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I lost his job and we had to relocate

I lost his job and we had to relocate from wonderful home in Kaduna

from wonderful home in Kaduna

from wonderful home in Kaduna to my hometown and whilst living in the

to my hometown and whilst living in the

to my hometown and whilst living in the house nothing at all we’ll give it away

house nothing at all we’ll give it away

house nothing at all we’ll give it away that there are some days at home that we

that there are some days at home that we

that there are some days at home that we do not have food to eat yes we spoke

do not have food to eat yes we spoke

do not have food to eat yes we spoke good English we attended private school

good English we attended private school

good English we attended private school and lived in a three-bedroom flat but it

and lived in a three-bedroom flat but it

and lived in a three-bedroom flat but it would take grace to reveal to you that

would take grace to reveal to you that

would take grace to reveal to you that something was wrong but then we had

something was wrong but then we had

something was wrong but then we had people who were sensitive to read

people who were sensitive to read

people who were sensitive to read between the lines

between the lines

between the lines probably all they wanted to do with just

probably all they wanted to do with just

probably all they wanted to do with just do some act of kindness but for every

do some act of kindness but for every

do some act of kindness but for every time they did their act of kindness it

time they did their act of kindness it

time they did their act of kindness it always saved the day it could be small

always saved the day it could be small

always saved the day it could be small to loss wife coming back from her farm

to loss wife coming back from her farm

to loss wife coming back from her farm and she does drops some tubers of

and she does drops some tubers of

and she does drops some tubers of cassava in front of our porch asking my

cassava in front of our porch asking my

cassava in front of our porch asking my mom process it’s me Gary for the kids or

mom process it’s me Gary for the kids or

mom process it’s me Gary for the kids or the acara woman well me and my sister

the acara woman well me and my sister

the acara woman well me and my sister has keeping to school she just loves

has keeping to school she just loves

has keeping to school she just loves seeing escaped to school and she ties up

seeing escaped to school and she ties up

seeing escaped to school and she ties up some acara for us for lunch those days

some acara for us for lunch those days

some acara for us for lunch those days people were really kind we food

people were really kind we food

people were really kind we food especially to children because they all

especially to children because they all

especially to children because they all believe the same that it takes a whole

believe the same that it takes a whole

believe the same that it takes a whole village to train a child I remember a

village to train a child I remember a

village to train a child I remember a particular Christmas few days of the

particular Christmas few days of the

particular Christmas few days of the Christmas there was nothing for our

Christmas there was nothing for our

Christmas there was nothing for our Christmas kitchen you can take away the

Christmas kitchen you can take away the

Christmas kitchen you can take away the Christmas clothes take away is going to

Christmas clothes take away is going to

Christmas clothes take away is going to see father Christmas but when there is

see father Christmas but when there is

see father Christmas but when there is no Christmas rice or chicken you have

no Christmas rice or chicken you have

no Christmas rice or chicken you have stolen that Christmas from any child my

stolen that Christmas from any child my

stolen that Christmas from any child my Christmas was at the verge of being

Christmas was at the verge of being

Christmas was at the verge of being stolen when kind-hearted people began to

stolen when kind-hearted people began to

stolen when kind-hearted people began to send in Christmas gifts

send in Christmas gifts

send in Christmas gifts honestly they might not have an inkling

honestly they might not have an inkling

honestly they might not have an inkling that there was nothing for our Christmas

that there was nothing for our Christmas

that there was nothing for our Christmas kitchen but from one person sending in a

