okay can you hear me actually yes great okay first of all thank you and very
okay first of all thank you and very
okay first of all thank you and very warm welcome I’m here today to share
warm welcome I’m here today to share
warm welcome I’m here today to share with you my story just before I do that
with you my story just before I do that
with you my story just before I do that I want to share a fact with you 90% of
I want to share a fact with you 90% of
I want to share a fact with you 90% of adults have at least one major regret in
adults have at least one major regret in
adults have at least one major regret in their life at least one major regret I
their life at least one major regret I
their life at least one major regret I think we can all share that we may have
think we can all share that we may have
think we can all share that we may have more today I’m going to share with you a
more today I’m going to share with you a
more today I’m going to share with you a model that I’ve created and followed for
model that I’ve created and followed for
model that I’ve created and followed for the last five years and lots of what I’m
the last five years and lots of what I’m
the last five years and lots of what I’m going to cover today is the first time
going to cover today is the first time
going to cover today is the first time I’m sharing it with complete strangers a
I’m sharing it with complete strangers a
I’m sharing it with complete strangers a lot of it’s just been with me and my
lot of it’s just been with me and my
lot of it’s just been with me and my close family so transformation and me
close family so transformation and me
close family so transformation and me just a bit about me before I begin I’m
just a bit about me before I begin I’m
just a bit about me before I begin I’m currently a senior lecturer in
currently a senior lecturer in
currently a senior lecturer in management and I teach some fantastic
management and I teach some fantastic
management and I teach some fantastic people not only do I teach them they
people not only do I teach them they
people not only do I teach them they also teach me as well one thing I’ve
also teach me as well one thing I’ve
also teach me as well one thing I’ve learned organizations nationally
learned organizations nationally
learned organizations nationally internationally constantly evolving and
internationally constantly evolving and
internationally constantly evolving and changing they’re having to change all
changing they’re having to change all
changing they’re having to change all the time and that’s because of external
the time and that’s because of external
the time and that’s because of external and internal factors these could be
and internal factors these could be
and internal factors these could be things like competition market changes
things like competition market changes
things like competition market changes government pressures the same idea I’ve
government pressures the same idea I’ve
government pressures the same idea I’ve applied to myself think about moments in
applied to myself think about moments in
applied to myself think about moments in your life ladies and gentlemen where
your life ladies and gentlemen where
your life ladies and gentlemen where you’ve been challenged and you’ve had to
you’ve been challenged and you’ve had to
you’ve been challenged and you’ve had to do things differently were you prepared
do things differently were you prepared
do things differently were you prepared for those challenges what did you do
for those challenges what did you do
for those challenges what did you do what I’m not teaching I’m also during
what I’m not teaching I’m also during
what I’m not teaching I’m also during the night a volunteer police inspector
the night a volunteer police inspector
the night a volunteer police inspector so I manage and lead 25 volunteer police
so I manage and lead 25 volunteer police
so I manage and lead 25 volunteer police officers in the West Midlands and I’m
officers in the West Midlands and I’m
officers in the West Midlands and I’m very proud and honored to do that the
very proud and honored to do that the
very proud and honored to do that the person I am today is because of the
person I am today is because of the
person I am today is because of the journey that I’ve been on I not a
journey that I’ve been on I not a
journey that I’ve been on I not a completed product yet but I want to
completed product yet but I want to
completed product yet but I want to share with you some of the highlights
share with you some of the highlights
share with you some of the highlights along the way one of my biggest
along the way one of my biggest
along the way one of my biggest highlights
highlights
highlights this little man oh that’s Arjun Arjun is
this little man oh that’s Arjun Arjun is
this little man oh that’s Arjun Arjun is one years old just celebrated his first
one years old just celebrated his first
one years old just celebrated his first birthday over Christmas Arjun is
birthday over Christmas Arjun is
birthday over Christmas Arjun is somebody who came into our lives and
somebody who came into our lives and
somebody who came into our lives and completely changed my life completely
completely changed my life completely
completely changed my life completely and parents in the room will know what
and parents in the room will know what
and parents in the room will know what I’m talking about and grandparents too
I’m talking about and grandparents too
I’m talking about and grandparents too before Arjun came I had a life of
before Arjun came I had a life of
before Arjun came I had a life of freedom I could go out when I wanted I
freedom I could go out when I wanted I
freedom I could go out when I wanted I could go to parties I could go to
could go to parties I could go to
could go to parties I could go to restaurants I could come home when I
restaurants I could come home when I
restaurants I could come home when I wanted the moment the nurse handed me
wanted the moment the nurse handed me
wanted the moment the nurse handed me this beautiful boy
