How To Be A Bright Shining Star | Erica Sosna | TEDxHolyhead

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when I was five my parents bought me a

when I was five my parents bought me a magic set it came in a black velvety box

magic set it came in a black velvety box

magic set it came in a black velvety box complete with instructions props and a

complete with instructions props and a

complete with instructions props and a wand well I was super excited and I set

wand well I was super excited and I set

wand well I was super excited and I set myself the task of trying out all of the

myself the task of trying out all of the

myself the task of trying out all of the tricks to see which were my favorites

tricks to see which were my favorites

tricks to see which were my favorites now my birthday was coming up and I

now my birthday was coming up and I

now my birthday was coming up and I decided that as I had a captive audience

decided that as I had a captive audience

decided that as I had a captive audience I would put on a show for them so I

I would put on a show for them so I

I would put on a show for them so I identified my three favorite tricks and

identified my three favorite tricks and

identified my three favorite tricks and I practiced in front of the teddy bears

I practiced in front of the teddy bears

I practiced in front of the teddy bears and the au pair and my little brother

and the au pair and my little brother

and the au pair and my little brother until I felt I had two out of three of

until I felt I had two out of three of

until I felt I had two out of three of the tricks down now these first two

the tricks down now these first two

the tricks down now these first two tricks they were kind of mechanical once

tricks they were kind of mechanical once

tricks they were kind of mechanical once you’d learned how to master them they

you’d learned how to master them they

you’d learned how to master them they pretty much work guaranteed every time

pretty much work guaranteed every time

pretty much work guaranteed every time but the finale

but the finale

but the finale the magic banana trick that was a

the magic banana trick that was a

the magic banana trick that was a different story see the trouble with the

different story see the trouble with the

different story see the trouble with the banana was that until you’re in front of

banana was that until you’re in front of

banana was that until you’re in front of an audience you couldn’t really tell

an audience you couldn’t really tell

an audience you couldn’t really tell whether it was gonna work or not many

whether it was gonna work or not many

whether it was gonna work or not many bananas were sacrificed on the altar of

bananas were sacrificed on the altar of

bananas were sacrificed on the altar of my ambition and I had many a sleepless

my ambition and I had many a sleepless

my ambition and I had many a sleepless night in advance of the performance but

night in advance of the performance but

night in advance of the performance but the day rolled round I put on my cape I

the day rolled round I put on my cape I

the day rolled round I put on my cape I lifted my wand and we began and the

lifted my wand and we began and the

lifted my wand and we began and the audience they booed at their matchbox

audience they booed at their matchbox

audience they booed at their matchbox trick and they are when I did the

trick and they are when I did the

trick and they are when I did the disappearing ball and then it was time

disappearing ball and then it was time

disappearing ball and then it was time for the banana would you like to see the

for the banana would you like to see the

for the banana would you like to see the trick

the same applies now I have no idea

the same applies now I have no idea whether this trick will work or not so

whether this trick will work or not so

whether this trick will work or not so after a three to one we’re going to say

after a three to one we’re going to say

after a three to one we’re going to say the magic word abracadabra okay we’re

the magic word abracadabra okay we’re

the magic word abracadabra okay we’re just gonna see what happens next

just gonna see what happens next

just gonna see what happens next are you ready three two one Wow it’s the

are you ready three two one Wow it’s the

are you ready three two one Wow it’s the cut the banana in half drink it on the

cut the banana in half drink it on the

cut the banana in half drink it on the day it was immaculate

day it was immaculate

day it was immaculate but isn’t life often like that life is

but isn’t life often like that life is

but isn’t life often like that life is like the banana trick you know whether

like the banana trick you know whether

like the banana trick you know whether it’s the new relationship the new

it’s the new relationship the new

it’s the new relationship the new training we decide to commit to the

training we decide to commit to the

training we decide to commit to the adventure we decide to go on

adventure we decide to go on

adventure we decide to go on we often almost always have no idea what

we often almost always have no idea what

we often almost always have no idea what the result is going to be what the final

the result is going to be what the final

the result is going to be what the final outcome is going to be and sometimes

outcome is going to be and sometimes

outcome is going to be and sometimes that uncertainty makes us think that

that uncertainty makes us think that

that uncertainty makes us think that perhaps we shouldn’t start that it’s all

perhaps we shouldn’t start that it’s all

perhaps we shouldn’t start that it’s all a bit too risky right but if we’re going

