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3 Strategies for Helping Survivors of ISIS | Sherri Kraham Talabany | TEDxNishtiman


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[Music] almost five years ago I moved to

almost five years ago I moved to

almost five years ago I moved to Kurdistan with my family at the time

Kurdistan with my family at the time

Kurdistan with my family at the time Kurdistan had experienced a decade of

Kurdistan had experienced a decade of

Kurdistan had experienced a decade of dramatic expansion and economic progress

dramatic expansion and economic progress

dramatic expansion and economic progress to build on that progress I created seed

to build on that progress I created seed

to build on that progress I created seed an NGO focused on social and economic

an NGO focused on social and economic

an NGO focused on social and economic development to help make sustainable

development to help make sustainable

development to help make sustainable changes in people’s lives but before

changes in people’s lives but before

changes in people’s lives but before long Kurdistan was experiencing a

long Kurdistan was experiencing a

long Kurdistan was experiencing a humanitarian crisis as a result of the

humanitarian crisis as a result of the

humanitarian crisis as a result of the war waged by Isis or – displacing 3

war waged by Isis or – displacing 3

war waged by Isis or – displacing 3 million people

million people

million people exposing the population to extreme

exposing the population to extreme

exposing the population to extreme violence torture murder rape and

violence torture murder rape and

violence torture murder rape and targeting the Yazidi Christian and other

targeting the Yazidi Christian and other

targeting the Yazidi Christian and other minority communities with the genocide

minority communities with the genocide

minority communities with the genocide in my family I grew up hearing the

in my family I grew up hearing the

in my family I grew up hearing the constant refrain never again about the

constant refrain never again about the

constant refrain never again about the genocide of my people and yet here we

genocide of my people and yet here we

genocide of my people and yet here we are again looking at human suffering at

are again looking at human suffering at

are again looking at human suffering at an unimaginable scale but we weren’t

an unimaginable scale but we weren’t

an unimaginable scale but we weren’t looking at a nameless faceless people on

looking at a nameless faceless people on

looking at a nameless faceless people on a TV in a faraway land we were right

a TV in a faraway land we were right

a TV in a faraway land we were right here looking face to face with people

here looking face to face with people

here looking face to face with people like Mejia this brave survivor

like Mejia this brave survivor

like Mejia this brave survivor she shared with me unimaginable Horrors

she shared with me unimaginable Horrors

she shared with me unimaginable Horrors but also demonstrated unbelievable

but also demonstrated unbelievable

but also demonstrated unbelievable courage and bravery as she fought to

courage and bravery as she fought to

courage and bravery as she fought to protect her children and for all of

protect her children and for all of

protect her children and for all of their survival

their survival

their survival so I decided seed would focus on helping

so I decided seed would focus on helping

so I decided seed would focus on helping survivors of violence and conflict to

survivors of violence and conflict to

survivors of violence and conflict to heal and begin to rebuild their lives

fighting Isis through airstrikes is

fighting Isis through airstrikes is important but helping survivors build a

important but helping survivors build a

important but helping survivors build a future is also important today I want to

future is also important today I want to

future is also important today I want to talk about how we can best help

talk about how we can best help

talk about how we can best help survivors through comprehensive

survivors through comprehensive

survivors through comprehensive long-term mental health and psychosocial

long-term mental health and psychosocial

long-term mental health and psychosocial support services at seed we’re pursuing

support services at seed we’re pursuing

support services at seed we’re pursuing this through three strategies first know

this through three strategies first know

this through three strategies first know the Khan

the Khan

the Khan text this forms and shapes all of our

text this forms and shapes all of our

text this forms and shapes all of our work second deliver holistic services

work second deliver holistic services

work second deliver holistic services for the whole survivor the whole family

for the whole survivor the whole family

for the whole survivor the whole family and the whole community and third invest

and the whole community and third invest

and the whole community and third invest and build local capacity to best respond

