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The Lessons We Lose | Danielle Effley | TEDxYouth@FHS


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[Music] whatever you want to be we tell little

whatever you want to be we tell little

whatever you want to be we tell little kids that they can be intergalactic

kids that they can be intergalactic

kids that they can be intergalactic zookeepers or even princes the travel

zookeepers or even princes the travel

zookeepers or even princes the travel world fighting dragons we encourage the

world fighting dragons we encourage the

world fighting dragons we encourage the kids to dream up the biggest dream

kids to dream up the biggest dream

kids to dream up the biggest dream possible and then came up between ten

possible and then came up between ten

possible and then came up between ten times the size of that why don’t you

times the size of that why don’t you

times the size of that why don’t you tell kids to give up their dreams of

tell kids to give up their dreams of

tell kids to give up their dreams of being a treasure hunting mermaid and

being a treasure hunting mermaid and

being a treasure hunting mermaid and tell them to be something more

tell them to be something more

tell them to be something more reasonable like an accountant it’s

reasonable like an accountant it’s

reasonable like an accountant it’s because maybe we tell them that if they

because maybe we tell them that if they

because maybe we tell them that if they can do anything

can do anything

can do anything it will grow up the drive to do

it will grow up the drive to do

it will grow up the drive to do everything but we missed the opportunity

everything but we missed the opportunity

everything but we missed the opportunity to remind ourselves just how big we can

to remind ourselves just how big we can

to remind ourselves just how big we can drink more than that we forget to remind

drink more than that we forget to remind

drink more than that we forget to remind ourselves have honesty for how

ourselves have honesty for how

ourselves have honesty for how compassionately all characteristics

compassionately all characteristics

compassionately all characteristics hi my name is Daniel ugly and every

hi my name is Daniel ugly and every

hi my name is Daniel ugly and every Sunday I help out the first grade Sunday

Sunday I help out the first grade Sunday

Sunday I help out the first grade Sunday School class as a reference material

School class as a reference material

School class as a reference material I hope my name tags I play with the kids

I hope my name tags I play with the kids

I hope my name tags I play with the kids at the activities I asked about our week

at the activities I asked about our week

at the activities I asked about our week and every week and I never fail to be

and every week and I never fail to be

and every week and I never fail to be amazed with how much it show they give

amazed with how much it show they give

amazed with how much it show they give hugs instead of saying hello to everyone

hugs instead of saying hello to everyone

hugs instead of saying hello to everyone in the class every single activity and

in the class every single activity and

in the class every single activity and all they want is for everyone to be

all they want is for everyone to be

all they want is for everyone to be happy

happy

happy whether it’s playing a game of gone by

whether it’s playing a game of gone by

whether it’s playing a game of gone by the base of simply walking up the stairs

the base of simply walking up the stairs

the base of simply walking up the stairs everything they do they do with kindness

everything they do they do with kindness

everything they do they do with kindness and every Sunday we teach them lessons

and every Sunday we teach them lessons

and every Sunday we teach them lessons about forgiveness or inclusion or

about forgiveness or inclusion or

about forgiveness or inclusion or something of the same and after a while

something of the same and after a while

something of the same and after a while their ability to do what they do is

their ability to do what they do is

their ability to do what they do is based on what we teach them it’s based

based on what we teach them it’s based

based on what we teach them it’s based on their lessons of all around being a

on their lessons of all around being a

on their lessons of all around being a good person whether it’s TV shows that

good person whether it’s TV shows that

good person whether it’s TV shows that they watch or the books that they read

they watch or the books that they read

they watch or the books that they read or you do the lessons in the classroom

or you do the lessons in the classroom

or you do the lessons in the classroom we teach little kids to value these

we teach little kids to value these

we teach little kids to value these above all else it makes sense because

above all else it makes sense because

above all else it makes sense because we’re giving them a foundation to learn

we’re giving them a foundation to learn

we’re giving them a foundation to learn off of expecting that soon this would

off of expecting that soon this would

off of expecting that soon this would become common sense and that we wouldn’t

become common sense and that we wouldn’t

become common sense and that we wouldn’t have to teach it yard elementary school

have to teach it yard elementary school

have to teach it yard elementary school for example when I was in third grade I

for example when I was in third grade I

for example when I was in third grade I was given a tube of toothpaste and told

was given a tube of toothpaste and told

was given a tube of toothpaste and told I could do whatever I wanted with it

I could do whatever I wanted with it

I could do whatever I wanted with it so naturally I squeezed up all the

so naturally I squeezed up all the

so naturally I squeezed up all the contents onto the table at different

contents onto the table at different

contents onto the table at different shapes and patterns and then when I was

shapes and patterns and then when I was

shapes and patterns and then when I was done my teacher asked me of all the

done my teacher asked me of all the

done my teacher asked me of all the toothpaste back into the tube

toothpaste back into the tube

toothpaste back into the tube of course that’s impossible and frankly

of course that’s impossible and frankly

of course that’s impossible and frankly pretty messy and so after many fruitless

pretty messy and so after many fruitless

pretty messy and so after many fruitless attempts to do as I was told she told me

