hi I’m Lily and hello no I’m not gonna take this right now
no I’m not gonna take this right now
no I’m not gonna take this right now five minutes
five minutes
five minutes yeah oh here here okay
what you all just witnessed was myself
what you all just witnessed was myself making a poor person chrétien to anyone
making a poor person chrétien to anyone
making a poor person chrétien to anyone in the audience who is not already known
in the audience who is not already known
in the audience who is not already known but hopefully by the end of this talk
but hopefully by the end of this talk
but hopefully by the end of this talk tonight your opinion on me changes a
tonight your opinion on me changes a
tonight your opinion on me changes a little bit to clarify a first impression
little bit to clarify a first impression
little bit to clarify a first impression is the event in which one person
is the event in which one person
is the event in which one person encounters another informs the mental
encounters another informs the mental
encounters another informs the mental image of that person the components of
image of that person the components of
image of that person the components of creating this first impression include
creating this first impression include
creating this first impression include the way we acts dress and speak to the
the way we acts dress and speak to the
the way we acts dress and speak to the other person in the conversation in most
other person in the conversation in most
other person in the conversation in most cases people want to leave with good
cases people want to leave with good
cases people want to leave with good first impression of themselves because
first impression of themselves because
first impression of themselves because humans have a natural tendency and
humans have a natural tendency and
humans have a natural tendency and desire to impress others this is why
desire to impress others this is why
desire to impress others this is why person prescient roses and shows like
person prescient roses and shows like
person prescient roses and shows like the bachelor bachelorette exist because
the bachelor bachelorette exist because
the bachelor bachelorette exist because of people receiving those roses for the
of people receiving those roses for the
of people receiving those roses for the ones who love the positive mental image
ones who love the positive mental image
ones who love the positive mental image of themselves to the other person when
of themselves to the other person when
of themselves to the other person when they first met
they first met
they first met first impressions are highly valued in
first impressions are highly valued in
first impressions are highly valued in society today and there are numerous
society today and there are numerous
society today and there are numerous components with all attributes overall
components with all attributes overall
components with all attributes overall mental image we equip others to start
mental image we equip others to start
mental image we equip others to start off the way we introduce ourselves
off the way we introduce ourselves
off the way we introduce ourselves varies depending on the person query who
varies depending on the person query who
varies depending on the person query who we’re trying to make depression for if
we’re trying to make depression for if
we’re trying to make depression for if someone is going out for a job review
someone is going out for a job review
someone is going out for a job review they’re probably going to smile and talk
they’re probably going to smile and talk
they’re probably going to smile and talk about their accomplishments maybe wear
about their accomplishments maybe wear
about their accomplishments maybe wear something nice because the manner in
something nice because the manner in
something nice because the manner in which they present themselves is the
which they present themselves is the
which they present themselves is the reason why they receive the job or do
reason why they receive the job or do
reason why they receive the job or do not receive job now some of those in the
not receive job now some of those in the
not receive job now some of those in the audience may be guilty of doing this but
audience may be guilty of doing this but
audience may be guilty of doing this but studies have shown that several people
studies have shown that several people
studies have shown that several people the night before job interview practice
the night before job interview practice
the night before job interview practice or flashcards or talk to some black
or flashcards or talk to some black
or flashcards or talk to some black athletes the preparation this is all due
athletes the preparation this is all due
athletes the preparation this is all due to the facts that people want to make a
to the facts that people want to make a
to the facts that people want to make a good impression of themselves to their
good impression of themselves to their
good impression of themselves to their potential boss
potential boss
potential boss however what most seem to miss is all
however what most seem to miss is all
however what most seem to miss is all the other contributing factors
the other contributing factors
the other contributing factors specifically when we talk to someone new
specifically when we talk to someone new
specifically when we talk to someone new fine only 7% of what we say patters
fine only 7% of what we say patters
fine only 7% of what we say patters which is the small book there’s a chart
which is the small book there’s a chart
which is the small book there’s a chart but but what we stick with 7 or 7
but but what we stick with 7 or 7
but but what we stick with 7 or 7 focusing batteries the other 55% comes
focusing batteries the other 55% comes
