hi everyone so just to begin my talk I like everyone here to imagine that
like everyone here to imagine that
like everyone here to imagine that you’re British and now if you’re
you’re British and now if you’re
you’re British and now if you’re anything like me when you wake up in the
anything like me when you wake up in the
anything like me when you wake up in the morning you’ll open up Facebook and then
morning you’ll open up Facebook and then
morning you’ll open up Facebook and then you’ll scroll through your newsfeed and
you’ll scroll through your newsfeed and
you’ll scroll through your newsfeed and you look at all the articles photos and
you look at all the articles photos and
you look at all the articles photos and videos have been posted overnight now
videos have been posted overnight now
videos have been posted overnight now imagine that you stumble across this
imagine that you stumble across this
imagine that you stumble across this article by the Daily Express Germany
article by the Daily Express Germany
article by the Daily Express Germany Platz tax on British motorists to cover
Platz tax on British motorists to cover
Platz tax on British motorists to cover growing bill for its 1.1 million
growing bill for its 1.1 million
growing bill for its 1.1 million migrants and then you wonder hey what’s
migrants and then you wonder hey what’s
migrants and then you wonder hey what’s going on what’s this foreign government
going on what’s this foreign government
going on what’s this foreign government doing so you open the article and you
doing so you open the article and you
doing so you open the article and you read further in and then you discover
read further in and then you discover
read further in and then you discover that Angela Merkel has opened up Germany
that Angela Merkel has opened up Germany
that Angela Merkel has opened up Germany to a Syrian sue Syrian asylum seekers
to a Syrian sue Syrian asylum seekers
to a Syrian sue Syrian asylum seekers and these asylum seekers are placing a
and these asylum seekers are placing a
and these asylum seekers are placing a strain on Germany’s budget they’re in
strain on Germany’s budget they’re in
strain on Germany’s budget they’re in Germany committing all these crimes
Germany committing all these crimes
Germany committing all these crimes they’re raping women on New Year’s Day
they’re raping women on New Year’s Day
they’re raping women on New Year’s Day and here you have this foreign
and here you have this foreign
and here you have this foreign government that’s taking in all these
government that’s taking in all these
government that’s taking in all these foreign refugees they’re going to put
foreign refugees they’re going to put
foreign refugees they’re going to put themselves on the world stage as this
themselves on the world stage as this
themselves on the world stage as this bastion of light and truth and hope and
bastion of light and truth and hope and
bastion of light and truth and hope and then they’re going to make you pay for
then they’re going to make you pay for
then they’re going to make you pay for it they’re going to make you the British
it they’re going to make you the British
it they’re going to make you the British taxpayer foot the bill for this decision
taxpayer foot the bill for this decision
taxpayer foot the bill for this decision how many of you think that this text is
how many of you think that this text is
how many of you think that this text is fair this is a foreign government that’s
fair this is a foreign government that’s
fair this is a foreign government that’s making you pay for their decision no one
making you pay for their decision no one
making you pay for their decision no one and so with this in mind I’d like to
and so with this in mind I’d like to
and so with this in mind I’d like to introduce you to these four children
introduce you to these four children
introduce you to these four children Dola
Dola
Dola Hadiya mohamed and safe now imagine this
Hadiya mohamed and safe now imagine this
Hadiya mohamed and safe now imagine this you’ve grown up in Syria your whole life
you’ve grown up in Syria your whole life
you’ve grown up in Syria your whole life sure it’s war-torn the spending of
sure it’s war-torn the spending of
sure it’s war-torn the spending of violence and there’s lots of conflict
violence and there’s lots of conflict
violence and there’s lots of conflict but hey serious home but one day that
but hey serious home but one day that
but hey serious home but one day that conflict grows so bad that you have to
conflict grows so bad that you have to
conflict grows so bad that you have to leave you have to run away from Syria
leave you have to run away from Syria
leave you have to run away from Syria and while you’re escaping from Syria
and while you’re escaping from Syria
and while you’re escaping from Syria your father dies and so now you’re a
your father dies and so now you’re a
your father dies and so now you’re a foreign refugee living in a foreign and
foreign refugee living in a foreign and
foreign refugee living in a foreign and strange land living in extreme poverty
strange land living in extreme poverty
strange land living in extreme poverty raised by a single mother who works
raised by a single mother who works
raised by a single mother who works herself to the bone working multiple
herself to the bone working multiple
herself to the bone working multiple jobs just to put some food on the table
jobs just to put some food on the table
jobs just to put some food on the table so that you won’t starve to death and
