[Music] so I came round
so I came round
so I came round [Music]
in March 2000 a CEO I was in a meeting
in March 2000 a CEO I was in a meeting with interrupted me to demand that I
with interrupted me to demand that I
with interrupted me to demand that I accompany him to a hotel I listened in
accompany him to a hotel I listened in
accompany him to a hotel I listened in stone silence trying to comprehend this
stone silence trying to comprehend this
stone silence trying to comprehend this was actually happening as he explained
was actually happening as he explained
was actually happening as he explained to me that it was payback time but the
to me that it was payback time but the
to me that it was payback time but the businesses he has given my company so
businesses he has given my company so
businesses he has given my company so far promising me that after a session
far promising me that after a session
far promising me that after a session together he would begin to give me
together he would begin to give me
together he would begin to give me really big jobs he scoffed when I
really big jobs he scoffed when I
really big jobs he scoffed when I reminded him I was married and did I
reminded him I was married and did I
reminded him I was married and did I mention I was seven months pregnant at
mention I was seven months pregnant at
mention I was seven months pregnant at the time and very evidently so when I
the time and very evidently so when I
the time and very evidently so when I pointed this out to him just in case he
pointed this out to him just in case he
pointed this out to him just in case he thought I’d forgotten in case he thought
thought I’d forgotten in case he thought
thought I’d forgotten in case he thought I was simply overweight and I’ll never
I was simply overweight and I’ll never
I was simply overweight and I’ll never forget how he laughed and said all the
forget how he laughed and said all the
forget how he laughed and said all the better at least I know tomorrow you will
better at least I know tomorrow you will
better at least I know tomorrow you will say you’re expecting my baby I wonder if
say you’re expecting my baby I wonder if
say you’re expecting my baby I wonder if we missed the connection between the
we missed the connection between the
we missed the connection between the actions we take towards others and the
actions we take towards others and the
actions we take towards others and the battles those who are own will one day
battles those who are own will one day
battles those who are own will one day have to fight if you understand that the
have to fight if you understand that the
have to fight if you understand that the legacy we leave our children is built
legacy we leave our children is built
legacy we leave our children is built daily through our choices our actions
daily through our choices our actions
daily through our choices our actions and inactions for good or for bad if we
and inactions for good or for bad if we
and inactions for good or for bad if we know and understand that the world they
know and understand that the world they
know and understand that the world they inherit from us will be better or worse
inherit from us will be better or worse
inherit from us will be better or worse for the things that we intentionally
for the things that we intentionally
for the things that we intentionally stand for or against this is my daughter
stand for or against this is my daughter
stand for or against this is my daughter I should go back a bit this is my
I should go back a bit this is my
I should go back a bit this is my daughter unlike her brothers she’s
daughter unlike her brothers she’s
daughter unlike her brothers she’s highly intelligent very talented a
highly intelligent very talented a
highly intelligent very talented a multiple award winner and she’s the
multiple award winner and she’s the
multiple award winner and she’s the daughter any parents would be proud of
daughter any parents would be proud of
daughter any parents would be proud of her father is convinced she takes after
her father is convinced she takes after
her father is convinced she takes after him but you know the jury’s still out on
him but you know the jury’s still out on
him but you know the jury’s still out on that
that
that my daughter has very big dreams dreams
my daughter has very big dreams dreams
my daughter has very big dreams dreams which carry no less weight with us than
which carry no less weight with us than
which carry no less weight with us than to her brothers dreams and so we’ve
to her brothers dreams and so we’ve
to her brothers dreams and so we’ve never tried to teach her that her
never tried to teach her that her
never tried to teach her that her femininity would be any sort of a
femininity would be any sort of a
femininity would be any sort of a limitation towards her achieving
limitation towards her achieving
limitation towards her achieving aspirations in parenting have this way
aspirations in parenting have this way
aspirations in parenting have this way however we’ve then also inadvertently
however we’ve then also inadvertently
however we’ve then also inadvertently sold her the same line that generations
sold her the same line that generations
sold her the same line that generations of parents have thoughts of their
of parents have thoughts of their
of parents have thoughts of their daughters or when let’s call it a
daughters or when let’s call it a
daughters or when let’s call it a half-truth we tell them that they can be
