[Music] I’m going to be speaking about something
I’m going to be speaking about something
I’m going to be speaking about something that I’ve been very passionate about in
that I’ve been very passionate about in
that I’ve been very passionate about in these last few years as an entrepreneur
these last few years as an entrepreneur
these last few years as an entrepreneur the biggest thing that hits you every
the biggest thing that hits you every
the biggest thing that hits you every day is what is the purpose for you to be
day is what is the purpose for you to be
day is what is the purpose for you to be getting up every morning and doing
getting up every morning and doing
getting up every morning and doing whatever you want to do and more
whatever you want to do and more
whatever you want to do and more importantly it boils down to what does
importantly it boils down to what does
importantly it boils down to what does success or failure truly mean who is
success or failure truly mean who is
success or failure truly mean who is defining that and how do you influence
defining that and how do you influence
defining that and how do you influence that in your own mind so let me start
that in your own mind so let me start
that in your own mind so let me start with an anecdote I’ve shared this
with an anecdote I’ve shared this
with an anecdote I’ve shared this several times but this remains one of my
several times but this remains one of my
several times but this remains one of my favorite anecdotes to illustrate how
favorite anecdotes to illustrate how
favorite anecdotes to illustrate how narrow our definition of success is I am
narrow our definition of success is I am
narrow our definition of success is I am a visiting faculty at a school in
a visiting faculty at a school in
a visiting faculty at a school in Gurgaon and for the last four five years
Gurgaon and for the last four five years
Gurgaon and for the last four five years I’ve been taking this course and the
I’ve been taking this course and the
I’ve been taking this course and the final exam of this course it’s a very
final exam of this course it’s a very
final exam of this course it’s a very simple question it’s just a question no
simple question it’s just a question no
simple question it’s just a question no written test no long essays nothing like
written test no long essays nothing like
written test no long essays nothing like that and the question is list at least
that and the question is list at least
that and the question is list at least three things that you have learnt in
three things that you have learnt in
three things that you have learnt in this course list at least three things
this course list at least three things
this course list at least three things that you have learnt during this course
that you have learnt during this course
that you have learnt during this course it’s a six month course about 120 240
it’s a six month course about 120 240
it’s a six month course about 120 240 students over the last four or five
students over the last four or five
students over the last four or five years have taken this course and in the
years have taken this course and in the
years have taken this course and in the true definition of what I think success
true definition of what I think success
true definition of what I think success means no more than six students have
means no more than six students have
means no more than six students have passed this exam and the exam I do was
passed this exam and the exam I do was
passed this exam and the exam I do was list at least three things that you have
list at least three things that you have
list at least three things that you have learned in this course so you would
learned in this course so you would
learned in this course so you would imagine how can anyone fail this exam
imagine how can anyone fail this exam
imagine how can anyone fail this exam but the way that I call failure is
but the way that I call failure is
but the way that I call failure is except for the six students everyone
except for the six students everyone
except for the six students everyone else listed exactly three things that
else listed exactly three things that
else listed exactly three things that they learnt in the course exactly three
they learnt in the course exactly three
they learnt in the course exactly three things when my question was list at
things when my question was list at
things when my question was list at least three things that you’ve learnt in
least three things that you’ve learnt in
least three things that you’ve learnt in this course when you go through this
this course when you go through this
this course when you go through this example you realize that every single
example you realize that every single
example you realize that every single day all of us are being tricked to
day all of us are being tricked to
day all of us are being tricked to believe that something that we do will
believe that something that we do will
believe that something that we do will classify as success so as a faculty
classify as success so as a faculty
classify as success so as a faculty member
member
member I tricked my students to believe that if
I tricked my students to believe that if
I tricked my students to believe that if they mentioned three things they would
they mentioned three things they would
they mentioned three things they would pass the exam while I was looking and
pass the exam while I was looking and
pass the exam while I was looking and this was a googly that I threw at them I
this was a googly that I threw at them I
