[Music] the challenge of this speech is a
the challenge of this speech is a
the challenge of this speech is a perception of Ted that I’ve had that
perception of Ted that I’ve had that
perception of Ted that I’ve had that tenants for people who have a message
tenants for people who have a message
tenants for people who have a message that needs to be heard and I so admired
that needs to be heard and I so admired
that needs to be heard and I so admired that confidence because despite a career
that confidence because despite a career
that confidence because despite a career standing in front of people I’ve never
standing in front of people I’ve never
standing in front of people I’ve never really thought about myself or a message
really thought about myself or a message
really thought about myself or a message that had to be heard but I do want to
that had to be heard but I do want to
that had to be heard but I do want to thank the students Dina and Dennis and
thank the students Dina and Dennis and
thank the students Dina and Dennis and Lane Graziano for having the confidence
Lane Graziano for having the confidence
Lane Graziano for having the confidence that you do have something to say the
that you do have something to say the
that you do have something to say the idea I kept coming back to is one about
idea I kept coming back to is one about
idea I kept coming back to is one about the personal encounters that build the
the personal encounters that build the
the personal encounters that build the stories of our lives one can have some
stories of our lives one can have some
stories of our lives one can have some can have significant impact some can be
can have significant impact some can be
can have significant impact some can be signpost that we don’t even recognize I
signpost that we don’t even recognize I
signpost that we don’t even recognize I will first share a story that set me on
will first share a story that set me on
will first share a story that set me on this line of thinking it is part of the
this line of thinking it is part of the
this line of thinking it is part of the autobiographical account of the founder
autobiographical account of the founder
autobiographical account of the founder of the human fund Jacqueline Jacqueline
of the human fund Jacqueline Jacqueline
of the human fund Jacqueline Jacqueline Novogratz
Novogratz
Novogratz she relays what would seem like a
she relays what would seem like a
she relays what would seem like a fabricated incident as the young girl
fabricated incident as the young girl
fabricated incident as the young girl she was given a blue sweater it had the
she was given a blue sweater it had the
she was given a blue sweater it had the design with zebras on the front and
design with zebras on the front and
design with zebras on the front and Mount Kilimanjaro in the background
Mount Kilimanjaro in the background
Mount Kilimanjaro in the background appropriate perhaps for a mirror as she
appropriate perhaps for a mirror as she
appropriate perhaps for a mirror as she grew in the shape of her body changed
grew in the shape of her body changed
grew in the shape of her body changed she continued to wear that sweater until
she continued to wear that sweater until
she continued to wear that sweater until one day in grade 9 her nemesis shouted
one day in grade 9 her nemesis shouted
one day in grade 9 her nemesis shouted across the hallway then Jackie
across the hallway then Jackie
across the hallway then Jackie boys don’t need to go to the mountains
boys don’t need to go to the mountains
boys don’t need to go to the mountains to ski they can ski on the contours of
to ski they can ski on the contours of
to ski they can ski on the contours of your sweater humiliated devastated she
your sweater humiliated devastated she
your sweater humiliated devastated she went home and she and her mother
went home and she and her mother
went home and she and her mother ceremoniously dumped the sweater into
ceremoniously dumped the sweater into
ceremoniously dumped the sweater into the goodwill box fast forward 10 years a
the goodwill box fast forward 10 years a
the goodwill box fast forward 10 years a career change from Wall Street where she
career change from Wall Street where she
career change from Wall Street where she found no meaning to a new world bank job
found no meaning to a new world bank job
found no meaning to a new world bank job to helping others in Africa she goes out
to helping others in Africa she goes out
to helping others in Africa she goes out running in Kigali Rwanda in front of
running in Kigali Rwanda in front of
running in Kigali Rwanda in front of hers a small boy from the blue sweater
hers a small boy from the blue sweater
hers a small boy from the blue sweater she runs up looks the tag and yes it is
she runs up looks the tag and yes it is
she runs up looks the tag and yes it is her
that would be fairly remarkable moment
that would be fairly remarkable moment it for any of us
it for any of us
it for any of us it would certainly speak to me if I just
