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[Applause] has anyone ever told you that you remind
has anyone ever told you that you remind
has anyone ever told you that you remind them of a certain person from a from a
them of a certain person from a from a
them of a certain person from a from a movie or TV show but you don’t see the
movie or TV show but you don’t see the
movie or TV show but you don’t see the resemblance at all for instance I’ve
resemblance at all for instance I’ve
resemblance at all for instance I’ve been told by one of my friends that I’m
been told by one of my friends that I’m
been told by one of my friends that I’m just like Phoebe Buffay a character from
just like Phoebe Buffay a character from
just like Phoebe Buffay a character from the show friends who is a very Spacey
the show friends who is a very Spacey
the show friends who is a very Spacey humorous person yet she doesn’t quite
humorous person yet she doesn’t quite
humorous person yet she doesn’t quite know it I however don’t see the
know it I however don’t see the
know it I however don’t see the correlation much at all I see myself was
correlation much at all I see myself was
correlation much at all I see myself was an OnPoint
an OnPoint
an OnPoint curious bubbly person this is all due to
curious bubbly person this is all due to
curious bubbly person this is all due to the fact that sometimes others perceive
the fact that sometimes others perceive
the fact that sometimes others perceive us differently from how I perceive
us differently from how I perceive
us differently from how I perceive ourselves over the past couple months
ourselves over the past couple months
ourselves over the past couple months I’ve been researching self-image more
I’ve been researching self-image more
I’ve been researching self-image more specifically how others perceive you
specifically how others perceive you
specifically how others perceive you pers how you perceive yourself how we
pers how you perceive yourself how we
pers how you perceive yourself how we form our positive self images and why we
form our positive self images and why we
form our positive self images and why we have a negative self images so how do we
have a negative self images so how do we
have a negative self images so how do we even create the way we see ourselves in
even create the way we see ourselves in
even create the way we see ourselves in the first place we continually evaluate
the first place we continually evaluate
the first place we continually evaluate ourselves in multiple domains such as
ourselves in multiple domains such as
ourselves in multiple domains such as physical appearance how do I look am i
physical appearance how do I look am i
physical appearance how do I look am i ugly or pretty and performance how am i
ugly or pretty and performance how am i
ugly or pretty and performance how am i doing am i failure or do I succeed
doing am i failure or do I succeed
doing am i failure or do I succeed academically and or socially the way one
academically and or socially the way one
academically and or socially the way one might answer these questions ultimately
might answer these questions ultimately
might answer these questions ultimately leads them to having an optimistic or
leads them to having an optimistic or
leads them to having an optimistic or pessimistic view of themselves but
pessimistic view of themselves but
pessimistic view of themselves but before we get into any specifics let’s
before we get into any specifics let’s
before we get into any specifics let’s first define self-image cell phones just
first define self-image cell phones just
first define self-image cell phones just the way you perceive or see yourself and
the way you perceive or see yourself and
the way you perceive or see yourself and is built up over time based on the
is built up over time based on the
is built up over time based on the experiences you go through they can be
experiences you go through they can be
experiences you go through they can be optimistic or pessimistic children start
optimistic or pessimistic children start
optimistic or pessimistic children start to see themselves as individuals around
to see themselves as individuals around
to see themselves as individuals around middle school during this time they form
middle school during this time they form
middle school during this time they form and change their self images based on
and change their self images based on
and change their self images based on the experiences they go through such as
the experiences they go through such as
the experiences they go through such as they go to a new and larger school they
they go to a new and larger school they
they go to a new and larger school they need lots of new people and they gained
need lots of new people and they gained
need lots of new people and they gained so much more responsibility to create
so much more responsibility to create
so much more responsibility to create their own decisions during this time
their own decisions during this time
their own decisions during this time they form either an optimistic or
they form either an optimistic or
they form either an optimistic or pessimistic image of themselves when we
pessimistic image of themselves when we
pessimistic image of themselves when we see ourselves
see ourselves
see ourselves optimistic way that means we focus on
optimistic way that means we focus on
optimistic way that means we focus on our abilities and potentials having an
our abilities and potentials having an
our abilities and potentials having an optimistic image allows you to focus on
optimistic image allows you to focus on
optimistic image allows you to focus on what you can achieve rather than pushing
what you can achieve rather than pushing
