[Applause] before I begin what will likely win the
before I begin what will likely win the
before I begin what will likely win the award for the conference’s ugliest power
award for the conference’s ugliest power
award for the conference’s ugliest power plant I just like to give a brief
plant I just like to give a brief
plant I just like to give a brief outline of what I’m about to discuss
outline of what I’m about to discuss
outline of what I’m about to discuss today I’m trying to really what I’m
today I’m trying to really what I’m
today I’m trying to really what I’m trying to impart on you guys is a a mode
trying to impart on you guys is a a mode
trying to impart on you guys is a a mode and a pattern of thinking by which we
and a pattern of thinking by which we
and a pattern of thinking by which we can evaluate our mistakes
can evaluate our mistakes
can evaluate our mistakes essentially the way a way in which we
essentially the way a way in which we
essentially the way a way in which we can examine and dissect and analyze what
can examine and dissect and analyze what
can examine and dissect and analyze what we do wrong and adjust our response to
we do wrong and adjust our response to
we do wrong and adjust our response to our mistakes accordingly so I’m
our mistakes accordingly so I’m
our mistakes accordingly so I’m beginning gonna begin with some
beginning gonna begin with some
beginning gonna begin with some interactivity I’d like each of you to
interactivity I’d like each of you to
interactivity I’d like each of you to briefly if you would just bring up in
briefly if you would just bring up in
briefly if you would just bring up in your minds either the biggest mistake
your minds either the biggest mistake
your minds either the biggest mistake you’ve ever made in your entire life or
you’ve ever made in your entire life or
you’ve ever made in your entire life or a mistake you’ve made recently either
a mistake you’ve made recently either
a mistake you’ve made recently either will do there’s my brother in the front
will do there’s my brother in the front
will do there’s my brother in the front row of thinking the biggest mistake I
row of thinking the biggest mistake I
row of thinking the biggest mistake I ever made in my life is coming to this
ever made in my life is coming to this
ever made in my life is coming to this presentation right okay so oh I’d like
presentation right okay so oh I’d like
presentation right okay so oh I’d like to show you guys a video that relates to
to show you guys a video that relates to
to show you guys a video that relates to the theme of the conference that being
the theme of the conference that being
the theme of the conference that being control-alt-delete if you love the guys
control-alt-delete if you love the guys
control-alt-delete if you love the guys in the booth would
basically because when you turn your
basically because when you turn your computer on you’re gonna see some
computer on you’re gonna see some
computer on you’re gonna see some screens and an extra type your password
screens and an extra type your password
screens and an extra type your password and you want to have something to do
and you want to have something to do
and you want to have something to do with the keyboard that is signaling to a
with the keyboard that is signaling to a
with the keyboard that is signaling to a very low level of the software actually
very low level of the software actually
very low level of the software actually hard-coded in the hardware that it
hard-coded in the hardware that it
hard-coded in the hardware that it really is bringing in the operating
really is bringing in the operating
really is bringing in the operating system you expect instead of just the
system you expect instead of just the
system you expect instead of just the funky software that puts up a screen
funky software that puts up a screen
funky software that puts up a screen that looks like login screen and then it
that looks like login screen and then it
that looks like login screen and then it listens to your password event of table
listens to your password event of table
listens to your password event of table to do that so that the guy with the idea
to do that so that the guy with the idea
to do that so that the guy with the idea of keyboard design didn’t want to give
of keyboard design didn’t want to give
of keyboard design didn’t want to give us our single buck and so we’ve had all
us our single buck and so we’ve had all
us our single buck and so we’ve had all right so from the man himself the genius
right so from the man himself the genius
right so from the man himself the genius billionaire playboy philanthropist – the
billionaire playboy philanthropist – the
billionaire playboy philanthropist – the Playboy
Playboy
Playboy Bill Gates essentially
Bill Gates essentially
Bill Gates essentially control-alt-delete that simple 1/2 of
control-alt-delete that simple 1/2 of
control-alt-delete that simple 1/2 of keys that we do every time we open our
keys that we do every time we open our
