Lift your hands, who is consciously trying to be yours?
(Laughter)
That’s a big mistake.
(Laughter)
I think that trying to be yours is just becoming like any other
who are trying to be yours.
(Laughter)
It seems to me that you should try to be unique –
(Laughter)
trying to be like everyone else.
(Laughter)
And that will make you normal what is good.
(Laughter)
I really think it’s the most dangerous liability in today’s world
be your own.
Think about it: if you could actually discover your own
who you really are, you could actually see you.
(Laughter)
You could actually find out who you are. People could be tricked.
We could throw you away.
You could actually accept it, too.
Which is probably even worse.
(Laughter)
This is very scary.
I really advocate a lifestyle: be normal
which helps you to protect yourself from these serious threats.
(Laughter)
Do you follow me?
(Audience) Yes!
At the very least, this is what our fantasies tell us,
for some reason.
I mean, that sounds a little funny.
But I think it’s even smarter than it sounds,
the fact that we all do it to some extent.
It is also the fact that I have just expressed my opinion of the fact.
(Laughter)
So it’s as scientific, which is great.
(Laughter)
My second opinion is that it is the most widespread disease
of our present world – to be normal.
It has infected many people. It has infected 90% of people.
(Laughter)
The other 10% are also affected only do not know it,
they are silent carriers of the virus.
(Laughter)
Are you okay?
(Laughter)
You look sad.
Want some flowers?
(Laughter)
Here.
A woman from the audience: Thank you very much. JP: No problem.
(Laughter)
They look pretty ugly to me, just like weeds.
But I hope to cheer you up.
I’m not a doctor,
unless I’m in denial.
How would you know if you were a doctor? I guess somebody says that.
But anyway, that’s my opinion, I’m not a doctor,
I still believe it to be normal,
The cause is a mentality of fear or self-rejection.
This is what we are most concerned about, and we encourage ourselves most.
It’s like, when we are normal and it becomes the religion we celebrate,
we treat ourselves as an enemy.
We reject ourselves because it guarantees this
that no one else will throw us away.
If I throw myself away first, then you do not get anything from me,
because I do not offer myself
so you can never dismiss me as long as I throw myself away.
Which is quite interesting.
It’s like I’m going to kill myself so I will not die.
(Laughter)
Nobody else can kill me if I die before that.
(Laughter)
Frankly, I think we laugh because it’s true.
(Laughter)
I feel you telepathicly ask me,
“JP, is there a cure for normal?”
(Laughter)
I believe it exists.
For me, the cure for your normal wonders is normal.
No one’s strange oddness, but your strangeness is a cure.
Lift your arms, who is naked here under the clothes of this hour?
(Laughter)
Cool. So you’re all a bunch of naked wizards.
(Laughter)
The medicine is within you.
(Laughter)
You do not have to go around to figure out how to be weird.
I think the design team that makes us real,
they are too intelligent to actually make us just normal.
They want life to be a bit more interesting than that.
By the way, that statement did not pass the assessment
Food and Drug Administration.
(Laughter)
It’s not food or medication.
But that’s my point.
From my perspective,
your wonder is a big part of what makes you.
Does anyone know here what the purpose of life is?
That. Oh, God. I guess that’s the purpose.
(Laughter)
We’re done, we just got rid of it.
(Laughter)
Except for a narcissistic person who actually thinks
to know what the purpose of life,
(Laughter)
I do not know what the purpose of life is.
But if I wanted to know the purpose of life,
I think it would have much to do with living your life.
That you actually give yourself permission to be a miracle that you are
and to say it, do not hide it.
Somehow interesting is how we have been given this life,
who, in my court, is something incredibly precious,
And then I’m amazed how much time I spend hiding this precious life
which is my day.
I suppose I was deep.
(Laughter)
We have some sayings.
(Laughter)
What if the purpose of your life is to actually be yours?
Can you pinch through the psychological scar tissue of your programming
which makes you behave normally
so the miracle that you can actually appear on?
What, then, is the strangeness?
This stage crashed so hard.
(Laughter)
Which is in some way normal for the stage when you think about it.
For me, the strangeness is something too deep to really be able to define.
So here are my definitions of strangeness.