this was a googly that I threw at them I was looking for how many of them would
was looking for how many of them would
was looking for how many of them would not stop at what I have asked them they
not stop at what I have asked them they
not stop at what I have asked them they would not stop at the three things that
would not stop at the three things that
would not stop at the three things that I have classified as success but they
I have classified as success but they
I have classified as success but they would go beyond because of course there
would go beyond because of course there
would go beyond because of course there are more than three things that people
are more than three things that people
are more than three things that people have learned during this course and this
have learned during this course and this
have learned during this course and this fascinates me because time and again we
fascinates me because time and again we
fascinates me because time and again we realized that we are being boxed into a
realized that we are being boxed into a
realized that we are being boxed into a definition of success and I’ve spent a
definition of success and I’ve spent a
definition of success and I’ve spent a lot of time reading researching speaking
lot of time reading researching speaking
lot of time reading researching speaking to people about understanding how the
to people about understanding how the
to people about understanding how the success get established in our minds so
success get established in our minds so
success get established in our minds so when we were cavemen and women there was
when we were cavemen and women there was
when we were cavemen and women there was only one rule of success don’t die that
only one rule of success don’t die that
only one rule of success don’t die that was it every single day we got up we had
was it every single day we got up we had
was it every single day we got up we had to hunt and all that we have to do is
to hunt and all that we have to do is
to hunt and all that we have to do is ensure that we got back home safe and
ensure that we got back home safe and
ensure that we got back home safe and sound
sound
sound we never got killed by an animal not got
we never got killed by an animal not got
we never got killed by an animal not got killed by weather and definitely not got
killed by weather and definitely not got
killed by weather and definitely not got murdered by our own fellow cave men or
murdered by our own fellow cave men or
murdered by our own fellow cave men or women because that was the only way that
women because that was the only way that
women because that was the only way that we would go ahead and reproduce that was
we would go ahead and reproduce that was
we would go ahead and reproduce that was the only way that the race would go
the only way that the race would go
the only way that the race would go forward that was the only definition of
forward that was the only definition of
forward that was the only definition of success but what it did over yours is
success but what it did over yours is
success but what it did over yours is conditioned our brains our minds to say
conditioned our brains our minds to say
conditioned our brains our minds to say don’t take any risk
don’t take any risk
don’t take any risk just follow the safe path the path is
just follow the safe path the path is
just follow the safe path the path is laid in front of you and all you got to
laid in front of you and all you got to
laid in front of you and all you got to do is just walk on that and you will be
do is just walk on that and you will be
do is just walk on that and you will be safe you will be successful you are not
safe you will be successful you are not
safe you will be successful you are not going to die and then there was this
going to die and then there was this
going to die and then there was this Industrial Revolution that happened
Industrial Revolution that happened
Industrial Revolution that happened about 200 years ago which amplified this
about 200 years ago which amplified this
about 200 years ago which amplified this conditioning because now suddenly
conditioning because now suddenly
conditioning because now suddenly schools were being taught this way and
schools were being taught this way and
schools were being taught this way and people will be trained this way that
people will be trained this way that
people will be trained this way that every day you get up and you go to a
every day you get up and you go to a
every day you get up and you go to a factory and the manager will tell you
factory and the manager will tell you
factory and the manager will tell you five things that you have to do and if
five things that you have to do and if
five things that you have to do and if you do step one step two step three step
you do step one step two step three step
you do step one step two step three step four and step five
four and step five
four and step five they will love you
they will love you
they will love you and they will make you great people they
and they will make you great people they
and they will make you great people they will give you fancy titles you will
will give you fancy titles you will
will give you fancy titles you will become vice president and CEO you will
become vice president and CEO you will
become vice president and CEO you will earn great money you will be able to go
earn great money you will be able to go
earn great money you will be able to go on that vacation that you wanted send
on that vacation that you wanted send