half-truth we tell them that they can be
half-truth we tell them that they can be anything they want to be but in this
anything they want to be but in this
anything they want to be but in this world it’s not that simple is it like
world it’s not that simple is it like
world it’s not that simple is it like the average parent I weigh
the average parent I weigh
the average parent I weigh I could protect my children from life’s
I could protect my children from life’s
I could protect my children from life’s hard knocks as they faced that
hard knocks as they faced that
hard knocks as they faced that inevitable transition between the ideals
inevitable transition between the ideals
inevitable transition between the ideals of their childhood and the harsher
of their childhood and the harsher
of their childhood and the harsher realities of adulthood but I will
realities of adulthood but I will
realities of adulthood but I will confess that with each passing year
confess that with each passing year
confess that with each passing year I find myself increasingly more worried
I find myself increasingly more worried
I find myself increasingly more worried for my daughter than I am for my sons
for my daughter than I am for my sons
for my daughter than I am for my sons and this is because of the parallels I
and this is because of the parallels I
and this is because of the parallels I see in her life and mine that I really
see in her life and mine that I really
see in her life and mine that I really wish did not exist you see my daughter
wish did not exist you see my daughter
wish did not exist you see my daughter is today the young girl that I once was
is today the young girl that I once was
is today the young girl that I once was and like her growing up for me was not
and like her growing up for me was not
and like her growing up for me was not about being a girl I was simply a child
about being a girl I was simply a child
about being a girl I was simply a child and as a child my achievements my
and as a child my achievements my
and as a child my achievements my intelligence my capabilities were
intelligence my capabilities were
intelligence my capabilities were celebrated as a child I was taught to
celebrated as a child I was taught to
celebrated as a child I was taught to always do my excellent best so I could
always do my excellent best so I could
always do my excellent best so I could become my excellent best as a child I
become my excellent best as a child I
become my excellent best as a child I was taught to dream big to aim high I
was taught to dream big to aim high I
was taught to dream big to aim high I was told that I could become anything I
was told that I could become anything I
was told that I could become anything I wanted to be if I applied myself and how
wanted to be if I applied myself and how
wanted to be if I applied myself and how many of you know that nobody could have
many of you know that nobody could have
many of you know that nobody could have told me as a child that applying myself
told me as a child that applying myself
told me as a child that applying myself would mean anything other than working
would mean anything other than working
would mean anything other than working hard nobody prepared a young girl that I
hard nobody prepared a young girl that I
hard nobody prepared a young girl that I was for a world in which because I am
was for a world in which because I am
was for a world in which because I am female I find myself constantly
female I find myself constantly
female I find myself constantly struggling to prove that I have equal
struggling to prove that I have equal
struggling to prove that I have equal value as a human being that I matter but
value as a human being that I matter but
value as a human being that I matter but I am capable that I am competent that
I am capable that I am competent that
I am capable that I am competent that I’m deserving of respect and I deserve
I’m deserving of respect and I deserve
I’m deserving of respect and I deserve the opportunity to give the world my
the opportunity to give the world my
the opportunity to give the world my best I worry for my daughter because of
best I worry for my daughter because of
best I worry for my daughter because of the way we’re raising her and the
the way we’re raising her and the
the way we’re raising her and the disconnect with a world that still best
disconnect with a world that still best
disconnect with a world that still best unfortunate striking resemblances to the
unfortunate striking resemblances to the
unfortunate striking resemblances to the one I grew up in a world in which
one I grew up in a world in which
one I grew up in a world in which unfortunately there’s a rising and
unfortunately there’s a rising and
unfortunately there’s a rising and escalating rate of rape and violence
escalating rate of rape and violence
escalating rate of rape and violence against girls and women of all ages a
against girls and women of all ages a
against girls and women of all ages a world in which music media and
world in which music media and
world in which music media and entertainment continue to denigrate
entertainment continue to denigrate
entertainment continue to denigrate women and portray them as objects to use
women and portray them as objects to use
women and portray them as objects to use and abuse a world that is still largely
and abuse a world that is still largely
and abuse a world that is still largely hostile to women attaining heights of
