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Stand up and make a difference | Babak Sayar | TEDxHull


I woke up in the dark cold morning with

I woke up in the dark cold morning with the loud noise of the mob who kicking

the loud noise of the mob who kicking

the loud noise of the mob who kicking they’re still around to go team where my

they’re still around to go team where my

they’re still around to go team where my younger brother me and my dad has

younger brother me and my dad has

younger brother me and my dad has slipped there it was dark and I hear

slipped there it was dark and I hear

slipped there it was dark and I hear people just kind of shouting open the

people just kind of shouting open the

people just kind of shouting open the door open the door

door open the door

door open the door I got panic and tried to get out of a

I got panic and tried to get out of a

I got panic and tried to get out of a blanket but my brother and I wrapped

blanket but my brother and I wrapped

blanket but my brother and I wrapped into that and there suddenly my dad put

into that and there suddenly my dad put

into that and there suddenly my dad put one hand in front of my mouth and with

one hand in front of my mouth and with

one hand in front of my mouth and with the other hand showed me to recoil it

the other hand showed me to recoil it

the other hand showed me to recoil it after a while the mob has gone that told

after a while the mob has gone that told

after a while the mob has gone that told me now it’s time to go we were in the

me now it’s time to go we were in the

me now it’s time to go we were in the middle of the war zone

middle of the war zone

middle of the war zone my mom was taken away captured by Iraqi

my mom was taken away captured by Iraqi

my mom was taken away captured by Iraqi Armed Forces and our home later on was

Armed Forces and our home later on was

Armed Forces and our home later on was born and for that reason I believe in

born and for that reason I believe in

born and for that reason I believe in the ruling apartment a slip on the

the ruling apartment a slip on the

the ruling apartment a slip on the staircase behind the big green metal

staircase behind the big green metal

staircase behind the big green metal door for safety hearing the explosion

door for safety hearing the explosion

door for safety hearing the explosion that’s happening all around the time and

that’s happening all around the time and

that’s happening all around the time and then air strike calm and shaking the

then air strike calm and shaking the

then air strike calm and shaking the whole building as well as the people

whole building as well as the people

whole building as well as the people crying on the choristers Street crying

crying on the choristers Street crying

crying on the choristers Street crying for help

for help

for help and then we were there and struggling we

and then we were there and struggling we

and then we were there and struggling we were absolutely terrified we didn’t know

were absolutely terrified we didn’t know

were absolutely terrified we didn’t know what to do and where to go that was the

what to do and where to go that was the

what to do and where to go that was the moment that you’re wondering can be

moment that you’re wondering can be

moment that you’re wondering can be survived can we leave for another 24

survived can we leave for another 24

survived can we leave for another 24 hours I don’t know where are you today

hours I don’t know where are you today

hours I don’t know where are you today and I don’t know what experience you

and I don’t know what experience you

and I don’t know what experience you face now or whatever challenge do you

face now or whatever challenge do you

face now or whatever challenge do you have but I know we all have our own

have but I know we all have our own

have but I know we all have our own battlefield to overcome we all work long

battlefield to overcome we all work long

battlefield to overcome we all work long and hard to reach the next level either

and hard to reach the next level either

and hard to reach the next level either the next level is a financial freedom

the next level is a financial freedom

the next level is a financial freedom personal freedom freedom from operation

personal freedom freedom from operation

personal freedom freedom from operation or limitation we want to get a desired

or limitation we want to get a desired

or limitation we want to get a desired result and the question is how as a war

result and the question is how as a war

result and the question is how as a war survivor of the eight years of horrific

survivor of the eight years of horrific

survivor of the eight years of horrific experience that cost a million lives and

experience that cost a million lives and

experience that cost a million lives and the father of autistic son who lost

the father of autistic son who lost

the father of autistic son who lost everything over and over again of the

everything over and over again of the

everything over and over again of the years of study and experience and

years of study and experience and

years of study and experience and helping others to stand up and make a

helping others to stand up and make a

helping others to stand up and make a difference or discover the pattern a

difference or discover the pattern a

difference or discover the pattern a pattern that became a guiding force for

pattern that became a guiding force for

pattern that became a guiding force for me and enabled me to overcome hardship

me and enabled me to overcome hardship

me and enabled me to overcome hardship and adversity over and over again

and adversity over and over again

and adversity over and over again an ability that enabled me to ask a bold

an ability that enabled me to ask a bold

an ability that enabled me to ask a bold question make a bold decision and take a

