alright let’s get this thing cooking so I recently had the pleasure of attending
I recently had the pleasure of attending
I recently had the pleasure of attending my son’s highschool graduation and as
my son’s highschool graduation and as
my son’s highschool graduation and as you can imagine particularly parents it
you can imagine particularly parents it
you can imagine particularly parents it was a proud parenting moment to watch
was a proud parenting moment to watch
was a proud parenting moment to watch him receive his diploma to listen to him
him receive his diploma to listen to him
him receive his diploma to listen to him address his classmates it was one of
address his classmates it was one of
address his classmates it was one of life’s big moments that creates an
life’s big moments that creates an
life’s big moments that creates an opportunity to pause and reflect on our
opportunity to pause and reflect on our
opportunity to pause and reflect on our successes our challenges and the things
successes our challenges and the things
successes our challenges and the things we’re looking forward to but that is not
we’re looking forward to but that is not
we’re looking forward to but that is not what I’m going to talk to you about
what I’m going to talk to you about
what I’m going to talk to you about tonight not those moments what I’m going
tonight not those moments what I’m going
tonight not those moments what I’m going to talk to you about are those
to talk to you about are those
to talk to you about are those staggeringly ordinary moments that can
staggeringly ordinary moments that can
staggeringly ordinary moments that can dramatically change our lives simply by
dramatically change our lives simply by
dramatically change our lives simply by slowing down slowing down in committing
slowing down slowing down in committing
slowing down slowing down in committing to a deliberate process of creation that
to a deliberate process of creation that
to a deliberate process of creation that focuses our attention moment to moment
focuses our attention moment to moment
focuses our attention moment to moment day to day in year to year now I know
day to day in year to year now I know
day to day in year to year now I know you’re probably curious as to where the
you’re probably curious as to where the
you’re probably curious as to where the inspiration for this productivity
inspiration for this productivity
inspiration for this productivity breakthrough came from you might be
breakthrough came from you might be
breakthrough came from you might be thinking of some of the great leadership
thinking of some of the great leadership
thinking of some of the great leadership gurus Peter Drucker or Stephen Covey or
gurus Peter Drucker or Stephen Covey or
gurus Peter Drucker or Stephen Covey or perhaps even Tony Robbins but you’d be
perhaps even Tony Robbins but you’d be
perhaps even Tony Robbins but you’d be wrong it came from the great philosopher
wrong it came from the great philosopher
wrong it came from the great philosopher Chuck Norris
yeah better than I thought
yeah better than I thought Texas Texas Ranger now in his book the
Texas Texas Ranger now in his book the
Texas Texas Ranger now in his book the secret power within Norris shares a
secret power within Norris shares a
secret power within Norris shares a story about a sparring match he had with
story about a sparring match he had with
story about a sparring match he had with Bruce Lee now for those of you that
Bruce Lee now for those of you that
Bruce Lee now for those of you that aren’t familiar with the martial arts
aren’t familiar with the martial arts
aren’t familiar with the martial arts Bruce Lee was arguably the quicker of
Bruce Lee was arguably the quicker of
Bruce Lee was arguably the quicker of the two men but he was really really
the two men but he was really really
the two men but he was really really frustrated and his inability to block
frustrated and his inability to block
frustrated and his inability to block any of Norrises kicks he just couldn’t
any of Norrises kicks he just couldn’t
any of Norrises kicks he just couldn’t understand it just couldn’t get it
understand it just couldn’t get it
understand it just couldn’t get it and with that Norris offered the
and with that Norris offered the
and with that Norris offered the following insights you’re going too fast
following insights you’re going too fast
following insights you’re going too fast your timing is off you need to slow it
your timing is off you need to slow it
your timing is off you need to slow it down slow down
down slow down
down slow down to go faster now the irony of me talking
to go faster now the irony of me talking
to go faster now the irony of me talking to you about the importance of slowing
to you about the importance of slowing
to you about the importance of slowing down and using it as a mantra to guide
down and using it as a mantra to guide
down and using it as a mantra to guide my life couldn’t been more apparent than
my life couldn’t been more apparent than
my life couldn’t been more apparent than when I got a speeding ticket on my way
when I got a speeding ticket on my way