kitchen but from one person sending in a

kitchen but from one person sending in a quarter bag of rice to another person

quarter bag of rice to another person

quarter bag of rice to another person giving us one bottle of granite oil by

giving us one bottle of granite oil by

giving us one bottle of granite oil by the 25th morning we had over two bags of

the 25th morning we had over two bags of

the 25th morning we had over two bags of rice six chickens and everything we

rice six chickens and everything we

rice six chickens and everything we needed for Christmas

needed for Christmas

needed for Christmas fast-forward these days things are

fast-forward these days things are

fast-forward these days things are beginning to change rapidly people no

beginning to change rapidly people no

beginning to change rapidly people no longer feel the pulse of their neighbors

longer feel the pulse of their neighbors

longer feel the pulse of their neighbors people no longer care to know what is

people no longer care to know what is

people no longer care to know what is happening in their neighbors houses we

happening in their neighbors houses we

happening in their neighbors houses we are no longer building bridges to

are no longer building bridges to

are no longer building bridges to strangers or accommodate people as much

strangers or accommodate people as much

strangers or accommodate people as much as we can if when children are beginning

as we can if when children are beginning

as we can if when children are beginning to lose the empathy that it deserve

to lose the empathy that it deserve

to lose the empathy that it deserve the only time the proverb it takes a

the only time the proverb it takes a

the only time the proverb it takes a whole village to train a child is

whole village to train a child is

whole village to train a child is probably when someone a child is going

probably when someone a child is going

probably when someone a child is going to be reprimanded or disciplined for

to be reprimanded or disciplined for

to be reprimanded or disciplined for being naughty nobody remembers to invoke

being naughty nobody remembers to invoke

being naughty nobody remembers to invoke that proverb when they see a hungry

that proverb when they see a hungry

that proverb when they see a hungry child on the street or when a child of

child on the street or when a child of

child on the street or when a child of school age is out of school there are

school age is out of school there are

school age is out of school there are over ten point five million out of

over ten point five million out of

over ten point five million out of school children in Nigeria according to

school children in Nigeria according to

school children in Nigeria according to UNICEF this is the world’s highest

UNICEF this is the world’s highest

UNICEF this is the world’s highest number because it’s over half of her out

number because it’s over half of her out

number because it’s over half of her out of school children in the world and I

of school children in the world and I

of school children in the world and I begin to imagine it’s alarming what if

begin to imagine it’s alarming what if

begin to imagine it’s alarming what if what if this parents know that there is

what if this parents know that there is

what if this parents know that there is a sustainable feed well food program in

a sustainable feed well food program in

a sustainable feed well food program in school will they happily send their

school will they happily send their

school will they happily send their children to school knowing that they

children to school knowing that they

children to school knowing that they will have at least one nutritious meal a

will have at least one nutritious meal a

will have at least one nutritious meal a day this issue of

day this issue of

day this issue of food is very serious madam risk art

food is very serious madam risk art

food is very serious madam risk art she’s here she runs the house of Rama

she’s here she runs the house of Rama

she’s here she runs the house of Rama Foundation her aim is to take as many

Foundation her aim is to take as many

Foundation her aim is to take as many out-of-school children back to school is

out-of-school children back to school is

out-of-school children back to school is a foundation that I support so sometimes

