[Applause] hello everyone it’s wonderful to be here
hello everyone it’s wonderful to be here
hello everyone it’s wonderful to be here thank you very much so yes technology
thank you very much so yes technology
thank you very much so yes technology plays a role in our everyday lives from
plays a role in our everyday lives from
plays a role in our everyday lives from driving cars to connecting to people and
driving cars to connecting to people and
driving cars to connecting to people and one thing that it does not do is human
one thing that it does not do is human
one thing that it does not do is human connection and human connection is a
connection and human connection is a
connection and human connection is a vital element it is something that we
vital element it is something that we
vital element it is something that we cannot do without and that’s possibly
cannot do without and that’s possibly
cannot do without and that’s possibly why for years or decades we have lived
why for years or decades we have lived
why for years or decades we have lived in tribes and in communities and in
in tribes and in communities and in
in tribes and in communities and in nations human connection is vital for
nations human connection is vital for
nations human connection is vital for our evolvement our growth on an
our evolvement our growth on an
our evolvement our growth on an emotional level and thanks to technology
emotional level and thanks to technology
emotional level and thanks to technology we are not able to connect and
we are not able to connect and
we are not able to connect and communicate with people all over the
communicate with people all over the
communicate with people all over the world at any time of day or night but I
world at any time of day or night but I
world at any time of day or night but I wonder what would happen if we took our
wonder what would happen if we took our
wonder what would happen if we took our devices and the internet away how many
devices and the internet away how many
devices and the internet away how many of us would feel like a part of our
of us would feel like a part of our
of us would feel like a part of our lives is missing the average person
lives is missing the average person
lives is missing the average person spends 4 hours a day online now if you
spends 4 hours a day online now if you
spends 4 hours a day online now if you think that most of us spend 8 hours a
think that most of us spend 8 hours a
think that most of us spend 8 hours a day working possibly 1 to 2 hours
day working possibly 1 to 2 hours
day working possibly 1 to 2 hours commuting either way and we should be
commuting either way and we should be
commuting either way and we should be getting 6 to 8 hours of sleep and then
getting 6 to 8 hours of sleep and then
getting 6 to 8 hours of sleep and then we’re spending 4 hours online how much
we’re spending 4 hours online how much
we’re spending 4 hours online how much time are we spending on our
time are we spending on our
time are we spending on our relationships with our partners with our
relationships with our partners with our
relationships with our partners with our children even with our friends and our
children even with our friends and our
children even with our friends and our family so yes technology has taken us
family so yes technology has taken us
family so yes technology has taken us fast forward but I wonder if it hasn’t
fast forward but I wonder if it hasn’t
fast forward but I wonder if it hasn’t also taken us backwards especially when
also taken us backwards especially when
also taken us backwards especially when it comes to how we are having
it comes to how we are having
it comes to how we are having conversations back in ancient times when
conversations back in ancient times when
conversations back in ancient times when we used to communicate through symbols
we used to communicate through symbols
we used to communicate through symbols and pictures and I sometimes wonder if
and pictures and I sometimes wonder if
and pictures and I sometimes wonder if we don’t hide
we don’t hide
we don’t hide behind those symbols and those pictures
behind those symbols and those pictures
behind those symbols and those pictures because we are not being honest with how
because we are not being honest with how
because we are not being honest with how we are feeling or what we would really
we are feeling or what we would really
we are feeling or what we would really like to say and communicate and I also
like to say and communicate and I also
like to say and communicate and I also see you every day in the work that I do
see you every day in the work that I do
see you every day in the work that I do the impact their technology has on
the impact their technology has on
the impact their technology has on families the divorce rate is 1 in every
families the divorce rate is 1 in every
families the divorce rate is 1 in every 2 and that is only divorces it’s not
2 and that is only divorces it’s not
2 and that is only divorces it’s not people that are cohabitating and living
people that are cohabitating and living
people that are cohabitating and living together in schools bullying is a big
together in schools bullying is a big
together in schools bullying is a big problem especially in the cyber world so
problem especially in the cyber world so
problem especially in the cyber world so technology is aiding a lot of things for
technology is aiding a lot of things for
