Am I a real man? | Andrew Riad | TEDxYouth@DAA

so all the men sitting in the audience

so all the men sitting in the audience here today I have some things to tell

here today I have some things to tell

here today I have some things to tell you never be a man don’t be such a girl

you never be a man don’t be such a girl

you never be a man don’t be such a girl have you ever been told to do or to be

have you ever been told to do or to be

have you ever been told to do or to be any of those phrases when you were

any of those phrases when you were

any of those phrases when you were younger

younger

younger perhaps when you fell on the stairs sort

perhaps when you fell on the stairs sort

perhaps when you fell on the stairs sort of crying or when you’re frustrated

of crying or when you’re frustrated

of crying or when you’re frustrated started crying

started crying

started crying well these are some of the phrases that

well these are some of the phrases that

well these are some of the phrases that I had picked from a plentiful staff of

I had picked from a plentiful staff of

I had picked from a plentiful staff of soul-shattering ego damaging

soul-shattering ego damaging

soul-shattering ego damaging constructions built in today’s society

constructions built in today’s society

constructions built in today’s society these phrases feminized emotional

these phrases feminized emotional

these phrases feminized emotional expression in masculinized violence and

expression in masculinized violence and

expression in masculinized violence and dominance and error of the particular

dominance and error of the particular

dominance and error of the particular has an unrealistic Commission for

has an unrealistic Commission for

has an unrealistic Commission for masculinity every day there are young

masculinity every day there are young

masculinity every day there are young boys and men that feel inferior because

boys and men that feel inferior because

boys and men that feel inferior because they don’t comply to this status quo

they don’t comply to this status quo

they don’t comply to this status quo their world has this misconception of

their world has this misconception of

their world has this misconception of the general evil male is prohibited from

the general evil male is prohibited from

the general evil male is prohibited from expressing emotions is prohibited

expressing emotions is prohibited

expressing emotions is prohibited continuum to Parsons or impotent from

continuum to Parsons or impotent from

continuum to Parsons or impotent from expressing themselves individuals there

expressing themselves individuals there

expressing themselves individuals there are young boys and men that are forced

are young boys and men that are forced

are young boys and men that are forced to be hyper masculine and I hope it’s

to be hyper masculine and I hope it’s

to be hyper masculine and I hope it’s okay if I can speak on behalf their

okay if I can speak on behalf their

okay if I can speak on behalf their population when I say that being a man

population when I say that being a man

population when I say that being a man in today’s society is unfortunately

in today’s society is unfortunately

in today’s society is unfortunately being the stereotypical man the Magnum

being the stereotypical man the Magnum

being the stereotypical man the Magnum is dominant shows their weaknesses not

is dominant shows their weaknesses not

is dominant shows their weaknesses not expressed emotions and is always the one

expressed emotions and is always the one

expressed emotions and is always the one that supports the hospital I believe

that supports the hospital I believe

that supports the hospital I believe that the Arab world house and

that the Arab world house and

that the Arab world house and misunderstood idea of what a man is that

misunderstood idea of what a man is that

misunderstood idea of what a man is that I believe is not only false but also

I believe is not only false but also

I believe is not only false but also harmful now in their signing I believe

harmful now in their signing I believe

harmful now in their signing I believe that there are three thresholds to pass

that there are three thresholds to pass

that there are three thresholds to pass to qualify as a real event and this

to qualify as a real event and this

to qualify as a real event and this threshold starts during childhood and

threshold starts during childhood and

threshold starts during childhood and the time when these young boys and our

the time when these young boys and our

the time when these young boys and our women are supposed to be real mad is the

women are supposed to be real mad is the

women are supposed to be real mad is the Thailand toys and media are aggressively