on that vacation that you wanted send your kids to school
your kids to school
your kids to school buy that house or car that you wanted
buy that house or car that you wanted
buy that house or car that you wanted you will be successful and all these
you will be successful and all these
you will be successful and all these years that conditioning has become don’t
years that conditioning has become don’t
years that conditioning has become don’t question just take everything that the
question just take everything that the
question just take everything that the world is telling you having you believe
world is telling you having you believe
world is telling you having you believe is the definition of success follow that
is the definition of success follow that
is the definition of success follow that and you will be successful in your
and you will be successful in your
and you will be successful in your classrooms every single day your
classrooms every single day your
classrooms every single day your professors are defining what you should
professors are defining what you should
professors are defining what you should be doing to get a good grade and if you
be doing to get a good grade and if you
be doing to get a good grade and if you get that good grade someone will tell
get that good grade someone will tell
get that good grade someone will tell you you’ll be successful once you
you you’ll be successful once you
you you’ll be successful once you graduate out of this university someone
graduate out of this university someone
graduate out of this university someone will tell you that if you get this
will tell you that if you get this
will tell you that if you get this minimum pay you’re successful and if you
minimum pay you’re successful and if you
minimum pay you’re successful and if you get the job in that company you’re
get the job in that company you’re
get the job in that company you’re successful and if you get a job in that
successful and if you get a job in that
successful and if you get a job in that function is successful but if not you’re
function is successful but if not you’re
function is successful but if not you’re not you’re a loser and suddenly it
not you’re a loser and suddenly it
not you’re a loser and suddenly it becomes obvious that we have been
becomes obvious that we have been
becomes obvious that we have been hardwired as humans to think that
hardwired as humans to think that
hardwired as humans to think that success is external to us success is not
success is external to us success is not
success is external to us success is not what happens to me success is what I
what happens to me success is what I
what happens to me success is what I make of it success is what people think
make of it success is what people think
make of it success is what people think of me how I am perceived is what we
of me how I am perceived is what we
of me how I am perceived is what we think is success and in the last 15
think is success and in the last 15
think is success and in the last 15 years all has broken loose because
years all has broken loose because
years all has broken loose because of something called social media where
of something called social media where
of something called social media where suddenly our self-worth is attached to
suddenly our self-worth is attached to
suddenly our self-worth is attached to the likes and comments we get every day
the likes and comments we get every day
the likes and comments we get every day suddenly when we post something we wish
suddenly when we post something we wish
suddenly when we post something we wish to be accepted to be successful so we
to be accepted to be successful so we
to be accepted to be successful so we suddenly eating the best-looking food
suddenly eating the best-looking food
suddenly eating the best-looking food that mankind has ever had we are wearing
that mankind has ever had we are wearing
that mankind has ever had we are wearing the best-looking clothes that mankind
the best-looking clothes that mankind
the best-looking clothes that mankind has ever worn we are visiting the
has ever worn we are visiting the
has ever worn we are visiting the best-looking destinations that ever have
best-looking destinations that ever have
best-looking destinations that ever have been visited and we think we have the
been visited and we think we have the
been visited and we think we have the best looking self-esteem because of all
best looking self-esteem because of all
best looking self-esteem because of all of that when the reality is none of us
of that when the reality is none of us
of that when the reality is none of us have it figured out we will have the
have it figured out we will have the
have it figured out we will have the world tell us that all of us are sorted
world tell us that all of us are sorted
world tell us that all of us are sorted you
you
you students when you go back into your own
students when you go back into your own
students when you go back into your own Huddle’s you will think oh my god am I
Huddle’s you will think oh my god am I
Huddle’s you will think oh my god am I the only idiot who has not figured what
the only idiot who has not figured what
the only idiot who has not figured what I want to do in life because everyone
I want to do in life because everyone
I want to do in life because everyone else just seems to know exactly what
else just seems to know exactly what
else just seems to know exactly what they wish to do but the truth is that is
they wish to do but the truth is that is
they wish to do but the truth is that is a lie
