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How Strokes Affect Children | Yasmin Nazer | TEDxYouth@DAA


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[Music] my mom always used to tell me when

my mom always used to tell me when

my mom always used to tell me when there’s a room there’s always a way

there’s a room there’s always a way

there’s a room there’s always a way there’s nothing you can’t do

there’s nothing you can’t do

there’s nothing you can’t do I didn’t really understand what she

I didn’t really understand what she

I didn’t really understand what she meant at the age of five years old but

meant at the age of five years old but

meant at the age of five years old but as I grew up I started to understand the

as I grew up I started to understand the

as I grew up I started to understand the effect of being positive and having a

effect of being positive and having a

effect of being positive and having a strong royal power no matter what

strong royal power no matter what

strong royal power no matter what obstacles you faced during the course of

obstacles you faced during the course of

obstacles you faced during the course of your life I am sure you’ve heard this

your life I am sure you’ve heard this

your life I am sure you’ve heard this frequently but I have lived and survived

frequently but I have lived and survived

frequently but I have lived and survived because of these words I have stroke at

because of these words I have stroke at

because of these words I have stroke at the age of five most of you in the

the age of five most of you in the

the age of five most of you in the audience know I had an injury when I was

audience know I had an injury when I was

audience know I had an injury when I was younger well this is the story behind

younger well this is the story behind

younger well this is the story behind that injury I can’t really answer the

that injury I can’t really answer the

that injury I can’t really answer the question of how it happened because I

question of how it happened because I

question of how it happened because I truly don’t remember I don’t remember

truly don’t remember I don’t remember

truly don’t remember I don’t remember the feeling I don’t remember what I was

the feeling I don’t remember what I was

the feeling I don’t remember what I was doing the one thing I can tell you is

doing the one thing I can tell you is

doing the one thing I can tell you is what my family told me happened it was

what my family told me happened it was

what my family told me happened it was December of 2005 and we were sitting in

December of 2005 and we were sitting in

December of 2005 and we were sitting in my grandparents house and I was in my

my grandparents house and I was in my

my grandparents house and I was in my grandma’s lap and all of a sudden I

grandma’s lap and all of a sudden I

grandma’s lap and all of a sudden I became unresponsive

became unresponsive

became unresponsive they tried talking to me but still no

they tried talking to me but still no

they tried talking to me but still no response they realized something was

response they realized something was

response they realized something was wrong with me when I wouldn’t respond to

wrong with me when I wouldn’t respond to

wrong with me when I wouldn’t respond to a bar chocolate they took me to the

a bar chocolate they took me to the

a bar chocolate they took me to the emergency immediately let me go through

emergency immediately let me go through

emergency immediately let me go through several MRIs to figure out what was

several MRIs to figure out what was

several MRIs to figure out what was wrong and mean–you I had hemiplegia on

wrong and mean–you I had hemiplegia on

wrong and mean–you I had hemiplegia on the left hemisphere meaning that my

the left hemisphere meaning that my

the left hemisphere meaning that my right side was spastic and partially

right side was spastic and partially

right side was spastic and partially paralyzed because my right leg was so

paralyzed because my right leg was so

paralyzed because my right leg was so weak and the bones were so weak I

weak and the bones were so weak I

weak and the bones were so weak I developed a new way of walking which is

developed a new way of walking which is

developed a new way of walking which is quite common among children with

quite common among children with

quite common among children with hemiplegia accounts started to develop

hemiplegia accounts started to develop

hemiplegia accounts started to develop on the side of my foot by the time I was

on the side of my foot by the time I was

on the side of my foot by the time I was seven it became noticeable to the public

