[Applause] today’s actually our due date so if my
today’s actually our due date so if my
today’s actually our due date so if my phone rings this might be the fastest
phone rings this might be the fastest
phone rings this might be the fastest tedxtalk in history and if the baby
tedxtalk in history and if the baby
tedxtalk in history and if the baby doesn’t come out today that’s great we
doesn’t come out today that’s great we
doesn’t come out today that’s great we may name him Ted just in honor of
may name him Ted just in honor of
may name him Ted just in honor of letting me do this today so but what I’m
letting me do this today so but what I’m
letting me do this today so but what I’m actually here to speak about is story
actually here to speak about is story
actually here to speak about is story stories change the world they change us
stories change the world they change us
stories change the world they change us when we say them they change us when we
when we say them they change us when we
when we say them they change us when we hear them and I think they can change
hear them and I think they can change
hear them and I think they can change communities and as I said change the
communities and as I said change the
communities and as I said change the world never has this struck me more than
world never has this struck me more than
world never has this struck me more than when I was a counselor you’re a
when I was a counselor you’re a
when I was a counselor you’re a professional active listener
professional active listener
professional active listener I remember hearing stories from great
I remember hearing stories from great
I remember hearing stories from great people every day every day the 80 year
people every day every day the 80 year
people every day every day the 80 year old men who would finally tell their
old men who would finally tell their
old men who would finally tell their difficult story about surviving
difficult story about surviving
difficult story about surviving childhood sexual abuse shaking story
childhood sexual abuse shaking story
childhood sexual abuse shaking story they only ever told their wives about
they only ever told their wives about
they only ever told their wives about the young women who had been through
the young women who had been through
the young women who had been through things like abduction sexual abuse sex
things like abduction sexual abuse sex
things like abduction sexual abuse sex work telling their stories hoping to get
work telling their stories hoping to get
work telling their stories hoping to get through their 20s learning how to trust
through their 20s learning how to trust
through their 20s learning how to trust again and children of all ages
again and children of all ages
again and children of all ages grieving loss of all kinds brave people
grieving loss of all kinds brave people
grieving loss of all kinds brave people tell their stories and I met those great
tell their stories and I met those great
tell their stories and I met those great people daily one of the things that we
people daily one of the things that we
people daily one of the things that we have to look at is how it changes the
have to look at is how it changes the
have to look at is how it changes the individual who says the story the
individual who says the story the
individual who says the story the individual who hears the story and as I
individual who hears the story and as I
individual who hears the story and as I said communities in the world so how
said communities in the world so how
said communities in the world so how does it change the individual who shares
does it change the individual who shares
does it change the individual who shares their story there’s a lot of really
their story there’s a lot of really
their story there’s a lot of really fascinating research out there right now
fascinating research out there right now
fascinating research out there right now sloppy and messy and Campeau and embody
sloppy and messy and Campeau and embody
sloppy and messy and Campeau and embody have done research that shows that
have done research that shows that
have done research that shows that holding our stories in and our secrets
holding our stories in and our secrets
holding our stories in and our secrets because often they’re the same thing
because often they’re the same thing
because often they’re the same thing actually has a real effect on us not in
actually has a real effect on us not in
actually has a real effect on us not in this poetic or metaphoric way but it
this poetic or metaphoric way but it
this poetic or metaphoric way but it actually weighs us down research that
actually weighs us down research that
actually weighs us down research that they did show that when we are thinking
they did show that when we are thinking
they did show that when we are thinking about our secrets when holding them in
about our secrets when holding them in
about our secrets when holding them in will actually judge a hill to be steeper
will actually judge a hill to be steeper
will actually judge a hill to be steeper than it is or the distance between
than it is or the distance between
than it is or the distance between us and something to be further away than
us and something to be further away than
us and something to be further away than it actually is
it actually is
it actually is it’s real and perceptible and when we
it’s real and perceptible and when we