this beautiful boy
this beautiful boy I realized that’s all about to change
I realized that’s all about to change
I realized that’s all about to change suddenly responsibility was thrust upon
suddenly responsibility was thrust upon
suddenly responsibility was thrust upon me and that’s when I realized I was not
me and that’s when I realized I was not
me and that’s when I realized I was not prepared for this moment in my life I
prepared for this moment in my life I
prepared for this moment in my life I mentally and physically was not prepared
mentally and physically was not prepared
mentally and physically was not prepared for the journey that was about to begin
for the journey that was about to begin
for the journey that was about to begin and that’s with the responsibility of
and that’s with the responsibility of
and that’s with the responsibility of being a father so with that in mind what
being a father so with that in mind what
being a father so with that in mind what I did was I created a change model now
I did was I created a change model now
I did was I created a change model now this change model is a model of that
this change model is a model of that
this change model is a model of that first to look to organizations and how
first to look to organizations and how
first to look to organizations and how they change but I realized actually
they change but I realized actually
they change but I realized actually those key elements we can apply to
those key elements we can apply to
those key elements we can apply to ourselves and I want to share that story
ourselves and I want to share that story
ourselves and I want to share that story with you today you are my first audience
with you today you are my first audience
with you today you are my first audience so I’m going to share this with there’s
so I’m going to share this with there’s
so I’m going to share this with there’s six key components the first one when I
six key components the first one when I
six key components the first one when I was at school like many of us our
was at school like many of us our
was at school like many of us our teachers would say what do you want to
teachers would say what do you want to
teachers would say what do you want to be when you grow up what job do you want
be when you grow up what job do you want
be when you grow up what job do you want to do what type of life do you want to
to do what type of life do you want to
to do what type of life do you want to have and we had an image when we were
have and we had an image when we were
have and we had an image when we were young that could have been an astronaut
young that could have been an astronaut
young that could have been an astronaut or a sportsman that could have been a
or a sportsman that could have been a
or a sportsman that could have been a gardener for some florists for others
gardener for some florists for others
gardener for some florists for others something for a lot of people has
something for a lot of people has
something for a lot of people has changed along the way they’ve lost
changed along the way they’ve lost
changed along the way they’ve lost clarity vision what has changed for you
clarity vision what has changed for you
clarity vision what has changed for you as you sit there today do you feel you
as you sit there today do you feel you
as you sit there today do you feel you have fulfilled everything you wanted to
have fulfilled everything you wanted to
have fulfilled everything you wanted to do
do
do are there still things yet for you to do
are there still things yet for you to do
are there still things yet for you to do you’ve lost your way a little bit
you’ve lost your way a little bit
you’ve lost your way a little bit clarity regained that focus identify
clarity regained that focus identify
clarity regained that focus identify what was at the heart of what you wanted
what was at the heart of what you wanted
what was at the heart of what you wanted to do whether it’s a job or whether it’s
to do whether it’s a job or whether it’s
to do whether it’s a job or whether it’s something personal to you whether it’s
something personal to you whether it’s
something personal to you whether it’s something professional as well and bring
something professional as well and bring
something professional as well and bring that back to you re clarify what is it
that back to you re clarify what is it
that back to you re clarify what is it you want to do what is your purpose your
you want to do what is your purpose your
you want to do what is your purpose your drive the second one is communication
drive the second one is communication
drive the second one is communication ladies and gents I want to share how
ladies and gents I want to share how
ladies and gents I want to share how many people in the room we’ve got one of
many people in the room we’ve got one of
many people in the room we’ve got one of these and what would happen if your
these and what would happen if your
these and what would happen if your phone disappeared how would you feel I
phone disappeared how would you feel I
phone disappeared how would you feel I can hear the sigh in the room exactly if
can hear the sigh in the room exactly if
can hear the sigh in the room exactly if we cannot live without our phones the
we cannot live without our phones the
we cannot live without our phones the way we communicate with each other has
way we communicate with each other has
way we communicate with each other has changed I’d I teach students who no
changed I’d I teach students who no
changed I’d I teach students who no longer want to talk to each other but
longer want to talk to each other but
longer want to talk to each other but they’d much prefer to take photos of
they’d much prefer to take photos of
they’d much prefer to take photos of each other and put it on snapchat and
each other and put it on snapchat and
each other and put it on snapchat and Instagram we no longer want to share the
Instagram we no longer want to share the
Instagram we no longer want to share the spoken word instead we wanted to share