keys that we do every time we open our our laptops without ever really even
our laptops without ever really even
our laptops without ever really even thinking about it
thinking about it
thinking about it sort of that that staple of Microsoft
sort of that that staple of Microsoft
sort of that that staple of Microsoft almost was a mistake and you have to
almost was a mistake and you have to
almost was a mistake and you have to wonder you know when Bill Gates and
wonder you know when Bill Gates and
wonder you know when Bill Gates and Microsoft eventually made enough money
Microsoft eventually made enough money
Microsoft eventually made enough money to do whatever they wanted with the
to do whatever they wanted with the
to do whatever they wanted with the Windows software why did they leave
Windows software why did they leave
Windows software why did they leave control-alt-delete in if the reason it
control-alt-delete in if the reason it
control-alt-delete in if the reason it was in there in the first place was
was in there in the first place was
was in there in the first place was because they had hired someone that did
because they had hired someone that did
because they had hired someone that did the job wrong well my interpretation is
the job wrong well my interpretation is
the job wrong well my interpretation is that
that
that control-alt-delete became just that a
control-alt-delete became just that a
control-alt-delete became just that a staple of the Microsoft software that
staple of the Microsoft software that
staple of the Microsoft software that they eventually decided need to be kept
they eventually decided need to be kept
they eventually decided need to be kept in because it had evolved into a part of
in because it had evolved into a part of
in because it had evolved into a part of Microsoft’s identity which brings us to
Microsoft’s identity which brings us to
Microsoft’s identity which brings us to the question I’d like to ask you today
the question I’d like to ask you today
the question I’d like to ask you today when is it appropriate for the mistakes
when is it appropriate for the mistakes
when is it appropriate for the mistakes we make in life do you have an impact on
we make in life do you have an impact on
we make in life do you have an impact on our identities in the way that
our identities in the way that
our identities in the way that control-alt-delete did with Microsoft so
control-alt-delete did with Microsoft so
control-alt-delete did with Microsoft so when is it acceptable and when is it not
when is it acceptable and when is it not
when is it acceptable and when is it not for our mistakes to change us as people
for our mistakes to change us as people
for our mistakes to change us as people I’d like to address
I’d like to address
I’d like to address but the prevalent modes of thinking
but the prevalent modes of thinking
but the prevalent modes of thinking given that there are many adults here in
given that there are many adults here in
given that there are many adults here in the room that have instructed all of us
the room that have instructed all of us
the room that have instructed all of us over the years whether it being parents
over the years whether it being parents
over the years whether it being parents teachers or administrators and we’ve
teachers or administrators and we’ve
teachers or administrators and we’ve made mistakes in front of all of them
made mistakes in front of all of them
made mistakes in front of all of them I’d say that’s pretty safe to assume
I’d say that’s pretty safe to assume
I’d say that’s pretty safe to assume that everyone in this room has made a
that everyone in this room has made a
that everyone in this room has made a mistake in front of you they’re a parent
mistake in front of you they’re a parent
mistake in front of you they’re a parent a teacher or an administrator but on the
a teacher or an administrator but on the
a teacher or an administrator but on the first thing they tell us is that one way
first thing they tell us is that one way
first thing they tell us is that one way to handle the mistake is to learn from
to handle the mistake is to learn from
to handle the mistake is to learn from it and move on and this applies to
it and move on and this applies to
it and move on and this applies to things like picking up a new skill
things like picking up a new skill
things like picking up a new skill adopting a new language learning how to
adopting a new language learning how to
adopting a new language learning how to ride a bike in addition to just the the
ride a bike in addition to just the the
ride a bike in addition to just the the general sort of developing of a new a
general sort of developing of a new a
general sort of developing of a new a new talent or new skill the second thing
new talent or new skill the second thing
new talent or new skill the second thing they tell us is not to do that again
they tell us is not to do that again
they tell us is not to do that again it’s the aggressive one it’s the the
