perhaps it sounds familiar to some of you or maybe many of you when I was
you or maybe many of you when I was
you or maybe many of you when I was growing up I was taught that the
growing up I was taught that the
growing up I was taught that the following would lead to success and
following would lead to success and
following would lead to success and happiness in life get good grades get
happiness in life get good grades get
happiness in life get good grades get into a good college have a good career
into a good college have a good career
into a good college have a good career you’ll be successful you’ll be happy so
you’ll be successful you’ll be happy so
you’ll be successful you’ll be happy so that’s what I did worked really hard in
that’s what I did worked really hard in
that’s what I did worked really hard in school got those good grades for the
school got those good grades for the
school got those good grades for the sake of the good grades tried to begin
sake of the good grades tried to begin
sake of the good grades tried to begin to really good college and I was
to really good college and I was
to really good college and I was fortunate to get into MIT a very
fortunate to get into MIT a very
fortunate to get into MIT a very prestigious university which led me to
prestigious university which led me to
prestigious university which led me to eventually get a job a very good company
eventually get a job a very good company
eventually get a job a very good company paying a good salary so I did all the
paying a good salary so I did all the
paying a good salary so I did all the things I was supposed to do right I
things I was supposed to do right I
things I was supposed to do right I should have success
should have success
should have success I should have happiness wasn’t quite the
I should have happiness wasn’t quite the
I should have happiness wasn’t quite the way it played out I found myself
way it played out I found myself
way it played out I found myself actually in my mid-20s not that happy
actually in my mid-20s not that happy
actually in my mid-20s not that happy not that happy with my job not that
not that happy with my job not that
not that happy with my job not that happy with life I found myself
happy with life I found myself
happy with life I found myself questioning a lot of what I’ve been told
questioning a lot of what I’ve been told
questioning a lot of what I’ve been told what I’ve learned I found people around
what I’ve learned I found people around
what I’ve learned I found people around me with degrees from less prestigious
me with degrees from less prestigious
me with degrees from less prestigious universities passing me by I found
universities passing me by I found
universities passing me by I found myself not maybe pursuing the best
myself not maybe pursuing the best
myself not maybe pursuing the best opportunities for myself and I found
opportunities for myself and I found
opportunities for myself and I found myself in my mid-20s suffering from an
myself in my mid-20s suffering from an
myself in my mid-20s suffering from an episode of depression
episode of depression
episode of depression so naturally I asked the question why
so naturally I asked the question why
so naturally I asked the question why how did I end up here I did what I
how did I end up here I did what I
how did I end up here I did what I thought you were supposed to do
thought you were supposed to do
thought you were supposed to do reflecting on this years later I’ve come
reflecting on this years later I’ve come
reflecting on this years later I’ve come to learn a lot of things informed by the
to learn a lot of things informed by the
to learn a lot of things informed by the field of psychology the first thing I
field of psychology the first thing I
field of psychology the first thing I think is really important Brown
think is really important Brown
think is really important Brown groundbreaking work in the field of
groundbreaking work in the field of
groundbreaking work in the field of psychology is work from Carol Dweck and
psychology is work from Carol Dweck and
psychology is work from Carol Dweck and others at Stanford and other
others at Stanford and other
others at Stanford and other universities on the importance of
universities on the importance of
universities on the importance of developing a growth mindset as opposed
developing a growth mindset as opposed
developing a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindset what these
to a fixed mindset what these
to a fixed mindset what these researchers have taught us is that fixed
researchers have taught us is that fixed
researchers have taught us is that fixed mindsets like I had growing up
mindsets like I had growing up
mindsets like I had growing up are where you think about your skills
are where you think about your skills
are where you think about your skills your qualities your attributes as being
your qualities your attributes as being
your qualities your attributes as being inflexible not going to change and these
inflexible not going to change and these
inflexible not going to change and these are the things that determine success in
are the things that determine success in
are the things that determine success in life the research has shown that people
life the research has shown that people
life the research has shown that people who have fixed mindsets like I did at
who have fixed mindsets like I did at
who have fixed mindsets like I did at the time tend to actually shy away from
the time tend to actually shy away from