when I got a speeding ticket on my way to a time management seminar
my father’s in the front row that I was
my father’s in the front row that I was teaching and and it gets me and it gets
teaching and and it gets me and it gets
teaching and and it gets me and it gets worse so in my haste I asked the trooper
worse so in my haste I asked the trooper
worse so in my haste I asked the trooper if he can make it fast not a good idea
if he can make it fast not a good idea
if he can make it fast not a good idea so as you can imagine that did not end
so as you can imagine that did not end
so as you can imagine that did not end well and and usually our need for speed
well and and usually our need for speed
well and and usually our need for speed does not end well
does not end well
does not end well right it actually slows us down right
right it actually slows us down right
right it actually slows us down right this incessant need for speed is not
this incessant need for speed is not
this incessant need for speed is not sustainable and it adversely affects the
sustainable and it adversely affects the
sustainable and it adversely affects the quality of our lives along the way how
quality of our lives along the way how
quality of our lives along the way how many of us are try to jam too many
many of us are try to jam too many
many of us are try to jam too many things into our calendar schedule back
things into our calendar schedule back
things into our calendar schedule back to back-to-back meetings skip meals and
to back-to-back meetings skip meals and
to back-to-back meetings skip meals and cheat ourselves of much-needed rest
cheat ourselves of much-needed rest
cheat ourselves of much-needed rest and what does it get us more stressed
and what does it get us more stressed
and what does it get us more stressed less focused less engaged in ladies and
less focused less engaged in ladies and
less focused less engaged in ladies and gentlemen ultimately less productive in
gentlemen ultimately less productive in
gentlemen ultimately less productive in fact we are so enamored with working
fact we are so enamored with working
fact we are so enamored with working harder in this country that many
harder in this country that many
harder in this country that many Americans skip their full vacation and
Americans skip their full vacation and
Americans skip their full vacation and we’re working longer hours and yet many
we’re working longer hours and yet many
we’re working longer hours and yet many European nations are kicking our butt
European nations are kicking our butt
European nations are kicking our butt and productivity as measured by gross
and productivity as measured by gross
and productivity as measured by gross domestic product and it gets worse we
domestic product and it gets worse we
domestic product and it gets worse we are so enamored with working harder not
are so enamored with working harder not
are so enamored with working harder not smarter that we proudly describe
smarter that we proudly describe
smarter that we proudly describe ourselves as being very very busy
ourselves as being very very busy
ourselves as being very very busy our urgency addicted society where’s
our urgency addicted society where’s
our urgency addicted society where’s this busyness as a badge of honor let me
this busyness as a badge of honor let me
this busyness as a badge of honor let me think about it
think about it
think about it we admire people who are busy we
we admire people who are busy we
we admire people who are busy we actually aspire to being busy people
actually aspire to being busy people
actually aspire to being busy people will proudly go through their exhaustive
will proudly go through their exhaustive
will proudly go through their exhaustive to-do list without even taking a breath
to-do list without even taking a breath
to-do list without even taking a breath failing to recognize
failing to recognize
failing to recognize that urgency rarely equals importance
that urgency rarely equals importance
that urgency rarely equals importance and it’s not enough that they’re busy
and it’s not enough that they’re busy
and it’s not enough that they’re busy they want you to be busy too I mean you
they want you to be busy too I mean you
they want you to be busy too I mean you know you heard people today conversation
know you heard people today conversation
know you heard people today conversation you’re busy you’re busy right you
you’re busy you’re busy right you
you’re busy you’re busy right you actually feel guilty if you’re not busy
actually feel guilty if you’re not busy
actually feel guilty if you’re not busy enough you make make something up I know
enough you make make something up I know
enough you make make something up I know I do I felt like a slug the other day
I do I felt like a slug the other day
I do I felt like a slug the other day but ladies and gentlemen important part
but ladies and gentlemen important part
but ladies and gentlemen important part language is generative what we say to
language is generative what we say to
language is generative what we say to ourselves influences how we think it
ourselves influences how we think it
