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success
success we admire and are inspired by successful
we admire and are inspired by successful
we admire and are inspired by successful people and we want to be like them we
people and we want to be like them we
people and we want to be like them we have big dreams and we aspire to conquer
have big dreams and we aspire to conquer
have big dreams and we aspire to conquer the world
the world
the world but we’re often frustrated that we’re
but we’re often frustrated that we’re
but we’re often frustrated that we’re losing the race that our classmates
losing the race that our classmates
losing the race that our classmates co-workers friends neighbors people of
co-workers friends neighbors people of
co-workers friends neighbors people of the same generation any group we relate
the same generation any group we relate
the same generation any group we relate to are doing better than us are
to are doing better than us are
to are doing better than us are achieving faster than us are more
achieving faster than us are more
achieving faster than us are more successful than us or we’re also afraid
successful than us or we’re also afraid
successful than us or we’re also afraid that there is only one path to success
that there is only one path to success
that there is only one path to success and if we don’t get on this path or we
and if we don’t get on this path or we
and if we don’t get on this path or we fall off it
fall off it
fall off it we’re inevitably a failure for life
we’re inevitably a failure for life
we’re inevitably a failure for life success in life seems like a narrow
success in life seems like a narrow
success in life seems like a narrow reach we need to walk on one step to the
reach we need to walk on one step to the
reach we need to walk on one step to the side and you’ll fall off it sounds
side and you’ll fall off it sounds
side and you’ll fall off it sounds familiar but what is success and what is
familiar but what is success and what is
familiar but what is success and what is failure how do you define them rather
failure how do you define them rather
failure how do you define them rather simple right successful people are
simple right successful people are
simple right successful people are achievers while non achievers are
achievers while non achievers are
achievers while non achievers are failures let me tell you the story about
failures let me tell you the story about
failures let me tell you the story about lives of two people person a and person
lives of two people person a and person
lives of two people person a and person B as examples for success and failure
person a was born in a vibrant city full
person a was born in a vibrant city full of culture opera theatre festivals with
of culture opera theatre festivals with
of culture opera theatre festivals with multiple historical layers of
multiple historical layers of
multiple historical layers of architecture as a backdrop her family
architecture as a backdrop her family
architecture as a backdrop her family travelled a lot and she was exposed to
travelled a lot and she was exposed to
travelled a lot and she was exposed to many cultures as a child she has fond
many cultures as a child she has fond
many cultures as a child she has fond memories of regular ski holidays and
memories of regular ski holidays and
memories of regular ski holidays and winter and sunny beaches every summer on
winter and sunny beaches every summer on
winter and sunny beaches every summer on the other hand
the other hand
the other hand person B was born to an international
person B was born to an international
person B was born to an international family living in a conservative
family living in a conservative
family living in a conservative ethnically homogenous City being the
ethnically homogenous City being the
ethnically homogenous City being the only different child around meant
only different child around meant
only different child around meant constant bullying in school which
constant bullying in school which
constant bullying in school which together with indifferent career-focused
together with indifferent career-focused
together with indifferent career-focused parents made for emotionally difficult
parents made for emotionally difficult
parents made for emotionally difficult childhood person a applies to one of the
childhood person a applies to one of the
childhood person a applies to one of the best high schools in the city and got
best high schools in the city and got
best high schools in the city and got full hundred-percent score on the
full hundred-percent score on the
full hundred-percent score on the entrance examination which was a great
entrance examination which was a great
entrance examination which was a great achievement considering the fact that
achievement considering the fact that
achievement considering the fact that only one more student from all
only one more student from all
only one more student from all applicants was awarded the full score
applicants was awarded the full score
applicants was awarded the full score however person B almost didn’t get into
however person B almost didn’t get into
however person B almost didn’t get into high school which was such a
high school which was such a
high school which was such a disappointment for her parents high
disappointment for her parents high
disappointment for her parents high school life brought more failures failed
school life brought more failures failed
school life brought more failures failed grade in French the only foreign
grade in French the only foreign
