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Why we seldom hear about LGBTI Women in a male-dominated society? | Bella Galhos | TEDxDili


today I’m going to share with you a

today I’m going to share with you a group quite large number of people I’m

group quite large number of people I’m

group quite large number of people I’m not so sure about the number but I

not so sure about the number but I

not so sure about the number but I believe there are many of us out there

believe there are many of us out there

believe there are many of us out there for the last four or five months I have

for the last four or five months I have

for the last four or five months I have been spending a lot of time talking to

been spending a lot of time talking to

been spending a lot of time talking to this group listen to their stories try

this group listen to their stories try

this group listen to their stories try to get their story into my skin

to get their story into my skin

to get their story into my skin try to imagine myself in their life try

try to imagine myself in their life try

try to imagine myself in their life try to see what they have been seen try to

to see what they have been seen try to

to see what they have been seen try to feel what they have been filled for all

feel what they have been filled for all

feel what they have been filled for all these years this group our LGBTI in

these years this group our LGBTI in

these years this group our LGBTI in Timor Leste disgusting scared for many

Timor Leste disgusting scared for many

Timor Leste disgusting scared for many in this country I was one and only and

in this country I was one and only and

in this country I was one and only and followed by few now can count not even

followed by few now can count not even

followed by few now can count not even five people speaking about this issue

five people speaking about this issue

five people speaking about this issue here in East Timor it’s not an easy

here in East Timor it’s not an easy

here in East Timor it’s not an easy issue and either it’s not a great issue

issue and either it’s not a great issue

issue and either it’s not a great issue at all

at all

at all to discuss here in timor-leste

to discuss here in timor-leste

to discuss here in timor-leste there are a large number of them I

there are a large number of them I

there are a large number of them I finally find out do I know there are

finally find out do I know there are

finally find out do I know there are many and many have turned their life

many and many have turned their life

many and many have turned their life into the life that this society would

into the life that this society would

into the life that this society would actually accept them cover themselves

actually accept them cover themselves

actually accept them cover themselves with another identity so that you the

with another identity so that you the

with another identity so that you the large will accept them many have child

large will accept them many have child

large will accept them many have child petroi their lives and heterosexual but

petroi their lives and heterosexual but

petroi their lives and heterosexual but there are many who do not have life

there are many who do not have life

there are many who do not have life until today I’ve been going through this

until today I’ve been going through this

until today I’ve been going through this country for almost thirteen districts

country for almost thirteen districts

country for almost thirteen districts trying to find my community women

trying to find my community women

trying to find my community women LGBTI Harley to find any who actually

LGBTI Harley to find any who actually

LGBTI Harley to find any who actually have life no future

have life no future

have life no future most of them uneducated denied harassed

most of them uneducated denied harassed

most of them uneducated denied harassed sexually abused by their own family by

sexually abused by their own family by

sexually abused by their own family by the father by their mothers by their

the father by their mothers by their

the father by their mothers by their sisters simply because they are seen

sisters simply because they are seen

sisters simply because they are seen uncomplete not normal they’re not

uncomplete not normal they’re not

uncomplete not normal they’re not supposed to live and this is a type of

supposed to live and this is a type of

supposed to live and this is a type of group of people who actually deliver by

group of people who actually deliver by

group of people who actually deliver by evil – against God’s will that’s how we

evil – against God’s will that’s how we

evil – against God’s will that’s how we are being thinner there are names here

are being thinner there are names here

are being thinner there are names here in Timor they call us

in Timor they call us

in Timor they call us of course we are born and have a same

of course we are born and have a same

of course we are born and have a same name just like everybody else

name just like everybody else

name just like everybody else we’re named after saints after our

we’re named after saints after our

we’re named after saints after our grandparents our parents but as we grew

grandparents our parents but as we grew

grandparents our parents but as we grew up those names removed our names our

up those names removed our names our

up those names removed our names our panduru

panduru

panduru from Lyra parry Manik lyrics to her la

from Lyra parry Manik lyrics to her la

from Lyra parry Manik lyrics to her la completo freak scary

completo freak scary

completo freak scary virus including monkey in the bush those

virus including monkey in the bush those

virus including monkey in the bush those are the names ping calling us as we grow

are the names ping calling us as we grow

are the names ping calling us as we grow up and not only that our names are being