(Laughter)
These are features, tendencies, behaviors, perspectives
which help to make you unique.
I repeat, that’s not something we should get.
I think this is something we have been incarnated with.
(Laughter)
The question is: Can you download what you cover your raw, naked strangeness?
Some of us will sit here and say,
“You know JP, it sounds cool to be weird, but I’m just normal.
I wear a suit and I really pay tax on time.
And I like to do it.
That’s why I’m just a boring, normal person. “
What I hear you say is that you are actually in denial.
Microphone control.
Anyone who invented this type of microphone should be killed.
(Laughter)
It’s as if a bottled water company says,
“This bottle is supposed to wear behind your ear.”
(Laughter)
Which brings me to my next point.
You’re more weird than you think.
In fact, you are probably more weird than you can imagine.
(Laughter)
That’s my opinion.
Question for you: who inspires you most?
Remember the person who inspires you the most.
And shout her name.
(The audience says)
What I hear you all say is JP Sears.
(Laughter)
Let’s try: who inspires you the second best?
because I do not want this to be just about me.
(Laughter)
All right, now, your names.
Woman from the audience: I’m alone.
JP: I’m the same. Alright. I like that.
But I heard some of you guys say Alan Watts.
You can also remember the cliché like
Elona Muska, Richard Branson, Steve Jobsa, anybody.
Whoever inspires you the most,
The question is, what is it that inspires you with them?
I imagine you inspire the fact that they are weird.
I guarantee you, no one has ever inspired others by emphasizing the normality.
(Laughter)
I tried, it did not work.
(Laughter)
I think what really inspires us in inspirational people,
more than their strangeness, is the fact of their strangeness
actually leaves us.
We actually discover that, what they are is coming to the surface.
Because they are willing to risk that without hesitation they are weird.
And somehow, we are inspired when we see someone else just their own.
We are deceiving; we think we are inspired
what they do or what they have, but I think it’s just a deception.
I think it really inspires us to be willing to risk being their own.
Maybe I’m the only one – but maybe not.
I think we all get really tired of experiencing ourselves.
When we see someone else drinking themselves –
and again, not what they do, not what they have, but what they are,
they throw away their normal clothes with us and we see them as they are –
And we say, “I also do.”
What if you find that your oddity is a crunch of gluten-free bread crumbs
which always leads you to yourself –
(Laughter)
to your authentic self?
I do not want to worship strangeness;
I want to worship where the strangeness leads us,
which was really hard to say for a while.
(Laughter)
This is really an abnormally complex sentence, obviously.
(Laughter)
The reason I am a big fan of strangeness, that is my dogmatic belief,
it always leads us to who we really are.
Not who we think we are, even to whomever we would like to be,
but something much more significant – leads us to who we really are,
if we are willing to follow the trace of our strangeness.
Words, be weird and do not apologize for it, sounds a bit cool.
Why then are we constrained by the expression
your unreservedly strange self? Why do we do this?
Well since only unpleasant silence is followed
the question I have just asked will give you your answer.
(Laughter)
I think we are constrained by the expression of our strangeness,
and thus the expression of our true self,
because we’re all addicts to approval.
Why are we addicted to approval?
I was just interested in who was your childhood?
(Laughter)
Cool. I’ve seen eight people.
(Laughter)
You remain in denial,
which only means you have had a very traumatic childhood
so you will remember that you have actually had a childhood
get back at some time.
I think the most basic human need for connectivity,
and as a child we need this connection to be incredibly raw.
Babies can really die of syndrome ‘breaks in progress’
if they have no connection.
What is the currency of association we are learning from early age?
My experience – it’s approval.
When I feel that they approve of me, I feel connected.
There are other connections available but they are somehow concealed,
we usually have to work hard to find them.
So little JP tries to get Mamma and Dad’s approval.
If I had received their approval, I would feel that I was important,
I felt like I belonged, I would feel connected.
Physically perhaps, but more importantly, psychologically connected –
so important.
What do you have to do to get someone’s approval?
You have to please them.
What do you have to do to please someone?
Being yours?
(Audience) No.
JP: It’s common to behave like them.
When someone behaves like –
especially if you are reflecting on the things they love –
so it gets approval.
