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why believe everyone here and everyone
why believe everyone here and everyone in the world actually is born for
in the world actually is born for
in the world actually is born for breakthrough can break through any
breakthrough can break through any
breakthrough can break through any barrier no matter how challenging and
barrier no matter how challenging and
barrier no matter how challenging and how gnarly and difficult it is but only
how gnarly and difficult it is but only
how gnarly and difficult it is but only if we know how to master our own biology
if we know how to master our own biology
if we know how to master our own biology so this story I’m going to tell you
so this story I’m going to tell you
so this story I’m going to tell you starts about 15 years ago when I had
starts about 15 years ago when I had
starts about 15 years ago when I had just come out of this place number 10
just come out of this place number 10
just come out of this place number 10 Downing Street with my then business
Downing Street with my then business
Downing Street with my then business partner and in the material world
partner and in the material world
partner and in the material world I had everything you could imagine there
I had everything you could imagine there
I had everything you could imagine there was to offer I had a fast growing
was to offer I had a fast growing
was to offer I had a fast growing company I was in The Guardian and The
company I was in The Guardian and The
company I was in The Guardian and The Times and the FT as a young entrepreneur
Times and the FT as a young entrepreneur
Times and the FT as a young entrepreneur 28 I was a multi-millionaire on paper
28 I was a multi-millionaire on paper
28 I was a multi-millionaire on paper and for some reason I found it
and for some reason I found it
and for some reason I found it particularly exciting that had lots of
particularly exciting that had lots of
particularly exciting that had lots of gold airline loyalty cards I was flying
gold airline loyalty cards I was flying
gold airline loyalty cards I was flying around the world seemed to be a big
around the world seemed to be a big
around the world seemed to be a big thing at the time what I didn’t have was
thing at the time what I didn’t have was
thing at the time what I didn’t have was inner peace I didn’t have an
inner peace I didn’t have an
inner peace I didn’t have an organization or a company built around
organization or a company built around
organization or a company built around my deepest purpose I didn’t have my
my deepest purpose I didn’t have my
my deepest purpose I didn’t have my leadership potential as an agent of
leadership potential as an agent of
leadership potential as an agent of change in the world at its best and in
change in the world at its best and in
change in the world at its best and in fact about a year after this photo was
fact about a year after this photo was
fact about a year after this photo was taken when I had a thriving business in
taken when I had a thriving business in
taken when I had a thriving business in central London working all over the
central London working all over the
central London working all over the world everything crumbled and I engaged
world everything crumbled and I engaged
world everything crumbled and I engaged in a full entrepreneurial burnout
in a full entrepreneurial burnout
in a full entrepreneurial burnout experience and that burnout brought all
experience and that burnout brought all
experience and that burnout brought all the depression the lights suffered since
the depression the lights suffered since
the depression the lights suffered since a teenager back
a teenager back
a teenager back I got a flare-up of a condition I’d been
I got a flare-up of a condition I’d been
I got a flare-up of a condition I’d been diagnosed with called fibromyalgia and
diagnosed with called fibromyalgia and
diagnosed with called fibromyalgia and where every movement was agony and I
where every movement was agony and I
where every movement was agony and I decided at that point made a full
decided at that point made a full
decided at that point made a full commitment to do whatever it took to
commitment to do whatever it took to
commitment to do whatever it took to never experience that again
never experience that again
never experience that again and it’s what I now call a bifurcation
and it’s what I now call a bifurcation
and it’s what I now call a bifurcation point I had a choice whether to take a
point I had a choice whether to take a
point I had a choice whether to take a high road or a low row the low road of
high road or a low row the low road of
high road or a low row the low road of further breakdown not dealing with what
further breakdown not dealing with what
further breakdown not dealing with what was really going on for me deep with him
was really going on for me deep with him
was really going on for me deep with him or to see if I could master this process
or to see if I could master this process
or to see if I could master this process of transformation I now call
of transformation I now call
of transformation I now call breakthrough and so I decided to do
breakthrough and so I decided to do
breakthrough and so I decided to do whatever it took to do that and I had
whatever it took to do that and I had
whatever it took to do that and I had already had a degree in medical science
already had a degree in medical science
already had a degree in medical science I wanted to be a psychiatrist as early
I wanted to be a psychiatrist as early
I wanted to be a psychiatrist as early in my early 20s I had six years of
in my early 20s I had six years of
in my early 20s I had six years of therapy by then I studied philosophy in
therapy by then I studied philosophy in
therapy by then I studied philosophy in quite some depth and I knew that I had
quite some depth and I knew that I had
quite some depth and I knew that I had pretty much the best education money can
pretty much the best education money can
pretty much the best education money can buy in the West and all that time I’d
buy in the West and all that time I’d
buy in the West and all that time I’d never been taught even for one hour how
never been taught even for one hour how
never been taught even for one hour how to master myself how to understand my
to master myself how to understand my
to master myself how to understand my own emotions my thoughts and my
