so I’m here to share with you the secret to successful aging and it’s not kale or
to successful aging and it’s not kale or
to successful aging and it’s not kale or Botox or even pseudo ku you don’t have
Botox or even pseudo ku you don’t have
Botox or even pseudo ku you don’t have to buy it be born with it or borrow your
to buy it be born with it or borrow your
to buy it be born with it or borrow your life savings to get it
life savings to get it
life savings to get it photo I know I mean I’m old but I’m not
photo I know I mean I’m old but I’m not
photo I know I mean I’m old but I’m not that old but in the last decade I have
that old but in the last decade I have
that old but in the last decade I have been immersed in the senior living
been immersed in the senior living
been immersed in the senior living industry I have worked with seniors
industry I have worked with seniors
industry I have worked with seniors interviewed them observe them done
interviewed them observe them done
interviewed them observe them done research on them and what I’ve learned
research on them and what I’ve learned
research on them and what I’ve learned is that we are in the midst of an aging
is that we are in the midst of an aging
is that we are in the midst of an aging revolution there’s an adage in my
revolution there’s an adage in my
revolution there’s an adage in my industry that the longer you live the
industry that the longer you live the
industry that the longer you live the longer you live and actually that is
longer you live and actually that is
longer you live and actually that is true so today if you’re 65 you can
true so today if you’re 65 you can
true so today if you’re 65 you can expect to live to 84 and if you’re 84
expect to live to 84 and if you’re 84
expect to live to 84 and if you’re 84 you can expect to make it to 92 and if
you can expect to make it to 92 and if
you can expect to make it to 92 and if you make it to 92 you can tack on a few
you make it to 92 you can tack on a few
you make it to 92 you can tack on a few years what else is new about this
years what else is new about this
years what else is new about this industry first of all there are more of
industry first of all there are more of
industry first of all there are more of us Aging in the United States than ever
us Aging in the United States than ever
us Aging in the United States than ever before in the history of our country so
before in the history of our country so
before in the history of our country so here’s a chart of the u.s. live birth
here’s a chart of the u.s. live birth
here’s a chart of the u.s. live birth and it shows that today there are 10,000
and it shows that today there are 10,000
and it shows that today there are 10,000 people every day turning 75 and that’s
people every day turning 75 and that’s
people every day turning 75 and that’s gonna continue for a couple years
gonna continue for a couple years
gonna continue for a couple years no it’s gonna continue for the next 18
no it’s gonna continue for the next 18
no it’s gonna continue for the next 18 years 10,000 people a day turning 75 for
years 10,000 people a day turning 75 for
years 10,000 people a day turning 75 for 18 years with some people call a silver
18 years with some people call a silver
18 years with some people call a silver tsunami and what are these thousands of
tsunami and what are these thousands of
tsunami and what are these thousands of older people doing they’re benefiting
older people doing they’re benefiting
older people doing they’re benefiting from better health care so today a new
from better health care so today a new
from better health care so today a new knee or a new hip is par for the course
knee or a new hip is par for the course
knee or a new hip is par for the course it’s not a life-threatening surgery
it’s not a life-threatening surgery
it’s not a life-threatening surgery people are accessing better medicine and
people are accessing better medicine and
people are accessing better medicine and the other thing that’s different is
the other thing that’s different is
the other thing that’s different is those pesky working women so 60 years
those pesky working women so 60 years
those pesky working women so 60 years ago you had adult women who typically
ago you had adult women who typically
ago you had adult women who typically were right around the corner
were right around the corner
were right around the corner their parents but now they’re in the
their parents but now they’re in the
their parents but now they’re in the workforce they are getting married later
workforce they are getting married later
workforce they are getting married later having children later they are moving
having children later they are moving
having children later they are moving for their jobs relocating they are the
for their jobs relocating they are the
for their jobs relocating they are the true Sandwich Generation and considering
true Sandwich Generation and considering
true Sandwich Generation and considering their lifestyle it’s not a bad thing
their lifestyle it’s not a bad thing
their lifestyle it’s not a bad thing that they’re living farther away and
that they’re living farther away and
that they’re living farther away and what’s the biggest change in this
what’s the biggest change in this
what’s the biggest change in this revolution it’s the senior citizens the
revolution it’s the senior citizens the
revolution it’s the senior citizens the seventy year olds I’ll share with you
seventy year olds I’ll share with you
seventy year olds I’ll share with you some 70 year olds I know Paul McCartney
some 70 year olds I know Paul McCartney
some 70 year olds I know Paul McCartney Aretha Franklin Mick Jagger seventy year
Aretha Franklin Mick Jagger seventy year
Aretha Franklin Mick Jagger seventy year old and still rocking stadiums as TEDx
old and still rocking stadiums as TEDx
old and still rocking stadiums as TEDx says living life on their own terms but
says living life on their own terms but
says living life on their own terms but even if you’re 70 year old is not
even if you’re 70 year old is not
even if you’re 70 year old is not rocking stadiums they’re not rocking