the time tend to actually shy away from seeking out interesting opportunities
seeking out interesting opportunities
seeking out interesting opportunities for growth and development they tend to
for growth and development they tend to
for growth and development they tend to fear failure and therefore not pursue
fear failure and therefore not pursue
fear failure and therefore not pursue the things that could be rewarding and
the things that could be rewarding and
the things that could be rewarding and meaningful to them and most importantly
meaningful to them and most importantly
meaningful to them and most importantly they tend to underperform later in life
they tend to underperform later in life
they tend to underperform later in life even with controlling for things like
even with controlling for things like
even with controlling for things like intelligence and other factors
intelligence and other factors
intelligence and other factors we believe lead to success other people
we believe lead to success other people
we believe lead to success other people on the other hand operate by what’s
on the other hand operate by what’s
on the other hand operate by what’s called a growth mindset they believe
called a growth mindset they believe
called a growth mindset they believe that our talents our qualities or
that our talents our qualities or
that our talents our qualities or abilities are malleable that with
abilities are malleable that with
abilities are malleable that with persistence dedicated effort we can grow
persistence dedicated effort we can grow
persistence dedicated effort we can grow we can improve we can change and in fact
we can improve we can change and in fact
we can improve we can change and in fact over time these people tend to pursue
over time these people tend to pursue
over time these people tend to pursue more challenging opportunities find ways
more challenging opportunities find ways
more challenging opportunities find ways to grow and develop these people tend to
to grow and develop these people tend to
to grow and develop these people tend to embrace failure and thus give themselves
embrace failure and thus give themselves
embrace failure and thus give themselves opportunities to make their lives and
opportunities to make their lives and
opportunities to make their lives and other lives better and finally these
other lives better and finally these
other lives better and finally these people actually outperform the fixed
people actually outperform the fixed
people actually outperform the fixed mindset people that it’s more your
mindset people that it’s more your
mindset people that it’s more your mindset than even things like
mindset than even things like
mindset than even things like intelligence things like IQ that will
intelligence things like IQ that will
intelligence things like IQ that will determine your success and happiness in
determine your success and happiness in
determine your success and happiness in life
life
life sadly I didn’t know this growing up this
sadly I didn’t know this growing up this
sadly I didn’t know this growing up this research wasn’t around I didn’t know
research wasn’t around I didn’t know
research wasn’t around I didn’t know about these theories but one of the
about these theories but one of the
about these theories but one of the things we’ve learned these days is that
things we’ve learned these days is that
things we’ve learned these days is that not only are these two different ways of
not only are these two different ways of
not only are these two different ways of thinking about yourself and thinking
thinking about yourself and thinking
thinking about yourself and thinking about the world but you can change there
about the world but you can change there
about the world but you can change there is evidence to show you can shift from
is evidence to show you can shift from
is evidence to show you can shift from having a fixed mindset to a growth
having a fixed mindset to a growth
having a fixed mindset to a growth mindset when we think about college in
mindset when we think about college in
mindset when we think about college in our futures again a topic that’s very
our futures again a topic that’s very
our futures again a topic that’s very important for many of you all of you
important for many of you all of you
important for many of you all of you here today
here today
here today I think it’s careful we have to be
I think it’s careful we have to be
I think it’s careful we have to be careful and think about are we on
careful and think about are we on
careful and think about are we on looking at college in our lives from the
looking at college in our lives from the
looking at college in our lives from the point of view of a fixed mindset or
point of view of a fixed mindset or
point of view of a fixed mindset or growth mindset and what does that
growth mindset and what does that
growth mindset and what does that actually mean what is the impact of that
actually mean what is the impact of that
actually mean what is the impact of that do you think the college you go to will
do you think the college you go to will
do you think the college you go to will you determine your life or do you think
you determine your life or do you think
you determine your life or do you think that you your effort your work the
that you your effort your work the
that you your effort your work the opportunities you choose to pursue are
opportunities you choose to pursue are
opportunities you choose to pursue are going to determine what happens in your
going to determine what happens in your