question make a bold decision and take a

question make a bold decision and take a bold action since we lost our home and

bold action since we lost our home and

bold action since we lost our home and we were moving frequently from location

we were moving frequently from location

we were moving frequently from location to location city to city as a refugee

to location city to city as a refugee

to location city to city as a refugee and the homeless people we were often

and the homeless people we were often

and the homeless people we were often rejected unwanted and marginalized as a

rejected unwanted and marginalized as a

rejected unwanted and marginalized as a young teenager I was a struggle to

young teenager I was a struggle to

young teenager I was a struggle to understand what’s happening and

understand what’s happening and

understand what’s happening and challenge with my post-traumatic stress

challenge with my post-traumatic stress

challenge with my post-traumatic stress disorder condition I felt overwhelmed

disorder condition I felt overwhelmed

disorder condition I felt overwhelmed and yet I became opt with the idea of

and yet I became opt with the idea of

and yet I became opt with the idea of breakthrough how to live a life in food

breakthrough how to live a life in food

breakthrough how to live a life in food and experience freedom

it takes time to after a lot of

it takes time to after a lot of disappointment and failure but I find

disappointment and failure but I find

disappointment and failure but I find that what controlled our lives is what

that what controlled our lives is what

that what controlled our lives is what we focus on our focus change resources

we focus on our focus change resources

we focus on our focus change resources that available to us and have a massive

that available to us and have a massive

that available to us and have a massive impact on our decision-making it can

impact on our decision-making it can

impact on our decision-making it can enable us to live in the scarcity and

enable us to live in the scarcity and

enable us to live in the scarcity and terrorized by fear or move us toward the

terrorized by fear or move us toward the

terrorized by fear or move us toward the freedom where we can have a joy and the

freedom where we can have a joy and the

freedom where we can have a joy and the happiness for years we live in the small

happiness for years we live in the small

happiness for years we live in the small and the compromised life because we

and the compromised life because we

and the compromised life because we believe we are not good enough we don’t

believe we are not good enough we don’t

believe we are not good enough we don’t have enough and we can’t do anything

have enough and we can’t do anything

have enough and we can’t do anything about it but that was a lie we all have

about it but that was a lie we all have

about it but that was a lie we all have a choice to make even in the darkest

a choice to make even in the darkest

a choice to make even in the darkest hours we can choose between fear and

hours we can choose between fear and

hours we can choose between fear and freedom problem and solution to go up or

freedom problem and solution to go up or

freedom problem and solution to go up or to give up if we can ask a bold question