what you can achieve rather than pushing yourself down constantly all the time it
yourself down constantly all the time it
yourself down constantly all the time it also means that you let you believe in
also means that you let you believe in
also means that you let you believe in yourself and that you learn to love and
yourself and that you learn to love and
yourself and that you learn to love and accept yourself so others will learn to
accept yourself so others will learn to
accept yourself so others will learn to accept you it also means that we not
accept you it also means that we not
accept you it also means that we not bully ourselves we focus on the can not
bully ourselves we focus on the can not
bully ourselves we focus on the can not the can’t and we realize that we were
the can’t and we realize that we were
the can’t and we realize that we were all human and we all make mistakes
all human and we all make mistakes
all human and we all make mistakes while I was learning about this the
while I was learning about this the
while I was learning about this the first thing that popped into my head is
first thing that popped into my head is
first thing that popped into my head is that it must be great to always think of
that it must be great to always think of
that it must be great to always think of ourselves in an amazing way however
ourselves in an amazing way however
ourselves in an amazing way however believing you are the best too much can
believing you are the best too much can
believing you are the best too much can encourage underachievement let’s say
encourage underachievement let’s say
encourage underachievement let’s say that someone burbly commits to a college
that someone burbly commits to a college
that someone burbly commits to a college so probably feel so great about
so probably feel so great about
so probably feel so great about themselves because they’re already
themselves because they’re already
themselves because they’re already committed eventually over time they
committed eventually over time they
committed eventually over time they start to slack off on schoolwork because
start to slack off on schoolwork because
start to slack off on schoolwork because they think that they didn’t have to keep
they think that they didn’t have to keep
they think that they didn’t have to keep working rather than someone who is still
working rather than someone who is still
working rather than someone who is still trying to find a school eventually the
trying to find a school eventually the
trying to find a school eventually the person that already was committed gets
person that already was committed gets
person that already was committed gets their commit taken away because they
their commit taken away because they
their commit taken away because they weren’t working as hard and the person
weren’t working as hard and the person
weren’t working as hard and the person that was working as hard got their spot
that was working as hard got their spot
that was working as hard got their spot this is why having a realistic image of
this is why having a realistic image of
this is why having a realistic image of yourself
yourself
yourself can encourage hard work change and
can encourage hard work change and
can encourage hard work change and improvement this does not mean that we
improvement this does not mean that we
improvement this does not mean that we should always look at ourselves in a
should always look at ourselves in a
should always look at ourselves in a negative way if we do this eventually
negative way if we do this eventually
negative way if we do this eventually will become depressed devastated and
will become depressed devastated and
will become depressed devastated and even sadly may have suicidal thoughts it
even sadly may have suicidal thoughts it
even sadly may have suicidal thoughts it also means that we focus on our fault
also means that we focus on our fault
also means that we focus on our fault weaknesses failures and imperfections
weaknesses failures and imperfections
weaknesses failures and imperfections this is why having oh this is why having
this is why having oh this is why having
this is why having oh this is why having a good self-image will allow you to find
a good self-image will allow you to find
a good self-image will allow you to find a balance between the two to establish
a balance between the two to establish
a balance between the two to establish happiness and to be content with how you
happiness and to be content with how you
happiness and to be content with how you view yourself while I was learning this
view yourself while I was learning this
view yourself while I was learning this I figured people that have negative self
I figured people that have negative self
I figured people that have negative self images don’t get to live up to their
images don’t get to live up to their
images don’t get to live up to their goals and reach their expectation
goals and reach their expectation
goals and reach their expectation do people create false self images to
do people create false self images to
do people create false self images to cover up how they really feel about
cover up how they really feel about
cover up how they really feel about themselves if this is the case then that
themselves if this is the case then that
themselves if this is the case then that must mean they create false self images
must mean they create false self images
must mean they create false self images on purpose to convey what they think the
on purpose to convey what they think the
on purpose to convey what they think the other person wants them to be knowing
other person wants them to be knowing
other person wants them to be knowing all this
all this
all this 11:2 the big question why would someone
11:2 the big question why would someone
