here’s a question for you how do you get 16 million Direct Mail line descendants
16 million Direct Mail line descendants
16 million Direct Mail line descendants jenga’s can’t might have how I know what
jenga’s can’t might have how I know what
jenga’s can’t might have how I know what you’re thinking not that my explanation
you’re thinking not that my explanation
you’re thinking not that my explanation is male sexual jealousy so what is
is male sexual jealousy so what is
is male sexual jealousy so what is jealousy jealous is a basic aversive
jealousy jealous is a basic aversive
jealousy jealous is a basic aversive emotion that motivates us to protect our
emotion that motivates us to protect our
emotion that motivates us to protect our relationship from breakup and infidelity
relationship from breakup and infidelity
relationship from breakup and infidelity jealousy motivates mate guarding
jealousy motivates mate guarding
jealousy motivates mate guarding vigilance and mate retention tactics
vigilance and mate retention tactics
vigilance and mate retention tactics jealousy is painful
jealousy is painful
jealousy is painful it’s a dangerous emotion it makes us
it’s a dangerous emotion it makes us
it’s a dangerous emotion it makes us possessive and it makes us violent but
possessive and it makes us violent but
possessive and it makes us violent but without jealousy we wouldn’t have pair
without jealousy we wouldn’t have pair
without jealousy we wouldn’t have pair bonding or love so how did we humans
bonding or love so how did we humans
bonding or love so how did we humans become able to be jealous before we get
become able to be jealous before we get
become able to be jealous before we get on with the sciency bits jealousy was
on with the sciency bits jealousy was
on with the sciency bits jealousy was evident in our culture literature and
evident in our culture literature and
evident in our culture literature and legal practices long before we knew
legal practices long before we knew
legal practices long before we knew anything about evolution or genetics
anything about evolution or genetics
anything about evolution or genetics long before we had the rudiments of a
long before we had the rudiments of a
long before we had the rudiments of a basic science of emotions Shakespeare
basic science of emotions Shakespeare
basic science of emotions Shakespeare wrote about the green-eyed monster in
wrote about the green-eyed monster in
wrote about the green-eyed monster in the bards play a fellow he tells us the
the bards play a fellow he tells us the
the bards play a fellow he tells us the story of how the king was tormented by
story of how the king was tormented by
story of how the king was tormented by the belief that his wife was being
the belief that his wife was being
the belief that his wife was being unfaithful the king was driven mad by
unfaithful the king was driven mad by
unfaithful the king was driven mad by yah gos lies and mushy Nations consider
yah gos lies and mushy Nations consider
yah gos lies and mushy Nations consider how we all interested in whether or not
how we all interested in whether or not
how we all interested in whether or not it’s true consider how we all understand
it’s true consider how we all understand
it’s true consider how we all understand how tormented the king is jenga’s Khan
how tormented the king is jenga’s Khan
how tormented the king is jenga’s Khan and his male line family members have 16
and his male line family members have 16
and his male line family members have 16 million male-line descendants along the
million male-line descendants along the
million male-line descendants along the Silk Road my explanation is this is due
Silk Road my explanation is this is due
Silk Road my explanation is this is due to male sexual jealousy how wealth and
to male sexual jealousy how wealth and
to male sexual jealousy how wealth and power have to follow genes through
power have to follow genes through
power have to follow genes through history for such success the khan’s
history for such success the khan’s
history for such success the khan’s genetic influence today is only possible
genetic influence today is only possible
genetic influence today is only possible due to cultural practices such as
due to cultural practices such as
due to cultural practices such as nepotism so
nepotism so
nepotism so accession of power and transference of
accession of power and transference of
accession of power and transference of wealth but you need to secure genetic
wealth but you need to secure genetic
wealth but you need to secure genetic bloodlines too so what does this have to
bloodlines too so what does this have to
bloodlines too so what does this have to do with jealousy isn’t it obvious what
do with jealousy isn’t it obvious what
do with jealousy isn’t it obvious what motivates secure genetic bloodlines the
motivates secure genetic bloodlines the
motivates secure genetic bloodlines the important questions are where does the
important questions are where does the
important questions are where does the interest in who’s the father come from
interest in who’s the father come from