seven it became noticeable to the public

seven it became noticeable to the public since that point I needed to constantly

since that point I needed to constantly

since that point I needed to constantly be in a leg brace up until my first

be in a leg brace up until my first

be in a leg brace up until my first surgery on June 23rd 2010 their first

surgery on June 23rd 2010 their first

surgery on June 23rd 2010 their first leg breaks I woke him up to my knee and

leg breaks I woke him up to my knee and

leg breaks I woke him up to my knee and had rotating hinges at the ankle and

had rotating hinges at the ankle and

had rotating hinges at the ankle and when my anchor was able to form the

when my anchor was able to form the

when my anchor was able to form the right movement I then shifted to a brace

right movement I then shifted to a brace

right movement I then shifted to a brace from my ankle to the tip of my toes and

from my ankle to the tip of my toes and

from my ankle to the tip of my toes and this was all going to prevent me from

this was all going to prevent me from

this was all going to prevent me from walking on the edge of my foot my first

walking on the edge of my foot my first

walking on the edge of my foot my first surgery was a tendon transfer and tendon

surgery was a tendon transfer and tendon

surgery was a tendon transfer and tendon elongation I didn’t really know what

elongation I didn’t really know what

elongation I didn’t really know what that meant but that wasn’t the important

that meant but that wasn’t the important

that meant but that wasn’t the important part the looks I got for sitting in a

part the looks I got for sitting in a

part the looks I got for sitting in a wheelchair for six weeks were important

wheelchair for six weeks were important

wheelchair for six weeks were important they range from ingots of pity to looks

they range from ingots of pity to looks

they range from ingots of pity to looks of sympathy and anywhere in between it’s

of sympathy and anywhere in between it’s

of sympathy and anywhere in between it’s when you’re in those situations that you

when you’re in those situations that you

when you’re in those situations that you really begin to notice the facial

really begin to notice the facial

really begin to notice the facial expressions and what they all mean

expressions and what they all mean

expressions and what they all mean it made me feel useless and hopeless

it made me feel useless and hopeless

it made me feel useless and hopeless I’ll care about the cast removed and

I’ll care about the cast removed and

I’ll care about the cast removed and rehabilitation begun you’re not to paint

rehabilitation begun you’re not to paint

rehabilitation begun you’re not to paint I have to go through was realize you to

I have to go through was realize you to

I have to go through was realize you to be insurmountable during recovery I had

be insurmountable during recovery I had

be insurmountable during recovery I had to wear leg length brace just to keep my

to wear leg length brace just to keep my

to wear leg length brace just to keep my knee from bending and allow my foot time

knee from bending and allow my foot time

knee from bending and allow my foot time to recover

to recover

to recover then leg brace unfortunately was

then leg brace unfortunately was

then leg brace unfortunately was uncomfortable it made me sweat quite a

uncomfortable it made me sweat quite a

uncomfortable it made me sweat quite a bit and I hated it from the minute I

bit and I hated it from the minute I

bit and I hated it from the minute I wore it but there was no way out of it

wore it but there was no way out of it

wore it but there was no way out of it so I stuck with it not only was I

so I stuck with it not only was I

so I stuck with it not only was I supposed to have physical strength to

supposed to have physical strength to

supposed to have physical strength to keep up with the pain but I also needed

keep up with the pain but I also needed

keep up with the pain but I also needed the mental strength which at certain

the mental strength which at certain

the mental strength which at certain points I doubted I even had to begin

points I doubted I even had to begin

points I doubted I even had to begin with for children one of the most common

with for children one of the most common

with for children one of the most common questions asked is why me why don’t I

questions asked is why me why don’t I

questions asked is why me why don’t I have to be the one to go through so it

have to be the one to go through so it

have to be the one to go through so it could have been anyone else in the world

could have been anyone else in the world

could have been anyone else in the world the amount of years I spent thinking

the amount of years I spent thinking

the amount of years I spent thinking about these questions I’ve only just hit

about these questions I’ve only just hit

about these questions I’ve only just hit my revelatory moment and this revelation