and build local capacity to best respond

and build local capacity to best respond to the local needs whoops so let’s talk

to the local needs whoops so let’s talk

to the local needs whoops so let’s talk about this context I started the work

about this context I started the work

about this context I started the work with the displaced but we know that this

with the displaced but we know that this

with the displaced but we know that this whole society has been exposed to

whole society has been exposed to

whole society has been exposed to numerous traumatic events we found out

numerous traumatic events we found out

numerous traumatic events we found out that the mental health needs are complex

that the mental health needs are complex

that the mental health needs are complex deep and enormous not just with a

deep and enormous not just with a

deep and enormous not just with a displaced population this poses a great

displaced population this poses a great

displaced population this poses a great challenge for kurdistan’s development we

challenge for kurdistan’s development we

challenge for kurdistan’s development we have a long history of violence and

have a long history of violence and

have a long history of violence and persecution in Iraq decades of war

persecution in Iraq decades of war

persecution in Iraq decades of war oppression genocide dictatorship and

oppression genocide dictatorship and

oppression genocide dictatorship and sanctions taking their toll after 2003

sanctions taking their toll after 2003

sanctions taking their toll after 2003 rising insecurity has created a really

rising insecurity has created a really

rising insecurity has created a really dangerous environment in this crisis not

dangerous environment in this crisis not

dangerous environment in this crisis not only were individuals terrorized but

only were individuals terrorized but

only were individuals terrorized but entire communities like the Yazidis

entire communities like the Yazidis

entire communities like the Yazidis faced a population wide trauma as their

faced a population wide trauma as their

faced a population wide trauma as their group was targeted for extermination the

group was targeted for extermination the

group was targeted for extermination the men were killed the teenage boys taken

men were killed the teenage boys taken

men were killed the teenage boys taken as soldiers and over 5000 women and

as soldiers and over 5000 women and

as soldiers and over 5000 women and children taken as slaves and captives

the trauma is ongoing as many wonder and

the trauma is ongoing as many wonder and worry about missing loved ones in

worry about missing loved ones in

worry about missing loved ones in Kurdistan we see the effects of violence

Kurdistan we see the effects of violence

Kurdistan we see the effects of violence on our society decades after the

on our society decades after the

on our society decades after the genocide Ilan fall campaign of the 1980s

genocide Ilan fall campaign of the 1980s

genocide Ilan fall campaign of the 1980s the wounds of past conflict are deep and