spoken word instead we wanted to share
spoken word instead we wanted to share virtually every day on average I gained
virtually every day on average I gained
virtually every day on average I gained Twitter a sixty to eighty emails a day
Twitter a sixty to eighty emails a day
Twitter a sixty to eighty emails a day and I guarantee 50% of them can be
and I guarantee 50% of them can be
and I guarantee 50% of them can be reduced only if the person got off their
reduced only if the person got off their
reduced only if the person got off their chair and came and saw me on that day
chair and came and saw me on that day
chair and came and saw me on that day how many times have you email somebody
how many times have you email somebody
how many times have you email somebody that’s sitting right next to you I’ve
that’s sitting right next to you I’ve
that’s sitting right next to you I’ve done it and I can admit that how many
done it and I can admit that how many
done it and I can admit that how many people have you emailed where you
people have you emailed where you
people have you emailed where you thought if I just had a quick
thought if I just had a quick
thought if I just had a quick conversation that would save this long
conversation that would save this long
conversation that would save this long email trail self-transformation changed
email trail self-transformation changed
email trail self-transformation changed the way you communicate with others do
the way you communicate with others do
the way you communicate with others do you use technology as your form of
you use technology as your form of
you use technology as your form of communication go and see them let’s go
communication go and see them let’s go
communication go and see them let’s go back to the more traditional ways of
back to the more traditional ways of
back to the more traditional ways of communicating the third model is
communicating the third model is
communicating the third model is commitment how many people in the room
commitment how many people in the room
commitment how many people in the room have just gone through Christmas and New
have just gone through Christmas and New
have just gone through Christmas and New Year and then joined a gym how many
Year and then joined a gym how many
Year and then joined a gym how many people will still be going to the gym in
people will still be going to the gym in
people will still be going to the gym in February maybe March maybe even April
February maybe March maybe even April
February maybe March maybe even April this element here regards actually your
this element here regards actually your
this element here regards actually your commitment to see your purpose through
commitment to see your purpose through
commitment to see your purpose through the commitment to see your objectives
the commitment to see your objectives
the commitment to see your objectives through so if you’ve joined a gym what’s
through so if you’ve joined a gym what’s
through so if you’ve joined a gym what’s stopping you from going to the
stopping you from going to the
stopping you from going to the what stopping you from transforming
what stopping you from transforming
what stopping you from transforming yourself whether it’s physically or
yourself whether it’s physically or
yourself whether it’s physically or mentally or emotionally life always
mentally or emotionally life always
mentally or emotionally life always throws us challenges we just get busier
throws us challenges we just get busier
throws us challenges we just get busier at a work family gets more busier but we
at a work family gets more busier but we
at a work family gets more busier but we have to continue to make time for
have to continue to make time for
have to continue to make time for ourselves commit to yourself nobody else
ourselves commit to yourself nobody else
ourselves commit to yourself nobody else is going to do for you you have to do it
is going to do for you you have to do it
is going to do for you you have to do it for yourself
consistency this is a very personal
consistency this is a very personal image for me actually I used to wait 18
image for me actually I used to wait 18
image for me actually I used to wait 18 stone five years ago 18 stone I could
stone five years ago 18 stone I could
stone five years ago 18 stone I could see the face people can’t believe that I
see the face people can’t believe that I
see the face people can’t believe that I tell you that’s a compliment thank you
tell you that’s a compliment thank you
tell you that’s a compliment thank you very much
very much
very much but here’s a picture oh man exactly Wow
but here’s a picture oh man exactly Wow
but here’s a picture oh man exactly Wow Wow 18 stone there I’m about 13 now this
Wow 18 stone there I’m about 13 now this
Wow 18 stone there I’m about 13 now this is the first time I’m showing this
is the first time I’m showing this
is the first time I’m showing this picture to anybody outside my family and
picture to anybody outside my family and
picture to anybody outside my family and I want to share to you share with you my
I want to share to you share with you my
I want to share to you share with you my story of how I went from that to this
story of how I went from that to this
story of how I went from that to this when I was going through this transition
when I was going through this transition
when I was going through this transition I never entered the gym once more so
I never entered the gym once more so
I never entered the gym once more so because I was embarrassed another
because I was embarrassed another
because I was embarrassed another because I didn’t know what I was doing
because I didn’t know what I was doing
because I didn’t know what I was doing but I never entered a gym I never ate
but I never entered a gym I never ate
but I never entered a gym I never ate any more healthier I didn’t run any
any more healthier I didn’t run any
any more healthier I didn’t run any further or walk any faster
further or walk any faster
further or walk any faster one thing I changed was my mindset I
one thing I changed was my mindset I