interest in who’s the father come from where does the fear of being cuckolded
where does the fear of being cuckolded
where does the fear of being cuckolded that is raising another man’s child why
that is raising another man’s child why
that is raising another man’s child why is that a human Universal remember
is that a human Universal remember
is that a human Universal remember jenga’s and Shakespeare knew nothing of
jenga’s and Shakespeare knew nothing of
jenga’s and Shakespeare knew nothing of evolution or genetics they couldn’t even
evolution or genetics they couldn’t even
evolution or genetics they couldn’t even learn through the lifespan that
learn through the lifespan that
learn through the lifespan that kubinka coulded is a problem because
kubinka coulded is a problem because
kubinka coulded is a problem because it’s only a problem from a selection
it’s only a problem from a selection
it’s only a problem from a selection perspective think of it there is no pain
perspective think of it there is no pain
perspective think of it there is no pain involved in being cuckolded there is no
involved in being cuckolded there is no
involved in being cuckolded there is no way of learning the consequences of not
way of learning the consequences of not
way of learning the consequences of not being the father through the lifespan or
being the father through the lifespan or
being the father through the lifespan or through conditioning the only answer is
through conditioning the only answer is
through conditioning the only answer is selection now let’s be a little
selection now let’s be a little
selection now let’s be a little provocative and get your emotions online
provocative and get your emotions online
provocative and get your emotions online first ladies imagine that your boyfriend
first ladies imagine that your boyfriend
first ladies imagine that your boyfriend bought you jewelry for Christmas and the
bought you jewelry for Christmas and the
bought you jewelry for Christmas and the slightly more expensive piece for his
slightly more expensive piece for his
slightly more expensive piece for his closest collaborator at work she really
closest collaborator at work she really
closest collaborator at work she really deserves it he claims without her close
deserves it he claims without her close
deserves it he claims without her close collaboration friendship and emotional
collaboration friendship and emotional
collaboration friendship and emotional support he would not have survived the
support he would not have survived the
support he would not have survived the autumn they’re not having sex I know
autumn they’re not having sex I know
autumn they’re not having sex I know this us the omniscient narrator of the
this us the omniscient narrator of the
this us the omniscient narrator of the story
story
story is it okay what makes you get may she
is it okay what makes you get may she
is it okay what makes you get may she even get anything next gentleman imagine
even get anything next gentleman imagine
even get anything next gentleman imagine your girlfriend got drunk at a party in
your girlfriend got drunk at a party in
your girlfriend got drunk at a party in the weekend and had sex with a guy there
the weekend and had sex with a guy there
the weekend and had sex with a guy there she’s not in love with them she doesn’t
she’s not in love with them she doesn’t
she’s not in love with them she doesn’t plan to leave you they just had sex is
plan to leave you they just had sex is
plan to leave you they just had sex is it too right usually when I tell this
it too right usually when I tell this
it too right usually when I tell this story to my students I get hissy sounds
story to my students I get hissy sounds
story to my students I get hissy sounds at this point so what is the basic
at this point so what is the basic
at this point so what is the basic science behind these sex differences the
science behind these sex differences the
science behind these sex differences the major biological theory is Traverse
major biological theory is Traverse
major biological theory is Traverse parental investment theory which
parental investment theory which
parental investment theory which explains differences between the genders
explains differences between the genders
explains differences between the genders and behavior based upon minimal
and behavior based upon minimal
and behavior based upon minimal investment in offspring by males and
investment in offspring by males and
investment in offspring by males and females and a specific species David
females and a specific species David
females and a specific species David buss and Dave Schmidt have formulated a
buss and Dave Schmidt have formulated a
buss and Dave Schmidt have formulated a specific application of this theory for
specific application of this theory for
specific application of this theory for humans and in our research it’s the best
humans and in our research it’s the best
humans and in our research it’s the best predictive theory of modern human sexual
predictive theory of modern human sexual
predictive theory of modern human sexual behavior specific features of our