Thailand toys and media are aggressively

Thailand toys and media are aggressively targeted towards boys limiting their

targeted towards boys limiting their

targeted towards boys limiting their options for example next to me our

options for example next to me our

options for example next to me our thoughts were cause for girl toys and

thoughts were cause for girl toys and

thoughts were cause for girl toys and workouts for a boy to us look at the

workouts for a boy to us look at the

workouts for a boy to us look at the word cut for a boy twisted let that sink

word cut for a boy twisted let that sink

word cut for a boy twisted let that sink in the use of these demanding violent

in the use of these demanding violent

in the use of these demanding violent superior words influence boys from a

superior words influence boys from a

superior words influence boys from a young age for example when you think of

young age for example when you think of

young age for example when you think of a pink fluffy diary

a pink fluffy diary

a pink fluffy diary who do you think naturally would be

who do you think naturally would be

who do you think naturally would be targeted towards for girls for little

targeted towards for girls for little

targeted towards for girls for little girls as soon as you pick up things and

girls as soon as you pick up things and

girls as soon as you pick up things and plate emotions worse feminized society

plate emotions worse feminized society

plate emotions worse feminized society constructus toys such as pink fluffy

constructus toys such as pink fluffy

constructus toys such as pink fluffy diaries for girls to them for girls to

diaries for girls to them for girls to

diaries for girls to them for girls to write down their emotions but no means

write down their emotions but no means

write down their emotions but no means for boys to rap no means for boys to

for boys to rap no means for boys to

for boys to rap no means for boys to attempt no means for boys to write down

attempt no means for boys to write down

attempt no means for boys to write down or to express their emotions and this

or to express their emotions and this

or to express their emotions and this influence but also boys perceptions and

influence but also boys perceptions and

influence but also boys perceptions and understandings from gender roles they

understandings from gender roles they

understandings from gender roles they now understand the woman should say the

now understand the woman should say the

now understand the woman should say the house should cook clean to remember the

house should cook clean to remember the

house should cook clean to remember the house and the kids while they the men

house and the kids while they the men

house and the kids while they the men take power control and provide for the

take power control and provide for the

take power control and provide for the family so not only is this influence

family so not only is this influence

family so not only is this influence affecting boys and just boys but it is

affecting boys and just boys but it is

affecting boys and just boys but it is adding to the already bias inequality

adding to the already bias inequality

adding to the already bias inequality among genders an appearance in erbil

among genders an appearance in erbil

among genders an appearance in erbil don’t make any easier if they see boys

don’t make any easier if they see boys

don’t make any easier if they see boys in any final screen with other girls

in any final screen with other girls

in any final screen with other girls they’ll pass it off as a home boys will

they’ll pass it off as a home boys will

they’ll pass it off as a home boys will be boys but this encouragement only

be boys but this encouragement only

be boys but this encouragement only makes the phone cane for boys to feel an

makes the phone cane for boys to feel an

makes the phone cane for boys to feel an act this week and in the long run will

act this week and in the long run will

act this week and in the long run will lead them to objectify females

lead them to objectify females

lead them to objectify females excessively yeah for those of these are

excessively yeah for those of these are

excessively yeah for those of these are know me I’m Egyptian born and raised and

know me I’m Egyptian born and raised and

know me I’m Egyptian born and raised and another big aspect of this special is

another big aspect of this special is

another big aspect of this special is sports in Egypt as

sports in Egypt as

sports in Egypt as arrow broke in his football it is how

arrow broke in his football it is how

arrow broke in his football it is how packs are making guy friends is how boy

packs are making guy friends is how boy

packs are making guy friends is how boy is know what it is to socialize with

is know what it is to socialize with

is know what it is to socialize with other boys and growing up I didn’t

other boys and growing up I didn’t

other boys and growing up I didn’t really play football I mean I liked and

really play football I mean I liked and

really play football I mean I liked and I still try to do but I was never really

I still try to do but I was never really

I still try to do but I was never really good at it so I never they gave me a try