hostile to women attaining heights of
hostile to women attaining heights of achievement in government in business
achievement in government in business
achievement in government in business and in society on that day in March 2000
and in society on that day in March 2000
and in society on that day in March 2000 something shifted in me fundamentally
something shifted in me fundamentally
something shifted in me fundamentally it’s not like I hadn’t had other
it’s not like I hadn’t had other
it’s not like I hadn’t had other experiences that impinge on my dignity
experiences that impinge on my dignity
experiences that impinge on my dignity as a woman but nothing would literary
as a woman but nothing would literary
as a woman but nothing would literary Trump this one I was pregnant for my
Trump this one I was pregnant for my
Trump this one I was pregnant for my daughter you see my first two children
daughter you see my first two children
daughter you see my first two children were boys
were boys
were boys and so you will understand there was an
and so you will understand there was an
and so you will understand there was an added excitement about this particular
added excitement about this particular
added excitement about this particular pregnancy and to have had such an
pregnancy and to have had such an
pregnancy and to have had such an experience while my innocent girl child
experience while my innocent girl child
experience while my innocent girl child nestled in my womb was to say the least
nestled in my womb was to say the least
nestled in my womb was to say the least an insult not just to her to myself but
an insult not just to her to myself but
an insult not just to her to myself but also to her and I felt violated on her
also to her and I felt violated on her
also to her and I felt violated on her behalf
behalf
behalf many thoughts ran through my mind as i
many thoughts ran through my mind as i
many thoughts ran through my mind as i sat there but i refused to question or
sat there but i refused to question or
sat there but i refused to question or blame myself I was not about to make
blame myself I was not about to make
blame myself I was not about to make myself the accused instead of a victim a
myself the accused instead of a victim a
myself the accused instead of a victim a situation unfortunately too many women
situation unfortunately too many women
situation unfortunately too many women find themselves in rather I chose to
find themselves in rather I chose to
find themselves in rather I chose to feel sorry for that man because on one
feel sorry for that man because on one
feel sorry for that man because on one hand he had seriously diminished himself
hand he had seriously diminished himself
hand he had seriously diminished himself in my eyes and on the other hand I felt
in my eyes and on the other hand I felt
in my eyes and on the other hand I felt a well of sadness for the women in his
a well of sadness for the women in his
a well of sadness for the women in his life especially his daughters whose
life especially his daughters whose
life especially his daughters whose pictures he so boldly dismayed in his
pictures he so boldly dismayed in his
pictures he so boldly dismayed in his office my choice was simple I walked out
office my choice was simple I walked out
office my choice was simple I walked out and never looked back
and never looked back
and never looked back about this period I heard about the
about this period I heard about the
about this period I heard about the glass ceiling for the first time and yes
glass ceiling for the first time and yes
glass ceiling for the first time and yes many people say the glass ceiling is a
many people say the glass ceiling is a
many people say the glass ceiling is a myth that is a self-limiting self
myth that is a self-limiting self
myth that is a self-limiting self perpetuated and self-sabotage and
perpetuated and self-sabotage and
perpetuated and self-sabotage and constructs that have been passed on to
constructs that have been passed on to
constructs that have been passed on to women of all ages and tribes for decades
women of all ages and tribes for decades
women of all ages and tribes for decades well glass ceiling or not that
well glass ceiling or not that
well glass ceiling or not that experience for me was not a mythical
experience for me was not a mythical
experience for me was not a mythical construct it was very real it was very
construct it was very real it was very
construct it was very real it was very distressing and under a different set of
distressing and under a different set of
distressing and under a different set of circumstances it had the potential to
circumstances it had the potential to
circumstances it had the potential to destroy my sense of Worth permanently
destroy my sense of Worth permanently
destroy my sense of Worth permanently but this goes beyond the glass ceiling
but this goes beyond the glass ceiling
but this goes beyond the glass ceiling however there is a broader construct
however there is a broader construct
however there is a broader construct that questions the value we place on our
that questions the value we place on our
that questions the value we place on our women as a society and how this plays
women as a society and how this plays
women as a society and how this plays out in the society as large so I chose
out in the society as large so I chose
out in the society as large so I chose to allow that experience become for me a
to allow that experience become for me a
