[Applause] so I’m standing in my living room
so I’m standing in my living room
so I’m standing in my living room holding a list of every online purchase
holding a list of every online purchase
holding a list of every online purchase I’d made in the four years prior
I’d made in the four years prior
I’d made in the four years prior yikes in that time I’d spent twelve
yikes in that time I’d spent twelve
yikes in that time I’d spent twelve thousand dollars on over three hundred
thousand dollars on over three hundred
thousand dollars on over three hundred and fifty things let’s just say I got to
and fifty things let’s just say I got to
and fifty things let’s just say I got to know the neighborhood UPS person very
know the neighborhood UPS person very
know the neighborhood UPS person very well on that list I saw a lot of things
well on that list I saw a lot of things
well on that list I saw a lot of things I didn’t even remember buying but what
I didn’t even remember buying but what
I didn’t even remember buying but what was not on that list were the family
was not on that list were the family
was not on that list were the family trips that I didn’t go on and the
trips that I didn’t go on and the
trips that I didn’t go on and the wedding of a friend of mine that I
wedding of a friend of mine that I
wedding of a friend of mine that I didn’t feel like I get could attend it
didn’t feel like I get could attend it
didn’t feel like I get could attend it because I couldn’t afford it I couldn’t
because I couldn’t afford it I couldn’t
because I couldn’t afford it I couldn’t help but feel as though my priorities
help but feel as though my priorities
help but feel as though my priorities had been hijacked that one click
had been hijacked that one click
had been hijacked that one click purchase felt like more of just a muscle
purchase felt like more of just a muscle
purchase felt like more of just a muscle movement that an intentional choice and
movement that an intentional choice and
movement that an intentional choice and that is what I call the twitch the
that is what I call the twitch the
that is what I call the twitch the twitch is an unintentional unproductive
twitch is an unintentional unproductive
twitch is an unintentional unproductive response to discomfort and that
response to discomfort and that
response to discomfort and that discomfort shows up in many different
discomfort shows up in many different
discomfort shows up in many different ways it might be boredom it might be
ways it might be boredom it might be
ways it might be boredom it might be desire but the twitch is a quick
desire but the twitch is a quick
desire but the twitch is a quick solution to those feelings even though
solution to those feelings even though
solution to those feelings even though it doesn’t solve anything
it doesn’t solve anything
it doesn’t solve anything and I promise if you have experienced
and I promise if you have experienced
and I promise if you have experienced the twitch yourself you are not alone
the twitch yourself you are not alone
the twitch yourself you are not alone it’s because every aspect of our modern
it’s because every aspect of our modern
it’s because every aspect of our modern digital lives is designed to be
digital lives is designed to be
digital lives is designed to be incredibly addicting companies use the
incredibly addicting companies use the
incredibly addicting companies use the same strategies that casinos use to keep
same strategies that casinos use to keep
same strategies that casinos use to keep you playing the slots to keep you coming
you playing the slots to keep you coming
you playing the slots to keep you coming back and it doesn’t help that all of the
back and it doesn’t help that all of the
back and it doesn’t help that all of the wrong things are getting easier let’s
wrong things are getting easier let’s
wrong things are getting easier let’s take this for example two activities
take this for example two activities
take this for example two activities going out and buying a pair of running
going out and buying a pair of running
going out and buying a pair of running shoes and going to the gym to workout
shoes and going to the gym to workout
shoes and going to the gym to workout both of those things at one point took
both of those things at one point took
both of those things at one point took very similar amounts of effort you would
very similar amounts of effort you would
very similar amounts of effort you would put on your clothes you’d step out you’d
put on your clothes you’d step out you’d
put on your clothes you’d step out you’d maybe get into the car and then you’d
maybe get into the car and then you’d
maybe get into the car and then you’d either shop or you’d go work out
either shop or you’d go work out
either shop or you’d go work out I’m pretty sure I don’t have to tell you
I’m pretty sure I don’t have to tell you
I’m pretty sure I don’t have to tell you which one of those two activities has
which one of those two activities has
which one of those two activities has become incredibly easy unfortunately not
become incredibly easy unfortunately not
become incredibly easy unfortunately not the working out so why does this matter
the working out so why does this matter
