
related to the others become yokes
that do not let one be in freedom
when he was little he was taught or
adjectives and 80 and they say fat skinny
white or black and one of the learns and already
each of those words have a
meaning for example fat of
abundant meat, they forgive me and the
vegan but to me that sounds very rich
it seems fantastic to me, fat man is
fat is the antonym of skinny is not the
antagonist is not the villain is not
synonymous with careless or ugly
all those value judgments are the
they added later and that ‘s what
we do because today in today’s society
for us fat for many people
is a word that makes them suffer and that
It makes them sick and that makes them feel
wrong with themselves is one word
that does not mean all the synonyms that
we adhere to it unnecessarily when they are
the university had a friend
wound that suffered a lot because there was no
found at the university a man
with which to marry and procreate because
for her being a woman was being a mother and being
mom and I told him but before if not
you can give birth or if you get married but then you
divorces that happens where you have to
return the ovaries or with the thing can
true because we really could not
define them from a single word or a
alone not a single name in one thing
it’s as if society often tells us
I would like to pigeonhole like that because it’s more
easy as cataloging us of that
way as if we lived in a
Mexican soap opera in the bad mala
she is bad there is no way is the eyebrow and
bad bad idea not to take
slapping everywhere in the hand of the
music that comes out when it’s already out
being the lion king
she the bad only the bad but
really life is not like that one does not
it is only one thing nor does it have the
obligation to behave according to a single
title of what one is supposed to be
then who defines what we are and
how to feel with that we are who
define the words with which we
describe because if those voices always
come from outside are the voices of
others
then they end up being loads that
really one does not carry with conviction not
it ends up being dragged with them because
there are many words that are telling us
throughout our lives as
that we are growing
some are very well-intentioned
they are saying with love for example
how every time my mom sees me and says
there you are perfect is that we pay but
they may not be for a European
I’m not for you right now I’m
absolutely that rule
if I go through a beauty salon
it has also happened
the cosmetologist sees me and chases me there
it came to do the eyebrows what a wonder
and I know how it’s not happening I have
to understand that for her
with everything she studied in the
logic of it in the reality of it
what happens in my face is a
disaster that must be contained and that is
well because it’s the reality of it
when I understand that she says it does not
for offending me but because it is the scope
of your world and your universe
I can laugh with her too I do not
I’m letting it grow more the wicks
Californian your true and I can
relax
however sometimes these words well
be with good intention or in other
occasions when they are very sadly with
bad intention because they mark us the
life when they are insults
it’s something very different because there is not worth
so much to understand the reality of the other
how to understand that sometimes we are
saying part of who we are but
using the against us as
abuse
if someone is trying to tell me that he is a fan
as an insult is using a
fundamental part of what I am
to leave also when someone
says another fat gay are not looking
describe it to 1 are not looking to give the
information
when someone says black is not
looking to inform that person of his
condition are looking to hurt him
it’s more they are doing everything possible
so that person feels for
below so that he feels ashamed to be
what is
so that you feel that in some way what
he is is something bad some right is
something unacceptable
there is a French philosopher called day
of lemon
he talks about this subject of insult and
insult and a very beautiful way and says
this wounded and ashamed conscience of
itself becomes an element
constitutive of your personality
when he talks about that he is
referring to how these insults when
they insult us with what we are
seek to make us feel just the
embarrassment that we are going to charge for many
years or you sit in the chair of
the shame in which they are
putting they want you to sit
how they see you as if they were the
truth of who you are and many times
they do it
one feels embarrassed on the one hand
fundamental of a girls that we carry
our name will be accompanied by the
push word we would not end up saying
I know because the school the words
create realities and condition how we
we behave with ourselves with the
others as is our self-perception
our self-esteem
once a presentation is achieved in
television and it was wonderful because I
they have a beauty salon and not the
man that was going to motivate me because I
I was going to cut my hair, I think of myself
rough diamond
I believe that there is a disaster is true
but he cut my hair so that I cry
I could miss my hair as it came
doing all my life was in
capacity was impossible to tie her from that
way
from one moment to another in a way
sudden I had to assume myself as
he crinkles and looks at me in the mirror and says b but
this is not as bad
in fact it was much better it was much
freer the day an acre sfa accepts
its curls is the day on which
start to feel really beautiful
because those people who earn a change
extreme
and they arrive they cut the hair to him and
feels totally different
they do not feel different because
they cut the hair but because in that fair
they can instantly feel that they look at each other
come from another point of view I stop
try to laminate mind it with gum
stop trying to tie melo at all times
that I was free because if my
nature outside that of straight hair
I would not have to make so many efforts
miserable for having it
from time to time then do not ask for
a little party but you think step and when
started this year did a season
because I’m a comedian, my first
season the loner will be bad woman and
I gathered many routines that I did through
of the years
where the album or I expose how
I feel
facing the fact that I’m not like that
It must be that it seems to exist for many
women and there are many who do not
we are like that and there are many who
we use tennis but heels or those that
we never want to give birth or the one that does not
We want to serve a husband but also
That is quite true is another type of
woman because also those that have
children and because also those who perform
the hair every time they go to work are
bravest not waking up an hour
first you have to really applaud them and
I could expose all this but also in
I found the interviews incredible
because every time people do
I was asking about the title of the work
the woman calls me and then very rude
and is or what
and I did not go to the husband, he drinks a lot
talk about sex
so every time I heard that
it was for them bad woman understood that
they were not talking about the concept of what
that for them it was the duty to be of a
woman and therefore if a woman can not
talk about how much you enjoy sex if
woman can not be messed up but I
yes
and I’m a woman and that does not make me a
bad woman that’s just about me
what I think is that the place
suffer ashamed for what we are
we should reappropriate the words
that are part of our ce for
feel proud of who we are
we need to name us ourselves
Do not expect others to define us because
there are many definitions that are
losses between comparisons that not that
it does not even have logic like when
you say to hit like a girl or commit
like a cow or couriers as you will see
flower is not only that we are
trying to define through some
connotations that do not go with his word
but will dictate a biology course
Because a flower does not correct a cow
eat grass and a girl can kick her
rear
the words that define us are
Ours do not have to belong to
the people who want to throw the
Insults belong to those who
they carry them as their identity and they
they have to resignify carlas
to be able to show them as something worthy of
pride that is not an insult that you
say ‘big fat lesbian you think faffe a
that if someone uses any
these words as an insult that
answer with yes yes I am and the woman I
I used comedy to make a satire
of all those voices that said that
my way of being was not the right one
you have to unlearn those links
appropriate our words because
if we do it they can not hurt us like
They intend to hurt us or condition us
as you wish
do not believe the other visions of
people but claim the meaning of
our words unlearn for
learn to do who we really are
everyone here is making us some
word what is yours
useless pea
nuisance because I told them that my
Mom says that I’m not a crush but I
I said that they have told me in my voice
the life that I am not a woman or by my way
of being that I am the antichrist because I am
comedian then I can not do something
serious as a ted talk but here
we are what words define them you are
today who I tell you because soon those
voices are speaking louder than
his
what is your voice that what defines you
comes from outside
remember who they were before they
they said who should be many
Thank you
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