going to determine what happens in your life I’ve also spent some time thinking
life I’ve also spent some time thinking
life I’ve also spent some time thinking more about how did I go wrong making the
more about how did I go wrong making the
more about how did I go wrong making the decisions I did early on in my life
decisions I did early on in my life
decisions I did early on in my life again we’re very fortunate these days
again we’re very fortunate these days
again we’re very fortunate these days we’ve got more knowledge of what many
we’ve got more knowledge of what many
we’ve got more knowledge of what many people call the science of decision
people call the science of decision
people call the science of decision making with the last few decades there’s
making with the last few decades there’s
making with the last few decades there’s been a lot of work helping us understand
been a lot of work helping us understand
been a lot of work helping us understand we think we’re rational we think we make
we think we’re rational we think we make
we think we’re rational we think we make good decisions based on good information
good decisions based on good information
good decisions based on good information but that’s not often the case what we
but that’s not often the case what we
but that’s not often the case what we usually do is follow what are called
usually do is follow what are called
usually do is follow what are called heuristics shortcuts simple rules
heuristics shortcuts simple rules
heuristics shortcuts simple rules efficient ways to make quick judgments
efficient ways to make quick judgments
efficient ways to make quick judgments and decisions these are often informed
and decisions these are often informed
and decisions these are often informed by limited information maybe one piece
by limited information maybe one piece
by limited information maybe one piece of key information you heard somewhere
of key information you heard somewhere
of key information you heard somewhere as opposed to taking a thorough look at
as opposed to taking a thorough look at
as opposed to taking a thorough look at a situation heuristics can be very
a situation heuristics can be very
a situation heuristics can be very helpful
helpful
helpful you go to McDonald’s Anita burger go to
you go to McDonald’s Anita burger go to
you go to McDonald’s Anita burger go to another McDonald’s eat a burger and you
another McDonald’s eat a burger and you
another McDonald’s eat a burger and you want to get a third McDonald’s burger
want to get a third McDonald’s burger
want to get a third McDonald’s burger you can be pretty sure that any
you can be pretty sure that any
you can be pretty sure that any McDonald’s you go to anywhere else in
McDonald’s you go to anywhere else in
McDonald’s you go to anywhere else in the world the burger is gonna taste the
the world the burger is gonna taste the
the world the burger is gonna taste the same you don’t have to ask them how they
same you don’t have to ask them how they
same you don’t have to ask them how they cooked it you don’t have to ask them
cooked it you don’t have to ask them
cooked it you don’t have to ask them what the ingredients are you can be
what the ingredients are you can be
what the ingredients are you can be pretty sure making a snap judgment that
pretty sure making a snap judgment that
pretty sure making a snap judgment that third burger is gonna be the same
third burger is gonna be the same
third burger is gonna be the same similarly you see red coil on a stove
similarly you see red coil on a stove
similarly you see red coil on a stove you can be pretty sure either from your
you can be pretty sure either from your
you can be pretty sure either from your past experience or someone else
past experience or someone else
past experience or someone else experienced that that stove is gonna be
experienced that that stove is gonna be
experienced that that stove is gonna be hot and you shouldn’t touch it you don’t
hot and you shouldn’t touch it you don’t
hot and you shouldn’t touch it you don’t need to test it out you don’t need to
need to test it out you don’t need to
need to test it out you don’t need to ask somebody if they just painted it red
ask somebody if they just painted it red
ask somebody if they just painted it red there’s a good chance that is going to
there’s a good chance that is going to
there’s a good chance that is going to burn you and you don’t touch so
burn you and you don’t touch so
burn you and you don’t touch so heuristics that we use on a daily basis
heuristics that we use on a daily basis
heuristics that we use on a daily basis are quite helpful to us but they can
are quite helpful to us but they can
are quite helpful to us but they can also be not so healthy
also be not so healthy
also be not so healthy research shows that tall people
research shows that tall people
research shows that tall people for example oftentimes get hired over
for example oftentimes get hired over
for example oftentimes get hired over shorter people or oftentimes get
shorter people or oftentimes get
shorter people or oftentimes get promoted over shorter people even when
promoted over shorter people even when
promoted over shorter people even when the job has nothing to do with your
the job has nothing to do with your
the job has nothing to do with your height so companies organizations losing
height so companies organizations losing
height so companies organizations losing the perhaps the ability to have the most
the perhaps the ability to have the most
the perhaps the ability to have the most talented people because of a snap