a lie
a lie the truth is every single one of you
the truth is every single one of you
the truth is every single one of you does not know what will get you where
does not know what will get you where
does not know what will get you where you wish to go you do not know where you
you wish to go you do not know where you
you wish to go you do not know where you wish to go all of this is part of a
wish to go all of this is part of a
wish to go all of this is part of a journey but we are boxing ourselves
journey but we are boxing ourselves
journey but we are boxing ourselves every single day because the world will
every single day because the world will
every single day because the world will have us believe that we’ve got to play
have us believe that we’ve got to play
have us believe that we’ve got to play it a certain way how many students in
it a certain way how many students in
it a certain way how many students in India
India
India will get above 90% in class tenth and
will get above 90% in class tenth and
will get above 90% in class tenth and will have the audacity to not take up
will have the audacity to not take up
will have the audacity to not take up science because suddenly that’s the only
science because suddenly that’s the only
science because suddenly that’s the only thing you ought to be doing and it’s
thing you ought to be doing and it’s
thing you ought to be doing and it’s crazy
crazy
crazy if you imagine that in the 10th standard
if you imagine that in the 10th standard
if you imagine that in the 10th standard when you’re about 15 or 16 the world is
when you’re about 15 or 16 the world is
when you’re about 15 or 16 the world is telling you you have three choices in
telling you you have three choices in
telling you you have three choices in life one of which is science which is
life one of which is science which is
life one of which is science which is what the so called intelligent human
what the so called intelligent human
what the so called intelligent human beings go for then there’s commerce
beings go for then there’s commerce
beings go for then there’s commerce which are confused people or people who
which are confused people or people who
which are confused people or people who didn’t get grades and then there arts
didn’t get grades and then there arts
didn’t get grades and then there arts which somehow the world doesn’t want
which somehow the world doesn’t want
which somehow the world doesn’t want more of and this notion is crept in so
more of and this notion is crept in so
more of and this notion is crept in so strongly that now there are schools
strongly that now there are schools
strongly that now there are schools which don’t even have art sections in
which don’t even have art sections in
which don’t even have art sections in class 11th can you imagine a world like
class 11th can you imagine a world like
class 11th can you imagine a world like that where no one is being trained to
that where no one is being trained to
that where no one is being trained to study history geography music where no
study history geography music where no
study history geography music where no one is being trained to think creatively
one is being trained to think creatively
one is being trained to think creatively everyone is being told that a body in
everyone is being told that a body in
everyone is being told that a body in motion if not stopped will continue to
motion if not stopped will continue to
motion if not stopped will continue to be in motion
be in motion
be in motion and that’s the only way that we look at
and that’s the only way that we look at
and that’s the only way that we look at the world so what’s happening our best
the world so what’s happening our best
the world so what’s happening our best business schools have all engineers and
business schools have all engineers and
business schools have all engineers and they are trapped in that world so what I
they are trapped in that world so what I
they are trapped in that world so what I hate most about today’s world is that
hate most about today’s world is that
hate most about today’s world is that it’s so personalized that it’s not
it’s so personalized that it’s not
it’s so personalized that it’s not giving us new information it’s just
giving us new information it’s just
giving us new information it’s just amplify
amplify
amplify our own beliefs I love reading the
our own beliefs I love reading the
our own beliefs I love reading the newspaper in fact I think I’m an
newspaper in fact I think I’m an
newspaper in fact I think I’m an aberration because I still love holding
aberration because I still love holding
aberration because I still love holding the physical newspaper in my hand and
the physical newspaper in my hand and
the physical newspaper in my hand and the biggest reason I love doing that is
the biggest reason I love doing that is
the biggest reason I love doing that is because the newspaper has not been
because the newspaper has not been
because the newspaper has not been written for me it’s not personalized to
written for me it’s not personalized to
written for me it’s not personalized to my needs it’s not personalized to my
my needs it’s not personalized to my
my needs it’s not personalized to my interests it’s everything that someone
interests it’s everything that someone
interests it’s everything that someone else decides for the mass so I don’t
else decides for the mass so I don’t
else decides for the mass so I don’t have a choice of what I read but when
have a choice of what I read but when