up and not only that our names are being

up and not only that our names are being removed our life to our force to change

removed our life to our force to change

removed our life to our force to change seeing a lot of young LGBTI and listen

seeing a lot of young LGBTI and listen

seeing a lot of young LGBTI and listen to their stories for the last four or

to their stories for the last four or

to their stories for the last four or five months it’s a nightmare

five months it’s a nightmare

five months it’s a nightmare bring me sleepless at night thinking

bring me sleepless at night thinking

bring me sleepless at night thinking about them I am consider myself to be a

about them I am consider myself to be a

about them I am consider myself to be a very lucky one not because that my

very lucky one not because that my

very lucky one not because that my parents are so supportive but because I

parents are so supportive but because I

parents are so supportive but because I have a gut

have a gut

have a gut but he can change me because I cannot

but he can change me because I cannot

but he can change me because I cannot change me I tried very hard try to

change me I tried very hard try to

change me I tried very hard try to change who I am who would be crazy

change who I am who would be crazy

change who I am who would be crazy stupid enough to pick a life that

stupid enough to pick a life that

stupid enough to pick a life that everybody looked down at only crazy

everybody looked down at only crazy

everybody looked down at only crazy people who only people can no longer

people who only people can no longer

people who only people can no longer thinking with her brain I have the gut I

thinking with her brain I have the gut I

thinking with her brain I have the gut I faced my family but perhaps I also very

faced my family but perhaps I also very

faced my family but perhaps I also very lucky I was exiled in Canada for almost

lucky I was exiled in Canada for almost

lucky I was exiled in Canada for almost 10 years of course life in Canada was

10 years of course life in Canada was

10 years of course life in Canada was different after my returning 14 years

different after my returning 14 years

different after my returning 14 years ago I had my straight on back in Canada

ago I had my straight on back in Canada

ago I had my straight on back in Canada though I know what freedom is the

though I know what freedom is the

though I know what freedom is the freedom that last year when I left my

freedom that last year when I left my

freedom that last year when I left my country I used those freedoms to free my

country I used those freedoms to free my

country I used those freedoms to free my country along with all my counterparts

country along with all my counterparts

country along with all my counterparts the leaders I know each and almost all

the leaders I know each and almost all

the leaders I know each and almost all of them I’m a normal person I’m a

of them I’m a normal person I’m a

of them I’m a normal person I’m a co-founder of lab Laura Green School in

co-founder of lab Laura Green School in

co-founder of lab Laura Green School in Moby scene I also have a daughter

Moby scene I also have a daughter

Moby scene I also have a daughter Arabella she’s here with me

Arabella she’s here with me

Arabella she’s here with me and I am a partner I have a mother just

and I am a partner I have a mother just

and I am a partner I have a mother just like everybody else my life just like

like everybody else my life just like

like everybody else my life just like everyone but here in Timor both in

everyone but here in Timor both in

everyone but here in Timor both in another part Timo is also known to be a

another part Timo is also known to be a

another part Timo is also known to be a very progressive country whence come to

very progressive country whence come to

very progressive country whence come to human rights

human rights

human rights we almost ratified all the human rights

we almost ratified all the human rights

we almost ratified all the human rights convention we have ambushed man for

convention we have ambushed man for

convention we have ambushed man for human rights and justice we have law for

human rights and justice we have law for

human rights and justice we have law for domestic violence all of it

domestic violence all of it

domestic violence all of it we even including half-cock the

we even including half-cock the

we even including half-cock the corruption Commission just the question

corruption Commission just the question

corruption Commission just the question is that I’ll add the Marines as being an

is that I’ll add the Marines as being an

is that I’ll add the Marines as being an activist as as long as I could remember

activist as as long as I could remember

activist as as long as I could remember still they I am Isis hardly see

still they I am Isis hardly see

still they I am Isis hardly see implementation of it

implementation of it

implementation of it being women is already so hard