focusing batteries the other 55% comes from the way we act dress and how we
from the way we act dress and how we
from the way we act dress and how we walk through the door
walk through the door
walk through the door the remaining 38% is focused on our
the remaining 38% is focused on our
the remaining 38% is focused on our grammar kind of voice and confidence
grammar kind of voice and confidence
grammar kind of voice and confidence with our words once I came across these
with our words once I came across these
with our words once I came across these statistics at first I was surprised
statistics at first I was surprised
statistics at first I was surprised because should in our accomplishments
because should in our accomplishments
because should in our accomplishments and intelligence be more important that
and intelligence be more important that
and intelligence be more important that what color shirt were wearing or a poor
what color shirt were wearing or a poor
what color shirt were wearing or a poor voices too soft but to prove its you
voices too soft but to prove its you
voices too soft but to prove its you that small details like grammar and tone
that small details like grammar and tone
that small details like grammar and tone voice do matter I’m going to say the
voice do matter I’m going to say the
voice do matter I’m going to say the same sentence in two completely
same sentence in two completely
same sentence in two completely different ways
different ways
different ways hi I’m so excited to be here tonight
hi I’m so excited to be here tonight
hi I’m so excited to be here tonight with fall now if I was talking with that
with fall now if I was talking with that
with fall now if I was talking with that for the duration of this talk you would
for the duration of this talk you would
for the duration of this talk you would all be counting down the minutes until
all be counting down the minutes until
all be counting down the minutes until it’s over because I lack confidence with
it’s over because I lack confidence with
it’s over because I lack confidence with my words and then I’ll make eye contact
my words and then I’ll make eye contact
my words and then I’ll make eye contact at little audience
at little audience
at little audience so let’s try that again hi I’m Willy I’m
so let’s try that again hi I’m Willy I’m
so let’s try that again hi I’m Willy I’m so excited to be here good good the
so excited to be here good good the
so excited to be here good good the difference these small changes in our
difference these small changes in our
difference these small changes in our voice and additive all tribute to the
voice and additive all tribute to the
voice and additive all tribute to the overall mental image we debunk others
in an experiment conducted by Harvard
in an experiment conducted by Harvard University said that women who wear
University said that women who wear
University said that women who wear makeup are deemed more trustworthy and
makeup are deemed more trustworthy and
makeup are deemed more trustworthy and likeable what seems like an oxymoron
likeable what seems like an oxymoron
likeable what seems like an oxymoron because makeup creates a false
because makeup creates a false
because makeup creates a false appearance to the face whereas someone
appearance to the face whereas someone
appearance to the face whereas someone who is not wearing makeup is showing the
who is not wearing makeup is showing the
who is not wearing makeup is showing the world their true self yet women who wear
world their true self yet women who wear
world their true self yet women who wear makeup are deemed more trustworthy but
makeup are deemed more trustworthy but
makeup are deemed more trustworthy but the reason why this piece of research is
the reason why this piece of research is
the reason why this piece of research is relevant today today is because when
relevant today today is because when
relevant today today is because when people work when women wear makeup their
people work when women wear makeup their
people work when women wear makeup their team is more put together now don’t get
team is more put together now don’t get
team is more put together now don’t get me wrong if you don’t wear makeup it
me wrong if you don’t wear makeup it
me wrong if you don’t wear makeup it doesn’t automatically make you a liar so
doesn’t automatically make you a liar so
doesn’t automatically make you a liar so much immediately hate it’s just that
much immediately hate it’s just that
much immediately hate it’s just that inside two pieces image in our minds
inside two pieces image in our minds
inside two pieces image in our minds that women who wear makeup are more
that women who wear makeup are more
that women who wear makeup are more appealing and put together just why the
appealing and put together just why the
appealing and put together just why the Harvard study says they’re more trustful
Harvard study says they’re more trustful
Harvard study says they’re more trustful they’re not just grammar confidence with
they’re not just grammar confidence with
they’re not just grammar confidence with our words that are tone of voice impacts
our words that are tone of voice impacts
our words that are tone of voice impacts on a compression of us but our physical
on a compression of us but our physical
on a compression of us but our physical appearance and decision to wear makeup
appearance and decision to wear makeup
appearance and decision to wear makeup or not also has a huge toll as well
or not also has a huge toll as well
or not also has a huge toll as well what I also found to be interesting is
what I also found to be interesting is
what I also found to be interesting is that first impression it’s not always
that first impression it’s not always
that first impression it’s not always the first time you’re meeting someone we