behavior specific features of our
behavior specific features of our reproductive physiology lay the grounds
reproductive physiology lay the grounds
reproductive physiology lay the grounds for our sexual and jealousy psychology
for our sexual and jealousy psychology
for our sexual and jealousy psychology this is summed up in the saying mummys
this is summed up in the saying mummys
this is summed up in the saying mummys baby daddies maybe I’ll repeat it
baby daddies maybe I’ll repeat it
baby daddies maybe I’ll repeat it because it’s important mummys baby
because it’s important mummys baby
because it’s important mummys baby daddies maybe most women know who the
daddies maybe most women know who the
daddies maybe most women know who the mother of the child is it’s hard to give
mother of the child is it’s hard to give
mother of the child is it’s hard to give birth or not know most men just cannot
birth or not know most men just cannot
birth or not know most men just cannot know therefore men seek maximum paternal
know therefore men seek maximum paternal
know therefore men seek maximum paternal certainty if their girlfriend has sex
certainty if their girlfriend has sex
certainty if their girlfriend has sex with other men he might become an
with other men he might become an
with other men he might become an evolutionary dead end women on the other
evolutionary dead end women on the other
evolutionary dead end women on the other hand seek commitment and emotional
hand seek commitment and emotional
hand seek commitment and emotional investment in their children
investment in their children
investment in their children it’s very rare among mammals actually
it’s very rare among mammals actually
it’s very rare among mammals actually only about 5% of them do but men
only about 5% of them do but men
only about 5% of them do but men actually do invest in their presumed
actually do invest in their presumed
actually do invest in their presumed offspring
offspring
offspring therefore seeking commitment in partners
therefore seeking commitment in partners
therefore seeking commitment in partners is important for women these basic
is important for women these basic
is important for women these basic differences according to bus give us two
differences according to bus give us two
differences according to bus give us two different types
different types
different types of jealousy emotional jealousy which is
of jealousy emotional jealousy which is
of jealousy emotional jealousy which is a fear of losing investment and
a fear of losing investment and
a fear of losing investment and commitment and sexual jealousy which is
commitment and sexual jealousy which is
commitment and sexual jealousy which is the fear of one’s partner engaging in
the fear of one’s partner engaging in
the fear of one’s partner engaging in sex with others and these two forms of
sex with others and these two forms of
sex with others and these two forms of jealousy are there for sex
jealousy are there for sex
jealousy are there for sex differentiated and no one actually knew
differentiated and no one actually knew
differentiated and no one actually knew about this before buses original studies
about this before buses original studies
about this before buses original studies now this theory has met with resistance
now this theory has met with resistance
now this theory has met with resistance and criticism but my colleague Mons
and criticism but my colleague Mons
and criticism but my colleague Mons bendixson and I have researched jealousy
bendixson and I have researched jealousy
bendixson and I have researched jealousy considering different samples and
considering different samples and
considering different samples and different facets some of our findings a
different facets some of our findings a
different facets some of our findings a robust founding men report high degree
robust founding men report high degree
robust founding men report high degree of sexual jealousy than women do women
of sexual jealousy than women do women
of sexual jealousy than women do women report high degree of emotional jealousy
report high degree of emotional jealousy
report high degree of emotional jealousy than men D the sex difference is
than men D the sex difference is
than men D the sex difference is primarily found during reproductive
primarily found during reproductive
primarily found during reproductive years and the sex difference is greatest
years and the sex difference is greatest
years and the sex difference is greatest in Scandinavian countries we do not find
in Scandinavian countries we do not find
in Scandinavian countries we do not find an effect of a prior history of being
an effect of a prior history of being
an effect of a prior history of being cheated or being or cheating upon one’s
cheated or being or cheating upon one’s
cheated or being or cheating upon one’s partner we find the same results with
partner we find the same results with
partner we find the same results with continuous and discontinuous measures
continuous and discontinuous measures
continuous and discontinuous measures and in general women report the greatest