to allow that experience become for me a significant positive turning points
significant positive turning points
significant positive turning points rather than to let it break me down but
rather than to let it break me down but
rather than to let it break me down but I also realized that I was privileged to
I also realized that I was privileged to
I also realized that I was privileged to have had a choice I was already running
have had a choice I was already running
have had a choice I was already running is somewhat successful business I grew
is somewhat successful business I grew
is somewhat successful business I grew up in a good middle-class home with very
up in a good middle-class home with very
up in a good middle-class home with very sound morals and values and I was ways
sound morals and values and I was ways
sound morals and values and I was ways to be strong and confident so honestly
to be strong and confident so honestly
to be strong and confident so honestly it didn’t take that much but what about
it didn’t take that much but what about
it didn’t take that much but what about other women who don’t have these
other women who don’t have these
other women who don’t have these privileges but who face the same kind of
privileges but who face the same kind of
privileges but who face the same kind of challenges and worse women whose choices
challenges and worse women whose choices
challenges and worse women whose choices might not have been so clear
might not have been so clear
might not have been so clear in the face of their harsh realities
in the face of their harsh realities
in the face of their harsh realities single mothers and widows struggling to
single mothers and widows struggling to
single mothers and widows struggling to raise children on their own
raise children on their own
raise children on their own married women who find themselves
married women who find themselves
married women who find themselves saddled with the financial burdens of
saddled with the financial burdens of
saddled with the financial burdens of the immediate and extended families
the immediate and extended families
the immediate and extended families single girls who have been so battered
single girls who have been so battered
single girls who have been so battered emotionally physically and in every way
emotionally physically and in every way
emotionally physically and in every way you can imagine such that they don’t
you can imagine such that they don’t
you can imagine such that they don’t even realize they still have a choice
even realize they still have a choice
even realize they still have a choice all of these women were once just
all of these women were once just
all of these women were once just somebody’s little girl ask the average
somebody’s little girl ask the average
somebody’s little girl ask the average man who the most important person in his
man who the most important person in his
man who the most important person in his life is the most likely response is my
life is the most likely response is my
life is the most likely response is my mother so the average man his mother is
mother so the average man his mother is
mother so the average man his mother is the epitome of human dignity respect
the epitome of human dignity respect
the epitome of human dignity respect virtue and his daughter she says
virtue and his daughter she says
virtue and his daughter she says priceless princess and this begs the
priceless princess and this begs the
priceless princess and this begs the question why the same average man is not
question why the same average man is not
question why the same average man is not able to see every other woman out there
able to see every other woman out there
able to see every other woman out there to insist I believe that there is an on
to insist I believe that there is an on
to insist I believe that there is an on the line and pervasive mix of
the line and pervasive mix of
the line and pervasive mix of unconscious mind says blind spots and
unconscious mind says blind spots and
unconscious mind says blind spots and biases that create a disconnect between
biases that create a disconnect between
biases that create a disconnect between our estimations of our mothers our wives
our estimations of our mothers our wives
our estimations of our mothers our wives and our sisters and our estimations of
and our sisters and our estimations of
and our sisters and our estimations of every other woman out there how else do
every other woman out there how else do
every other woman out there how else do you explain a man’s folly skewed belief
you explain a man’s folly skewed belief
you explain a man’s folly skewed belief that his wife’s place is in the kitchen
that his wife’s place is in the kitchen
that his wife’s place is in the kitchen and the other room while his daughter’s
and the other room while his daughter’s
and the other room while his daughter’s place should be at the top of her class
place should be at the top of her class
place should be at the top of her class that have a Business School I believe
that have a Business School I believe
that have a Business School I believe that they have been generations of men
that they have been generations of men
that they have been generations of men and unfortunately women too who have
and unfortunately women too who have
and unfortunately women too who have been socialized and psycho spiritually
been socialized and psycho spiritually
been socialized and psycho spiritually indoctrinated with a falsehood that