it’s real and perceptible and when we actually tell our stories or we unburden
actually tell our stories or we unburden
actually tell our stories or we unburden ourselves our judgments not only become
ourselves our judgments not only become
ourselves our judgments not only become more accurate they also become less
more accurate they also become less
more accurate they also become less negative other things are happening to
negative other things are happening to
negative other things are happening to us physically too when we tell our
us physically too when we tell our
us physically too when we tell our stories causally know and is a wonderful
stories causally know and is a wonderful
stories causally know and is a wonderful book the neuroscience of psychotherapy
book the neuroscience of psychotherapy
book the neuroscience of psychotherapy talks about how counselors are actually
talks about how counselors are actually
talks about how counselors are actually amygdala whispers they Migdal as a part
amygdala whispers they Migdal as a part
amygdala whispers they Migdal as a part of our brain it’s in our limbic system
of our brain it’s in our limbic system
of our brain it’s in our limbic system and it helps regulate things like
and it helps regulate things like
and it helps regulate things like emotions survival instinct really
emotions survival instinct really
emotions survival instinct really important stuff and he calls us amygdala
important stuff and he calls us amygdala
important stuff and he calls us amygdala whisperers because one of the things
whisperers because one of the things
whisperers because one of the things we’re trying to do is get clients to
we’re trying to do is get clients to
we’re trying to do is get clients to tell and retell their stories to develop
tell and retell their stories to develop
tell and retell their stories to develop new associations so if somebody had a
new associations so if somebody had a
new associations so if somebody had a really negative traumatic story in their
really negative traumatic story in their
really negative traumatic story in their life about something like intimacy that
life about something like intimacy that
life about something like intimacy that was fraught with trauma and abuse
was fraught with trauma and abuse
was fraught with trauma and abuse maybe retelling the story in new and
maybe retelling the story in new and
maybe retelling the story in new and novel ways will change the associations
novel ways will change the associations
novel ways will change the associations and change the meanings and if we’re
and change the meanings and if we’re
and change the meanings and if we’re able to get people to tell a story in a
able to get people to tell a story in a
able to get people to tell a story in a new way about their past we’re able to
new way about their past we’re able to
new way about their past we’re able to get them to think about new stories for
get them to think about new stories for
get them to think about new stories for their future new possibilities right
their future new possibilities right
their future new possibilities right when we tell our stories the left and
when we tell our stories the left and
when we tell our stories the left and the right brain actually integrate in a
the right brain actually integrate in a
the right brain actually integrate in a neurological way it’s a physical change
neurological way it’s a physical change
neurological way it’s a physical change so perceptually neurologically we have
so perceptually neurologically we have
so perceptually neurologically we have these physical changes that are
these physical changes that are
these physical changes that are occurring one of the other things that
occurring one of the other things that
occurring one of the other things that we’re seeing with storytelling is its
we’re seeing with storytelling is its
we’re seeing with storytelling is its effectiveness in terms of actually
effectiveness in terms of actually
effectiveness in terms of actually counseling and what I mean is we’re
counseling and what I mean is we’re
counseling and what I mean is we’re seeing means of storytelling that have
seeing means of storytelling that have
seeing means of storytelling that have only ever been normally reserved for
only ever been normally reserved for
only ever been normally reserved for professional storytellers used in
professional storytellers used in
professional storytellers used in counseling things like video things like
counseling things like video things like
counseling things like video things like filmmaking photography a photo voice
filmmaking photography a photo voice
filmmaking photography a photo voice where you take narratives almost like a
where you take narratives almost like a
where you take narratives almost like a podcast and put it over photos to tell a
podcast and put it over photos to tell a
podcast and put it over photos to tell a story about your life again in a new and
story about your life again in a new and
story about your life again in a new and novel way when we do this we’re actually
novel way when we do this we’re actually
novel way when we do this we’re actually reorganizing our brains and this is the
reorganizing our brains and this is the
reorganizing our brains and this is the whole goal goal of most psychotherapy
whole goal goal of most psychotherapy
whole goal goal of most psychotherapy the thing we used to do at the campfire