technology is aiding a lot of things for us when it comes to communication work
us when it comes to communication work
us when it comes to communication work environments but I also wonder how it is
environments but I also wonder how it is
environments but I also wonder how it is hampering our lives and the quality of
hampering our lives and the quality of
hampering our lives and the quality of our lives and the people in it children
our lives and the people in it children
our lives and the people in it children are acting out what they are not
are acting out what they are not
are acting out what they are not receiving at home gone are the days when
receiving at home gone are the days when
receiving at home gone are the days when a parent could stay at home
a parent could stay at home
a parent could stay at home and nurture the home and the environment
and nurture the home and the environment
and nurture the home and the environment for kids to grow up in because due to
for kids to grow up in because due to
for kids to grow up in because due to survival most couples have to work these
survival most couples have to work these
survival most couples have to work these days so children are acting out in a
days so children are acting out in a
days so children are acting out in a number of ways and things that they are
number of ways and things that they are
number of ways and things that they are not getting at home the love the
not getting at home the love the
not getting at home the love the attention the connection and how do we
attention the connection and how do we
attention the connection and how do we try and take care of that many of us
try and take care of that many of us
try and take care of that many of us give them the latest toys the latest
give them the latest toys the latest
give them the latest toys the latest gadgets the latest games when actually
gadgets the latest games when actually
gadgets the latest games when actually what they’re really crying out for is
what they’re really crying out for is
what they’re really crying out for is love and connection I see it in couples
love and connection I see it in couples
love and connection I see it in couples that I work with every day in fact just
that I work with every day in fact just
that I work with every day in fact just this morning my heavy and high we’re
this morning my heavy and high we’re
this morning my heavy and high we’re having this exact conversation he’s
having this exact conversation he’s
having this exact conversation he’s convinced that my phone is attached to
convinced that my phone is attached to
convinced that my phone is attached to my hip I’m threatening to attach his
my hip I’m threatening to attach his
my hip I’m threatening to attach his phone to his hip because if it’s not in
phone to his hip because if it’s not in
phone to his hip because if it’s not in the car
the car
the car it’s upstairs or it’s on silent and I
it’s upstairs or it’s on silent and I
it’s upstairs or it’s on silent and I can never get hold of him him he says
can never get hold of him him he says
can never get hold of him him he says but I’m right here and I go I know but
but I’m right here and I go I know but
but I’m right here and I go I know but what if it was an emergency and I needed
what if it was an emergency and I needed
what if it was an emergency and I needed to get hold of you so we constantly have
to get hold of you so we constantly have
to get hold of you so we constantly have this conversation
this conversation
this conversation at home and I can see a lot of you are
at home and I can see a lot of you are
at home and I can see a lot of you are smiling so you know what I’m talking
smiling so you know what I’m talking
smiling so you know what I’m talking about so my challenge to you is yes we
about so my challenge to you is yes we
about so my challenge to you is yes we want to change the world yes we want to
want to change the world yes we want to
want to change the world yes we want to develop the latest technology the latest
develop the latest technology the latest
develop the latest technology the latest apps we want to be innovative and we
apps we want to be innovative and we
apps we want to be innovative and we want to be creative but I want to
want to be creative but I want to
want to be creative but I want to challenge you to do that in your
challenge you to do that in your
challenge you to do that in your relationships I want to challenge you to
relationships I want to challenge you to
relationships I want to challenge you to unplug and disconnect from the world
unplug and disconnect from the world
unplug and disconnect from the world just for five minutes
just for five minutes
just for five minutes the world will still be there when you
the world will still be there when you
the world will still be there when you come back be fully present in your
come back be fully present in your
come back be fully present in your relationship with your partner with your
relationship with your partner with your
relationship with your partner with your children but also in the workplace
children but also in the workplace
children but also in the workplace considering that we spend eight hours a
considering that we spend eight hours a
considering that we spend eight hours a day in the workplace how much time do
day in the workplace how much time do
day in the workplace how much time do you really take to get to know the
you really take to get to know the