being women is already so hard

being women is already so hard in this country and you try to imagine

in this country and you try to imagine

in this country and you try to imagine being a lesbian bisexual trans women

being a lesbian bisexual trans women

being a lesbian bisexual trans women trans man or intersex in a society like

trans man or intersex in a society like

trans man or intersex in a society like Timor I am pretty much aware of this

Timor I am pretty much aware of this

Timor I am pretty much aware of this it’s a global issue but the other

it’s a global issue but the other

it’s a global issue but the other countries already started few steps here

countries already started few steps here

countries already started few steps here and there Timor timor-leste my country

and there Timor timor-leste my country

and there Timor timor-leste my country the country they fought for since I was

the country they fought for since I was

the country they fought for since I was 16 years old today I’m still fighting

16 years old today I’m still fighting

16 years old today I’m still fighting for my freedom the freedom of LGBTI in

for my freedom the freedom of LGBTI in

for my freedom the freedom of LGBTI in this country I’m alone so far I am one

this country I’m alone so far I am one

this country I’m alone so far I am one and only women in this country who have

and only women in this country who have

and only women in this country who have the guts to bring this issue to the

the guts to bring this issue to the

the guts to bring this issue to the public but let me tell you the price

public but let me tell you the price

public but let me tell you the price that I paid for it is not small I have

that I paid for it is not small I have

that I paid for it is not small I have hated by many I disowned by my family at

hated by many I disowned by my family at

hated by many I disowned by my family at the beginning I was seen as monkey in

the beginning I was seen as monkey in

the beginning I was seen as monkey in the bush not complete not worried by me

the bush not complete not worried by me

the bush not complete not worried by me whenever they are LGBT eyes around the

whenever they are LGBT eyes around the

whenever they are LGBT eyes around the heterosexuals my family my friends will

heterosexuals my family my friends will

heterosexuals my family my friends will give signs to others to make sure that

give signs to others to make sure that

give signs to others to make sure that they aware the LGBT eyes are around take

they aware the LGBT eyes are around take

they aware the LGBT eyes are around take good care of yourself what did they

good care of yourself what did they

good care of yourself what did they think for the longest time I try to

think for the longest time I try to

think for the longest time I try to figure out to understand what it is that

figure out to understand what it is that

figure out to understand what it is that they think of us and finally I come to

they think of us and finally I come to

they think of us and finally I come to understand especially here in Timor they

understand especially here in Timor they

understand especially here in Timor they think we are verified rapist kind of

think we are verified rapist kind of

think we are verified rapist kind of people who cannot control our sexual

people who cannot control our sexual

people who cannot control our sexual desire then there might be at risk our

desire then there might be at risk our

desire then there might be at risk our victims that’s what they think this is

victims that’s what they think this is

victims that’s what they think this is why so many of us

why so many of us

why so many of us but almost hardly seen in this country

but almost hardly seen in this country

but almost hardly seen in this country my question is where is LBJ the women

my question is where is LBJ the women

my question is where is LBJ the women the lesbian the bisexual

the lesbian the bisexual

the lesbian the bisexual the transgender and intersex let me show

the transgender and intersex let me show

the transgender and intersex let me show you some of the story Nadia 22 years old

you some of the story Nadia 22 years old

you some of the story Nadia 22 years old she was this owned by her parents her

she was this owned by her parents her

she was this owned by her parents her father kicked out from the house

father kicked out from the house

father kicked out from the house she has been moving from house to house

she has been moving from house to house

she has been moving from house to house for shelter for food not even finish her

for shelter for food not even finish her

for shelter for food not even finish her middle school you can see it’s 22 years

middle school you can see it’s 22 years

middle school you can see it’s 22 years old I can tell you this young girls will

old I can tell you this young girls will

old I can tell you this young girls will have no future if me and you are keep on