good at it so I never they gave me a try

good at it so I never they gave me a try and I know that we dine aside my father

and I know that we dine aside my father

and I know that we dine aside my father would have loved singling football games

would have loved singling football games

would have loved singling football games or would have loved to play football me

or would have loved to play football me

or would have loved to play football me constantly and we did go and just some

constantly and we did go and just some

constantly and we did go and just some of those things sometimes but I found

of those things sometimes but I found

of those things sometimes but I found myself happy to conform to the flirt but

myself happy to conform to the flirt but

myself happy to conform to the flirt but was not in town my father did not

was not in town my father did not

was not in town my father did not pressuring me to go what food blogging

pressuring me to go what food blogging

pressuring me to go what food blogging as my father did oppress me to go play

as my father did oppress me to go play

as my father did oppress me to go play football crossing or watch football

football crossing or watch football

football crossing or watch football my father let me become the man I am

my father let me become the man I am

my father let me become the man I am today but I wanted to go watch football

today but I wanted to go watch football

today but I wanted to go watch football I wanted to go play football and not of

I wanted to go play football and not of

I wanted to go play football and not of my interest for the sport but because I

my interest for the sport but because I

my interest for the sport but because I wanted to fit in I did not want to Sam

wanted to fit in I did not want to Sam

wanted to fit in I did not want to Sam how I wanted to hide my emotions in my

how I wanted to hide my emotions in my

how I wanted to hide my emotions in my interests I could fit in I wanted to be

interests I could fit in I wanted to be

interests I could fit in I wanted to be one with the guys

one with the guys

one with the guys now as soon as boys passes for

now as soon as boys passes for

now as soon as boys passes for especially hunter threshold to Emilia

especially hunter threshold to Emilia

especially hunter threshold to Emilia 20s to early 30s men that have a decent

20s to early 30s men that have a decent

20s to early 30s men that have a decent job and a good income boost their egos

job and a good income boost their egos

job and a good income boost their egos from your success at work on to others

from your success at work on to others

from your success at work on to others out of the workplace such as family and

out of the workplace such as family and

out of the workplace such as family and friends they begin in the their

friends they begin in the their

friends they begin in the their profession success means that they are

profession success means that they are

profession success means that they are above women even though the facts say

above women even though the facts say

above women even though the facts say otherwise

otherwise

otherwise female EDC rates in our world are fairly

female EDC rates in our world are fairly

female EDC rates in our world are fairly equal to those of men and the amount of

equal to those of men and the amount of

equal to those of men and the amount of female college graduates are also

female college graduates are also

female college graduates are also Israeli qoodles of men was 5.1 million

Israeli qoodles of men was 5.1 million

Israeli qoodles of men was 5.1 million women as opposed to only 5 million men

women as opposed to only 5 million men

women as opposed to only 5 million men and even more so females are acquiring

and even more so females are acquiring

and even more so females are acquiring all this feels necessary to beat the

all this feels necessary to beat the

all this feels necessary to beat the boys in the hard sciences and the

boys in the hard sciences and the

boys in the hard sciences and the technology and engineering so why don’t

technology and engineering so why don’t

technology and engineering so why don’t they have as much professional

they have as much professional

they have as much professional success dancer is simple it’s myself

success dancer is simple it’s myself

success dancer is simple it’s myself unfortunately in our society perception

unfortunately in our society perception

unfortunately in our society perception Trump’s reality men perceive women as

Trump’s reality men perceive women as

Trump’s reality men perceive women as lesser beings

lesser beings

lesser beings why because of threshold one

why because of threshold one

why because of threshold one these men are brainwashed and were

these men are brainwashed and were

these men are brainwashed and were programmed to thinking that they are

programmed to thinking that they are

programmed to thinking that they are above the limit even though the facts

above the limit even though the facts

above the limit even though the facts say otherwise

say otherwise

say otherwise now freshly this is when the man has a

now freshly this is when the man has a

now freshly this is when the man has a family or kids and two protection

family or kids and two protection

family or kids and two protection structures wife and kids with

structures wife and kids with

structures wife and kids with economically the support of the family

economically the support of the family

economically the support of the family he is a true man he is a real man rarely

he is a true man he is a real man rarely

he is a true man he is a real man rarely did you see my society the man and a

did you see my society the man and a

did you see my society the man and a woman the husband and wife working

woman the husband and wife working

woman the husband and wife working together simultaneously to support the

together simultaneously to support the

together simultaneously to support the founding of the source of income and

founding of the source of income and

founding of the source of income and never ever do you see a state among that

never ever do you see a state among that

never ever do you see a state among that this is because this idea and this

this is because this idea and this

this is because this idea and this notion of the woman of the life of the

notion of the woman of the life of the

notion of the woman of the life of the inferior being to go out as the

inferior being to go out as the

inferior being to go out as the worthless family economically is

worthless family economically is

worthless family economically is non-existent in my society it makes them

non-existent in my society it makes them

non-existent in my society it makes them not feel emasculated actually we met a

not feel emasculated actually we met a

not feel emasculated actually we met a woman in white society star-forming

woman in white society star-forming

woman in white society star-forming founding when a man is ready and when

founding when a man is ready and when

founding when a man is ready and when the man is capable of reviving the

the man is capable of reviving the

the man is capable of reviving the founders was a people but we need to

founders was a people but we need to

founders was a people but we need to look is from bigger school we don’t

look is from bigger school we don’t

look is from bigger school we don’t understand was a true definition of a

understand was a true definition of a

understand was a true definition of a man is nowadays men tend to follow other

man is nowadays men tend to follow other

man is nowadays men tend to follow other men what I mean by this is that medicine