the first time you’re meeting someone we
the first time you’re meeting someone we have all heard our friends or family
have all heard our friends or family
have all heard our friends or family members full story about something we do
members full story about something we do
members full story about something we do not know and when they’re telling this
not know and when they’re telling this
not know and when they’re telling this story we automatically create a mental
story we automatically create a mental
story we automatically create a mental image of them without realizing now to
image of them without realizing now to
image of them without realizing now to put it in perspective this can relate to
put it in perspective this can relate to
put it in perspective this can relate to anyone the audience who has to have
anyone the audience who has to have
anyone the audience who has to have minimums for keyboards currently parts
minimums for keyboards currently parts
minimums for keyboards currently parts 14 if your team is about to endure an
14 if your team is about to endure an
14 if your team is about to endure an important race game or meet against a
important race game or meet against a
important race game or meet against a highly skilled opponent all are your
highly skilled opponent all are your
highly skilled opponent all are your teammates when we talk about people team
teammates when we talk about people team
teammates when we talk about people team for example if your basketball team is
for example if your basketball team is
for example if your basketball team is about to play a game against the
about to play a game against the
about to play a game against the reigning state champion five years in a
reigning state champion five years in a
reigning state champion five years in a row or you’re about to run a race
row or you’re about to run a race
row or you’re about to run a race against a girl who can run a five thirty
against a girl who can run a five thirty
against a girl who can run a five thirty mile then this can argue motivate you to
mile then this can argue motivate you to
mile then this can argue motivate you to run a little faster which is the
run a little faster which is the
run a little faster which is the positive side you’ll explore this could
positive side you’ll explore this could
positive side you’ll explore this could having to get up at the start because
having to get up at the start because
having to get up at the start because your kidneys have deemed this person as
your kidneys have deemed this person as
your kidneys have deemed this person as untouchable even though you may have
untouchable even though you may have
untouchable even though you may have never met the person who who your
never met the person who who your
never met the person who who your teammates have or talking about you have
teammates have or talking about you have
teammates have or talking about you have some bodily create this mental image
some bodily create this mental image
some bodily create this mental image better this idea of creating the first
better this idea of creating the first
better this idea of creating the first impression without actually knowing
impression without actually knowing
impression without actually knowing someone has become more and irrelevant
someone has become more and irrelevant
someone has become more and irrelevant to make society because social media
to make society because social media
to make society because social media this can apply to most of the teenagers
this can apply to most of the teenagers
this can apply to most of the teenagers in the audience and maybe the trendy
in the audience and maybe the trendy
in the audience and maybe the trendy parents out there but when your friend
parents out there but when your friend
parents out there but when your friend posts a picture with someone who you are
posts a picture with someone who you are
posts a picture with someone who you are unfamiliar with you have probably put on
unfamiliar with you have probably put on
unfamiliar with you have probably put on their profile with their public maybe it
their profile with their public maybe it
their profile with their public maybe it will stalk their counsel you have
will stalk their counsel you have
will stalk their counsel you have successfully reached the first photo
successfully reached the first photo
successfully reached the first photo they posted 156 weeks ago for their
they posted 156 weeks ago for their
they posted 156 weeks ago for their private maybe no request up or feel
private maybe no request up or feel
private maybe no request up or feel little H prospectus or just octopus code
little H prospectus or just octopus code
little H prospectus or just octopus code but nevertheless all the information
but nevertheless all the information
but nevertheless all the information accumulated from their personal posts
accumulated from their personal posts
accumulated from their personal posts and photos of them is most of fun your
and photos of them is most of fun your
and photos of them is most of fun your friends accounts you automatically
friends accounts you automatically
friends accounts you automatically creates this mental image of them and
creates this mental image of them and
creates this mental image of them and what they would be like even though
what they would be like even though
what they would be like even though you’ve never met them before we have all
you’ve never met them before we have all
you’ve never met them before we have all been told to never judge a book by its
been told to never judge a book by its
been told to never judge a book by its cover
cover
cover this universal mantra is something that
this universal mantra is something that
this universal mantra is something that is something that has been repeated