so that you won’t starve to death and
so that you won’t starve to death and here you have Kerry on foundation saying
here you have Kerry on foundation saying
here you have Kerry on foundation saying that you can help these children by
that you can help these children by
that you can help these children by donating to them and helping them out by
donating to them and helping them out by
donating to them and helping them out by maybe giving them the money they need to
maybe giving them the money they need to
maybe giving them the money they need to have some food
have some food
have some food housing to give them an education the
housing to give them an education the
housing to give them an education the education that they need to escape this
education that they need to escape this
education that they need to escape this poverty trap how many of you here would
poverty trap how many of you here would
poverty trap how many of you here would click that donation button to help these
click that donation button to help these
click that donation button to help these children one there one there see if more
children one there one there see if more
children one there one there see if more hands if more people willing to donate
hands if more people willing to donate
hands if more people willing to donate to help these children and so this
to help these children and so this
to help these children and so this brings me to my point empathy you see a
brings me to my point empathy you see a
brings me to my point empathy you see a lot of us here are familiar with the
lot of us here are familiar with the
lot of us here are familiar with the difference between empathy and sympathy
difference between empathy and sympathy
difference between empathy and sympathy you know we’re always told that sympathy
you know we’re always told that sympathy
you know we’re always told that sympathy is this thing when you look at someone’s
is this thing when you look at someone’s
is this thing when you look at someone’s problems and go oh yeah you’re in a bad
problems and go oh yeah you’re in a bad
problems and go oh yeah you’re in a bad state you know at least you if this is
state you know at least you if this is
state you know at least you if this is this going for you and we always hold
this going for you and we always hold
this going for you and we always hold that empathy is about relating to
that empathy is about relating to
that empathy is about relating to another person being able to understand
another person being able to understand
another person being able to understand their problems by relating to your own
their problems by relating to your own
their problems by relating to your own experiences but hang on a minute just a
experiences but hang on a minute just a
experiences but hang on a minute just a few minutes ago I was able to through
few minutes ago I was able to through
few minutes ago I was able to through the use of emotive motional each arts
the use of emotive motional each arts
the use of emotive motional each arts language I was able to change your
language I was able to change your
language I was able to change your empathy who you empathized with from the
empathy who you empathized with from the
empathy who you empathized with from the British taxpayer to the Syrian children
British taxpayer to the Syrian children
British taxpayer to the Syrian children you see the money that Germany is
you see the money that Germany is
you see the money that Germany is collecting will ultimately go to the
collecting will ultimately go to the
collecting will ultimately go to the Syrian children to refugees at least
Syrian children to refugees at least
Syrian children to refugees at least Syrian children and so why was there
Syrian children and so why was there
Syrian children and so why was there this change
this change
this change why was that this change in empathy and
why was that this change in empathy and
why was that this change in empathy and this brings me to my first issue about
this brings me to my first issue about
this brings me to my first issue about empathy you see the thing about empathy
empathy you see the thing about empathy
empathy you see the thing about empathy is that because it’s about relating to
is that because it’s about relating to
is that because it’s about relating to our own experiences were able to
our own experiences were able to
our own experiences were able to empathize a lot better with people who
empathize a lot better with people who
empathize a lot better with people who have experiences that are similar to our
have experiences that are similar to our
have experiences that are similar to our own and I’ll saying that this is a bad
own and I’ll saying that this is a bad
own and I’ll saying that this is a bad thing I think this is a great thing in
thing I think this is a great thing in
thing I think this is a great thing in fact this is the reason why there’s so
fact this is the reason why there’s so
fact this is the reason why there’s so much funding for things like cancer
much funding for things like cancer
much funding for things like cancer research research into cures for AIDS
research research into cures for AIDS
research research into cures for AIDS and for Alzheimer’s and dementia know
and for Alzheimer’s and dementia know
and for Alzheimer’s and dementia know these are great and wonderful causes but
these are great and wonderful causes but
these are great and wonderful causes but at the same time this ability to
at the same time this ability to