a bit too risky right but if we’re going

a bit too risky right but if we’re going to be a bright shining star if we’re

to be a bright shining star if we’re

to be a bright shining star if we’re going to find our sparkle and take it

going to find our sparkle and take it

going to find our sparkle and take it out into the world to do positive

out into the world to do positive

out into the world to do positive exciting moving and engaging things

exciting moving and engaging things

exciting moving and engaging things we’re going to have to take the roller

we’re going to have to take the roller

we’re going to have to take the roller coaster Toni Morrison is my favorite

coaster Toni Morrison is my favorite

coaster Toni Morrison is my favorite author

author

author she said that life can either be a flat

she said that life can either be a flat

she said that life can either be a flat line where you completely avoid risk or

line where you completely avoid risk or

line where you completely avoid risk or it can be a grand adventure but for it

it can be a grand adventure but for it

it can be a grand adventure but for it to be that we have to take the roller

to be that we have to take the roller

to be that we have to take the roller coaster we have to get on board knowing

coaster we have to get on board knowing

coaster we have to get on board knowing that the outcome is uncertain that the

that the outcome is uncertain that the

that the outcome is uncertain that the adventure itself could be scary and

adventure itself could be scary and

adventure itself could be scary and wrought with dangers in order for us to

wrought with dangers in order for us to

wrought with dangers in order for us to have the experience and to go after the

have the experience and to go after the

have the experience and to go after the things that we longed for in my work as

things that we longed for in my work as

things that we longed for in my work as the career coach it’s my job to help

the career coach it’s my job to help

the career coach it’s my job to help people to rediscover or perhaps discover

people to rediscover or perhaps discover

people to rediscover or perhaps discover for the first time what we mean by their

for the first time what we mean by their

for the first time what we mean by their shine and one of the best ways that I

shine and one of the best ways that I

shine and one of the best ways that I found to do it is to take them back to

found to do it is to take them back to

found to do it is to take them back to the same age I was when I perform the

the same age I was when I perform the

the same age I was when I perform the magic show and found mine five years old

magic show and found mine five years old

magic show and found mine five years old why is five so useful because fives the

why is five so useful because fives the

why is five so useful because fives the time when you’ve got enough

time when you’ve got enough

time when you’ve got enough self-determination to know what you like

self-determination to know what you like

self-determination to know what you like to do you’re not going to be forced into

