first thing you have to know about me is that I’m a psychologist and this means
that I’m a psychologist and this means
that I’m a psychologist and this means that I come across is that normal
that I come across is that normal
that I come across is that normal questions on a daily basis I’ll give you
questions on a daily basis I’ll give you
questions on a daily basis I’ll give you a few examples we broke up a week ago
a few examples we broke up a week ago
a few examples we broke up a week ago but I keep stalking her on Facebook
but I keep stalking her on Facebook
but I keep stalking her on Facebook sometimes I talk to myself out loud I
sometimes I talk to myself out loud I
sometimes I talk to myself out loud I enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top is
enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top is
enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top is that normal
that normal
that normal whenever I hear one of such questions I
whenever I hear one of such questions I
whenever I hear one of such questions I immediately ask what makes you think
immediately ask what makes you think
immediately ask what makes you think that it’s not normal and the answer I
that it’s not normal and the answer I
that it’s not normal and the answer I usually receive is well I don’t think
usually receive is well I don’t think
usually receive is well I don’t think others do that so I ask who are these
others do that so I ask who are these
others do that so I ask who are these others and the answer is of course I
others and the answer is of course I
others and the answer is of course I don’t know people as in the 7.5 billion
don’t know people as in the 7.5 billion
don’t know people as in the 7.5 billion people currently alive on earth so I
people currently alive on earth so I
people currently alive on earth so I guess you can see the problem here we’ll
guess you can see the problem here we’ll
guess you can see the problem here we’ll come back to these questions but now the
come back to these questions but now the
come back to these questions but now the second thing you have to know about me
second thing you have to know about me
second thing you have to know about me is that I’m a book translator which
is that I’m a book translator which
is that I’m a book translator which means I spend lots and lots of time
means I spend lots and lots of time
means I spend lots and lots of time among books my favorite kind of books
among books my favorite kind of books
among books my favorite kind of books are tales both children’s and adults I
are tales both children’s and adults I
are tales both children’s and adults I believe they’re the piece of literature
believe they’re the piece of literature
believe they’re the piece of literature that captures the secrets of the human
that captures the secrets of the human
that captures the secrets of the human psyche best I especially like 1001
psyche best I especially like 1001
psyche best I especially like 1001 nights tales there are some fascinating
nights tales there are some fascinating
nights tales there are some fascinating stories there and when I heard about
stories there and when I heard about
stories there and when I heard about today’s events topic I immediately
today’s events topic I immediately
today’s events topic I immediately remembered the first tale there and I
remembered the first tale there and I
remembered the first tale there and I want to tell you about it briefly it’s
want to tell you about it briefly it’s
want to tell you about it briefly it’s called the story of King Shahir and his
called the story of King Shahir and his
called the story of King Shahir and his brother so there are two brothers both
brother so there are two brothers both
brother so there are two brothers both of them are Sultan’s King jvr is the
of them are Sultan’s King jvr is the
of them are Sultan’s King jvr is the older one and he rules over India and
older one and he rules over India and
older one and he rules over India and chasse Amon is the younger one and he
chasse Amon is the younger one and he
chasse Amon is the younger one and he rules over Samarkand and everything is
rules over Samarkand and everything is
rules over Samarkand and everything is fine in both Ireland they don’t see each
fine in both Ireland they don’t see each
fine in both Ireland they don’t see each other for 20 years but one day shadier
other for 20 years but one day shadier
other for 20 years but one day shadier misses his brothers so he might small
misses his brothers so he might small
misses his brothers so he might small words she says come visit
words she says come visit
words she says come visit and shall someone is really excited
and shall someone is really excited
and shall someone is really excited about this invitation so he immediately
about this invitation so he immediately
about this invitation so he immediately packs his bags and leaves to visit his
packs his bags and leaves to visit his
packs his bags and leaves to visit his brother in India but a few hours later
brother in India but a few hours later
brother in India but a few hours later on the road he remembers that he forgot
on the road he remembers that he forgot
on the road he remembers that he forgot to pack something so he goes back to his