11:2 the big question why would someone change the way they see themselves in
change the way they see themselves in
change the way they see themselves in front of different people let’s say
front of different people let’s say
front of different people let’s say there is a girl and she is very outgoing
there is a girl and she is very outgoing
there is a girl and she is very outgoing and not that street smart around her
and not that street smart around her
and not that street smart around her friends but when she is around her
friends but when she is around her
friends but when she is around her family she is very smart and very
family she is very smart and very
family she is very smart and very curious because of the way she puts
curious because of the way she puts
curious because of the way she puts herself out there that is the way she’ll
herself out there that is the way she’ll
herself out there that is the way she’ll be perceived now going forward in her
be perceived now going forward in her
be perceived now going forward in her life she has two different perceptions
life she has two different perceptions
life she has two different perceptions from two different groups of people
from two different groups of people
from two different groups of people this continues out through life with
this continues out through life with
this continues out through life with children and adults through their
children and adults through their
children and adults through their childhood teenage years and lengths
knowing this I decided to create a
knowing this I decided to create a three-question survey which had began
three-question survey which had began
three-question survey which had began with different animals and character
with different animals and character
with different animals and character traits next to them for example an owl
traits next to them for example an owl
traits next to them for example an owl was very smart and thoughtful while a
was very smart and thoughtful while a
was very smart and thoughtful while a dolphin was very energetic and happy my
dolphin was very energetic and happy my
dolphin was very energetic and happy my questions were one which animal do you
questions were one which animal do you
questions were one which animal do you see yourself as to which animal do you
see yourself as to which animal do you
see yourself as to which animal do you think others would see you as and three
think others would see you as and three
think others would see you as and three I asked them to go around and ask
I asked them to go around and ask
I asked them to go around and ask different people in their life which
different people in their life which
different people in their life which animal they saw them acts McCoy has this
animal they saw them acts McCoy has this
animal they saw them acts McCoy has this experience was just get them to open up
experience was just get them to open up
experience was just get them to open up really how they felt about themselves
really how they felt about themselves
really how they felt about themselves and to think about how they put their
and to think about how they put their
and to think about how they put their self out there and see if others see
self out there and see if others see
self out there and see if others see them the same way in the end one of my
them the same way in the end one of my
them the same way in the end one of my responses with someone that thought of
responses with someone that thought of
responses with someone that thought of herself as a deer which is very quiet
herself as a deer which is very quiet
herself as a deer which is very quiet and calm she thought others would see
and calm she thought others would see
and calm she thought others would see her as an owl and in the end when she
her as an owl and in the end when she
her as an owl and in the end when she went around and asked her were people
went around and asked her were people
went around and asked her were people her work friends said that he saw her as
her work friends said that he saw her as
her work friends said that he saw her as an owl but her family said that they saw
an owl but her family said that they saw
an owl but her family said that they saw her as a sloth which is very easygoing
her as a sloth which is very easygoing
her as a sloth which is very easygoing and calm so this person may have
and calm so this person may have
and calm so this person may have realized that
realized that
realized that as different people perceived her from
as different people perceived her from
as different people perceived her from how she saw herself she plays two
how she saw herself she plays two
how she saw herself she plays two different roles depending on the group
different roles depending on the group
different roles depending on the group of people she’s surrounded by knowing
of people she’s surrounded by knowing
of people she’s surrounded by knowing this after my experience I realized that
this after my experience I realized that
this after my experience I realized that sometimes people subconsciously changed
sometimes people subconsciously changed
sometimes people subconsciously changed the way that they see themselves during
the way that they see themselves during
the way that they see themselves during different groups of people so I decided
different groups of people so I decided
different groups of people so I decided to take the way I view myself into
to take the way I view myself into
to take the way I view myself into action earlier in my talk I had
action earlier in my talk I had
action earlier in my talk I had mentioned that I see myself as a curious
mentioned that I see myself as a curious
mentioned that I see myself as a curious bubbly open-minded kind of person so I
bubbly open-minded kind of person so I
