how many of you by a show of hands are really excited about finishing high
really excited about finishing high
really excited about finishing high school and moving on to college to
school and moving on to college to
school and moving on to college to moving on to all the freedom that that
moving on to all the freedom that that
moving on to all the freedom that that represents to do what you want when you
represents to do what you want when you
represents to do what you want when you want with who you want to have your own
want with who you want to have your own
want with who you want to have your own voice and make your own choices I
thought a lot about that during my
thought a lot about that during my senior year I often said when I have my
senior year I often said when I have my
senior year I often said when I have my diploma I’ll be an adult I’ll be able to
diploma I’ll be an adult I’ll be able to
diploma I’ll be an adult I’ll be able to date who I want wear what I want and do
date who I want wear what I want and do
date who I want wear what I want and do whatever I want I’ll be free you see
whatever I want I’ll be free you see
whatever I want I’ll be free you see high school was tough I’m sure it is for
high school was tough I’m sure it is for
high school was tough I’m sure it is for many of you you might be dealing with
many of you you might be dealing with
many of you you might be dealing with social troubles parental growing pains
remember waiting for that final bell to
remember waiting for that final bell to ring to shake the principal’s hand for
ring to shake the principal’s hand for
ring to shake the principal’s hand for the senior party to end I couldn’t wait
the senior party to end I couldn’t wait
the senior party to end I couldn’t wait for graduation night because the next
for graduation night because the next
for graduation night because the next day I was moving I had everything I own
day I was moving I had everything I own
day I was moving I had everything I own packed up and stuffed into my tutu our
packed up and stuffed into my tutu our
packed up and stuffed into my tutu our Chevy all in anticipation of tomorrow
and I remember thinking my life is about
and I remember thinking my life is about to begin
to begin
to begin you see my parents and I went head to
you see my parents and I went head to
you see my parents and I went head to head in disagreements my senior year
head in disagreements my senior year
head in disagreements my senior year over my high school boyfriend so often
over my high school boyfriend so often
over my high school boyfriend so often and so much that I felt like I spent
and so much that I felt like I spent
and so much that I felt like I spent most of the year grounded or in a
most of the year grounded or in a
most of the year grounded or in a conflict or recovering from our last
conflict or recovering from our last
conflict or recovering from our last argument it escalated to the point I
argument it escalated to the point I
argument it escalated to the point I spent the rest of the year living with
spent the rest of the year living with
spent the rest of the year living with my grandmother
my grandmother
my grandmother now that should have been a saving grace
now that should have been a saving grace
now that should have been a saving grace but the reality is is that every day
but the reality is is that every day
but the reality is is that every day when I finished my homework
when I finished my homework
when I finished my homework she would come here to work doing manual
she would come here to work doing manual
she would come here to work doing manual labor so neither environment exactly had
labor so neither environment exactly had
labor so neither environment exactly had the independence that I was seeking
the independence that I was seeking
the independence that I was seeking doing the pendants that I was sure all
doing the pendants that I was sure all
doing the pendants that I was sure all of my friends had right so the idea of
of my friends had right so the idea of
of my friends had right so the idea of freedom in college was something
freedom in college was something
freedom in college was something meant everything to me and even though I
meant everything to me and even though I
meant everything to me and even though I was only moving one hour away from my
was only moving one hour away from my
was only moving one hour away from my parents
parents
parents as far as freedom I could have been
as far as freedom I could have been
as far as freedom I could have been crossing an ocean and I vowed that
crossing an ocean and I vowed that
crossing an ocean and I vowed that everything would be different and guess
everything would be different and guess
everything would be different and guess what I didn’t get the perfect job or the
what I didn’t get the perfect job or the
what I didn’t get the perfect job or the perfect roommate or straight A’s all
perfect roommate or straight A’s all
perfect roommate or straight A’s all year and because my idea of how freshman
year and because my idea of how freshman
year and because my idea of how freshman year would play out didn’t happen
year would play out didn’t happen
year would play out didn’t happen exactly as I dreamed it would I was
exactly as I dreamed it would I was
exactly as I dreamed it would I was disappointed I felt like I had let
disappointed I felt like I had let
disappointed I felt like I had let myself down high school how often do we
myself down high school how often do we
myself down high school how often do we do that do we say when I have this that
do that do we say when I have this that
do that do we say when I have this that I can do that and I’ll be this when I
I can do that and I’ll be this when I
I can do that and I’ll be this when I have my diploma oh how the independence
have my diploma oh how the independence
have my diploma oh how the independence to make my own decisions and I’ll be
to make my own decisions and I’ll be