to do you’re not going to be forced into

to do you’re not going to be forced into anything but young enough not to censor

anything but young enough not to censor

anything but young enough not to censor yourself because that thing might not be

yourself because that thing might not be

yourself because that thing might not be successful or you might be might not be

successful or you might be might not be

successful or you might be might not be the absolute best at it and I didn’t

the absolute best at it and I didn’t

the absolute best at it and I didn’t know it then back when I performed my

know it then back when I performed my

know it then back when I performed my first magic show but that was the moment

first magic show but that was the moment

first magic show but that was the moment of which I found my calling because I

of which I found my calling because I

of which I found my calling because I discovered that there was nothing more

discovered that there was nothing more

discovered that there was nothing more better wonderful for me than the

better wonderful for me than the

better wonderful for me than the opportunity to engage an audience to

opportunity to engage an audience to

opportunity to engage an audience to work on something to find something that

work on something to find something that

work on something to find something that generates the aha

generates the aha

generates the aha or the Wonder mote and my career has

or the Wonder mote and my career has

or the Wonder mote and my career has been shaped by that over and over and

been shaped by that over and over and

been shaped by that over and over and over again since so let’s take a moment

over again since so let’s take a moment

over again since so let’s take a moment to go back to you at five years old and

to go back to you at five years old and

to go back to you at five years old and I invite you if you’re comfortable to

I invite you if you’re comfortable to

I invite you if you’re comfortable to close your eyes and go back to that

close your eyes and go back to that

close your eyes and go back to that little person at five what was it that

little person at five what was it that

little person at five what was it that you loved to do were you all about

you loved to do were you all about

you loved to do were you all about physical endurance running as far as you

physical endurance running as far as you

physical endurance running as far as you possibly could or beating your brother

possibly could or beating your brother

possibly could or beating your brother in the egg-and-spoon race

in the egg-and-spoon race

in the egg-and-spoon race did you love to make things a mess art

did you love to make things a mess art

did you love to make things a mess art music were you never happier than when

music were you never happier than when

music were you never happier than when you were solving a problem or a puzzle

you were solving a problem or a puzzle

you were solving a problem or a puzzle taking something apart putting it back

taking something apart putting it back

taking something apart putting it back together if you got it

together if you got it

together if you got it do you remember yourself at that time

do you remember yourself at that time

do you remember yourself at that time that’s your shine and it’s my belief

that’s your shine and it’s my belief

that’s your shine and it’s my belief that if we nurture that’s experience of

that if we nurture that’s experience of

that if we nurture that’s experience of shine that it’s probably a large part of

shine that it’s probably a large part of

shine that it’s probably a large part of your working life or your play life now

your working life or your play life now

your working life or your play life now but it’s not always that way sometimes

but it’s not always that way sometimes

but it’s not always that way sometimes we get distracted other things happen

we get distracted other things happen

we get distracted other things happen and get in the way sometimes we try

and get in the way sometimes we try

and get in the way sometimes we try something out and when it doesn’t work

something out and when it doesn’t work

something out and when it doesn’t work the ways that we should we lose a lot of

the ways that we should we lose a lot of

the ways that we should we lose a lot of confidence and we decide that the fear

confidence and we decide that the fear

confidence and we decide that the fear of failure is just too great to allow

of failure is just too great to allow

of failure is just too great to allow that to happen again well sometimes a

that to happen again well sometimes a

that to happen again well sometimes a careless remark along the way perhaps at

careless remark along the way perhaps at

careless remark along the way perhaps at school perhaps at home that tells us

school perhaps at home that tells us

school perhaps at home that tells us that if we’re not going to be the

that if we’re not going to be the

that if we’re not going to be the absolute best at something then we

absolute best at something then we

absolute best at something then we shouldn’t even start can really get

shouldn’t even start can really get

shouldn’t even start can really get between us and our sparkle and that

between us and our sparkle and that

between us and our sparkle and that happens to all of us now and then right

happens to all of us now and then right

happens to all of us now and then right we take off our cape

we take off our cape

we take off our cape I put our wonder way and we hide our

I put our wonder way and we hide our

I put our wonder way and we hide our shine but what if I told you that there

shine but what if I told you that there

shine but what if I told you that there was a map a map to make the roller

was a map a map to make the roller

was a map a map to make the roller coaster an easier and journey a way to

coaster an easier and journey a way to

coaster an easier and journey a way to navigate across the bumps in the road to

navigate across the bumps in the road to

navigate across the bumps in the road to be able to feel more confident even when

be able to feel more confident even when

be able to feel more confident even when those bumps inevitably happen and

those bumps inevitably happen and

those bumps inevitably happen and therefore to be able to navigate towards

therefore to be able to navigate towards

therefore to be able to navigate towards the things that you dream of

the things that you dream of

the things that you dream of whether we’re rediscovering your inner

whether we’re rediscovering your inner

whether we’re rediscovering your inner five-year-old or it’s a new goal that

five-year-old or it’s a new goal that

five-year-old or it’s a new goal that you set for yourself later in life when

you set for yourself later in life when

you set for yourself later in life when the map make it a bit less scary so I

the map make it a bit less scary so I

the map make it a bit less scary so I want to share with you what that looks

want to share with you what that looks

want to share with you what that looks and feels like but first I want to tell

and feels like but first I want to tell

and feels like but first I want to tell you another story now it’s going to tell

you another story now it’s going to tell

you another story now it’s going to tell you a story the slide indicates about a

you a story the slide indicates about a

you a story the slide indicates about a time that I did some stand-up comedy and

time that I did some stand-up comedy and

time that I did some stand-up comedy and I died on the stage I was going to tell

I died on the stage I was going to tell

I died on the stage I was going to tell you that story but I’m actually going to

you that story but I’m actually going to

you that story but I’m actually going to tell you a different story a story about

tell you a different story a story about

tell you a different story a story about what’s happening in my life right now so

