when we think about mentorship we often have this idea in our minds that it is
have this idea in our minds that it is
have this idea in our minds that it is some esoteric idea where only people who
some esoteric idea where only people who
some esoteric idea where only people who have achieved a certain level of success
have achieved a certain level of success
have achieved a certain level of success or have certain accolades attributable
or have certain accolades attributable
or have certain accolades attributable to they name that can partake in this
to they name that can partake in this
to they name that can partake in this activity which is quite interesting and
activity which is quite interesting and
activity which is quite interesting and what was quite personal to me because
what was quite personal to me because
what was quite personal to me because you see growing up I found myself in a
you see growing up I found myself in a
you see growing up I found myself in a situation where all I saw around me were
situation where all I saw around me were
situation where all I saw around me were people who are struggling financially
people who are struggling financially
people who are struggling financially people who didn’t have you know an
people who didn’t have you know an
people who didn’t have you know an ambitious outlook on life but at the
ambitious outlook on life but at the
ambitious outlook on life but at the same time I didn’t have any view of what
same time I didn’t have any view of what
same time I didn’t have any view of what I wanted for the future I didn’t know
I wanted for the future I didn’t know
I wanted for the future I didn’t know how to access a mentor or anything
how to access a mentor or anything
how to access a mentor or anything successful so mentorship and success has
successful so mentorship and success has
successful so mentorship and success has to take on a more lateral approach we
to take on a more lateral approach we
to take on a more lateral approach we have to stop looking at it as this
have to stop looking at it as this
have to stop looking at it as this incline where it’s the haves and the
incline where it’s the haves and the
incline where it’s the haves and the have-nots and it’s this have-nots person
have-nots and it’s this have-nots person
have-nots and it’s this have-nots person that’s always just pinching up and
that’s always just pinching up and
that’s always just pinching up and begging and hoping to find a mentor from
begging and hoping to find a mentor from
begging and hoping to find a mentor from someone who’s achieved success we have
someone who’s achieved success we have
someone who’s achieved success we have to find success amongst ourselves so in
to find success amongst ourselves so in
to find success amongst ourselves so in doing this I wanted to challenge this
doing this I wanted to challenge this
doing this I wanted to challenge this idea of this mentorship and I said why
idea of this mentorship and I said why
idea of this mentorship and I said why can’t the youth why can’t an
can’t the youth why can’t an
can’t the youth why can’t an inexperienced individual channel and
inexperienced individual channel and
inexperienced individual channel and mentor another because what is a mentor
mentor another because what is a mentor
mentor another because what is a mentor fundamentally it’s an individual a
fundamentally it’s an individual a
fundamentally it’s an individual a friend who just wants to bring out the
friend who just wants to bring out the
friend who just wants to bring out the best in somebody else and I think this
best in somebody else and I think this
best in somebody else and I think this is a very exciting idea as it shows us
is a very exciting idea as it shows us
is a very exciting idea as it shows us that each and every one of us in this
that each and every one of us in this
that each and every one of us in this room can and must be a mentor and in my
room can and must be a mentor and in my
room can and must be a mentor and in my youth program me we I focus on building
youth program me we I focus on building
youth program me we I focus on building mentors I focus on me with the purpose
mentors I focus on me with the purpose
mentors I focus on me with the purpose of building a we so what we do is we
of building a we so what we do is we
of building a we so what we do is we focus on two key
who are you no really who are you not
who are you no really who are you not where you went to school not where you
where you went to school not where you
where you went to school not where you come from but who are you at your core
come from but who are you at your core
come from but who are you at your core how have those experiences shaped who
how have those experiences shaped who
how have those experiences shaped who you are what emotions do you attach to
you are what emotions do you attach to
you are what emotions do you attach to the experiences that you have we are
the experiences that you have we are
the experiences that you have we are often told that we must live
often told that we must live
often told that we must live passionately follow your passion follow
passionately follow your passion follow
passionately follow your passion follow what you love but we are never told how
what you love but we are never told how
what you love but we are never told how to find what we love how to find our
to find what we love how to find our
to find what we love how to find our passion and we cannot find this in a
passion and we cannot find this in a
passion and we cannot find this in a university in a work environment we find
university in a work environment we find
university in a work environment we find this from our past experiences and from
this from our past experiences and from
this from our past experiences and from what we feel this is very exciting to me
what we feel this is very exciting to me
what we feel this is very exciting to me so I always work from the starting point
so I always work from the starting point
so I always work from the starting point I hope my mentors my mentees find out
