the first a woman run over in the
street with blows bleeding in the second
scene a man runs away from the scene
this man who caused his injuries his
her husband
the scene is crying to heaven with
the hands linked asking God
that he was allowed to walk again
walk and your life to help others
women of today has fulfilled my word
fully
Many know my story but never
I ‘ve told him
I thank the terex team for giving me the
opportunity because I know that through
she
I hope that many women
find the piece to be able to live
free of violence
I’ll talk to them reaches the
point
and like that violence
by azares of destiny to Ciudad Juarez
chihuahua and I met a man who
first he showed himself to me very kind
friendly cordial and affectionate and
respectful a few months
fondling me with the astana dwell
Medel does not spend much time when he
He asked for my hand and I thought it was the
right person for me
I accepted and I got married
it did not take long for him to see
his signs of violence
the first was the day that we
they delivered the wedding invitations
That day I was very happy and I went
for the box you stop some invitations
and I went to his office so he could
distribute them to your family and your
friends when he starts reading the
invitation starts screaming and it gets
as I had never seen him tell me
that if I did not realize that it was not
he had commanded take
invitations breaks it into pieces and I
he throws them in the face
I was so scared that really
believe me I could not move or say
nothing just look at it and the a few
minutes he answered me
excuse me viviana is that I’m so
stressed by the organization of the
I do not know what happened to me
I promise you queen that I will never go back to
occur
he hugged me and gave me a kiss and we left
to eat this the first year of married
we live it in my mother-in-law’s house
she supported the reactions of her
son thing that I never understood they went away
making more and more present these
signs of violence until a
day that I wanted to go out with my friends
and I started fixing myself in the house and
then he arrives and tells me why you
you arrange so much is that I’m going to go out
have breakfast and I want to get ready pretty
I do not know which part you do not understand, you do not know
You must drink pretty for anyone who is not
there is for me
or or tell me at once your claim is
all you men chihuahua
turn to see why if that is your
claim
things are going to be very ugly for
you
days later I started to stop
make up because he said it in a way
that I knew they were going to put on
ugly things
some days passed and these friends
they were invited because they realized
that something was not right with me and
they wanted to get distracted a bit and always
there was an opportunity for me
I left my mother-in-law’s house and
they had space for me it made me
easy to go out for a coffee when
he came to the house and the first thing that
says who do you think you are for
leave my house at the time that you
want to wherever you want without asking
permission to my house he never asked
permission to my dad and my mom that is me
you are provoking notes today causing
just that I did not know I had to
ask permission
now those from now on are going to
do as a rule for you to go
understanding and then there is no
surprises and I did not get mad and have to
do things because you do not understand not
can go outside without my permission if
you go to the store you have to tell me what
you are going to buy what you want it for and
how much do you need to go home to your
mom
you have to inform me you go to your house
friends
I want to know who is coming for you where
you go
where can I locate you and at what times
you are going back
I think that this exercise
many women in mexico we are
living or have lived it can only
live every time a woman allows
they get into their way of life so simple
what is doing the things that we
We consider that we are well
we are adults is only assuming your
life with another man does not see her sad and
those samples
when you begin to yield to denote
fear
they know they have and they start
do bigger things
before coming to physical violence
you go through psychological violence and
economic
one of the things that marked me
they remind me every day because I do
my job because in a meeting with
my friends in a race is being
watching soccer
these these couples that we met
at that time the roast meat is over
and they asked then to arrive the tread
he tells me he brings a slice and I
I had to do it immediately because
I had to do it
consciously I felt that there
that do things fast so you do not
wet me up the steps on death
front of everybody tells me ‘you’re
stupid or you have not realized that
it’s cold
I’m not stupid, it’s just cold
I tell my story because I know what a
woman lives and passes in mexico is
happening of every three women in the world
one is experiencing violence so the
theme for more simple than we want
see express what happens in these
women and their children when I decided
even having the terror demonstrate what
I felt and asked for a divorce
day when I arrived with the demand for
divorce the hit and left me shot
and although you do not believe it, there is no day
that does not hit the sky and I thank
god because thanks to that I have dedicated to
save many women and help them and
accessible that violence is not
tolerable is permissible in a time and
they are not alone women
live violence they do not need the
they judge they need to be told no
they are alone
today thanks to this experience and more
of 20 years that I have working
on the topic of intrafamily violence
I could have a civil organization without
for profit that is called by the
mexico that saw us born and I did it with
own resources to thank God
that every day gives me strength
of getting up and that every time it sounds
my phone
45 in the morning there is another woman who
he also responds to me and we can
answer these women together
we need to in Mexico
I have a 25-year-old son who did not come
today because for me this is very difficult
I had never counted it and I tried not to
cry but it is something that surpasses and
understanding
when I decided to form this organization
in Mexico
sometimes you have to prove first that
this organization and get him injected
money
I have seen many women who separate
out of the places where I give
empowerment conferences of the
women and they have told me that my words
have helped so that these women no longer
live violence
so my son and I decided to make a
couple of years to sell the only good that
we had our country house here in
villa de santiago and some vans and
with that money make a campaign to
national level to eradicate the
violence against these women know that
we are achieving it
I would like to tell you more things but only
I want to close by thanking everyone
team of tête x that the whole course
of my training was never possible
stop crying and still back all the
dani team knows the great effort that
is equated and tell you these things
I appreciate the opportunity again
training and the space they give me
so that other women know that
they are alone and that there are many women
that we are living from here today
today for here I dedicate this talk
to women who are living
intrafamily violence and memory
babies girls young children and women
and older women who have
died in the pain of his silence to
they and for them
my love my work and my
recognition
thank you very much
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