bubbly open-minded kind of person so I went to school acting and betraying the
went to school acting and betraying the
went to school acting and betraying the complete opposite I was dark and moody I
complete opposite I was dark and moody I
complete opposite I was dark and moody I didn’t speak to anyone I didn’t even
didn’t speak to anyone I didn’t even
didn’t speak to anyone I didn’t even look mr. Walsh in the eye when I shook
look mr. Walsh in the eye when I shook
look mr. Walsh in the eye when I shook his hand
his hand
his hand some people had noticed my negative
some people had noticed my negative
some people had noticed my negative attitude while others just kept on going
attitude while others just kept on going
attitude while others just kept on going on with their day as if nothing had
on with their day as if nothing had
on with their day as if nothing had changed one of my friends actually
changed one of my friends actually
changed one of my friends actually checked my head for a fever to make sure
checked my head for a fever to make sure
checked my head for a fever to make sure if I was okay mr. walk my English
if I was okay mr. walk my English
if I was okay mr. walk my English teacher had waved his hand in front of
teacher had waved his hand in front of
teacher had waved his hand in front of my face because he thought something was
my face because he thought something was
my face because he thought something was wrong in retrospect looking at myself in
wrong in retrospect looking at myself in
wrong in retrospect looking at myself in a negative way had made me feel like I
a negative way had made me feel like I
a negative way had made me feel like I was failing myself and I couldn’t find
was failing myself and I couldn’t find
was failing myself and I couldn’t find anything to be happy about if this was
anything to be happy about if this was
anything to be happy about if this was just me acting like I had a negative
just me acting like I had a negative
just me acting like I had a negative self-image think about the people out
self-image think about the people out
self-image think about the people out there in real life that really see
there in real life that really see
there in real life that really see themselves in a pessimistic way and how
themselves in a pessimistic way and how
themselves in a pessimistic way and how they really feel
they really feel
they really feel in essence having a negative image led
in essence having a negative image led
in essence having a negative image led to a dark consist of feeling and led
to a dark consist of feeling and led
to a dark consist of feeling and led others to believe that that person was
others to believe that that person was
others to believe that that person was always depressed which perpetuates the
always depressed which perpetuates the
always depressed which perpetuates the negative image so why does it even
negative image so why does it even
negative image so why does it even matter to think about our self images in
matter to think about our self images in
matter to think about our self images in the first place I’m pretty confident
the first place I’m pretty confident
the first place I’m pretty confident that most of the people in the audience
that most of the people in the audience
that most of the people in the audience have either wanted to have children have
have either wanted to have children have
have either wanted to have children have children or have one type children when
children or have one type children when
children or have one type children when they’re when they’re older and life
they’re when they’re older and life
they’re when they’re older and life these children are America’s future we
these children are America’s future we
these children are America’s future we want them to have realistic self images
want them to have realistic self images
want them to have realistic self images so they can go forward in life and
so they can go forward in life and
so they can go forward in life and complete their goals going to college
complete their goals going to college
complete their goals going to college getting a job and even maintaining and
getting a job and even maintaining and
getting a job and even maintaining and creating relationships with their
creating relationships with their
creating relationships with their friends and family the future awaits us
friends and family the future awaits us
friends and family the future awaits us all now just depends
all now just depends
all now just depends we take the future and turn it into
we take the future and turn it into
we take the future and turn it into something that we want it to be but we
something that we want it to be but we
something that we want it to be but we cannot do that if we let our pessimistic
cannot do that if we let our pessimistic
cannot do that if we let our pessimistic and false images get in the way of our
and false images get in the way of our
and false images get in the way of our actions I can assure you that having a
actions I can assure you that having a
actions I can assure you that having a realistic image of yourself will allow
realistic image of yourself will allow
realistic image of yourself will allow others to see you for how you really
others to see you for how you really
others to see you for how you really want to be seen it will make false
want to be seen it will make false
want to be seen it will make false images less of a reality so let me ask
images less of a reality so let me ask
images less of a reality so let me ask you one simple question how do you
you one simple question how do you
you one simple question how do you perceive yourself think about it thank
perceive yourself think about it thank
perceive yourself think about it thank you
you
you [Applause]
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