at the same time this ability to disproportionately empathize better with
disproportionately empathize better with
disproportionately empathize better with groups of people whose experiences
groups of people whose experiences
groups of people whose experiences reflect our own is the reason why in
reflect our own is the reason why in
reflect our own is the reason why in 2014 the world had to dump tens of
2014 the world had to dump tens of
2014 the world had to dump tens of thousands of buckets of ice water on
thousands of buckets of ice water on
thousands of buckets of ice water on their heads before we finally found out
their heads before we finally found out
their heads before we finally found out what a me trophic lateral sclerosis was
what a me trophic lateral sclerosis was
what a me trophic lateral sclerosis was or ALS and let me wonder why you know to
or ALS and let me wonder why you know to
or ALS and let me wonder why you know to further explore to expand on my point
further explore to expand on my point
further explore to expand on my point I’ll tell you I’ll tell you the story of
I’ll tell you I’ll tell you the story of
I’ll tell you I’ll tell you the story of two small girls born in the mid 1940s
two small girls born in the mid 1940s
two small girls born in the mid 1940s the first is that of Kathy and viscus
the first is that of Kathy and viscus
the first is that of Kathy and viscus the second one is that of Christie oh
the second one is that of Christie oh
the second one is that of Christie oh wise
wise
wise at the end fist kiss was born in 1945 in
at the end fist kiss was born in 1945 in
at the end fist kiss was born in 1945 in suburban LA and when she was three years
suburban LA and when she was three years
suburban LA and when she was three years old she was playing in her backyard when
old she was playing in her backyard when
old she was playing in her backyard when she fell into a well that her father had
she fell into a well that her father had
she fell into a well that her father had dug in 1903 and so in 68 years ago on
dug in 1903 and so in 68 years ago on
dug in 1903 and so in 68 years ago on this day the whole the United States had
this day the whole the United States had
this day the whole the United States had its attention ton on the rescue efforts
its attention ton on the rescue efforts
its attention ton on the rescue efforts just meant to bring this little girl out
just meant to bring this little girl out
just meant to bring this little girl out of the well the whole world felt for
of the well the whole world felt for
of the well the whole world felt for Cathy and discus the whole felt thought
Cathy and discus the whole felt thought
Cathy and discus the whole felt thought how scared she must be down in that
how scared she must be down in that
how scared she must be down in that little well and eventually when she was
little well and eventually when she was
little well and eventually when she was brought out they found her dead at the
brought out they found her dead at the
brought out they found her dead at the bottom of the well and so she was buried
bottom of the well and so she was buried
bottom of the well and so she was buried and she was remembered as the little
and she was remembered as the little
and she was remembered as the little girl who United the nation for a moment
girl who United the nation for a moment
girl who United the nation for a moment now I want you to bring you to the story
now I want you to bring you to the story
now I want you to bring you to the story of Casilla wise I’m to see how wise was
of Casilla wise I’m to see how wise was
of Casilla wise I’m to see how wise was born in 1946 to an Austrian woman and
born in 1946 to an Austrian woman and
born in 1946 to an Austrian woman and she was a daughter of Jews illegitimate
she was a daughter of Jews illegitimate
she was a daughter of Jews illegitimate daughter of a Red Army soldier not to
daughter of a Red Army soldier not to
daughter of a Red Army soldier not to see how wise is one of his one is known
see how wise is one of his one is known
see how wise is one of his one is known as as well as known as one of the is one
as as well as known as one of the is one
as as well as known as one of the is one of the occupation children she’s called
of the occupation children she’s called
of the occupation children she’s called as an occupation children as occupation
as an occupation children as occupation
as an occupation children as occupation child in her home country because she is
child in her home country because she is
child in her home country because she is the daughter of a foreign soldier and so
the daughter of a foreign soldier and so
the daughter of a foreign soldier and so as a child she grew up being ostracized
as a child she grew up being ostracized
as a child she grew up being ostracized where appears because appearance were
where appears because appearance were
where appears because appearance were told to ignore her to leave her alone
told to ignore her to leave her alone
told to ignore her to leave her alone because she was the daughter of the
because she was the daughter of the
because she was the daughter of the enemy and then when she grew up her
enemy and then when she grew up her
enemy and then when she grew up her husband hurtful comments at her because
husband hurtful comments at her because
husband hurtful comments at her because of her background and because of her
of her background and because of her
of her background and because of her backstory and so to see a wise lived
backstory and so to see a wise lived