the thing we used to do at the campfire
the thing we used to do at the campfire tell a story about our lives is actually
tell a story about our lives is actually
tell a story about our lives is actually cutting edge psychotherapy now telling
cutting edge psychotherapy now telling
cutting edge psychotherapy now telling your story changes you okay telling your
your story changes you okay telling your
your story changes you okay telling your story also changes the listener my wife
story also changes the listener my wife
story also changes the listener my wife and I we’re both counselors and in fact
and I we’re both counselors and in fact
and I we’re both counselors and in fact there’s not been a time
there’s not been a time
there’s not been a time last ten years where one or both of us
last ten years where one or both of us
last ten years where one or both of us haven’t been counseling learning about
haven’t been counseling learning about
haven’t been counseling learning about counseling writing about counseling or
counseling writing about counseling or
counseling writing about counseling or teaching counseling so we’ve thought
teaching counseling so we’ve thought
teaching counseling so we’ve thought about this quite a bit and I am more
about this quite a bit and I am more
about this quite a bit and I am more than open to admit that before I was a
than open to admit that before I was a
than open to admit that before I was a member of the helping professions I was
member of the helping professions I was
member of the helping professions I was a horrible listener I was that like
a horrible listener I was that like
a horrible listener I was that like sleazeball person who looked you in the
sleazeball person who looked you in the
sleazeball person who looked you in the eye furrowed his brow acting like he was
eye furrowed his brow acting like he was
eye furrowed his brow acting like he was listening but the whole time I was just
listening but the whole time I was just
listening but the whole time I was just thinking about what I was gonna say next
thinking about what I was gonna say next
thinking about what I was gonna say next it’s a horrible way to live your life
it’s a horrible way to live your life
it’s a horrible way to live your life right you don’t actually retain anything
right you don’t actually retain anything
right you don’t actually retain anything it wasn’t until I got into the helping
it wasn’t until I got into the helping
it wasn’t until I got into the helping professions where I realized wait a
professions where I realized wait a
professions where I realized wait a second
second
second being there as that again professional
being there as that again professional
being there as that again professional secret keeper active listener witness as
secret keeper active listener witness as
secret keeper active listener witness as people give testimony about their lives
people give testimony about their lives
people give testimony about their lives people telling their stories for the
people telling their stories for the
people telling their stories for the first time difficult stories being there
first time difficult stories being there
first time difficult stories being there to witness that is really important
to witness that is really important
to witness that is really important worthwhile and helpful and I know I’m
worthwhile and helpful and I know I’m
worthwhile and helpful and I know I’m oversimplifying it there’s so much more
oversimplifying it there’s so much more
oversimplifying it there’s so much more to what happens in psychotherapy and
to what happens in psychotherapy and
to what happens in psychotherapy and counseling but that part’s really
counseling but that part’s really
counseling but that part’s really important and sometimes we lose sight of
important and sometimes we lose sight of
important and sometimes we lose sight of it we think that when we go to
it we think that when we go to
it we think that when we go to counseling as the client we’re there to
counseling as the client we’re there to
counseling as the client we’re there to be changed absolutely right you’re there
be changed absolutely right you’re there
be changed absolutely right you’re there to learn new things put new things in
to learn new things put new things in
to learn new things put new things in your backpack new skills whatever it
your backpack new skills whatever it
your backpack new skills whatever it might be but you’re not the only one
might be but you’re not the only one
might be but you’re not the only one being changed
being changed
being changed the client and the counselor are
the client and the counselor are
the client and the counselor are changing each other constantly through
changing each other constantly through
changing each other constantly through the use of storytelling so we have a
the use of storytelling so we have a
the use of storytelling so we have a goalpost of when somebody tells their
goalpost of when somebody tells their
goalpost of when somebody tells their story it changes them physically and
story it changes them physically and
story it changes them physically and emotionally it helps their mental health
emotionally it helps their mental health
emotionally it helps their mental health and their functioning when somebody
and their functioning when somebody
and their functioning when somebody hears their story and they’re open
hears their story and they’re open