to make my own decisions and I’ll be free when I win that award all the
free when I win that award all the
free when I win that award all the confidence to stand up for what I
confidence to stand up for what I
confidence to stand up for what I believe in I’ll be brave sometimes I got
believe in I’ll be brave sometimes I got
believe in I’ll be brave sometimes I got all of those things but you know what it
all of those things but you know what it
all of those things but you know what it never quite felt exactly like I expected
never quite felt exactly like I expected
never quite felt exactly like I expected it would
it would
it would salesperson of the year my article
salesperson of the year my article
salesperson of the year my article published that promotion at work but
published that promotion at work but
published that promotion at work but that elusive feeling of accomplishment
that elusive feeling of accomplishment
that elusive feeling of accomplishment that I was looking for I just never felt
that I was looking for I just never felt
that I was looking for I just never felt it or if I did it was short-lived so I’d
it or if I did it was short-lived so I’d
it or if I did it was short-lived so I’d make another goal those are my goal
make another goal those are my goal
make another goal those are my goal boards I would make another vision board
boards I would make another vision board
boards I would make another vision board I would make something else that I
I would make something else that I
I would make something else that I needed to obtain or achieve to feel
needed to obtain or achieve to feel
needed to obtain or achieve to feel whole and I constantly was doing this
whole and I constantly was doing this
whole and I constantly was doing this over and over and over again until
over and over and over again until
over and over and over again until finally nearly 20 years after graduating
finally nearly 20 years after graduating
finally nearly 20 years after graduating high school it’s true I finally
high school it’s true I finally
high school it’s true I finally uncovered the secret to really having it
uncovered the secret to really having it
uncovered the secret to really having it all to finally having my own finger on
all to finally having my own finger on
all to finally having my own finger on the pulse of the thermostat of my own
the pulse of the thermostat of my own
the pulse of the thermostat of my own fulfillment so how many of you would be
fulfillment so how many of you would be
fulfillment so how many of you would be interested in saving 20 years and I
interested in saving 20 years and I
interested in saving 20 years and I begin a lot faster to all the joy that
begin a lot faster to all the joy that
begin a lot faster to all the joy that life can offer you to understand the
life can offer you to understand the
life can offer you to understand the impact of living in the now and not
impact of living in the now and not
impact of living in the now and not time-wasting fantasizing about what has
time-wasting fantasizing about what has
time-wasting fantasizing about what has yet to come
yet to come
yet to come so uncross your legs put your feet on
so uncross your legs put your feet on
so uncross your legs put your feet on the ground put your palms facing up in
the ground put your palms facing up in
the ground put your palms facing up in your lap and close your eyes take a deep
your lap and close your eyes take a deep
your lap and close your eyes take a deep breath visualize all of the things that
breath visualize all of the things that
breath visualize all of the things that you’ve ever wanted the things that
you’ve ever wanted the things that
you’ve ever wanted the things that you’ve saved on Instagram that you’ve
you’ve saved on Instagram that you’ve
you’ve saved on Instagram that you’ve pinned on Pinterest they’ve put on a
pinned on Pinterest they’ve put on a
pinned on Pinterest they’ve put on a vision board those things that you’ve
vision board those things that you’ve
vision board those things that you’ve put into a sentence like when I have
put into a sentence like when I have
put into a sentence like when I have this I will or I can maybe it’s the car
this I will or I can maybe it’s the car
this I will or I can maybe it’s the car the relationship the vacation maybe it’s
the relationship the vacation maybe it’s
the relationship the vacation maybe it’s that full ride to the College of your
that full ride to the College of your
that full ride to the College of your choice or the lead in the school play
choice or the lead in the school play
choice or the lead in the school play now imagine that you have it that goal
now imagine that you have it that goal
now imagine that you have it that goal that you wanted so badly you’ve obtained
that you wanted so badly you’ve obtained
that you wanted so badly you’ve obtained how does it feel and what can you do
how does it feel and what can you do
how does it feel and what can you do once you’ve achieved it
once you’ve achieved it
once you’ve achieved it imagine yourself flying down the freeway
imagine yourself flying down the freeway
imagine yourself flying down the freeway the music blaring your new car your
the music blaring your new car your
the music blaring your new car your friends in the back laughing that
friends in the back laughing that
friends in the back laughing that feeling of freedom or that full ride
imagine not suffocating out of stress of
imagine not suffocating out of stress of waiting for college acceptance letters
waiting for college acceptance letters
waiting for college acceptance letters not worrying about your parents taking
not worrying about your parents taking
not worrying about your parents taking on extra debt paying for your tuition
on extra debt paying for your tuition
on extra debt paying for your tuition and expenses and books the ability to be
and expenses and books the ability to be
and expenses and books the ability to be able to spend your senior year and