you really take to get to know the people that you are working with or do
people that you are working with or do
people that you are working with or do you just greet them as you waltz down
you just greet them as you waltz down
you just greet them as you waltz down the corridor to your desk before you
the corridor to your desk before you
the corridor to your desk before you plug in and start working away how many
plug in and start working away how many
plug in and start working away how many of you really know what’s going on in
of you really know what’s going on in
of you really know what’s going on in your colleagues lives the names of their
your colleagues lives the names of their
your colleagues lives the names of their children their birthdays so yes
children their birthdays so yes
children their birthdays so yes technology plays a large role but at the
technology plays a large role but at the
technology plays a large role but at the same time I think it’s hindering us to
same time I think it’s hindering us to
same time I think it’s hindering us to British anthropologist Robin Dunbar says
British anthropologist Robin Dunbar says
British anthropologist Robin Dunbar says the magic number when it comes to the
the magic number when it comes to the
the magic number when it comes to the quality relationships is a hundred and
quality relationships is a hundred and
quality relationships is a hundred and fifty the minute we go over a hundred
fifty the minute we go over a hundred
fifty the minute we go over a hundred and fifty relationships we start losing
and fifty relationships we start losing
and fifty relationships we start losing their sense of connection now I don’t
their sense of connection now I don’t
their sense of connection now I don’t know about you but I did a quick count
know about you but I did a quick count
know about you but I did a quick count the other day and I couldn’t even reach
the other day and I couldn’t even reach
the other day and I couldn’t even reach a hundred of my closest friends so no
a hundred of my closest friends so no
a hundred of my closest friends so no wonder we are obsessed with the likes
wonder we are obsessed with the likes
wonder we are obsessed with the likes and the shares and the tweets and the
and the shares and the tweets and the
and the shares and the tweets and the number of followers that we have but
number of followers that we have but
number of followers that we have but what does that really mean
what does that really mean
what does that really mean in terms of who you are as a person and
in terms of who you are as a person and
in terms of who you are as a person and the quality and the value of the
the quality and the value of the
the quality and the value of the relationships in your life and how much
relationships in your life and how much
relationships in your life and how much time are you spending with those people
time are you spending with those people
time are you spending with those people because how you leave people feeling how
because how you leave people feeling how
because how you leave people feeling how you leave them at the end of the day
you leave them at the end of the day
you leave them at the end of the day when you walk away is how will they will
when you walk away is how will they will
when you walk away is how will they will remember you forever so the next time
remember you forever so the next time
remember you forever so the next time you want to pick up your phone
you want to pick up your phone
you want to pick up your phone and send a message to a friend or a
and send a message to a friend or a
and send a message to a friend or a family member
family member
family member either pick up the phone and have a
either pick up the phone and have a
either pick up the phone and have a conversation with them or actually go
conversation with them or actually go
conversation with them or actually go and meet with them and spend some
and meet with them and spend some
and meet with them and spend some face-to-face time with them and build
face-to-face time with them and build
face-to-face time with them and build that connection because when times are
that connection because when times are
that connection because when times are hard and we look for support who do we
hard and we look for support who do we
hard and we look for support who do we turn to first our relationships our
turn to first our relationships our
turn to first our relationships our partners our family our friends and in
partners our family our friends and in
partners our family our friends and in the business plan world who is it that
the business plan world who is it that
the business plan world who is it that opens doors for us who is it that helps
opens doors for us who is it that helps
opens doors for us who is it that helps us get places
us get places
us get places it’s our relationships whether it be
it’s our relationships whether it be
it’s our relationships whether it be mentors whether it be our managers
mentors whether it be our managers
mentors whether it be our managers whether it be our role models that we
whether it be our role models that we
whether it be our role models that we look up to you but if you do not make
look up to you but if you do not make
look up to you but if you do not make time for your relationships then over
time for your relationships then over
time for your relationships then over time you will not have relationships
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