hears their story and they’re open experience they hear it and feel an echo
experience they hear it and feel an echo
experience they hear it and feel an echo of somebody else’s experience it helps
of somebody else’s experience it helps
of somebody else’s experience it helps them and changes them so wouldn’t it
them and changes them so wouldn’t it
them and changes them so wouldn’t it posit that in these micro counseling
posit that in these micro counseling
posit that in these micro counseling examples of encouraging people to tell
examples of encouraging people to tell
examples of encouraging people to tell their story that change can happen at a
their story that change can happen at a
their story that change can happen at a community level and a world level
community level and a world level
community level and a world level through storytelling Marshall Ganz seems
through storytelling Marshall Ganz seems
through storytelling Marshall Ganz seems to think so Marshall is an incredible
to think so Marshall is an incredible
to think so Marshall is an incredible guy I’ve had a opportunity to work with
guy I’ve had a opportunity to work with
guy I’ve had a opportunity to work with him he endorsed two of my political
him he endorsed two of my political
him he endorsed two of my political campaigns recently took a course I took
campaigns recently took a course I took
campaigns recently took a course I took a course that he facilitates at a
a course that he facilitates at a
a course that he facilitates at a Harvard’s Kennedy School on the power of
Harvard’s Kennedy School on the power of
Harvard’s Kennedy School on the power of narrative and he has this idea about
narrative and he has this idea about
narrative and he has this idea about change making public narrative so in the
change making public narrative so in the
change making public narrative so in the same way that we have people tell their
same way that we have people tell their
same way that we have people tell their stories individually for change we can
stories individually for change we can
stories individually for change we can do it in a public way for the same goals
do it in a public way for the same goals
do it in a public way for the same goals and in the public narrative there’s
and in the public narrative there’s
and in the public narrative there’s three stories we tell the story of self
three stories we tell the story of self
three stories we tell the story of self the story of us and the story of now the
the story of us and the story of now the
the story of us and the story of now the story of self is the story about why you
story of self is the story about why you
story of self is the story about why you have been called to act what is it that
have been called to act what is it that
have been called to act what is it that happened to you and it’s never stats
happened to you and it’s never stats
happened to you and it’s never stats right stats can support our stories but
right stats can support our stories but
right stats can support our stories but stats don’t inspire people to act
stats don’t inspire people to act
stats don’t inspire people to act Marshall believes that stories teach us
Marshall believes that stories teach us
Marshall believes that stories teach us how to act but also can inspire us to
how to act but also can inspire us to
how to act but also can inspire us to act and the story of self is again that
act and the story of self is again that
act and the story of self is again that story that that you realize something’s
story that that you realize something’s
story that that you realize something’s a problem that needs to be solved
a problem that needs to be solved
a problem that needs to be solved because something happened to you where
because something happened to you where
because something happened to you where you witness something my story itself
you witness something my story itself
you witness something my story itself the reason I got involved in community
the reason I got involved in community
the reason I got involved in community of element in politics is because when I
of element in politics is because when I
of element in politics is because when I was little 10 years old I remember
was little 10 years old I remember
was little 10 years old I remember selling out selling out my values for a
selling out selling out my values for a
selling out selling out my values for a ride what I mean by that is I remember
ride what I mean by that is I remember
ride what I mean by that is I remember having at the age of 10 to broker rides
having at the age of 10 to broker rides
having at the age of 10 to broker rides between other parents I grew up on the
between other parents I grew up on the
between other parents I grew up on the system product of divorce my mother
system product of divorce my mother
system product of divorce my mother didn’t have a car and I was really
didn’t have a car and I was really
didn’t have a car and I was really ashamed not of those things my mom’s
ashamed not of those things my mom’s
ashamed not of those things my mom’s wonderful and there’s nothing wrong with
wonderful and there’s nothing wrong with
wonderful and there’s nothing wrong with being poor but of having to sell out in
being poor but of having to sell out in
being poor but of having to sell out in order to get involved in
order to get involved in
order to get involved in extracurriculars the thing we tell young