what’s happening in my life right now so

what’s happening in my life right now so about five years ago I found my partner

about five years ago I found my partner

about five years ago I found my partner my fiance Peter and although I joke that

my fiance Peter and although I joke that

my fiance Peter and although I joke that he sort of crept up on me like a rash I

he sort of crept up on me like a rash I

he sort of crept up on me like a rash I kind of always knew that we were going

kind of always knew that we were going

kind of always knew that we were going to end up together as though a couple of

to end up together as though a couple of

to end up together as though a couple of years ago we decided it would be a

years ago we decided it would be a

years ago we decided it would be a wonderful thing to start a family I’ve

wonderful thing to start a family I’ve

wonderful thing to start a family I’ve been on the fence for ages but I’ve met

been on the fence for ages but I’ve met

been on the fence for ages but I’ve met this great person and there were various

this great person and there were various

this great person and there were various trials and tribulations required for us

trials and tribulations required for us

trials and tribulations required for us it was not going to be the organic

it was not going to be the organic

it was not going to be the organic process that you normally engage with so

process that you normally engage with so

process that you normally engage with so we finally decided to commit the time

we finally decided to commit the time

we finally decided to commit the time the energy the money to go for it

the energy the money to go for it

the energy the money to go for it so imagine the delight and the

so imagine the delight and the

so imagine the delight and the astonishment when the first time we try

astonishment when the first time we try

astonishment when the first time we try we become pregnant suddenly this future

we become pregnant suddenly this future

we become pregnant suddenly this future opens up that’s both exhilarating and

opens up that’s both exhilarating and

opens up that’s both exhilarating and terrifying a due date goes onto the

terrifying a due date goes onto the

terrifying a due date goes onto the calendar and I think I basically had

calendar and I think I basically had

calendar and I think I basically had this amount of time to do absolutely

this amount of time to do absolutely

this amount of time to do absolutely everything that I want to do before this

everything that I want to do before this

everything that I want to do before this momentous occasion dawns upon us and you