a foundation that I support so sometimes

a foundation that I support so sometimes she gives feedback and we got talking

she gives feedback and we got talking

she gives feedback and we got talking and I realized that the incidence of

and I realized that the incidence of

and I realized that the incidence of students who have been enrolled in

students who have been enrolled in

students who have been enrolled in school missing classes or not showing up

school missing classes or not showing up

school missing classes or not showing up at all will be curbed if they have food

at all will be curbed if they have food

at all will be curbed if they have food to eat at home or if they will be food

to eat at home or if they will be food

to eat at home or if they will be food to eat in school you may want to ask

to eat in school you may want to ask

to eat in school you may want to ask okay someone has taken up the

okay someone has taken up the

okay someone has taken up the educational care of your child country

educational care of your child country

educational care of your child country was a parents at least provide food

was a parents at least provide food

was a parents at least provide food since you’re not paying fees we’ll take

since you’re not paying fees we’ll take

since you’re not paying fees we’ll take an example of Islamic artists now my god

an example of Islamic artists now my god

an example of Islamic artists now my god his own daddy and kids educational care

his own daddy and kids educational care

his own daddy and kids educational care of the house of Rama Foundation how far

of the house of Rama Foundation how far

of the house of Rama Foundation how far I used to be a bus conductor in legals

I used to be a bus conductor in legals

I used to be a bus conductor in legals and one day while he was on his

and one day while he was on his

and one day while he was on his energetic duties he fell off the bus and

energetic duties he fell off the bus and

energetic duties he fell off the bus and a car crash crushed him living is a

a car crash crushed him living is a

a car crash crushed him living is a miasma died with three children are no

miasma died with three children are no

miasma died with three children are no jobs

jobs

jobs mrs. o is a Maya’s mother rose up to the

mrs. o is a Maya’s mother rose up to the

mrs. o is a Maya’s mother rose up to the occasion and began to do menial jobs

occasion and began to do menial jobs

occasion and began to do menial jobs washing clothes for her neighbours and

washing clothes for her neighbours and

washing clothes for her neighbours and cleaning their compounds now can we

cleaning their compounds now can we

cleaning their compounds now can we imagine how much Bodine will be lifted

imagine how much Bodine will be lifted

imagine how much Bodine will be lifted up her if she can access free food I

up her if she can access free food I

up her if she can access free food I also have the case of Chiba Obama

also have the case of Chiba Obama

also have the case of Chiba Obama miracle her father died of tuberculosis

miracle her father died of tuberculosis

miracle her father died of tuberculosis is also on that educational care of the

is also on that educational care of the

is also on that educational care of the house of Rama foundation Jacobean as

house of Rama foundation Jacobean as

house of Rama foundation Jacobean as mother has left with five children two

mother has left with five children two

mother has left with five children two of them are physically challenged one is

of them are physically challenged one is

of them are physically challenged one is blind the other a phantom she cannot

blind the other a phantom she cannot

blind the other a phantom she cannot afford to send them to any special

afford to send them to any special

afford to send them to any special schools because her ground not business

schools because her ground not business

schools because her ground not business when it’s not even enough to pay the

when it’s not even enough to pay the

when it’s not even enough to pay the bills

bills

bills now can we imagine if she can access

now can we imagine if she can access

now can we imagine if she can access free food anyway

the incidence of hong gye nigerian homes

the incidence of hong gye nigerian homes is real that you slept with a full

is real that you slept with a full

is real that you slept with a full stomach doesn’t mean your neighbor did –

there was a punch report sometime ago

there was a punch report sometime ago August in 2016 I would paraphrase the

August in 2016 I would paraphrase the

August in 2016 I would paraphrase the caption it says hunger or hot times

caption it says hunger or hot times

caption it says hunger or hot times drive more Nigerians into stealing food

drive more Nigerians into stealing food

drive more Nigerians into stealing food it was at the peak of the recession and

it was at the peak of the recession and

it was at the peak of the recession and we were hearing stories of how people

we were hearing stories of how people

we were hearing stories of how people were stealing food from their neighbors

were stealing food from their neighbors

were stealing food from their neighbors and this particular punch report talked

and this particular punch report talked

and this particular punch report talked about mr. Abdul Rahman who broke into

about mr. Abdul Rahman who broke into

about mr. Abdul Rahman who broke into his neighbor’s cupboard and stole a pot

his neighbor’s cupboard and stole a pot

his neighbor’s cupboard and stole a pot of stew and right mrs. Abdul Rahman

of stew and right mrs. Abdul Rahman

of stew and right mrs. Abdul Rahman okarian where the food came from quickly

okarian where the food came from quickly

okarian where the food came from quickly took it and share it among her children

took it and share it among her children

took it and share it among her children but I never got back realized he has

but I never got back realized he has

but I never got back realized he has been burgled here is an alarm and both

been burgled here is an alarm and both

been burgled here is an alarm and both of them came out to apologise for what

of them came out to apologise for what

of them came out to apologise for what they did

they did

they did thank God they were forgiven now that

thank God they were forgiven now that

thank God they were forgiven now that same report talked about a woman who

same report talked about a woman who

