[Applause] want you to think if you’ve ever had a
want you to think if you’ve ever had a
want you to think if you’ve ever had a difficult moment in a relationship and
difficult moment in a relationship and
difficult moment in a relationship and the emotion felt like a filter after a
the emotion felt like a filter after a
the emotion felt like a filter after a while raise your hand if you have ever
while raise your hand if you have ever
while raise your hand if you have ever felt like you were talking but they
felt like you were talking but they
felt like you were talking but they weren’t listening to your words
weren’t listening to your words
weren’t listening to your words yes unbelievably frustrating and
yes unbelievably frustrating and
yes unbelievably frustrating and sometimes that happens with ourselves we
sometimes that happens with ourselves we
sometimes that happens with ourselves we have a strong emotion a fear or an
have a strong emotion a fear or an
have a strong emotion a fear or an offense you get offended and for the
offense you get offended and for the
offense you get offended and for the first couple days it’s fun because you
first couple days it’s fun because you
first couple days it’s fun because you get to be right about why they’re wrong
get to be right about why they’re wrong
get to be right about why they’re wrong but after a while you just want your
but after a while you just want your
but after a while you just want your life back you don’t care anymore today
life back you don’t care anymore today
life back you don’t care anymore today we’re gonna look at new possibilities
we’re gonna look at new possibilities
we’re gonna look at new possibilities with difficult emotions and I want to
with difficult emotions and I want to
with difficult emotions and I want to show you what’s running the show how
show you what’s running the show how
show you what’s running the show how emotions get created we’re gonna look at
emotions get created we’re gonna look at
emotions get created we’re gonna look at how your brain takes some music and
how your brain takes some music and
how your brain takes some music and language and turns it into a rich
language and turns it into a rich
language and turns it into a rich emotional experience and by looking at
emotional experience and by looking at
emotional experience and by looking at that you’ll have access to something new
that you’ll have access to something new
that you’ll have access to something new that will allow you to actually reach
that will allow you to actually reach
that will allow you to actually reach inside somebody else and shift their
inside somebody else and shift their
inside somebody else and shift their emotional state now I don’t know if
emotional state now I don’t know if
emotional state now I don’t know if you’ve ever had a spouse or a boss that
you’ve ever had a spouse or a boss that
you’ve ever had a spouse or a boss that was upset with you but that’s kind of a
was upset with you but that’s kind of a
was upset with you but that’s kind of a handy thing to be able to do we’re gonna
handy thing to be able to do we’re gonna
handy thing to be able to do we’re gonna take a look at that but if you’re
take a look at that but if you’re
take a look at that but if you’re writing notes down this whole talk is
writing notes down this whole talk is
writing notes down this whole talk is predicated on one thing and that is the
predicated on one thing and that is the
predicated on one thing and that is the importance of remembering what you want
importance of remembering what you want
importance of remembering what you want at all times
at all times
at all times now since we’ll be talking about music
now since we’ll be talking about music
now since we’ll be talking about music and language for the next few minutes
and language for the next few minutes
and language for the next few minutes would be okay if I shared a little bit
would be okay if I shared a little bit
would be okay if I shared a little bit about myself my name is Jared Hanning
about myself my name is Jared Hanning
about myself my name is Jared Hanning I’m the principal violist with the South
I’m the principal violist with the South
I’m the principal violist with the South Carolina Philharmonic and I work as a
Carolina Philharmonic and I work as a
Carolina Philharmonic and I work as a performance coach for I train leaders in
performance coach for I train leaders in
performance coach for I train leaders in the thinking patterns of success what
the thinking patterns of success what
the thinking patterns of success what some people don’t know about music is
some people don’t know about music is
some people don’t know about music is that when you’re engaged in music
that when you’re engaged in music
that when you’re engaged in music whether you’re clapping your hands at a
whether you’re clapping your hands at a
whether you’re clapping your hands at a concert or singing in the shower
concert or singing in the shower
concert or singing in the shower shouting out to the radio driving down
shouting out to the radio driving down
shouting out to the radio driving down the road in that moment that you were
the road in that moment that you were
the road in that moment that you were creating music you were using more of
creating music you were using more of
creating music you were using more of your brain than any other time this is
your brain than any other time this is
your brain than any other time this is well documented with MRI studies and
well documented with MRI studies and