grade in French the only foreign language has been unsuccessfully
language has been unsuccessfully
language has been unsuccessfully studying all these years person a was
studying all these years person a was
studying all these years person a was admitted into her dream University
admitted into her dream University
admitted into her dream University program again with 100% score on the
program again with 100% score on the
program again with 100% score on the entrance exam there her fluent French
entrance exam there her fluent French
entrance exam there her fluent French allowed her to win a scholarship for a
allowed her to win a scholarship for a
allowed her to win a scholarship for a study abroad later she was offered a job
study abroad later she was offered a job
study abroad later she was offered a job at her place of internship and she
at her place of internship and she
at her place of internship and she enjoyed working there tremendously
enjoyed working there tremendously
enjoyed working there tremendously however for person B the university
however for person B the university
however for person B the university years were a series of social faux pas
years were a series of social faux pas
years were a series of social faux pas and failed relationships she went into
and failed relationships she went into
and failed relationships she went into clinical major but after working in the
clinical major but after working in the
clinical major but after working in the clinics for a while and a couple of
clinics for a while and a couple of
clinics for a while and a couple of mistakes that almost cost the life of
mistakes that almost cost the life of
mistakes that almost cost the life of her patients she gave up scared she
her patients she gave up scared she
her patients she gave up scared she could actually kill someone person B
could actually kill someone person B
could actually kill someone person B followed her aspirations for research
followed her aspirations for research
followed her aspirations for research and one PhD scholarship abroad what
and one PhD scholarship abroad what
and one PhD scholarship abroad what could be better for someone interested
could be better for someone interested
could be better for someone interested in both science and travel than going to
in both science and travel than going to
in both science and travel than going to her dream destination
person B also aspired for PhD and spent
person B also aspired for PhD and spent long time looking for scholarships
long time looking for scholarships
long time looking for scholarships before eventually building the courage
before eventually building the courage
before eventually building the courage to apply the selection procedure was
to apply the selection procedure was
to apply the selection procedure was long and hard and she eventually lost at
long and hard and she eventually lost at
long and hard and she eventually lost at the very last stage it took her two
the very last stage it took her two
the very last stage it took her two years to finally get through the person
years to finally get through the person
years to finally get through the person a the page tears were some of the most
a the page tears were some of the most
a the page tears were some of the most exciting in her life she made tons of
exciting in her life she made tons of
exciting in her life she made tons of friends she traveled extensively she
friends she traveled extensively she
friends she traveled extensively she learned so much she discovered so many
learned so much she discovered so many
learned so much she discovered so many things she had a natural talent for she
things she had a natural talent for she
things she had a natural talent for she wouldn’t have known all this if she
wouldn’t have known all this if she
wouldn’t have known all this if she hasn’t followed her dreams she completed
hasn’t followed her dreams she completed
hasn’t followed her dreams she completed her PhD work a year earlier than
her PhD work a year earlier than
her PhD work a year earlier than required and published in the big name
required and published in the big name
required and published in the big name Journal where she dreamed to have her
Journal where she dreamed to have her
Journal where she dreamed to have her publication in however for person B the
publication in however for person B the
publication in however for person B the PhD experience was depressing to the
PhD experience was depressing to the
PhD experience was depressing to the point of giving up the steep learning
point of giving up the steep learning
point of giving up the steep learning curve the new language the isolation the
curve the new language the isolation the
curve the new language the isolation the lack of support all of these was making
lack of support all of these was making
lack of support all of these was making her doubt the decision to throw away her
her doubt the decision to throw away her
her doubt the decision to throw away her comfortable secure live back home and
comfortable secure live back home and
comfortable secure live back home and come to the other end of the world for
come to the other end of the world for
come to the other end of the world for something that now appeared unachievable
something that now appeared unachievable
something that now appeared unachievable after spending a year working on her
after spending a year working on her
after spending a year working on her research topic the project was abruptly
research topic the project was abruptly
research topic the project was abruptly canceled and she had to start a new one