it’s the aggressive one it’s the the
it’s the aggressive one it’s the the cease-and-desist it’s the you know it’s
cease-and-desist it’s the you know it’s
cease-and-desist it’s the you know it’s it’s the one that almost hints at
it’s the one that almost hints at
it’s the one that almost hints at consequence
consequence
consequence hints that a punishment and that applies
hints that a punishment and that applies
hints that a punishment and that applies to things like breaking a
to things like breaking a
to things like breaking a well-established rule cheating on a test
well-established rule cheating on a test
well-established rule cheating on a test punching someone on the playground as
punching someone on the playground as
punching someone on the playground as well as defying common sense where sense
well as defying common sense where sense
well as defying common sense where sense is assumed so this doesn’t apply to
is assumed so this doesn’t apply to
is assumed so this doesn’t apply to things like toddlers or preschoolers
things like toddlers or preschoolers
things like toddlers or preschoolers this applies to people our age who who
this applies to people our age who who
this applies to people our age who who make mistakes where we know very well we
make mistakes where we know very well we
make mistakes where we know very well we shouldn’t so it’s the difference between
shouldn’t so it’s the difference between
shouldn’t so it’s the difference between teaching in the aftermath of a mistake
teaching in the aftermath of a mistake
teaching in the aftermath of a mistake or ordering in the aftermath above sake
or ordering in the aftermath above sake
or ordering in the aftermath above sake so you might wonder can’t those be the
so you might wonder can’t those be the
so you might wonder can’t those be the same thing can’t tell me someone to stop
same thing can’t tell me someone to stop
same thing can’t tell me someone to stop be part of our learning part of a
be part of our learning part of a
be part of our learning part of a learning process the thing with that is
learning process the thing with that is
learning process the thing with that is there’s a vast difference between
there’s a vast difference between
there’s a vast difference between telling someone to stop and telling
telling someone to stop and telling
telling someone to stop and telling something to learn learning as a concept
something to learn learning as a concept
something to learn learning as a concept is open-ended it allows the person being
is open-ended it allows the person being
is open-ended it allows the person being told to learn to decide what the
told to learn to decide what the
told to learn to decide what the conditions of their learning are going
conditions of their learning are going
conditions of their learning are going to be to decide what’s going to happen
to be to decide what’s going to happen
to be to decide what’s going to happen in the event of an adaptation in their
in the event of an adaptation in their
in the event of an adaptation in their behavior on the other hand ordering
behavior on the other hand ordering
behavior on the other hand ordering someone to do something is inflexible
someone to do something is inflexible
someone to do something is inflexible and that’s unmoving and the orders
and that’s unmoving and the orders
and that’s unmoving and the orders oftentimes leave no room for
oftentimes leave no room for
oftentimes leave no room for interpretation but these two different
interpretation but these two different
interpretation but these two different types of mistakes need to be addressed
types of mistakes need to be addressed
types of mistakes need to be addressed in two different ways in different
in two different ways in different
in two different ways in different environments in the environment of a
environments in the environment of a
environments in the environment of a learning situation like a claw
learning situation like a claw
learning situation like a claw or a lesson with a tutor mistakes
or a lesson with a tutor mistakes
or a lesson with a tutor mistakes obviously need to be learned from
obviously need to be learned from
obviously need to be learned from because that is the setting that
because that is the setting that
because that is the setting that corresponds to them but in a regular
corresponds to them but in a regular
corresponds to them but in a regular environment where learning is not
environment where learning is not
environment where learning is not implied and not hinted at and not really
implied and not hinted at and not really
implied and not hinted at and not really in the equation whatsoever mistakes need
in the equation whatsoever mistakes need
in the equation whatsoever mistakes need to be handled more aggressively so if we
to be handled more aggressively so if we
to be handled more aggressively so if we don’t match the right response to the
don’t match the right response to the
don’t match the right response to the right condition on the right on the
