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Et si on arrêtait de se mentir ? | Elsa Grangier | TEDxLaRochelle


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do you often go up

go tell me

at worst you lie and it does not matter

huh

you know I’m talking about these little ones

everyday lies for example you

are at the coffee machine you have

one of your colleagues who comes to see you

and who tells you that’s okay and you tell him

answer what

well yes you actually bury your

grandfather two days ago we ‘re gonna

not super good and then you know there are

this vacation picture absolutely

idyllic that you post on

social networks with this little

legend just a ball that says vacation

dream

except that what you forget to say

it took you three hours

to take this picture between your

children who put themselves a little on the

face making sand pies

your husband who asked you to

take a picture of who was doing a

diving is a little painful anyway

this brief case it was not too much

idyllic holidays but why lie

in fact why to feel better

to have the impression of existing

to have a new life

in fact, it is new to your life

since it’s yours and sometimes

lie that a little bit further yeah

sometimes we can lie to be

elect

yeah

this man donald trump and the amended

is not just a little bit at the same time

do nothing half way out

understood by donald trump

he lied because do you figure that

policy fact an institute of

verification of information

the United States has stipulated that only 4% of

about donald trump during the

election campaign and eve rail 4%

no but you imagine otherwise

nothing we agree this campaign it

was a tissue of lies

despite the obstinacy repeat one of

many US media has tried

to find every day a little more the

contrary yeah there is elected what is it

who lets a liar

knowing that I need to be a little

banon you have an idea now is going

maybe because finally at mans

all a little bit sometimes yet often

like this holiday photo finally

who was not really helped ilic or

as low are known to whom globally

was not one we agree

so down for who is also lying there

need liars I have prepared you

a small gallery of my top five on there

go then first you know him

all obviously good it’s an amateur

because he knows how to spot everything from

Following is when even our chiodin

understood that with his nose it was not going

very far but the second is

my favorite

yeah it’s gary romain roman

gary

brilliantly mythifies catr of his

own life but for the happiness of the

French literature and then also

for the best

i love romain gary we will come back and

and then we have another one that you know

well if it’s throwing amstrong stops

so he shoots him down he has swapped the

bike pump for the pump had a fart

it was going a little faster and

take it

and then listened to me the last one is a

little lemaitre in france how did i

named mister jérôme cahuzac or bah

yes anyway of course then jérôme

cahuzac which is pretty funny it is

that it’s a bit like an actor of

cinema that is to say that he has

decided to barter the beautiful you

eyes you know for the eyes and in

the eyes

I do not have accounts in Switzerland

no no no nothing 1

and then after there is a hold

in fact there is me yeah yeah that’s right

that it’s a sacred liar

in fact I was it was game

until I realize that

that it became unbearable to me

lying

yeah really unbearable because

in fact I feel responsible for the

part of the truth that I put all the

days in the world back to me I had

a dream

we all have it but it was mine

I wanted to be a journalist and then my

father had told me all of them late

you did not understand

difficult to translate maybe in fact

it’s a Portuguese accent because I

am daughter of Portuguese immigrants

so my father was telling me all of the club the

end pretty good I think sometimes you

have understood and in fact we had

discussions like that both

so I had this dream of being

reporter and then the barrel had the

dream that I am safe from the need

even if it were necessary to silence my

cravings so I said but dad looks

the world is changing I want

I will tell it I want to testify

I’m going to go on the grounds there two

clubs late but dad listens

mandela was released the wall of

berlin just dropped out of the end

sometimes I did not take a chance

that they said and then I remember

also a little bit smaller the start of the

20 hours to hear the days

detention of hostage journalists

retained in Lebanon for freedom

to inform with a concern for truth and

I dreamed modestly of being able

to borrow their traces with this sentence

of camus that I really like who says the

freedom and truth are

demanding mistresses because they

have little soul in freedom and

the truth are mistresses

demanding because they have little

of soul in conclusion a not simple

to be free that we understand but

so not easy to be in the dark

no more huh and then well when we have a

father like me who fled

clandestinely his country for

political reasons not I do not hide

that at the move to not offended bah yeah

yeah we do what he says it’s

painful and dream actually a yeah

especially when we do not realize them then

we prefer to forget them

and then we forget each other a bit with

begins to lie by omission by

self-omission this is my first

lie journalism it’s not for

me not so what am I doing

as dad wanted a school of

trade

it’s for all levels and you can

some business schools are

maybe known so I did a

business school and here I am

embarked on the small motorways of the

lie in a gleaming career

marketing then there prestigious woods

the brilliant acv a tinsel no it was

extremely bright shining outside

but then in that mint is

but darn good dad loving it

was proud what they were

proud

well yes I had to go up

in the social lift month the girl

of immigrants but small confidence

you have already stayed ten years in a

same social lift

I can tell you it’s true it’s

really very very very long for

to follow

it’s funny because there is

several types of lies there is the

lie by protection darling i got you

to fool but I can not tell you that

will hurt you too much

there is the lie by omission the famous

g actually I ‘ll tell you that I drank neither

the car there is the lie by

manipulation follows larry and hop you know

that this sprint is going really well and then she

lie by resignation marketing

in the big boxes

it is for me I convaincs content

like about marketing

do some of you buy

you have the products in them

supermarkets with the product label

of the year there is or has not raised the hand

can denounce you denounce yourself

French tradition denounce high to

hand you know how does it work or

no no I explained to you is that

you actually think these products

receive this label because they are

they have a limited carbon footprint

because they are good for you or

because really it’s products

top in France all to extract something

awesome

oh no no no actually they have this label

because huh because the packaging

is so cool we love the steps

hidden that’s great in small

box munching his annuity it’s great

the packaging and then the product name

its color short everything else

well that’s it a little marketing in

