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Woman, The Mask and Beyond | Radhika Murali Iyer | TEDxYouth@TWSDubaiWomen


have you ever imagined that a single

have you ever imagined that a single letter can change a woman’s life well

letter can change a woman’s life well

letter can change a woman’s life well yes the transitional phase a woman

yes the transitional phase a woman

yes the transitional phase a woman experiences from miss to missus is

experiences from miss to missus is

experiences from miss to missus is merely by the addition of the letter R

merely by the addition of the letter R

merely by the addition of the letter R but in reality she experiences much more

but in reality she experiences much more

but in reality she experiences much more than just that addition of the letter

than just that addition of the letter

than just that addition of the letter good morning everyone my name is Rebecca

good morning everyone my name is Rebecca

good morning everyone my name is Rebecca a dynamic educator a caring mother

a dynamic educator a caring mother

a dynamic educator a caring mother sensitive voice and an amazing friend my

sensitive voice and an amazing friend my

sensitive voice and an amazing friend my topic today is women the masks and

topic today is women the masks and

topic today is women the masks and beyond with my share transitional phase

beyond with my share transitional phase

beyond with my share transitional phase of the experience from Miss to mrs. I

of the experience from Miss to mrs. I

of the experience from Miss to mrs. I derived that a letter R stands for

derived that a letter R stands for

derived that a letter R stands for restructuring resilience and realization

restructuring resilience and realization

restructuring resilience and realization I derived the word restructuring because