well documented with MRI studies and this contrasts with other endeavors like
this contrasts with other endeavors like
this contrasts with other endeavors like say athletic performance where the
say athletic performance where the
say athletic performance where the better your body is performing the less
better your body is performing the less
better your body is performing the less of your brain you’re
of your brain you’re
of your brain you’re using your brain almost enters a
using your brain almost enters a
using your brain almost enters a meditative state because it’s soaking up
meditative state because it’s soaking up
meditative state because it’s soaking up precious resources that need to go to
precious resources that need to go to
precious resources that need to go to the muscles this is important because a
the muscles this is important because a
the muscles this is important because a breakthrough in your situation that
breakthrough in your situation that
breakthrough in your situation that difficult emotion or that difficult
difficult emotion or that difficult
difficult emotion or that difficult relationship a breakthrough will first
relationship a breakthrough will first
relationship a breakthrough will first happen as a breakthrough in your
happen as a breakthrough in your
happen as a breakthrough in your thinking so being able to access
thinking so being able to access
thinking so being able to access different ways of thinking different
different ways of thinking different
different ways of thinking different parts of your brain on-demand it’s kind
parts of your brain on-demand it’s kind
parts of your brain on-demand it’s kind of a handy thing all right you ready
of a handy thing all right you ready
of a handy thing all right you ready turn your neighbor say get ready this is
turn your neighbor say get ready this is
turn your neighbor say get ready this is a single note notice that you don’t care
a single note notice that you don’t care
a single note notice that you don’t care right one note it has no effect on you
right one note it has no effect on you
right one note it has no effect on you but that note has definition the note
but that note has definition the note
but that note has definition the note has pitch you can tell if it’s a high
has pitch you can tell if it’s a high
has pitch you can tell if it’s a high note or a low note it has color you can
note or a low note it has color you can
note or a low note it has color you can tell what kind of an instrument made it
tell what kind of an instrument made it
tell what kind of an instrument made it it has length we know how long it was we
it has length we know how long it was we
it has length we know how long it was we know how loud it was but all of those
know how loud it was but all of those
know how loud it was but all of those definitions have no effect on you but
definitions have no effect on you but
definitions have no effect on you but when we have two notes it kicks off an
when we have two notes it kicks off an
when we have two notes it kicks off an interesting process in your brain
what you do with that note is you
what you do with that note is you compare it to a note that you recently
compare it to a note that you recently
compare it to a note that you recently heard because after you hear a note it
heard because after you hear a note it
heard because after you hear a note it no longer exists except in your memory
no longer exists except in your memory
no longer exists except in your memory and your memory of that note is as
and your memory of that note is as
and your memory of that note is as unique as you are you’re effectively
unique as you are you’re effectively
unique as you are you’re effectively comparing what you heard with something
comparing what you heard with something
comparing what you heard with something you created but at the same time you
you created but at the same time you
you created but at the same time you were also making a prediction of the
were also making a prediction of the
were also making a prediction of the note that you think is coming next but
note that you think is coming next but
note that you think is coming next but because this note lives in the future it
because this note lives in the future it
because this note lives in the future it is also as unique as you are what do you
is also as unique as you are what do you
is also as unique as you are what do you think is coming next now all three of
think is coming next now all three of
think is coming next now all three of these things happen at the same time
these things happen at the same time
these things happen at the same time which creates the illusion that they are
which creates the illusion that they are
which creates the illusion that they are the same thing because the note that you
the same thing because the note that you
the same thing because the note that you heard showed up at the same time that
heard showed up at the same time that
heard showed up at the same time that you felt the emotion that creates the
you felt the emotion that creates the
you felt the emotion that creates the illusion that what you heard caused the
illusion that what you heard caused the
illusion that what you heard caused the emotion but actually there’s something
emotion but actually there’s something
emotion but actually there’s something sandwiched in between there that is yet
sandwiched in between there that is yet
sandwiched in between there that is yet more powerful as a result of making this
more powerful as a result of making this
more powerful as a result of making this comparison your brain is able to