right condition on the right on the
right condition on the right on the right type of error there can be severe
right type of error there can be severe
right type of error there can be severe consequences so if the teacher told a
consequences so if the teacher told a
consequences so if the teacher told a student to learn from a cheating
student to learn from a cheating
student to learn from a cheating experience say I was in Chinese class
experience say I was in Chinese class
experience say I was in Chinese class and I wrote the characters down to a
and I wrote the characters down to a
and I wrote the characters down to a Chinese test on my desk and the teacher
Chinese test on my desk and the teacher
Chinese test on my desk and the teacher caught me and told me now you’ve learned
caught me and told me now you’ve learned
caught me and told me now you’ve learned from this experience and I said all
from this experience and I said all
from this experience and I said all right I will learn from this experience
right I will learn from this experience
right I will learn from this experience and then so I wrote them on my hand next
and then so I wrote them on my hand next
and then so I wrote them on my hand next time okay because the teacher left that
time okay because the teacher left that
time okay because the teacher left that up to me left the conditions of learning
up to me left the conditions of learning
up to me left the conditions of learning and adapting to my errors up to me I’m
and adapting to my errors up to me I’m
and adapting to my errors up to me I’m able to sort of decide what happens to
able to sort of decide what happens to
able to sort of decide what happens to myself which may not always be a good
myself which may not always be a good
myself which may not always be a good thing that’s something to get straight
thing that’s something to get straight
thing that’s something to get straight Authority on in many cases especially in
Authority on in many cases especially in
Authority on in many cases especially in our formative years is not a bad thing
our formative years is not a bad thing
our formative years is not a bad thing it’s something we need to guide
it’s something we need to guide
it’s something we need to guide ourselves and sort of evolve into adults
ourselves and sort of evolve into adults
ourselves and sort of evolve into adults from the kids that can’t be trusted so
from the kids that can’t be trusted so
from the kids that can’t be trusted so it grants us a degree of leniency that
it grants us a degree of leniency that
it grants us a degree of leniency that maybe we sometimes don’t deserve so the
maybe we sometimes don’t deserve so the
maybe we sometimes don’t deserve so the opposite of that would be a coach
opposite of that would be a coach
opposite of that would be a coach telling the player not to make a certain
telling the player not to make a certain
telling the player not to make a certain mistake again so if someone ran a drill
mistake again so if someone ran a drill
mistake again so if someone ran a drill in basketball practice and set a screen
in basketball practice and set a screen
in basketball practice and set a screen on the wrong player and a coach pulled
on the wrong player and a coach pulled
on the wrong player and a coach pulled them off to the side and told them you
them off to the side and told them you
them off to the side and told them you know never do that again
know never do that again
know never do that again the consequence of that is in some cases
the consequence of that is in some cases
the consequence of that is in some cases it might be overly aggressive a player
it might be overly aggressive a player
it might be overly aggressive a player may sometimes you know drop the drop the
may sometimes you know drop the drop the
may sometimes you know drop the drop the drill entirely and shift of practicing a
drill entirely and shift of practicing a
drill entirely and shift of practicing a different skill which doesn’t address
different skill which doesn’t address
different skill which doesn’t address the root problem it only moves the focus
the root problem it only moves the focus
the root problem it only moves the focus which is not efficient way to handle it
which is not efficient way to handle it
which is not efficient way to handle it now what I’d like to I could talk to you
now what I’d like to I could talk to you
now what I’d like to I could talk to you guys about is this is something
guys about is this is something
guys about is this is something something pretty personal that I didn’t
something pretty personal that I didn’t
something pretty personal that I didn’t exactly script I’d like to talk to you
exactly script I’d like to talk to you
exactly script I’d like to talk to you guys about the biggest mistake that I
guys about the biggest mistake that I
guys about the biggest mistake that I ever made so if you guys could um if
ever made so if you guys could um if
ever made so if you guys could um if you’ve still got your your mistake from