have no future if me and you are keep on

have no future if me and you are keep on silence

silence

silence Adame her story was shocked and keep me

Adame her story was shocked and keep me

Adame her story was shocked and keep me for few nights grisly she was stunned

for few nights grisly she was stunned

for few nights grisly she was stunned and she was poor sexually by members of

and she was poor sexually by members of

and she was poor sexually by members of her family she has a daughter nine years

her family she has a daughter nine years

her family she has a daughter nine years old her sister cut her face and I can

old her sister cut her face and I can

old her sister cut her face and I can still see her scar today she’s working

still see her scar today she’s working

still see her scar today she’s working with me and for many times she’s been

with me and for many times she’s been

with me and for many times she’s been beaten up they even pulled her face down

beaten up they even pulled her face down

beaten up they even pulled her face down to her legs to see what is down there

to her legs to see what is down there

to her legs to see what is down there they wanted to remind her that she’s a

they wanted to remind her that she’s a

they wanted to remind her that she’s a woman she’s not sleep or dating a women

woman she’s not sleep or dating a women

woman she’s not sleep or dating a women this is a dhobi 26 years old

this is a dhobi 26 years old

this is a dhobi 26 years old this is Lula three times almost killed

this is Lula three times almost killed

this is Lula three times almost killed herself three Stein hospitalized and is

herself three Stein hospitalized and is

herself three Stein hospitalized and is owned by her parents tied up by her

owned by her parents tied up by her

owned by her parents tied up by her brother pulling the car in the community

brother pulling the car in the community

brother pulling the car in the community people just look at it it’s okay because

people just look at it it’s okay because

people just look at it it’s okay because he’s not normal she’s the devil

he’s not normal she’s the devil

he’s not normal she’s the devil therefore she has no right to live and

therefore she has no right to live and

therefore she has no right to live and this young girl’s was kicked by her own

this young girl’s was kicked by her own

this young girl’s was kicked by her own sister right in a chest that her high

sister right in a chest that her high

sister right in a chest that her high heels actually go through her chest and

heels actually go through her chest and

heels actually go through her chest and bleeding for days and she was left alone

bleeding for days and she was left alone

bleeding for days and she was left alone in the hospital no family come close to

in the hospital no family come close to

in the hospital no family come close to see because they’re too embarrassed to

see because they’re too embarrassed to

see because they’re too embarrassed to see to have her as a member of the

see to have her as a member of the

see to have her as a member of the family it’s a shame to have

family it’s a shame to have

family it’s a shame to have in their family they rather have Nona

in their family they rather have Nona

in their family they rather have Nona died but thanks to God no lies still

died but thanks to God no lies still

died but thanks to God no lies still alive and she is my friend my sister

alive and she is my friend my sister

alive and she is my friend my sister Azul 29 years old again this owned by

Azul 29 years old again this owned by

Azul 29 years old again this owned by her family her sisters keep reminding

her family her sisters keep reminding

her family her sisters keep reminding her every single day put the right

her every single day put the right

her every single day put the right clothes being arrived women dating a man

clothes being arrived women dating a man

clothes being arrived women dating a man he had married this is what he’s

he had married this is what he’s

he had married this is what he’s supposed to be she was not even allowed

supposed to be she was not even allowed

supposed to be she was not even allowed to go to school because her parents told

to go to school because her parents told

to go to school because her parents told her you are not worth it even if you

her you are not worth it even if you

her you are not worth it even if you have education nobody will use you

have education nobody will use you

have education nobody will use you because you are an equal 23 years old

because you are an equal 23 years old

because you are an equal 23 years old there are two of them in her family that

there are two of them in her family that

there are two of them in her family that lesbian both are discriminated violated

lesbian both are discriminated violated

lesbian both are discriminated violated beaten up by their parents constantly

beaten up by their parents constantly

beaten up by their parents constantly daily and of course there is no place

daily and of course there is no place

daily and of course there is no place for them they come to my place where

for them they come to my place where

for them they come to my place where they feel like home this is a few 57 I

they feel like home this is a few 57 I

they feel like home this is a few 57 I have now Andrew

have now Andrew

have now Andrew write their stories and I share it they

write their stories and I share it they

write their stories and I share it they allow me to share it because they

allow me to share it because they

allow me to share it because they believe and they think they feel enough

believe and they think they feel enough

believe and they think they feel enough how long we expect these young people to

how long we expect these young people to

how long we expect these young people to be live in this kind of life I’d like to