comparison your brain is able to
comparison your brain is able to construct a meaning what I want you to
construct a meaning what I want you to
construct a meaning what I want you to know is that without this hidden meaning
know is that without this hidden meaning
know is that without this hidden meaning there can be no emotional response
there can be no emotional response
there can be no emotional response wherever there is an emotional response
wherever there is an emotional response
wherever there is an emotional response there is a meaning hiding that’s driving
there is a meaning hiding that’s driving
there is a meaning hiding that’s driving it let’s take a look at how that works
it let’s take a look at how that works
it let’s take a look at how that works in language Jane is a very successful
in language Jane is a very successful
in language Jane is a very successful woman she’s walking to work one day and
woman she’s walking to work one day and
woman she’s walking to work one day and she has two college kids pass her they
she has two college kids pass her they
she has two college kids pass her they turn around they say well Jane ously you
turn around they say well Jane ously you
turn around they say well Jane ously you didn’t have any trouble getting all 200
didn’t have any trouble getting all 200
didn’t have any trouble getting all 200 pounds dressed for work today and Jane
pounds dressed for work today and Jane
pounds dressed for work today and Jane was deeply wounded she was in tears for
was deeply wounded she was in tears for
was deeply wounded she was in tears for three days but because all three of
three days but because all three of
three days but because all three of those things happen at the same time the
those things happen at the same time the
those things happen at the same time the word that she heard comparing it that
word that she heard comparing it that
word that she heard comparing it that something she remembered making a
something she remembered making a
something she remembered making a prediction of what she thinks is coming
prediction of what she thinks is coming
prediction of what she thinks is coming next it creates the illusion that those
next it creates the illusion that those
next it creates the illusion that those words caused how she felt but we know
words caused how she felt but we know
words caused how she felt but we know now that it doesn’t
now that it doesn’t
now that it doesn’t without the hidden meaning there can be
without the hidden meaning there can be
without the hidden meaning there can be no emotional response and this all comes
no emotional response and this all comes
no emotional response and this all comes down to one thing
down to one thing
down to one thing remembering what you really want
remembering what you really want
remembering what you really want now what did Jane hear that day 200
now what did Jane hear that day 200
now what did Jane hear that day 200 pounds what’s the definition of 200
pounds what’s the definition of 200
pounds what’s the definition of 200 pounds
pounds
pounds 3,200 ounces what’s 3,200 ounces the
3,200 ounces what’s 3,200 ounces the
3,200 ounces what’s 3,200 ounces the cause of her suffering that day no we
cause of her suffering that day no we
cause of her suffering that day no we got to find out what was driving it now
got to find out what was driving it now
got to find out what was driving it now I don’t know if you maybe as a kid put
I don’t know if you maybe as a kid put
I don’t know if you maybe as a kid put an object on a piece of paper and then
an object on a piece of paper and then
an object on a piece of paper and then covered it with another piece of paper
covered it with another piece of paper
covered it with another piece of paper and then after you cover it you can kind
and then after you cover it you can kind
and then after you cover it you can kind of sketch on it with a pencil and as you
of sketch on it with a pencil and as you
of sketch on it with a pencil and as you sketch on it with a pencil it causes
sketch on it with a pencil it causes
sketch on it with a pencil it causes whatever’s underneath a paper clip or a
whatever’s underneath a paper clip or a
whatever’s underneath a paper clip or a coin or a leaf it causes it to bleed
coin or a leaf it causes it to bleed
coin or a leaf it causes it to bleed through this principle is important
through this principle is important
through this principle is important because it does not matter what you do
because it does not matter what you do
because it does not matter what you do to the top sheet of paper as long as
to the top sheet of paper as long as
to the top sheet of paper as long as something’s underneath it it’s going to
something’s underneath it it’s going to
something’s underneath it it’s going to bleed through you might have found
bleed through you might have found
bleed through you might have found yourself trying to cheer up somebody who
yourself trying to cheer up somebody who
yourself trying to cheer up somebody who was in a foul mood and notice that the
was in a foul mood and notice that the
was in a foul mood and notice that the more you try to positively cheer them up
more you try to positively cheer them up
more you try to positively cheer them up the grumpier they get the more they push
the grumpier they get the more they push
the grumpier they get the more they push back and that’s because this tablet of
back and that’s because this tablet of
back and that’s because this tablet of meaning is inside your head and no one