my revelatory moment and this revelation

my revelatory moment and this revelation is something worth sharing as anyone

is something worth sharing as anyone

is something worth sharing as anyone with a stroke can definitely relate the

with a stroke can definitely relate the

with a stroke can definitely relate the reason is no more than that the world

reason is no more than that the world

reason is no more than that the world wants to show you what you can do nice

wants to show you what you can do nice

wants to show you what you can do nice to emphasize you the incredible amount

to emphasize you the incredible amount

to emphasize you the incredible amount of strength that you have strokes in my

of strength that you have strokes in my

of strength that you have strokes in my perspective are tests for two things

perspective are tests for two things

perspective are tests for two things perseverance and endurance how much pain

perseverance and endurance how much pain

perseverance and endurance how much pain can you injure

can you injure

can you injure how much can you push before letting

how much can you push before letting

how much can you push before letting life drown you the more you fight the

life drown you the more you fight the

life drown you the more you fight the better you’ll feel about yourself and

better you’ll feel about yourself and

better you’ll feel about yourself and for those that have gone through a

for those that have gone through a

for those that have gone through a stroke or something similar to it you

stroke or something similar to it you

stroke or something similar to it you know that feeling of victory that

know that feeling of victory that

know that feeling of victory that feeling in your heart that you did

feeling in your heart that you did

feeling in your heart that you did something today that you couldn’t do the

something today that you couldn’t do the

something today that you couldn’t do the day before is astounding and definitely

day before is astounding and definitely

day before is astounding and definitely a sponsor to me each time it may be

a sponsor to me each time it may be

a sponsor to me each time it may be something so small such as moving one

something so small such as moving one

something so small such as moving one toe up and down if I could make the

toe up and down if I could make the

toe up and down if I could make the entire audience feel the way I did after

entire audience feel the way I did after

entire audience feel the way I did after I took my first step after my first

I took my first step after my first

I took my first step after my first surgery I would without hesitation it’s

surgery I would without hesitation it’s

surgery I would without hesitation it’s mesmerizing that’s the only word I can

mesmerizing that’s the only word I can

mesmerizing that’s the only word I can use to describe it you feel flooded with

use to describe it you feel flooded with

use to describe it you feel flooded with joy and your heart couldn’t beat any

joy and your heart couldn’t beat any

joy and your heart couldn’t beat any faster you’re at the same time you’re

faster you’re at the same time you’re

faster you’re at the same time you’re relieved all those exercises that you

relieved all those exercises that you

relieved all those exercises that you viewed as useless and weren’t doing you

viewed as useless and weren’t doing you

viewed as useless and weren’t doing you any good but you did them anyway well

any good but you did them anyway well

any good but you did them anyway well they finally paid off you’ve done it

they finally paid off you’ve done it

they finally paid off you’ve done it what you you doesn’t possible day before

what you you doesn’t possible day before

what you you doesn’t possible day before and that feeling is the most rewarding

and that feeling is the most rewarding

and that feeling is the most rewarding feeling in the world

feeling in the world

feeling in the world those moment

those moment

those moment are crucial children the thing is

are crucial children the thing is

are crucial children the thing is children won’t see themselves improving

children won’t see themselves improving

children won’t see themselves improving they don’t want to stay stuck in that

they don’t want to stay stuck in that

they don’t want to stay stuck in that same mindset with the same future the

same mindset with the same future the

same mindset with the same future the one they have now a stroke is something

one they have now a stroke is something

one they have now a stroke is something that has such a large impact at such a

that has such a large impact at such a

that has such a large impact at such a young age it does rarely talks about or

young age it does rarely talks about or

young age it does rarely talks about or discussed I want to break the barrier

discussed I want to break the barrier

discussed I want to break the barrier that’s preventing us from talking about

that’s preventing us from talking about

that’s preventing us from talking about her being proud about it the way I see

her being proud about it the way I see

her being proud about it the way I see it is that by talking about my stroke

it is that by talking about my stroke

it is that by talking about my stroke I’m making myself the victim and putting

I’m making myself the victim and putting

I’m making myself the victim and putting myself at center of attention I hate

myself at center of attention I hate

myself at center of attention I hate that feeling so much because my story

that feeling so much because my story

that feeling so much because my story just like all other children who have

just like all other children who have

just like all other children who have suffered like I have is not a pity story

suffered like I have is not a pity story

suffered like I have is not a pity story it’s a story of strength and success I

it’s a story of strength and success I

it’s a story of strength and success I don’t live this view I don’t have this

don’t live this view I don’t have this

don’t live this view I don’t have this feeling it’s similar among children with

feeling it’s similar among children with

feeling it’s similar among children with had strokes I feel like I tell people

had strokes I feel like I tell people

had strokes I feel like I tell people about my stroke will be what defines me

about my stroke will be what defines me

about my stroke will be what defines me whenever people look at me they’ll

whenever people look at me they’ll

whenever people look at me they’ll immediately associate me with strokes

immediately associate me with strokes

immediately associate me with strokes and that’s what I want to avoid because

and that’s what I want to avoid because

and that’s what I want to avoid because when you call someone a bird you’re

when you call someone a bird you’re

when you call someone a bird you’re subconsciously making him or her

subconsciously making him or her

subconsciously making him or her inferior to you and I don’t want that

inferior to you and I don’t want that

inferior to you and I don’t want that because strokes truly show what a person

because strokes truly show what a person

because strokes truly show what a person can do with determination and willpower

can do with determination and willpower

can do with determination and willpower belief in myself was one of the main

belief in myself was one of the main

belief in myself was one of the main things that got me through it all I used

things that got me through it all I used

things that got me through it all I used to think I was the only one to go

to think I was the only one to go

to think I was the only one to go through it and I’m sure other children

through it and I’m sure other children

through it and I’m sure other children used to or to this day think the same

used to or to this day think the same

used to or to this day think the same thing it was only till the end of 2015

thing it was only till the end of 2015

thing it was only till the end of 2015 that I realized it I feel like I owe

that I realized it I feel like I owe

that I realized it I feel like I owe this realization to all the children who

this realization to all the children who

this realization to all the children who are suffering you are not alone it may

are suffering you are not alone it may

are suffering you are not alone it may feel like you’re isolated and have no

feel like you’re isolated and have no

feel like you’re isolated and have no one around you who relates to what

one around you who relates to what

one around you who relates to what you’re going through but you have people

you’re going through but you have people

you’re going through but you have people who support you and that’s worth so much

