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[Music] I loved he-man and one year for my

I loved he-man and one year for my

I loved he-man and one year for my birthday I got all the he-man gear I got

birthday I got all the he-man gear I got

birthday I got all the he-man gear I got the action figures the big wheel I got

the action figures the big wheel I got

the action figures the big wheel I got the he-man underwear and the sword and

the he-man underwear and the sword and

the he-man underwear and the sword and the shield I used to love to run around

the shield I used to love to run around

the shield I used to love to run around pretending that I was he man one thing I

pretending that I was he man one thing I

pretending that I was he man one thing I do remember about he-man is that he was

do remember about he-man is that he was

do remember about he-man is that he was just a regular guy until he needed to

just a regular guy until he needed to

just a regular guy until he needed to take control of a situation when he did

take control of a situation when he did

take control of a situation when he did he would raise his sword just like this

he would raise his sword just like this

he would raise his sword just like this and he would say I have the power and he

and he would say I have the power and he

and he would say I have the power and he would transform and use all of his

would transform and use all of his

would transform and use all of his potential and I see a lot of folks in

potential and I see a lot of folks in

potential and I see a lot of folks in here with a lot of potential and I

here with a lot of potential and I

here with a lot of potential and I invite you to stand up with me so we can

invite you to stand up with me so we can

invite you to stand up with me so we can begin to transform together go ahead and

begin to transform together go ahead and

begin to transform together go ahead and grab your imaginary he-man sword and

grab your imaginary he-man sword and

grab your imaginary he-man sword and raise it up and on the count of three

raise it up and on the count of three

raise it up and on the count of three we’re going to say I have the power

we’re going to say I have the power

we’re going to say I have the power together one two three I have the power

together one two three I have the power

together one two three I have the power that was fantastic I really felt the

that was fantastic I really felt the

that was fantastic I really felt the power from you guys thank you so much

power from you guys thank you so much

power from you guys thank you so much please have a seat

really great job now as I got a little

really great job now as I got a little older I didn’t have the sword anymore

older I didn’t have the sword anymore

older I didn’t have the sword anymore and I began to forget that I had the

and I began to forget that I had the

and I began to forget that I had the power which also meant that I didn’t

power which also meant that I didn’t

power which also meant that I didn’t transform or use the most of my

transform or use the most of my

transform or use the most of my potential and then I started to use

potential and then I started to use

potential and then I started to use ready reflecting evaluating developing

ready reflecting evaluating developing

ready reflecting evaluating developing and implementing to make sure that I had

and implementing to make sure that I had

and implementing to make sure that I had my power and was using the most of my

my power and was using the most of my

my power and was using the most of my potential here’s how it started after 14

potential here’s how it started after 14

potential here’s how it started after 14 years of martial arts training I

years of martial arts training I

years of martial arts training I received an invitation to world

received an invitation to world

received an invitation to world champions

champions

champions this was a pro-am competition so it was

this was a pro-am competition so it was

this was a pro-am competition so it was professional and amatuer competitors

professional and amatuer competitors

professional and amatuer competitors competing against one another

competing against one another

competing against one another this invitation changed my life I had

this invitation changed my life I had

this invitation changed my life I had been training in martial arts for 14

been training in martial arts for 14

been training in martial arts for 14 years and done so many competitions so I

years and done so many competitions so I

years and done so many competitions so I thought I knew what to do so I began

thought I knew what to do so I began

thought I knew what to do so I began doing the normal routine practicing

doing the normal routine practicing

doing the normal routine practicing training all the way up until the

training all the way up until the

training all the way up until the competition we arrived the night before

competition we arrived the night before

competition we arrived the night before and walked into this room that was

and walked into this room that was

and walked into this room that was enormous it was at least three times

enormous it was at least three times

enormous it was at least three times bigger than any competition I had been

bigger than any competition I had been

bigger than any competition I had been to before as I looked it out across the

to before as I looked it out across the

to before as I looked it out across the room 10 foot by 10 foot squares were

room 10 foot by 10 foot squares were

room 10 foot by 10 foot squares were taped all across the floor except for

taped all across the floor except for

taped all across the floor except for one in the middle it looked like a

one in the middle it looked like a

one in the middle it looked like a boxing ring and I’d never seen that

boxing ring and I’d never seen that

boxing ring and I’d never seen that before

before

before what was it as I reviewed my competition

what was it as I reviewed my competition

what was it as I reviewed my competition details I realized that I would be

details I realized that I would be

details I realized that I would be competing in forms routines in that ring

competing in forms routines in that ring

competing in forms routines in that ring the next morning cool the morning of the