indoctrinated with a falsehood that
indoctrinated with a falsehood that women are less than they are and deserve
women are less than they are and deserve
women are less than they are and deserve less than they are but the reality is
less than they are but the reality is
less than they are but the reality is that your daughter your sister is as
that your daughter your sister is as
that your daughter your sister is as much every other woman out there to me
much every other woman out there to me
much every other woman out there to me as – to you therefore if we do nothing
as – to you therefore if we do nothing
as – to you therefore if we do nothing we end up propagating a cycle of
we end up propagating a cycle of
we end up propagating a cycle of oppression that all women including us
oppression that all women including us
oppression that all women including us ultimately experience the broken window
ultimately experience the broken window
ultimately experience the broken window theory proposes that when a minor
theory proposes that when a minor
theory proposes that when a minor violation or an infraction such as the
violation or an infraction such as the
violation or an infraction such as the breaking of a window and a private
breaking of a window and a private
breaking of a window and a private property is ignored it sends a signal
property is ignored it sends a signal
property is ignored it sends a signal that more previous crimes can be
that more previous crimes can be
that more previous crimes can be committed with impunity because nobody
committed with impunity because nobody
committed with impunity because nobody cares and nobody is in charge and
cares and nobody is in charge and
cares and nobody is in charge and using this theory for community policing
using this theory for community policing
using this theory for community policing former mayor of New York Rudolph
former mayor of New York Rudolph
former mayor of New York Rudolph Giuliani focused on small and seemingly
Giuliani focused on small and seemingly
Giuliani focused on small and seemingly insignificant and innocuous tasks like
insignificant and innocuous tasks like
insignificant and innocuous tasks like cleaning graffiti of the walls and
cleaning graffiti of the walls and
cleaning graffiti of the walls and buildings and picking up of trash and
buildings and picking up of trash and
buildings and picking up of trash and what happened was that humor crimes
what happened was that humor crimes
what happened was that humor crimes began to reduce and over time more
began to reduce and over time more
began to reduce and over time more violent crimes dropped by over 56%
violent crimes dropped by over 56%
violent crimes dropped by over 56% making New York a much safer society
making New York a much safer society
making New York a much safer society with a significantly higher quality of
with a significantly higher quality of
with a significantly higher quality of life and this is his legacy to New York
life and this is his legacy to New York
life and this is his legacy to New York in response to a critique about the
in response to a critique about the
in response to a critique about the efficiency of this methodology Rudolph
efficiency of this methodology Rudolph
efficiency of this methodology Rudolph Giuliani said obviously murder and
Giuliani said obviously murder and
Giuliani said obviously murder and graffiti are two vastly different crimes
graffiti are two vastly different crimes
graffiti are two vastly different crimes votes they are part of the community
votes they are part of the community
votes they are part of the community continuum and the climate that tolerates
continuum and the climate that tolerates
continuum and the climate that tolerates one is more than likely to tolerate the
one is more than likely to tolerate the
one is more than likely to tolerate the other there is a parallel between the
other there is a parallel between the
other there is a parallel between the value we place on our women in society
value we place on our women in society
value we place on our women in society and the increase in unprecedented levels
and the increase in unprecedented levels
and the increase in unprecedented levels of violence abuse and general oppression
of violence abuse and general oppression
of violence abuse and general oppression of women folk that is in society today a
of women folk that is in society today a
of women folk that is in society today a parallel that is very much like the
parallel that is very much like the
parallel that is very much like the murder and graffiti continuum Rudolph
murder and graffiti continuum Rudolph
murder and graffiti continuum Rudolph Giuliani spoke about I took that
Giuliani spoke about I took that
Giuliani spoke about I took that experience from several years ago and I
experience from several years ago and I
experience from several years ago and I asked myself what I would do with it or
asked myself what I would do with it or
asked myself what I would do with it or would I let it slide and I chose to
would I let it slide and I chose to
would I let it slide and I chose to stand as an advocate for my daughter and
stand as an advocate for my daughter and
stand as an advocate for my daughter and for every other woman to hope that they
for every other woman to hope that they
for every other woman to hope that they would have a different experience that
would have a different experience that