who support you and that’s worth so much

who support you and that’s worth so much more and you’ll begin to realize that

more and you’ll begin to realize that

more and you’ll begin to realize that when people are positive around you

when people are positive around you

when people are positive around you their positivity will be reflected in

their positivity will be reflected in

their positivity will be reflected in everything you do it’s not the physical

everything you do it’s not the physical

everything you do it’s not the physical movement that hurts it’s the loneliness

movement that hurts it’s the loneliness

movement that hurts it’s the loneliness that accompanies it

that accompanies it

that accompanies it 12 the children who have faced what I

12 the children who have faced what I

12 the children who have faced what I faced and worse

faced and worse

faced and worse you can survive it and when you do

you can survive it and when you do

you can survive it and when you do things the world doesn’t expect from you

things the world doesn’t expect from you

things the world doesn’t expect from you you will thrive and empower the people

you will thrive and empower the people

you will thrive and empower the people around you

since my fourth surgery in 2014 I worked

since my fourth surgery in 2014 I worked hard to gain the muscle that wasn’t

hard to gain the muscle that wasn’t

hard to gain the muscle that wasn’t missing when I was younger it started

missing when I was younger it started

missing when I was younger it started out with bodyweight exercises I used to

out with bodyweight exercises I used to

out with bodyweight exercises I used to do in physiotherapy it involved a lot

do in physiotherapy it involved a lot

do in physiotherapy it involved a lot stretching and was made especially for

stretching and was made especially for

stretching and was made especially for children with lack of mobility after one

children with lack of mobility after one

children with lack of mobility after one year physiotherapy my therapist told me

year physiotherapy my therapist told me

year physiotherapy my therapist told me I was too strong to come back and that’s

I was too strong to come back and that’s

I was too strong to come back and that’s when I started personal training

personal training was rigorous and

personal training was rigorous and that’s what most people don’t enjoy

that’s what most people don’t enjoy

that’s what most people don’t enjoy about it I loved it it made me get that

about it I loved it it made me get that

about it I loved it it made me get that feeling of achieving the impossible but

feeling of achieving the impossible but

feeling of achieving the impossible but I guess you could say I’m addicted to so

I guess you could say I’m addicted to so

I guess you could say I’m addicted to so I continued with it I then began

I continued with it I then began

I continued with it I then began weightlifting which mean we feel like I

weightlifting which mean we feel like I

weightlifting which mean we feel like I could do anything because I had the

could do anything because I had the

could do anything because I had the strength to weightless it started out

strength to weightless it started out

strength to weightless it started out with bicep curls I used to do with two

with bicep curls I used to do with two

with bicep curls I used to do with two kgs in each hand another did the more my

kgs in each hand another did the more my

kgs in each hand another did the more my work for weight lifting increased I

work for weight lifting increased I

work for weight lifting increased I ended up being able to do seven pull-ups

ended up being able to do seven pull-ups

ended up being able to do seven pull-ups after four years of personal training

after four years of personal training

after four years of personal training which I couldn’t be happier about I can

which I couldn’t be happier about I can

which I couldn’t be happier about I can also not do twelve bicep curls 15 kg

also not do twelve bicep curls 15 kg

also not do twelve bicep curls 15 kg weights which may not seem like a lot to

weights which may not seem like a lot to

weights which may not seem like a lot to you

you

you but it is to me and that’s all that

but it is to me and that’s all that

but it is to me and that’s all that matters in the end to keep myself from

matters in the end to keep myself from

matters in the end to keep myself from becoming weak again I played basketball

becoming weak again I played basketball

becoming weak again I played basketball all the time especially in between

all the time especially in between