same report talked about a woman who broke into who went into the market to

broke into who went into the market to

broke into who went into the market to steal food she actually sold curry and

steal food she actually sold curry and

steal food she actually sold curry and beans Bo unlike the after amount

beans Bo unlike the after amount

beans Bo unlike the after amount she was unfortunate she was caught and

she was unfortunate she was caught and

she was unfortunate she was caught and beaten to his support and what comes to

beaten to his support and what comes to

beaten to his support and what comes to my mind after hearing reports like this

my mind after hearing reports like this

my mind after hearing reports like this or reading them is what if they have a

or reading them is what if they have a

or reading them is what if they have a good relationship with our neighbors

good relationship with our neighbors

good relationship with our neighbors what if their neighbors were sensitive

what if their neighbors were sensitive

what if their neighbors were sensitive enough for emotional intelligence enough

enough for emotional intelligence enough

enough for emotional intelligence enough to know that there was something wrong

to know that there was something wrong

to know that there was something wrong in their neighbours house will they

in their neighbours house will they

in their neighbours house will they stoop that low to steal food what if the

stoop that low to steal food what if the

stoop that low to steal food what if the neighbors came bearing gifts of food

neighbors came bearing gifts of food

neighbors came bearing gifts of food just like those days down then add more

just like those days down then add more

just like those days down then add more when people walked up to my house and

when people walked up to my house and

when people walked up to my house and just dropped food without was asking

just dropped food without was asking

just dropped food without was asking they wouldn’t steal it’s time we stop

they wouldn’t steal it’s time we stop

they wouldn’t steal it’s time we stop minding our business we have been taught

minding our business we have been taught

minding our business we have been taught to mind our business

to mind our business

to mind our business it’s time we start looking out for

it’s time we start looking out for

it’s time we start looking out for neighbors it’s time it’s time I start

neighbors it’s time it’s time I start

neighbors it’s time it’s time I start caring don’t look at the cars they drive

caring don’t look at the cars they drive

caring don’t look at the cars they drive don’t cut the houses that they live in

don’t cut the houses that they live in

don’t cut the houses that they live in they might all just be a charade

they might all just be a charade

they might all just be a charade sometimes things go wrong and if you do

sometimes things go wrong and if you do

sometimes things go wrong and if you do are not emotionally intelligent enough

are not emotionally intelligent enough

are not emotionally intelligent enough the fine faces the makeups might just

the fine faces the makeups might just

the fine faces the makeups might just deceive you

so it brings me to our legislations our

so it brings me to our legislations our FM cities the food manufacturing

FM cities the food manufacturing

FM cities the food manufacturing companies the big malls and the

companies the big malls and the

companies the big malls and the restaurants we have all over what do

restaurants we have all over what do

restaurants we have all over what do they do with their food that has past

they do with their food that has past

they do with their food that has past the sell-by date the best by dates I

the sell-by date the best by dates I

the sell-by date the best by dates I once had a nibble

once had a nibble

once had a nibble she always had excess food what’s the

she always had excess food what’s the

she always had excess food what’s the problem she had was preserving them no

problem she had was preserving them no

problem she had was preserving them no thanks to the power situation in Nigeria

thanks to the power situation in Nigeria

thanks to the power situation in Nigeria so whenever I have pots and pans were

so whenever I have pots and pans were

so whenever I have pots and pans were fool the next thing she does was the

fool the next thing she does was the

fool the next thing she does was the food that’s going rotting she trusts

food that’s going rotting she trusts

food that’s going rotting she trusts them into the guitar to decay when the

them into the guitar to decay when the

them into the guitar to decay when the rain comes who washes them away now she

rain comes who washes them away now she

rain comes who washes them away now she became a gossip topic for all the women

became a gossip topic for all the women

became a gossip topic for all the women on the street because anybody who passes

on the street because anybody who passes

on the street because anybody who passes by the bata and find such food going to

by the bata and find such food going to

by the bata and find such food going to waste they just said really bad things

waste they just said really bad things

waste they just said really bad things about her I did not blame my neighbor

about her I did not blame my neighbor

about her I did not blame my neighbor save for the environmental news and that

save for the environmental news and that

save for the environmental news and that she constituted because probably she

she constituted because probably she

she constituted because probably she didn’t know how to come bearing gifts or

didn’t know how to come bearing gifts or

didn’t know how to come bearing gifts or food to people without making her look

food to people without making her look

food to people without making her look like the boss or she’s your Savior so

like the boss or she’s your Savior so

like the boss or she’s your Savior so people don’t like that feeling or

people don’t like that feeling or

people don’t like that feeling or probably she has been taught how to mind

probably she has been taught how to mind

probably she has been taught how to mind her business the way we have been taught

her business the way we have been taught

her business the way we have been taught to mind our business these days so where

to mind our business these days so where

to mind our business these days so where we are minding our business will the FMC