it would certainly speak to me if I just
it would certainly speak to me if I just decided to make a life change and move
decided to make a life change and move
decided to make a life change and move that significant move I’m not sure all
that significant move I’m not sure all
that significant move I’m not sure all our ways of becoming are as well
our ways of becoming are as well
our ways of becoming are as well signposted but the men are also works as
signposted but the men are also works as
signposted but the men are also works as one that shows us how certain moments
one that shows us how certain moments
one that shows us how certain moments can define us but also highlight the
can define us but also highlight the
can define us but also highlight the process by which we come to recognize
process by which we come to recognize
process by which we come to recognize and act and make ourselves open to
and act and make ourselves open to
and act and make ourselves open to change for all of us this is an endless
change for all of us this is an endless
change for all of us this is an endless process of experiencing recognizing
process of experiencing recognizing
process of experiencing recognizing acting as we gain insights into
acting as we gain insights into
acting as we gain insights into ourselves in my own life I’m often
ourselves in my own life I’m often
ourselves in my own life I’m often reminded of an evening when at 12 or 13
reminded of an evening when at 12 or 13
reminded of an evening when at 12 or 13 I’ve finished watching the TV show the
I’ve finished watching the TV show the
I’ve finished watching the TV show the Patty Duke show I suspect not many in
Patty Duke show I suspect not many in
Patty Duke show I suspect not many in this room know it it’s about two cousins
this room know it it’s about two cousins
this room know it it’s about two cousins who are identical but very different
who are identical but very different
who are identical but very different there’s Kathy who’s lived most anywhere
there’s Kathy who’s lived most anywhere
there’s Kathy who’s lived most anywhere from Zanzibar to Berkeley Square but
from Zanzibar to Berkeley Square but
from Zanzibar to Berkeley Square but Patty’s only see the sights a girl can
Patty’s only see the sights a girl can
Patty’s only see the sights a girl can take the group one nights
take the group one nights
take the group one nights whoa I’m crazy there you get the idea
whoa I’m crazy there you get the idea
whoa I’m crazy there you get the idea in this episode patty from Brooklyn
in this episode patty from Brooklyn
in this episode patty from Brooklyn Heights and her cousin Kathy constant
Heights and her cousin Kathy constant
Heights and her cousin Kathy constant rivals are showing their elements as
rivals are showing their elements as
rivals are showing their elements as patty is consumed by friends social
patty is consumed by friends social
patty is consumed by friends social options spending time with her boyfriend
options spending time with her boyfriend
options spending time with her boyfriend and is just bothered by the expectations
and is just bothered by the expectations
and is just bothered by the expectations of life Kathy is always off doing good
of life Kathy is always off doing good
of life Kathy is always off doing good she tells the neighbor helps the kitchen
she tells the neighbor helps the kitchen
she tells the neighbor helps the kitchen help someone at school and volunteers
help someone at school and volunteers
help someone at school and volunteers the food bank with all the indignation
the food bank with all the indignation
the food bank with all the indignation that a 12 year old you muster I joined
that a 12 year old you muster I joined
that a 12 year old you muster I joined my family in the living room and
my family in the living room and
my family in the living room and announced that I had just seen the most
announced that I had just seen the most
announced that I had just seen the most terrible TV show I proceeded to explain
terrible TV show I proceeded to explain
terrible TV show I proceeded to explain why Kathy was the most ridiculous
why Kathy was the most ridiculous
why Kathy was the most ridiculous character no one could be that way
character no one could be that way
character no one could be that way and she
and she
and she we missed out on having fun in life not
we missed out on having fun in life not
we missed out on having fun in life not sure the exact extent of my reasoning
sure the exact extent of my reasoning
sure the exact extent of my reasoning but I do remember my father with a kind
but I do remember my father with a kind
but I do remember my father with a kind of patience nonchalance pondered my
of patience nonchalance pondered my
of patience nonchalance pondered my remarks and then he said that would seem
remarks and then he said that would seem
remarks and then he said that would seem to me that you could use a little more
to me that you could use a little more