backstory and so to see a wise lived lived in this emotional and
lived in this emotional and
lived in this emotional and psychological psychological well of hurt
psychological psychological well of hurt
psychological psychological well of hurt and pain for her whole life
and pain for her whole life
and pain for her whole life in fact the interesting thing is this
in fact the interesting thing is this
in fact the interesting thing is this picture you see here this little girl
picture you see here this little girl
picture you see here this little girl you see on the screen may not even be
you see on the screen may not even be
you see on the screen may not even be tricity or wise you see I came to know
tricity or wise you see I came to know
tricity or wise you see I came to know about to see a wise a story through an
about to see a wise a story through an
about to see a wise a story through an article on the BBC some obscure article
article on the BBC some obscure article
article on the BBC some obscure article in BBC about these children after SEO
in BBC about these children after SEO
in BBC about these children after SEO wise the story was just a small anecdote
wise the story was just a small anecdote
wise the story was just a small anecdote in the whole article and it just so
in the whole article and it just so
in the whole article and it just so happened that this picture was next to
happened that this picture was next to
happened that this picture was next to her anecdote and underneath that picture
her anecdote and underneath that picture
her anecdote and underneath that picture does this caption about the children and
does this caption about the children and
does this caption about the children and so here we see this ability to empathize
so here we see this ability to empathize
so here we see this ability to empathize with people that Kathy and Fisker says
with people that Kathy and Fisker says
with people that Kathy and Fisker says led to the world paying a
led to the world paying a
led to the world paying a disproportionately large amount of
disproportionately large amount of
disproportionately large amount of attention and giving a lot more of our
attention and giving a lot more of our
attention and giving a lot more of our sympathy to people like her while people
sympathy to people like her while people
sympathy to people like her while people at Christie our wives who are in no less
at Christie our wives who are in no less
at Christie our wives who are in no less need of help and care and love just fade
need of help and care and love just fade
need of help and care and love just fade away
away
away from history just like that and we
from history just like that and we
from history just like that and we wonder why why is it like this what what
wonder why why is it like this what what
wonder why why is it like this what what happened and so I think that at the end
happened and so I think that at the end
happened and so I think that at the end of the day all this draws its roots from
of the day all this draws its roots from
of the day all this draws its roots from the way we view the world you see this
the way we view the world you see this
the way we view the world you see this is how we would like to view the world
is how we would like to view the world
is how we would like to view the world we’d like to see ourselves as this small
we’d like to see ourselves as this small
we’d like to see ourselves as this small speck in this larger social fabric of
speck in this larger social fabric of
speck in this larger social fabric of the world and it’s true this is the
the world and it’s true this is the
the world and it’s true this is the objective truth and as rational social
objective truth and as rational social
objective truth and as rational social creatures we realize that but ultimately
creatures we realize that but ultimately
creatures we realize that but ultimately at the end of the day in spite of what
at the end of the day in spite of what
at the end of the day in spite of what we like to think that this is us and
we like to think that this is us and
we like to think that this is us and this is the rest of the world the sad
this is the rest of the world the sad
this is the rest of the world the sad reality is that in our minds this is
reality is that in our minds this is
reality is that in our minds this is what it looks like it’s big me and the
what it looks like it’s big me and the
what it looks like it’s big me and the rest of the world is this little tiny
rest of the world is this little tiny
rest of the world is this little tiny circle that we can look through and you
circle that we can look through and you
circle that we can look through and you don’t feel like it and we can connect
don’t feel like it and we can connect
don’t feel like it and we can connect with it when we feel like it and really
with it when we feel like it and really
with it when we feel like it and really this is very empathize with people but
this is very empathize with people but
this is very empathize with people but there’s so much of the world that we
there’s so much of the world that we
there’s so much of the world that we don’t really care about because our own
don’t really care about because our own
don’t really care about because our own experiences don’t overlap with it until
experiences don’t overlap with it until
experiences don’t overlap with it until ultimately in essence what we like to
ultimately in essence what we like to
ultimately in essence what we like to think that we’re like these rabbits the