would have a different experience that experience was fundamentally shattering
experience was fundamentally shattering
experience was fundamentally shattering for me
for me
for me and I continue to stand and to raise my
and I continue to stand and to raise my
and I continue to stand and to raise my voice to declare that women matter women
voice to declare that women matter women
voice to declare that women matter women counts and their story does not have to
counts and their story does not have to
counts and their story does not have to be different at the end of the day when
be different at the end of the day when
be different at the end of the day when we look at our relationships as
we look at our relationships as
we look at our relationships as infinitely precious as a daughter is to
infinitely precious as a daughter is to
infinitely precious as a daughter is to a father a mother to a son a sister to a
a father a mother to a son a sister to a
a father a mother to a son a sister to a brother and as fiercely protective as we
brother and as fiercely protective as we
brother and as fiercely protective as we are of these relationships then every
are of these relationships then every
are of these relationships then every man must necessarily come to an
man must necessarily come to an
man must necessarily come to an individual realization that unless he
individual realization that unless he
individual realization that unless he stands for all women
stands for all women
stands for all women he is inadvertently shortchanging the
he is inadvertently shortchanging the
he is inadvertently shortchanging the destinies of his own when we don’t stand
destinies of his own when we don’t stand
destinies of his own when we don’t stand for all women we propagate pain how many
for all women we propagate pain how many
for all women we propagate pain how many of us have been broken emotionally and
of us have been broken emotionally and
of us have been broken emotionally and psychologically because we grew up in
psychologically because we grew up in
psychologically because we grew up in where the mothers were abused how many
where the mothers were abused how many
where the mothers were abused how many of us would dream of our daughters going
of us would dream of our daughters going
of us would dream of our daughters going through the things we saw our mothers
through the things we saw our mothers
through the things we saw our mothers going through and if we would be
going through and if we would be
going through and if we would be brutally honest there are some men that
brutally honest there are some men that
brutally honest there are some men that would have to admit to themselves that
would have to admit to themselves that
would have to admit to themselves that they would never want their daughters to
they would never want their daughters to
they would never want their daughters to go through the things that they put on
go through the things that they put on
go through the things that they put on the woman’s shoe we cannot continue to
the woman’s shoe we cannot continue to
the woman’s shoe we cannot continue to live in a world when we believe that our
live in a world when we believe that our
live in a world when we believe that our own daughters our sisters our own
own daughters our sisters our own
own daughters our sisters our own mothers have somehow magically cordoned
mothers have somehow magically cordoned
mothers have somehow magically cordoned off and insulated from the
off and insulated from the
off and insulated from the objectification denigration abuse and
objectification denigration abuse and
objectification denigration abuse and violence directed against women in a
violence directed against women in a
violence directed against women in a society we refuse to change our
society we refuse to change our
society we refuse to change our daughters will find themselves fighting
daughters will find themselves fighting
daughters will find themselves fighting battles that I accumulate about shards
battles that I accumulate about shards
battles that I accumulate about shards of broken glass that we refuse to pick
of broken glass that we refuse to pick
of broken glass that we refuse to pick up pretending they don’t exist
up pretending they don’t exist
up pretending they don’t exist pretending they apply to someone else or
pretending they apply to someone else or
pretending they apply to someone else or pretending that you know someone else
pretending that you know someone else
pretending that you know someone else will pick it up but what if we can
will pick it up but what if we can
will pick it up but what if we can change the narrative what if we can
change the narrative what if we can
change the narrative what if we can create a different story
create a different story
create a different story what if each of us would determine to
what if each of us would determine to
what if each of us would determine to pick one shred of glass and toss it in
pick one shred of glass and toss it in
pick one shred of glass and toss it in the trash yes we might not be able to
the trash yes we might not be able to
the trash yes we might not be able to mend the windows of femininity that have
mend the windows of femininity that have
mend the windows of femininity that have been broken in times past but I believe
been broken in times past but I believe
been broken in times past but I believe that we can at least ultimately
that we can at least ultimately
that we can at least ultimately collectively stop society from breaking