meaning is inside your head and no one
meaning is inside your head and no one has access to it but you whatever shows
has access to it but you whatever shows
has access to it but you whatever shows up there shows up in your own
up there shows up in your own
up there shows up in your own handwriting the more you try to write
handwriting the more you try to write
handwriting the more you try to write your meaning on top of somebody else’s
your meaning on top of somebody else’s
your meaning on top of somebody else’s tablet the more there’s bleeds through
tablet the more there’s bleeds through
tablet the more there’s bleeds through until you address the meaning because
until you address the meaning because
until you address the meaning because when the hidden meaning is revealed a
when the hidden meaning is revealed a
when the hidden meaning is revealed a new possibility becomes present but this
new possibility becomes present but this
new possibility becomes present but this isn’t possible if you forget what you
isn’t possible if you forget what you
isn’t possible if you forget what you want see if you forget what you want you
want see if you forget what you want you
want see if you forget what you want you want to argue about what was said which
want to argue about what was said which
want to argue about what was said which only keeps the emotion in place but they
only keeps the emotion in place but they
only keeps the emotion in place but they said this
said this
said this oh I’m sorry they said that oh I’m sorry
oh I’m sorry they said that oh I’m sorry
oh I’m sorry they said that oh I’m sorry you feel that way I would feel the same
you feel that way I would feel the same
you feel that way I would feel the same way too but they said this but until we
way too but they said this but until we
way too but they said this but until we address this it’s going to stay in place
address this it’s going to stay in place
address this it’s going to stay in place as a matter of fact the more you talk
as a matter of fact the more you talk
as a matter of fact the more you talk about what was said
about what was said
about what was said the stronger the agreement becomes that
the stronger the agreement becomes that
the stronger the agreement becomes that you should feel that way
you should feel that way
you should feel that way but if you want to be free this is what
but if you want to be free this is what
but if you want to be free this is what you do Jane what did it mean to you and
you do Jane what did it mean to you and
you do Jane what did it mean to you and Jane says that means my mother was right
Jane says that means my mother was right
Jane says that means my mother was right it means I can’t follow through with my
it means I can’t follow through with my
it means I can’t follow through with my goals it means I give up too soon it
goals it means I give up too soon it
goals it means I give up too soon it means I’m a quitter it means I’m not a
means I’m a quitter it means I’m not a
means I’m a quitter it means I’m not a very good wife it means I’m not
very good wife it means I’m not
very good wife it means I’m not attractive it means I don’t deserve to
attractive it means I don’t deserve to
attractive it means I don’t deserve to be loved
where did that come from
where did that come from the boy the pastor only gave her a
the boy the pastor only gave her a
the boy the pastor only gave her a measurement a definition we are not
measurement a definition we are not
measurement a definition we are not moved by definition we were moved by
moved by definition we were moved by
moved by definition we were moved by meaning where did this come from who
meaning where did this come from who
meaning where did this come from who created this and this is the nature of
created this and this is the nature of
created this and this is the nature of being offended blaming somebody else for
being offended blaming somebody else for
being offended blaming somebody else for something that we created you see even
something that we created you see even
something that we created you see even if they tell you specifically what they
if they tell you specifically what they
if they tell you specifically what they want it to mean it cannot show up on
want it to mean it cannot show up on
want it to mean it cannot show up on that tablet unless you write it down
that tablet unless you write it down
that tablet unless you write it down because it’s in your head and only you
because it’s in your head and only you
because it’s in your head and only you have access to it the only thing that
have access to it the only thing that
have access to it the only thing that shows up there is in your handwriting
shows up there is in your handwriting
shows up there is in your handwriting now to break the cycle remember what you
now to break the cycle remember what you
now to break the cycle remember what you want now hearing this story you might
want now hearing this story you might
want now hearing this story you might say well come on what else I was
say well come on what else I was
say well come on what else I was supposed to do I mean I would be
supposed to do I mean I would be
supposed to do I mean I would be offended – okay let me ask you let’s say
offended – okay let me ask you let’s say
offended – okay let me ask you let’s say that it was a guy who weighed 180 pounds
that it was a guy who weighed 180 pounds
that it was a guy who weighed 180 pounds and he is dream was to be 200 he’d be
and he is dream was to be 200 he’d be