able to spend your senior year and
able to spend your senior year and college just focus on your academics so
college just focus on your academics so
college just focus on your academics so now that you have all of those things
now that you have all of those things
now that you have all of those things that you’ve wanted and that you’re able
that you’ve wanted and that you’re able
that you’ve wanted and that you’re able to do all the things you’ve always
to do all the things you’ve always
to do all the things you’ve always wanted to do what will that allow you to
wanted to do what will that allow you to
wanted to do what will that allow you to be will you be more confident as you
be will you be more confident as you
be will you be more confident as you walk down the hallways as a school play
walk down the hallways as a school play
walk down the hallways as a school play lead will you hold your head high will
lead will you hold your head high will
lead will you hold your head high will you start to volunteer because it feels
you start to volunteer because it feels
you start to volunteer because it feels so good
so good
so good and not because you’re trying to fill
and not because you’re trying to fill
and not because you’re trying to fill out a line on your college application
out a line on your college application
out a line on your college application now open your eyes
generous grateful happy abundant what
generous grateful happy abundant what were you allowed to be when you had
were you allowed to be when you had
were you allowed to be when you had everything and were able to do
everything and were able to do
everything and were able to do everything that you’d ever dreamed of
everything that you’d ever dreamed of
everything that you’d ever dreamed of now what’s stopping you from being more
now what’s stopping you from being more
now what’s stopping you from being more of that right now for being happier
of that right now for being happier
of that right now for being happier healthier more abundant more generous
healthier more abundant more generous
healthier more abundant more generous it’s not a physical thing it’s not a
it’s not a physical thing it’s not a
it’s not a physical thing it’s not a relationship it’s not an accomplishment
imagine what it would feel like to walk
imagine what it would feel like to walk out of your house tomorrow as that
out of your house tomorrow as that
out of your house tomorrow as that person how would your habits change what
person how would your habits change what
person how would your habits change what would it feel like to become that and
would it feel like to become that and
would it feel like to become that and what’s stopping you it’s just a choice
what’s stopping you it’s just a choice
what’s stopping you it’s just a choice you see the real secret is not about
you see the real secret is not about
you see the real secret is not about having it all in fact it’s not about
having it all in fact it’s not about
having it all in fact it’s not about having at all the secret to having it
having at all the secret to having it
having at all the secret to having it all is believing that you already do or
all is believing that you already do or
all is believing that you already do or be living you see you must be in a B
be living you see you must be in a B
be living you see you must be in a B state not a do state so that everything
state not a do state so that everything
state not a do state so that everything that you’ve ever wanted can come with so
that you’ve ever wanted can come with so
that you’ve ever wanted can come with so much more flow and ease after all when
much more flow and ease after all when
much more flow and ease after all when you’re in a do state you should do this
you’re in a do state you should do this
you’re in a do state you should do this and you should do that you should stop
and you should do that you should stop
and you should do that you should stop shooting all over yourself
after all you are human beings not human
after all you are human beings not human doings so the secret that I learned is
doings so the secret that I learned is
doings so the secret that I learned is be do half now there have been times in
be do half now there have been times in
be do half now there have been times in my life that I’ve struggled eight years
my life that I’ve struggled eight years
my life that I’ve struggled eight years ago I lost everything my life hit rock
ago I lost everything my life hit rock
ago I lost everything my life hit rock bottom during the recession I lost my
bottom during the recession I lost my
bottom during the recession I lost my income my home my savings my peace of
income my home my savings my peace of
income my home my savings my peace of mind and my boyfriend was fighting stage
mind and my boyfriend was fighting stage
mind and my boyfriend was fighting stage for cancer and as I sat in the hospital
for cancer and as I sat in the hospital
for cancer and as I sat in the hospital room next to his bed I was afraid to
room next to his bed I was afraid to
room next to his bed I was afraid to leave for fear that his health would
leave for fear that his health would
leave for fear that his health would take a turn for the worst and yet I was
take a turn for the worst and yet I was
take a turn for the worst and yet I was worried about my job that if I took more
worried about my job that if I took more
worried about my job that if I took more time off work I’d be at risk of losing
time off work I’d be at risk of losing
time off work I’d be at risk of losing it happiness should have been far away
it happiness should have been far away
it happiness should have been far away but surprisingly I had moments of
but surprisingly I had moments of
but surprisingly I had moments of intense joy of laughter of fun I wasn’t
intense joy of laughter of fun I wasn’t
intense joy of laughter of fun I wasn’t thinking about my overdrawn bank account
thinking about my overdrawn bank account