the wounds of past conflict are deep and

the wounds of past conflict are deep and they pass from generation to generation

they pass from generation to generation

they pass from generation to generation most have never received care and

most have never received care and

most have never received care and psychological services remain limited on

psychological services remain limited on

psychological services remain limited on top of all this mental health issues

top of all this mental health issues

top of all this mental health issues bear a huge stigma

bear a huge stigma

bear a huge stigma creating a huge barrier most of the

creating a huge barrier most of the

creating a huge barrier most of the population says we’ve all been through

population says we’ve all been through

population says we’ve all been through this so just deal with it

this so just deal with it

this so just deal with it making it really difficult to ask for

making it really difficult to ask for

making it really difficult to ask for help the result is a host community

help the result is a host community

help the result is a host community that’s experienced numerous traumatic

that’s experienced numerous traumatic

that’s experienced numerous traumatic events themselves responding to a new

events themselves responding to a new

events themselves responding to a new wave of highly vulnerable displaced

wave of highly vulnerable displaced

wave of highly vulnerable displaced people finally this crisis happened in a

people finally this crisis happened in a

people finally this crisis happened in a male-dominated society where gender

male-dominated society where gender

male-dominated society where gender inequality and gender-based violence is

inequality and gender-based violence is

inequality and gender-based violence is the norm the general belief in Iraq is

the norm the general belief in Iraq is

the norm the general belief in Iraq is that men are superior to women and

that men are superior to women and

that men are superior to women and therefore have the right to control them

therefore have the right to control them

therefore have the right to control them and their fate this power imbalance has

and their fate this power imbalance has

and their fate this power imbalance has resulted in astounding rates of violence

resulted in astounding rates of violence

resulted in astounding rates of violence against women physical sexual and

against women physical sexual and

against women physical sexual and emotional and impacts every aspect of a

emotional and impacts every aspect of a

emotional and impacts every aspect of a woman’s life her right to education to

woman’s life her right to education to

woman’s life her right to education to work to fall in love and marry who she

work to fall in love and marry who she

work to fall in love and marry who she chooses to marry when she chooses to

chooses to marry when she chooses to

chooses to marry when she chooses to decide for herself whether she wants to

decide for herself whether she wants to

decide for herself whether she wants to have children even what she is going to

have children even what she is going to

have children even what she is going to wear and whether she can go outside and

wear and whether she can go outside and

wear and whether she can go outside and while it’s so painful let’s talk about

while it’s so painful let’s talk about

while it’s so painful let’s talk about what the women in captivity have

what the women in captivity have

what the women in captivity have experienced we’ll take the case of our

experienced we’ll take the case of our

experienced we’ll take the case of our clients was on a 33 year old woman in

clients was on a 33 year old woman in

clients was on a 33 year old woman in August 2014 Isis came to her village

August 2014 Isis came to her village

August 2014 Isis came to her village rounded up the Yazidis executed the men

rounded up the Yazidis executed the men

rounded up the Yazidis executed the men and took the women and young children

and took the women and young children

and took the women and young children into captivity Suzanne and her three

into captivity Suzanne and her three

into captivity Suzanne and her three young children were taken to an old

young children were taken to an old

young children were taken to an old warehouse with little food and water but

warehouse with little food and water but

warehouse with little food and water but life in that warehouse was far better

life in that warehouse was far better

life in that warehouse was far better than what lie ahead a life of slavery

than what lie ahead a life of slavery

than what lie ahead a life of slavery under – reduced to a commodity sold over

under – reduced to a commodity sold over

under – reduced to a commodity sold over and over for a price every few days

and over for a price every few days

and over for a price every few days weeks or months – a new day

weeks or months – a new day

weeks or months – a new day front abuser whose only intention was to

front abuser whose only intention was to

front abuser whose only intention was to exploit and abuse over two and a half

exploit and abuse over two and a half

exploit and abuse over two and a half years susan was raped beaten and starved

years susan was raped beaten and starved

years susan was raped beaten and starved her twelve-year-old daughter was taken

her twelve-year-old daughter was taken

her twelve-year-old daughter was taken into sexual slavery herself and her

into sexual slavery herself and her

into sexual slavery herself and her nine-year-old son was sent to an Isis

nine-year-old son was sent to an Isis

nine-year-old son was sent to an Isis training camp for boys where their

training camp for boys where their

training camp for boys where their horrific Lea brainwashed abused and

horrific Lea brainwashed abused and

horrific Lea brainwashed abused and taught nothing but violence and hatred

taught nothing but violence and hatred

taught nothing but violence and hatred for their own family she never saw

for their own family she never saw

for their own family she never saw either of them again after two and a

either of them again after two and a

either of them again after two and a half years Suzanne’s uncle rescued her

half years Suzanne’s uncle rescued her

half years Suzanne’s uncle rescued her and her five-year-old daughter a rescue

and her five-year-old daughter a rescue

and her five-year-old daughter a rescue cost between 20 and 35 thousand dollars

cost between 20 and 35 thousand dollars

cost between 20 and 35 thousand dollars to rescue a woman and her children Susan

to rescue a woman and her children Susan

to rescue a woman and her children Susan made it to Kurdistan reunited with her

made it to Kurdistan reunited with her

made it to Kurdistan reunited with her uncle whose name Lee is now deeply in

uncle whose name Lee is now deeply in

uncle whose name Lee is now deeply in debt she lived but she lives knowing

debt she lived but she lives knowing

debt she lived but she lives knowing were not knowing about the status of her

were not knowing about the status of her

were not knowing about the status of her two children and that imagining the

two children and that imagining the

two children and that imagining the suffering that they are enduring over a

suffering that they are enduring over a

suffering that they are enduring over a thousand women and children have been

thousand women and children have been

thousand women and children have been rescued or escaped but many thousands

rescued or escaped but many thousands

rescued or escaped but many thousands more remain in captivity and are being

more remain in captivity and are being

more remain in captivity and are being sold and trafficked all over Iraq Syria

sold and trafficked all over Iraq Syria

sold and trafficked all over Iraq Syria and beyond the challenges for women like

and beyond the challenges for women like

and beyond the challenges for women like Suzanne who have escaped our massive the