momentous occasion dawns upon us and you

momentous occasion dawns upon us and you know to give up coffee really starting

know to give up coffee really starting

know to give up coffee really starting to feel quite sick and we’re heading

to feel quite sick and we’re heading

to feel quite sick and we’re heading toward some early scans and when we go

toward some early scans and when we go

toward some early scans and when we go for the first scan they say we think

for the first scan they say we think

for the first scan they say we think your dates are a bit off maybe you’re a

your dates are a bit off maybe you’re a

your dates are a bit off maybe you’re a bit earlier than we thought can you come

bit earlier than we thought can you come

bit earlier than we thought can you come back we think sure of course and we

back we think sure of course and we

back we think sure of course and we countdown

countdown

countdown the days and count down the days till

the days and count down the days till

the days and count down the days till the opportunity to see the heartbeat for

the opportunity to see the heartbeat for

the opportunity to see the heartbeat for the first time will we arrive at the

the first time will we arrive at the

the first time will we arrive at the scan and it’s all jovial and exciting

scan and it’s all jovial and exciting

scan and it’s all jovial and exciting and I head off there but when the scan

and I head off there but when the scan

and I head off there but when the scan begins the stenographers face goes poker

begins the stenographers face goes poker

begins the stenographers face goes poker and they ask us to get dressed without

and they ask us to get dressed without

and they ask us to get dressed without saying anything and suddenly there’s no

saying anything and suddenly there’s no

saying anything and suddenly there’s no heartbeat there’s no future there’s now

heartbeat there’s no future there’s now

heartbeat there’s no future there’s now a discussion about medical management

a discussion about medical management

a discussion about medical management and the risk of infection we taken the

and the risk of infection we taken the

and the risk of infection we taken the roller coaster and it wasn’t going

roller coaster and it wasn’t going

roller coaster and it wasn’t going according to plan so suddenly it’s time

according to plan so suddenly it’s time

according to plan so suddenly it’s time to take the date off the calendar to

to take the date off the calendar to

to take the date off the calendar to untell everyone that we’ve excitedly

untell everyone that we’ve excitedly

untell everyone that we’ve excitedly shared the news with to start to

shared the news with to start to

shared the news with to start to experience and embrace our sorrow at

experience and embrace our sorrow at

experience and embrace our sorrow at things not going the way that the

things not going the way that the

things not going the way that the happy-ever-after dictates but in that

happy-ever-after dictates but in that

happy-ever-after dictates but in that participation in that sorrow there are

participation in that sorrow there are

participation in that sorrow there are joyful things

joyful things

joyful things there’s the joy in the wisdom of

there’s the joy in the wisdom of

there’s the joy in the wisdom of learning of the courage of my body the

learning of the courage of my body the

learning of the courage of my body the body that says not this one Erica not

body that says not this one Erica not

body that says not this one Erica not this time

this time

this time there’s the generosity and the love and

there’s the generosity and the love and

there’s the generosity and the love and the support of friends who start to come

the support of friends who start to come

the support of friends who start to come together to share and support us and to

together to share and support us and to

together to share and support us and to tell their own stories of similar

tell their own stories of similar

tell their own stories of similar struggles there’s a connection with

struggles there’s a connection with

struggles there’s a connection with every mother with every woman and their

every mother with every woman and their

every mother with every woman and their partners around the world for whom this

partners around the world for whom this

partners around the world for whom this has been an experience that they have

has been an experience that they have

has been an experience that they have shared maybe early in pregnancy maybe

shared maybe early in pregnancy maybe

shared maybe early in pregnancy maybe later maybe even later than that and I

later maybe even later than that and I

later maybe even later than that and I tell this story because we don’t always

tell this story because we don’t always

tell this story because we don’t always like to tell the stories that don’t have

like to tell the stories that don’t have

like to tell the stories that don’t have the happy-ever-after

the happy-ever-after

the happy-ever-after because we know that the roller coaster

because we know that the roller coaster

because we know that the roller coaster can go this way and it can go that and

can go this way and it can go that and

can go this way and it can go that and in our carefully curated Facebook well

in our carefully curated Facebook well

in our carefully curated Facebook well social media we tell just the happy

social media we tell just the happy

social media we tell just the happy stories no one posts on Facebook about

stories no one posts on Facebook about

stories no one posts on Facebook about their redundancy no one shares their

their redundancy no one shares their

their redundancy no one shares their scam without a heartbeat on Instagram

but those stories are just as valuable

but those stories are just as valuable those journeys still have their own

those journeys still have their own

those journeys still have their own reward

reward

reward and if we have the opportunity in the

and if we have the opportunity in the

and if we have the opportunity in the future to hold a chubby bubble of our

future to hold a chubby bubble of our

future to hold a chubby bubble of our own someday we’ll be able to wear the

own someday we’ll be able to wear the

own someday we’ll be able to wear the battle scars of that journey with great

battle scars of that journey with great

battle scars of that journey with great pride anything worth doing in our lives

pride anything worth doing in our lives

pride anything worth doing in our lives requires navigating adversity it

requires navigating adversity it

requires navigating adversity it requires the uncertainty of getting onto

requires the uncertainty of getting onto

requires the uncertainty of getting onto the roller coaster without knowing where