canceled and she had to start a new one
canceled and she had to start a new one from scratch her first paper submission
from scratch her first paper submission
from scratch her first paper submission was rejected personai had one more thing
was rejected personai had one more thing
was rejected personai had one more thing to celebrate with the completion of her
to celebrate with the completion of her
to celebrate with the completion of her PhD the birth of her first child
PhD the birth of her first child
PhD the birth of her first child becoming a mother was yet another
becoming a mother was yet another
becoming a mother was yet another amazing life experience children teach
amazing life experience children teach
amazing life experience children teach us what it means to be an adult and how
us what it means to be an adult and how
us what it means to be an adult and how to become one this new life experience
to become one this new life experience
to become one this new life experience allowed her to see new aspects of
allowed her to see new aspects of
allowed her to see new aspects of herself to rediscover her strength and
herself to rediscover her strength and
herself to rediscover her strength and her interest
her interest
her interest she found the joys of sharing knowledge
she found the joys of sharing knowledge
she found the joys of sharing knowledge seeing the sparks of passion for science
seeing the sparks of passion for science
seeing the sparks of passion for science in the eyes of her students was even
in the eyes of her students was even
in the eyes of her students was even more exciting than spending her days in
more exciting than spending her days in
more exciting than spending her days in the lab digging her own projects as she
the lab digging her own projects as she
the lab digging her own projects as she used to do most importantly this switch
used to do most importantly this switch
used to do most importantly this switch allowed her to stay true to her
allowed her to stay true to her
allowed her to stay true to her strongest convictions that children need
strongest convictions that children need
strongest convictions that children need parents who are present in their life
parents who are present in their life
parents who are present in their life and connected in order to grow healthy
and connected in order to grow healthy
and connected in order to grow healthy in body and mind
however for person B things looked
however for person B things looked completely differently her NASA and
completely differently her NASA and
completely differently her NASA and research career was interrupted in its
research career was interrupted in its
research career was interrupted in its start she had her first child while it
start she had her first child while it
start she had her first child while it was a conscious decision she was not
was a conscious decision she was not
was a conscious decision she was not prepared for the physical and
prepared for the physical and
prepared for the physical and psychological overwhelm that a child
psychological overwhelm that a child
psychological overwhelm that a child brings the responsibilities of child
brings the responsibilities of child
brings the responsibilities of child care left her incapacitated for years
care left her incapacitated for years
care left her incapacitated for years after which jumping back on the same
after which jumping back on the same
after which jumping back on the same train of research seemed almost
train of research seemed almost
train of research seemed almost impossible while it was her decision to
impossible while it was her decision to
impossible while it was her decision to give priority to her children needs over
give priority to her children needs over
give priority to her children needs over her own aspirations the bitter
her own aspirations the bitter
her own aspirations the bitter aftertaste of regret persisted now
aftertaste of regret persisted now
aftertaste of regret persisted now imagine a career counselor asking our
imagine a career counselor asking our
imagine a career counselor asking our two characters the standard question
two characters the standard question
two characters the standard question what are your life goals where do you
what are your life goals where do you
what are your life goals where do you want to see yourself in 10 years for
want to see yourself in 10 years for
want to see yourself in 10 years for person a there is one fundamental desire
person a there is one fundamental desire
person a there is one fundamental desire that drives all of her choices to
that drives all of her choices to
that drives all of her choices to explore and follow her dreams wherever
explore and follow her dreams wherever
explore and follow her dreams wherever they lead her even if they take her away
they lead her even if they take her away
they lead her even if they take her away from her original goals because goals
from her original goals because goals
from her original goals because goals change
change
change as passions change and passions change
as passions change and passions change
as passions change and passions change as we get enriched with new experiences
as we get enriched with new experiences
as we get enriched with new experiences looking inside ourselves and regularly
looking inside ourselves and regularly
looking inside ourselves and regularly checking out with ourselves what we
checking out with ourselves what we
checking out with ourselves what we truly care about helps us stay connected
truly care about helps us stay connected