and in general women report the greatest
and in general women report the greatest amount of jealousy also we only find the
amount of jealousy also we only find the
amount of jealousy also we only find the sex difference in heterosexual
sex difference in heterosexual
sex difference in heterosexual comparisons
comparisons
comparisons lastly in our recent research on the
lastly in our recent research on the
lastly in our recent research on the forgiveness of infidelity we find that
forgiveness of infidelity we find that
forgiveness of infidelity we find that men have no clue as to how distressed
men have no clue as to how distressed
men have no clue as to how distressed women are by emotional infidelity so
women are by emotional infidelity so
women are by emotional infidelity so most of our findings support the
most of our findings support the
most of our findings support the evolutionary perspective but the three
evolutionary perspective but the three
evolutionary perspective but the three things we have to discuss first why are
things we have to discuss first why are
things we have to discuss first why are the sex differences greatest in
the sex differences greatest in
the sex differences greatest in Scandinavian countries many people
Scandinavian countries many people
Scandinavian countries many people believe there are no fundamental sex
believe there are no fundamental sex
believe there are no fundamental sex differences further there’s an
differences further there’s an
differences further there’s an expectation that sex differences should
expectation that sex differences should
expectation that sex differences should become smaller in more gender galit
become smaller in more gender galit
become smaller in more gender galit Aryan countries but this is not true
Aryan countries but this is not true
Aryan countries but this is not true there are some basic sex differences and
there are some basic sex differences and
there are some basic sex differences and some of these are exaggerated by gender
some of these are exaggerated by gender
some of these are exaggerated by gender egalitarianism and an avian gender
egalitarianism and an avian gender
egalitarianism and an avian gender quality paradox
quality paradox
quality paradox where we find that Norwegian women
where we find that Norwegian women
where we find that Norwegian women choose more traditional professions than
choose more traditional professions than
choose more traditional professions than women in less egalitarian countries in
women in less egalitarian countries in
women in less egalitarian countries in the current research the prediction was
the current research the prediction was
the current research the prediction was that we would find a greater sex
that we would find a greater sex
that we would find a greater sex difference in Norway because of greater
difference in Norway because of greater
difference in Norway because of greater paternal investment in children has
paternal investment in children has
paternal investment in children has jealousy evolved many critics challenged
jealousy evolved many critics challenged
jealousy evolved many critics challenged me to prove that a specific mental
me to prove that a specific mental
me to prove that a specific mental mechanism has evolved for jealousy we
mechanism has evolved for jealousy we
mechanism has evolved for jealousy we can actually turn this around could
can actually turn this around could
can actually turn this around could jealousy not evolve consider our common
jealousy not evolve consider our common
jealousy not evolve consider our common ancestor with modern promiscuous chimps
ancestor with modern promiscuous chimps
ancestor with modern promiscuous chimps without pair bonding without father
without pair bonding without father
without pair bonding without father investment there’s no jealousy but there
investment there’s no jealousy but there
investment there’s no jealousy but there is neither love through our evolutionary
is neither love through our evolutionary
is neither love through our evolutionary history
history
history we changed we started falling in love
we changed we started falling in love
we changed we started falling in love we started bonding and father started
we started bonding and father started
we started bonding and father started investing in children the two important
investing in children the two important
investing in children the two important questions are what would happen to women
questions are what would happen to women
questions are what would happen to women who did not secure investment in their
who did not secure investment in their
who did not secure investment in their children and what would happen to men
children and what would happen to men
children and what would happen to men who weren’t interested in who their
who weren’t interested in who their
who weren’t interested in who their partners were having sex with those
partners were having sex with those
partners were having sex with those naive of this would be out competed by
naive of this would be out competed by
naive of this would be out competed by for jealous finally what must have
