It’s hard to talk about failure is not it?
It is also embarrassing to be the most subject
The nuisance it can provoke. No one likes,
To admit failure, but it is the most widespread topics
Everyone in this room has failed
In doing something in a while.
There are simple failures such as failure in the exam
Or in a car driving test or in a diet
There are also strong failures that affect us all
In our lives, such as failure to maintain,
Bonding or expulsion of a job or failure in
Be balanced or raise a child correctly.
I am Italian and half American.
In the United States, failure is something to be met
To talk about it, it is acceptable and is considered an integral part
Of social experiences. But sometimes
It is something glorified or emulated.
But it is still normal to talk about the failure of,
A successful or strong view.
Despite this I grew up in Italy and Italy
A state that considers failure a permanent disgrace is considered shameful
And embarrassing and haraam. It always has what I know
(Lost face) which means in Italian that
You lose your dignity or look bad because we are in Italy,
We believe that failure makes you look bad,
As in many other countries.
Especially in my case, this was a bit more difficult
Because I grew up and the general eye follows me, as that
My parents were famous singers in Italy.
Since I was a little girl I was subject to criticism,
The media and the establishment of a country,
The loss of water is something to be avoided
Roads.
The emergence and preservation of the external appearance was not
Always so important. I’ve been in the field
The entertainment industry has long been entertained.
I always felt inside me that I had to do something
For myself. I still work today on television
Italian.
But I always wanted to do something of a free business,
But I will not let fear of failure stand in my way
Or prevents me from doing something new.
And then I must not shy away from failure,
It hinders me from learning a precious lesson. So when you’re in
I was 24 years old and founded my first company.
She was a fashion brand and swimwear brand
Commercial. Seven years of effort and race have been made,
And fatigue in this company where I worked hard
And gave it all.
One day I found myself sitting in the accountant’s office
I cried and cried because he was telling me he had
It was time to close my company as it was not over who,
The financial logic is that I call it open anymore.
You see him as crazy, how I close
My company? This is very shameful (like losing face)
This is very embarrassing what will people say about me?
What will people think of me? The accountant looked at me
Angrily where it was not the first time we talked about
This topic, what I remember was the conversation
Fifth.
I simply was not able to admit failure
I was able to recognize the shame that I thought
It is wrapped in failure.
Finally, the accountant looked at me and said something had happened
Ali already freed me, he said I should stop
Focus on the final results which are
The fact that I should close my company but I must
That I give myself credit and praise for all the work
The wonderful thing I’ve done over the past seven years and all
Successes that have been achieved. He was right
He has seen them all. This company has started with nothing
Except for my few savings.
My first show was in the yard
My backyard or oasis was the property of the courtyard
To my father, I had to beg him to allow me to use
This place was because I had to make my first fashion show
My own in this place and this was me in general
2011, where I had to carry the stones from side to side
The other is just hours before guests arrive and all
the press. And when they already arrived the sky began to be
It raining profusely on every fashion platform and on
Places to sit people even on towels
Which you have developed to absorb water from the seating.
Everything was completely wet and was not quite wanted in
Sit down and let the fashion show begin.
In the end, after I persuaded them to sit down, they were exhibitors
Fashion is very unskilled because at that time
My company could not afford the wages of speculators
Fashion Skill. It was half a disaster that was not
A complete disaster. Yet throughout these seven years,
I managed to develop my own brand
To a well-known brand with a good reputation. Where she worked,
With stunning photographic photographers and influential people
And fashion models from all over the world. I also
I have filmed my propaganda around the world from
California to Thailand where she filmed her last campaign,
Promoted me there. You also received thousands of messages
Of the happy customers who wrote
To me how happy they are with the product they got.
In the end we believe or at least listen to how much
The failure must be inspiring.
I have been all focused on the fact that I must
To close my company. All these years have been erased from,
Of hard work and successes that have been achieved.
Failure can be inspiring and lead you to things
Bigger and better. But no one is looking for
How do you get there or how do you go beyond failure?
How to recognize it. Therefore, guidelines have been established
Three basic guidelines were established
On how to overcome failure and recognize it. Where
You can fail in a more courteous manner than me and these
Things happened in my case at my work and at
My company however can apply it either
Whether it is a relationship or a personal problem you are struggling with
Fail them.
Rule number one Be responsible.
I know how boring this looks but trust me I try
Make it fun, when we make a mistake or walk
Things are appalling
To blame the other and not bear the full
the responsibility. I see this happening a lot in relationships
But not to blame does not make us look like an idiot
At all, on the contrary, it makes us look like a mother
Cowardly or in case of denial of talk. As much as
I want to blame the Italian tax system for being
Why do I have to close my company?
This. I still try not to do this
But if you do not make mistakes and admit them in the end
You understand how and where the mistake was made? So what
Feasibility of failure originally?
I am where I am and now I am because of the results
My choices, my choices. No one
else. If we are to be responsible for our success
Our goals, our principles and our dreams must be
Responsible for our failure, and so someday we can
To be truly responsible for our success.
Rule # 2 Focus on yourself only
I can not tell you how much time I’ve put
Thinking about what people think about me? I will be her time
Compare my life with the lives of other people.
Especially in our generation, we are always flooded and bombarded
With totally unrealistic images of life patterns on sites
Social Media. My life may seem amazing to me
I’m telling you that it’s the opposite of this
I have my own failures and natural achievements,
All other people but I just chose not to
Show them on social networking sites.
I tell you that I did not take a picture,
Personal (Sylvie) and put it on the sites of communication,
Social on the day I was crying inside
Accounting office, but I
I took a photograph (Sylvie) at
When I was on my way home the sky began to
It rained heavily on me when I was carrying bottles
Heavy water alone, until finally reached
My house was locked from the outside with rain
My water bottles are heavy and I can not
Enter my house, but can you imagine
What you put on social networking sites in
this moment? Put this picture that says “no
Consider what other people do, but focus on yourself
And the quality of your hard work and on your trip do not get lost
Your time to look at what other people do for it
Other than the truth “
Rule number three is balance.
I had to find the balance of my inner when I was
I strongly criticized myself and I felt I had failed and failed
I consider all my hard work and successes
Achieved. But Ali also had to bear part of
Responsibility and understanding where and how you made a mistake.
I had to find this balance and put myself in
The middle is balanced because only through the balance we get
On the clear vision and only through clarity,
We can understand where the message is and have learned something.
I’ve been a man obsessed with the idea of success but success
Not a magical land located at the end of the rainbow,
In the same perspective, failure is not black and white.
Life is already 10% what happens to us and 90% how
Our reaction is to what has happened to us.
Yes, failure can become inspiring. Yes, it can
To lead us to bigger and better things. But
The only real way we get it is
If we learned the lesson, we acknowledged our mistakes.
Thank.
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