talented people because of a snap
talented people because of a snap judgment an error in judgment we often
judgment an error in judgment we often
judgment an error in judgment we often make wine for example people often say
make wine for example people often say
make wine for example people often say when they taste a wine that it tasted
when they taste a wine that it tasted
when they taste a wine that it tasted really good but later they find out and
really good but later they find out and
really good but later they find out and that was heavily influenced by the
that was heavily influenced by the
that was heavily influenced by the packaging or the price of the wine
packaging or the price of the wine
packaging or the price of the wine bottle in fact some really interesting
bottle in fact some really interesting
bottle in fact some really interesting research experiments were done where
research experiments were done where
research experiments were done where they took vodka same exact vodka put it
they took vodka same exact vodka put it
they took vodka same exact vodka put it in one bottle that looked expensive with
in one bottle that looked expensive with
in one bottle that looked expensive with a high price the exact same vodka vodka
a high price the exact same vodka vodka
a high price the exact same vodka vodka in a different bottle looked less
in a different bottle looked less
in a different bottle looked less expensive at a lower price people tasted
expensive at a lower price people tasted
expensive at a lower price people tasted the same two vodkas and said wow this
the same two vodkas and said wow this
the same two vodkas and said wow this one is so much better than this one the
one is so much better than this one the
one is so much better than this one the exact same vodka we don’t always make
exact same vodka we don’t always make
exact same vodka we don’t always make good decisions about things especially
good decisions about things especially
good decisions about things especially when it comes to our lives because of
when it comes to our lives because of
when it comes to our lives because of these heuristics that govern how we
these heuristics that govern how we
these heuristics that govern how we operate in the world I would argue that
operate in the world I would argue that
operate in the world I would argue that most of us when we think about
most of us when we think about
most of us when we think about heuristics about college career success
heuristics about college career success
heuristics about college career success think about it in the following way
think about it in the following way
think about it in the following way which college you attend will determine
which college you attend will determine
which college you attend will determine your success opportunities will have in
your success opportunities will have in
your success opportunities will have in your career and your career is going to
your career and your career is going to
your career and your career is going to determine your happiness but I think
determine your happiness but I think
determine your happiness but I think that’s kind of a sad an incorrect way to
that’s kind of a sad an incorrect way to
that’s kind of a sad an incorrect way to look at the world because if you follow
look at the world because if you follow
look at the world because if you follow this thinking what does this actually
this thinking what does this actually
this thinking what does this actually mean but only a few people can actually
mean but only a few people can actually
mean but only a few people can actually be successful only a few people can
be successful only a few people can
be successful only a few people can actually be happy that’s not how the
actually be happy that’s not how the
actually be happy that’s not how the world actually works here’s some
world actually works here’s some
world actually works here’s some examples of just how much your college
examples of just how much your college
examples of just how much your college and the name-brand with it may or may
and the name-brand with it may or may
and the name-brand with it may or may not matter
not matter
not matter you think Joe Biden outgoing vice
you think Joe Biden outgoing vice
you think Joe Biden outgoing vice president United States maybe you didn’t
president United States maybe you didn’t
president United States maybe you didn’t know this is undergraduate adjust
know this is undergraduate adjust
know this is undergraduate adjust institution was University of Delaware
institution was University of Delaware
institution was University of Delaware Condoleezza Rice former Secretary of
Condoleezza Rice former Secretary of
Condoleezza Rice former Secretary of State attended University of Denver for
State attended University of Denver for
State attended University of Denver for undergraduate studies Tim Cook CEO of
undergraduate studies Tim Cook CEO of
undergraduate studies Tim Cook CEO of Apple went to Auburn University Angela
Apple went to Auburn University Angela
Apple went to Auburn University Angela Aaron’s former CEO Burberry all state
Aaron’s former CEO Burberry all state
Aaron’s former CEO Burberry all state universities Sergey Brin co-founder of
universities Sergey Brin co-founder of
universities Sergey Brin co-founder of Google went to University of Maryland as
Google went to University of Maryland as
Google went to University of Maryland as an undergraduate and Sweeny president of
an undergraduate and Sweeny president of