Suzanne who have escaped our massive the

Suzanne who have escaped our massive the physical and emotional injuries run deep

physical and emotional injuries run deep

physical and emotional injuries run deep and the care she needs is difficult to

and the care she needs is difficult to

and the care she needs is difficult to access

although the community has generally

although the community has generally accepted women who have returned back

accepted women who have returned back

accepted women who have returned back rape is considered shameful making it

rape is considered shameful making it

rape is considered shameful making it difficult for Suzanne to talk about her

difficult for Suzanne to talk about her

difficult for Suzanne to talk about her experiences and difficult for her family

experiences and difficult for her family

experiences and difficult for her family to support her on top of all this the

to support her on top of all this the

to support her on top of all this the stress of not knowing how she will

stress of not knowing how she will

stress of not knowing how she will afford food medicine and clothes while

afford food medicine and clothes while

afford food medicine and clothes while she lives in this small plastic tent in

she lives in this small plastic tent in

she lives in this small plastic tent in a camp for the displaced many women

a camp for the displaced many women

a camp for the displaced many women women come back with unwanted

women come back with unwanted

women come back with unwanted pregnancies or worse unwanted children

pregnancies or worse unwanted children

pregnancies or worse unwanted children there is little or no

there is little or no

there is little or no dance for the children born a rape for

dance for the children born a rape for

dance for the children born a rape for the children who are in captivity with

the children who are in captivity with

the children who are in captivity with their mothers they experienced

their mothers they experienced

their mothers they experienced unbelievable Horrors we’ve seen children

unbelievable Horrors we’ve seen children

unbelievable Horrors we’ve seen children as young as six both boys and girls who

as young as six both boys and girls who

as young as six both boys and girls who suffered enormous physical and sexual

suffered enormous physical and sexual

suffered enormous physical and sexual abuse now they have trouble sleeping

abuse now they have trouble sleeping

abuse now they have trouble sleeping they can be angry or violent some have

they can be angry or violent some have

they can be angry or violent some have stopped speaking families don’t know how

stopped speaking families don’t know how

stopped speaking families don’t know how to support them so how do we respond and