We are talking about approving, not about accepting.
Or learn to read people and become what others want us to be,
whether we behave like them
or just read what will meet their need
and then we become.
Being authentic is not really part of that equation.
In fact, I believe we have, to some extent, all experienced me as a child
the time when we really should be ours,
and we did not get it for recognition.
We did not receive this confirmation.
We have that sense of approval
so we’re fooling thinking it’s confirmation
when we are what other people want us to be.
But here we are when we are only ours,
and it may pass unrecognizable
so we do not get approval, we just feel somehow empty,
maybe a little abandoned,
and sometimes worse, we actually get disapproval.
We actually feel overwhelmed when we are just yours.
We are very seldom as children
was confirmed when we were just ours.
Obviously, life hides pitfalls.
We should find it for ourselves later.
Something about my story –
I might also talk about myself for the next 45 minutes.
(Laughter)
I am my favorite theme.
One thing that often causes constipation – it’s me,
my miracle, yes, but, more importantly, I, the right one,
for the first 13 years of my career I was concealed by my inner comedian.
It sounds like something dangerous to hurt my life.
About two and a half years ago,
I started to allow myself not to betray myself so much,
not to suffer constipation because of its strangeness.
Because I invented a story:
it would be awful for business, it would discredit me –
as an emotional healer – to be funny.
Like, that would be really a bad idea, I talked.
And then I stopped believing it.
Actually, I still believed it, but I stopped worshiping that idea
and I started doing comedic video footage.
My method of strangulation –
when I’m particularly handsome, and it’s kind of weird.
It’s like: weird how stupid you are, JP.
(Laughter)
But also, the way I see the world is unique to me,
and I guarantee you the way you see the world unique to you.
But we’re talking about me, not about you, so it’s up to you.
(Laughter)
I am inclined to see the world as I see unseen
and I want to reveal it because it’s so fascinating, so fun to me.
This may be strange to other people, it can be disturbing to other people.
This can actually cause other people to reject me.
Sometimes they get angry depending on how they experience themselves
in relation to my perspective.
But one thing I began to understand:
as long as I worship the approval of other people,
I will never be able to accept myself.
It is a little strange, until I can accept myself,
I can not give anyone else the chance to accept me.
When I am trying to be in every respect based on approval,
it costs me,
and that means that they can not be in a relationship based on approval
because I’m in a constant attitude of refusing myself, not accepting myself.
What if that applies to you?
Until you learn to really accept yourself,
you will always worship the approval of other people
or rejection, depending only on whether you are relieved or defamatory.
Then the next question
for which I feel telepathic to telepathate me,
“Well, JP, how can we make it an integral part
our oddity? “
I did not say how you can say ‘yes’ to your strangeness because words are empty.
To make the irony bigger, words are said to you that the words are empty,
hence, there is a hole in that theory.
(Laughter)
So, how can you ‘make’ an integral part of your strangeness,
what does it mean to incarnate ‘yes’ in that you are you?
What I was asking you to think about,
the willingness to accept discomfort is crucial.
As long as we fear the fear of rejection –
(Laughter)
(Train Sound)
Do you think that if I get angry and overcome the train, will that help?
(Laughter)
Fucking train.
(Laughter)
I’ll play a little with my microphone.
I’ll be doing it to fix it, though I will not be able to.
That really insults my feelings.
(Laughter)
Remind me to talk about the strangeness when I can speak again.
(Laughter)
Hmm.
I’ll tie the jeans before I start again.
(Laughter)
For me, the readiness to accept discomfort is absolutely crucial,
if you want to be your own, if you ask yourself to say yes.
Because if we are not ready to accept discomfort,
that means I never, never, never want to feel it
an unpleasant fear of rejection.
That does not mean that the rejection will happen, that means I will be afraid of the rejection.
And by the way, rejection will surely happen; welcome to humanity.
Brene Brown, she is one of my favorite authors.
I’ve never read one of her books, but I like what she says.
(Laughter)
She says roughly this:
he or she is willing to feel the greatest discomfort
they are not only the bravest but they are rising the most.
Because we’re all so mistaken about everything.
This statement has turned into what I want it to mean,
And that is: she talks about strangeness.