to pack something so he goes back to his
to pack something so he goes back to his palace and there he catches his wife
palace and there he catches his wife
palace and there he catches his wife cheating on him so he’s really upset
cheating on him so he’s really upset
cheating on him so he’s really upset about it but he leaves anywhere anyway
about it but he leaves anywhere anyway
about it but he leaves anywhere anyway and ghost was it his brother Shetty are
and ghost was it his brother Shetty are
and ghost was it his brother Shetty are in India but he doesn’t tell him about
in India but he doesn’t tell him about
in India but he doesn’t tell him about why he’s upset and what happens back
why he’s upset and what happens back
why he’s upset and what happens back home
home
home Shane here who wants to cheer his
Shane here who wants to cheer his
Shane here who wants to cheer his brother up says let’s go hunting
brother up says let’s go hunting
brother up says let’s go hunting together it will make you feel better
together it will make you feel better
together it will make you feel better but Shalimar infuses that and stays back
but Shalimar infuses that and stays back
but Shalimar infuses that and stays back in the palace so she here goes hunting
in the palace so she here goes hunting
in the palace so she here goes hunting by himself and shall summon back in the
by himself and shall summon back in the
by himself and shall summon back in the palace gazing out the window thinking
palace gazing out the window thinking
palace gazing out the window thinking about his wife and how he was cheated on
about his wife and how he was cheated on
about his wife and how he was cheated on this time unfortunately sees his
this time unfortunately sees his
this time unfortunately sees his brother’s wife cheating on him so now
brother’s wife cheating on him so now
brother’s wife cheating on him so now when Shelia comes back from one thing he
when Shelia comes back from one thing he
when Shelia comes back from one thing he has to tell him and he does he says I
has to tell him and he does he says I
has to tell him and he does he says I saw your wife like this and then he also
saw your wife like this and then he also
saw your wife like this and then he also says you know my wife did the same to me
says you know my wife did the same to me
says you know my wife did the same to me back at home that’s why I’m upset but
back at home that’s why I’m upset but
back at home that’s why I’m upset but jei doesn’t want to believe it right
jei doesn’t want to believe it right
jei doesn’t want to believe it right away he says I need to see it for myself
away he says I need to see it for myself
away he says I need to see it for myself so one day he pretends to go hunting
so one day he pretends to go hunting
so one day he pretends to go hunting again and then comes back right
again and then comes back right
again and then comes back right afterwards and catches his wife cheating
afterwards and catches his wife cheating
afterwards and catches his wife cheating on him so now both brothers are really
on him so now both brothers are really
on him so now both brothers are really really upset and you know what they
really upset and you know what they
really upset and you know what they decide to do remember that they are
decide to do remember that they are
decide to do remember that they are Sultan’s they have their palaces and
Sultan’s they have their palaces and
Sultan’s they have their palaces and countries but they decide to pack their
countries but they decide to pack their
countries but they decide to pack their bags and travel the earth to see if they
bags and travel the earth to see if they
bags and travel the earth to see if they can find anyone else who will cheat at
can find anyone else who will cheat at
can find anyone else who will cheat at all if not they say that’s their word
all if not they say that’s their word
all if not they say that’s their word they’d rather die so the logic here is
they’d rather die so the logic here is
they’d rather die so the logic here is that you know our wives cheated on us we
that you know our wives cheated on us we
that you know our wives cheated on us we feel bad yeah but if we are the only
feel bad yeah but if we are the only
feel bad yeah but if we are the only ones who were cheated on done we’ll feel
ones who were cheated on done we’ll feel
ones who were cheated on done we’ll feel absolutely horrible
absolutely horrible
absolutely horrible if not we’ll feel slightly better
and this shows I think that our focus on
and this shows I think that our focus on the experience of others and whether we
the experience of others and whether we
the experience of others and whether we are alone in our in our experience or
are alone in our in our experience or
are alone in our in our experience or not actually dates back centuries
not actually dates back centuries
not actually dates back centuries because these tales were written among
because these tales were written among
because these tales were written among around like ninth century so it’s er
around like ninth century so it’s er
around like ninth century so it’s er it’s a really old focus for us now King
it’s a really old focus for us now King
