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you will discover how a snowflake
of snow will allow you to become
really resistant from the inside
and for that I share them with you
three quick and simple techniques
first of all I would like to ask you
question how many people among you
heard this sentence in their childhood
a man that does not cry often it’s
more than three quarters of the room is in
effect the hidden message that there is
behind it’s a man it does not have the
right to have motions that did not
right to feel and especially no
show weaknesses
so that’s how the promise
hidden he is behind these be strong
and you will always be able to prove it
for the matic is that an emotion
thus repressed will remain stuck
years and if we take the case of a
child for example swallowing his tears
to please the adult by
example well he’ll keep deep down
him his pain really deep inside
from him with a pinch of loneliness and
unsuitability of his feelings
true and as isabelle said
filliozat adult psychotherapist and
well this child will become this adult
forgiveness you will be hardened to the point of not
not understand the tears of his wife’s
his children and will only know how to have fun with
a glass in it then I ask you the
question
smothered his emotions is that that
do us good or bad
is it productive or against
productive emotions at 6 bayonnais
so stacked does not it risk to
come out suddenly or violently at
when you least expect it
like for example when you arrive
of a child in a family and I know
what am I talking about when I talk to you about
Bayonne emotions of repressed emotion
because it was my case during
years and especially here is
five years old when I was pregnant with my
girl I was at the same time trying
to lose what I had most dear to
world at the time my mother reached
serious illness and
there there was targeted a flow
emotional when we follow the line to
inside and I had three emotions
unpleasant who was boiling there
had first of all anger you know
this emotion that tells me that it
there is something wrong that is in
going to happen
he ‘s also going to be scared scared to lose
this maternal safety also
the sadness sadness at the thought of this
future emotional emptiness and mix with these
three unpleasant emotions that
bubbled there was an emotion
fantastic fabulous gorgeous joy
the immense joy at the idea of giving the
life I had the choice to either leave
express those same emotions care of y
to resist at the time I did the
choice to resist thinking
unconsciously less suffer
and then I had this belief
inside I do not know where they
come out loved only if I did not feel
not well the transfer I do not
would not convey all this blur and
emotional raymond fetus error to
from this painful experience
well I have a quest a quest
Inner alingue really very very
very deep
how to finally know how I could
to make me free from so many
sufferings
so I leaned body and soul
on emotions
what is an emotion is this
that it has utility is it a
message 1
and for that I would like to share with
you my three discoveries three
fundamental notions of the elements of
understanding with first of all the
first notion we owe it to a
great gentleman sir paul ekman that’s
indecent most dominant psychologist of the
20th century
he worked for more than 40 years
on the fundamental emotions really
he did the advanced research on
fundamental emotions and for that he
left in new guinea at the
meet this tribe
still isolated from the rest of the world without
no outside contact and it has
could demonstrate that expressions
facial correspond to 4 emotions
universally known joy the fear the
sadness anger
as you see here on these
clichés tickling Guinea
so no lekman has confirmed
darwin’s intuition on
the universality of emotions the
primary emotions are so innate is
universal in the whole earth the
the whole world is the same among
men
this is the second motion
would like to share with you it is by
relation to utility
do you think that an emotion and a
utility or not and for that a
emotion
I’m going to take this metaphor from the
ball well it’s like this signal
flashing an emotion this is neither more
no less than an action signal a signal
who tells you to act to react
if you are afraid for example facing a
dangerous animal and well the fear will you
allow either to fight or to flee
and the message that there is behind a
emotion that is very simple but oh
how fundamental is there a need
who is not satisfied you have to react
act react for example behind the
just scared the need there
enough I need security
if you are angry the need he
ya behind it’s i need to
repairs are material
symbolic and if you’re sad it’s
this need is comfort and
find a new meaning here is the
third notion that I would like
to share with you it’s relative to
the very structure of emotion
and for that, that’s the emotion
unfolds in three stages and imagine that
an emotion that is this bracelet the
first phase is the charging phase
the load your brain with emotion
example if you are afraid of the show
charge the fear and the brain is going so
release hormones like for example
the adrenaline
the second phase is the phase of
tensions there your body is in tension
he will mobilize his energy for
able to fight or flee and the
third motion the fact that we are
not learn at school but who is
this is the phase of
discharge
there your body if the expression phase
or your body will be able to come back
initial state of equilibrium
putting pressure on the outside
if the discharge is not done your
emotions are repressed your body is
therefore in tension creating the
diseases of psychosomatic diseases
is for example Bernard you’re tired
chronic etc.