I hope my mentors my mentees find out
I hope my mentors my mentees find out what are the key experiences in their
what are the key experiences in their
what are the key experiences in their life that they control what we call
life that they control what we call
life that they control what we call specialized knowledge from special
specialized knowledge from special
specialized knowledge from special knowledge knowledge gives the idea that
knowledge knowledge gives the idea that
knowledge knowledge gives the idea that that’s knowledge that you have for
that’s knowledge that you have for
that’s knowledge that you have for yourself that nobody else has and can
yourself that nobody else has and can
yourself that nobody else has and can experience for you what do you want now
experience for you what do you want now
experience for you what do you want now that we’ve established who we are and
that we’ve established who we are and
that we’ve established who we are and where we come from and where we
where we come from and where we
where we come from and where we currently stand it’s important for us to
currently stand it’s important for us to
currently stand it’s important for us to have a vision for the future a clear and
have a vision for the future a clear and
have a vision for the future a clear and compelling vision for the future where
compelling vision for the future where
compelling vision for the future where are we going how does what we went
are we going how does what we went
are we going how does what we went through influenced what we want this is
through influenced what we want this is
through influenced what we want this is passionate living and if you look at the
passionate living and if you look at the
passionate living and if you look at the spectrum when you have who you are and
spectrum when you have who you are and
spectrum when you have who you are and what you want there’s a very significant
what you want there’s a very significant
what you want there’s a very significant gap in between and what we often think
gap in between and what we often think
gap in between and what we often think about is that you know we achieve
about is that you know we achieve
about is that you know we achieve success when we have those accolades
success when we have those accolades
success when we have those accolades when we get that job when you reach that
when we get that job when you reach that
when we get that job when you reach that level of financial security however
level of financial security however
level of financial security however that’s a very limited view it’s
that’s a very limited view it’s
that’s a very limited view it’s important for us to feel successful in
important for us to feel successful in
important for us to feel successful in our pursuit of success so I have
our pursuit of success so I have
our pursuit of success so I have redefined success especially for the
redefined success especially for the
redefined success especially for the purpose of my mentees to mean the
purpose of my mentees to mean the
purpose of my mentees to mean the following success is the active pursuit
following success is the active pursuit
following success is the active pursuit of a worthy ideal it’s important for you
of a worthy ideal it’s important for you
of a worthy ideal it’s important for you to understand that for as long as you
to understand that for as long as you
to understand that for as long as you actively engage in
actively engage in
actively engage in pursuit of what you want the most what
pursuit of what you want the most what
pursuit of what you want the most what brings out the fire in you the most you
brings out the fire in you the most you
brings out the fire in you the most you should and must feel successful and this
should and must feel successful and this
should and must feel successful and this is the role of Amenti
is the role of Amenti
is the role of Amenti to catalyze and to facilitate the
to catalyze and to facilitate the
to catalyze and to facilitate the process from who you are and where you
process from who you are and where you
process from who you are and where you are to what you want this is the idea
are to what you want this is the idea
are to what you want this is the idea this is why I say I have a hundred year
this is why I say I have a hundred year
this is why I say I have a hundred year plan the idea behind this is not that I
plan the idea behind this is not that I
plan the idea behind this is not that I want to be around necessarily a hundred
want to be around necessarily a hundred
want to be around necessarily a hundred years from now but it’s because of
years from now but it’s because of
years from now but it’s because of chasing that dream of what I want to
chasing that dream of what I want to
chasing that dream of what I want to leave behind after I’m gone now another
leave behind after I’m gone now another
leave behind after I’m gone now another person might feel that I cannot feel
person might feel that I cannot feel
person might feel that I cannot feel successful because if I’m chasing
successful because if I’m chasing
successful because if I’m chasing something that’s far beyond my living
something that’s far beyond my living
something that’s far beyond my living years then I should never feel
years then I should never feel
years then I should never feel successful but if you redefine and look
successful but if you redefine and look
successful but if you redefine and look at the definition it’s the active
at the definition it’s the active
at the definition it’s the active pursuit of a where the ideal therefore
pursuit of a where the ideal therefore
pursuit of a where the ideal therefore to be successful all you have to do is
to be successful all you have to do is
to be successful all you have to do is actively pursue your worthy ideal so I
actively pursue your worthy ideal so I
actively pursue your worthy ideal so I want to tell you two stories of why
want to tell you two stories of why