the roller coaster without knowing where

the roller coaster without knowing where you’re going to land and so often we

you’re going to land and so often we

you’re going to land and so often we compare ourselves to the complete and

compare ourselves to the complete and

compare ourselves to the complete and realized product you want to be a

realized product you want to be a

realized product you want to be a gymnast but you didn’t see Simone biles

gymnast but you didn’t see Simone biles

gymnast but you didn’t see Simone biles first tumble you want to be a poet but

first tumble you want to be a poet but

first tumble you want to be a poet but you didn’t read Bob Dylan’s first lines

you didn’t read Bob Dylan’s first lines

you didn’t read Bob Dylan’s first lines you want to be a great racing car driver

you want to be a great racing car driver

you want to be a great racing car driver but you weren’t day at there on the day

but you weren’t day at there on the day

but you weren’t day at there on the day that Lewis Hamilton started it’s easy

that Lewis Hamilton started it’s easy

that Lewis Hamilton started it’s easy for us to imagine that the things that

for us to imagine that the things that

for us to imagine that the things that we aspire to the people that we spoke to

we aspire to the people that we spoke to

we aspire to the people that we spoke to the people we see as bright shining

the people we see as bright shining

the people we see as bright shining stars that along the way they didn’t

stars that along the way they didn’t

stars that along the way they didn’t take the tumbles they didn’t make the

take the tumbles they didn’t make the

take the tumbles they didn’t make the mistakes they didn’t feel the

mistakes they didn’t feel the

mistakes they didn’t feel the vulnerabilities that we feel when we

vulnerabilities that we feel when we

vulnerabilities that we feel when we head out on our adventure but that’s

head out on our adventure but that’s

head out on our adventure but that’s myth and those tales they need telling

myth and those tales they need telling

myth and those tales they need telling so I promised you a map a map through

so I promised you a map a map through

so I promised you a map a map through which we could take the roller coaster

which we could take the roller coaster

which we could take the roller coaster with greater confidence and not only

with greater confidence and not only

with greater confidence and not only feel less uncomfortable about the ways

feel less uncomfortable about the ways

feel less uncomfortable about the ways that things can go wrong but in fact

that things can go wrong but in fact

that things can go wrong but in fact embrace them as markers on the road

embrace them as markers on the road

embrace them as markers on the road essential markers on the journey between

essential markers on the journey between

essential markers on the journey between where we are now and the full

where we are now and the full

where we are now and the full realization of your shine whatever that

realization of your shine whatever that

realization of your shine whatever that is whether it’s getting to climb a

is whether it’s getting to climb a

is whether it’s getting to climb a mountain or learning a new language or

mountain or learning a new language or

mountain or learning a new language or producing a healthy child so I trained

producing a healthy child so I trained

producing a healthy child so I trained as a storyteller many years ago

as a storyteller many years ago

as a storyteller many years ago I was introduced to this map from

I was introduced to this map from

I was introduced to this map from storytelling it’s called the hero’s

storytelling it’s called the hero’s

storytelling it’s called the hero’s journey and it was devised by man called

journey and it was devised by man called

journey and it was devised by man called Joseph Campbell he was a professor of

Joseph Campbell he was a professor of

Joseph Campbell he was a professor of myth and legend and one of the

myth and legend and one of the

myth and legend and one of the interesting things that he discovered

interesting things that he discovered

interesting things that he discovered was wherever he went in the world

was wherever he went in the world

was wherever he went in the world everyone knew what a hero was everyone

everyone knew what a hero was everyone

everyone knew what a hero was everyone knew what an adventure story a hero’s

knew what an adventure story a hero’s

knew what an adventure story a hero’s journey looked and felt like and whether

journey looked and felt like and whether

journey looked and felt like and whether he was looking at the religious stories

he was looking at the religious stories

he was looking at the religious stories or the folk stories of Africa or Harry

or the folk stories of Africa or Harry

or the folk stories of Africa or Harry Potter he discovered that we were

Potter he discovered that we were

Potter he discovered that we were telling the same story over and over

telling the same story over and over

telling the same story over and over again this one structure of the classic

again this one structure of the classic

again this one structure of the classic adventure story that all heroines and

adventure story that all heroines and

adventure story that all heroines and heroes go on when they decide to leave

heroes go on when they decide to leave

heroes go on when they decide to leave what’s familiar and head towards their

what’s familiar and head towards their

what’s familiar and head towards their shine now the interesting thing about

shine now the interesting thing about

shine now the interesting thing about this map is yeah it makes for a great

this map is yeah it makes for a great

this map is yeah it makes for a great story but you know what else

story but you know what else

story but you know what else it’s a map for our transformation it’s a

it’s a map for our transformation it’s a

it’s a map for our transformation it’s a map that you have traveled a journey you