the working out so why does this matter why does it matter to break the twitch
why does it matter to break the twitch
why does it matter to break the twitch because if we don’t we are letting
because if we don’t we are letting
because if we don’t we are letting someone else decide what is most
someone else decide what is most
someone else decide what is most important to us the twitch hijacks our
important to us the twitch hijacks our
important to us the twitch hijacks our ability to be there for the people we
ability to be there for the people we
ability to be there for the people we love and work towards long-term goals
love and work towards long-term goals
love and work towards long-term goals it’s because the small things truly add
it’s because the small things truly add
it’s because the small things truly add up but there is a way out there are two
up but there is a way out there are two
up but there is a way out there are two things that I’ve done in my own life to
things that I’ve done in my own life to
things that I’ve done in my own life to break the twitch and live more
break the twitch and live more
break the twitch and live more intentionally the first thing you can do
intentionally the first thing you can do
intentionally the first thing you can do is notice simply notice when you get the
is notice simply notice when you get the
is notice simply notice when you get the urge to twitch if you’re taking out your
urge to twitch if you’re taking out your
urge to twitch if you’re taking out your phone and checking social media buying
phone and checking social media buying
phone and checking social media buying something online and do not feel shame
something online and do not feel shame
something online and do not feel shame because realize that this is a system
because realize that this is a system
because realize that this is a system that is created to keep you coming back
that is created to keep you coming back
that is created to keep you coming back the second thing you can do is work to
the second thing you can do is work to
the second thing you can do is work to create intentional friction intentional
create intentional friction intentional
create intentional friction intentional friction is best explained with a paper
friction is best explained with a paper
friction is best explained with a paper towel let’s pretend that you’re using
towel let’s pretend that you’re using
towel let’s pretend that you’re using too many paper towels and you want to
too many paper towels and you want to
too many paper towels and you want to use fewer every time you wash your hands
use fewer every time you wash your hands
use fewer every time you wash your hands you reach over if you just put a rubber
you reach over if you just put a rubber
you reach over if you just put a rubber band over the paper towels every time
band over the paper towels every time
band over the paper towels every time you reach you won’t be able to grab one
you reach you won’t be able to grab one
you reach you won’t be able to grab one it will take extra effort you’re putting
it will take extra effort you’re putting
it will take extra effort you’re putting intentional friction back in that
intentional friction back in that
intentional friction back in that process if you have facebook on your
process if you have facebook on your
process if you have facebook on your phone I’d be willing to bet that you
phone I’d be willing to bet that you
phone I’d be willing to bet that you could open the app without opening your
could open the app without opening your
could open the app without opening your eyes in that instance you can move the
eyes in that instance you can move the
eyes in that instance you can move the app to somewhere else so your brain has
app to somewhere else so your brain has
app to somewhere else so your brain has to think a little bit more delete the
to think a little bit more delete the
to think a little bit more delete the app completely so you can only use it on
app completely so you can only use it on
app completely so you can only use it on a computer if it’s online shopping you
a computer if it’s online shopping you
a computer if it’s online shopping you can remove your credit card information
can remove your credit card information
can remove your credit card information you can log out of your accounts so that
you can log out of your accounts so that
you can log out of your accounts so that you give yourself a fighting chance and
you give yourself a fighting chance and
you give yourself a fighting chance and making an intentional decision we have
making an intentional decision we have
making an intentional decision we have to fiercely protect our idle moments
to fiercely protect our idle moments
to fiercely protect our idle moments even when they’re uncomfortable so that
even when they’re uncomfortable so that
even when they’re uncomfortable so that when we look back we will see evidence
when we look back we will see evidence
when we look back we will see evidence of a life well-lived and not a list
of a life well-lived and not a list
of a life well-lived and not a list of things soon forgotten thank you
of things soon forgotten thank you
of things soon forgotten thank you [Applause]
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