want to tell you two stories of why mentorship is important I want to tell
mentorship is important I want to tell
mentorship is important I want to tell you about two young men on the one hand
you about two young men on the one hand
you about two young men on the one hand we have was Tim bezel symbaloo is a
we have was Tim bezel symbaloo is a
we have was Tim bezel symbaloo is a young man very charismatic young man but
young man very charismatic young man but
young man very charismatic young man but he’s labeled a troublemaker talks a lot
he’s labeled a troublemaker talks a lot
he’s labeled a troublemaker talks a lot in class you know a typical troublemaker
in class you know a typical troublemaker
in class you know a typical troublemaker sits at the back of the class always
sits at the back of the class always
sits at the back of the class always disrupting the class so much so that
disrupting the class so much so that
disrupting the class so much so that he’s always victimized by his teachers
he’s always victimized by his teachers
he’s always victimized by his teachers one particular incident the teachers
one particular incident the teachers
one particular incident the teachers stopped the lecture and he proceeded to
stopped the lecture and he proceeded to
stopped the lecture and he proceeded to publicly embarrass whose timbi so in
publicly embarrass whose timbi so in
publicly embarrass whose timbi so in front of the class telling him that he
front of the class telling him that he
front of the class telling him that he will never amount to anything and that
will never amount to anything and that
will never amount to anything and that should he become a leader or pointers as
should he become a leader or pointers as
should he become a leader or pointers as as a school leader in the following year
as a school leader in the following year
as a school leader in the following year he will publicly disrupt the
he will publicly disrupt the
he will publicly disrupt the prize-giving ceremony now to understand
prize-giving ceremony now to understand
prize-giving ceremony now to understand the significance of this well to look at
the significance of this well to look at
the significance of this well to look at the domino effect what happens next
the domino effect what happens next
the domino effect what happens next Simba so goes on fortunatelly gets
Simba so goes on fortunatelly gets
Simba so goes on fortunatelly gets caught up with the wrong crowd doesn’t
caught up with the wrong crowd doesn’t
caught up with the wrong crowd doesn’t get to finish his tertiary education and
get to finish his tertiary education and
get to finish his tertiary education and struggles with drug addiction
struggles with drug addiction
struggles with drug addiction now this leads to a host of problems
now this leads to a host of problems
now this leads to a host of problems family problems falling out with his
family problems falling out with his
family problems falling out with his mother and his brothers and sisters and
mother and his brothers and sisters and
mother and his brothers and sisters and feels like a failure on the other hand
feels like a failure on the other hand
feels like a failure on the other hand we have a completely different outcome
we have a completely different outcome
we have a completely different outcome from the same situation we have opulence
from the same situation we have opulence
from the same situation we have opulence an individual who’s very shy keeps to
an individual who’s very shy keeps to
an individual who’s very shy keeps to himself but is is someone that latches
himself but is is someone that latches
himself but is is someone that latches on positivity is always looking for the
on positivity is always looking for the
on positivity is always looking for the positive outcomes in life doesn’t do so
positive outcomes in life doesn’t do so
positive outcomes in life doesn’t do so well at school but everyone seems to
well at school but everyone seems to
well at school but everyone seems to like him tests certain leadership skills
like him tests certain leadership skills
like him tests certain leadership skills so he hones those leadership skills and
so he hones those leadership skills and
so he hones those leadership skills and he makes it far enough to get University
he makes it far enough to get University
he makes it far enough to get University and do well there and work for an
and do well there and work for an
and do well there and work for an amazing company
timbi saw opulence loo BC is the name of
timbi saw opulence loo BC is the name of my biological brother my brother
my biological brother my brother
my biological brother my brother struggled with drug addiction for the
struggled with drug addiction for the
struggled with drug addiction for the better part of ten years he struggled
better part of ten years he struggled
better part of ten years he struggled because of the situation that we found
because of the situation that we found
because of the situation that we found ourselves in as kids we grew up in a
ourselves in as kids we grew up in a
ourselves in as kids we grew up in a household where it wasn’t uncommon for
household where it wasn’t uncommon for
household where it wasn’t uncommon for for my mother and father to be engaged
for my mother and father to be engaged
for my mother and father to be engaged in you know public disputes and fights
in you know public disputes and fights
in you know public disputes and fights this made it particularly tough for us
this made it particularly tough for us
this made it particularly tough for us because we grew up in a commune where
because we grew up in a commune where
because we grew up in a commune where everyone could hear and see what was
everyone could hear and see what was
everyone could hear and see what was going on and without guidance without
going on and without guidance without
going on and without guidance without the proper guidance this leads the child
the proper guidance this leads the child
the proper guidance this leads the child to develop traits that they might not
