when I was 20 I had dreams I wanted to live abroad explore new cultures new
live abroad explore new cultures new
live abroad explore new cultures new countries meet new people taste new food
countries meet new people taste new food
countries meet new people taste new food that was my dream but there I was twenty
that was my dream but there I was twenty
that was my dream but there I was twenty years old and living in a town working
years old and living in a town working
years old and living in a town working really hard living in a town of my
really hard living in a town of my
really hard living in a town of my parents and I felt like I was swimming
parents and I felt like I was swimming
parents and I felt like I was swimming in a swimming pool I felt my future was
in a swimming pool I felt my future was
in a swimming pool I felt my future was like this straight lane in a swimming
like this straight lane in a swimming
like this straight lane in a swimming pool the same town the same husband the
pool the same town the same husband the
pool the same town the same husband the same job the same parents the same
same job the same parents the same
same job the same parents the same everything the rest of my life and I
everything the rest of my life and I
everything the rest of my life and I wanted to swim in the ocean
wanted to swim in the ocean
wanted to swim in the ocean amongst other fish of all colors and all
amongst other fish of all colors and all
amongst other fish of all colors and all sizes and sharks because yeah they’re
sizes and sharks because yeah they’re
sizes and sharks because yeah they’re sharks in the ocean and when I talked
sharks in the ocean and when I talked
sharks in the ocean and when I talked about my dream to my parents in my
about my dream to my parents in my
about my dream to my parents in my husband today they looked at me and I
husband today they looked at me and I
husband today they looked at me and I smiled and they said Rachel what are you
smiled and they said Rachel what are you
smiled and they said Rachel what are you talking about you have everything going
talking about you have everything going
talking about you have everything going for you you earn good money you have
for you you earn good money you have
for you you earn good money you have clients here you husband with your
clients here you husband with your
clients here you husband with your parents live closeby I mean what more
parents live closeby I mean what more
parents live closeby I mean what more can you wish for they were right but I
can you wish for they were right but I
can you wish for they were right but I didn’t want to grow old thinking what if
didn’t want to grow old thinking what if
didn’t want to grow old thinking what if I had done it what if and so I did
I had done it what if and so I did
I had done it what if and so I did fast-forward my life I can now say that
fast-forward my life I can now say that
fast-forward my life I can now say that I’ve lived in seven different countries
I’ve lived in seven different countries
I’ve lived in seven different countries I speak six almost seven different
I speak six almost seven different
I speak six almost seven different languages and I did achieve my dream and
languages and I did achieve my dream and
languages and I did achieve my dream and I have new dreams like standing on a
I have new dreams like standing on a
I have new dreams like standing on a stage like this now how did I do that
stage like this now how did I do that
stage like this now how did I do that I’ll tell you in just a minute
I’ll tell you in just a minute
I’ll tell you in just a minute first let me ask you a question we all
first let me ask you a question we all
first let me ask you a question we all have dreams good ones bad ones
have dreams good ones bad ones
have dreams good ones bad ones do you also daydream about your future
do you also daydream about your future
do you also daydream about your future and do you put a deadline on it six
and do you put a deadline on it six
and do you put a deadline on it six months one year 10 years or are you the
months one year 10 years or are you the
months one year 10 years or are you the type of person that says one day I’ll
type of person that says one day I’ll
type of person that says one day I’ll open up my own business someday I’ll
open up my own business someday I’ll
open up my own business someday I’ll play the guitar one day I will lose
play the guitar one day I will lose
play the guitar one day I will lose weight we all have dreams but only few
weight we all have dreams but only few
weight we all have dreams but only few of us achieve those dreams why is that
of us achieve those dreams why is that
of us achieve those dreams why is that you know I have a mission I want to
you know I have a mission I want to
you know I have a mission I want to inspire people to build their confidence
inspire people to build their confidence
inspire people to build their confidence that’s what I do
that’s what I do
that’s what I do so I talk to a lot of people and I ask
so I talk to a lot of people and I ask
so I talk to a lot of people and I ask this question and I get all sorts of
this question and I get all sorts of
this question and I get all sorts of answers things like yeah but I have a
answers things like yeah but I have a
answers things like yeah but I have a family and kids I can’t achieve my dream
family and kids I can’t achieve my dream
family and kids I can’t achieve my dream or I don’t have enough money in the bank
or I don’t have enough money in the bank
or I don’t have enough money in the bank or I’m too old okay so then I say well
or I’m too old okay so then I say well
or I’m too old okay so then I say well look at your situation right now imagine
look at your situation right now imagine