the next morning cool the morning of the

the next morning cool the morning of the competition I got up and it did not take

competition I got up and it did not take

competition I got up and it did not take long for me to realize the professionals

long for me to realize the professionals

long for me to realize the professionals from the amateurs I was doing karate and

from the amateurs I was doing karate and

from the amateurs I was doing karate and they were doing ninja I felt a little

they were doing ninja I felt a little

they were doing ninja I felt a little out of place

out of place

out of place later that day in fighting you could say

later that day in fighting you could say

later that day in fighting you could say I deserve some respect for how clean I

I deserve some respect for how clean I

I deserve some respect for how clean I was able to get those floors I was

was able to get those floors I was

was able to get those floors I was disappointed in my results in both have

disappointed in my results in both have

disappointed in my results in both have you ever felt that way you’ve done all

you ever felt that way you’ve done all

you ever felt that way you’ve done all the things that you were supposed to do

the things that you were supposed to do

the things that you were supposed to do your training practice you’ve met all

your training practice you’ve met all

your training practice you’ve met all the expectations and you just don’t feel

the expectations and you just don’t feel

the expectations and you just don’t feel like it was quite good enough on a long

like it was quite good enough on a long

like it was quite good enough on a long five hour car ride home

five hour car ride home

five hour car ride home I spent time reflecting on my

I spent time reflecting on my

I spent time reflecting on my formants honestly it was probably the

formants honestly it was probably the

formants honestly it was probably the next couple of weeks – I was really

next couple of weeks – I was really

next couple of weeks – I was really disappointed in my performance at World

disappointed in my performance at World

disappointed in my performance at World Championships I thought that was my shot

when I thought about the performance a

when I thought about the performance a lot of the competitors did backflips and

lot of the competitors did backflips and

lot of the competitors did backflips and I could do backflips but I didn’t do any