and he is dream was to be 200 he’d be more of a guy be more respected so he
more of a guy be more respected so he
more of a guy be more respected so he starts working out actually he just
starts working out actually he just
starts working out actually he just started working out that day and the kid
started working out that day and the kid
started working out that day and the kid passes him and says well I see you
passes him and says well I see you
passes him and says well I see you didn’t have any trouble getting all 200
didn’t have any trouble getting all 200
didn’t have any trouble getting all 200 pounds dressed for work today and
pounds dressed for work today and
pounds dressed for work today and working now it’s paying off
working now it’s paying off
working now it’s paying off yeah what if it was somebody who weighed
yeah what if it was somebody who weighed
yeah what if it was somebody who weighed 200 220 pounds and they didn’t like that
200 220 pounds and they didn’t like that
200 220 pounds and they didn’t like that they wanted to reduce their weight so
they wanted to reduce their weight so
they wanted to reduce their weight so they decide that day they’re gonna
they decide that day they’re gonna
they decide that day they’re gonna change their eating patterns they eat
change their eating patterns they eat
change their eating patterns they eat their first salad that day they get
their first salad that day they get
their first salad that day they get passed by to you I see you didn’t have
passed by to you I see you didn’t have
passed by to you I see you didn’t have any trouble getting all 200 pounds
any trouble getting all 200 pounds
any trouble getting all 200 pounds dressed today that’s pretty good salad
dressed today that’s pretty good salad
dressed today that’s pretty good salad paying off already what if it was
paying off already what if it was
paying off already what if it was somebody from the Mauretania tribe of
somebody from the Mauretania tribe of
somebody from the Mauretania tribe of Africa you see in this tribe being
Africa you see in this tribe being
Africa you see in this tribe being overweight is prized because it’s seen
overweight is prized because it’s seen
overweight is prized because it’s seen as a symbol of wealth it is such a
as a symbol of wealth it is such a
as a symbol of wealth it is such a status symbol that families will send
status symbol that families will send
status symbol that families will send their daughters to force-feeding camps
their daughters to force-feeding camps
their daughters to force-feeding camps to forcefully fatten them up to make
to forcefully fatten them up to make
to forcefully fatten them up to make them more attractive to a wealthy suitor
them more attractive to a wealthy suitor
them more attractive to a wealthy suitor who will think that their family has
who will think that their family has
who will think that their family has access to more food than they know what
access to more food than they know what
access to more food than they know what to do with what if it was that person
to do with what if it was that person
to do with what if it was that person walking down the street you see the
walking down the street you see the
walking down the street you see the meaning is as unique as you are and
meaning is as unique as you are and
meaning is as unique as you are and blaming them for what they said is like
blaming them for what they said is like
blaming them for what they said is like being mad at somebody for agreeing with
being mad at somebody for agreeing with
being mad at somebody for agreeing with you
you
you but if you reach the point that you want
but if you reach the point that you want
but if you reach the point that you want to be free you don’t want to be right
to be free you don’t want to be right
to be free you don’t want to be right remember what you want I was taking
remember what you want I was taking
remember what you want I was taking audition for the symphony and the chair
audition for the symphony and the chair
audition for the symphony and the chair that was open at that time was the
that was open at that time was the
that was open at that time was the assistant principal so I go to work
assistant principal so I go to work
assistant principal so I go to work preparing for that audition I practiced
preparing for that audition I practiced
preparing for that audition I practiced five hours a day for six months straight
five hours a day for six months straight
five hours a day for six months straight to get ready for ten minutes with the
to get ready for ten minutes with the
to get ready for ten minutes with the committee I play my audition the
committee I play my audition the
committee I play my audition the personnel manager comes to me afterwards
personnel manager comes to me afterwards
personnel manager comes to me afterwards and says the committee doesn’t feel that
and says the committee doesn’t feel that
and says the committee doesn’t feel that you’re good enough now many times in
you’re good enough now many times in
you’re good enough now many times in life they say no and we go to work
life they say no and we go to work
life they say no and we go to work creating a story I’m not good enough
creating a story I’m not good enough
creating a story I’m not good enough many times in life they say not this
many times in life they say not this
many times in life they say not this time and so we make up a story I’m not
time and so we make up a story I’m not
time and so we make up a story I’m not good enough in this case the committee
good enough in this case the committee