to give up if we can ask a bold question

to give up if we can ask a bold question what is possible what is missing and

what is possible what is missing and

what is possible what is missing and what hold me back to go to the next

what hold me back to go to the next

what hold me back to go to the next level that mincer enabled me to overcome

level that mincer enabled me to overcome

level that mincer enabled me to overcome my past trauma dealt with my

my past trauma dealt with my

my past trauma dealt with my post-traumatic stress disorder and also

post-traumatic stress disorder and also

post-traumatic stress disorder and also survive and thrive when I forced to

survive and thrive when I forced to

survive and thrive when I forced to leave my home country empty-handed

leave my home country empty-handed

leave my home country empty-handed without any financial support today

without any financial support today

without any financial support today there are a great number of the people

there are a great number of the people

there are a great number of the people who are leaving the same boat and

who are leaving the same boat and

who are leaving the same boat and struggling to go forward the challenge

struggling to go forward the challenge

struggling to go forward the challenge is not about lack of capability or more

is not about lack of capability or more

is not about lack of capability or more resources but lack of clarity and asking

resources but lack of clarity and asking

resources but lack of clarity and asking the bold question what is possible what

the bold question what is possible what

the bold question what is possible what is missing and what hold me back to go

is missing and what hold me back to go

is missing and what hold me back to go to the next level

it was so difficult for me to start

it was so difficult for me to start alive moving from my home country to

alive moving from my home country to

alive moving from my home country to another country where I could not have

another country where I could not have

another country where I could not have ended the language I don’t know anyone

ended the language I don’t know anyone

ended the language I don’t know anyone or even have any financial support but I

or even have any financial support but I

or even have any financial support but I start to walk in the street with the

start to walk in the street with the

start to walk in the street with the dictionary in my hand wherever I went

dictionary in my hand wherever I went

dictionary in my hand wherever I went and I remember one time I invited to go

and I remember one time I invited to go

and I remember one time I invited to go to a local community church where I also

to a local community church where I also

to a local community church where I also introduced myself and I start by saying

introduced myself and I start by saying

introduced myself and I start by saying thank you for inventing me rather

thank you for inventing me rather

thank you for inventing me rather inviting me and I met everybody loved

inviting me and I met everybody loved

inviting me and I met everybody loved and they told I was a good job for a

and they told I was a good job for a

and they told I was a good job for a start but the reality was I was there

start but the reality was I was there

start but the reality was I was there just to share a simple message how to

just to share a simple message how to

just to share a simple message how to stand up and make a difference in a

stand up and make a difference in a

stand up and make a difference in a tough time it take a couple of years

tough time it take a couple of years

tough time it take a couple of years until I complete my college education

until I complete my college education

until I complete my college education and then I went and work and married and

and then I went and work and married and

and then I went and work and married and join a media company where I wanted to

join a media company where I wanted to

join a media company where I wanted to share my passion and health people how

share my passion and health people how

share my passion and health people how to get breakthrough from the lies that

to get breakthrough from the lies that

to get breakthrough from the lies that hold you back how to get bread through

hold you back how to get bread through

hold you back how to get bread through from the self that that is always

from the self that that is always

from the self that that is always telling you you are not good enough you

telling you you are not good enough you

telling you you are not good enough you don’t have enough and you can’t do

don’t have enough and you can’t do

don’t have enough and you can’t do anything about it it’ll start to work

anything about it it’ll start to work

anything about it it’ll start to work well and we get around 10,000 hits per

well and we get around 10,000 hits per

well and we get around 10,000 hits per month people come with it share ask

month people come with it share ask

month people come with it share ask question until the time that I got the

question until the time that I got the

question until the time that I got the shocking news that I told your work is

shocking news that I told your work is

shocking news that I told your work is not required anymore on that time I was

not required anymore on that time I was

not required anymore on that time I was traveling in between cities and started

traveling in between cities and started

traveling in between cities and started to complete my BA degree and losing a

to complete my BA degree and losing a

to complete my BA degree and losing a job not only caught the main source of

job not only caught the main source of

job not only caught the main source of income that support me and my family but

income that support me and my family but

income that support me and my family but also taking away the home that given to

also taking away the home that given to

also taking away the home that given to us why the company feeling a stress and

us why the company feeling a stress and

us why the company feeling a stress and a struggle what about if we became

a struggle what about if we became

a struggle what about if we became homeless again what about if we lose

homeless again what about if we lose

homeless again what about if we lose everything again so I started to feel

everything again so I started to feel

everything again so I started to feel many different job application many

many different job application many

many different job application many different job role I applied for and the

different job role I applied for and the

different job role I applied for and the one after another I got the respond your