I derived the word restructuring because

I derived the word restructuring because I had restructured my life from being

I had restructured my life from being

I had restructured my life from being the daughter to my parents to becoming

the daughter to my parents to becoming

the daughter to my parents to becoming the daughter-in-law to my in-laws and

the daughter-in-law to my in-laws and

the daughter-in-law to my in-laws and within no time I realized that the

within no time I realized that the

within no time I realized that the dependent me has suddenly evolved as an

dependent me has suddenly evolved as an

dependent me has suddenly evolved as an independent working women caring mother

independent working women caring mother

independent working women caring mother and a sensitive wife at any given

and a sensitive wife at any given

and a sensitive wife at any given situation be it small or big I was able

situation be it small or big I was able

situation be it small or big I was able to restructure and more myself back to

to restructure and more myself back to

to restructure and more myself back to ordinality without getting drifted away

ordinality without getting drifted away

ordinality without getting drifted away from my roots I call this the resilient

from my roots I call this the resilient

from my roots I call this the resilient part of myself okay now the transitional

part of myself okay now the transitional

part of myself okay now the transitional phase from Miss Genesis also made me

phase from Miss Genesis also made me

phase from Miss Genesis also made me realize

realize

realize a very important aspect there was that I

a very important aspect there was that I

a very important aspect there was that I was not just married to my dear husband

was not just married to my dear husband

was not just married to my dear husband but I was also married to his family on

but I was also married to his family on

but I was also married to his family on one side I had my parents and on the

one side I had my parents and on the

one side I had my parents and on the other side I had my in-laws I was

other side I had my in-laws I was

other side I had my in-laws I was shuttling like a rubber ball from one

shuttling like a rubber ball from one

shuttling like a rubber ball from one end to another mind you it was a sheer

end to another mind you it was a sheer

end to another mind you it was a sheer ballgame and I wished that my business

ballgame and I wished that my business

ballgame and I wished that my business school would have taught me these

school would have taught me these

school would have taught me these techniques and strategies in order for

techniques and strategies in order for

techniques and strategies in order for me to win this ballgame but let me tell

me to win this ballgame but let me tell

me to win this ballgame but let me tell you one thing

you one thing

you one thing it was hard luck because I had to learn

it was hard luck because I had to learn

it was hard luck because I had to learn all these only through personal

all these only through personal

all these only through personal experiences who another very important

experiences who another very important

experiences who another very important aspect I wanted to share was

aspect I wanted to share was

aspect I wanted to share was expectations after I got married I

expectations after I got married I

expectations after I got married I thought felt everybody around me has

thought felt everybody around me has

thought felt everybody around me has high expectations of me beat my parents

high expectations of me beat my parents

high expectations of me beat my parents who expected that I should be a good

who expected that I should be a good

who expected that I should be a good daughter-in-law or being my husband who

daughter-in-law or being my husband who

daughter-in-law or being my husband who expected that I should be a good wife

expected that I should be a good wife

expected that I should be a good wife Oviatt my little daughter who expected

Oviatt my little daughter who expected

Oviatt my little daughter who expected and mind you is expecting me to be that

and mind you is expecting me to be that

and mind you is expecting me to be that fantastic mother fantastic I mean

fantastic mother fantastic I mean

fantastic mother fantastic I mean satisfying her needs and wants now in

satisfying her needs and wants now in

satisfying her needs and wants now in this process of satisfying everyone’s

this process of satisfying everyone’s

this process of satisfying everyone’s needs wants happiness and living up to

needs wants happiness and living up to

needs wants happiness and living up to their expectation I prominently started

their expectation I prominently started

their expectation I prominently started wearing masks and I realized that at no

wearing masks and I realized that at no

wearing masks and I realized that at no given situation I could act or react in

given situation I could act or react in

given situation I could act or react in the same manner I also realized that I

the same manner I also realized that I

the same manner I also realized that I were I was a different personality at

were I was a different personality at

were I was a different personality at any given situation whoo wow that’s a

any given situation whoo wow that’s a

any given situation whoo wow that’s a lot of personal experience to share

lot of personal experience to share

lot of personal experience to share isn’t it well let me also help you

isn’t it well let me also help you

isn’t it well let me also help you understand

understand

understand what am i speaking about mosques that

what am i speaking about mosques that

what am i speaking about mosques that women wear let’s go to the simple

women wear let’s go to the simple

women wear let’s go to the simple exercise I want you to imagine your

exercise I want you to imagine your

exercise I want you to imagine your ideal woman now you’ll be wondering who

ideal woman now you’ll be wondering who

ideal woman now you’ll be wondering who is this ideal woman now your ideal woman

is this ideal woman now your ideal woman

is this ideal woman now your ideal woman can be anyone or your mother your friend

can be anyone or your mother your friend

can be anyone or your mother your friend your sister your wife daughter anyone

your sister your wife daughter anyone

your sister your wife daughter anyone who is working who’s a homemaker or a

who is working who’s a homemaker or a

who is working who’s a homemaker or a working professional let’s look into the

working professional let’s look into the

working professional let’s look into the intricacies of her life mind you she is

intricacies of her life mind you she is

intricacies of her life mind you she is one of the best managers you have ever

one of the best managers you have ever

one of the best managers you have ever come across she’s a great time manager

come across she’s a great time manager

come across she’s a great time manager she works around the clock right from

she works around the clock right from

she works around the clock right from the alarm she sets to putting her

the alarm she sets to putting her

the alarm she sets to putting her children to school getting done with

children to school getting done with

children to school getting done with their homework and then putting them off

their homework and then putting them off

their homework and then putting them off to bed she does it all now in order for

to bed she does it all now in order for

to bed she does it all now in order for her to win this title of an excellent

her to win this title of an excellent

her to win this title of an excellent time manager she wears something that I

time manager she wears something that I

time manager she wears something that I call a promptness mask wearing the

call a promptness mask wearing the

call a promptness mask wearing the promptness mask enables her to do her

promptness mask enables her to do her

promptness mask enables her to do her job on time without any hassle also

job on time without any hassle also

job on time without any hassle also remember she is an excellent human

remember she is an excellent human

remember she is an excellent human resource manager right from recruiting

resource manager right from recruiting

resource manager right from recruiting her domestic health to recruiting her

her domestic health to recruiting her

her domestic health to recruiting her teens at work she knows the best

teens at work she knows the best

teens at work she knows the best management skills and has a wijl –nt

management skills and has a wijl –nt

management skills and has a wijl –nt eye on them now for her in order to win

eye on them now for her in order to win

eye on them now for her in order to win again this title of an excellent human

again this title of an excellent human

again this title of an excellent human resource manager she wears a people’s

resource manager she wears a people’s

resource manager she wears a people’s mask

mask

mask what is his people’s mask due to her the

what is his people’s mask due to her the

what is his people’s mask due to her the time she wears the people’s mask she is

time she wears the people’s mask she is

time she wears the people’s mask she is able to act

able to act

able to act with different people differently at

with different people differently at

with different people differently at every given situation if she has two

every given situation if she has two

every given situation if she has two recruits their domestic help she will

recruits their domestic help she will

recruits their domestic help she will make sure that she carefully analyzes

make sure that she carefully analyzes

make sure that she carefully analyzes and evaluates each of his or her skill

and evaluates each of his or her skill

and evaluates each of his or her skill set and experience after then only she

set and experience after then only she

set and experience after then only she would recruit him okay let me pose a

would recruit him okay let me pose a

would recruit him okay let me pose a question to you can you recollect at any

question to you can you recollect at any

question to you can you recollect at any situation where your ideal woman has

situation where your ideal woman has

situation where your ideal woman has restructured your life well many a times

restructured your life well many a times

restructured your life well many a times when we are going through those rough

when we are going through those rough

when we are going through those rough patches and when negativity completely

patches and when negativity completely

patches and when negativity completely engulfs us it is at that point when your

engulfs us it is at that point when your

engulfs us it is at that point when your ideal woman comes to the rescue with her