rocking stadiums they’re not rocking
rocking stadiums they’re not rocking chairs they are traveling more
chairs they are traveling more
chairs they are traveling more exercising more dining out this
exercising more dining out this
exercising more dining out this generation wants and expects more from
generation wants and expects more from
generation wants and expects more from the last third of their life than any
the last third of their life than any
the last third of their life than any other generation so I have a question
other generation so I have a question
other generation so I have a question why don’t we all approach aging with
why don’t we all approach aging with
why don’t we all approach aging with this kind of enthusiasm why do birthday
this kind of enthusiasm why do birthday
this kind of enthusiasm why do birthday cards starting at age 40 turn doom and
cards starting at age 40 turn doom and
cards starting at age 40 turn doom and gloom don’t we know it’s better than
gloom don’t we know it’s better than
gloom don’t we know it’s better than they alternative I think it’s easy to
they alternative I think it’s easy to
they alternative I think it’s easy to blame the reason for this on society’s
blame the reason for this on society’s
blame the reason for this on society’s obsession with youth but I think it
obsession with youth but I think it
obsession with youth but I think it comes down to two things one is fear
comes down to two things one is fear
comes down to two things one is fear fear of aging and death as one of my
fear of aging and death as one of my
fear of aging and death as one of my favorite writers Atul Gawande says we
favorite writers Atul Gawande says we
favorite writers Atul Gawande says we blind ourselves to the opportunity to
blind ourselves to the opportunity to
blind ourselves to the opportunity to change aging for the better the second
change aging for the better the second
change aging for the better the second reason we don’t look forward except
reason we don’t look forward except
reason we don’t look forward except there’s no roadmap for this
there’s no roadmap for this
there’s no roadmap for this nobody expected to
nobody expected to
nobody expected to live this long and be this vital now I’m
live this long and be this vital now I’m
live this long and be this vital now I’m no Pollyanna I know the change that
no Pollyanna I know the change that
no Pollyanna I know the change that aging brings can be difficult you have
aging brings can be difficult you have
aging brings can be difficult you have aches and pains and places you didn’t
aches and pains and places you didn’t
aches and pains and places you didn’t even know you had being older is seen
even know you had being older is seen
even know you had being older is seen and experienced by many as an advent of
and experienced by many as an advent of
and experienced by many as an advent of loss loss of physical vitality friends
loss loss of physical vitality friends
loss loss of physical vitality friends energy and sometimes I let a loss of a
energy and sometimes I let a loss of a
energy and sometimes I let a loss of a sense of purpose so what do we do about
sense of purpose so what do we do about
sense of purpose so what do we do about this we stick our heads in the sand
this we stick our heads in the sand
this we stick our heads in the sand otherwise smart people who have saved to
otherwise smart people who have saved to
otherwise smart people who have saved to buy a house educate their children take
buy a house educate their children take
buy a house educate their children take a vacation deny the fact of Aging and
a vacation deny the fact of Aging and
a vacation deny the fact of Aging and the changes ahead they don’t think about
the changes ahead they don’t think about
the changes ahead they don’t think about it
it
it just take a look at the way we live
just take a look at the way we live
just take a look at the way we live today in the u.s. 50 percent of people
today in the u.s. 50 percent of people
today in the u.s. 50 percent of people over 85 live alone they’ve mostly
over 85 live alone they’ve mostly
over 85 live alone they’ve mostly stopped driving at night they don’t
stopped driving at night they don’t
stopped driving at night they don’t socialize anymore and remember those
socialize anymore and remember those
socialize anymore and remember those adult children their far-flung and maybe
adult children their far-flung and maybe
adult children their far-flung and maybe that’s a good thing people insist that
that’s a good thing people insist that
that’s a good thing people insist that living alone means independence even as
living alone means independence even as
living alone means independence even as the New York Times declares there is an
the New York Times declares there is an
the New York Times declares there is an epidemic of loneliness among older
epidemic of loneliness among older
epidemic of loneliness among older adults and why does loneliness matter in
adults and why does loneliness matter in
adults and why does loneliness matter in addition to the reason you would expect
addition to the reason you would expect
addition to the reason you would expect researchers at MIT in the University of
researchers at MIT in the University of
researchers at MIT in the University of Chicago last year came out with a
Chicago last year came out with a
Chicago last year came out with a research study that connects scientific
research study that connects scientific
research study that connects scientific evidence to loneliness and a loss of
evidence to loneliness and a loss of
evidence to loneliness and a loss of physical and cognitive decline even
physical and cognitive decline even
physical and cognitive decline even Forbes magazine recognizes loneliness as
Forbes magazine recognizes loneliness as
Forbes magazine recognizes loneliness as a bigger health risk than obesity or
a bigger health risk than obesity or
a bigger health risk than obesity or smoking and why are we lonely we’ve
smoking and why are we lonely we’ve
smoking and why are we lonely we’ve literally stopped speaking