ourselves influences how we think it influences how we feel it influences
influences how we feel it influences
influences how we feel it influences what we do so my request for everybody
what we do so my request for everybody
what we do so my request for everybody in this room is to replace the B word
in this room is to replace the B word
in this room is to replace the B word with the F word good thing my mother’s
with the F word good thing my mother’s
with the F word good thing my mother’s not here tonight let’s replace busy with
not here tonight let’s replace busy with
not here tonight let’s replace busy with focused let’s really get focused so you
focused let’s really get focused so you
focused let’s really get focused so you may be asking yourself how do we begin
may be asking yourself how do we begin
may be asking yourself how do we begin to interrupt this pattern of speed too
to interrupt this pattern of speed too
to interrupt this pattern of speed too fast too often it surrounds us it seems
fast too often it surrounds us it seems
fast too often it surrounds us it seems that we’re immersed in it remember that
that we’re immersed in it remember that
that we’re immersed in it remember that fish notice water last hello so what do
fish notice water last hello so what do
fish notice water last hello so what do fish do they notice water last because
fish do they notice water last because
fish do they notice water last because we’re immersed in it right and so that
we’re immersed in it right and so that
we’re immersed in it right and so that is what one of the challenges when we’re
is what one of the challenges when we’re
is what one of the challenges when we’re going to replace busy with being focused
going to replace busy with being focused
going to replace busy with being focused so how do we begin to to slow ourselves
so how do we begin to to slow ourselves
so how do we begin to to slow ourselves down so one of the things that I would
down so one of the things that I would
down so one of the things that I would suggest is that we start slowly we start
suggest is that we start slowly we start
suggest is that we start slowly we start by running a few experiments now I run a
by running a few experiments now I run a
by running a few experiments now I run a lot of experiments at home and we run
lot of experiments at home and we run
lot of experiments at home and we run experiments to change it up to get a
experiments to change it up to get a
experiments to change it up to get a different results
different results
different results and one of the things that I’m
and one of the things that I’m
and one of the things that I’m absolutely certain about is that some
absolutely certain about is that some
absolutely certain about is that some day my kids are going to be grateful
day my kids are going to be grateful
day my kids are going to be grateful they tutored under me
they tutored under me
they tutored under me but today’s it’s not one of those days
but today’s it’s not one of those days
but today’s it’s not one of those days today is not one of those days so there
today is not one of those days so there
today is not one of those days so there are four experiments that I would like
are four experiments that I would like
are four experiments that I would like to suggest that you consider to slow
to suggest that you consider to slow
to suggest that you consider to slow down to go faster here’s the first one
everybody try to breathe slower
everybody try to breathe slower everybody deep diaphragmatic breath come
everybody deep diaphragmatic breath come
everybody deep diaphragmatic breath come on try let’s go ready everybody breathe
on try let’s go ready everybody breathe
on try let’s go ready everybody breathe slower deep and from the diaphragm pay
slower deep and from the diaphragm pay
slower deep and from the diaphragm pay attention to how professional athletes
attention to how professional athletes
attention to how professional athletes performing artists in marksman prepare
performing artists in marksman prepare
performing artists in marksman prepare for success in their events by
for success in their events by
for success in their events by regulating their breath so one
regulating their breath so one
regulating their breath so one experiment is to breathe slower
experiment is to breathe slower
experiment is to breathe slower experiment number two experiment number
experiment number two experiment number
experiment number two experiment number two is to eat slower not only is this
two is to eat slower not only is this
two is to eat slower not only is this healthier because will actually eat less
healthier because will actually eat less
healthier because will actually eat less but it actually contributes to
but it actually contributes to
but it actually contributes to relationship building when we’re dining
relationship building when we’re dining
relationship building when we’re dining with others now this blew me away a
with others now this blew me away a
with others now this blew me away a couple years ago I heard this statistic
couple years ago I heard this statistic
couple years ago I heard this statistic that the America Everage American family