an undergraduate and Sweeny president of disney-abc former president of
disney-abc former president of
disney-abc former president of disney-abc College of New Rochelle and
disney-abc College of New Rochelle and
disney-abc College of New Rochelle and my favorite went on this list Lester
my favorite went on this list Lester
my favorite went on this list Lester Holt NBC News anchor and one of the
Holt NBC News anchor and one of the
Holt NBC News anchor and one of the moderators of a presidential debate this
moderators of a presidential debate this
moderators of a presidential debate this past year Cal State Sacramento he didn’t
past year Cal State Sacramento he didn’t
past year Cal State Sacramento he didn’t even graduate he left school without
even graduate he left school without
even graduate he left school without even getting a college degree I guess is
even getting a college degree I guess is
even getting a college degree I guess is if you look at this list you’d say these
if you look at this list you’d say these
if you look at this list you’d say these people have done pretty well for
people have done pretty well for
people have done pretty well for themselves by all reports they’re
themselves by all reports they’re
themselves by all reports they’re successful and they’re happy they didn’t
successful and they’re happy they didn’t
successful and they’re happy they didn’t go to the institutions that many of us
go to the institutions that many of us
go to the institutions that many of us here think we have to go to to have
here think we have to go to to have
here think we have to go to to have success in happiness let’s bring it
success in happiness let’s bring it
success in happiness let’s bring it closer to home highest honor a teacher
closer to home highest honor a teacher
closer to home highest honor a teacher can receive it’s yes is to be recognized
can receive it’s yes is to be recognized
can receive it’s yes is to be recognized as a Teacher of the Year means you’re
as a Teacher of the Year means you’re
as a Teacher of the Year means you’re held in the highest regard by students
held in the highest regard by students
held in the highest regard by students faculty and administrators and here are
faculty and administrators and here are
faculty and administrators and here are some of the recent Teacher of the Year
some of the recent Teacher of the Year
some of the recent Teacher of the Year awards given out since I’ve been here
awards given out since I’ve been here
awards given out since I’ve been here dr. Smith University of Tennessee mr.
dr. Smith University of Tennessee mr.
dr. Smith University of Tennessee mr. Matt Fagan Eckerd College mr. Johnny
Matt Fagan Eckerd College mr. Johnny
Matt Fagan Eckerd College mr. Johnny Franklin Santa Clara University if any
Franklin Santa Clara University if any
Franklin Santa Clara University if any of you had to have had the privilege of
of you had to have had the privilege of
of you had to have had the privilege of being in their classroom you will know
being in their classroom you will know
being in their classroom you will know they’re as good as it gets when it comes
they’re as good as it gets when it comes
they’re as good as it gets when it comes to teaching and again they didn’t go to
to teaching and again they didn’t go to
to teaching and again they didn’t go to the kinds of universities that people
the kinds of universities that people
the kinds of universities that people here tend to get overly excited and brag
here tend to get overly excited and brag
here tend to get overly excited and brag about when someone gets admitted to what
about when someone gets admitted to what
about when someone gets admitted to what does that say here’s what employers
does that say here’s what employers
does that say here’s what employers think about this question and how this
think about this question and how this
think about this question and how this landscape is shifting as well recently
landscape is shifting as well recently
landscape is shifting as well recently Deloitte a leading consulting an
Deloitte a leading consulting an
Deloitte a leading consulting an accounting firm global firm announced in
accounting firm global firm announced in
accounting firm global firm announced in the UK they’re gonna stop looking at
the UK they’re gonna stop looking at
the UK they’re gonna stop looking at what school or college you attended
what school or college you attended
what school or college you attended because they believe one that doesn’t
because they believe one that doesn’t
because they believe one that doesn’t allow them to find the best people out
allow them to find the best people out
allow them to find the best people out there and two it doesn’t allow them to
there and two it doesn’t allow them to
there and two it doesn’t allow them to build the most diverse workforce they
build the most diverse workforce they
build the most diverse workforce they don’t even ask anymore they don’t even
don’t even ask anymore they don’t even
don’t even ask anymore they don’t even want to know what school or college you
want to know what school or college you
want to know what school or college you attended Google the head of Google HR
attended Google the head of Google HR
attended Google the head of Google HR CNN New York Times you get two
CNN New York Times you get two
CNN New York Times you get two interviews to anyone who will listen
interviews to anyone who will listen
interviews to anyone who will listen saying college you attended cares led
saying college you attended cares led
saying college you attended cares led matters less and less these days