to support them so how do we respond and

to support them so how do we respond and what do survivors need our second

what do survivors need our second

what do survivors need our second strategy is a long-term comprehensive

strategy is a long-term comprehensive

strategy is a long-term comprehensive approach to mental health and

approach to mental health and

approach to mental health and psychosocial support services at the

psychosocial support services at the

psychosocial support services at the core of our work is psychotherapy

core of our work is psychotherapy

core of our work is psychotherapy counseling and social work a broad range

counseling and social work a broad range

counseling and social work a broad range of other social services we serve men

of other social services we serve men

of other social services we serve men women and children at all ages all

women and children at all ages all

women and children at all ages all religions and ethnic groups we designed

religions and ethnic groups we designed

religions and ethnic groups we designed our trauma-informed care to be holistic

our trauma-informed care to be holistic

our trauma-informed care to be holistic to care for the whole survivor and the

to care for the whole survivor and the

to care for the whole survivor and the whole family respond to a range of needs

whole family respond to a range of needs

whole family respond to a range of needs including individual protection housing

including individual protection housing

including individual protection housing mental and physical health economic

mental and physical health economic

mental and physical health economic empowerment and support systems to be

empowerment and support systems to be

empowerment and support systems to be effective psychological services need to

effective psychological services need to

effective psychological services need to be fully integrated with a range of

be fully integrated with a range of

be fully integrated with a range of other social services educational

other social services educational

other social services educational activities recreational vocational we’re

activities recreational vocational we’re

activities recreational vocational we’re giving families tools to cope building

giving families tools to cope building

giving families tools to cope building life skills so that they can raise

life skills so that they can raise

life skills so that they can raise healthier families and even experience a

healthier families and even experience a

healthier families and even experience a little fun and friendship which is

little fun and friendship which is

little fun and friendship which is critical to healing most resources are

critical to healing most resources are

critical to healing most resources are concentrated on women but to men were

concentrated on women but to men were

concentrated on women but to men were also affected by this crisis and to see

also affected by this crisis and to see

also affected by this crisis and to see the recovery we’re seeking we need to

the recovery we’re seeking we need to

the recovery we’re seeking we need to attend to both men and women so seed

attend to both men and women so seed

attend to both men and women so seed serves men and boys both as survivors of

serves men and boys both as survivors of

serves men and boys both as survivors of violence and potential perpetrators of

violence and potential perpetrators of

violence and potential perpetrators of violence

violence

violence we give access for men and women to an

we give access for men and women to an

we give access for men and women to an income by training them in skills so

income by training them in skills so

income by training them in skills so that they can earn money during their

that they can earn money during their

that they can earn money during their displacement and in the future and I

displacement and in the future and I

displacement and in the future and I brought with you table made by the men

brought with you table made by the men

brought with you table made by the men in our pallet furniture woodworking

in our pallet furniture woodworking

in our pallet furniture woodworking program and our knitted dolls from our

program and our knitted dolls from our

program and our knitted dolls from our women’s knitting program so I’ll be

women’s knitting program so I’ll be

women’s knitting program so I’ll be taking

taking

taking [Applause]