that the America Everage American family
that the America Everage American family spends less than 10 minutes per day
spends less than 10 minutes per day
spends less than 10 minutes per day breaking bread together what an
breaking bread together what an
breaking bread together what an opportunity so eat slower third ease
opportunity so eat slower third ease
opportunity so eat slower third ease into your day
into your day
into your day ease into your day let’s reverse this
ease into your day let’s reverse this
ease into your day let’s reverse this trend of hitting the ground running
trend of hitting the ground running
trend of hitting the ground running immediately checking our watch or better
immediately checking our watch or better
immediately checking our watch or better yet checking our device starting to
yet checking our device starting to
yet checking our device starting to worry about all the things that we have
worry about all the things that we have
worry about all the things that we have to take care of that day that activates
to take care of that day that activates
to take care of that day that activates the sympathetic nervous system and it
the sympathetic nervous system and it
the sympathetic nervous system and it puts us in a stressful state right off
puts us in a stressful state right off
puts us in a stressful state right off the bat let’s take a learn a lesson from
the bat let’s take a learn a lesson from
the bat let’s take a learn a lesson from our pets who ease into the day you’ve
our pets who ease into the day you’ve
our pets who ease into the day you’ve seen it you’ve seen it by stretching
seen it you’ve seen it by stretching
seen it you’ve seen it by stretching very slowly and and as far as I know
very slowly and and as far as I know
very slowly and and as far as I know they don’t check the clock and begin to
they don’t check the clock and begin to
they don’t check the clock and begin to worry about all the things they got to
worry about all the things they got to
worry about all the things they got to do all day right I mean what do they do
do all day right I mean what do they do
do all day right I mean what do they do eat sleep go to the bathroom right and
eat sleep go to the bathroom right and
eat sleep go to the bathroom right and so as we take a lesson from our pets now
so as we take a lesson from our pets now
so as we take a lesson from our pets now the last experiment
the last experiment
the last experiment and you only do this one if you’re brave
and you only do this one if you’re brave
and you only do this one if you’re brave enough drive slower I can’t do it yeah I
enough drive slower I can’t do it yeah I
enough drive slower I can’t do it yeah I saw you earlier actually experiment with
saw you earlier actually experiment with
saw you earlier actually experiment with driving the speed limit right now let me
driving the speed limit right now let me
driving the speed limit right now let me let me tell you you will be alone with
let me tell you you will be alone with
let me tell you you will be alone with the exception of a brand new driver in
the exception of a brand new driver in
the exception of a brand new driver in my 89 year old father in the front row
my 89 year old father in the front row
my 89 year old father in the front row raise your hand right you’ll be alone
raise your hand right you’ll be alone
raise your hand right you’ll be alone he’s a safe driver just a slow driver
he’s a safe driver just a slow driver
he’s a safe driver just a slow driver and be ready for all the unwanted
and be ready for all the unwanted
and be ready for all the unwanted attention you’re going to receive from
attention you’re going to receive from
attention you’re going to receive from all of those drivers that are in a hurry
all of those drivers that are in a hurry
all of those drivers that are in a hurry or as my daughter said to me Danny how
or as my daughter said to me Danny how
or as my daughter said to me Danny how come all those people are holding their
come all those people are holding their
come all those people are holding their finger up and yelling at you
finger up and yelling at you
finger up and yelling at you I said Sophie it’s not because they
I said Sophie it’s not because they
I said Sophie it’s not because they think we’re number one kid not because I
think we’re number one kid not because I
think we’re number one kid not because I think we’re number one as we slow down
think we’re number one as we slow down
think we’re number one as we slow down to go faster we create the space for
to go faster we create the space for
to go faster we create the space for grace and this is the place where our
grace and this is the place where our
grace and this is the place where our full attention intersects with the
full attention intersects with the
full attention intersects with the present moment we tap into the
present moment we tap into the
present moment we tap into the collective unconscious the universal
collective unconscious the universal
collective unconscious the universal energy where anything and everything is
energy where anything and everything is