thinking about my overdrawn bank account or worrying about my job I was focusing
or worrying about my job I was focusing
or worrying about my job I was focusing on the moment on just being in the
on the moment on just being in the
on the moment on just being in the moment it was the only thing that
moment it was the only thing that
moment it was the only thing that mattered to wring out every bit of life
mattered to wring out every bit of life
mattered to wring out every bit of life because the future was entirely
because the future was entirely
because the future was entirely uncertain and beyond the sanctuary of
uncertain and beyond the sanctuary of
uncertain and beyond the sanctuary of those hospital walls I was living in the
those hospital walls I was living in the
those hospital walls I was living in the real world where I was full of extreme
real world where I was full of extreme
real world where I was full of extreme anxiety and stress and fear and I set my
anxiety and stress and fear and I set my
anxiety and stress and fear and I set my sights for better days and I vowed to
sights for better days and I vowed to
sights for better days and I vowed to myself that when I got back on my feet I
myself that when I got back on my feet I
myself that when I got back on my feet I would never forget what it felt like to
would never forget what it felt like to
would never forget what it felt like to be so out of control and so helpless and
be so out of control and so helpless and
be so out of control and so helpless and I vowed that I would give generously to
I vowed that I would give generously to
I vowed that I would give generously to those that were struggling not with a
those that were struggling not with a
those that were struggling not with a handout but with a hand up so for years
handout but with a hand up so for years
handout but with a hand up so for years I would tell myself when I have a
I would tell myself when I have a
I would tell myself when I have a certain income it will allow me to give
certain income it will allow me to give
certain income it will allow me to give generously
generously
generously but I constantly felt like I was working
but I constantly felt like I was working
but I constantly felt like I was working so hard and yet I was on this hamster
so hard and yet I was on this hamster
so hard and yet I was on this hamster wheel where I just wasn’t there yet that
wheel where I just wasn’t there yet that
wheel where I just wasn’t there yet that generous self was just out of reach
generous self was just out of reach
generous self was just out of reach until a day that I got really tired of
until a day that I got really tired of
until a day that I got really tired of the unfulfilled manat being that person
the unfulfilled manat being that person
the unfulfilled manat being that person I wanted to be and I changed my mindset
I wanted to be and I changed my mindset
I wanted to be and I changed my mindset and I started asking how can I be more
and I started asking how can I be more
and I started asking how can I be more impactful how can I be more generous now
impactful how can I be more generous now
impactful how can I be more generous now today in what I do and what I say and
today in what I do and what I say and
today in what I do and what I say and then what I give so I started to give
then what I give so I started to give
then what I give so I started to give weekly it didn’t matter what I had or
weekly it didn’t matter what I had or
weekly it didn’t matter what I had or how little I was able to give because I
how little I was able to give because I
how little I was able to give because I was operating in the B mindset of
was operating in the B mindset of
was operating in the B mindset of generosity and by being in the B I was
generosity and by being in the B I was
generosity and by being in the B I was able to do what I wanted which was to
able to do what I wanted which was to
able to do what I wanted which was to give so a few months ago I heard a story
give so a few months ago I heard a story
give so a few months ago I heard a story of this young teenage girl in the foster
of this young teenage girl in the foster
of this young teenage girl in the foster system
system
system with a two-year-old boy of her own and
with a two-year-old boy of her own and
with a two-year-old boy of her own and she was getting on a bus every morning
she was getting on a bus every morning
she was getting on a bus every morning at 6:00 a.m. with her toddler in tow
at 6:00 a.m. with her toddler in tow
at 6:00 a.m. with her toddler in tow taking that bus an hour each way back
taking that bus an hour each way back
taking that bus an hour each way back and forth to school in order to earn her
and forth to school in order to earn her
and forth to school in order to earn her diploma and there was no one to help her
diploma and there was no one to help her
diploma and there was no one to help her no family helped her realize those
no family helped her realize those
no family helped her realize those dreams she had of being a nurse a few
dreams she had of being a nurse a few
dreams she had of being a nurse a few years ago that story would have really
years ago that story would have really
years ago that story would have really spoken to me and I would have said oh
spoken to me and I would have said oh
spoken to me and I would have said oh gosh I would love to help I might have
gosh I would love to help I might have
gosh I would love to help I might have even found a way to give a hundred
even found a way to give a hundred
even found a way to give a hundred dollars but not in the mindset I have
dollars but not in the mindset I have
dollars but not in the mindset I have today so I ask myself what can I do
today so I ask myself what can I do
today so I ask myself what can I do today that is the most impactful how can
today that is the most impactful how can
today that is the most impactful how can I be my most generous and the answer was
I be my most generous and the answer was