do sometimes sometimes and ben me it has

started to really embarrass me and

that’s when roman gary

the said is what me roman gary me

spoken

yeah bah gary tell me but she

that but the truth is not to

caught

right too late or late bah yeah

I was entangled in the lie

to believe that this kind of craft

that was what I had

really want to go yeah and in

the more it started to see

physically nausea vomiting

I was pregnant nausea vomiting

panic attack tetany insomnia

anger but big anger then against

the world really pulls it and then

in fact are my children who have me

reconnect to the truth to mine

who invited me to no longer be in

this feeling of imposture to go

always farther with and club but

with all my flaws then after

ten years beats marketing and I get

said that finally we did not like each other

really it was so we say to ourselves that this

marriage of convenience

had to stop then dancing left good

friends in c1

we were a little scarf on

the station of allowances

dismissal not much

really a few months but now

what to do bah yes but I could 36000

option to be honest years and that’s

no sycophantry that I want

say so I mounted a box I

set up a community site where

young parents could come

express themselves in all sincerity on the

consumer experience

and that that was the beginning of my

revolution to me really and there is

no jennifer in the story that has

been the beginning of the revolution in

does it go even much further

because this company has been

like the meteorite that comes to you

deviated from the trajectory in which

you were not really comfortable

because to present this

company I went on a plateau

TV as a guest and I’m

left as a columnist and that

it lasted a very long time after

three years ago I’m told but it’s

is there was finally journalists

since the time you like it

always at the isthmus besides acted ben

no no no you start to me

know now this feeling

of imposture always I had not the

diploma

I was not a journalist

I do not know if some or

some of you are reading

women’s magazines but it says that 40

years old is again 20 years old then me

so I thought it was that and

here I am again on the benches of

the high school of journalism of

paris and that’s pretty funny it’s

that I had my diploma

the day after the election of donald

trump crazy right even pretty funny

because me the dates I really liked

always drew with the dates and

for me that date was really

important because it was the sign

that my job

the journalism profession of

journalists he had to clearly

changed evolved in his practices he

had been so distrustful

during this election

so to counteract the lies

victorious of the man with the wick

I thought I had a

responsibility that was the one

to inform the French in all

objectivity about the choice of their

candidates for their election

Presidential took so I set up

a site that listed who was comparing

the eleven programs of the candidates for

presidential elections with the help

precious of a friend and this site

it was a volunteer citizen website

free without funding elbow town

really also a little brain juice

and we launched this site so what

case it’s funny that I’m

went to see but according to duly confreres of the

journalist profession and then people

paid card editor

for really disturbing old

war reporter director of

publication of hyper capped people who

impressed me a lot and I told them

said here I’m going to mount this site I

were looking for a little bit of being that alone

it was not a thin

case

you do not know if he answered me but

she you’re still not related

to the crazy programs finally ben

it’s not a little bit good job

we are good beginners

sacked the truth she is a little

demanding and requires a bit of work

still years so it’s not always

very very simple and well yeah yeah

yeah I read the eleven serious pros I

you do not hide that for some

it was the purge

in any case that’s how I

design my craft today is in

does you know what happened more

half a million comparison of

programs were carried out on this

site

I was upset to see this

craze and I pass you the messages

thank you thank you now I

know who I’m going to vote for

objectively I was enlightened on

such a theme I know what is

pass on such program

it’s really different what I can

see elsewhere enough with the truth l

demanding but what is it

grateful and it’s my job to

journalist today who allows me to

tell you in any case the way that

I think it’s yours

ask to question you to speak

trains arriving at the time of

our crazy resources to change a

little the world too because we are all

able and you know so yeah yes

it’s true that this site has been

extremely carrier for me and that

finally the world it’s not white or

black

it has 7 billion 7 billion shades

for example marketing is by

wrong tool it’s rather the way

whose work one can be

questionable

use a market research for

prove that his product can be

improved for the consumer it is

rather a good idea

we agree on the other hand when he

is to use a market study

to show that his product is healthy

while other impartial studies

say it is not Sartre is

condemnable

sir monsanto with your glyphosate

that’s it you see like the

lie to a power

but the truth has much more

I have one last example after I you

leave alone

not very long ago I animated a

disability conference

heavy intellectual subject of experts

explained that we were not doing enough

pay attention to the words of the defectives

intellectuals that we did not see as the

look at each other could be

extremely penalizing and so on

with a lot of blah and blah and

then a question to be fired in the

public

question that said you ‘re talking about

give the floor back to the disabled

intellectuals but where are they on

your stands

it had been three hours we were talking

so I asked julien 32 years old to

who the chromosome 13 to play a naughty

turn to birth to come to us

join on the stage and I have him

asked just thursday m what’s this

that you remember from all that we have just

to tell oneself and in his truth to him he

told me now when someone tells me

will ask what a disability is and I

could answer him in three minutes

he made everyone agree with his

truth ali so yes it’s true I

am definitely not the journalist that

I would have been if I had been there ya

twenty years and that’s where I also

thank my father really i can him

blame

but I can also say thank you but

that my mother I want to address a

little message also today has not

very long time my mother told me

I’d love to be you

my dear mother without you I will not be

it was not you who taught me to

to make that to my heart I put a whole

little time to understand it

so it’s true that reindeer is easy

huh do not ask yourself

family determinism especially not the

paths drawn

nothing is simple but do not forget the

truth she has immense power

huge one to amaze us with

we discover questioning us

we tame also and especially

especially that of us waking up months in

stopping to lie I know today

that I am responsible for the part of

truth that I put in the world

and you, what part of truth

you are ready to put in the world

now

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