energy where anything and everything is possible in that space we tap into
possible in that space we tap into
possible in that space we tap into intuition those gentle nudges from the
intuition those gentle nudges from the
intuition those gentle nudges from the universe that tell us what to do and
universe that tell us what to do and
universe that tell us what to do and what not to do inspiration those sources
what not to do inspiration those sources
what not to do inspiration those sources of purpose and meaning that surround us
of purpose and meaning that surround us
of purpose and meaning that surround us all of the time and intention we become
all of the time and intention we become
all of the time and intention we become deliberate creators by activating the
deliberate creators by activating the
deliberate creators by activating the law of intention which says what we hold
law of intention which says what we hold
law of intention which says what we hold in mind tends to manifest ladies and
in mind tends to manifest ladies and
in mind tends to manifest ladies and gentlemen
gentlemen
gentlemen what are you holding in mind rushing or
what are you holding in mind rushing or
what are you holding in mind rushing or creating now we create this space for
creating now we create this space for
creating now we create this space for grace by committing to the following key
grace by committing to the following key
grace by committing to the following key practices
practices
practices weekly planning mortgaging the time and
weekly planning mortgaging the time and
weekly planning mortgaging the time and space for the magic to happen daily
space for the magic to happen daily
space for the magic to happen daily meditation training our attention so
meditation training our attention so
meditation training our attention so that we can notice in utilize intuition
that we can notice in utilize intuition
that we can notice in utilize intuition inspiration intention daily journaling
inspiration intention daily journaling
inspiration intention daily journaling analyzing the patterns of our pace in
analyzing the patterns of our pace in
analyzing the patterns of our pace in adjusting accordingly
adjusting accordingly
adjusting accordingly and lastly ladies and gentlemen
and lastly ladies and gentlemen
and lastly ladies and gentlemen disconnecting from technology
disconnecting from technology
disconnecting from technology disconnecting from technology I want to
disconnecting from technology I want to
disconnecting from technology I want to encourage you I want to invite you I
encourage you I want to invite you I
encourage you I want to invite you I want to challenge you to take a some
want to challenge you to take a some
want to challenge you to take a some part of your day and make it scream free
part of your day and make it scream free
part of your day and make it scream free we are inundated with information
we are inundated with information
we are inundated with information overload our attention span in 2017 is
overload our attention span in 2017 is
overload our attention span in 2017 is less than eight seconds in ladies and
less than eight seconds in ladies and
less than eight seconds in ladies and gentlemen that’s less than a goldfish
gentlemen that’s less than a goldfish
gentlemen that’s less than a goldfish that’s less than a goldfish
so let me let me share how creating the
so let me let me share how creating the space for grace resulted in my son who
space for grace resulted in my son who
space for grace resulted in my son who you saw in the opening slide resulted
you saw in the opening slide resulted
you saw in the opening slide resulted him in meeting former New York Yankee
him in meeting former New York Yankee
him in meeting former New York Yankee star Derek Jeter
star Derek Jeter
star Derek Jeter we were headed down to Tampa for spring
we were headed down to Tampa for spring
we were headed down to Tampa for spring training just just for about a day and a
training just just for about a day and a
training just just for about a day and a half and my son’s intention as you can
half and my son’s intention as you can
half and my son’s intention as you can imagine any eight or ten year old kid he
imagine any eight or ten year old kid he
imagine any eight or ten year old kid he wanted to get Derek Jeter’s autograph
wanted to get Derek Jeter’s autograph
wanted to get Derek Jeter’s autograph right and so I was in I was on board
right and so I was in I was on board
right and so I was in I was on board with that and so on this piece of paper
with that and so on this piece of paper
with that and so on this piece of paper that I carry in my wallet I wrote down
that I carry in my wallet I wrote down
that I carry in my wallet I wrote down the following intentions to support his
the following intentions to support his
the following intentions to support his I don’t I intend to be relaxed and go
I don’t I intend to be relaxed and go
I don’t I intend to be relaxed and go with the flow
with the flow
with the flow I intend to arrive at my destination
I intend to arrive at my destination
I intend to arrive at my destination safely I intend to have a smooth trip
safely I intend to have a smooth trip