be live in this kind of life I’d like to

be live in this kind of life I’d like to encourage you at least try imagine you

encourage you at least try imagine you

encourage you at least try imagine you you have a life in people your own

you have a life in people your own

you have a life in people your own family try to change you simple because

family try to change you simple because

family try to change you simple because this ass cannot accept the way we are

you come from them but they just cannot

you come from them but they just cannot take your wrong whose mistake is that

take your wrong whose mistake is that

take your wrong whose mistake is that who created these people who created

who created these people who created

who created these people who created these young people I didn’t date

these young people I didn’t date

these young people I didn’t date themselves to be this really they really

themselves to be this really they really

themselves to be this really they really want to be put down

want to be put down

want to be put down humiliated fooled by her kicking pitting

humiliated fooled by her kicking pitting

humiliated fooled by her kicking pitting up kick out from the house they really

up kick out from the house they really

up kick out from the house they really think that they want this

think that they want this

think that they want this two things these people young people are

two things these people young people are

two things these people young people are suffer and how long the question I have

suffer and how long the question I have

suffer and how long the question I have again I’m just very lucky I’m educated I

again I’m just very lucky I’m educated I

again I’m just very lucky I’m educated I have jobs I have a lot of opportunity

have jobs I have a lot of opportunity

have jobs I have a lot of opportunity but I also realize my privilege is come

but I also realize my privilege is come

but I also realize my privilege is come along with I can’t just ignore them I

along with I can’t just ignore them I

along with I can’t just ignore them I can just leave it I cannot and I wish

can just leave it I cannot and I wish

can just leave it I cannot and I wish you two should not let this happen

you two should not let this happen

you two should not let this happen recently we have our prime minister made

recently we have our prime minister made

recently we have our prime minister made a statement to call on the family the

a statement to call on the family the

a statement to call on the family the community to accept the LGBTI Holly make

community to accept the LGBTI Holly make

community to accept the LGBTI Holly make a statement do you think is enough no we

a statement do you think is enough no we

a statement do you think is enough no we ratified all the human rights convention

ratified all the human rights convention

ratified all the human rights convention we have ambushed man for human rights

we have ambushed man for human rights

we have ambushed man for human rights and justice we have domestic violence

and justice we have domestic violence

and justice we have domestic violence law we have all this equipments

law we have all this equipments

law we have all this equipments none of them are use in so far no record

none of them are use in so far no record

none of them are use in so far no record no report whatsoever on the members of

no report whatsoever on the members of

no report whatsoever on the members of LGBTI LGBTI they closed it this is don’t

LGBTI LGBTI they closed it this is don’t

LGBTI LGBTI they closed it this is don’t know whether this is supposed to be

know whether this is supposed to be

know whether this is supposed to be reported they think that they deserve

reported they think that they deserve

reported they think that they deserve all these treatments please just keep

all these treatments please just keep

all these treatments please just keep quiet some of them are dying already

quiet some of them are dying already

quiet some of them are dying already here’s themselves LGBTI here in

here’s themselves LGBTI here in

here’s themselves LGBTI here in timor-leste and looking at the world I

timor-leste and looking at the world I

timor-leste and looking at the world I see so many countries are progressing

see so many countries are progressing

see so many countries are progressing making a move children here and there

making a move children here and there

making a move children here and there but the more I start with the starting

but the more I start with the starting

but the more I start with the starting to talk about it and I’m just hoping

to talk about it and I’m just hoping

to talk about it and I’m just hoping that soon this is not this a simple word

that soon this is not this a simple word

that soon this is not this a simple word let me just talk and talked about it but

let me just talk and talked about it but

let me just talk and talked about it but we come to realize it give me a chance I