we are minding our business will the FMC

we are minding our business will the FMC G’s the shopping malls and the

G’s the shopping malls and the

G’s the shopping malls and the restaurant were minding their business –

restaurant were minding their business –

restaurant were minding their business – will they be throwing their food away

will they be throwing their food away

will they be throwing their food away just the way my neighbors are betraying

just the way my neighbors are betraying

just the way my neighbors are betraying it – I believe if there are legislations

it – I believe if there are legislations

it – I believe if there are legislations that put in place or laws put in place

that put in place or laws put in place

that put in place or laws put in place on how the cipa treat

on how the cipa treat

on how the cipa treat food maybe food did not sell that has

food maybe food did not sell that has

food maybe food did not sell that has not expired but they can’t just put them

not expired but they can’t just put them

not expired but they can’t just put them up there on the rocks anymore if the

up there on the rocks anymore if the

up there on the rocks anymore if the legislation that will tell them what to

legislation that will tell them what to

legislation that will tell them what to do or have food banks soup kitchens on

do or have food banks soup kitchens on

do or have food banks soup kitchens on our streets I’m very sure that people

our streets I’m very sure that people

our streets I’m very sure that people will be happy to send in their food to

will be happy to send in their food to

will be happy to send in their food to the food banks or soup kitchens for tax

the food banks or soup kitchens for tax

the food banks or soup kitchens for tax rebates there was a signature doll

rebates there was a signature doll

rebates there was a signature doll sitting here I don’t know if we could

sitting here I don’t know if we could

sitting here I don’t know if we could take that back because there are so many

take that back because there are so many

take that back because there are so many multinationals today company their CSR

multinationals today company their CSR

multinationals today company their CSR structure does not even include anything

structure does not even include anything

structure does not even include anything that has to do with nutrition they will

that has to do with nutrition they will

that has to do with nutrition they will rather build beautiful gardens the

rather build beautiful gardens the

rather build beautiful gardens the gardens are free but even in your

gardens are free but even in your

gardens are free but even in your workforce food is important what I’m

workforce food is important what I’m

workforce food is important what I’m talking about here is very important

talking about here is very important

talking about here is very important food is life our life revolves around

food is life our life revolves around

food is life our life revolves around food when we don’t eat who died that’s

food when we don’t eat who died that’s

food when we don’t eat who died that’s the truth now this issue might look like

the truth now this issue might look like

the truth now this issue might look like okay it might not be too serious

okay it might not be too serious

okay it might not be too serious especially for those in the rural areas

especially for those in the rural areas

especially for those in the rural areas because ok they know how to plant

because ok they know how to plant

because ok they know how to plant gardens around their houses they can

gardens around their houses they can

gardens around their houses they can plant papers orbit genes and cool the

plant papers orbit genes and cool the

plant papers orbit genes and cool the snails can even eat the rotten leaves

snails can even eat the rotten leaves

snails can even eat the rotten leaves get fat for soup in the airport

get fat for soup in the airport

get fat for soup in the airport lettuce sounds like paradise very

lettuce sounds like paradise very

lettuce sounds like paradise very beautiful but the rural areas disease

beautiful but the rural areas disease

beautiful but the rural areas disease was happening they keep being threatened

was happening they keep being threatened

was happening they keep being threatened by insurgents and criminals I’m very

by insurgents and criminals I’m very

by insurgents and criminals I’m very sure khadijah spoke about town and

sure khadijah spoke about town and

sure khadijah spoke about town and virtually where farmers but they are no

virtually where farmers but they are no

virtually where farmers but they are no longer there most of our rural areas

longer there most of our rural areas