it’s a really old focus for us now King shave er and his brother were willing to
shave er and his brother were willing to
shave er and his brother were willing to travel the earth to find an answer to
travel the earth to find an answer to
travel the earth to find an answer to the what we may call the is that normal
the what we may call the is that normal
the what we may call the is that normal question again fortunately or
question again fortunately or
question again fortunately or unfortunately we don’t have to go
unfortunately we don’t have to go
unfortunately we don’t have to go through such lengths we just have to
through such lengths we just have to
through such lengths we just have to take out our smartphones from our
take out our smartphones from our
take out our smartphones from our pockets and then log on to social media
pockets and then log on to social media
pockets and then log on to social media where everyone is more than happy to
where everyone is more than happy to
where everyone is more than happy to share everything they do with us right
share everything they do with us right
share everything they do with us right well not everything actually in fact
well not everything actually in fact
well not everything actually in fact everyone is really really selective
everyone is really really selective
everyone is really really selective about what they share I may even say
about what they share I may even say
about what they share I may even say deceptive you know there was a time when
deceptive you know there was a time when
deceptive you know there was a time when it was okay to share even the slightest
it was okay to share even the slightest
it was okay to share even the slightest mood changes on Facebook people who
mood changes on Facebook people who
mood changes on Facebook people who tried things like I’m hungry what should
tried things like I’m hungry what should
tried things like I’m hungry what should I eat or I’m bored
I eat or I’m bored
I eat or I’m bored but over time use of social media
but over time use of social media
but over time use of social media changed drastically and now it became a
changed drastically and now it became a
changed drastically and now it became a tool for forming a certain image so what
tool for forming a certain image so what
tool for forming a certain image so what you see on my social media profiles is
you see on my social media profiles is
you see on my social media profiles is not a story of my life as the company’s
not a story of my life as the company’s
not a story of my life as the company’s advertised but it’s a story that I would
advertised but it’s a story that I would
advertised but it’s a story that I would like to tell myself and others it’s a
like to tell myself and others it’s a
like to tell myself and others it’s a story that would remain if I were to
story that would remain if I were to
story that would remain if I were to remove all the unpleasant things about
remove all the unpleasant things about
remove all the unpleasant things about my everyday life it’s a story in which
my everyday life it’s a story in which
my everyday life it’s a story in which I’m extremely sociable happy smart
I’m extremely sociable happy smart
I’m extremely sociable happy smart successful and pretty let me give you a
successful and pretty let me give you a
successful and pretty let me give you a few examples so this is a picture I
few examples so this is a picture I
few examples so this is a picture I posted on Facebook from a friend’s
posted on Facebook from a friend’s
posted on Facebook from a friend’s wedding this summer and as you see I
wedding this summer and as you see I
wedding this summer and as you see I look all relaxed and happy in it but I
look all relaxed and happy in it but I
look all relaxed and happy in it but I left out one part I actually spent hours
left out one part I actually spent hours
left out one part I actually spent hours and hours trying to figure out the right
and hours trying to figure out the right
and hours trying to figure out the right dress
dress
dress that doesn’t make me look that fat I
that doesn’t make me look that fat I
that doesn’t make me look that fat I didn’t mention that in my post okay this
didn’t mention that in my post okay this
didn’t mention that in my post okay this is from my Instagram account this is an
is from my Instagram account this is an
is from my Instagram account this is an announcement about how I’ll be a guest
announcement about how I’ll be a guest
announcement about how I’ll be a guest on the local radio show and I put a
on the local radio show and I put a
on the local radio show and I put a couple of emojis there because I want to
couple of emojis there because I want to
couple of emojis there because I want to look like a heist no big deal I do it
look like a heist no big deal I do it
look like a heist no big deal I do it all the time
all the time
all the time in fact I was really really nervous
in fact I was really really nervous
in fact I was really really nervous about it all day I could not eat
about it all day I could not eat
about it all day I could not eat anything I could not get any work done
anything I could not get any work done
anything I could not get any work done and during the entire show I kept