to me that you could use a little more caffeine in your own approach I’m sure
caffeine in your own approach I’m sure
caffeine in your own approach I’m sure he meant nothing more than when
he meant nothing more than when
he meant nothing more than when presented with an image of two TV
presented with an image of two TV
presented with an image of two TV characters he fundamentally thought the
characters he fundamentally thought the
characters he fundamentally thought the whole shows and I did not leave the
whole shows and I did not leave the
whole shows and I did not leave the conversation with any deep injury to my
conversation with any deep injury to my
conversation with any deep injury to my sense of being a person of importance
sense of being a person of importance
sense of being a person of importance but the moment stayed with me long
but the moment stayed with me long
but the moment stayed with me long enough to now until and even now to know
enough to now until and even now to know
enough to now until and even now to know that it was a defining remark I’m sure
that it was a defining remark I’m sure
that it was a defining remark I’m sure has not change overnight but that
has not change overnight but that
has not change overnight but that comment gave me permission to be someone
comment gave me permission to be someone
comment gave me permission to be someone different and when listening to the
different and when listening to the
different and when listening to the stories of others people I’m always
stories of others people I’m always
stories of others people I’m always interested in the encounters that give
interested in the encounters that give
interested in the encounters that give us insight into our lives that push us
us insight into our lives that push us
us insight into our lives that push us beyond present parameters often these
beyond present parameters often these
beyond present parameters often these moments can make us feel more vulnerable
moments can make us feel more vulnerable
moments can make us feel more vulnerable or connect to something larger to that
or connect to something larger to that
or connect to something larger to that ourselves or in the words of Star Trek
ourselves or in the words of Star Trek
ourselves or in the words of Star Trek to boldly go where no man has gone but I
to boldly go where no man has gone but I
to boldly go where no man has gone but I really don’t see them as epiphanies but
really don’t see them as epiphanies but
really don’t see them as epiphanies but the stuff of everyday life more recently
the stuff of everyday life more recently
the stuff of everyday life more recently my perspective and service-learning
my perspective and service-learning
my perspective and service-learning shifted and when I was at the gin
shifted and when I was at the gin
shifted and when I was at the gin conference in Doha this was seven years
conference in Doha this was seven years
conference in Doha this was seven years ago and I was there with about 10 or 12
ago and I was there with about 10 or 12
ago and I was there with about 10 or 12 students we had traveled to this
students we had traveled to this
students we had traveled to this conference not knowing much about it and
conference not knowing much about it and
conference not knowing much about it and we heard two speakers Brian hare Locke
we heard two speakers Brian hare Locke
we heard two speakers Brian hare Locke and Austin Goodwin
and Austin Goodwin
and Austin Goodwin they were in their teens already they
they were in their teens already they
they were in their teens already they were well established in the end
were well established in the end
were well established in the end Brian’s both about water austin talked
Brian’s both about water austin talked
Brian’s both about water austin talked about aids these were serious global
about aids these were serious global
about aids these were serious global issues that had ignited them to action
issues that had ignited them to action
issues that had ignited them to action when they were very young both of them
when they were very young both of them
when they were very young both of them spoke at that moment when they learned
spoke at that moment when they learned
spoke at that moment when they learned something is wrong and something needs
something is wrong and something needs
something is wrong and something needs to be done about I know I was still
to be done about I know I was still
to be done about I know I was still holding on to some notion that real
holding on to some notion that real
holding on to some notion that real effective action only happen after
effective action only happen after
effective action only happen after you’ve finished your formal education I
you’ve finished your formal education I
you’ve finished your formal education I realized how wrong I was and I’m
realized how wrong I was and I’m
realized how wrong I was and I’m grateful for the team of students who
grateful for the team of students who
grateful for the team of students who helped me trust my instincts if you