good enough in this case the committee actually said that but remember nothing
actually said that but remember nothing
actually said that but remember nothing shows up on your tablet unless you write
shows up on your tablet unless you write
shows up on your tablet unless you write it there so I had the opportunity to
it there so I had the opportunity to
it there so I had the opportunity to choose was I gonna spin the next five
choose was I gonna spin the next five
choose was I gonna spin the next five days and suffering and mourning and
days and suffering and mourning and
days and suffering and mourning and tears and wailing and sell my instrument
tears and wailing and sell my instrument
tears and wailing and sell my instrument and leave the business or was I gonna
and leave the business or was I gonna
and leave the business or was I gonna get that chair remembering what you want
get that chair remembering what you want
get that chair remembering what you want breaks the cycle
breaks the cycle
breaks the cycle so rather than creating an unnecessary
so rather than creating an unnecessary
so rather than creating an unnecessary meaning I just went back to practicing
meaning I just went back to practicing
meaning I just went back to practicing because they were going to listen to me
because they were going to listen to me
because they were going to listen to me until I got that chair I have a son and
until I got that chair I have a son and
until I got that chair I have a son and if you have created a child you know it
if you have created a child you know it
if you have created a child you know it brings with it a mama bear and a papa
brings with it a mama bear and a papa
brings with it a mama bear and a papa bear and this is like a new entity that
bear and this is like a new entity that
bear and this is like a new entity that takes over your body and causes you to
takes over your body and causes you to
takes over your body and causes you to think differently well being
think differently well being
think differently well being self-employed at the time my insurance
self-employed at the time my insurance
self-employed at the time my insurance was self-employed and so it made more
was self-employed and so it made more
was self-employed and so it made more sense that juniors should be on Mama’s
sense that juniors should be on Mama’s
sense that juniors should be on Mama’s policy because she had a big fancy
policy because she had a big fancy
policy because she had a big fancy hospital policy where she worked and
hospital policy where she worked and
hospital policy where she worked and then I get to thinking well you know
then I get to thinking well you know
then I get to thinking well you know what
what
what I should probably have a copy of that
I should probably have a copy of that
I should probably have a copy of that card what if something happens to Junior
card what if something happens to Junior
card what if something happens to Junior while he’s with me and mom is at work or
while he’s with me and mom is at work or
while he’s with me and mom is at work or mom is asleep I should have a copy of
mom is asleep I should have a copy of
mom is asleep I should have a copy of the card so I can help can I get a copy
the card so I can help can I get a copy
the card so I can help can I get a copy of that card yeah yeah look at you one
of that card yeah yeah look at you one
of that card yeah yeah look at you one which one couple weeks go by can I get a
which one couple weeks go by can I get a
which one couple weeks go by can I get a copy of that card oh yeah well I’ll get
copy of that card oh yeah well I’ll get
copy of that card oh yeah well I’ll get I’ll get you a few more weeks go by can
I’ll get you a few more weeks go by can
I’ll get you a few more weeks go by can I get now you see where this is going
I get now you see where this is going
I get now you see where this is going right so I’m getting more upset because
right so I’m getting more upset because
right so I’m getting more upset because something’s stand in the way of me being
something’s stand in the way of me being
something’s stand in the way of me being more involved with my son she’s getting
more involved with my son she’s getting
more involved with my son she’s getting more upset because Mama Bear kicks in
more upset because Mama Bear kicks in
more upset because Mama Bear kicks in mama bears job is to protect little one
mama bears job is to protect little one
mama bears job is to protect little one against everyone on the planet someone
against everyone on the planet someone
against everyone on the planet someone Benfield is stronger than others so this
Benfield is stronger than others so this
Benfield is stronger than others so this goes on for three months it’s getting
goes on for three months it’s getting
goes on for three months it’s getting worse and worse and worse
worse and worse and worse
worse and worse and worse finally we’re gonna have the talk now I
finally we’re gonna have the talk now I
finally we’re gonna have the talk now I could go into the talk and do this the
could go into the talk and do this the
could go into the talk and do this the old-fashioned way
old-fashioned way
old-fashioned way I’m sure you know how well that works or
I’m sure you know how well that works or
I’m sure you know how well that works or I could so remembering what I wanted do
I could so remembering what I wanted do
I could so remembering what I wanted do I want the card no I want to be involved
I want the card no I want to be involved