look at your situation right now imagine you’re living your dream how would you
you’re living your dream how would you
you’re living your dream how would you feel and then I see sparking eyes and a
feel and then I see sparking eyes and a
feel and then I see sparking eyes and a big smile and and I hear answers like I
big smile and and I hear answers like I
big smile and and I hear answers like I can just see myself my own restaurant
can just see myself my own restaurant
can just see myself my own restaurant with my name and my logo on it or I
with my name and my logo on it or I
with my name and my logo on it or I would just love having my own
would just love having my own
would just love having my own consultancy career and working from home
consultancy career and working from home
consultancy career and working from home picking the kids up from school and if I
picking the kids up from school and if I
picking the kids up from school and if I wait just a little bit longer there it
wait just a little bit longer there it
wait just a little bit longer there it comes a three-letter word but that is
comes a three-letter word but that is
comes a three-letter word but that is too difficult but what will everybody
too difficult but what will everybody
too difficult but what will everybody say but it’s too complicated huh is that
say but it’s too complicated huh is that
say but it’s too complicated huh is that true yeah I think so oh you think why
true yeah I think so oh you think why
true yeah I think so oh you think why are so many of us stuck because we think
are so many of us stuck because we think
are so many of us stuck because we think too much but that’s okay we have 80,000
too much but that’s okay we have 80,000
too much but that’s okay we have 80,000 thoughts in a day it’s normal that we
thoughts in a day it’s normal that we
thoughts in a day it’s normal that we have so many thoughts but it’s when
have so many thoughts but it’s when
have so many thoughts but it’s when those thoughts are negative that they
those thoughts are negative that they
those thoughts are negative that they bring us down I can’t do this I’m not
bring us down I can’t do this I’m not
bring us down I can’t do this I’m not good enough
good enough
good enough if you repeat that over and over again
if you repeat that over and over again
if you repeat that over and over again you’ll start believing it
you’ll start believing it
you’ll start believing it you see our thoughts our stories in our
you see our thoughts our stories in our
you see our thoughts our stories in our mind they lead to feelings and they lead
mind they lead to feelings and they lead
mind they lead to feelings and they lead to actions behaviors so the good news is
to actions behaviors so the good news is
to actions behaviors so the good news is if you want to get unstuck you have to
if you want to get unstuck you have to
if you want to get unstuck you have to change those stories imagine a first
change those stories imagine a first
change those stories imagine a first date a romantic candlelight dinner you
date a romantic candlelight dinner you
date a romantic candlelight dinner you see the cross from each other you look
see the cross from each other you look
see the cross from each other you look each other deep into the eyes you feel
each other deep into the eyes you feel
each other deep into the eyes you feel those butterflies that chemistry that
those butterflies that chemistry that
those butterflies that chemistry that click that everybody’s talking about you
click that everybody’s talking about you
click that everybody’s talking about you feel on top of the world you picture
feel on top of the world you picture
feel on top of the world you picture yourselves together in the future a
yourselves together in the future a
yourselves together in the future a house together a holiday together maybe
house together a holiday together maybe
house together a holiday together maybe kids together the next morning you wake
kids together the next morning you wake
kids together the next morning you wake up and you still have that smile on your
up and you still have that smile on your
up and you still have that smile on your face and you take your phone by your
face and you take your phone by your
face and you take your phone by your side and you expect a call and a message
side and you expect a call and a message
side and you expect a call and a message and you don’t leave your phone whole day
and you don’t leave your phone whole day
and you don’t leave your phone whole day long and you can go to the bathroom with
long and you can go to the bathroom with
long and you can go to the bathroom with your phone and by the end of the night
your phone and by the end of the night
your phone and by the end of the night there’s no call and there is no message
there’s no call and there is no message
there’s no call and there is no message now there’s different options you could
now there’s different options you could
now there’s different options you could think oh no I will never find anybody
think oh no I will never find anybody
think oh no I will never find anybody I will stay alone the rest of my life
I will stay alone the rest of my life
I will stay alone the rest of my life I’m totally giving up on dating it’s
I’m totally giving up on dating it’s
I’m totally giving up on dating it’s nothing for me oh I’m just gonna stay
nothing for me oh I’m just gonna stay
nothing for me oh I’m just gonna stay miserable and alone and basically you’ll
miserable and alone and basically you’ll
miserable and alone and basically you’ll feel bad the rest of the night the rest
feel bad the rest of the night the rest
feel bad the rest of the night the rest of the week
of the week
of the week maybe the coming months or you can say