have a choice of what I read but when you go on Facebook you are reading what
you go on Facebook you are reading what
you go on Facebook you are reading what you wish to read you’re amplifying your
you wish to read you’re amplifying your
you wish to read you’re amplifying your own beliefs so if you love a certain
own beliefs so if you love a certain
own beliefs so if you love a certain thing you will see more of it and if you
thing you will see more of it and if you
thing you will see more of it and if you don’t like something you will not see
don’t like something you will not see
don’t like something you will not see any of it and when you enter these
any of it and when you enter these
any of it and when you enter these clothes setups where everyone is almost
clothes setups where everyone is almost
clothes setups where everyone is almost of the same tribe the same mentality the
of the same tribe the same mentality the
of the same tribe the same mentality the same thought process you are not adding
same thought process you are not adding
same thought process you are not adding anything more but just falling into the
anything more but just falling into the
anything more but just falling into the trap of what that success/failure
trap of what that success/failure
trap of what that success/failure definition is so I thought for the last
definition is so I thought for the last
definition is so I thought for the last few years of what should be my mantra of
few years of what should be my mantra of
few years of what should be my mantra of escaping this and I look back at my life
escaping this and I look back at my life
escaping this and I look back at my life and try and draw a pattern around that
and try and draw a pattern around that
and try and draw a pattern around that is there something that I’ve done which
is there something that I’ve done which
is there something that I’ve done which I could help terrorize or create it into
I could help terrorize or create it into
I could help terrorize or create it into your theory so that I could share it
your theory so that I could share it
your theory so that I could share it with the world
with the world
with the world possibly as a way of escaping this rut
possibly as a way of escaping this rut
possibly as a way of escaping this rut of success and definition that places by
of success and definition that places by
of success and definition that places by the world and what I figured was the
the world and what I figured was the
the world and what I figured was the simple three word mantra that I’m going
simple three word mantra that I’m going
simple three word mantra that I’m going to share with you today and close when I
to share with you today and close when I
to share with you today and close when I looked around most successful people
looked around most successful people
looked around most successful people that I admire people that I look up to I
that I admire people that I look up to I
that I admire people that I look up to I figured that they’re not necessarily the
figured that they’re not necessarily the
figured that they’re not necessarily the richest people on earth they’re not
richest people on earth they’re not
richest people on earth they’re not necessarily the most successful people
necessarily the most successful people
necessarily the most successful people in terms of Fame and popularity they’re
in terms of Fame and popularity they’re
in terms of Fame and popularity they’re not necessarily the ones that everyone
not necessarily the ones that everyone
not necessarily the ones that everyone knows off but they’re doing meaningful
knows off but they’re doing meaningful
knows off but they’re doing meaningful work and more importantly they feel
work and more importantly they feel
work and more importantly they feel fulfilled they feel happy they feel
fulfilled they feel happy they feel
fulfilled they feel happy they feel content with what they do every day and
content with what they do every day and
content with what they do every day and when I draw a patterns around how they
when I draw a patterns around how they
when I draw a patterns around how they looked at their life and when I looked
looked at their life and when I looked
looked at their life and when I looked at mine of what is it that I have done
at mine of what is it that I have done
at mine of what is it that I have done right from getting into a great US
right from getting into a great US
right from getting into a great US university and leaving all of that to
university and leaving all of that to
university and leaving all of that to come back to India leaving a cushy
come back to India leaving a cushy
come back to India leaving a cushy management consulting job and starting
management consulting job and starting
management consulting job and starting up leaving all the
up leaving all the
up leaving all the powers and benefits of a multinational
powers and benefits of a multinational
powers and benefits of a multinational company and starting up all over again
company and starting up all over again
company and starting up all over again all of these are choices that are made
all of these are choices that are made
all of these are choices that are made which were not very obvious which were
which were not very obvious which were
which were not very obvious which were not straight line which were not average
not straight line which were not average
not straight line which were not average and I figured that that’s the same
and I figured that that’s the same
and I figured that that’s the same pattern with most people that I look up