men what I mean by this is that medicine

men what I mean by this is that medicine to put on this mask I pretend to be

to put on this mask I pretend to be

to put on this mask I pretend to be someone they aren’t for the sake of

someone they aren’t for the sake of

someone they aren’t for the sake of fitting in and that is an issue but the

fitting in and that is an issue but the

fitting in and that is an issue but the bigger issue is if you are a man and you

bigger issue is if you are a man and you

bigger issue is if you are a man and you don’t abide by the status quo if you’re

don’t abide by the status quo if you’re

don’t abide by the status quo if you’re outside this man lobstermen

outside this man lobstermen

outside this man lobstermen entrance there there are some serious

entrance there there are some serious

entrance there there are some serious psychological

psychological

psychological consequences that can be seen on a daily

consequences that can be seen on a daily

consequences that can be seen on a daily basis crimes such as rape domestic

basis crimes such as rape domestic

basis crimes such as rape domestic violence sexual assault are dominantly

violence sexual assault are dominantly

violence sexual assault are dominantly deformed by them according to the study

deformed by them according to the study

deformed by them according to the study published in Gotham University 63% of

published in Gotham University 63% of

published in Gotham University 63% of melee list sedimentary ping and

melee list sedimentary ping and

melee list sedimentary ping and mentoring being more than once

mentoring being more than once

mentoring being more than once accordions refuge from org 95% of

accordions refuge from org 95% of

accordions refuge from org 95% of domestic violence acts are committed by

domestic violence acts are committed by

domestic violence acts are committed by men according to a study published

men according to a study published

men according to a study published University of Michigan 99% of sexual

University of Michigan 99% of sexual

University of Michigan 99% of sexual abusers perpetrate as an assault are men

abusers perpetrate as an assault are men

abusers perpetrate as an assault are men all these crimes derived from the

all these crimes derived from the

all these crimes derived from the restriction of an elaborate acceptance

restriction of an elaborate acceptance

restriction of an elaborate acceptance of emotional why because men can’t cry

of emotional why because men can’t cry

of emotional why because men can’t cry eat cannot express emotions because

eat cannot express emotions because

eat cannot express emotions because leading men masculinity and femininity

leading men masculinity and femininity

leading men masculinity and femininity are both traits than men and women can

are both traits than men and women can

are both traits than men and women can acquire the d’Urbervilles in spectrum if

acquire the d’Urbervilles in spectrum if

acquire the d’Urbervilles in spectrum if there’s an extreme masters of instant

there’s an extreme masters of instant

there’s an extreme masters of instant and extreme delimited on this time you

and extreme delimited on this time you

and extreme delimited on this time you met a woman can be here here here or

met a woman can be here here here or

met a woman can be here here here or here for example according to idea I

here for example according to idea I

here for example according to idea I would be here because I love theater I

would be here because I love theater I

would be here because I love theater I love poetry I love acting although so

love poetry I love acting although so

love poetry I love acting although so many things the society says to feminine

many things the society says to feminine

many things the society says to feminine or to our Superman but since 200 a man’s

or to our Superman but since 200 a man’s

or to our Superman but since 200 a man’s interest Nicodemus masks and since when

interest Nicodemus masks and since when

interest Nicodemus masks and since when did a man’s lack of interest in the

did a man’s lack of interest in the

did a man’s lack of interest in the sport make him any less masculine

sport make him any less masculine

sport make him any less masculine masculinity is individuality but as a

masculinity is individuality but as a

masculinity is individuality but as a society we constructed this invisible

society we constructed this invisible

society we constructed this invisible pressure

pressure

pressure imposing on points in graininess idea

imposing on points in graininess idea

imposing on points in graininess idea math students in their heads

math students in their heads

math students in their heads creating identical molds no room for

creating identical molds no room for

creating identical molds no room for creativity no room for individuality

masculinity is individuality I am NOT

masculinity is individuality I am NOT any less of a man that my friend his

any less of a man that my friend his

any less of a man that my friend his violent behaviors the nine friend

violent behaviors the nine friend

violent behaviors the nine friend who plays all kinds of sports we created

who plays all kinds of sports we created

who plays all kinds of sports we created this invisible pressure and we can tear

this invisible pressure and we can tear

this invisible pressure and we can tear it down

it down

it down but it’s up to us to alter the sasada

but it’s up to us to alter the sasada

but it’s up to us to alter the sasada expectation so instead of expecting

expectation so instead of expecting

expectation so instead of expecting something from us accept who we are

something from us accept who we are

something from us accept who we are thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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