collectively stop society from breaking
collectively stop society from breaking down our women and our girls further I
down our women and our girls further I
down our women and our girls further I chose to use that experience as a less
chose to use that experience as a less
chose to use that experience as a less thing to say that I might not be able to
thing to say that I might not be able to
thing to say that I might not be able to change the entire world but I can at
change the entire world but I can at
change the entire world but I can at least change my corner of it if that man
least change my corner of it if that man
least change my corner of it if that man were to be in the room today and I had
were to be in the room today and I had
were to be in the room today and I had the opportunity of a do-over I would ask
the opportunity of a do-over I would ask
the opportunity of a do-over I would ask him to envision either of his daughter
him to envision either of his daughter
him to envision either of his daughter standing in my shoes and being told by a
standing in my shoes and being told by a
standing in my shoes and being told by a man that her master’s degree doesn’t
man that her master’s degree doesn’t
man that her master’s degree doesn’t count that her commitment and competence
count that her commitment and competence
count that her commitment and competence and professionalism doesn’t count being
and professionalism doesn’t count being
and professionalism doesn’t count being told in essence that the only way she
told in essence that the only way she
told in essence that the only way she will earn her way to her next level of
will earn her way to her next level of
will earn her way to her next level of success in business would be on her back
success in business would be on her back
success in business would be on her back in the hotel room and I would ask him
in the hotel room and I would ask him
in the hotel room and I would ask him how that would make him feel and I would
how that would make him feel and I would
how that would make him feel and I would ask him if you understood that what he
ask him if you understood that what he
ask him if you understood that what he was trying to do to me was paying
was trying to do to me was paying
was trying to do to me was paying forward negative experiences that his
forward negative experiences that his
forward negative experiences that his daughter and the women in his life might
daughter and the women in his life might
daughter and the women in his life might likely face at the hands of someone else
likely face at the hands of someone else
likely face at the hands of someone else and I would ask him if he wouldn’t
and I would ask him if he wouldn’t
and I would ask him if he wouldn’t rather take a personal responsibility
rather take a personal responsibility
rather take a personal responsibility for ensuring that his daughters his
for ensuring that his daughters his
for ensuring that his daughters his niece’s his sister’s his granddaughter’s
niece’s his sister’s his granddaughter’s
niece’s his sister’s his granddaughter’s have a different story to tell
have a different story to tell
have a different story to tell specifically
specifically
specifically I would ask him what would be your
I would ask him what would be your
I would ask him what would be your legacy so the women of your generation
what will be your legacy so the women of
what will be your legacy so the women of your generation and these are questions
your generation and these are questions
your generation and these are questions for all of us really there are things
for all of us really there are things
for all of us really there are things that we need to think about I chose to
that we need to think about I chose to
that we need to think about I chose to use my business as a platform to create
use my business as a platform to create
use my business as a platform to create room for the women who work with for and
room for the women who work with for and
room for the women who work with for and around me so from increasing recruitment
around me so from increasing recruitment
around me so from increasing recruitment opportunities to contracting
opportunities to contracting
opportunities to contracting opportunities to increase the
opportunities to increase the
opportunities to increase the representation of women of my
representation of women of my
representation of women of my management’s and boards to using my
management’s and boards to using my
management’s and boards to using my businesses to sponsor empowerment
businesses to sponsor empowerment
businesses to sponsor empowerment programs for less privileged women these
programs for less privileged women these
programs for less privileged women these are the pieces of broken glass that I am
are the pieces of broken glass that I am
are the pieces of broken glass that I am picking up so counseling every woman
picking up so counseling every woman
picking up so counseling every woman that makes herself available to a big
that makes herself available to a big
that makes herself available to a big sister a question yourself what piece of
sister a question yourself what piece of
sister a question yourself what piece of broken glass can I pick up what can I do
broken glass can I pick up what can I do
broken glass can I pick up what can I do to change this rhetoric into a reality
to change this rhetoric into a reality
to change this rhetoric into a reality and it doesn’t take much small steps in
