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How NOT to propose to your girlfriend? | Revant Himatsingka | TEDxBIMTECH


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[Music] so two years ago I did something really

so two years ago I did something really

so two years ago I did something really crazy I spent six months studying day

crazy I spent six months studying day

crazy I spent six months studying day and night for the I am entrance exams I

and night for the I am entrance exams I

and night for the I am entrance exams I did pretty well and I somehow got into I

did pretty well and I somehow got into I

did pretty well and I somehow got into I am Bangalore and then out of nowhere I

am Bangalore and then out of nowhere I

am Bangalore and then out of nowhere I decided not to go why because I wanted

decided not to go why because I wanted

decided not to go why because I wanted to write a self-help comedy book

to write a self-help comedy book

to write a self-help comedy book inspired by AIB and tvf with hashtags

inspired by AIB and tvf with hashtags

inspired by AIB and tvf with hashtags and memes in spite of having no writing

and memes in spite of having no writing

and memes in spite of having no writing background so just imagine how

background so just imagine how

background so just imagine how ridiculous my ideas seemed that I wanted

ridiculous my ideas seemed that I wanted

ridiculous my ideas seemed that I wanted to quit my job in New York I wanted to

to quit my job in New York I wanted to

to quit my job in New York I wanted to leave I am to write a book with having

leave I am to write a book with having

leave I am to write a book with having no writing background and my friends and

no writing background and my friends and

no writing background and my friends and family could never understand how anyone

family could never understand how anyone

family could never understand how anyone could be smart enough to get into I am

could be smart enough to get into I am

could be smart enough to get into I am Bangalore but stupid enough not to go

Bangalore but stupid enough not to go

Bangalore but stupid enough not to go and I tried to convince them that you

and I tried to convince them that you

and I tried to convince them that you know all the big successful people that

know all the big successful people that

know all the big successful people that we heard of Mark Zuckerberg Steve Jobs

we heard of Mark Zuckerberg Steve Jobs

we heard of Mark Zuckerberg Steve Jobs they all dropouts and I’m going one step

they all dropouts and I’m going one step

they all dropouts and I’m going one step further not even dropping out I’m not

further not even dropping out I’m not

further not even dropping out I’m not even going in the first place and my mom

even going in the first place and my mom

even going in the first place and my mom was the only person who was supportive

was the only person who was supportive

was the only person who was supportive in the entire journey and she told me

in the entire journey and she told me

in the entire journey and she told me beta if you go too I am will become like

beta if you go too I am will become like

beta if you go too I am will become like the other I am authors and we all know

the other I am authors and we all know

the other I am authors and we all know the kind of books the other I am authors

the kind of books the other I am authors

the kind of books the other I am authors right

so so don’t go do I am and this made me

so so don’t go do I am and this made me really think and really question did I

really think and really question did I

really think and really question did I make the right decision by not going to

make the right decision by not going to

make the right decision by not going to I am

I am

I am and after some introspection and

and after some introspection and

and after some introspection and research I realized I made the right

research I realized I made the right

research I realized I made the right decision

decision

decision I am the great of course but a large

I am the great of course but a large

I am the great of course but a large part of the reason why we consider them

part of the reason why we consider them

part of the reason why we consider them to be so prestigious is because of how

to be so prestigious is because of how

to be so prestigious is because of how difficult it is to receive an admission

difficult it is to receive an admission

difficult it is to receive an admission offer rather than the quality of

offer rather than the quality of

offer rather than the quality of education they provide I don’t remember

education they provide I don’t remember

education they provide I don’t remember the last time I heard someone saying man

the last time I heard someone saying man

the last time I heard someone saying man I really wanted to study at I am because