we come to realize it give me a chance I

we come to realize it give me a chance I have been actually trying hard to reach

have been actually trying hard to reach

have been actually trying hard to reach out to somebody that I adore I like her

out to somebody that I adore I like her

out to somebody that I adore I like her so much

so much

so much Ellen DeGeneres I believe she can be

Ellen DeGeneres I believe she can be

Ellen DeGeneres I believe she can be our champion of human rights especially

our champion of human rights especially

our champion of human rights especially the right of LGBTI I recently met a

the right of LGBTI I recently met a

the right of LGBTI I recently met a billionaire from Poland her name is

billionaire from Poland her name is

billionaire from Poland her name is Dominique collection we went through a

Dominique collection we went through a

Dominique collection we went through a lot of works that are done in mobi C and

lot of works that are done in mobi C and

lot of works that are done in mobi C and then in the end she questioning me so

then in the end she questioning me so

then in the end she questioning me so all of your work there seems to be so

all of your work there seems to be so

all of your work there seems to be so hard so serious do you have anything fun

hard so serious do you have anything fun

hard so serious do you have anything fun to think about yeah I’m thinking about

to think about yeah I’m thinking about

to think about yeah I’m thinking about two women I want to meet Oprah Winfrey

two women I want to meet Oprah Winfrey

two women I want to meet Oprah Winfrey and alien de janeiro illness engineer I

and alien de janeiro illness engineer I

and alien de janeiro illness engineer I wanted the most

wanted the most

wanted the most why because I needed her help I don’t

why because I needed her help I don’t

why because I needed her help I don’t want to meet her because this is rich I

want to meet her because this is rich I

want to meet her because this is rich I don’t want to meet her but simple

don’t want to meet her but simple

don’t want to meet her but simple because he’s a popular oh well no no I

because he’s a popular oh well no no I

because he’s a popular oh well no no I needed her hand I needed her support her

needed her hand I needed her support her

needed her hand I needed her support her love for the LGBT I hear misty more

love for the LGBT I hear misty more

love for the LGBT I hear misty more because I do not have one in this

because I do not have one in this

because I do not have one in this country

country

country I have leaders but I just have leaders I

I have leaders but I just have leaders I

I have leaders but I just have leaders I do not have leaders who needing us who

do not have leaders who needing us who

do not have leaders who needing us who protect us I’m hoping that someday my

protect us I’m hoping that someday my

protect us I’m hoping that someday my dream is just not a dream but I will

dream is just not a dream but I will

dream is just not a dream but I will meet Ellen DeGeneres now I want to make

meet Ellen DeGeneres now I want to make

meet Ellen DeGeneres now I want to make a call to all of us start from myself

a call to all of us start from myself

a call to all of us start from myself let’s make the difference we can do it

let’s make the difference we can do it

let’s make the difference we can do it timo was known before it’s impossible to

timo was known before it’s impossible to

timo was known before it’s impossible to be a country we made it Timor is become

be a country we made it Timor is become

be a country we made it Timor is become a country not accounted it was denied

a country not accounted it was denied

a country not accounted it was denied for so many years so many things that

for so many years so many things that

for so many years so many things that happen in this country quite impossible

happen in this country quite impossible

happen in this country quite impossible we made it this time I challenge you can

we made it this time I challenge you can

we made it this time I challenge you can we please work together hand in hand

we please work together hand in hand

we please work together hand in hand change timor-leste change our home bring

change timor-leste change our home bring

change timor-leste change our home bring our children especially those two

our children especially those two

our children especially those two already around us and those who are to

already around us and those who are to

already around us and those who are to come if we don’t change now today we

come if we don’t change now today we

come if we don’t change now today we will not change the one that coming we

will not change the one that coming we

will not change the one that coming we will never make any change

will never make any change

will never make any change I have a daughter of two years old I

I have a daughter of two years old I

I have a daughter of two years old I know I’m not a hero maybe too many but I

know I’m not a hero maybe too many but I

know I’m not a hero maybe too many but I just want to be the

just want to be the

just want to be the who doing something that’s significant

who doing something that’s significant

who doing something that’s significant for me star for me my family my

for me star for me my family my

for me star for me my family my community and people who I can reach out

community and people who I can reach out

community and people who I can reach out to if I can change yes I want to change

to if I can change yes I want to change

to if I can change yes I want to change it I have done it I have been in this

it I have done it I have been in this

it I have done it I have been in this struggle since I was 16 years old today

struggle since I was 16 years old today

struggle since I was 16 years old today I am 44 years old no regrets whatsoever

I am 44 years old no regrets whatsoever

I am 44 years old no regrets whatsoever what I have done I actually feel good

what I have done I actually feel good

what I have done I actually feel good the door I haven’t done much I haven’t

the door I haven’t done much I haven’t

the door I haven’t done much I haven’t changed so much but I have done small

changed so much but I have done small

changed so much but I have done small small here and there and I’m hoping to

small here and there and I’m hoping to

small here and there and I’m hoping to make more and your hand your heart your

make more and your hand your heart your

make more and your hand your heart your ears your eyes are needed to make the

ears your eyes are needed to make the

ears your eyes are needed to make the difference let’s create the world start

difference let’s create the world start

difference let’s create the world start from our home the country called East

from our home the country called East

from our home the country called East Timor the whole community and this world

Timor the whole community and this world

Timor the whole community and this world a place of love respect no hate please

a place of love respect no hate please

a place of love respect no hate please thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] [Music]

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