for jealous finally what must have
for jealous finally what must have evolved we have evolved to seek to avoid
evolved we have evolved to seek to avoid
evolved we have evolved to seek to avoid losing investment in the long range of
losing investment in the long range of
losing investment in the long range of different relationships the important
different relationships the important
different relationships the important thing is in most of these cases we can
thing is in most of these cases we can
thing is in most of these cases we can learn through the lifespan the negative
learn through the lifespan the negative
learn through the lifespan the negative consequences of losing investment
consequences of losing investment
consequences of losing investment Skinner the founder of radical
Skinner the founder of radical
Skinner the founder of radical behaviorism pointed out that if there is
behaviorism pointed out that if there is
behaviorism pointed out that if there is no feedback mechanism to condition
no feedback mechanism to condition
no feedback mechanism to condition behavior natural selection is the
behavior natural selection is the
behavior natural selection is the explanation of adaptive behavior sexual
explanation of adaptive behavior sexual
explanation of adaptive behavior sexual infidelity doesn’t come with a feedback
infidelity doesn’t come with a feedback
infidelity doesn’t come with a feedback system there is no pain involved in
system there is no pain involved in
system there is no pain involved in being cuckolded
those people who are naively cuckolded
those people who are naively cuckolded through evolutionary history are merely
through evolutionary history are merely
through evolutionary history are merely not our ancestors they merely without
not our ancestors they merely without
not our ancestors they merely without knowing it evolutionary dead ends so
knowing it evolutionary dead ends so
knowing it evolutionary dead ends so where does this interest in whose side
where does this interest in whose side
where does this interest in whose side who come from why do we devise rules
who come from why do we devise rules
who come from why do we devise rules based upon bloodlines why even care
based upon bloodlines why even care
based upon bloodlines why even care the answer is selection those distressed
the answer is selection those distressed
the answer is selection those distressed by their partner cheating on them those
by their partner cheating on them those
by their partner cheating on them those who were motivated to prevent this
who were motivated to prevent this
who were motivated to prevent this simply out competed those who did not
simply out competed those who did not
simply out competed those who did not care
care
care Chelsey’s a normal basic emotion despite
Chelsey’s a normal basic emotion despite
Chelsey’s a normal basic emotion despite being horrible what makes you and your
being horrible what makes you and your
being horrible what makes you and your partner jealous might be very different
partner jealous might be very different
partner jealous might be very different if jealousy is exaggerated you might
if jealousy is exaggerated you might
if jealousy is exaggerated you might want to seek couples therapy however
want to seek couples therapy however
want to seek couples therapy however without without jealousy pair bonding
without without jealousy pair bonding
without without jealousy pair bonding and father investment would not be
and father investment would not be
and father investment would not be evolutionary stable strategies love
evolutionary stable strategies love
evolutionary stable strategies love demands jealousy my claim is that the
demands jealousy my claim is that the
demands jealousy my claim is that the basic adaptation here what has evolved
basic adaptation here what has evolved
basic adaptation here what has evolved is the male sexual jealousy module it
is the male sexual jealousy module it
is the male sexual jealousy module it has to evolve its pound cross culturally
has to evolve its pound cross culturally
has to evolve its pound cross culturally and across time it’s created cultural
and across time it’s created cultural
and across time it’s created cultural practices and it cannot be learnt
practices and it cannot be learnt
practices and it cannot be learnt through the lifespan so how do you get
through the lifespan so how do you get
through the lifespan so how do you get 16 million descendants you need sexual
16 million descendants you need sexual
16 million descendants you need sexual jealousy and father investment and the
jealousy and father investment and the
jealousy and father investment and the one does not come without the other male
one does not come without the other male
one does not come without the other male sexual jealousy is fundamental to
sexual jealousy is fundamental to
sexual jealousy is fundamental to heredity rule and is therefore the
heredity rule and is therefore the
heredity rule and is therefore the foundation of empires thank you
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