longer there most of our rural areas have been sucked on they are all living

have been sucked on they are all living

have been sucked on they are all living in the IDP camps the food we eat only

in the IDP camps the food we eat only

in the IDP camps the food we eat only goes like 80% of them come from these

goes like 80% of them come from these

goes like 80% of them come from these rural areas because they are farmers now

rural areas because they are farmers now

rural areas because they are farmers now when they are not farming and they are

when they are not farming and they are

when they are not farming and they are not going about their own business what

not going about their own business what

not going about their own business what happens to us down here food price that

happens to us down here food price that

happens to us down here food price that he has no food or the food prices being

he has no food or the food prices being

he has no food or the food prices being continue to skyrocket away from the rich

continue to skyrocket away from the rich

continue to skyrocket away from the rich of the poor Islam I asked mom who earns

of the poor Islam I asked mom who earns

of the poor Islam I asked mom who earns less than the minimum wage will not be

less than the minimum wage will not be

less than the minimum wage will not be able to assess food I do what I do

every weekend on TV teaching people how

every weekend on TV teaching people how to make meals that are easy affordable

to make meals that are easy affordable

to make meals that are easy affordable but even if they learn they need the

but even if they learn they need the

but even if they learn they need the ingredients they need the money if we do

ingredients they need the money if we do

ingredients they need the money if we do not care for our neighbors if we do not

not care for our neighbors if we do not

not care for our neighbors if we do not feel their paws what may be follows

feel their paws what may be follows

feel their paws what may be follows might be more than what we can’t combat

might be more than what we can’t combat

might be more than what we can’t combat hungry people are angry people if I

hungry people are angry people if I

hungry people are angry people if I decide to pick one hungry child in the

decide to pick one hungry child in the

decide to pick one hungry child in the day and say okay I don’t want this child

day and say okay I don’t want this child

day and say okay I don’t want this child hungry because I cannot stand my own

hungry because I cannot stand my own

hungry because I cannot stand my own children hungry and you decide to do the

children hungry and you decide to do the

children hungry and you decide to do the same thing to I’m very sure with our

same thing to I’m very sure with our

same thing to I’m very sure with our collective efforts we’ll be able to put

collective efforts we’ll be able to put

collective efforts we’ll be able to put food banks in our streets

food banks in our streets

food banks in our streets well the landlord Association comes

well the landlord Association comes

well the landlord Association comes together to talk about security security

together to talk about security security

together to talk about security security is very good can they also remember to

is very good can they also remember to

is very good can they also remember to remind residents not okay if you’ve got

remind residents not okay if you’ve got

remind residents not okay if you’ve got some so much like my neighbor who is

some so much like my neighbor who is

some so much like my neighbor who is wasteful can you please send it to the

wasteful can you please send it to the

wasteful can you please send it to the neighborhood food bank so that those who

neighborhood food bank so that those who

neighborhood food bank so that those who do not have like chip will be Emma’s

do not have like chip will be Emma’s

do not have like chip will be Emma’s mother who has worked so hard with her

mother who has worked so hard with her

mother who has worked so hard with her grandma business can at least walk in

grandma business can at least walk in

grandma business can at least walk in there and pick some food let us know

there and pick some food let us know

there and pick some food let us know wait for the government this transcends

wait for the government this transcends

wait for the government this transcends tribes

tribes

tribes religion or whatever we are

religion or whatever we are

religion or whatever we are it’s about boss and it’s about our

it’s about boss and it’s about our

it’s about boss and it’s about our children thank you very much

children thank you very much

children thank you very much [Applause]

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