one after another I got the respond your

one after another I got the respond your application rejected because you don’t

application rejected because you don’t

application rejected because you don’t know enough you don’t have enough

know enough you don’t have enough

know enough you don’t have enough experience or the knowledge that we

experience or the knowledge that we

experience or the knowledge that we require so I decided to stop that

require so I decided to stop that

require so I decided to stop that madness and rather I wait people to

madness and rather I wait people to

madness and rather I wait people to offer me a job

offer me a job

offer me a job I offer people what I already have

I offer people what I already have

I offer people what I already have within the less than a year we managed

within the less than a year we managed

within the less than a year we managed to build our own home our dream come

to build our own home our dream come

to build our own home our dream come true and we live free and soon after

true and we live free and soon after

true and we live free and soon after that

that

that that you going to talk to the TV and the

that you going to talk to the TV and the

that you going to talk to the TV and the radio show and talk to people about the

radio show and talk to people about the

radio show and talk to people about the power of choice from there on I got that

power of choice from there on I got that

power of choice from there on I got that the moment of discovery where what

the moment of discovery where what

the moment of discovery where what enabled me to overcome my challenge was

enabled me to overcome my challenge was

enabled me to overcome my challenge was to understand my potential is greater

to understand my potential is greater

to understand my potential is greater than my problem and from there on I

than my problem and from there on I

than my problem and from there on I managed to help more people and talk to

managed to help more people and talk to

managed to help more people and talk to more people about that one I learn our

more people about that one I learn our

more people about that one I learn our mind world like a thermostat so it works

mind world like a thermostat so it works

mind world like a thermostat so it works according to its program so if you train

according to its program so if you train

according to its program so if you train or if you set your thermostat to let’s

or if you set your thermostat to let’s

or if you set your thermostat to let’s say twenty degree it will keep the room

say twenty degree it will keep the room

say twenty degree it will keep the room temperature up to 20 according to its

temperature up to 20 according to its

temperature up to 20 according to its program which is acceptable and that’s

program which is acceptable and that’s

program which is acceptable and that’s how the way our mind work

how the way our mind work

how the way our mind work so it works according to its program and

so it works according to its program and

so it works according to its program and what is acceptable not what is capable I