truly care about helps us stay connected stay on the road we want to be and enjoy
stay on the road we want to be and enjoy
stay on the road we want to be and enjoy the view however if a person be these
the view however if a person be these
the view however if a person be these questions have no answer what’s the
questions have no answer what’s the
questions have no answer what’s the point of having goals of building
point of having goals of building
point of having goals of building sandcastles if they can get destroyed by
sandcastles if they can get destroyed by
sandcastles if they can get destroyed by the next wave in the ocean of life
the next wave in the ocean of life
the next wave in the ocean of life what’s the point of looking ahead of
what’s the point of looking ahead of
what’s the point of looking ahead of time if we can’t be sure about tomorrow
so here we have it a success person a
so here we have it a success person a and a failure person B which one would
and a failure person B which one would
and a failure person B which one would you like to get to know spend time with
you like to get to know spend time with
you like to get to know spend time with get inspired by well in my case I can’t
get inspired by well in my case I can’t
get inspired by well in my case I can’t really choose I know them both both the
really choose I know them both both the
really choose I know them both both the stories of person a and the story of
stories of person a and the story of
stories of person a and the story of person B is my story both of them are
person B is my story both of them are
person B is my story both of them are who I am high school was in French a
who I am high school was in French a
who I am high school was in French a language I became fluent in only a few
language I became fluent in only a few
language I became fluent in only a few short years later as a school child I
short years later as a school child I
short years later as a school child I considered myself unable to learn
considered myself unable to learn
considered myself unable to learn languages I now speak five my failed
languages I now speak five my failed
languages I now speak five my failed grade in university was in a subject I
grade in university was in a subject I
grade in university was in a subject I liked so much it later became the area
liked so much it later became the area
liked so much it later became the area of my PhD research there were many
of my PhD research there were many
of my PhD research there were many occasions in my life when it felt like
occasions in my life when it felt like
occasions in my life when it felt like I’m falling but looking back I was just
I’m falling but looking back I was just
I’m falling but looking back I was just learning to fly I’ve taken gap ears from
learning to fly I’ve taken gap ears from
learning to fly I’ve taken gap ears from both study and work and for which every
both study and work and for which every
both study and work and for which every time I’ve been called lazy your ears
time I’ve been called lazy your ears
time I’ve been called lazy your ears sponsible yet every time the decision
sponsible yet every time the decision
sponsible yet every time the decision was scariest and the smartest step to
was scariest and the smartest step to
was scariest and the smartest step to take and every time it has given me
take and every time it has given me
take and every time it has given me clarity on what I really want in how to
clarity on what I really want in how to
clarity on what I really want in how to get there my life path has taken many
get there my life path has taken many
get there my life path has taken many turns and I’m not where I envisioned
turns and I’m not where I envisioned
turns and I’m not where I envisioned myself being when I was in high school
myself being when I was in high school
myself being when I was in high school but where I am now
but where I am now
but where I am now is a result of my conscious choices and
is a result of my conscious choices and
is a result of my conscious choices and is exactly where I want to be some
is exactly where I want to be some
is exactly where I want to be some people have arrived at my current
people have arrived at my current
people have arrived at my current destination faster yet my route full of
destination faster yet my route full of
destination faster yet my route full of detours was more panoramic and reaching
detours was more panoramic and reaching
detours was more panoramic and reaching experiences that have given me the
experiences that have given me the
experiences that have given me the wisdom to look at the world with the
wisdom to look at the world with the
wisdom to look at the world with the eyes and look at it now where is life
eyes and look at it now where is life
eyes and look at it now where is life going to take me in ten years I have no
going to take me in ten years I have no
going to take me in ten years I have no idea or to put it more precisely I have
idea or to put it more precisely I have
idea or to put it more precisely I have so many exciting ideas I’m working on
so many exciting ideas I’m working on
so many exciting ideas I’m working on I’m not sure which will take me farthest
I’m not sure which will take me farthest
I’m not sure which will take me farthest from where I’m now I might be in
from where I’m now I might be in
from where I’m now I might be in business I might go into politics but
business I might go into politics but
business I might go into politics but one thing I know for sure wherever I