to develop traits that they might not
to develop traits that they might not have necessarily had from the beginning
have necessarily had from the beginning
have necessarily had from the beginning the drugs and all these things are just
the drugs and all these things are just
the drugs and all these things are just an escape from that reality it’s an
an escape from that reality it’s an
an escape from that reality it’s an expression of that pain opulence on the
expression of that pain opulence on the
expression of that pain opulence on the other hand is the boy you see standing
other hand is the boy you see standing
other hand is the boy you see standing in front of you from the same situation
in front of you from the same situation
in front of you from the same situation I chose to latch on to his low
I chose to latch on to his low
I chose to latch on to his low positivity as I had growing up I
positivity as I had growing up I
positivity as I had growing up I remember one incident where my father
remember one incident where my father
remember one incident where my father told me that odd amount I wouldn’t
told me that odd amount I wouldn’t
told me that odd amount I wouldn’t amount to anything more than a drug
amount to anything more than a drug
amount to anything more than a drug addict
had to push through I found my mentors
had to push through I found my mentors on the internet YouTube Eric Thomas Tony
on the internet YouTube Eric Thomas Tony
on the internet YouTube Eric Thomas Tony Robbins these are people I latched on to
Robbins these are people I latched on to
Robbins these are people I latched on to for positivity they kept me going so I
for positivity they kept me going so I
for positivity they kept me going so I made a decision that I cannot allow this
made a decision that I cannot allow this
made a decision that I cannot allow this to happen I cannot allow the millions
to happen I cannot allow the millions
to happen I cannot allow the millions and thousands of children who just need
and thousands of children who just need
and thousands of children who just need guidance who just need a push in the
guidance who just need a push in the
guidance who just need a push in the right direction to be derailed and find
right direction to be derailed and find
right direction to be derailed and find themselves in situations where they are
themselves in situations where they are
themselves in situations where they are completely different from what they
completely different from what they
completely different from what they started out as situations where they
started out as situations where they
started out as situations where they can’t even recognize their own potential
can’t even recognize their own potential
can’t even recognize their own potential anymore situations that are that are
anymore situations that are that are
anymore situations that are that are just hopeless for them so I started this
just hopeless for them so I started this
just hopeless for them so I started this mentorship group as a life mission of
mentorship group as a life mission of
mentorship group as a life mission of mine as understanding why am I fed off
mine as understanding why am I fed off
mine as understanding why am I fed off the pain I fed off the frustration and
the pain I fed off the frustration and
the pain I fed off the frustration and decided to create a new vision for
decided to create a new vision for
decided to create a new vision for myself an inspired passion for myself
myself an inspired passion for myself
myself an inspired passion for myself where I am committed to making sure that
where I am committed to making sure that
where I am committed to making sure that I leave no stone unturned I mentor as
I leave no stone unturned I mentor as
I leave no stone unturned I mentor as many kids as I possibly can it costs you
many kids as I possibly can it costs you
many kids as I possibly can it costs you nothing just to share some words of
nothing just to share some words of
nothing just to share some words of positivity it costs you nothing just to
positivity it costs you nothing just to
positivity it costs you nothing just to lend a helping hand to someone in need
lend a helping hand to someone in need
lend a helping hand to someone in need buy them a book spend two hours of your
buy them a book spend two hours of your
buy them a book spend two hours of your time with them tell them about your
time with them tell them about your
time with them tell them about your stories how amazing everything that
stories how amazing everything that
stories how amazing everything that you’re doing is it really helps the
you’re doing is it really helps the
you’re doing is it really helps the domino effect is incredible and my call
domino effect is incredible and my call
domino effect is incredible and my call to action here is to inspire you no no
to action here is to inspire you no no
to action here is to inspire you no no it’s to plea to you it’s simply to you
it’s to plea to you it’s simply to you
it’s to plea to you it’s simply to you to please take the the initiative to to
to please take the the initiative to to
to please take the the initiative to to mentor every single child that you have
mentor every single child that you have
mentor every single child that you have every single student that you see these
every single student that you see these
every single student that you see these days we don’t have to go any further
days we don’t have to go any further
days we don’t have to go any further than our nearest tertiary institution
than our nearest tertiary institution
than our nearest tertiary institution for you to see the broken dreams for you
for you to see the broken dreams for you
for you to see the broken dreams for you to see the frustration the cries we need
to see the frustration the cries we need
to see the frustration the cries we need to answer they need you we need you I
to answer they need you we need you I
to answer they need you we need you I need you
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