think that we’re like these rabbits the
think that we’re like these rabbits the truth of the matter is you’re really
truth of the matter is you’re really
truth of the matter is you’re really more like this rabbit here it’s all
more like this rabbit here it’s all
more like this rabbit here it’s all about me
about me
about me deal with it and you know it’s not this
deal with it and you know it’s not this
deal with it and you know it’s not this mentality of it’s all about me deal with
mentality of it’s all about me deal with
mentality of it’s all about me deal with it that’s dangerous it’s the idea that
it that’s dangerous it’s the idea that
it that’s dangerous it’s the idea that that we are like this but we actually
that we are like this but we actually
that we are like this but we actually think that we’re like this that’s really
think that we’re like this that’s really
think that we’re like this that’s really dangerous because we go around thinking
dangerous because we go around thinking
dangerous because we go around thinking that we’ve done some good then we’ve
that we’ve done some good then we’ve
that we’ve done some good then we’ve helped another person but in reality
helped another person but in reality
helped another person but in reality what we’ve done is to simply project
what we’ve done is to simply project
what we’ve done is to simply project ourselves onto another person and think
ourselves onto another person and think
ourselves onto another person and think that we’ve helped them you walk away
that we’ve helped them you walk away
that we’ve helped them you walk away thinking that we’ve that we’ve done
thinking that we’ve that we’ve done
thinking that we’ve that we’ve done something good we’ve changed the world
something good we’ve changed the world
something good we’ve changed the world but reality we just hurt them for
but reality we just hurt them for
but reality we just hurt them for example take animal cruelty in so many
example take animal cruelty in so many
example take animal cruelty in so many countries there’s so many laws about how
countries there’s so many laws about how
countries there’s so many laws about how to kill mammals like sheep pigs cows the
to kill mammals like sheep pigs cows the
to kill mammals like sheep pigs cows the swimming laws on how to kill them
swimming laws on how to kill them
swimming laws on how to kill them humanely you have to stand them to make
humanely you have to stand them to make
humanely you have to stand them to make sure they’re unconscious before you slit
sure they’re unconscious before you slit
sure they’re unconscious before you slit their throats and you to make sure that
their throats and you to make sure that
their throats and you to make sure that they die a quick death and that’s
they die a quick death and that’s
they die a quick death and that’s because as mammals we recognize their
because as mammals we recognize their
because as mammals we recognize their calls of distress when they’re being led
calls of distress when they’re being led
calls of distress when they’re being led into the
into the
into the ‘but wha when they see the knife you’d
‘but wha when they see the knife you’d
‘but wha when they see the knife you’d recognize the pain that they see but at
recognize the pain that they see but at
recognize the pain that they see but at the same time you have the fishing
the same time you have the fishing
the same time you have the fishing industry which drags up millions upon
industry which drags up millions upon
industry which drags up millions upon billions of fish out of the water every
billions of fish out of the water every
billions of fish out of the water every year every day and these fish die a slow
year every day and these fish die a slow
year every day and these fish die a slow and painful death out of the water they
and painful death out of the water they
and painful death out of the water they suffocate but does anyone care does
suffocate but does anyone care does
suffocate but does anyone care does anyone say hey these fish are dying
anyone say hey these fish are dying
anyone say hey these fish are dying no no one and that’s because we can’t
no no one and that’s because we can’t
no no one and that’s because we can’t empathize with them does it mean that
empathize with them does it mean that
empathize with them does it mean that their pain is any less no and so it’s
their pain is any less no and so it’s
their pain is any less no and so it’s because of this that we see some
because of this that we see some
because of this that we see some problems of Emily related to empathy
problems of Emily related to empathy
problems of Emily related to empathy emerging the first problem is empathy
emerging the first problem is empathy
emerging the first problem is empathy first of all is tiring and emotionally
first of all is tiring and emotionally
first of all is tiring and emotionally draining you’re just extending on this
draining you’re just extending on this
draining you’re just extending on this metaphor of a rack of rabbits you know
metaphor of a rack of rabbits you know
metaphor of a rack of rabbits you know all of us are like rabbits and we all
all of us are like rabbits and we all
all of us are like rabbits and we all have our own we have our own struggles
have our own we have our own struggles
have our own we have our own struggles we have our own dark periods and I like
we have our own dark periods and I like
we have our own dark periods and I like to liken this to rabbit holes these dark