matters less and less these days
matters less and less these days fact that they’re strong data analytics
fact that they’re strong data analytics
fact that they’re strong data analytics within Google they’ve done correlation
within Google they’ve done correlation
within Google they’ve done correlation studies to look at and find that people
studies to look at and find that people
studies to look at and find that people with the highest GPAs and the best test
with the highest GPAs and the best test
with the highest GPAs and the best test scores are not necessarily the top
scores are not necessarily the top
scores are not necessarily the top performing employees at Google in fact
performing employees at Google in fact
performing employees at Google in fact taking this even further in some
taking this even further in some
taking this even further in some departments up to 14% of people don’t
departments up to 14% of people don’t
departments up to 14% of people don’t even have a college degree at all what
even have a college degree at all what
even have a college degree at all what you know what you know how to do and
you know what you know how to do and
you know what you know how to do and what kind of person you are matters more
what kind of person you are matters more
what kind of person you are matters more and more and will continue to matter
and more and will continue to matter
and more and will continue to matter more and more as we develop the better
more and more as we develop the better
more and more as we develop the better ways of evaluating and recruiting people
ways of evaluating and recruiting people
ways of evaluating and recruiting people out there in the world so if the old
out there in the world so if the old
out there in the world so if the old ways used to think about success and
ways used to think about success and
ways used to think about success and Happiness maybe don’t apply as much
Happiness maybe don’t apply as much
Happiness maybe don’t apply as much anymore
anymore
anymore what should we follow what should we do
what should we follow what should we do
what should we follow what should we do well fortunately there’s researchers out
well fortunately there’s researchers out
well fortunately there’s researchers out there particularly at the University of
there particularly at the University of
there particularly at the University of Pennsylvania working on this very
Pennsylvania working on this very
Pennsylvania working on this very question and the latest greatest
question and the latest greatest
question and the latest greatest research is a model called perma which
research is a model called perma which
research is a model called perma which says if you want to increase your
says if you want to increase your
says if you want to increase your well-being if you want to flourish in
well-being if you want to flourish in
well-being if you want to flourish in life here’s the five things you should
life here’s the five things you should
life here’s the five things you should do first look for experiencing positive
do first look for experiencing positive
do first look for experiencing positive emotions and this is something you can
emotions and this is something you can
emotions and this is something you can do on a daily basis no matter how small
do on a daily basis no matter how small
do on a daily basis no matter how small even to even usually the smallest ones
even to even usually the smallest ones
even to even usually the smallest ones make the biggest difference you can find
make the biggest difference you can find
make the biggest difference you can find on a daily basis ways to experience
on a daily basis ways to experience
on a daily basis ways to experience positive emotions second engagement find
positive emotions second engagement find
positive emotions second engagement find things to involve yourself in that draw
things to involve yourself in that draw
things to involve yourself in that draw you that pull you in that make you feel
you that pull you in that make you feel
you that pull you in that make you feel productive make you feel alive
productive make you feel alive
productive make you feel alive regardless of the glamour of the job or
regardless of the glamour of the job or
regardless of the glamour of the job or not three positive relationships and
not three positive relationships and
not three positive relationships and especially opportunities where you give
especially opportunities where you give
especially opportunities where you give more than you get for find the meaning
more than you get for find the meaning
more than you get for find the meaning of what you’re doing what’s the purpose
of what you’re doing what’s the purpose
of what you’re doing what’s the purpose what’s the contribution you’re making
what’s the contribution you’re making
what’s the contribution you’re making and five finally accomplishment
and five finally accomplishment
and five finally accomplishment opportunities for you to do things where
opportunities for you to do things where
opportunities for you to do things where you see accomplishment where you grow
you see accomplishment where you grow
you see accomplishment where you grow where you improved notice that none of
where you improved notice that none of
where you improved notice that none of these have to do with which university
these have to do with which university
these have to do with which university you attend or don’t attend none of these
you attend or don’t attend none of these