all the time especially in between training sessions every year I go to

training sessions every year I go to

training sessions every year I go to school basketball tryouts for the past

school basketball tryouts for the past

school basketball tryouts for the past six years and every year they make their

six years and every year they make their

six years and every year they make their list of names accepted and my name is

list of names accepted and my name is

list of names accepted and my name is never one of those names nevertheless I

never one of those names nevertheless I

never one of those names nevertheless I continue to go because I believe in the

continue to go because I believe in the

continue to go because I believe in the fact that you miss every shot you don’t

fact that you miss every shot you don’t

fact that you miss every shot you don’t take the slightest chance that I might

take the slightest chance that I might

take the slightest chance that I might make it it’s still a chance no matter

make it it’s still a chance no matter

make it it’s still a chance no matter how small it is this year I’ve made it

how small it is this year I’ve made it

how small it is this year I’ve made it and I couldn’t be happier to be a part

and I couldn’t be happier to be a part

and I couldn’t be happier to be a part of it

I’m the manager of the 2016-2017 varsity

I’m the manager of the 2016-2017 varsity girls basketball team and was also lucky

girls basketball team and was also lucky

girls basketball team and was also lucky enough to get the chance to play with

enough to get the chance to play with

enough to get the chance to play with them at one of our away games which I

them at one of our away games which I

them at one of our away games which I couldn’t be more honored to be a part of

couldn’t be more honored to be a part of

couldn’t be more honored to be a part of if I didn’t have the stroke I wouldn’t

if I didn’t have the stroke I wouldn’t

if I didn’t have the stroke I wouldn’t be able to do what I do today so I’m not

be able to do what I do today so I’m not

be able to do what I do today so I’m not ashamed of it instead I’m proud of it

ashamed of it instead I’m proud of it

ashamed of it instead I’m proud of it and proud to say I had a stroke giving

and proud to say I had a stroke giving

and proud to say I had a stroke giving quotes from people who had an impact on

quotes from people who had an impact on

quotes from people who had an impact on me may change the way you look at your

me may change the way you look at your

me may change the way you look at your life as it definitely changed the way I

life as it definitely changed the way I

life as it definitely changed the way I look at mine the one quote I’ve held on

look at mine the one quote I’ve held on

look at mine the one quote I’ve held on since this experience began was it’s not

since this experience began was it’s not

since this experience began was it’s not the mode that breaks you down it’s the

the mode that breaks you down it’s the

the mode that breaks you down it’s the way you carry it there are people in

way you carry it there are people in

way you carry it there are people in this world will tell you you’re not good

this world will tell you you’re not good

this world will tell you you’re not good enough when you’re feeling unstoppable

enough when you’re feeling unstoppable

enough when you’re feeling unstoppable well they can doubt yourself when you’ve

well they can doubt yourself when you’ve

well they can doubt yourself when you’ve never felt more grounded or more certain

never felt more grounded or more certain

never felt more grounded or more certain how you react is what creates you what

how you react is what creates you what

how you react is what creates you what people are seeing you what defines you

people are seeing you what defines you

people are seeing you what defines you for this reason be positive and show the

for this reason be positive and show the

for this reason be positive and show the world what you’re made of because I know

world what you’re made of because I know

world what you’re made of because I know that every single one of you has

that every single one of you has

that every single one of you has strengths just like I did and every

strengths just like I did and every

strengths just like I did and every single person in this room has the

single person in this room has the

single person in this room has the potential to live an outstanding life

potential to live an outstanding life

potential to live an outstanding life all it takes is one step thank you

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