ideal woman comes to the rescue with her

ideal woman comes to the rescue with her sure positivity experience and skills

sure positivity experience and skills

sure positivity experience and skills she will make sure that she gets you

she will make sure that she gets you

she will make sure that she gets you back on track and it always amazes me as

back on track and it always amazes me as

back on track and it always amazes me as to how she does it with so much of ease

to how she does it with so much of ease

to how she does it with so much of ease also moving on she makes an excellent

also moving on she makes an excellent

also moving on she makes an excellent finance manager right from maintaining

finance manager right from maintaining

finance manager right from maintaining the house accounts to paying the bills

the house accounts to paying the bills

the house accounts to paying the bills to being her child school fees remember

to being her child school fees remember

to being her child school fees remember she’s sometimes also an active member in

she’s sometimes also an active member in

she’s sometimes also an active member in contributing to the finances of the

contributing to the finances of the

contributing to the finances of the family now for her in order to win again

family now for her in order to win again

family now for her in order to win again this title of an excellent Finance

this title of an excellent Finance

this title of an excellent Finance Manager she wears something I call a

Manager she wears something I call a

Manager she wears something I call a money mask what happens when she wears a

money mask what happens when she wears a

money mask what happens when she wears a money mask but she wears this money mask

money mask but she wears this money mask

money mask but she wears this money mask she will advise you on money management

she will advise you on money management

she will advise you on money management and she will nicely tell you that money

and she will nicely tell you that money

and she will nicely tell you that money is not everything in your life but money

is not everything in your life but money

is not everything in your life but money is important in your life and she will

is important in your life and she will

is important in your life and she will also control you when you become a

also control you when you become a

also control you when you become a spendthrift

spendthrift

spendthrift last but not the least the word

last but not the least the word

last but not the least the word resilience best suits her I’ll tell you

resilience best suits her I’ll tell you

resilience best suits her I’ll tell you why because she makes an excellent and a

why because she makes an excellent and a

why because she makes an excellent and a phenomenal crisis manager my Jew crisis

phenomenal crisis manager my Jew crisis

phenomenal crisis manager my Jew crisis management is her 14 at any given crisis

management is her 14 at any given crisis

management is her 14 at any given crisis situation beat her child throwing

situation beat her child throwing

situation beat her child throwing tantrums at her or her boss unexpectedly

tantrums at her or her boss unexpectedly

tantrums at her or her boss unexpectedly yelling at her she takes it all now for

yelling at her she takes it all now for

yelling at her she takes it all now for her to be that excellent crisis manager

her to be that excellent crisis manager

her to be that excellent crisis manager she wears a bold mask oh what’s the bold

she wears a bold mask oh what’s the bold

she wears a bold mask oh what’s the bold mask when she went the ball mask she

mask when she went the ball mask she

mask when she went the ball mask she gets the power of a superwoman and she

gets the power of a superwoman and she

gets the power of a superwoman and she does everything like a pro all right

does everything like a pro all right

does everything like a pro all right your ideal woman is also the central

your ideal woman is also the central

your ideal woman is also the central system of the society and the family she

system of the society and the family she

system of the society and the family she belongs she not only just cares for you

belongs she not only just cares for you

belongs she not only just cares for you but she cares for everybody around her

but she cares for everybody around her

but she cares for everybody around her what happens in this process she wears

what happens in this process she wears

what happens in this process she wears different kinds of masks on and off and

different kinds of masks on and off and

different kinds of masks on and off and she went them sometimes consciously and

she went them sometimes consciously and

she went them sometimes consciously and sometimes unconsciously what happens

sometimes unconsciously what happens

sometimes unconsciously what happens next when she wears these masks

next when she wears these masks

next when she wears these masks she doesn’t wear them because she wants

she doesn’t wear them because she wants

she doesn’t wear them because she wants to wear them but she wears them because

to wear them but she wears them because

to wear them but she wears them because she has to tackle and survive the

she has to tackle and survive the

she has to tackle and survive the hardship that come her way okay

hardship that come her way okay

hardship that come her way okay there are many many reasons of why your

there are many many reasons of why your

there are many many reasons of why your ideal woman actually wear these masks

ideal woman actually wear these masks

ideal woman actually wear these masks and this can vary considerably from

and this can vary considerably from