literally stopped speaking
literally stopped speaking statistically adults over
statistically adults over
statistically adults over seventy-five only spent eight percent of
seventy-five only spent eight percent of
seventy-five only spent eight percent of their time communicating a 50 percent
their time communicating a 50 percent
their time communicating a 50 percent drop since when they’re 65 and no in
drop since when they’re 65 and no in
drop since when they’re 65 and no in answer to your question
answer to your question
answer to your question texting does not count just because God
texting does not count just because God
texting does not count just because God gave you opposable thumbs does not mean
gave you opposable thumbs does not mean
gave you opposable thumbs does not mean it’s a replacement for real conversation
it’s a replacement for real conversation
it’s a replacement for real conversation so so what do we do about this
so so what do we do about this
so so what do we do about this I looked into three pieces of research
I looked into three pieces of research
I looked into three pieces of research the first piece came out last year and
the first piece came out last year and
the first piece came out last year and it was done by Indiana and Harvard
it was done by Indiana and Harvard
it was done by Indiana and Harvard University and they took a look at eight
University and they took a look at eight
University and they took a look at eight thousand older adults some of whom
thousand older adults some of whom
thousand older adults some of whom volunteered outside the community and
volunteered outside the community and
volunteered outside the community and some of whom didn’t and they found that
some of whom didn’t and they found that
some of whom didn’t and they found that overwhelmingly those people that
overwhelmingly those people that
overwhelmingly those people that volunteered were healthier than the
volunteered were healthier than the
volunteered were healthier than the people who didn’t they had better test
people who didn’t they had better test
people who didn’t they had better test results they did mammograms they did
results they did mammograms they did
results they did mammograms they did took care of themselves and most
took care of themselves and most
took care of themselves and most strikingly volunteers had 38 percent
strikingly volunteers had 38 percent
strikingly volunteers had 38 percent fewer nights in the hospital that non
fewer nights in the hospital that non
fewer nights in the hospital that non volunteers these are older adults less
volunteers these are older adults less
volunteers these are older adults less time in the hospital stepping back and
time in the hospital stepping back and
time in the hospital stepping back and looking globally anthropologist Dan
looking globally anthropologist Dan
looking globally anthropologist Dan Buettner took a look at five areas
Buettner took a look at five areas
Buettner took a look at five areas around the globe where the longest
around the globe where the longest
around the globe where the longest living people were clustered he called
living people were clustered he called
living people were clustered he called them Blue Zones so Japan Greece Italy
them Blue Zones so Japan Greece Italy
them Blue Zones so Japan Greece Italy Costa Rica and California all have
Costa Rica and California all have
Costa Rica and California all have clusters of people who lived a long time
clusters of people who lived a long time
clusters of people who lived a long time and he looked into what factors in each
and he looked into what factors in each
and he looked into what factors in each of these cultures are the same what can
of these cultures are the same what can
of these cultures are the same what can we learn from this and in addition to a
we learn from this and in addition to a
we learn from this and in addition to a healthy diet he identified a number of
healthy diet he identified a number of
healthy diet he identified a number of key factors these people had moderate
key factors these people had moderate
key factors these people had moderate exercise they understood how to shed
exercise they understood how to shed
exercise they understood how to shed stress there was a focus on the family
stress there was a focus on the family
stress there was a focus on the family and they had a sense of purpose what the
and they had a sense of purpose what the
and they had a sense of purpose what the Japanese call a key guy I loved this
Japanese call a key guy I loved this
Japanese call a key guy I loved this concept of a key guy which is loosely
concept of a key guy which is loosely
concept of a key guy which is loosely translated as a reason to get up in the
translated as a reason to get up in the
translated as a reason to get up in the morning
morning
morning and I looked a little closer at this now
and I looked a little closer at this now
and I looked a little closer at this now the concept has been around for
the concept has been around for
the concept has been around for thousands of years and it derives from
thousands of years and it derives from
thousands of years and it derives from two japanese terms or kuru meaning life
two japanese terms or kuru meaning life
two japanese terms or kuru meaning life and kind meaning what one hopes for and
and kind meaning what one hopes for and
and kind meaning what one hopes for and what I love about this idea is it
what I love about this idea is it
what I love about this idea is it doesn’t talk about our current state of
doesn’t talk about our current state of
doesn’t talk about our current state of happiness but rather our ability to look
happiness but rather our ability to look
happiness but rather our ability to look forward now when you’re younger and
forward now when you’re younger and
forward now when you’re younger and you’re raising your family and you’re
you’re raising your family and you’re
you’re raising your family and you’re working in your career your purpose is
working in your career your purpose is
working in your career your purpose is clear but when your family has grown and