helped me trust my instincts if you
helped me trust my instincts if you remember the Velveteen Rabbit by
remember the Velveteen Rabbit by
remember the Velveteen Rabbit by Marjorie Williams there’s that wonderful
Marjorie Williams there’s that wonderful
Marjorie Williams there’s that wonderful moment when the skid horse replies it
moment when the skid horse replies it
moment when the skid horse replies it doesn’t happen all at once you become
doesn’t happen all at once you become
doesn’t happen all at once you become that’s why it doesn’t happen often do
that’s why it doesn’t happen often do
that’s why it doesn’t happen often do people who break easily have sharp edges
people who break easily have sharp edges
people who break easily have sharp edges or not to be carefully kept in 1979 my
or not to be carefully kept in 1979 my
or not to be carefully kept in 1979 my cousin died in a car crash they have a
cousin died in a car crash they have a
cousin died in a car crash they have a plane crash we had been together ski
plane crash we had been together ski
plane crash we had been together ski bums in Colorado we were both in our
bums in Colorado we were both in our
bums in Colorado we were both in our early 20s full of fat inquisitive
early 20s full of fat inquisitive
early 20s full of fat inquisitive restlessness that there’s so much part
restlessness that there’s so much part
restlessness that there’s so much part of growing up on his desk a letter was
of growing up on his desk a letter was
of growing up on his desk a letter was found he started to write to me and he
found he started to write to me and he
found he started to write to me and he had written that quotation from The
had written that quotation from The
had written that quotation from The Velveteen Rabbit at the time I actually
Velveteen Rabbit at the time I actually
Velveteen Rabbit at the time I actually had to go out and buy a copy of The
had to go out and buy a copy of The
had to go out and buy a copy of The Velveteen Rabbit
Velveteen Rabbit
Velveteen Rabbit it wasn’t familiar to me the letter is
it wasn’t familiar to me the letter is
it wasn’t familiar to me the letter is somewhere but the message not from the
somewhere but the message not from the
somewhere but the message not from the book but from him remains defining
book but from him remains defining
book but from him remains defining moments I knew he never wanted me to
moments I knew he never wanted me to
moments I knew he never wanted me to break easily our life will be framed by
break easily our life will be framed by
break easily our life will be framed by many coincidences people of importance
many coincidences people of importance
many coincidences people of importance people of influence and choices some of
people of influence and choices some of
people of influence and choices some of these encounters encounters will have
these encounters encounters will have
these encounters encounters will have the amazement of the blue sweater moment
the amazement of the blue sweater moment
the amazement of the blue sweater moment others are much less dramatic what I’d
others are much less dramatic what I’d
others are much less dramatic what I’d like the audience to do give me a
like the audience to do give me a
like the audience to do give me a partner for this this is interactive is
partner for this this is interactive is
partner for this this is interactive is like likely to share with a neighbor
like likely to share with a neighbor
like likely to share with a neighbor something that helps define you maybe
something that helps define you maybe
something that helps define you maybe it’s that kid in town
it’s that kid in town
it’s that kid in town you haven’t yet uncovered maybe it’s the
you haven’t yet uncovered maybe it’s the
you haven’t yet uncovered maybe it’s the classic you’ve read maybe the stories
classic you’ve read maybe the stories
classic you’ve read maybe the stories that maybe it’s a story where the
that maybe it’s a story where the
that maybe it’s a story where the details have shifted or maybe it’s a
details have shifted or maybe it’s a
details have shifted or maybe it’s a mountain ascent but take a minute right
mountain ascent but take a minute right
mountain ascent but take a minute right now we have the time built in to just
now we have the time built in to just
now we have the time built in to just share that with the with your with the
share that with the with your with the
share that with the with your with the neighbor because I think it’s part of
neighbor because I think it’s part of
neighbor because I think it’s part of what defines you and it’s part of what
what defines you and it’s part of what
what defines you and it’s part of what 10 is about is taking the ideas inside
10 is about is taking the ideas inside
10 is about is taking the ideas inside you thank you
you thank you
you thank you [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] [Music]
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