attempts to do as I was told she told me

attempts to do as I was told she told me that the tube represented my mouth and

that the tube represented my mouth and

that the tube represented my mouth and that the toothpaste was my words and to

that the toothpaste was my words and to

that the toothpaste was my words and to watch what I say

watch what I say

watch what I say something is said it can’t be take it

something is said it can’t be take it

something is said it can’t be take it back as you grow you take on the lessons

back as you grow you take on the lessons

back as you grow you take on the lessons and challenges to learn more but when we

and challenges to learn more but when we

and challenges to learn more but when we stop being taught gratitude and

stop being taught gratitude and

stop being taught gratitude and generosity and so much more it tends to

generosity and so much more it tends to

generosity and so much more it tends to receive our everyday lives so how can we

receive our everyday lives so how can we

receive our everyday lives so how can we remind ourselves with important how can

remind ourselves with important how can

remind ourselves with important how can we keep these lessons as a part of our

we keep these lessons as a part of our

we keep these lessons as a part of our lives even though we are no longer

lives even though we are no longer

lives even though we are no longer taught that in a classroom the

taught that in a classroom the

taught that in a classroom the equivalent of being taught the

equivalent of being taught the

equivalent of being taught the importance of these traits I believe is

importance of these traits I believe is

importance of these traits I believe is getting back volunteering not only color

getting back volunteering not only color

getting back volunteering not only color others but it remind you who you want to

others but it remind you who you want to

others but it remind you who you want to be just as I believe you know actively

be just as I believe you know actively

be just as I believe you know actively make use of compassion or honesty as we

make use of compassion or honesty as we

make use of compassion or honesty as we think we don’t volunteer as much as

think we don’t volunteer as much as

think we don’t volunteer as much as possible

possible

possible the average American spends a thousand

the average American spends a thousand

the average American spends a thousand four hundred four hours watching TV for

four hundred four hours watching TV for

four hundred four hours watching TV for a year we spent three hundred and twenty

a year we spent three hundred and twenty

a year we spent three hundred and twenty eight hours a night video games radio

eight hours a night video games radio

eight hours a night video games radio and 115 hours reading per year and you

and 115 hours reading per year and you

and 115 hours reading per year and you haven’t spent only 32 hours volunteering

haven’t spent only 32 hours volunteering

haven’t spent only 32 hours volunteering per year and this number is continuously

per year and this number is continuously

per year and this number is continuously decreasing as

decreasing as

decreasing as increase now we all have our priorities

increase now we all have our priorities

increase now we all have our priorities and you’re busy busy people but imagine

and you’re busy busy people but imagine

and you’re busy busy people but imagine if we spent a thousand four hundred four

if we spent a thousand four hundred four

if we spent a thousand four hundred four hours volunteering per year for me

hours volunteering per year for me

hours volunteering per year for me volunteering gives me the opportunity to

volunteering gives me the opportunity to

volunteering gives me the opportunity to take time to reflect I’m forever

take time to reflect I’m forever

take time to reflect I’m forever grateful for the time that I’m getting

grateful for the time that I’m getting

grateful for the time that I’m getting these kids they allow me the opportunity

these kids they allow me the opportunity

these kids they allow me the opportunity to live outside my bubble just for today

to live outside my bubble just for today

to live outside my bubble just for today we spent so long thinking a certain way

we spent so long thinking a certain way

we spent so long thinking a certain way what kids

what kids

what kids simply it is like a breath of fresh air

simply it is like a breath of fresh air

simply it is like a breath of fresh air it gives me a chance to look beyond the

it gives me a chance to look beyond the

it gives me a chance to look beyond the perspective I have and arcane or open

perspective I have and arcane or open

perspective I have and arcane or open mind and other lessons have advanced

mind and other lessons have advanced

mind and other lessons have advanced from compassion to calculus we still

from compassion to calculus we still

from compassion to calculus we still need to incorporate these timeless

need to incorporate these timeless

need to incorporate these timeless components into our everyday lives the

components into our everyday lives the

components into our everyday lives the key to success here is to get involved

key to success here is to get involved

key to success here is to get involved with the community talk about with your

with the community talk about with your

with the community talk about with your friends get out and help others express

friends get out and help others express

friends get out and help others express these lessons to everyone teach them to

these lessons to everyone teach them to

these lessons to everyone teach them to our world could use a little reminder of

our world could use a little reminder of

our world could use a little reminder of what’s important and if you have any

what’s important and if you have any

what’s important and if you have any trouble with this luxury of this

trouble with this luxury of this

trouble with this luxury of this generation they are already so kind and

generation they are already so kind and

generation they are already so kind and generous everything I witness just how

generous everything I witness just how

generous everything I witness just how much they can really do consult your

much they can really do consult your

much they can really do consult your inner child we are no longer tested on

inner child we are no longer tested on

inner child we are no longer tested on these sorts of things but that doesn’t

these sorts of things but that doesn’t

these sorts of things but that doesn’t make them any less important well on

make them any less important well on

make them any less important well on your mind here are a few organizations

your mind here are a few organizations

your mind here are a few organizations you can support and these are just

you can support and these are just

you can support and these are just around the area those organizations all

around the area those organizations all

around the area those organizations all over waiting for someone like you to

over waiting for someone like you to

over waiting for someone like you to step up remember and use what your ones

step up remember and use what your ones

step up remember and use what your ones taught thank you

taught thank you

taught thank you [Applause]

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