maybe the coming months or you can say
maybe the coming months or you can say oh well that person isn’t right for me
oh well that person isn’t right for me
oh well that person isn’t right for me but hey there’s plenty of fish in the
but hey there’s plenty of fish in the
but hey there’s plenty of fish in the water I’ll just go and find myself
water I’ll just go and find myself
water I’ll just go and find myself somebody else and you know what I had a
somebody else and you know what I had a
somebody else and you know what I had a great night last night I want to do that
great night last night I want to do that
great night last night I want to do that again so you continue and you go on and
again so you continue and you go on and
again so you continue and you go on and find your next date different stories
find your next date different stories
find your next date different stories different feelings different actions so
different feelings different actions so
different feelings different actions so if you want to change something you have
if you want to change something you have
if you want to change something you have to change those stories is it easy is it
to change those stories is it easy is it
to change those stories is it easy is it difficult if it would be that simple we
difficult if it would be that simple we
difficult if it would be that simple we would all be famous rock stars or movie
would all be famous rock stars or movie
would all be famous rock stars or movie stars it takes effort but there is a
stars it takes effort but there is a
stars it takes effort but there is a saying if we always do what we always
saying if we always do what we always
saying if we always do what we always did we get what we always got now I hear
did we get what we always got now I hear
did we get what we always got now I hear you you have Rachel but we love to do
you you have Rachel but we love to do
you you have Rachel but we love to do what we always do it feels good it’s
what we always do it feels good it’s
what we always do it feels good it’s easy it’s like an automatic robot it’s
easy it’s like an automatic robot it’s
easy it’s like an automatic robot it’s feels comfortable true but comfort is
feels comfortable true but comfort is
feels comfortable true but comfort is the enemy of change it’s when we’re
the enemy of change it’s when we’re
the enemy of change it’s when we’re uncomfortable that leads to change in
uncomfortable that leads to change in
uncomfortable that leads to change in action so take that effort and energy
action so take that effort and energy
action so take that effort and energy and change those thoughts from negative
and change those thoughts from negative
and change those thoughts from negative to positive and with positive I mean
to positive and with positive I mean
to positive and with positive I mean thoughts that help yourself achieve your
thoughts that help yourself achieve your
thoughts that help yourself achieve your goal change it from I can’t – I will I’m
goal change it from I can’t – I will I’m
goal change it from I can’t – I will I’m no good I’m awesome seeing the glass
no good I’m awesome seeing the glass
no good I’m awesome seeing the glass half-empty
half-empty
half-empty – filling your glass half-full stop
– filling your glass half-full stop
– filling your glass half-full stop dreaming and start doing
dreaming and start doing
dreaming and start doing it’s like when you bake a cake as
it’s like when you bake a cake as
it’s like when you bake a cake as anybody ever tried baking a cake I did –
anybody ever tried baking a cake I did –
anybody ever tried baking a cake I did – I’m terrible in cooking but I tried so
I’m terrible in cooking but I tried so
I’m terrible in cooking but I tried so what do you do you follow a recipe you
what do you do you follow a recipe you
what do you do you follow a recipe you take a bowl you take flour some sugar
take a bowl you take flour some sugar
take a bowl you take flour some sugar mix it together
mix it together
mix it together some eggs and basically by the end of
some eggs and basically by the end of
some eggs and basically by the end of the recipe you put it in the oven and 45
the recipe you put it in the oven and 45
the recipe you put it in the oven and 45 minutes later being your cake is ready
minutes later being your cake is ready
minutes later being your cake is ready it’s the same thing in life you take
it’s the same thing in life you take
it’s the same thing in life you take small steps there is no such thing as
small steps there is no such thing as
small steps there is no such thing as taking the ball put again in the oven
taking the ball put again in the oven
taking the ball put again in the oven and ping cake is ready
and ping cake is ready
and ping cake is ready no can’t run before you walk I
no can’t run before you walk I
no can’t run before you walk I interviewed this man and he story’s
interviewed this man and he story’s
interviewed this man and he story’s amazing so I really want to share that
amazing so I really want to share that
amazing so I really want to share that with you his name is Steven as a child
with you his name is Steven as a child
with you his name is Steven as a child he had a stutter he stuttered in school
he had a stutter he stuttered in school
he had a stutter he stuttered in school he was laughed at joked at ridiculous
he was laughed at joked at ridiculous
he was laughed at joked at ridiculous when a teacher called up his name he
when a teacher called up his name he
when a teacher called up his name he just wanted to crawl away and hide
just wanted to crawl away and hide
just wanted to crawl away and hide forever
forever
forever he felt miserable until one day he made
he felt miserable until one day he made