clear but when your family has grown and
clear but when your family has grown and your work career is over it doesn’t mean
your work career is over it doesn’t mean
your work career is over it doesn’t mean your life is over
your life is over
your life is over just that base just that sense of
just that base just that sense of
just that base just that sense of purpose you now have the chance to find
purpose you now have the chance to find
purpose you now have the chance to find a new purpose and you can choose your a
a new purpose and you can choose your a
a new purpose and you can choose your a key guy by answering four questions what
key guy by answering four questions what
key guy by answering four questions what are you passionate about what does the
are you passionate about what does the
are you passionate about what does the world need what are you good at and what
world need what are you good at and what
world need what are you good at and what can you be paid for or if you’re retired
can you be paid for or if you’re retired
can you be paid for or if you’re retired what is your vocation the intersection
what is your vocation the intersection
what is your vocation the intersection of these is you’re a key guy the last
of these is you’re a key guy the last
of these is you’re a key guy the last piece of research is from a small
piece of research is from a small
piece of research is from a small nondescript School in Massachusetts that
nondescript School in Massachusetts that
nondescript School in Massachusetts that you may or may not have heard of they
you may or may not have heard of they
you may or may not have heard of they did a 75 year study of a lifespan of a
did a 75 year study of a lifespan of a
did a 75 year study of a lifespan of a cohort of graduates they studied them
cohort of graduates they studied them
cohort of graduates they studied them for 75 years they looked at mayoral
for 75 years they looked at mayoral
for 75 years they looked at mayoral success career status diet exercise and
success career status diet exercise and
success career status diet exercise and they wanted to find the secret to what
they wanted to find the secret to what
they wanted to find the secret to what makes a successful aging adult and what
makes a successful aging adult and what
makes a successful aging adult and what they came out with shockingly for this
they came out with shockingly for this
they came out with shockingly for this institution they boiled the whole study
institution they boiled the whole study
institution they boiled the whole study down to one sentence good relationships
down to one sentence good relationships
down to one sentence good relationships keep us happier and healthier period so
keep us happier and healthier period so
keep us happier and healthier period so what’s the secret to successful aging
what’s the secret to successful aging
what’s the secret to successful aging three things don’t be an ostrich you’re
three things don’t be an ostrich you’re
three things don’t be an ostrich you’re smarter than that recognize that you are
smarter than that recognize that you are
smarter than that recognize that you are ageing and celebrate your age where you
ageing and celebrate your age where you
ageing and celebrate your age where you are understand you are on the right side
are understand you are on the right side
are understand you are on the right side of the grass to defy expectations find
of the grass to defy expectations find
of the grass to defy expectations find that next purpose find the reason to get
that next purpose find the reason to get
that next purpose find the reason to get up in the morning whether it’s like
up in the morning whether it’s like
up in the morning whether it’s like Claire doing skydiving for your 80th
Claire doing skydiving for your 80th
Claire doing skydiving for your 80th birthday or coming up with a community
birthday or coming up with a community
birthday or coming up with a community garden a book group find out what that
garden a book group find out what that
garden a book group find out what that purpose is
purpose is
purpose is the world is hungry for your gifts your
the world is hungry for your gifts your
the world is hungry for your gifts your talents your time grow friendships
talents your time grow friendships
talents your time grow friendships relationships matter get some get out of
relationships matter get some get out of
relationships matter get some get out of the house I know for many of you your
the house I know for many of you your
the house I know for many of you your friends and family may have passed away
friends and family may have passed away
friends and family may have passed away but there’s a lot of people in the world
but there’s a lot of people in the world
but there’s a lot of people in the world find people connect with them go out and
find people connect with them go out and
find people connect with them go out and connect with people in the outside world
connect with people in the outside world
connect with people in the outside world or in a case of one 94 year old man his
or in a case of one 94 year old man his
or in a case of one 94 year old man his wife died and he decided to build a
wife died and he decided to build a
wife died and he decided to build a community pool in his backyard now he
community pool in his backyard now he
community pool in his backyard now he has kids adults coming to his house all
has kids adults coming to his house all
has kids adults coming to his house all day long and at ninety four who’s
day long and at ninety four who’s
day long and at ninety four who’s worried about liability look forward
worried about liability look forward
worried about liability look forward it’s that simple you are here you have
it’s that simple you are here you have
it’s that simple you are here you have more gifts to give you have more friends
more gifts to give you have more friends
more gifts to give you have more friends to meet and as you flourish so will the
to meet and as you flourish so will the
to meet and as you flourish so will the world
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