to liken this to rabbit holes these dark
to liken this to rabbit holes these dark little holes and so we empathize with
little holes and so we empathize with
little holes and so we empathize with someone it’s akin to seeing someone
someone it’s akin to seeing someone
someone it’s akin to seeing someone stuck in a rabbit hole and you say hey
stuck in a rabbit hole and you say hey
stuck in a rabbit hole and you say hey you know I’m going to empathize with
you know I’m going to empathize with
you know I’m going to empathize with this person so I’m gonna dig a hole I
this person so I’m gonna dig a hole I
this person so I’m gonna dig a hole I want to dig a hole of my own and I’m
want to dig a hole of my own and I’m
want to dig a hole of my own and I’m gonna sit in that hole and I’m gonna
gonna sit in that hole and I’m gonna
gonna sit in that hole and I’m gonna feel for myself what it’s like to be in
feel for myself what it’s like to be in
feel for myself what it’s like to be in that hole but the truth of the matter is
that hole but the truth of the matter is
that hole but the truth of the matter is digging a hole and putting yourself in
digging a hole and putting yourself in
digging a hole and putting yourself in the hole and imagining what it’s like to
the hole and imagining what it’s like to
the hole and imagining what it’s like to be stuck there it’s very tiring
be stuck there it’s very tiring
be stuck there it’s very tiring it’s texting because you’re going beyond
it’s texting because you’re going beyond
it’s texting because you’re going beyond yourself you’re you’re in a way defying
yourself you’re you’re in a way defying
yourself you’re you’re in a way defying this this idea of how it’s all about me
this this idea of how it’s all about me
this this idea of how it’s all about me at the end of the day and so we come to
at the end of the day and so we come to
at the end of the day and so we come to this next idea of how the world looks
this next idea of how the world looks
this next idea of how the world looks more like this you see because it’s so
more like this you see because it’s so
more like this you see because it’s so tiring and emotionally draining to go
tiring and emotionally draining to go
tiring and emotionally draining to go about empathizing with people digging
about empathizing with people digging
about empathizing with people digging holes and sitting in the host it’s
holes and sitting in the host it’s
holes and sitting in the host it’s imagine what it’s like you see for every
imagine what it’s like you see for every
imagine what it’s like you see for every hole that we jump into for every hole
hole that we jump into for every hole
hole that we jump into for every hole that we be perfect we are perfectly able
that we be perfect we are perfectly able
that we be perfect we are perfectly able to to sit in and really feel what it’s
to to sit in and really feel what it’s
to to sit in and really feel what it’s like to be there in there there are many
like to be there in there there are many
like to be there in there there are many more holes around the world is littered
more holes around the world is littered
more holes around the world is littered with plenty of rabbit holes and so we
with plenty of rabbit holes and so we
with plenty of rabbit holes and so we are for every hole that we jump into
are for every hole that we jump into
are for every hole that we jump into there are hundreds upon thousands more
there are hundreds upon thousands more
there are hundreds upon thousands more holes that we’ll never be able to see
holes that we’ll never be able to see
holes that we’ll never be able to see then we’ll never be able to jump into
then we’ll never be able to jump into
then we’ll never be able to jump into and this really brings me to my next
and this really brings me to my next
and this really brings me to my next point
point
point you
you
you see the thing about empathy the thing
see the thing about empathy the thing
see the thing about empathy the thing about digging holes and jumping into it
about digging holes and jumping into it
about digging holes and jumping into it this whole process of empathy is flawed
this whole process of empathy is flawed
this whole process of empathy is flawed why because when you’re digging a hole
why because when you’re digging a hole
why because when you’re digging a hole when we sit in it I mean we eventually
when we sit in it I mean we eventually
when we sit in it I mean we eventually find a way to jump of it and eventually
find a way to jump of it and eventually
find a way to jump of it and eventually tell the other rabbit hole hey I found a
tell the other rabbit hole hey I found a
tell the other rabbit hole hey I found a way out yeah it’s dark in there by found
way out yeah it’s dark in there by found
way out yeah it’s dark in there by found a way out you see that whole process is
a way out you see that whole process is
a way out you see that whole process is influenced by our own personal
influenced by our own personal
influenced by our own personal experiences our own memories our own
experiences our own memories our own
experiences our own memories our own pains our own values and none of those
pains our own values and none of those
pains our own values and none of those that and those values can never be
that and those values can never be
that and those values can never be exactly the same as that of the other
exactly the same as that of the other
exactly the same as that of the other person so the hole we dig can never be
person so the hole we dig can never be