I will tell them that you like them and

I will tell them that you like them and you can order whatever you want after

you can order whatever you want after

you can order whatever you want after the show our services are transforming

the show our services are transforming

the show our services are transforming lives by giving people hope for the

lives by giving people hope for the

lives by giving people hope for the future by helping them builds support

future by helping them builds support

future by helping them builds support networks and building a sense of

networks and building a sense of

networks and building a sense of normalcy and routine our goal is to tap

normalcy and routine our goal is to tap

normalcy and routine our goal is to tap into their resiliency and their strength

into their resiliency and their strength

into their resiliency and their strength as they heal and empower them to make

as they heal and empower them to make

as they heal and empower them to make their own choices trauma impacts

their own choices trauma impacts

their own choices trauma impacts everyone differently so we allow the

everyone differently so we allow the

everyone differently so we allow the survivor to guide her own treatment

survivor to guide her own treatment

survivor to guide her own treatment build on her strengths let her define

build on her strengths let her define

build on her strengths let her define her own experiences and help her on a

her own experiences and help her on a

her own experiences and help her on a journey that integrates to her traumatic

journey that integrates to her traumatic

journey that integrates to her traumatic experiences as part of her life story

experiences as part of her life story

experiences as part of her life story rather than her whole story to overcome

rather than her whole story to overcome

rather than her whole story to overcome stigma we raise awareness that it’s okay

stigma we raise awareness that it’s okay

stigma we raise awareness that it’s okay to ask for help especially when you’ve

to ask for help especially when you’ve

to ask for help especially when you’ve been through these horrific events we

been through these horrific events we

been through these horrific events we need to work to end the cycle of

need to work to end the cycle of

need to work to end the cycle of violence in these communities by helping

violence in these communities by helping

violence in these communities by helping people find healthy ways to resolve

people find healthy ways to resolve

people find healthy ways to resolve conflict to build tolerance between

conflict to build tolerance between

conflict to build tolerance between groups and individuals and to build

groups and individuals and to build

groups and individuals and to build healthy beliefs about the role of women

healthy beliefs about the role of women

healthy beliefs about the role of women we work within the culture but there’s a

we work within the culture but there’s a

we work within the culture but there’s a lot more that we all can do to build

lot more that we all can do to build

lot more that we all can do to build greater acceptance and challenge the

greater acceptance and challenge the

greater acceptance and challenge the norms in our society that allowed for

norms in our society that allowed for

norms in our society that allowed for this kind of violence so this takes me

this kind of violence so this takes me

this kind of violence so this takes me to our third strategy which is even as

to our third strategy which is even as

to our third strategy which is even as we serve individuals and families we

we serve individuals and families we

we serve individuals and families we must focus on building capacity local

must focus on building capacity local

must focus on building capacity local capacity to respond to these needs the

capacity to respond to these needs the

capacity to respond to these needs the scale of the crisis is overwhelm local

scale of the crisis is overwhelm local

scale of the crisis is overwhelm local capacity and there are a few skills like

capacity and there are a few skills like

capacity and there are a few skills like kaya trous psychologist or social

kaya trous psychologist or social

kaya trous psychologist or social workers with the capacity to respond to

workers with the capacity to respond to

workers with the capacity to respond to wide scale trauma sexual violence grief

wide scale trauma sexual violence grief

wide scale trauma sexual violence grief and loss addressing this mental health

and loss addressing this mental health

and loss addressing this mental health crisis requires significant investment

crisis requires significant investment

crisis requires significant investment long term and

long term and

long term and in building mental health skills seed is

in building mental health skills seed is

in building mental health skills seed is doing this through education training

doing this through education training

doing this through education training and supervision programs not just a

and supervision programs not just a

and supervision programs not just a one-off workshop but rather focused

one-off workshop but rather focused

one-off workshop but rather focused intensive training and clinical

intensive training and clinical

intensive training and clinical supervision to kill equip providers with

supervision to kill equip providers with

supervision to kill equip providers with the skills they need so let me close

the skills they need so let me close

the skills they need so let me close with a story about how we’re

with a story about how we’re

with a story about how we’re transforming lives next going black

transforming lives next going black

transforming lives next going black bah Hey escaped

bah Hey escaped

bah Hey escaped Isis captivity and rejoined her family

Isis captivity and rejoined her family

Isis captivity and rejoined her family she started attending baking class in a

she started attending baking class in a

she started attending baking class in a in our seed center but she wasn’t fully

in our seed center but she wasn’t fully

in our seed center but she wasn’t fully engaging our psychotherapist went to her

engaging our psychotherapist went to her

engaging our psychotherapist went to her and asked if she wanted to talk bah he

and asked if she wanted to talk bah he

and asked if she wanted to talk bah he confided that she was depressed couldn’t

confided that she was depressed couldn’t

confided that she was depressed couldn’t sleep and she always feels this pain in

sleep and she always feels this pain in

sleep and she always feels this pain in her chest she started psychotherapy and

her chest she started psychotherapy and

her chest she started psychotherapy and through therapy we found out she used to

through therapy we found out she used to

through therapy we found out she used to be a tailor and bought her a sewing

be a tailor and bought her a sewing

be a tailor and bought her a sewing machine

machine

machine she started sewing things and earning an

she started sewing things and earning an

she started sewing things and earning an income for her family and through

income for her family and through

income for her family and through therapy and sewing she began to make

therapy and sewing she began to make

therapy and sewing she began to make dramatic progress and felt a sense of

dramatic progress and felt a sense of

dramatic progress and felt a sense of optimism about her future she started

optimism about her future she started

optimism about her future she started participating in our knitting program

participating in our knitting program

participating in our knitting program and in our farming program taking fresh

and in our farming program taking fresh

and in our farming program taking fresh fruit and vegetables home to her family

after five psychotherapy sessions she

after five psychotherapy sessions she said this my whole life has turned

said this my whole life has turned

said this my whole life has turned around the money I make from sewing is

around the money I make from sewing is

around the money I make from sewing is supporting my family and sometimes when

supporting my family and sometimes when

supporting my family and sometimes when poor people come to me I sew clothes for

poor people come to me I sew clothes for

poor people come to me I sew clothes for them for free because I want to give

them for free because I want to give

them for free because I want to give back and help too I do a lot of crying

back and help too I do a lot of crying

back and help too I do a lot of crying in this job now that there is hope in my

in this job now that there is hope in my

in this job now that there is hope in my life my chest doesn’t hurt so much

[Applause]

[Applause] thank you our goal is to give women like

thank you our goal is to give women like

thank you our goal is to give women like BA hey hope that they can live again I

BA hey hope that they can live again I

BA hey hope that they can live again I feel so much inspiration from these

feel so much inspiration from these

feel so much inspiration from these brave women and it’s an honor to serve

brave women and it’s an honor to serve

brave women and it’s an honor to serve them I can’t say in good faith never

them I can’t say in good faith never

them I can’t say in good faith never again but I can say I have a vision that

again but I can say I have a vision that

again but I can say I have a vision that no survivor should suffer alone thank

no survivor should suffer alone thank

no survivor should suffer alone thank you

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