I want the card no I want to be involved in my son’s life and I want a fantastic
in my son’s life and I want a fantastic
in my son’s life and I want a fantastic relationship with his mother remember
relationship with his mother remember
relationship with his mother remember what you want it breaks the cycle
what you want it breaks the cycle
what you want it breaks the cycle definitions do not move us meaning does
definitions do not move us meaning does
definitions do not move us meaning does so open up the conversation I would
so open up the conversation I would
so open up the conversation I would imagine if you gave me a copy of that
imagine if you gave me a copy of that
imagine if you gave me a copy of that card you might feel like you weren’t
card you might feel like you weren’t
card you might feel like you weren’t needed anymore I would imagine if you
needed anymore I would imagine if you
needed anymore I would imagine if you gave me a copy of that card you might
gave me a copy of that card you might
gave me a copy of that card you might feel like you weren’t a very good mother
feel like you weren’t a very good mother
feel like you weren’t a very good mother because you had opened it up for
because you had opened it up for
because you had opened it up for somebody else
somebody else
somebody else to help I got halfway through my third I
to help I got halfway through my third I
to help I got halfway through my third I would imagine and she just handed me the
would imagine and she just handed me the
would imagine and she just handed me the card because when you move the hidden
card because when you move the hidden
card because when you move the hidden meaning a new possibility is created I
meaning a new possibility is created I
meaning a new possibility is created I had a boss that whenever I would ask her
had a boss that whenever I would ask her
had a boss that whenever I would ask her a question she would off with his head
a question she would off with his head
a question she would off with his head so hey what time is the Marx concert Wow
so hey what time is the Marx concert Wow
so hey what time is the Marx concert Wow why do you keep asking with it hey I was
why do you keep asking with it hey I was
why do you keep asking with it hey I was wondering what we’re gonna do for the
wondering what we’re gonna do for the
wondering what we’re gonna do for the April I would run up so I just quit
April I would run up so I just quit
April I would run up so I just quit asking her questions well we have a
asking her questions well we have a
asking her questions well we have a meeting we sit down for the meeting and
meeting we sit down for the meeting and
meeting we sit down for the meeting and up in the meeting comes in my employee
up in the meeting comes in my employee
up in the meeting comes in my employee review Jared the problem with you is you
review Jared the problem with you is you
review Jared the problem with you is you don’t ask me enough questions and I’m
don’t ask me enough questions and I’m
don’t ask me enough questions and I’m thinking funny you should say that now I
thinking funny you should say that now I
thinking funny you should say that now I can do this the old-fashioned way you
can do this the old-fashioned way you
can do this the old-fashioned way you know how well that works or I can create
know how well that works or I can create
know how well that works or I can create a new possibility so remembering what I
a new possibility so remembering what I
a new possibility so remembering what I want which is a great relationship with
want which is a great relationship with
want which is a great relationship with my boss I say just because I ask you
my boss I say just because I ask you
my boss I say just because I ask you doesn’t mean you didn’t tell me just
doesn’t mean you didn’t tell me just
doesn’t mean you didn’t tell me just means I don’t know for whatever reason
means I don’t know for whatever reason
means I don’t know for whatever reason oh really well I’d love to help you when
oh really well I’d love to help you when
oh really well I’d love to help you when you remove the hidden meaning a new
you remove the hidden meaning a new
you remove the hidden meaning a new possibility emerges so this is what I
possibility emerges so this is what I
possibility emerges so this is what I offer to you should you find yourself on
offer to you should you find yourself on
offer to you should you find yourself on the hook remember what you want should
the hook remember what you want should
the hook remember what you want should you find yourself offended or hurt or
you find yourself offended or hurt or
you find yourself offended or hurt or angry and you’re tired of that emotion
angry and you’re tired of that emotion
angry and you’re tired of that emotion taking over your sleep in your day
taking over your sleep in your day
taking over your sleep in your day remember what you want if they tell you
remember what you want if they tell you
remember what you want if they tell you no if they tell you you’re not ready if
no if they tell you you’re not ready if
no if they tell you you’re not ready if they tell you you can’t if they tell you
they tell you you can’t if they tell you
they tell you you can’t if they tell you you’re not good enough remember what you
you’re not good enough remember what you
you’re not good enough remember what you want because when you remember what you
want because when you remember what you
want because when you remember what you want it breaks the cycle
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