person so the hole we dig can never be the same the way we see the hole can
the same the way we see the hole can
the same the way we see the hole can never be the same what might be a dark
never be the same what might be a dark
never be the same what might be a dark and scary hole to one person might be a
and scary hole to one person might be a
and scary hole to one person might be a small tight cozy space to you and the
small tight cozy space to you and the
small tight cozy space to you and the way you jump out of the hole will also
way you jump out of the hole will also
way you jump out of the hole will also be different and so what this ultimately
be different and so what this ultimately
be different and so what this ultimately means is that pure empathy being truly
means is that pure empathy being truly
means is that pure empathy being truly able to completely put yourself in
able to completely put yourself in
able to completely put yourself in someone else’s shoes it’s not only
someone else’s shoes it’s not only
someone else’s shoes it’s not only emotionally draining and tiring but it’s
emotionally draining and tiring but it’s
emotionally draining and tiring but it’s also practically impossible you know
also practically impossible you know
also practically impossible you know just to illustrate my point I just like
just to illustrate my point I just like
just to illustrate my point I just like to show you this picture of rabbits
to show you this picture of rabbits
to show you this picture of rabbits you see empathy it’s like emphasizing or
you see empathy it’s like emphasizing or
you see empathy it’s like emphasizing or someone it’s like being like this rabbit
someone it’s like being like this rabbit
someone it’s like being like this rabbit here this rabbit here has decided ok
here this rabbit here has decided ok
here this rabbit here has decided ok I’ll dig another hole so that I know
I’ll dig another hole so that I know
I’ll dig another hole so that I know what it’s like to be this hole this
what it’s like to be this hole this
what it’s like to be this hole this rabbit in this hole but what do you
rabbit in this hole but what do you
rabbit in this hole but what do you notice you see that this hole this
notice you see that this hole this
notice you see that this hole this rabbit has dog it’s not exactly the same
rabbit has dog it’s not exactly the same
rabbit has dog it’s not exactly the same as this hole you see this rabbit has
as this hole you see this rabbit has
as this hole you see this rabbit has taken this path down into this hole but
taken this path down into this hole but
taken this path down into this hole but this rabbit has taken this path down
this rabbit has taken this path down
this rabbit has taken this path down into the hole so while there is some
into the hole so while there is some
into the hole so while there is some similarity it’s not perfectly the same
similarity it’s not perfectly the same
similarity it’s not perfectly the same and the experience of this rabbit
and the experience of this rabbit
and the experience of this rabbit may not be the same as the experience of
may not be the same as the experience of
may not be the same as the experience of this rabbit and so what do we do and we
this rabbit and so what do we do and we
this rabbit and so what do we do and we start to becoming these selfish
start to becoming these selfish
start to becoming these selfish creatures who can’t fully empathize know
creatures who can’t fully empathize know
creatures who can’t fully empathize know where empathy is unable to help us help
where empathy is unable to help us help
where empathy is unable to help us help other people with this idea of
other people with this idea of
other people with this idea of compassion that comes in you see
compassion that comes in you see
compassion that comes in you see compassion is different even though we
compassion is different even though we
compassion is different even though we often conflate compassion and empathy
often conflate compassion and empathy
often conflate compassion and empathy they’re very different things and you
they’re very different things and you
they’re very different things and you see compassion illustrated by this
see compassion illustrated by this
see compassion illustrated by this rabbit here you see the idea of
rabbit here you see the idea of
rabbit here you see the idea of compassion is we don’t necessarily have
compassion is we don’t necessarily have
compassion is we don’t necessarily have to reach all the way down into the
to reach all the way down into the
to reach all the way down into the rabbit hole like empathy demands we do
rabbit hole like empathy demands we do
rabbit hole like empathy demands we do empathy means that we have to become the
empathy means that we have to become the
empathy means that we have to become the a bit we have to sit in the hole and we
a bit we have to sit in the hole and we
a bit we have to sit in the hole and we have to really understand and fully
have to really understand and fully
have to really understand and fully think about oh this world hole is dark
think about oh this world hole is dark
think about oh this world hole is dark it’s scary before we have to understand
it’s scary before we have to understand
it’s scary before we have to understand everything is impossible the thing is
everything is impossible the thing is
everything is impossible the thing is that it’s impossible but with compassion
that it’s impossible but with compassion
that it’s impossible but with compassion you see compassion doesn’t demand that