and during the entire show I kept
and during the entire show I kept thinking to myself oh my god people
thinking to myself oh my god people
thinking to myself oh my god people probably think I’m stupid because I must
probably think I’m stupid because I must
probably think I’m stupid because I must be talking nonsense and mention that
be talking nonsense and mention that
be talking nonsense and mention that either okay this is my Twitter profile
either okay this is my Twitter profile
either okay this is my Twitter profile picture and as you see it doesn’t really
picture and as you see it doesn’t really
picture and as you see it doesn’t really look like me I mean it is me it’s not
look like me I mean it is me it’s not
look like me I mean it is me it’s not photoshopped or anything but it’s not a
photoshopped or anything but it’s not a
photoshopped or anything but it’s not a random picture that I accidentally
random picture that I accidentally
random picture that I accidentally looked okay in it’s actually a picture
looked okay in it’s actually a picture
looked okay in it’s actually a picture that I took just to serve this purpose
that I took just to serve this purpose
that I took just to serve this purpose and I chose this one from like a
and I chose this one from like a
and I chose this one from like a thousand more selfies because I thought
thousand more selfies because I thought
thousand more selfies because I thought this was the best and I used it so as
this was the best and I used it so as
this was the best and I used it so as you see the total size you see on my
you see the total size you see on my
you see the total size you see on my social media profiles is not my normal
social media profiles is not my normal
social media profiles is not my normal it’s not even my better than normal it
it’s not even my better than normal it
it’s not even my better than normal it is what I call my super normal and this
is what I call my super normal and this
is what I call my super normal and this is the case for everyone almost
is the case for everyone almost
is the case for everyone almost everything you see on social media is a
everything you see on social media is a
everything you see on social media is a super normal so when you go and compare
super normal so when you go and compare
super normal so when you go and compare your normal self to all the super
your normal self to all the super
your normal self to all the super normals out there it’s inevitable that
normals out there it’s inevitable that
normals out there it’s inevitable that you feel normal about yourself or maybe
you feel normal about yourself or maybe
you feel normal about yourself or maybe even worse now let’s go back to the
even worse now let’s go back to the
even worse now let’s go back to the questions in the beginning we broke up a
questions in the beginning we broke up a
questions in the beginning we broke up a week ago but I keep stalking her on
week ago but I keep stalking her on
week ago but I keep stalking her on Facebook is that normal now since nobody
Facebook is that normal now since nobody
Facebook is that normal now since nobody announces that they are stalking their
announces that they are stalking their
announces that they are stalking their exes on social media right nowwhat
exes on social media right nowwhat
exes on social media right nowwhat talked about that we tend to think we
talked about that we tend to think we
talked about that we tend to think we are the only ones doing that but
are the only ones doing that but
are the only ones doing that but everyone stalks their excess even they
everyone stalks their excess even they
everyone stalks their excess even they access themselves that’s why people keep
access themselves that’s why people keep
access themselves that’s why people keep posting all these happy pictures after
posting all these happy pictures after
posting all these happy pictures after the breakup because they hope that you
the breakup because they hope that you
the breakup because they hope that you are stalking them back so
are stalking them back so
are stalking them back so the more probable reality sometimes I
the more probable reality sometimes I
the more probable reality sometimes I talk to myself out loud is that normal
talk to myself out loud is that normal
talk to myself out loud is that normal okay let me give you a secret I talk to
okay let me give you a secret I talk to
okay let me give you a secret I talk to myself two out loud I also sing to
myself two out loud I also sing to
myself two out loud I also sing to myself I argue with myself all of them
myself I argue with myself all of them
myself I argue with myself all of them out loud and I’m a legitimate
out loud and I’m a legitimate
out loud and I’m a legitimate psychologist so I guess that should be
psychologist so I guess that should be
psychologist so I guess that should be okay
okay
okay I enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top
I enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top
I enjoy my spaghetti with jelly on top okay so you know if you were to get a
okay so you know if you were to get a
okay so you know if you were to get a quill in their degree and call yourself
quill in their degree and call yourself