you’ve still got your your mistake from
you’ve still got your your mistake from earlier this is where you
earlier this is where you
earlier this is where you bringing up because I’m essentially
bringing up because I’m essentially
bringing up because I’m essentially going to evaluate know the mistake I
going to evaluate know the mistake I
going to evaluate know the mistake I made and how I should be responding to
made and how I should be responding to
made and how I should be responding to it
it
it so I think one of the biggest mistakes
so I think one of the biggest mistakes
so I think one of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in my young adult life was not
I’ve made in my young adult life was not
I’ve made in my young adult life was not working hard enough in practicing for
working hard enough in practicing for
working hard enough in practicing for the basketball team and I think when I
the basketball team and I think when I
the basketball team and I think when I decided that I wasn’t going to commit
decided that I wasn’t going to commit
decided that I wasn’t going to commit the time and energy and to you know
the time and energy and to you know
the time and energy and to you know doing wind sprints and practicing ball
doing wind sprints and practicing ball
doing wind sprints and practicing ball handling and shooting and post moves
handling and shooting and post moves
handling and shooting and post moves that I really AM it allowed people to
that I really AM it allowed people to
that I really AM it allowed people to catch up to me whereas because I matured
catch up to me whereas because I matured
catch up to me whereas because I matured earlier I think I would have been able
earlier I think I would have been able
earlier I think I would have been able to beat some people in the early days of
to beat some people in the early days of
to beat some people in the early days of upper school and back in middle school
upper school and back in middle school
upper school and back in middle school on athleticism I couldn’t do that
on athleticism I couldn’t do that
on athleticism I couldn’t do that anymore because I’d effectively been out
anymore because I’d effectively been out
anymore because I’d effectively been out worked and so what happened was I should
worked and so what happened was I should
worked and so what happened was I should have taken away that I could never be
have taken away that I could never be
have taken away that I could never be complacent in an event again I needed to
complacent in an event again I needed to
complacent in an event again I needed to address it directly with the sort of the
address it directly with the sort of the
address it directly with the sort of the stop sign method of of learning it’s the
stop sign method of of learning it’s the
stop sign method of of learning it’s the the one that calls for the the cessation
the one that calls for the the cessation
the one that calls for the the cessation of the behavior that being sitting
of the behavior that being sitting
of the behavior that being sitting around and pretending as if you had it
around and pretending as if you had it
around and pretending as if you had it locked down but I I didn’t learn that I
locked down but I I didn’t learn that I
locked down but I I didn’t learn that I told myself to just learn from the
told myself to just learn from the
told myself to just learn from the situation and work harder next time i
situation and work harder next time i
situation and work harder next time i granted myself a leniency in my errors
granted myself a leniency in my errors
granted myself a leniency in my errors that I didn’t deserve and because of
that I didn’t deserve and because of
that I didn’t deserve and because of that I made a mistake similar to that
that I made a mistake similar to that
that I made a mistake similar to that years later when I got on to the
years later when I got on to the
years later when I got on to the forensics team my sophomore year I later
forensics team my sophomore year I later
forensics team my sophomore year I later got I got cut the next year because I
got I got cut the next year because I
got I got cut the next year because I decided not to put any effort into the
decided not to put any effort into the
decided not to put any effort into the speeches that I brought the tryouts
speeches that I brought the tryouts
speeches that I brought the tryouts because I sort of assumed I had my spot
because I sort of assumed I had my spot
because I sort of assumed I had my spot but I didn’t and I got out worked by
but I didn’t and I got out worked by
but I didn’t and I got out worked by people who are younger and more talented
people who are younger and more talented
people who are younger and more talented some before here today and um yeah you
some before here today and um yeah you
some before here today and um yeah you guys might wonder on what the real point
guys might wonder on what the real point