and it doesn’t take much small steps in
and it doesn’t take much small steps in your circle of influence have the
your circle of influence have the
your circle of influence have the ability to create momentum and transform
ability to create momentum and transform
ability to create momentum and transform the narrative for all our women pushing
the narrative for all our women pushing
the narrative for all our women pushing back at sexual innuendo there are gay
back at sexual innuendo there are gay
back at sexual innuendo there are gay tree marks and vulgarity directed at
tree marks and vulgarity directed at
tree marks and vulgarity directed at women speaking up against rape violence
women speaking up against rape violence
women speaking up against rape violence and domestic abuse in your circles
and domestic abuse in your circles
and domestic abuse in your circles unhappy reporting abusers even if their
unhappy reporting abusers even if their
unhappy reporting abusers even if their family or friends use your social pages
family or friends use your social pages
family or friends use your social pages to propagate data media information and
to propagate data media information and
to propagate data media information and intelligence that’s what women’s rights
intelligence that’s what women’s rights
intelligence that’s what women’s rights and their I think stop patronizing the
and their I think stop patronizing the
and their I think stop patronizing the music and the movies that object five
music and the movies that object five
music and the movies that object five men and propagate violence against them
men and propagate violence against them
men and propagate violence against them you are feeding an industry what you
you are feeding an industry what you
you are feeding an industry what you will be doing by taking any of these
will be doing by taking any of these
will be doing by taking any of these small steps is carrying out those kind
small steps is carrying out those kind
small steps is carrying out those kind of seemingly innocuous actions like
of seemingly innocuous actions like
of seemingly innocuous actions like cleaning graffiti of a wall but have the
cleaning graffiti of a wall but have the
cleaning graffiti of a wall but have the potential to transform the way that one
potential to transform the way that one
potential to transform the way that one more man one more organization one more
more man one more organization one more
more man one more organization one more community and ultimately all of society
community and ultimately all of society
community and ultimately all of society views are women United Nations former
views are women United Nations former
views are women United Nations former United Nations secretary-general Kofi
United Nations secretary-general Kofi
United Nations secretary-general Kofi Annan once said when women thrive all of
Annan once said when women thrive all of
Annan once said when women thrive all of society including boys and men benefits
society including boys and men benefits
society including boys and men benefits and the soft
and the soft
and the soft sitting generations are given a much
sitting generations are given a much
sitting generations are given a much better start in life
better start in life
better start in life isn’t this the legacy we want to live
isn’t this the legacy we want to live
isn’t this the legacy we want to live for our children but you see eleventh
for our children but you see eleventh
for our children but you see eleventh legacy is not built after you’re gone
legacy is not built after you’re gone
legacy is not built after you’re gone and legacy is something that you live
and legacy is something that you live
and legacy is something that you live and believe it is a collection of small
and believe it is a collection of small
and believe it is a collection of small steps and intentional acts that Express
steps and intentional acts that Express
steps and intentional acts that Express who you are and the value you deliver to
who you are and the value you deliver to
who you are and the value you deliver to the world while you are in it and this
the world while you are in it and this
the world while you are in it and this is what lives on after you I give you
is what lives on after you I give you
is what lives on after you I give you this question again what will be your
this question again what will be your
this question again what will be your legacy to the women of your generation
legacy to the women of your generation
legacy to the women of your generation I wouldn’t it be awesome if because we
I wouldn’t it be awesome if because we
I wouldn’t it be awesome if because we each chose to be personally accountable
each chose to be personally accountable
each chose to be personally accountable for changing this narrative we could
for changing this narrative we could
for changing this narrative we could over time build a society where when our
over time build a society where when our
over time build a society where when our children tell their daughters they can
children tell their daughters they can
children tell their daughters they can be anything they want to be it really
be anything they want to be it really
be anything they want to be it really would be true with no strings attached
would be true with no strings attached
would be true with no strings attached thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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