you attend or don’t attend none of these have to do with the glamour of your job
have to do with the glamour of your job
have to do with the glamour of your job or the pay of your job these are things
or the pay of your job these are things
or the pay of your job these are things that successful happy people according
that successful happy people according
that successful happy people according to the research do regardless of the
to the research do regardless of the
to the research do regardless of the degree on their wall regardless of their
degree on their wall regardless of their
degree on their wall regardless of their job title so here’s what I’ve learned I
job title so here’s what I’ve learned I
job title so here’s what I’ve learned I regret chasing after good grades in high
regret chasing after good grades in high
regret chasing after good grades in high school just for the sake of those grades
school just for the sake of those grades
school just for the sake of those grades I’ve missed opportunities for learning
I’ve missed opportunities for learning
I’ve missed opportunities for learning and growth I regret going after at
and growth I regret going after at
and growth I regret going after at college just because if it’s a name not
college just because if it’s a name not
college just because if it’s a name not thinking about whether it be the right
thinking about whether it be the right
thinking about whether it be the right place for me
place for me
place for me and if I would use it well to explore
and if I would use it well to explore
and if I would use it well to explore so I regret thinking that those good
so I regret thinking that those good
so I regret thinking that those good grades in the college were gonna give me
grades in the college were gonna give me
grades in the college were gonna give me the job that would give me happiness and
the job that would give me happiness and
the job that would give me happiness and success that all these things would be
success that all these things would be
success that all these things would be given to me I regret regret developing
given to me I regret regret developing
given to me I regret regret developing that fixed mindset and most of all I
that fixed mindset and most of all I
that fixed mindset and most of all I realize now I regret developing a
realize now I regret developing a
realize now I regret developing a self-concept and a sense of self-worth
self-concept and a sense of self-worth
self-concept and a sense of self-worth that was too tied into my grades my
that was too tied into my grades my
that was too tied into my grades my college job
college job
college job money any of these kinds of things
money any of these kinds of things
money any of these kinds of things fortunately I’ve had the opportunity to
fortunately I’ve had the opportunity to
fortunately I’ve had the opportunity to learn and improve and grow and I hope
learn and improve and grow and I hope
learn and improve and grow and I hope you all will as well so here’s my advice
you all will as well so here’s my advice
you all will as well so here’s my advice to you one remember we’re not always
to you one remember we’re not always
to you one remember we’re not always good at making decisions we live more by
good at making decisions we live more by
good at making decisions we live more by heuristics than we do by better
heuristics than we do by better
heuristics than we do by better decision-making methods so recognize
decision-making methods so recognize
decision-making methods so recognize that in yourselves and you take in
that in yourselves and you take in
that in yourselves and you take in information to your college will not
information to your college will not
information to your college will not give you success in happiness
give you success in happiness
give you success in happiness in fact that fixed mindset will probably
in fact that fixed mindset will probably
in fact that fixed mindset will probably hem to you later in life it’s what you
hem to you later in life it’s what you
hem to you later in life it’s what you make out of any experience you have that
make out of any experience you have that
make out of any experience you have that matters 3 we’d have better research now
matters 3 we’d have better research now
matters 3 we’d have better research now on what does actually lead to success
on what does actually lead to success
on what does actually lead to success and happiness we need to adopt these new
and happiness we need to adopt these new
and happiness we need to adopt these new approaches and get rid of the old way of
approaches and get rid of the old way of
approaches and get rid of the old way of thinking about this kind of stuff can
thinking about this kind of stuff can
thinking about this kind of stuff can only a few people be successful and
only a few people be successful and
only a few people be successful and happier can everyone be what do you need
happier can everyone be what do you need
happier can everyone be what do you need to do to be successful and happy how are
to do to be successful and happy how are
to do to be successful and happy how are you going to answer that question for
you going to answer that question for
you going to answer that question for yourself you’re all very fortunate you
yourself you’re all very fortunate you
yourself you’re all very fortunate you get to choose what to believe thank you
get to choose what to believe thank you
get to choose what to believe thank you very much
very much
very much [Applause]
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