safely I intend to have a smooth trip and I intend to enjoy my time with
and I intend to enjoy my time with
and I intend to enjoy my time with Rennie and I add it and follow his lead
Rennie and I add it and follow his lead
Rennie and I add it and follow his lead so let me share how it unfolded we get
so let me share how it unfolded we get
so let me share how it unfolded we get to the ballpark at 8:00 a.m. for a 1:15
to the ballpark at 8:00 a.m. for a 1:15
to the ballpark at 8:00 a.m. for a 1:15 p.m. game the say my son was excited it
p.m. game the say my son was excited it
p.m. game the say my son was excited it would be a gross understatement
would be a gross understatement
would be a gross understatement in fact the parking lot attendant wasn’t
in fact the parking lot attendant wasn’t
in fact the parking lot attendant wasn’t even ready to accept our money at that
even ready to accept our money at that
even ready to accept our money at that point so we got something to eat we
point so we got something to eat we
point so we got something to eat we looked around Tampa complex isn’t that
looked around Tampa complex isn’t that
looked around Tampa complex isn’t that big we saw people players stretching
big we saw people players stretching
big we saw people players stretching playing catch but unfortunately did not
playing catch but unfortunately did not
playing catch but unfortunately did not see or get Derek Jeter’s autograph nor
see or get Derek Jeter’s autograph nor
see or get Derek Jeter’s autograph nor did we get any significant autograph
did we get any significant autograph
did we get any significant autograph before the game but one o’clock we
before the game but one o’clock we
before the game but one o’clock we settle into our chairs it is 88 degrees
settle into our chairs it is 88 degrees
settle into our chairs it is 88 degrees in Tampa in March were from Syracuse so
in Tampa in March were from Syracuse so
in Tampa in March were from Syracuse so that was a little warm by the end of the
that was a little warm by the end of the
that was a little warm by the end of the second inning
second inning
second inning my son is completely out of gas he wants
my son is completely out of gas he wants
my son is completely out of gas he wants to go home and he reluctantly says can
to go home and he reluctantly says can
to go home and he reluctantly says can we leave my initial reaction wasn’t too
we leave my initial reaction wasn’t too
we leave my initial reaction wasn’t too positive but in fact he was even so
positive but in fact he was even so
positive but in fact he was even so concerned he called his mother looking
concerned he called his mother looking
concerned he called his mother looking for her blessing tried to talk him into
for her blessing tried to talk him into
for her blessing tried to talk him into staying a little longer trying really
staying a little longer trying really
staying a little longer trying really really hard
really hard
really hard not to amortize the cost of our trip
not to amortize the cost of our trip
not to amortize the cost of our trip over just two innings and then I
over just two innings and then I
over just two innings and then I remember this piece of paper in my
remember this piece of paper in my
remember this piece of paper in my pocket go with the flow follow his lead
pocket go with the flow follow his lead
pocket go with the flow follow his lead so we left on our way back to the
so we left on our way back to the
so we left on our way back to the airport yes if we can stop at the mall
airport yes if we can stop at the mall
airport yes if we can stop at the mall that we were at the night before to get
that we were at the night before to get
that we were at the night before to get a bite to eat
a bite to eat
a bite to eat I said sure so we stopped at the mall as
I said sure so we stopped at the mall as
I said sure so we stopped at the mall as we’re exiting the mall
we’re exiting the mall
we’re exiting the mall somebody excitedly says hey there’s
somebody excitedly says hey there’s
somebody excitedly says hey there’s Derek Jeter eating in the restaurant
Derek Jeter eating in the restaurant
Derek Jeter eating in the restaurant that we just passed by I guess he left
that we just passed by I guess he left
that we just passed by I guess he left the game early as well my son grabs the
the game early as well my son grabs the
the game early as well my son grabs the sharpie out of my hand
sharpie out of my hand
sharpie out of my hand rushes past the hostess and meets his
rushes past the hostess and meets his
rushes past the hostess and meets his hero the ultimate objective of our
hero the ultimate objective of our
hero the ultimate objective of our journey coincidence perhaps or a
journey coincidence perhaps or a
journey coincidence perhaps or a powerful example of deliberate creation
powerful example of deliberate creation
powerful example of deliberate creation made possible by slowing down to go
made possible by slowing down to go
made possible by slowing down to go faster thank you
faster thank you
faster thank you [Applause]
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