quill in their degree and call yourself a chef people would actually wait in
a chef people would actually wait in
a chef people would actually wait in long long lines to eat your jelly
long long lines to eat your jelly
long long lines to eat your jelly spaghetti so I guess what I’m trying to
spaghetti so I guess what I’m trying to
spaghetti so I guess what I’m trying to say is this even though our need to feel
say is this even though our need to feel
say is this even though our need to feel similar to others our need to be not
similar to others our need to be not
similar to others our need to be not alone in our experience seems to be a
alone in our experience seems to be a
alone in our experience seems to be a zone I feel like over the last years
zone I feel like over the last years
zone I feel like over the last years with the wide use of social media we’ve
with the wide use of social media we’ve
with the wide use of social media we’ve been growing more and more distant to
been growing more and more distant to
been growing more and more distant to our humane ways of thing you stalk your
our humane ways of thing you stalk your
our humane ways of thing you stalk your ex because maybe you miss her or maybe
ex because maybe you miss her or maybe
ex because maybe you miss her or maybe you want to see who’s winning the
you want to see who’s winning the
you want to see who’s winning the break-up because that’s what a breakup
break-up because that’s what a breakup
break-up because that’s what a breakup is sometimes it hurts a lot and
is sometimes it hurts a lot and
is sometimes it hurts a lot and sometimes you’re just so angry that you
sometimes you’re just so angry that you
sometimes you’re just so angry that you just want to see the other person as as
just want to see the other person as as
just want to see the other person as as miserable as you are and that’s normal
miserable as you are and that’s normal
miserable as you are and that’s normal you talk to yourself out loud sometimes
you talk to yourself out loud sometimes
you talk to yourself out loud sometimes well maybe you feel alone or maybe
well maybe you feel alone or maybe
well maybe you feel alone or maybe you’re scared maybe deep down you still
you’re scared maybe deep down you still
you’re scared maybe deep down you still believe in ghosts we all have our fears
believe in ghosts we all have our fears
believe in ghosts we all have our fears we all feel lonely sometimes
we all feel lonely sometimes
we all feel lonely sometimes and that’s normal you like to put jelly
and that’s normal you like to put jelly
and that’s normal you like to put jelly on your spaghetti you like mixing
on your spaghetti you like mixing
on your spaghetti you like mixing different flavors you’re weird that way
different flavors you’re weird that way
different flavors you’re weird that way you know we all have our peculiarities
you know we all have our peculiarities
you know we all have our peculiarities they are what make us unique they are
they are what make us unique they are
they are what make us unique they are what make us stand out as distinct
what make us stand out as distinct
what make us stand out as distinct individuals they are what makes others
individuals they are what makes others
individuals they are what makes others fall in love with us and that’s normal
fall in love with us and that’s normal
fall in love with us and that’s normal so I say let’s define a super normal
so I say let’s define a super normal
so I say let’s define a super normal social media imposes upon us
social media imposes upon us
social media imposes upon us let’s get back in touch with everything
let’s get back in touch with everything
let’s get back in touch with everything that make us human our so-called
that make us human our so-called
that make us human our so-called negative feelings are little secrets
negative feelings are little secrets
negative feelings are little secrets our peculiarities things that make us
our peculiarities things that make us
our peculiarities things that make us anxious things that we fear our failures
anxious things that we fear our failures
anxious things that we fear our failures let’s own up to them let’s embrace them
let’s own up to them let’s embrace them
let’s own up to them let’s embrace them and let’s focus on living our lives the
and let’s focus on living our lives the
and let’s focus on living our lives the way we want it rather than constantly
way we want it rather than constantly
way we want it rather than constantly keeping track of what everyone else is
keeping track of what everyone else is
keeping track of what everyone else is doing and how much they differ from us
doing and how much they differ from us
doing and how much they differ from us we are not super humans let’s stop
we are not super humans let’s stop
we are not super humans let’s stop pretending to be one let’s drop all the
pretending to be one let’s drop all the
pretending to be one let’s drop all the supers let’s go back to being normal
supers let’s go back to being normal
supers let’s go back to being normal just normal and just human thank
just normal and just human thank
just normal and just human thank [Applause]
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