guys might wonder on what the real point is of distinguishing between our
is of distinguishing between our
is of distinguishing between our mistakes analyzing them and responding
mistakes analyzing them and responding
mistakes analyzing them and responding to them importantly and the significance
to them importantly and the significance
to them importantly and the significance is that every single one of us is going
is that every single one of us is going
is that every single one of us is going to be sooner some of us sooner rather
to be sooner some of us sooner rather
to be sooner some of us sooner rather than later in environments where we will
than later in environments where we will
than later in environments where we will not have authority figures all our lives
not have authority figures all our lives
not have authority figures all our lives we’ve been told by authority figures how
we’ve been told by authority figures how
we’ve been told by authority figures how to address our mistakes whether it’s to
to address our mistakes whether it’s to
to address our mistakes whether it’s to solve a behavior or to learn from it and
solve a behavior or to learn from it and
solve a behavior or to learn from it and because
because
because when we become adults and college
when we become adults and college
when we become adults and college students and past that to whatever
students and past that to whatever
students and past that to whatever happens to us we we’re not going to be
happens to us we we’re not going to be
happens to us we we’re not going to be able to just look to someone to tell us
able to just look to someone to tell us
able to just look to someone to tell us what to do we have to know what to do
what to do we have to know what to do
what to do we have to know what to do ourselves and so it’s important to know
ourselves and so it’s important to know
ourselves and so it’s important to know that one when one makes a mistake in a
that one when one makes a mistake in a
that one when one makes a mistake in a learning environment that’s when we need
learning environment that’s when we need
learning environment that’s when we need to adapt when one makes a mistake
to adapt when one makes a mistake
to adapt when one makes a mistake where we know we shouldn’t have and
where we know we shouldn’t have and
where we know we shouldn’t have and everything about the situation tells us
everything about the situation tells us
everything about the situation tells us we shouldn’t have that’s when we need to
we shouldn’t have that’s when we need to
we shouldn’t have that’s when we need to cut that behavior out of our routine and
cut that behavior out of our routine and
cut that behavior out of our routine and it’s to that end that I feel like I have
it’s to that end that I feel like I have
it’s to that end that I feel like I have to leave you guys with the message that
to leave you guys with the message that
to leave you guys with the message that it’s important to know what the mistakes
it’s important to know what the mistakes
it’s important to know what the mistakes we’ve done symbolized and that’s the
we’ve done symbolized and that’s the
we’ve done symbolized and that’s the important thing whether they symbolize a
important thing whether they symbolize a
important thing whether they symbolize a flaw in our character or whether they
flaw in our character or whether they
flaw in our character or whether they symbolize just a one-time mistake that
symbolize just a one-time mistake that
symbolize just a one-time mistake that can be fixed and can be sort of taped
can be fixed and can be sort of taped
can be fixed and can be sort of taped over and left behind and I feel as if we
over and left behind and I feel as if we
over and left behind and I feel as if we if we don’t pick up that ability to be
if we don’t pick up that ability to be
if we don’t pick up that ability to be able to categorize analyze and respond
able to categorize analyze and respond
able to categorize analyze and respond then there’s there’s a significant
then there’s there’s a significant
then there’s there’s a significant chance that we may end up overreacting
chance that we may end up overreacting
chance that we may end up overreacting to something in our adult lives or
to something in our adult lives or
to something in our adult lives or skipping over something that we
skipping over something that we
skipping over something that we absolutely should not have and so I
absolutely should not have and so I
absolutely should not have and so I thank you guys and we do with the idea
thank you guys and we do with the idea
thank you guys and we do with the idea that if we don’t of course if we don’t
that if we don’t of course if we don’t
that if we don’t of course if we don’t adjust our behavior accordingly that may
adjust our behavior accordingly that may
adjust our behavior accordingly that may truly be the biggest mistake of all
truly be the biggest mistake of all
truly be the biggest mistake of all [Applause]
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