I really wanted to study at I am because

I really wanted to study at I am because I will learn a lot it’s always because

I will learn a lot it’s always because

I will learn a lot it’s always because of either a job or because of the brand

of either a job or because of the brand

of either a job or because of the brand associated with I am which is entirely

associated with I am which is entirely

associated with I am which is entirely because of how difficult it is to

because of how difficult it is to

because of how difficult it is to receive an admission offer and this sort

receive an admission offer and this sort

receive an admission offer and this sort of mentality is prevalent amongst

of mentality is prevalent amongst

of mentality is prevalent amongst Indians and V Indians we like to equate

Indians and V Indians we like to equate

Indians and V Indians we like to equate hard with useful and the more difficult

hard with useful and the more difficult

hard with useful and the more difficult something is the more people run behind

something is the more people run behind

something is the more people run behind it and this is also why all our courses

it and this is also why all our courses

it and this is also why all our courses in our schools I usually tend to be

in our schools I usually tend to be

in our schools I usually tend to be difficult rather than useful in school I

difficult rather than useful in school I

difficult rather than useful in school I extensively learned about integration

extensively learned about integration

extensively learned about integration and differentiation it was like torture

and differentiation it was like torture

and differentiation it was like torture for me but still I somehow survived and

for me but still I somehow survived and

for me but still I somehow survived and I have had multiple job since college

I have had multiple job since college

I have had multiple job since college but I’m still waiting for the day when I

but I’m still waiting for the day when I

but I’m still waiting for the day when I had to apply integration in real life

had to apply integration in real life

had to apply integration in real life thousands of years of Indian history

thousands of years of Indian history

thousands of years of Indian history have been reduced to memorizing facts

have been reduced to memorizing facts

have been reduced to memorizing facts about three to four individuals like

about three to four individuals like

about three to four individuals like Mahatma Gandhi Shah Jahan upper like

Mahatma Gandhi Shah Jahan upper like

Mahatma Gandhi Shah Jahan upper like fifty percent of my history syllabus was

fifty percent of my history syllabus was

fifty percent of my history syllabus was about the Mughal period I can probably

about the Mughal period I can probably

about the Mughal period I can probably tell you the name of the nightclub Akbar

tell you the name of the nightclub Akbar

tell you the name of the nightclub Akbar was partying at on his 21st birthday but

was partying at on his 21st birthday but

was partying at on his 21st birthday but I have no clue about what happened in

I have no clue about what happened in

I have no clue about what happened in the 1950s and 1960s if we can learn

the 1950s and 1960s if we can learn

the 1950s and 1960s if we can learn about the Mughal period differentiation

about the Mughal period differentiation

about the Mughal period differentiation integration in so much detail why can’t

integration in so much detail why can’t

integration in so much detail why can’t we learn more life relevant skills like

we learn more life relevant skills like

we learn more life relevant skills like how to make a resume what is the science

how to make a resume what is the science

how to make a resume what is the science behind happiness how to create a great

behind happiness how to create a great

behind happiness how to create a great first impression what happened in India

first impression what happened in India

first impression what happened in India and the first 10 years after

and the first 10 years after

and the first 10 years after independence that would be very more

independence that would be very more

independence that would be very more useful relevant and even easier and this

useful relevant and even easier and this

useful relevant and even easier and this sort of mentality of valuing hard rather

sort of mentality of valuing hard rather

sort of mentality of valuing hard rather than useful is prevalent according or in

than useful is prevalent according or in

than useful is prevalent according or in all spheres of our lives and

all spheres of our lives and

all spheres of our lives and not just education what would you do if

not just education what would you do if

not just education what would you do if you want to ask the girl out for

you want to ask the girl out for

you want to ask the girl out for marriage

marriage

marriage you would probably go down on your knees

you would probably go down on your knees

you would probably go down on your knees and you would tell the girl hey I love

and you would tell the girl hey I love

and you would tell the girl hey I love you but I know my love is not enough so

you but I know my love is not enough so

you but I know my love is not enough so I want to bribe you with a diamond ring

I want to bribe you with a diamond ring

I want to bribe you with a diamond ring because diamonds are considered to be a

because diamonds are considered to be a

because diamonds are considered to be a symbol of love and I will pause here for

symbol of love and I will pause here for

symbol of love and I will pause here for a second what makes a diamond the symbol