one thing I changed was my mindset I completely changed the way I saw the
completely changed the way I saw the
completely changed the way I saw the world if you met me then I was possibly
world if you met me then I was possibly
world if you met me then I was possibly very negative I was very embarrassed
very negative I was very embarrassed
very negative I was very embarrassed about life I was ashamed I used to just
about life I was ashamed I used to just
about life I was ashamed I used to just wear black and blue because I could hide
wear black and blue because I could hide
wear black and blue because I could hide all of my flab and I went through a
all of my flab and I went through a
all of my flab and I went through a journey I realized and the moment I
journey I realized and the moment I
journey I realized and the moment I realized is when I got out of bed and I
realized is when I got out of bed and I
realized is when I got out of bed and I could feel my heart beating and I was
could feel my heart beating and I was
could feel my heart beating and I was thinking if I don’t do something now my
thinking if I don’t do something now my
thinking if I don’t do something now my life today we were completely different
life today we were completely different
life today we were completely different so the journey I went on involved
so the journey I went on involved
so the journey I went on involved consistency there was days that were
consistency there was days that were
consistency there was days that were really good and had fantastic support
really good and had fantastic support
really good and had fantastic support like from my loved ones but equally
like from my loved ones but equally
like from my loved ones but equally there were days which were very very
there were days which were very very
there were days which were very very difficult and for me those difficult
difficult and for me those difficult
difficult and for me those difficult days are the most challenging they’re
days are the most challenging they’re
days are the most challenging they’re the ones that most test you in your
the ones that most test you in your
the ones that most test you in your perseverance show consistency and will
perseverance show consistency and will
perseverance show consistency and will whatever you want to do you are gonna
whatever you want to do you are gonna
whatever you want to do you are gonna have some bad days you’re gonna feel
have some bad days you’re gonna feel
have some bad days you’re gonna feel like giving up no there was times I
like giving up no there was times I
like giving up no there was times I drove past McDonald’s I thought nobody
drove past McDonald’s I thought nobody
drove past McDonald’s I thought nobody would know if I just go through drive
would know if I just go through drive
would know if I just go through drive through quickly nobody would know only
through quickly nobody would know only
through quickly nobody would know only me
me
me willpower show consistency in your cause
the Fifth Element in between eighteen
the Fifth Element in between eighteen eighteen hundred and sorry like 1600 to
eighteen hundred and sorry like 1600 to
eighteen hundred and sorry like 1600 to 1800 in the US and in Europe there was
1800 in the US and in Europe there was
1800 in the US and in Europe there was something called the doctors plague the
something called the doctors plague the
something called the doctors plague the doctors plague was twenty to twenty-five
doctors plague was twenty to twenty-five
doctors plague was twenty to twenty-five percent of women who were giving birth
percent of women who were giving birth
percent of women who were giving birth would die in some hospitals that was
would die in some hospitals that was
would die in some hospitals that was high as seventy to seventy-five percent
high as seventy to seventy-five percent
high as seventy to seventy-five percent of women who went into labor to give
of women who went into labor to give
of women who went into labor to give birth the mothers would die it’s called
birth the mothers would die it’s called
birth the mothers would die it’s called the doctors plague why a dr. Holmes
the doctors plague why a dr. Holmes
the doctors plague why a dr. Holmes fitting name dr. Holmes came in and he
fitting name dr. Holmes came in and he
fitting name dr. Holmes came in and he investigated and found that the doctors
investigated and found that the doctors
investigated and found that the doctors who were delivering the babies were also
who were delivering the babies were also
who were delivering the babies were also doing the autopsies in the morning and
doing the autopsies in the morning and
doing the autopsies in the morning and we needed to find out science was
we needed to find out science was
we needed to find out science was progressing very quickly and rightly so
progressing very quickly and rightly so
progressing very quickly and rightly so we want to do autopsies we want to find
we want to do autopsies we want to find
we want to do autopsies we want to find out why so many women were dying was
out why so many women were dying was
out why so many women were dying was given birth so doctors across Europe in
given birth so doctors across Europe in
given birth so doctors across Europe in the u.s. were going in and conducting
the u.s. were going in and conducting
the u.s. were going in and conducting autopsies in the morning they were then
autopsies in the morning they were then
autopsies in the morning they were then go in the afternoon and deliver the
go in the afternoon and deliver the
go in the afternoon and deliver the babies they delivered the babies only
babies they delivered the babies only
babies they delivered the babies only when dr. Holmes realized they were still
when dr. Holmes realized they were still
when dr. Holmes realized they were still doing the autopsies with a pair of
doing the autopsies with a pair of
doing the autopsies with a pair of gloves and then who not changed the
gloves and then who not changed the