and this can vary considerably from person to person and it can also be

person to person and it can also be

person to person and it can also be negative and positive some of the

negative and positive some of the

negative and positive some of the reasons of why she wears these masks

reasons of why she wears these masks

reasons of why she wears these masks include to be socially

include to be socially

include to be socially light to hide her feelings to hide her

light to hide her feelings to hide her

light to hide her feelings to hide her emotions to hide her depression to hide

emotions to hide her depression to hide

emotions to hide her depression to hide her revenge to hide her anger and to

her revenge to hide her anger and to

her revenge to hide her anger and to hide many other feelings that she’s not

hide many other feelings that she’s not

hide many other feelings that she’s not able to tell you do you want to see how

able to tell you do you want to see how

able to tell you do you want to see how your ideal woman actually looks like

your ideal woman actually looks like

your ideal woman actually looks like behind those masks she wears well let’s

behind those masks she wears well let’s

behind those masks she wears well let’s unmask her then behind the promptness

unmask her then behind the promptness

unmask her then behind the promptness mask she wears you will see that your

mask she wears you will see that your

mask she wears you will see that your ideal woman is relaxed wants to take a

ideal woman is relaxed wants to take a

ideal woman is relaxed wants to take a day off from her office wants to take a

day off from her office wants to take a

day off from her office wants to take a day off from the kitchen and not be

day off from the kitchen and not be

day off from the kitchen and not be worried about time so she can also be

worried about time so she can also be

worried about time so she can also be relaxed behind the peoples masks

relaxed behind the peoples masks

relaxed behind the peoples masks she wears she is very what you call as

she wears she is very what you call as

she wears she is very what you call as very official very bold but she can also

very official very bold but she can also

very official very bold but she can also make mistakes

make mistakes

make mistakes at times in judging people she can also

at times in judging people she can also

at times in judging people she can also be a very important aspect in giving

be a very important aspect in giving

be a very important aspect in giving that entire light to you behind the

that entire light to you behind the

that entire light to you behind the money mask

money mask

money mask she wears you will also see that your

she wears you will also see that your

she wears you will also see that your ideal woman needs that little piece of

ideal woman needs that little piece of

ideal woman needs that little piece of her income for yours for herself

her income for yours for herself

her income for yours for herself you know maybe she wants to buy that

you know maybe she wants to buy that

you know maybe she wants to buy that dress that she always wanted to maybe

dress that she always wanted to maybe

dress that she always wanted to maybe she wanted to go for that holiday that

she wanted to go for that holiday that

she wanted to go for that holiday that she always wished or maybe she wanted to

she always wished or maybe she wanted to

she always wished or maybe she wanted to pursue her dream or her career that she

pursue her dream or her career that she

pursue her dream or her career that she could not do because of her

could not do because of her

could not do because of her responsibilities that she still moves on

responsibilities that she still moves on

responsibilities that she still moves on with her life and last but not the least

with her life and last but not the least

with her life and last but not the least behind the bold mask she wears

your ideal woman though she is very bold

your ideal woman though she is very bold she’s very strong she’s also soft from

she’s very strong she’s also soft from

she’s very strong she’s also soft from within

within

within she’s also somebody who feels a lot for

she’s also somebody who feels a lot for

she’s also somebody who feels a lot for everybody around her she sometimes gets

everybody around her she sometimes gets

everybody around her she sometimes gets dominated by her better half her

dominated by her better half her

dominated by her better half her colleagues or people around her she

colleagues or people around her she

colleagues or people around her she might be nervous for situations that may

might be nervous for situations that may

might be nervous for situations that may seem very pointless to you you may also

seem very pointless to you you may also

seem very pointless to you you may also see that sometimes she cries for no

see that sometimes she cries for no

see that sometimes she cries for no reason

reason

reason but that’s her that’s what makes her

but that’s her that’s what makes her

but that’s her that’s what makes her very special to everybody out there if

very special to everybody out there if

very special to everybody out there if you do not like what your idol woman

you do not like what your idol woman

you do not like what your idol woman says ask her if you do not agree with

says ask her if you do not agree with

says ask her if you do not agree with her

her

her discuss with her if you do not like what

discuss with her if you do not like what

discuss with her if you do not like what she does say to her politely but don’t

she does say to her politely but don’t

she does say to her politely but don’t judge her silently thank you

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