he felt miserable until one day he made the decision in his mind and he said I
the decision in his mind and he said I
the decision in his mind and he said I want to change
want to change
want to change so he took small steps first he called
so he took small steps first he called
so he took small steps first he called up a phone company and asked for some
up a phone company and asked for some
up a phone company and asked for some product information very scary for him
product information very scary for him
product information very scary for him calling up making a conversation with
calling up making a conversation with
calling up making a conversation with somebody you don’t know but he did he
somebody you don’t know but he did he
somebody you don’t know but he did he did it again and again until he felt a
did it again and again until he felt a
did it again and again until he felt a bit better and then the next step walk
bit better and then the next step walk
bit better and then the next step walk into a store and ask for some
into a store and ask for some
into a store and ask for some information again very scary seeing
information again very scary seeing
information again very scary seeing somebody face to face making
somebody face to face making
somebody face to face making conversation with a stutter but he did
conversation with a stutter but he did
conversation with a stutter but he did and he did it several times in class he
and he did it several times in class he
and he did it several times in class he started raising his hand long story
started raising his hand long story
started raising his hand long story short he is now a very professional
short he is now a very professional
short he is now a very professional public speaker and he loves it what did
public speaker and he loves it what did
public speaker and he loves it what did he do small steps so think about what
he do small steps so think about what
he do small steps so think about what can be your smallest actionable step
can be your smallest actionable step
can be your smallest actionable step towards your dream you know when I moved
towards your dream you know when I moved
towards your dream you know when I moved abroad every single time I took a lot of
abroad every single time I took a lot of
abroad every single time I took a lot of small steps talking to people visiting
small steps talking to people visiting
small steps talking to people visiting countries applying for jobs I never
countries applying for jobs I never
countries applying for jobs I never jumped in the ocean I look at the ocean
jumped in the ocean I look at the ocean
jumped in the ocean I look at the ocean I look at what’s out there I put a toe
I look at what’s out there I put a toe
I look at what’s out there I put a toe in the water and a foot and another foot
in the water and a foot and another foot
in the water and a foot and another foot small steps you want to publish your
small steps you want to publish your
small steps you want to publish your book start by writing a paragraph
you know another reason why people are
you know another reason why people are not achieving their dreams is the fear
not achieving their dreams is the fear
not achieving their dreams is the fear of failure the fear of making mistakes
of failure the fear of making mistakes
of failure the fear of making mistakes now who has never made any mistakes in
now who has never made any mistakes in
now who has never made any mistakes in their lives
their lives
their lives I made a lot of mistakes a lot of
I made a lot of mistakes a lot of
I made a lot of mistakes a lot of mistakes but I learned a lot as well
mistakes but I learned a lot as well
mistakes but I learned a lot as well relationships I had many relationships
relationships I had many relationships
relationships I had many relationships hey I even got a divorce does it mean I
hey I even got a divorce does it mean I
hey I even got a divorce does it mean I will never find a relationship anymore
will never find a relationship anymore
will never find a relationship anymore of course not but I’ll learn from every
of course not but I’ll learn from every
of course not but I’ll learn from every relationship I learned what I like and
relationship I learned what I like and
relationship I learned what I like and what I don’t like what I want and what I
what I don’t like what I want and what I
what I don’t like what I want and what I don’t want in a man jobs I had many jobs
don’t want in a man jobs I had many jobs
don’t want in a man jobs I had many jobs dream jobs that ended up a disaster let
dream jobs that ended up a disaster let
dream jobs that ended up a disaster let me tell you about this one time I landed
me tell you about this one time I landed
me tell you about this one time I landed this job title commercial manager of the
this job title commercial manager of the
this job title commercial manager of the whole west of France I was so happy I
whole west of France I was so happy I
whole west of France I was so happy I could choose any car I wanted I chose a
could choose any car I wanted I chose a
could choose any car I wanted I chose a car with so many options it could
car with so many options it could
car with so many options it could practically drive itself
practically drive itself
practically drive itself I could choose where I live so I chose
I could choose where I live so I chose
I could choose where I live so I chose an apartment right by the beach
an apartment right by the beach
an apartment right by the beach I received the latest smartphone the
I received the latest smartphone the
I received the latest smartphone the latest laptop and I could just see
latest laptop and I could just see
latest laptop and I could just see myself driving by the ocean every
myself driving by the ocean every