what is acceptable not what is capable I

what is acceptable not what is capable I learned the challenges hardship and

learned the challenges hardship and

learned the challenges hardship and adversity come to us as a gift and

adversity come to us as a gift and

adversity come to us as a gift and enable us to became the best version of

enable us to became the best version of

enable us to became the best version of ourselves what we can become not accept

ourselves what we can become not accept

ourselves what we can become not accept the life as it is and that’s what helped

the life as it is and that’s what helped

the life as it is and that’s what helped me to go forward the question is where

me to go forward the question is where

me to go forward the question is where are you today and what challenges do you

are you today and what challenges do you

are you today and what challenges do you face it was around there it was a

face it was around there it was a

face it was around there it was a Wednesday around lunchtime when I got a

Wednesday around lunchtime when I got a

Wednesday around lunchtime when I got a phone call from a school and I told

phone call from a school and I told

phone call from a school and I told please come and pick up your son because

please come and pick up your son because

please come and pick up your son because we cannot handle him anymore that was a

we cannot handle him anymore that was a

we cannot handle him anymore that was a third time in a week and they asked to

third time in a week and they asked to

third time in a week and they asked to go back to a school my son diagnosed

go back to a school my son diagnosed

go back to a school my son diagnosed with autism and although he got the

with autism and although he got the

with autism and although he got the one-to-one support and he done a great

one-to-one support and he done a great

one-to-one support and he done a great job in the previous year by doing a two

job in the previous year by doing a two

job in the previous year by doing a two year in one on some subjects but for

year in one on some subjects but for

year in one on some subjects but for some reason a school could not meet his

some reason a school could not meet his

some reason a school could not meet his need anymore

need anymore

need anymore so after we come back home he

so after we come back home he

so after we come back home he immediately asked me daddy what is wrong

immediately asked me daddy what is wrong

immediately asked me daddy what is wrong with me

with me

with me I’m tired I don’t like a school any more

I’m tired I don’t like a school any more

I’m tired I don’t like a school any more and I replied with this smile I said no

and I replied with this smile I said no

and I replied with this smile I said no you’re a special nothing is wrong with

you’re a special nothing is wrong with

you’re a special nothing is wrong with you and you did great and I’m really

you and you did great and I’m really

you and you did great and I’m really proud of you he immediately jump up and

proud of you he immediately jump up and

proud of you he immediately jump up and give me a big toy talk and look at me

give me a big toy talk and look at me

give me a big toy talk and look at me with a glaze in his eyes and said

with a glaze in his eyes and said

with a glaze in his eyes and said daddy please do not give up on me I kind

daddy please do not give up on me I kind

daddy please do not give up on me I kind of my whole world claps I became a

of my whole world claps I became a

of my whole world claps I became a speechless for a short time and I said

speechless for a short time and I said

speechless for a short time and I said to him you will be okay

to him you will be okay

to him you will be okay everything will be fine and you will see

everything will be fine and you will see

everything will be fine and you will see that he just kind of jumped on wrong and

that he just kind of jumped on wrong and

that he just kind of jumped on wrong and went to the garden to play at the age of

went to the garden to play at the age of

went to the garden to play at the age of nine years old he has taught to fight

nine years old he has taught to fight

nine years old he has taught to fight his own battle feel insignificant lost

his own battle feel insignificant lost

his own battle feel insignificant lost the confidence and I struggle with am I

the confidence and I struggle with am I

the confidence and I struggle with am I good enough can I do that I don’t know

good enough can I do that I don’t know

good enough can I do that I don’t know if you have been there or not where the

if you have been there or not where the

if you have been there or not where the history repeated it’s kind of like a

history repeated it’s kind of like a

history repeated it’s kind of like a deja vu moment that remind me when I was

deja vu moment that remind me when I was

deja vu moment that remind me when I was younger and I was mocked bullied and

younger and I was mocked bullied and

younger and I was mocked bullied and rejected from this school because of my

rejected from this school because of my

rejected from this school because of my background because of my past history

background because of my past history

background because of my past history and we are not accepted and I learned

and we are not accepted and I learned

and we are not accepted and I learned life is a daring adventure so we can

life is a daring adventure so we can

life is a daring adventure so we can make it the the tough time come to pass

make it the the tough time come to pass

make it the the tough time come to pass they don’t come to a state they come to

they don’t come to a state they come to

they don’t come to a state they come to past and change us so who we can become

past and change us so who we can become

past and change us so who we can become and they remind myself you know our life

and they remind myself you know our life

and they remind myself you know our life control with what we focus on and that

control with what we focus on and that

control with what we focus on and that became a Maya story and enabled me to go

became a Maya story and enabled me to go

became a Maya story and enabled me to go forward I work with many different

forward I work with many different

forward I work with many different people from the energies manager to the

people from the energies manager to the

people from the energies manager to the church leader to the organization leader

church leader to the organization leader

church leader to the organization leader where they kind of secretly they

where they kind of secretly they

where they kind of secretly they struggle with at that point I’m not good

struggle with at that point I’m not good

struggle with at that point I’m not good enough we are not good enough we can’t

enough we are not good enough we can’t

enough we are not good enough we can’t do this we don’t have that and when I

do this we don’t have that and when I

do this we don’t have that and when I help people and say well let’s just ask

help people and say well let’s just ask

help people and say well let’s just ask your question ask a bold question let’s

your question ask a bold question let’s

your question ask a bold question let’s just making a bold decision let’s just

just making a bold decision let’s just

just making a bold decision let’s just take your bold action and go forward

take your bold action and go forward

take your bold action and go forward because if you want to stand out and

because if you want to stand out and

because if you want to stand out and make a difference that’s what really you

make a difference that’s what really you

make a difference that’s what really you need to do that my question is where are

need to do that my question is where are

need to do that my question is where are you today and what challenges do you

you today and what challenges do you

you today and what challenges do you face this is my story and thank you for

face this is my story and thank you for

face this is my story and thank you for listening

listening

listening you

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