map that you have traveled a journey you

map that you have traveled a journey you have traveled if you’ve ever left home

have traveled if you’ve ever left home

have traveled if you’ve ever left home if you’ve ever begun a new relationship

if you’ve ever begun a new relationship

if you’ve ever begun a new relationship or a new job

or a new job

or a new job if you’ve ever suffered an injury or

if you’ve ever suffered an injury or

if you’ve ever suffered an injury or something unexpected you have been on

something unexpected you have been on

something unexpected you have been on this hero’s journey so I want to share

this hero’s journey so I want to share

this hero’s journey so I want to share it with you now so the first chapter of

it with you now so the first chapter of

it with you now so the first chapter of your hero’s journey is the call that’s

your hero’s journey is the call that’s

your hero’s journey is the call that’s the moment when you get moved to do

the moment when you get moved to do

the moment when you get moved to do something that’s a little bit out of the

something that’s a little bit out of the

something that’s a little bit out of the ordinary it might be because someone

ordinary it might be because someone

ordinary it might be because someone gives you a magic set it might be

gives you a magic set it might be

gives you a magic set it might be because suddenly you wake up one day and

because suddenly you wake up one day and

because suddenly you wake up one day and go what am i doing but usually it’s

go what am i doing but usually it’s

go what am i doing but usually it’s difficult for us to accept the call

difficult for us to accept the call

difficult for us to accept the call because it requires us leaving what’s

because it requires us leaving what’s

because it requires us leaving what’s known and stepping out into this

known and stepping out into this

known and stepping out into this uncertain space so we often resist it

uncertain space so we often resist it

uncertain space so we often resist it initially in chapter 2 of your hero’s

initially in chapter 2 of your hero’s

initially in chapter 2 of your hero’s journey you make the commitment you

journey you make the commitment you

journey you make the commitment you decide that you’re gonna take action I

decide that you’re gonna take action I

decide that you’re gonna take action I am gonna run that half marathon I am

am gonna run that half marathon I am

am gonna run that half marathon I am gonna give up smoking I am going to do

gonna give up smoking I am going to do

gonna give up smoking I am going to do my magic show it’s the moment where you

my magic show it’s the moment where you

my magic show it’s the moment where you decide and make that public commitment

decide and make that public commitment

decide and make that public commitment that says I’m going to make that thing

that says I’m going to make that thing

that says I’m going to make that thing happen

happen

happen I’m going to give it a darn good go I’m

I’m going to give it a darn good go I’m

I’m going to give it a darn good go I’m going to give it everything that I have

going to give it everything that I have

going to give it everything that I have and usually at that point we’re filled

and usually at that point we’re filled

and usually at that point we’re filled with energy support and enthusiasm

with energy support and enthusiasm

with energy support and enthusiasm because we’re ready

because we’re ready

because we’re ready hit the ground running so we start off

hit the ground running so we start off

hit the ground running so we start off really well in Chapter three you enter

really well in Chapter three you enter

really well in Chapter three you enter the heart of the quest that’s when the

the heart of the quest that’s when the

the heart of the quest that’s when the trials and the tribulations start to

trials and the tribulations start to

trials and the tribulations start to happen if you think about it any great

happen if you think about it any great

happen if you think about it any great story wouldn’t be so great if it was

story wouldn’t be so great if it was

story wouldn’t be so great if it was just really easy to do with it so

just really easy to do with it so

just really easy to do with it so they’ve got to be these moments where

they’ve got to be these moments where

they’ve got to be these moments where you’re tested where your resilience has

you’re tested where your resilience has

you’re tested where your resilience has tested where your commitment is tested

tested where your commitment is tested

tested where your commitment is tested where things are hard and that’s the

where things are hard and that’s the

where things are hard and that’s the nature of the quest it starts to get

nature of the quest it starts to get

nature of the quest it starts to get tricky yeah we start discovering that

tricky yeah we start discovering that

tricky yeah we start discovering that the banana trick is not going to be as

the banana trick is not going to be as

the banana trick is not going to be as easy or even as good as we had hoped in

easy or even as good as we had hoped in

easy or even as good as we had hoped in Chapter four we enter the belly of the

Chapter four we enter the belly of the

Chapter four we enter the belly of the whale so-called because of the moment

whale so-called because of the moment

whale so-called because of the moment when Jonah finds himself inside of the

when Jonah finds himself inside of the

when Jonah finds himself inside of the heart of the whale it’s the time where

heart of the whale it’s the time where

heart of the whale it’s the time where we’re way too far gone to scuttle back

we’re way too far gone to scuttle back

we’re way too far gone to scuttle back and pretend we’re not doing that thing

and pretend we’re not doing that thing

and pretend we’re not doing that thing and yet we look ahead and we see greater

and yet we look ahead and we see greater

and yet we look ahead and we see greater challenge adversity even a battle of

challenge adversity even a battle of

challenge adversity even a battle of some kind so it’s the time at which you

some kind so it’s the time at which you

some kind so it’s the time at which you and I start to doubt ourselves we start

and I start to doubt ourselves we start