a second what makes a diamond the symbol

a second what makes a diamond the symbol of love diamonds are considered to be a

of love diamonds are considered to be a

of love diamonds are considered to be a symbol of love only because of how

symbol of love only because of how

symbol of love only because of how expensive diamonds are because they are

expensive diamonds are because they are

expensive diamonds are because they are hard to obtain

hard to obtain

hard to obtain there are solutely no use of a diamond

there are solutely no use of a diamond

there are solutely no use of a diamond and we just value it because of how hard

and we just value it because of how hard

and we just value it because of how hard it is to obtain it rather than how

it is to obtain it rather than how

it is to obtain it rather than how useful it is but what if we do something

useful it is but what if we do something

useful it is but what if we do something different just close your eyes for a

different just close your eyes for a

different just close your eyes for a second and just try and visualize that

second and just try and visualize that

second and just try and visualize that you’re my girlfriend and I’m trying to

you’re my girlfriend and I’m trying to

you’re my girlfriend and I’m trying to ask you out for marriage so I go down on

ask you out for marriage so I go down on

ask you out for marriage so I go down on my knees and first of all I’m really

my knees and first of all I’m really

my knees and first of all I’m really sorry I’m making you visualize that

sorry I’m making you visualize that

sorry I’m making you visualize that you’re my girlfriend but this is the

you’re my girlfriend but this is the

you’re my girlfriend but this is the closest I can get to having a girlfriend

so I go down on my knees and I give you

so I go down on my knees and I give you a box you get really excited and I tell

a box you get really excited and I tell

a box you get really excited and I tell you hey I love you

you hey I love you

you hey I love you but I know that you love the TV show

but I know that you love the TV show

but I know that you love the TV show friends mode so here is a pendrive of

friends mode so here is a pendrive of

friends mode so here is a pendrive of all 10 seasons of friends

and instead and of the money which I

and instead and of the money which I spent on a diamond we’ll go on a

spent on a diamond we’ll go on a

spent on a diamond we’ll go on a one-year honeymoon like what would be a

one-year honeymoon like what would be a

one-year honeymoon like what would be a reaction like most people at least in

reaction like most people at least in

reaction like most people at least in today’s time instant rejection why I

today’s time instant rejection why I

today’s time instant rejection why I don’t understand like what is so great

don’t understand like what is so great

don’t understand like what is so great about a diamond ring I’m still waiting

about a diamond ring I’m still waiting

about a diamond ring I’m still waiting for the time when the honeymoon industry

for the time when the honeymoon industry

for the time when the honeymoon industry becomes as big as the diamond industry

becomes as big as the diamond industry

becomes as big as the diamond industry just imagine the amount of money all of

just imagine the amount of money all of

just imagine the amount of money all of us could save if we started gifting our

us could save if we started gifting our

us could save if we started gifting our girlfriends Upendra with to her favorite

girlfriends Upendra with to her favorite

girlfriends Upendra with to her favorite TV show rather than diamonds like

TV show rather than diamonds like

TV show rather than diamonds like sometimes the easier choice makes so

sometimes the easier choice makes so

sometimes the easier choice makes so much more sense and this mentality of

much more sense and this mentality of

much more sense and this mentality of valuing hard other than useful is

valuing hard other than useful is

valuing hard other than useful is prevalent across all over the world but

prevalent across all over the world but

prevalent across all over the world but in India we take it one step further

in India we take it one step further

in India we take it one step further the Indians we love difficult things and

the Indians we love difficult things and

the Indians we love difficult things and it is no coincidence that Indians are

it is no coincidence that Indians are

it is no coincidence that Indians are obsessed with diamonds they obsess with

obsessed with diamonds they obsess with

obsessed with diamonds they obsess with fasting for weeks just to prove a point

fasting for weeks just to prove a point

fasting for weeks just to prove a point we obsess with certain colleges just

we obsess with certain colleges just

we obsess with certain colleges just because of how difficult it is and the

because of how difficult it is and the

because of how difficult it is and the media plays a big role behind this

media plays a big role behind this

media plays a big role behind this because the media always glorifies

because the media always glorifies

because the media always glorifies difficult things you climb Mount Everest

difficult things you climb Mount Everest

difficult things you climb Mount Everest and you’ll be a national hero and you’ll

and you’ll be a national hero and you’ll

and you’ll be a national hero and you’ll be on the newspaper on the front page of