I could do backflips but I didn’t do any

I could do backflips but I didn’t do any some did what we call extreme kicks and

some did what we call extreme kicks and

some did what we call extreme kicks and I could do some extreme kicks but I

I could do some extreme kicks but I

I could do some extreme kicks but I didn’t do any I had trained in tumbling

didn’t do any I had trained in tumbling

didn’t do any I had trained in tumbling for six years at this point and the

for six years at this point and the

for six years at this point and the original purpose to Train and tumbling

original purpose to Train and tumbling

original purpose to Train and tumbling was to integrate that into my martial

was to integrate that into my martial

was to integrate that into my martial arts routines and the only thing that

arts routines and the only thing that

arts routines and the only thing that I’d done with my tumbling at this point

I’d done with my tumbling at this point

I’d done with my tumbling at this point was to try and impress girls and that

was to try and impress girls and that

was to try and impress girls and that wasn’t working well either I realized

wasn’t working well either I realized

wasn’t working well either I realized that I had just been coasting I had

that I had just been coasting I had

that I had just been coasting I had developed skills and abilities over the

developed skills and abilities over the

developed skills and abilities over the years that I was totally ignoring and

years that I was totally ignoring and

years that I was totally ignoring and just doing the usual routine it can be

just doing the usual routine it can be

just doing the usual routine it can be same in the workplace when we caught

same in the workplace when we caught

same in the workplace when we caught when we get caught in doing just the

when we get caught in doing just the

when we get caught in doing just the normal routine there’s no doubt that so

normal routine there’s no doubt that so

normal routine there’s no doubt that so many of us are busy between emails and

many of us are busy between emails and

many of us are busy between emails and phone calls meetings working with

phone calls meetings working with

phone calls meetings working with coworkers or customers have you taken a

coworkers or customers have you taken a

coworkers or customers have you taken a moment to think about what you’re doing

moment to think about what you’re doing

moment to think about what you’re doing why you’re doing it and how that’s

why you’re doing it and how that’s

why you’re doing it and how that’s impacting you chances are if you took a

impacting you chances are if you took a

impacting you chances are if you took a moment to step back and reflect on your

moment to step back and reflect on your

moment to step back and reflect on your experience you would see a lot of

experience you would see a lot of

experience you would see a lot of possibilities for positive improvements

as I begin to evaluate my performance I

as I begin to evaluate my performance I thought back to before the competition

thought back to before the competition

thought back to before the competition the feedback that I received was that I

the feedback that I received was that I

the feedback that I received was that I had good stances good follow-through

had good stances good follow-through

had good stances good follow-through I had snap power focus timing I met all

I had snap power focus timing I met all

I had snap power focus timing I met all the marks but when I started to think

the marks but when I started to think

the marks but when I started to think about all that I was capable of what

about all that I was capable of what

about all that I was capable of what would my best performance look like if I

would my best performance look like if I

would my best performance look like if I took some of that tumbling skills that I