you see compassion doesn’t demand that
you see compassion doesn’t demand that we fully enter the rabbit hole
we fully enter the rabbit hole
we fully enter the rabbit hole compassion on the other hand requires
compassion on the other hand requires
compassion on the other hand requires that you reach a hand out into the
that you reach a hand out into the
that you reach a hand out into the rabbit hole and you call out to the
rabbit hole and you call out to the
rabbit hole and you call out to the rabbit that’s hiding in the hole and you
rabbit that’s hiding in the hole and you
rabbit that’s hiding in the hole and you see you can come up when you want to and
see you can come up when you want to and
see you can come up when you want to and that’s very different from empathy
that’s very different from empathy
that’s very different from empathy because you see empathy is a personal
because you see empathy is a personal
because you see empathy is a personal experience where you sit in the hole by
experience where you sit in the hole by
experience where you sit in the hole by yourself and you think about how painful
yourself and you think about how painful
yourself and you think about how painful it is compassion reaches out compassion
it is compassion reaches out compassion
it is compassion reaches out compassion places control in the hands or the other
places control in the hands or the other
places control in the hands or the other control in the hand of the other person
control in the hand of the other person
control in the hand of the other person more so than empathy does because in you
more so than empathy does because in you
more so than empathy does because in you have compassion you reach out to the
have compassion you reach out to the
have compassion you reach out to the rabbit and the rabbit in the hole it’s
rabbit and the rabbit in the hole it’s
rabbit and the rabbit in the hole it’s ultimately up to the rabbit in the hole
ultimately up to the rabbit in the hole
ultimately up to the rabbit in the hole to say yes I want to come out and then
to say yes I want to come out and then
to say yes I want to come out and then you can help the rabbit out compassion
you can help the rabbit out compassion
you can help the rabbit out compassion says it’s okay if you can truly go down
says it’s okay if you can truly go down
says it’s okay if you can truly go down the rabbit hole because it’s all about
the rabbit hole because it’s all about
the rabbit hole because it’s all about you
you
you more so than empathy since then empathy
more so than empathy since then empathy
more so than empathy since then empathy thinks it is and so I just want to leave
thinks it is and so I just want to leave
thinks it is and so I just want to leave you on a final note or this idea of
you on a final note or this idea of
you on a final note or this idea of compassion I just like to implore all of
compassion I just like to implore all of
compassion I just like to implore all of you so whenever you see a rabbit hole I
you so whenever you see a rabbit hole I
you so whenever you see a rabbit hole I just like to ask that all of you don’t
just like to ask that all of you don’t
just like to ask that all of you don’t go about digging rabbit holes because
go about digging rabbit holes because
go about digging rabbit holes because this wall is plenty of rabbit holes we
this wall is plenty of rabbit holes we
this wall is plenty of rabbit holes we all have our own you know dark places to
all have our own you know dark places to
all have our own you know dark places to live in and if other people other people
live in and if other people other people
live in and if other people other people live in shallow holes some people have
live in shallow holes some people have
live in shallow holes some people have really dark and scary hosts live and
really dark and scary hosts live and
really dark and scary hosts live and some people live in holes are so dark
some people live in holes are so dark
some people live in holes are so dark and scary that you don’t even realize
and scary that you don’t even realize
and scary that you don’t even realize that they’re in the hole
that they’re in the hole
that they’re in the hole and so instead of thinking that we can
and so instead of thinking that we can
and so instead of thinking that we can dig holes to exactly emulate that of
dig holes to exactly emulate that of
dig holes to exactly emulate that of other people’s holes I just like to
other people’s holes I just like to
other people’s holes I just like to implore all of you that the next time
implore all of you that the next time
implore all of you that the next time you see a rabbit hole the next time you
you see a rabbit hole the next time you
you see a rabbit hole the next time you see someone in need
see someone in need
see someone in need I just like to ask all of you to instead
I just like to ask all of you to instead
I just like to ask all of you to instead reach your hand out into that hole and
reach your hand out into that hole and
reach your hand out into that hole and pull the rabbit out because there’s so
pull the rabbit out because there’s so
pull the rabbit out because there’s so much more power in that because you free
much more power in that because you free
much more power in that because you free another person and that’s the main power
another person and that’s the main power
another person and that’s the main power of compassion over empathy thank you
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