be on the newspaper on the front page of

be on the newspaper on the front page of the newspapers the next day but if you

the newspapers the next day but if you

the newspapers the next day but if you help one child get educated for one year

help one child get educated for one year

help one child get educated for one year no one will care

no one will care

no one will care why because helping one child get

why because helping one child get

why because helping one child get educated for one year is very easier and

educated for one year is very easier and

educated for one year is very easier and way more boring than climbing Mount

way more boring than climbing Mount

way more boring than climbing Mount Everest and right now the biggest trend

Everest and right now the biggest trend

Everest and right now the biggest trend that I keep seeing on social media is

that I keep seeing on social media is

that I keep seeing on social media is running marathons and I know a lot of

running marathons and I know a lot of

running marathons and I know a lot of people whose lies the gasps dream is to

people whose lies the gasps dream is to

people whose lies the gasps dream is to run a full marathon of 42 kilometers

run a full marathon of 42 kilometers

run a full marathon of 42 kilometers even though it is scientifically

even though it is scientifically

even though it is scientifically extremely unhealthy and unhealthy to do

extremely unhealthy and unhealthy to do

extremely unhealthy and unhealthy to do so and it’s really bad for your kidneys

so and it’s really bad for your kidneys

so and it’s really bad for your kidneys running a 5k or a 10k or a half marathon

running a 5k or a 10k or a half marathon

running a 5k or a 10k or a half marathon makes much more sense way healthier for

makes much more sense way healthier for

makes much more sense way healthier for you but of course running a full

you but of course running a full

you but of course running a full marathon or faldo kilometers will get

marathon or faldo kilometers will get

marathon or faldo kilometers will get you more likes on Facebook and it’s way

you more likes on Facebook and it’s way

you more likes on Facebook and it’s way cooler but just try and imagine that

cooler but just try and imagine that

cooler but just try and imagine that someone’s biggest dream in life is

someone’s biggest dream in life is

someone’s biggest dream in life is something which is harmful for them this

something which is harmful for them this

something which is harmful for them this China Marine that’s crazy and at the

China Marine that’s crazy and at the

China Marine that’s crazy and at the same time I would

same time I would

same time I would to acknowledge that one of the biggest

to acknowledge that one of the biggest

to acknowledge that one of the biggest advantages of doing difficult things is

advantages of doing difficult things is

advantages of doing difficult things is that it makes us more mentally tougher

that it makes us more mentally tougher

that it makes us more mentally tougher and it makes us realize what we are

and it makes us realize what we are

and it makes us realize what we are capable of and someone who climbs a

capable of and someone who climbs a

capable of and someone who climbs a Mount Everest or runs a full marathon is

Mount Everest or runs a full marathon is

Mount Everest or runs a full marathon is mentally tough enough to deal with other

mentally tough enough to deal with other

mentally tough enough to deal with other complex life problems so I would assume

complex life problems so I would assume

complex life problems so I would assume that someone who climbed Mount Everest

that someone who climbed Mount Everest

that someone who climbed Mount Everest would never commit suicide because of

would never commit suicide because of

would never commit suicide because of how many obstacles they’ve already faced

how many obstacles they’ve already faced

how many obstacles they’ve already faced previously in their journey but at the

previously in their journey but at the

previously in their journey but at the same time as great it is as it is to

same time as great it is as it is to

same time as great it is as it is to test our limits there is a line which we

test our limits there is a line which we

test our limits there is a line which we frequently cross we’ve become obsessed

frequently cross we’ve become obsessed

frequently cross we’ve become obsessed with checking items off our bucket lists

with checking items off our bucket lists

with checking items off our bucket lists by doing one hard thing after the other

by doing one hard thing after the other

by doing one hard thing after the other without stopping to think is there any

without stopping to think is there any

without stopping to think is there any benefit except an ego boost if all of us

benefit except an ego boost if all of us

benefit except an ego boost if all of us chase exclusivity then we just become

chase exclusivity then we just become

chase exclusivity then we just become unexcusable stupid and I want to ask you

unexcusable stupid and I want to ask you

unexcusable stupid and I want to ask you today if I tell you hey your life is so

today if I tell you hey your life is so

today if I tell you hey your life is so easy how would you react if I tell you

easy how would you react if I tell you

easy how would you react if I tell you here your life is so easy how would you

here your life is so easy how would you

here your life is so easy how would you react you would probably get annoyed or

react you would probably get annoyed or

react you would probably get annoyed or defensive but why leading and happy and

defensive but why leading and happy and

defensive but why leading and happy and easier life is better than leading a

easier life is better than leading a

easier life is better than leading a harder life other things remaining the

harder life other things remaining the

harder life other things remaining the same similarly if I ask you if I tell

same similarly if I ask you if I tell

same similarly if I ask you if I tell you hey you have so much free time once

you hey you have so much free time once

you hey you have so much free time once again instead of being happy you would

again instead of being happy you would

again instead of being happy you would probably get annoyed or defensive

probably get annoyed or defensive

probably get annoyed or defensive because we’ve been made to believe that

because we’ve been made to believe that

because we’ve been made to believe that being busy is synonymous with being

being busy is synonymous with being

being busy is synonymous with being successful when actually being busy is

successful when actually being busy is

successful when actually being busy is equal to just having poor time

equal to just having poor time

equal to just having poor time management skills as you reflect on your

management skills as you reflect on your

management skills as you reflect on your biggest life’s goals I want to ask you

biggest life’s goals I want to ask you

biggest life’s goals I want to ask you what makes you do what you want to do

what makes you do what you want to do

what makes you do what you want to do are all your goals be re centric or I or

are all your goals be re centric or I or

are all your goals be re centric or I or goals value centric and I want to end my

goals value centric and I want to end my

goals value centric and I want to end my talk today with a quote from my book

talk today with a quote from my book

talk today with a quote from my book self phenomics

self phenomics

self phenomics don’t just try to be excellent try to be

don’t just try to be excellent try to be

don’t just try to be excellent try to be excellent in something which is useful

excellent in something which is useful

excellent in something which is useful thank you

thank you

thank you you

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