extracurriculars the thing we tell young
extracurriculars the thing we tell young people to do all the time because there
people to do all the time because there
people to do all the time because there was a lack of transit because there was
was a lack of transit because there was
was a lack of transit because there was a lack of a vehicle in my home I
a lack of a vehicle in my home I
a lack of a vehicle in my home I remember doing things like having to
remember doing things like having to
remember doing things like having to changing the names here but having to
changing the names here but having to
changing the names here but having to make friends with Jenny’s racist parents
make friends with Jenny’s racist parents
make friends with Jenny’s racist parents because they had a minivan and my friend
because they had a minivan and my friend
because they had a minivan and my friend Carl his parents were awesome but they
Carl his parents were awesome but they
Carl his parents were awesome but they had three kids and no room in their car
had three kids and no room in their car
had three kids and no room in their car in order to do things like get to a
in order to do things like get to a
in order to do things like get to a science fair right I’m selling my own
science fair right I’m selling my own
science fair right I’m selling my own values at a really young age when I was
values at a really young age when I was
values at a really young age when I was in high school and grade 9 I got into a
in high school and grade 9 I got into a
in high school and grade 9 I got into a school play and the only reason I was
school play and the only reason I was
school play and the only reason I was able to do the play was because the
able to do the play was because the
able to do the play was because the teacher Susan Dignan that name isn’t
teacher Susan Dignan that name isn’t
teacher Susan Dignan that name isn’t changed but because the teacher agreed
changed but because the teacher agreed
changed but because the teacher agreed to drive me home after every practice
to drive me home after every practice
to drive me home after every practice and every performance because we didn’t
and every performance because we didn’t
and every performance because we didn’t have transit at her school and I
have transit at her school and I
have transit at her school and I realized as this was happening trying to
realized as this was happening trying to
realized as this was happening trying to sell tickets to young people to come to
sell tickets to young people to come to
sell tickets to young people to come to dances and plays and things like that
dances and plays and things like that
dances and plays and things like that that there were other young people who
that there were other young people who
that there were other young people who because of lack of public transit
because of lack of public transit
because of lack of public transit weren’t able to participate in
weren’t able to participate in
weren’t able to participate in extracurriculars
extracurriculars
extracurriculars so we tried some band-aid solutions
so we tried some band-aid solutions
so we tried some band-aid solutions right movie nights free pizza trying to
right movie nights free pizza trying to
right movie nights free pizza trying to do some essentially what’s now I guess
do some essentially what’s now I guess
do some essentially what’s now I guess ride chairs but those were band-aids it
ride chairs but those were band-aids it
ride chairs but those were band-aids it wasn’t structural change and it wasn’t
wasn’t structural change and it wasn’t
wasn’t structural change and it wasn’t until we got people to sign a petition
until we got people to sign a petition
until we got people to sign a petition young people we got them to fill the
young people we got them to fill the
young people we got them to fill the city hall here in Brantford we had the
city hall here in Brantford we had the
city hall here in Brantford we had the newspaper write articles about what we
newspaper write articles about what we
newspaper write articles about what we did and
did and
did and about eight months later we had a bus
about eight months later we had a bus
about eight months later we had a bus route I learn at the age of fourteen
route I learn at the age of fourteen
route I learn at the age of fourteen you can fight City Hall and win and if
you can fight City Hall and win and if
you can fight City Hall and win and if you can do that at 14 you can do that at
you can do that at 14 you can do that at
you can do that at 14 you can do that at 40 you can do that at 50 any group of
40 you can do that at 50 any group of
40 you can do that at 50 any group of people can do that and it was a really
people can do that and it was a really
people can do that and it was a really important lesson to me and that’s my
important lesson to me and that’s my
important lesson to me and that’s my story of self at least one of them story
story of self at least one of them story
story of self at least one of them story of us is the story about our shared
of us is the story about our shared
of us is the story about our shared values and our shared experience the
values and our shared experience the
values and our shared experience the story of us is so important it’s you
story of us is so important it’s you
story of us is so important it’s you might have seen hints of it in my story