and I start to doubt ourselves we start to doubt our capacity to do what it is

to doubt our capacity to do what it is

to doubt our capacity to do what it is that needs to be done and this is an

that needs to be done and this is an

that needs to be done and this is an essential part of any quest in Chapter

essential part of any quest in Chapter

essential part of any quest in Chapter five we find ourselves at the supreme

five we find ourselves at the supreme

five we find ourselves at the supreme ordeal the grand battle if you’re Harry

ordeal the grand battle if you’re Harry

ordeal the grand battle if you’re Harry Potter then you’re fighting Voldemort if

Potter then you’re fighting Voldemort if

Potter then you’re fighting Voldemort if you’re me at five and you’re doing a

you’re me at five and you’re doing a

you’re me at five and you’re doing a magic show but it could be any defining

magic show but it could be any defining

magic show but it could be any defining moment that puts to the test the thing

moment that puts to the test the thing

moment that puts to the test the thing you wish to shine could be the race it

you wish to shine could be the race it

you wish to shine could be the race it could be traversing the mountain it

could be traversing the mountain it

could be traversing the mountain it could be speaking your first line in

could be speaking your first line in

could be speaking your first line in Italian it could be standing up on stage

Italian it could be standing up on stage

Italian it could be standing up on stage it could be the first day of your play

it could be the first day of your play

it could be the first day of your play whatever it is that’s the defining

whatever it is that’s the defining

whatever it is that’s the defining moment the apex of what you have been

moment the apex of what you have been

moment the apex of what you have been striving for and sometimes that apex and

striving for and sometimes that apex and

striving for and sometimes that apex and that battle doesn’t result in what you’d

that battle doesn’t result in what you’d

that battle doesn’t result in what you’d hoped or expected maybe not the first

hoped or expected maybe not the first

hoped or expected maybe not the first time round maybe the next maybe it just

time round maybe the next maybe it just

time round maybe the next maybe it just looks different to how you thought it

looks different to how you thought it

looks different to how you thought it would be but nevertheless it’s that

would be but nevertheless it’s that

would be but nevertheless it’s that crucial moment when you define yourself

crucial moment when you define yourself

crucial moment when you define yourself through all the work you’ve done in your

through all the work you’ve done in your

through all the work you’ve done in your experience and in Chapter six we

experience and in Chapter six we

experience and in Chapter six we encounter the return the return is when

encounter the return the return is when

encounter the return the return is when the heroine returns back to the ordinary

the heroine returns back to the ordinary

the heroine returns back to the ordinary world transformed by her experience

world transformed by her experience

world transformed by her experience when the hero returns holding his golden

when the hero returns holding his golden

when the hero returns holding his golden fleece or his tablets of stone and he’s

fleece or his tablets of stone and he’s

fleece or his tablets of stone and he’s able to say to those who he cut turns to

able to say to those who he cut turns to

able to say to those who he cut turns to I did it and you could do it too

I did it and you could do it too

I did it and you could do it too to hold that candle for them or even to

to hold that candle for them or even to

to hold that candle for them or even to say I did it and it didn’t work out the

say I did it and it didn’t work out the

say I did it and it didn’t work out the way that I expected but here all the

way that I expected but here all the

way that I expected but here all the enormous things that I have learnt along

enormous things that I have learnt along

enormous things that I have learnt along the journey we are all meant to shine as

the journey we are all meant to shine as

the journey we are all meant to shine as children do and when we take that shine

children do and when we take that shine

children do and when we take that shine and we use it as a force for good we can

and we use it as a force for good we can

and we use it as a force for good we can be a positive force in the world in our

be a positive force in the world in our

be a positive force in the world in our own lives in our own communities in

own lives in our own communities in

own lives in our own communities in order to be able to do it we have to be

order to be able to do it we have to be

order to be able to do it we have to be up for the journey being his own reward

up for the journey being his own reward

up for the journey being his own reward we have to be up for navigating

we have to be up for navigating

we have to be up for navigating dangerous territory uncharted territory

dangerous territory uncharted territory

dangerous territory uncharted territory for the uncertainty of the outcome we

for the uncertainty of the outcome we

for the uncertainty of the outcome we have to be able to honor our battle

have to be able to honor our battle

have to be able to honor our battle scars and the stories that we tell to

scars and the stories that we tell to

scars and the stories that we tell to share with others so if you want to be a

share with others so if you want to be a

share with others so if you want to be a bright shining star whether that’s by

bright shining star whether that’s by

bright shining star whether that’s by learning a new language whether that’s

learning a new language whether that’s

learning a new language whether that’s by learning a new skill whether it’s by

by learning a new skill whether it’s by

by learning a new skill whether it’s by singing a new song whether it’s through

singing a new song whether it’s through

singing a new song whether it’s through a healthy child you have to take the

a healthy child you have to take the

a healthy child you have to take the roller coaster thank