myself driving by the ocean every weekend by the beach I could I couldn’t
weekend by the beach I could I couldn’t
weekend by the beach I could I couldn’t wait to pack up all my boxes and move to
wait to pack up all my boxes and move to
wait to pack up all my boxes and move to this new country until several months
this new country until several months
this new country until several months into the job I was exhausted so stressed
into the job I was exhausted so stressed
into the job I was exhausted so stressed out I nearly a burnout I I hardly saw my
out I nearly a burnout I I hardly saw my
out I nearly a burnout I I hardly saw my partner because I was sleeping in hotels
partner because I was sleeping in hotels
partner because I was sleeping in hotels five nights a week
five nights a week
five nights a week I loved my car but I had to drive to the
I loved my car but I had to drive to the
I loved my car but I had to drive to the physical therapist every week for my
physical therapist every week for my
physical therapist every week for my back pain the beach in the weekends
back pain the beach in the weekends
back pain the beach in the weekends hardly ever because I had to write so
hardly ever because I had to write so
hardly ever because I had to write so many reports of the past week and plan
many reports of the past week and plan
many reports of the past week and plan my coming week really terrible within
my coming week really terrible within
my coming week really terrible within one year I quit and I left mistake yeah
one year I quit and I left mistake yeah
one year I quit and I left mistake yeah maybe do I regret it no way no because I
maybe do I regret it no way no because I
maybe do I regret it no way no because I learned so many things I learned about
learned so many things I learned about
learned so many things I learned about the culture the country the people there
the culture the country the people there
the culture the country the people there the job as a matter of fact since then
the job as a matter of fact since then
the job as a matter of fact since then when I go into a job interview I ask
when I go into a job interview I ask
when I go into a job interview I ask more questions than the interviewer
more questions than the interviewer
more questions than the interviewer itself I just want to make sure but
itself I just want to make sure but
itself I just want to make sure but mistakes I think they’re important
mistakes I think they’re important
mistakes I think they’re important I think mistakes are a good thing we
I think mistakes are a good thing we
I think mistakes are a good thing we learn from our mistakes and there is one
learn from our mistakes and there is one
learn from our mistakes and there is one cool
cool
cool I want to share with you because I can’t
I want to share with you because I can’t
I want to share with you because I can’t say it any better I never make the same
say it any better I never make the same
say it any better I never make the same mistake twice I make it five or six
mistake twice I make it five or six
mistake twice I make it five or six times just to make sure it’s like when
times just to make sure it’s like when
times just to make sure it’s like when you’re driving a car you’re driving
you’re driving a car you’re driving
you’re driving a car you’re driving you’re going to your destination maybe a
you’re going to your destination maybe a
you’re going to your destination maybe a short distance maybe a long distance and
short distance maybe a long distance and
short distance maybe a long distance and you have this rearview mirror and what
you have this rearview mirror and what
you have this rearview mirror and what you see in there your past
you see in there your past
you see in there your past your past is behind you so it’s good to
your past is behind you so it’s good to
your past is behind you so it’s good to look in that rearview mirror once in a
look in that rearview mirror once in a
look in that rearview mirror once in a while because your past is where you
while because your past is where you
while because your past is where you come from your past made you who you are
come from your past made you who you are
come from your past made you who you are today so use that use it to create your
today so use that use it to create your
today so use that use it to create your future but don’t keep your eyes stuck on
future but don’t keep your eyes stuck on
future but don’t keep your eyes stuck on that rearview mirror or you will crash
that rearview mirror or you will crash
that rearview mirror or you will crash and remember you are the one driving you
and remember you are the one driving you
and remember you are the one driving you are in that driver’s seat nobody else
are in that driver’s seat nobody else
are in that driver’s seat nobody else you are responsible for your life so
you are responsible for your life so
you are responsible for your life so life changes and so can you we can think
life changes and so can you we can think
life changes and so can you we can think thoughts and stories in our head that
thoughts and stories in our head that
thoughts and stories in our head that can mean anything we can take small
can mean anything we can take small
can mean anything we can take small steps one foot after the other into the
steps one foot after the other into the
steps one foot after the other into the ocean we can take a look in that
ocean we can take a look in that
ocean we can take a look in that rearview mirror and learn from what we
rearview mirror and learn from what we
rearview mirror and learn from what we see in there we all have dreams so what
see in there we all have dreams so what
see in there we all have dreams so what is your next step
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