one thing I know for sure wherever I
one thing I know for sure wherever I decide to go next all that I have
decide to go next all that I have
decide to go next all that I have learned done and experienced is going to
learned done and experienced is going to
learned done and experienced is going to be a strong and colorful foundation on
be a strong and colorful foundation on
be a strong and colorful foundation on which all of my future steps will stand
which all of my future steps will stand
which all of my future steps will stand you see at every stage of my life at
you see at every stage of my life at
you see at every stage of my life at every stage of your life there is both
every stage of your life there is both
every stage of your life there is both success and failure just change the
success and failure just change the
success and failure just change the glasses through which you’re looking in
glasses through which you’re looking in
glasses through which you’re looking in fact neither success nor failure
fact neither success nor failure
fact neither success nor failure objectively exists it’s all relative
objectively exists it’s all relative
objectively exists it’s all relative relative to what your starting point is
relative to what your starting point is
relative to what your starting point is what you compare it with what you expect
what you compare it with what you expect
what you compare it with what you expect to get what people around you say what
to get what people around you say what
to get what people around you say what your values are then your values depend
your values are then your values depend
your values are then your values depend on which country you live in
on which country you live in
on which country you live in what’s your cultural background what’s
what’s your cultural background what’s
what’s your cultural background what’s your education level your economic
your education level your economic
your education level your economic status the only things that objectively
status the only things that objectively
status the only things that objectively exist are our experiences and what we
exist are our experiences and what we
exist are our experiences and what we learn from them our passions and our
learn from them our passions and our
learn from them our passions and our determination to follow them where we
determination to follow them where we
determination to follow them where we are at this point of our lives is the
are at this point of our lives is the
are at this point of our lives is the result of choices we’ve made in the past
result of choices we’ve made in the past
result of choices we’ve made in the past how we feel about this point in our
how we feel about this point in our
how we feel about this point in our lives is the result of choices to focus
lives is the result of choices to focus
lives is the result of choices to focus on one or another aspect of our
on one or another aspect of our
on one or another aspect of our experience but we have the power to
experience but we have the power to
experience but we have the power to choose differently today and outter both
choose differently today and outter both
choose differently today and outter both our future experiences and how we feel
our future experiences and how we feel
our future experiences and how we feel about them objectively there is no
about them objectively there is no
about them objectively there is no success nor failure there is no
success nor failure there is no
success nor failure there is no competition no firsts and no lasts just
competition no firsts and no lasts just
competition no firsts and no lasts just labels labels on something that is
labels labels on something that is
labels labels on something that is really a work in progress if you take
really a work in progress if you take
really a work in progress if you take off the glasses you will see that life
off the glasses you will see that life
off the glasses you will see that life is not a dangerous sharp rich
is not a dangerous sharp rich
is not a dangerous sharp rich it’s a vast beautiful valley with many
it’s a vast beautiful valley with many
it’s a vast beautiful valley with many directions to go step to the side and
directions to go step to the side and
directions to go step to the side and you won’t fall you may in fact discover
you won’t fall you may in fact discover
you won’t fall you may in fact discover a life path that is much more fulfilling
a life path that is much more fulfilling
a life path that is much more fulfilling than the one you dreamt for yourself
than the one you dreamt for yourself
than the one you dreamt for yourself don’t be afraid to follow your heart
don’t be afraid to follow your heart
don’t be afraid to follow your heart wherever it takes you even if it takes
wherever it takes you even if it takes
wherever it takes you even if it takes you away from your original plans
you away from your original plans
you away from your original plans because plans change as fashions change
because plans change as fashions change
because plans change as fashions change and passions change as we get enriched
and passions change as we get enriched
and passions change as we get enriched with new experiences we all really are
with new experiences we all really are
with new experiences we all really are on our individual journeys make sure you
on our individual journeys make sure you
on our individual journeys make sure you enjoy the right
enjoy the right
enjoy the right thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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