He or she who is willing to feel the greatest discomfort
they are not only the bravest ones but the highest ones.
What if the readiness to feel discomfort is crucial
we would ‘make’ themselves an integral part of ourselves.
I do not think anyone has been hurt by pain, emotional pain.
I think I’m getting hurt trying to avoid emotional pain.
Our instinct of self-preservation, in my illusory opinion,
says, “Pain is bad, get away from pain, you can end your life.”
I’m setting the root chakra, not …
(Laughter)
I should be tempted by your sexual thoughts this time.
Welcome to the church. You are sexual and you need to be ashamed of it.
(Laughter)
So our instinct of self-preservation says
the direction in which we must go in relation to the pain, is beyond him,
this is necessary to preserve my life.
And then, when we live long enough,
or at least, when we have enough living experience,
we begin to come into contact, not with self-preservation,
but with our instinct of self-denial
who says, “Oh, pain, yes, let’s go to him.”
We must be prepared to feel the fear of death in order to actually live.
The instinct of self-realization might just say,
“Yes, pain, go to him, because it is in him,
in it is the purpose, and in the next, in it you are.
You’re on the other side of pain
because you are the one who generates pain. “
What if the pain can become our friend?
This does not mean that we have to apply it to ourselves,
as a man I think you already have enough inside yourself.
It is only a matter of willingness to embrace the flame
and encounter discomfort for what you already have in yourself.
Another consideration that I would ask you to consider,
we use the abundant word ‘consideration’,
which I have used in this sentence three times –
(Laughter)
That was just a note, it was not a joke.
(Laughter)
That consideration would be:
can you dare to turn your curse into a blessing?
Or do you find a blessing in your curse?
I think once in a childhood,
what made us the most ridiculous, why we were most embarrassed,
why we were most embarrassed –
are usually our talents.
Usually this is our strangeness.
As a child, we see our strangeness,
if we were somebody wrinkled
because we are the only ones with red hair and scars
and the phenomenal beard in the first basic –
(Laughter)
I think we can all identify with each other –
(Laughter)
Or we are the only one who does not like participating in the sport
or we think we are the only one abused
or we think we are the only ones with a devastated home.
Or do we think we are the only one who has a home that is devastated,
and we should make it not broken,
we think we are the only ones who live behind the façade.
As a child, we tend to experience the feeling “it’s a curse, it’s a burden,”
every time we have the feeling “I’m the only one.”
a wounded child inside us says, “I’m the only one.”
But if we can bring that child and marry him with his heart –
not in a bad way, but in some way supporting that inner child –
we can be more complete today
and say, “Yes, I’m the only one, that’s incredible.”
Therefore, would you be willing to give the purpose of your pain,
to find a blessing in it, so you do not have to avoid it?
And another thought that I ask you to get out of here
is: “Have fun yourself.”
I think if you could accept the idea
“part of my life’s purpose is to have fun,”
This will help you to better position your acceptance of your oddity.
Allegedly, there is a story by which Moses descends from the Ten Commandments.
My favorite command is one that was not on the plates,
which reads ‘Fun yourself’.
(Laughter)
If you can (not) have fun
simply watching, looking at himself,
then I guarantee you not to look very deep.
Look under the surface,
there is an idle humorous material in you.
(Laughter)
There are only two types of people in this world:
those who believe and those who deny the fact that it is true.
(Laughter)
So, at the end –
I think the best end is to start with the words “at the end”.
(Laughter)
We have not yet come to the end,
I just wanted to tell you what to do at the end.
I’m just kidding; we are at the end.
(Laughter)
Would you be prepared to consider that you have a choice at any time?
You can choose a cure for normal,
Unfortunately, it does not seem to be a cure for the destination.
It seems to be one of these remedies for travel,
when we actually have to say that or not at any given moment.
And we always answer that or not.
We are either barely aware of how we respond to that
or unconscious as we probably say no medicine for normal.
Would you be willing to look at what is the most strange in you?
I repeat, if you do not see it, look deeper.
It just waits for it to be discovered.
And when you look at the strangest thing in you,
Please, consider that what you really are watching is real you.
Then the real question is: are you willing to risk it
and say ‘yes’ to my right myself?
Thanks, guys.
(Applause)
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