gloves and then who not changed the gloves and then deliver babies in the
gloves and then deliver babies in the
gloves and then deliver babies in the afternoon they were using the same
afternoon they were using the same
afternoon they were using the same gloves as they used during the autopsy
gloves as they used during the autopsy
gloves as they used during the autopsy so my fifth element is conflict
so my fifth element is conflict
so my fifth element is conflict sometimes you are the one who’s causing
sometimes you are the one who’s causing
sometimes you are the one who’s causing some of the issues around you sometimes
some of the issues around you sometimes
some of the issues around you sometimes you are the doctor in that scenario
you are the doctor in that scenario
you are the doctor in that scenario so it’s the doctors themselves who were
so it’s the doctors themselves who were
so it’s the doctors themselves who were causing the doctors plague because they
causing the doctors plague because they
causing the doctors plague because they just simply did not change their gloves
just simply did not change their gloves
just simply did not change their gloves so think about your personal life ladies
so think about your personal life ladies
so think about your personal life ladies and gents do you find there’s a lot of
and gents do you find there’s a lot of
and gents do you find there’s a lot of conflict around you do you cor do you
conflict around you do you cor do you
conflict around you do you cor do you feel conflict with others whether it’s
feel conflict with others whether it’s
feel conflict with others whether it’s in a professional or a personal
in a professional or a personal
in a professional or a personal environment maybe a moment you just need
environment maybe a moment you just need
environment maybe a moment you just need to stop and think am i causing that
to stop and think am i causing that
to stop and think am i causing that conflict with others it’s an honest
conflict with others it’s an honest
conflict with others it’s an honest conversation to have with yourself when
conversation to have with yourself when
conversation to have with yourself when I was that
I was that
I was that 18 stone chap and my family will vouch
18 stone chap and my family will vouch
18 stone chap and my family will vouch for this I was quite confrontational and
for this I was quite confrontational and
for this I was quite confrontational and that was really because I knew it was to
that was really because I knew it was to
that was really because I knew it was to defend how I felt at the time and that’s
defend how I felt at the time and that’s
defend how I felt at the time and that’s something I realized through reflection
something I realized through reflection
something I realized through reflection so that’s worth thinking about for
so that’s worth thinking about for
so that’s worth thinking about for yourselves as well
yourselves as well
yourselves as well the final one its consolidation so for
the final one its consolidation so for
the final one its consolidation so for me I’ve made a lot of mistakes I’ve
me I’ve made a lot of mistakes I’ve
me I’ve made a lot of mistakes I’ve treated people really badly
treated people really badly
treated people really badly and I know that I currently with
and I know that I currently with
and I know that I currently with pressures of being a dad sleepless
pressures of being a dad sleepless
pressures of being a dad sleepless nights I’ve barely slept three hours
nights I’ve barely slept three hours
nights I’ve barely slept three hours last night because my little one and you
last night because my little one and you
last night because my little one and you do feel the frustrations sometimes you
do feel the frustrations sometimes you
do feel the frustrations sometimes you will make mistakes it’s fine to make
will make mistakes it’s fine to make
will make mistakes it’s fine to make mistakes and learn from them
mistakes and learn from them
mistakes and learn from them consultation for me the last bit is
consultation for me the last bit is
consultation for me the last bit is consult yourself mistakes will be made
consult yourself mistakes will be made
consult yourself mistakes will be made you need to heal self heal so you can
you need to heal self heal so you can
you need to heal self heal so you can move on I had to do a lot of self
move on I had to do a lot of self
move on I had to do a lot of self healing when I went through my physical
healing when I went through my physical
healing when I went through my physical change from 18 stone to today and I
change from 18 stone to today and I
change from 18 stone to today and I still do that as I keep moving on so
still do that as I keep moving on so
still do that as I keep moving on so this model is a great model for us not
this model is a great model for us not
this model is a great model for us not to just do once but to keep doing again
to just do once but to keep doing again
to just do once but to keep doing again and again so when there’s a new job
and again so when there’s a new job
and again so when there’s a new job opportunity or a new family member
opportunity or a new family member
opportunity or a new family member joining you or you’ve got conflict at
joining you or you’ve got conflict at
joining you or you’ve got conflict at home or at work just think about this
home or at work just think about this
home or at work just think about this model and just take a moment to just
model and just take a moment to just
model and just take a moment to just stop and reflect is it you or is it
stop and reflect is it you or is it
stop and reflect is it you or is it others and what can you do differently
others and what can you do differently
others and what can you do differently so that is my sixth stage self
so that is my sixth stage self
so that is my sixth stage self transformational model thank you all
transformational model thank you all
transformational model thank you all very much
very much
very much you
you
you [Applause]
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