pattern with most people that I look up
pattern with most people that I look up to it’s the same pattern with most
to it’s the same pattern with most
to it’s the same pattern with most people that we all admire at a big level
people that we all admire at a big level
people that we all admire at a big level and the three words are resist the
and the three words are resist the
and the three words are resist the obvious resist the obvious every single
obvious resist the obvious every single
obvious resist the obvious every single day when you’re faced with a choice
day when you’re faced with a choice
day when you’re faced with a choice there will be an obvious part and there
there will be an obvious part and there
there will be an obvious part and there will be a non-obvious part and 90%
will be a non-obvious part and 90%
will be a non-obvious part and 90% people will go for the obvious part the
people will go for the obvious part the
people will go for the obvious part the easy part the safe part because that’s
easy part the safe part because that’s
easy part the safe part because that’s how our brain has been trained that’s
how our brain has been trained that’s
how our brain has been trained that’s what our mind has been telling us all
what our mind has been telling us all
what our mind has been telling us all these millions of years don’t take a
these millions of years don’t take a
these millions of years don’t take a risk because you might die so we take
risk because you might die so we take
risk because you might die so we take the obvious choice when we get 90
the obvious choice when we get 90
the obvious choice when we get 90 percent in class 10th we take the
percent in class 10th we take the
percent in class 10th we take the obvious part of taking up science when
obvious part of taking up science when
obvious part of taking up science when we finish in engineering we take the
we finish in engineering we take the
we finish in engineering we take the obvious part of leaving all of that and
obvious part of leaving all of that and
obvious part of leaving all of that and going for an MBA when we finish our MBA
going for an MBA when we finish our MBA
going for an MBA when we finish our MBA irrespective of whether we liked it or
irrespective of whether we liked it or
irrespective of whether we liked it or not we take the obvious part of setting
not we take the obvious part of setting
not we take the obvious part of setting for placements when we sit for
for placements when we sit for
for placements when we sit for appraisals in our companies and so on we
appraisals in our companies and so on we
appraisals in our companies and so on we take the obvious part of just adhering
take the obvious part of just adhering
take the obvious part of just adhering to what the company wants from us rather
to what the company wants from us rather
to what the company wants from us rather than what we wish to do in life when we
than what we wish to do in life when we
than what we wish to do in life when we think of people that we wish to spend
think of people that we wish to spend
think of people that we wish to spend our lives with we take the obvious parts
our lives with we take the obvious parts
our lives with we take the obvious parts of what the world will have us believe
of what the world will have us believe
of what the world will have us believe the norms don’t cut it out but what you
the norms don’t cut it out but what you
the norms don’t cut it out but what you recognize is people that we all look up
recognize is people that we all look up
recognize is people that we all look up to are the ones who were the 10% the
to are the ones who were the 10% the
to are the ones who were the 10% the unorthodox the ones who resisted the
unorthodox the ones who resisted the
unorthodox the ones who resisted the obvious the ones who talked laterally
obvious the ones who talked laterally
obvious the ones who talked laterally the ones who thought that no if I do
the ones who thought that no if I do
the ones who thought that no if I do follow the obvious part I will end up
follow the obvious part I will end up
follow the obvious part I will end up being average if I follow what the world
being average if I follow what the world
being average if I follow what the world is following I will be no better than
is following I will be no better than
is following I will be no better than what the world is and that means I’m not
what the world is and that means I’m not
what the world is and that means I’m not going to settle for that people who are
going to settle for that people who are
going to settle for that people who are successful and who drive the world not
successful and who drive the world not
successful and who drive the world not in their defin
in their defin
in their defin not in yours definition but
not in yours definition but
not in yours definition but fundamentally objectively other ones
fundamentally objectively other ones
fundamentally objectively other ones were constantly saying I choose not to
were constantly saying I choose not to
were constantly saying I choose not to be average
be average
be average I choose every single day consciously
I choose every single day consciously
I choose every single day consciously not to be average and the easiest way
not to be average and the easiest way
not to be average and the easiest way for me to not be the average is to
for me to not be the average is to
for me to not be the average is to resist the obvious thank you
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