might have seen hints of it in my story
might have seen hints of it in my story of self right if other students are
of self right if other students are
of self right if other students are signing petition that’s a story of us
signing petition that’s a story of us
signing petition that’s a story of us but the story of us doesn’t have to be
but the story of us doesn’t have to be
but the story of us doesn’t have to be the exact same not everybody had my
the exact same not everybody had my
the exact same not everybody had my exact same situation but had similar
exact same situation but had similar
exact same situation but had similar situations so I’ll give you an example a
situations so I’ll give you an example a
situations so I’ll give you an example a few or a few of them anyway one example
few or a few of them anyway one example
few or a few of them anyway one example would be the student who had a car in
would be the student who had a car in
would be the student who had a car in their household but they had alcoholic
their household but they had alcoholic
their household but they had alcoholic parents and they don’t want them picking
parents and they don’t want them picking
parents and they don’t want them picking them up at ten o’clock after a dance
them up at ten o’clock after a dance
them up at ten o’clock after a dance being drunk and having to drive home
being drunk and having to drive home
being drunk and having to drive home with their drunk parents right I see
with their drunk parents right I see
with their drunk parents right I see some nods in the audience some other
some nods in the audience some other
some nods in the audience some other students older ones couldn’t accept
students older ones couldn’t accept
students older ones couldn’t accept co-op opportunities because there wasn’t
co-op opportunities because there wasn’t
co-op opportunities because there wasn’t any public transit they couldn’t accept
any public transit they couldn’t accept
any public transit they couldn’t accept an after-school job because by the time
an after-school job because by the time
an after-school job because by the time the school bus got them home and then
the school bus got them home and then
the school bus got them home and then they could get on a city bus they would
they could get on a city bus they would
they could get on a city bus they would have missed their shift so they had to
have missed their shift so they had to
have missed their shift so they had to say no to those opportunities still
say no to those opportunities still
say no to those opportunities still other people maybe they wanted to be
other people maybe they wanted to be
other people maybe they wanted to be involved in sports and not a play and
involved in sports and not a play and
involved in sports and not a play and they couldn’t because of this lack of
they couldn’t because of this lack of
they couldn’t because of this lack of transit so that story of us that’s the
transit so that story of us that’s the
transit so that story of us that’s the story of community and how it’s affected
story of community and how it’s affected
story of community and how it’s affected and then the story of now it’s a story
and then the story of now it’s a story
and then the story of now it’s a story of urgency that’s why the thing that we
of urgency that’s why the thing that we
of urgency that’s why the thing that we are trying to fight for can’t wait
are trying to fight for can’t wait
are trying to fight for can’t wait another two years and it can’t wait
another two years and it can’t wait
another two years and it can’t wait another 10 years it has to happen soon
another 10 years it has to happen soon
another 10 years it has to happen soon story of now is also the story of how
story of now is also the story of how
story of now is also the story of how you’re going to organize why you’re
you’re going to organize why you’re
you’re going to organize why you’re going to be successful why what you’re
going to be successful why what you’re
going to be successful why what you’re doing is right
so stats don’t do that stories do that
so stats don’t do that stories do that give you an example if you’ve ever heard
give you an example if you’ve ever heard
give you an example if you’ve ever heard a politician rattle on stats about
a politician rattle on stats about
a politician rattle on stats about indigenous underfunding of schools you
indigenous underfunding of schools you
indigenous underfunding of schools you may care about that issue you may
may care about that issue you may
may care about that issue you may sympathize with that issue but you’re
sympathize with that issue but you’re
sympathize with that issue but you’re not going to retain those statistics
not going to retain those statistics
not going to retain those statistics very long or very well if instead on top
very long or very well if instead on top
very long or very well if instead on top of the stats you hear somebody from a
of the stats you hear somebody from a
of the stats you hear somebody from a First Nations community and indigenous
First Nations community and indigenous
First Nations community and indigenous community talk about how they’ve never
community talk about how they’ve never
community talk about how they’ve never seen a school a real school in their
seen a school a real school in their
seen a school a real school in their lifetime because before they were born