I be my most generous and the answer was easy just a gift her a car
easy just a gift her a car
easy just a gift her a car so I took my vision to Facebook and I
so I took my vision to Facebook and I
so I took my vision to Facebook and I shared with some friends and several of
shared with some friends and several of
shared with some friends and several of them donated and we raised a few
them donated and we raised a few
them donated and we raised a few thousand dollars and I reached out to a
thousand dollars and I reached out to a
thousand dollars and I reached out to a friend who was a trusted mechanic and he
friend who was a trusted mechanic and he
friend who was a trusted mechanic and he helped me look for cars and two weeks
helped me look for cars and two weeks
helped me look for cars and two weeks later I had the honor of hand delivering
later I had the honor of hand delivering
later I had the honor of hand delivering that car today a young woman and when
that car today a young woman and when
that car today a young woman and when she thanked us she said I never knew
she thanked us she said I never knew
she thanked us she said I never knew that strangers would do something like
that strangers would do something like
that strangers would do something like this for me and so with that act of
this for me and so with that act of
this for me and so with that act of generosity we were able to show her a
generosity we were able to show her a
generosity we were able to show her a different
different
different world and the one she knew you see what
world and the one she knew you see what
world and the one she knew you see what I got out of it was a feeling of impact
I got out of it was a feeling of impact
I got out of it was a feeling of impact of happiness and I’ve got out of it a
of happiness and I’ve got out of it a
of happiness and I’ve got out of it a will to live to give because being in a
will to live to give because being in a
will to live to give because being in a generous state made it easy so stop
generous state made it easy so stop
generous state made it easy so stop working on the to have list and the
working on the to have list and the
working on the to have list and the to-do list because they are never going
to-do list because they are never going
to-do list because they are never going to end today’s homework is to create a
to end today’s homework is to create a
to end today’s homework is to create a to be list and you’re going to go home
to be list and you’re going to go home
to be list and you’re going to go home and write down what are all the things
and write down what are all the things
and write down what are all the things that you want to be define them be clear
that you want to be define them be clear
that you want to be define them be clear about what they are if you want to be
about what they are if you want to be
about what they are if you want to be happier do things that resonate with
happier do things that resonate with
happier do things that resonate with happiness if you want to be generous
happiness if you want to be generous
happiness if you want to be generous give of yourself if you want to be
give of yourself if you want to be
give of yourself if you want to be helpful help someone in need and you’re
helpful help someone in need and you’re
helpful help someone in need and you’re gonna face challenges and when you do
gonna face challenges and when you do
gonna face challenges and when you do think about the you five or ten years
think about the you five or ten years
think about the you five or ten years from now and what they would do the you
from now and what they would do the you
from now and what they would do the you that has heard that is impactful that is
that has heard that is impactful that is
that has heard that is impactful that is confident the you that every day makes a
confident the you that every day makes a
confident the you that every day makes a conscious choice to give their best over
conscious choice to give their best over
conscious choice to give their best over and over not perfectly but in a way that
and over not perfectly but in a way that
and over not perfectly but in a way that constantly moves you forward because
constantly moves you forward because
constantly moves you forward because what is this all about how do you be in
what is this all about how do you be in
what is this all about how do you be in a B state you just decide you decide and
a B state you just decide you decide and
a B state you just decide you decide and what is life
what is life
what is life it’s years and days and moments you
it’s years and days and moments you
it’s years and days and moments you decide the moment that creates the day
decide the moment that creates the day
decide the moment that creates the day you decide the day that creates the year
you decide the day that creates the year
you decide the day that creates the year and the years that create the life so
and the years that create the life so
and the years that create the life so you are challenged something that’s that
you are challenged something that’s that
you are challenged something that’s that Seth Godin said is sure it’s been done
Seth Godin said is sure it’s been done
Seth Godin said is sure it’s been done before but not by you and not for us
before but not by you and not for us
before but not by you and not for us other people can have what you have they
other people can have what you have they
other people can have what you have they can do what you do
can do what you do
can do what you do but they can never be you so focus on
but they can never be you so focus on
but they can never be you so focus on the B on being uniquely you and when you
the B on being uniquely you and when you
the B on being uniquely you and when you leave this room today you have a choice
leave this room today you have a choice
leave this room today you have a choice you have a voice so just be you
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