and does that speak to you when I
tell you well here I have my back
I have the ball in my stomach I have the ball
aladdin at the throat a our tensions do not
are just are an indicator of
our pent-up emotions
from there I’m asking
question
do you leave the door open to your
emotions
if not for fear of being
vulnerable is it for fear of suffering
is it a need to want everything
control or is it out of fear that
someone take power over you
here and there the idea that hold me
so much at heart and I’m trying to
to share with you as arnaud says
desjardins it is be with your
emotion rather than carried away by one
by being one with her
welcoming him by letting her
express themselves and really listen to him and
the emotion is like a balloon
balloon there he deflates
she will really be able to really
deflate since she was listened to
and as a psychologist said
olive cloud all those who do not express themselves
not saint-prime and all that is
print seeks to express itself in the
hide in nor resistant while washing
the gagging we increase it see
how difficult it is to swim at
against the current
we are exhausted in the end is not it
why go against nature and so
thus suppress gagging emotion
persist underground and they
risk to break out at any time
face like a grenade or otherwise under
shape way so
diverted from psychosomatic diseases
sickness evil
said as I told you bernard you
chronic fatigue hypertension
arterial etc
this is so this is really
perfectly illustrated also by the
quote from carl jung who says everything to
what we resist persists and if we go
even further down the scale of
companies if for example the fact of
repress his emotions
it is at the origin of genocide
even of social illnesses cancer aids
sexually transmitted diseases
cardiovascular diseases so
now let’s talk about concrete solutions
and for that I think of an example a
very good example of the school living
school an innovative school where there
invite children to release to
unload all their emotions on
cushions on 10 putching ball and the
results are convincing and amazing
children are much happier
he develops a lot more
creativity and especially especially a
know how to be exemplary so compared
to solutions here I invite you to
free your solutions go your
emotions and for that I’m going to you
give three techniques beforehand I
invite you to isolate yourself in a corner
good to you really so as to not
not pollute your surroundings
your emotions is your
responsibility to you of the
manage
why will it be someone else to
manage your own and in-house isolated
and the first technique is by
relation to the emotion of sadness there
quite simply
well you take the box of kleenex
and you cried tears you
you cry you cry you cry
free and so not so
monotone is not a
there I really invite you by the room
and really want to modulate your
voice you know with ups and downs
down and you’ll see there is your
inner critic who will come to
bottom gallops there are you saying where the
it’s a little too dramatized
but rest assured once you
contact this emotion of sadness
she is deflating this is very
very valuable the second technique c
compared to anger is there the
anger I proposed to you three ways
and you will pay the one that resonates
the most with you and everything depends too
context versus anger the
cushion technique by helping you
contact anger something you
energetic where you isolate yourself and you go
release on a cushion and and you
free you free you can do
also with more of his of course then
the tiger technique where there is
maybe more at work or that’s it
you may be insulating in the
toilet and I make you your tigers
there you imagine in tree trunk and
you will have your face deform you
your face and and you release everything
that you need to release made of
real gifts to your colleagues in
releasing before that and finally the
very very trash technique
very very useful for children for
accompany children to release their
anger you invite them to inspire the
anger like that and free you in
the trash and in the trash and again
quickly you continue to fill it yourself
to inspire that’s it’s a technique
from sine die which is a method
of education non violence this is more
you will release your emotion with
the breath are the more it will be
effective me no and and finally our classes
and students the technique of tigers and
finally if also you have a
emotion maybe rancor grudge
you know this emotion this hate
that we keep on the heart against
someone has already happened to you
but this hate she is really
radioactive material which I will give you the
technique of the letter so as to in
find peace in
inside of you for it to be
ok inside and for that the same
very simple you take a letter a
paper of times that can be it can
to be a notebook and you write everything
that you have on your heart everything
all around
without skimping on your hurts after you
burn this letter you recover
ashes and you put them back in a
river stream with a notion of
movement you see to let go
and after you take a few moments
to feel this healing work
of self-repair that you are in
train to do on you so sometimes for
x reasons you do not have time to
practice these techniques at least at
unless it’s a real gift for our
children breathe and breathe 3
deep breathing
ventral
so you can even do it at the same
time if you wish to
inspire her swollen belly without
force and alex worse or visualize a
straw and that’s it you can do them
to the inspire the belly growls without
force and she expires and you free
just by making tasty plugging
your brain and thus reconnect you
to you even so here to conclude
I would really like to invite you to
to open you to your emotions
taking the time to welcome them from
feel them
and rest assured you will always be alive
So here we are, listen to
our emotion
let it melt like snow in the sun
she’s trying to tell us something
essential that there is a need that
is not satisfied and a need is
vital
it’s the belly that do not speak the
mind that’s when we allow to
experience our emotions
we become we do not have to us
show a strong we become
actually on the inside and it’s a
true gift for generations
future than to be able to release our
own emotions and to accompany our
children to release theirs when by
example by telling them crying
moore cries all you need
leader 1 that’s etc and the generations
future speakers will be able to express themselves
all their authenticity all their
humanity and we will thus pass from one
world that seems dehumanized to a
rehumanizing world let’s change the world by
starting with you I wish you to
all good emotional hygiene
thank you
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