lifetime because before they were born
lifetime because before they were born their school was condemned and they
their school was condemned and they
their school was condemned and they built portables on toxic land and fumes
built portables on toxic land and fumes
built portables on toxic land and fumes come in through the vents and through
come in through the vents and through
come in through the vents and through the windows and this causes young people
the windows and this causes young people
the windows and this causes young people to be violently ill at school and their
to be violently ill at school and their
to be violently ill at school and their parents and the kids themselves are both
parents and the kids themselves are both
parents and the kids themselves are both saying we can’t go to school anymore
saying we can’t go to school anymore
saying we can’t go to school anymore because it’s not a safe place to be and
because it’s not a safe place to be and
because it’s not a safe place to be and the reason this is happening is because
the reason this is happening is because
the reason this is happening is because of chronic underfunding of indigenous
of chronic underfunding of indigenous
of chronic underfunding of indigenous schools compared to their provincial
schools compared to their provincial
schools compared to their provincial counterparts you’re gonna remember that
counterparts you’re gonna remember that
counterparts you’re gonna remember that you’re gonna be called to act you’re
you’re gonna be called to act you’re
you’re gonna be called to act you’re gonna be able to transmit that story and
gonna be able to transmit that story and
gonna be able to transmit that story and share it with other people that’s what
share it with other people that’s what
share it with other people that’s what the kids who star the largest youth
the kids who star the largest youth
the kids who star the largest youth movement in Canadian history Shannon’s
movement in Canadian history Shannon’s
movement in Canadian history Shannon’s dream did they told their stories online
dream did they told their stories online
dream did they told their stories online on YouTube videos television in the
on YouTube videos television in the
on YouTube videos television in the media at Parliament Hill and at other
media at Parliament Hill and at other
media at Parliament Hill and at other schools they developed allies who then
schools they developed allies who then
schools they developed allies who then shared these stories as well and they’re
shared these stories as well and they’re
shared these stories as well and they’re demanding and getting structural change
demanding and getting structural change
demanding and getting structural change in the funding formulas they’re getting
in the funding formulas they’re getting
in the funding formulas they’re getting schools built in a way no politician no
schools built in a way no politician no
schools built in a way no politician no stats report and those Senate
stats report and those Senate
stats report and those Senate subcommittee has ever done that’s how it
subcommittee has ever done that’s how it
subcommittee has ever done that’s how it changes communities how does it change
changes communities how does it change
changes communities how does it change the world it’s pretty current right now
the world it’s pretty current right now
the world it’s pretty current right now but you just have to look at hashtag me
but you just have to look at hashtag me
but you just have to look at hashtag me too
too
too right men for a very long time have
right men for a very long time have
right men for a very long time have understood the stats about sexual abuse
understood the stats about sexual abuse
understood the stats about sexual abuse sexual harassment we’ve heard them we we
sexual harassment we’ve heard them we we
sexual harassment we’ve heard them we we understand in a way of thinking that
understand in a way of thinking that
understand in a way of thinking that this is a big problem but stats can be
this is a big problem but stats can be
this is a big problem but stats can be about someone else we don’t have to
about someone else we don’t have to
about someone else we don’t have to conceptualize them as about us and our
conceptualize them as about us and our
conceptualize them as about us and our friends and people around us so when you
friends and people around us so when you
friends and people around us so when you see a lot of stats saying that this is a
see a lot of stats saying that this is a
see a lot of stats saying that this is a prevalent common issue great maybe we
prevalent common issue great maybe we
prevalent common issue great maybe we should do something about that sometime
should do something about that sometime
should do something about that sometime and then some famous people start using
and then some famous people start using
and then some famous people start using the hashtag me too and telling their
the hashtag me too and telling their
the hashtag me too and telling their story and maybe you admire some of those
story and maybe you admire some of those
story and maybe you admire some of those people but still you know that’s a
people but still you know that’s a
people but still you know that’s a Hollywood problem I don’t have to look
Hollywood problem I don’t have to look
Hollywood problem I don’t have to look at my behavior because that’s you know