took some of that tumbling skills that I

took some of that tumbling skills that I had and I took some of those extreme

had and I took some of those extreme

had and I took some of those extreme kicks and I mixed them together into a

kicks and I mixed them together into a

kicks and I mixed them together into a routine and it had good balance that is

routine and it had good balance that is

routine and it had good balance that is what a good routine would look like for

what a good routine would look like for

what a good routine would look like for me so I realized what I had done before

me so I realized what I had done before

me so I realized what I had done before it was average in the workplace we have

it was average in the workplace we have

it was average in the workplace we have the minimum standards standards and

the minimum standards standards and

the minimum standards standards and expectations our leaders and managers

expectations our leaders and managers

expectations our leaders and managers expect us to meet those standards but if

expect us to meet those standards but if

expect us to meet those standards but if you think about your skills and your

you think about your skills and your

you think about your skills and your abilities and the things that you’re

abilities and the things that you’re

abilities and the things that you’re capable of are you making the most out

capable of are you making the most out

capable of are you making the most out of your experience the next thing I did

of your experience the next thing I did

of your experience the next thing I did was start developing a plan I decided I

was start developing a plan I decided I

was start developing a plan I decided I was gonna go back to World Championships

was gonna go back to World Championships

was gonna go back to World Championships the next year I decided I was going to

the next year I decided I was going to

the next year I decided I was going to focus on one thing instead of doing

focus on one thing instead of doing

focus on one thing instead of doing forms and fighting I was gonna do forms

forms and fighting I was gonna do forms

forms and fighting I was gonna do forms because all of my skills and abilities

because all of my skills and abilities

because all of my skills and abilities all pointed to that and that’s where I

all pointed to that and that’s where I

all pointed to that and that’s where I could make the biggest impact I

could make the biggest impact I

could make the biggest impact I developed my plan and included the right

developed my plan and included the right

developed my plan and included the right people those individuals who could give

people those individuals who could give

people those individuals who could give me the type of feedback that would help

me the type of feedback that would help

me the type of feedback that would help me move forward one person I connected

me move forward one person I connected

me move forward one person I connected with was a gymnastics coach I didn’t

with was a gymnastics coach I didn’t

with was a gymnastics coach I didn’t have a lot of space in that ten-by-ten

have a lot of space in that ten-by-ten

have a lot of space in that ten-by-ten ring to get a running start so I needed

ring to get a running start so I needed

ring to get a running start so I needed to figure out how to get more power out

to figure out how to get more power out

to figure out how to get more power out of my tumbling by including the right

of my tumbling by including the right

of my tumbling by including the right people I was able to ensure that we were

people I was able to ensure that we were

people I was able to ensure that we were moving forward together and by sharing

moving forward together and by sharing

moving forward together and by sharing up

up

up and we were on the right path in the

and we were on the right path in the

and we were on the right path in the workplace it’s no different I would

workplace it’s no different I would

workplace it’s no different I would encourage you to develop a plan and

encourage you to develop a plan and

encourage you to develop a plan and share that with the right people think

share that with the right people think

share that with the right people think about your work situation chances are

about your work situation chances are

about your work situation chances are their skills and abilities that you

their skills and abilities that you

their skills and abilities that you could integrate into your work that

could integrate into your work that

could integrate into your work that would make a better impact for you and

would make a better impact for you and

would make a better impact for you and in turn make a better impact for those

in turn make a better impact for those

in turn make a better impact for those working around you by sharing your plan

working around you by sharing your plan

working around you by sharing your plan and the things that you’re interested in

and the things that you’re interested in

and the things that you’re interested in the goals you’re going toward you could

the goals you’re going toward you could

the goals you’re going toward you could include the right people so that you are

include the right people so that you are

include the right people so that you are driving the feedback process and not

driving the feedback process and not

driving the feedback process and not simply waiting for somebody to tell you

simply waiting for somebody to tell you

simply waiting for somebody to tell you what they’re expecting from you align

what they’re expecting from you align

what they’re expecting from you align your path so you can move forward

your path so you can move forward

your path so you can move forward together next I had to implement I began

together next I had to implement I began

together next I had to implement I began training at the karate gym practicing at

training at the karate gym practicing at

training at the karate gym practicing at the tumbling gym and on the weekends I

the tumbling gym and on the weekends I

the tumbling gym and on the weekends I would go out to the park and practice my

would go out to the park and practice my

would go out to the park and practice my routine I was taking all the things that

routine I was taking all the things that

routine I was taking all the things that were available to me and integrating

were available to me and integrating

were available to me and integrating that into my regular routine I would try

that into my regular routine I would try

that into my regular routine I would try something if it didn’t work

something if it didn’t work

something if it didn’t work I’d make adjustments and try it again I

I’d make adjustments and try it again I

I’d make adjustments and try it again I was reflecting evaluating developing and

was reflecting evaluating developing and

was reflecting evaluating developing and implementing and I was seeing some good

implementing and I was seeing some good

implementing and I was seeing some good results when you think about your

results when you think about your

results when you think about your experience at work are the things that

experience at work are the things that

experience at work are the things that you’re planning that you’ve been

you’re planning that you’ve been

you’re planning that you’ve been developing are those important enough

developing are those important enough

developing are those important enough for you to follow up on we need to take

for you to follow up on we need to take

for you to follow up on we need to take action before we can get the feedback on

action before we can get the feedback on

action before we can get the feedback on that action both from ourselves and from

that action both from ourselves and from

that action both from ourselves and from those leaders managers and possibly

those leaders managers and possibly

those leaders managers and possibly co-workers the trusted friend that can

co-workers the trusted friend that can

co-workers the trusted friend that can help give you the feedback to move you

help give you the feedback to move you

help give you the feedback to move you forward the next year I went back to

forward the next year I went back to

forward the next year I went back to world championships and I felt like I

world championships and I felt like I

world championships and I felt like I won the championships when I placed

won the championships when I placed

won the championships when I placed fifth I never thought I’d be so excited

fifth I never thought I’d be so excited

fifth I never thought I’d be so excited about placing fifth

about placing fifth

about placing fifth but I knew I had done for myself what

but I knew I had done for myself what

but I knew I had done for myself what nobody else could do for me I was the

nobody else could do for me I was the

nobody else could do for me I was the best me I gave my 100% I gave my all

best me I gave my 100% I gave my all

best me I gave my 100% I gave my all into doing that and I didn’t feel

into doing that and I didn’t feel

into doing that and I didn’t feel average I felt great I felt awesome

average I felt great I felt awesome

average I felt great I felt awesome and that was my reward for that

and that was my reward for that

and that was my reward for that competition are you ready to make the

competition are you ready to make the

competition are you ready to make the most of your power and unleash your

most of your power and unleash your

most of your power and unleash your potential because only you know exactly

potential because only you know exactly

potential because only you know exactly what you need to make the most of your

what you need to make the most of your

what you need to make the most of your experience and be the best you thank you

experience and be the best you thank you

experience and be the best you thank you [Applause]

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