is something that has been repeated
is something that has been repeated numerous times and is ingrained in all
numerous times and is ingrained in all
numerous times and is ingrained in all of our minds I am the eye open
of our minds I am the eye open
of our minds I am the eye open growing up I was told this grace and
growing up I was told this grace and
growing up I was told this grace and profit physical appearance is not
profit physical appearance is not
profit physical appearance is not something to joke other songs but no
something to joke other songs but no
something to joke other songs but no matter how many times we were we’ve
matter how many times we were we’ve
matter how many times we were we’ve heard this phrase or how many times you
heard this phrase or how many times you
heard this phrase or how many times you all heard this phrase it will always be
all heard this phrase it will always be
all heard this phrase it will always be irrelevant because nobody actually calls
irrelevant because nobody actually calls
irrelevant because nobody actually calls it humans compulsively judge others
it humans compulsively judge others
it humans compulsively judge others based on physical appearance because
based on physical appearance because
based on physical appearance because it’s our biological nature to do so in
it’s our biological nature to do so in
it’s our biological nature to do so in some instances
some instances
some instances you realize that we’re judging others
you realize that we’re judging others
you realize that we’re judging others because it’s all part is we all do it
because it’s all part is we all do it
because it’s all part is we all do it naturally now some of you may be
naturally now some of you may be
naturally now some of you may be hesitant to admit to the statement I’ve
hesitant to admit to the statement I’ve
hesitant to admit to the statement I’ve just said because no one wants to come
just said because no one wants to come
just said because no one wants to come across as someone with judgmental but
across as someone with judgmental but
across as someone with judgmental but how many of you judge me when I first
how many of you judge me when I first
how many of you judge me when I first walked out when I walked out on stage in
walked out when I walked out on stage in
walked out when I walked out on stage in an extension of a choice and
an extension of a choice and
an extension of a choice and interrupting my talk to answer my phone
interrupting my talk to answer my phone
interrupting my talk to answer my phone I saw some confused and perplexed faces
I saw some confused and perplexed faces
I saw some confused and perplexed faces in the audience this is all this is all
in the audience this is all this is all
in the audience this is all this is all because me I certainly did catch you off
because me I certainly did catch you off
because me I certainly did catch you off guard because let’s be real here there’s
guard because let’s be real here there’s
guard because let’s be real here there’s a time and place to act like that and in
a time and place to act like that and in
a time and place to act like that and in front of an audience is not the ideal
front of an audience is not the ideal
front of an audience is not the ideal time place now remember what I said I
time place now remember what I said I
time place now remember what I said I was going to try to make up for the
was going to try to make up for the
was going to try to make up for the first impression I left on you all the
first impression I left on you all the
first impression I left on you all the beginning well over those of you who
beginning well over those of you who
beginning well over those of you who just met me tonight your first
just met me tonight your first
just met me tonight your first impression of me will always be the girl
impression of me will always be the girl
impression of me will always be the girl we answered your call on stage and wore
we answered your call on stage and wore
we answered your call on stage and wore few different I’ve been to 40 different
few different I’ve been to 40 different
few different I’ve been to 40 different shoes because those person moments
shoes because those person moments
shoes because those person moments already depicted your person is initial
already depicted your person is initial
already depicted your person is initial mental image to me for what we as
mental image to me for what we as
mental image to me for what we as individuals need to begin to understand
individuals need to begin to understand
individuals need to begin to understand is that purse impression should not be
is that purse impression should not be
is that purse impression should not be as greatly valued as they currently are
as greatly valued as they currently are
as greatly valued as they currently are we all get so stressed out about meeting
we all get so stressed out about meeting
we all get so stressed out about meeting someone new for the first time and
someone new for the first time and
someone new for the first time and making sure you think hiring us but it
making sure you think hiring us but it
making sure you think hiring us but it is imperative that we start to treat
is imperative that we start to treat
is imperative that we start to treat first impressions exactly as they are
first impressions exactly as they are
first impressions exactly as they are not indicative of one’s true character
not indicative of one’s true character
not indicative of one’s true character our ability to contribute to society in
our ability to contribute to society in
our ability to contribute to society in a meaningful way thank you
a meaningful way thank you
a meaningful way thank you you
you
you [Applause]
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