at my behavior because that’s you know
at my behavior because that’s you know famous people accept that process of
famous people accept that process of
famous people accept that process of story telling those stories of self
story telling those stories of self
story telling those stories of self start turning into the stories of us
start turning into the stories of us
start turning into the stories of us because other women start to think about
because other women start to think about
because other women start to think about it and whether they put a hash tag me
it and whether they put a hash tag me
it and whether they put a hash tag me too or just tell somebody about their
too or just tell somebody about their
too or just tell somebody about their story or express support for a story and
story or express support for a story and
story or express support for a story and other people’s stories the stories of
other people’s stories the stories of
other people’s stories the stories of self becoming stories of us build
self becoming stories of us build
self becoming stories of us build momentum and suddenly men are looking
momentum and suddenly men are looking
momentum and suddenly men are looking around going wait there’s a lot of
around going wait there’s a lot of
around going wait there’s a lot of people I know and a lot of people I love
people I know and a lot of people I love
people I know and a lot of people I love using this hashtag and telling their
using this hashtag and telling their
using this hashtag and telling their stories maybe I do have to examine my
stories maybe I do have to examine my
stories maybe I do have to examine my behavior maybe this is men like me or
behavior maybe this is men like me or
behavior maybe this is men like me or men I know myself included that are
men I know myself included that are
men I know myself included that are perpetuating this maybe it’s not six or
perpetuating this maybe it’s not six or
perpetuating this maybe it’s not six or six hundred guys I don’t know doing this
six hundred guys I don’t know doing this
six hundred guys I don’t know doing this because people I know and love are
because people I know and love are
because people I know and love are having this happen to them of my feed
having this happen to them of my feed
having this happen to them of my feed all my social media it’s disturbing now
all my social media it’s disturbing now
all my social media it’s disturbing now women have known this for a long time
women have known this for a long time
women have known this for a long time because they’ve been experiencing it and
because they’ve been experiencing it and
because they’ve been experiencing it and men are very late to this but I’m seeing
men are very late to this but I’m seeing
men are very late to this but I’m seeing the story of us turn into the story of
the story of us turn into the story of
the story of us turn into the story of now because I’m seeing men tell stories
now because I’m seeing men tell stories
now because I’m seeing men tell stories I’m seeing men tell stories about what
I’m seeing men tell stories about what
I’m seeing men tell stories about what they could have done better I’m seeing
they could have done better I’m seeing
they could have done better I’m seeing men tell stories about what they did and
men tell stories about what they did and
men tell stories about what they did and what they were doing and what they
what they were doing and what they
what they were doing and what they should do right rewriting narratives to
should do right rewriting narratives to
should do right rewriting narratives to change their own behavior we’re on the
change their own behavior we’re on the
change their own behavior we’re on the cusp of some change here and all of that
cusp of some change here and all of that
cusp of some change here and all of that happens because of stories none of it
happens because of stories none of it
happens because of stories none of it happens because of stats some brave
happens because of stats some brave
happens because of stats some brave people some brave people tell their
people some brave people tell their
people some brave people tell their story in a counseling session
story in a counseling session
story in a counseling session great some brave people to other stories
great some brave people to other stories
great some brave people to other stories to the public at large wonderful but
to the public at large wonderful but
to the public at large wonderful but stories change us when we tell them
stories change us when we tell them
stories change us when we tell them physically emotionally stories changes
physically emotionally stories changes
physically emotionally stories changes when we hear them they change major
when we hear them they change major
when we hear them they change major aspects of our personality they change
aspects of our personality they change
aspects of our personality they change our politics and stories change
our politics and stories change
our politics and stories change communities they get schools built and
communities they get schools built and
communities they get schools built and when enough people are listening indeed
when enough people are listening indeed
when enough people are listening indeed stories change the world thank you
stories change the world thank you
stories change the world thank you [Applause]
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