own emotions my thoughts and my
own emotions my thoughts and my behaviors so that was 13 14 years ago I
behaviors so that was 13 14 years ago I
behaviors so that was 13 14 years ago I went on the path of breakthrough and
went on the path of breakthrough and
went on the path of breakthrough and before I continue I want to make this
before I continue I want to make this
before I continue I want to make this alive for you as much as it is for me
alive for you as much as it is for me
alive for you as much as it is for me out here on the red spot and to ask you
out here on the red spot and to ask you
out here on the red spot and to ask you right now go alive and direct into your
right now go alive and direct into your
right now go alive and direct into your life into your world
life into your world
life into your world what breakthrough do you want today
what breakthrough do you want today
what breakthrough do you want today whether it’s in your life the
whether it’s in your life the
whether it’s in your life the relationships in your community in your
relationships in your community in your
relationships in your community in your organization or in our world whatever
organization or in our world whatever
organization or in our world whatever level of the system you are brought to
level of the system you are brought to
level of the system you are brought to in this moment what does your truth say
in this moment what does your truth say
in this moment what does your truth say to you about what you want to break
to you about what you want to break
to you about what you want to break through today and so therefore the rest
through today and so therefore the rest
through today and so therefore the rest of this short talk I’m going to invite
of this short talk I’m going to invite
of this short talk I’m going to invite you to hold that with you and see if
you to hold that with you and see if
you to hold that with you and see if anything that I share my open up some
anything that I share my open up some
anything that I share my open up some space for your own breakthrough so the
space for your own breakthrough so the
space for your own breakthrough so the reason why breakthroughs are so
reason why breakthroughs are so
reason why breakthroughs are so important is because the way the world
important is because the way the world
important is because the way the world is today is very different from how it
is today is very different from how it
is today is very different from how it was two or three hundred years ago you
was two or three hundred years ago you
was two or three hundred years ago you may have heard the term vuko it’s a US
may have heard the term vuko it’s a US
may have heard the term vuko it’s a US military term originally I’ve added a
military term originally I’ve added a
military term originally I’ve added a little bit to it to try and a capsule
little bit to it to try and a capsule
little bit to it to try and a capsule eight why the world needs us to break
eight why the world needs us to break
eight why the world needs us to break through so bucha stands for volatile as
through so bucha stands for volatile as
through so bucha stands for volatile as in the world is likely to change usually
in the world is likely to change usually
in the world is likely to change usually for the worse
for the worse
for the worse it’s uncertain we can’t see around the
it’s uncertain we can’t see around the
it’s uncertain we can’t see around the corner we can’t see what’s going to
corner we can’t see what’s going to
corner we can’t see what’s going to happen in a month let alone a year or
happen in a month let alone a year or
happen in a month let alone a year or five years and the news plays it out
five years and the news plays it out
five years and the news plays it out regularly it’s complex there are
regularly it’s complex there are
regularly it’s complex there are connections between things that we can’t
connections between things that we can’t
connections between things that we can’t always understand it’s ambiguous the
always understand it’s ambiguous the
always understand it’s ambiguous the same thing that you see mean something
same thing that you see mean something
same thing that you see mean something different to me I see us it is exciting
different to me I see us it is exciting
different to me I see us it is exciting you see it’s terrifying
you see it’s terrifying
you see it’s terrifying data can be taken and made into all
data can be taken and made into all
data can be taken and made into all sorts of different stories it’s also
sorts of different stories it’s also
sorts of different stories it’s also networked there are connections between
networked there are connections between
networked there are connections between people places and products things that
people places and products things that
people places and products things that have never been existed in the whole
have never been existed in the whole
have never been existed in the whole history of the human species and perhaps
history of the human species and perhaps
history of the human species and perhaps most importantly it’s stressed our
most importantly it’s stressed our
most importantly it’s stressed our ecosystems are stressed our economies
ecosystems are stressed our economies
ecosystems are stressed our economies are stressed our governments are
are stressed our governments are
are stressed our governments are stressed our companies are stressed and
stressed our companies are stressed and
stressed our companies are stressed and perhaps above all most importantly we
perhaps above all most importantly we
perhaps above all most importantly we are stressed depression is now the
are stressed depression is now the
are stressed depression is now the number one cause of ill health in the
number one cause of ill health in the
number one cause of ill health in the world suicide kills more than war and
world suicide kills more than war and
world suicide kills more than war and murder put together every year so in
murder put together every year so in
murder put together every year so in this reality of constant change we have
this reality of constant change we have
this reality of constant change we have a choice to make because everything we
a choice to make because everything we
a choice to make because everything we do every product that we sell as a
do every product that we sell as a
do every product that we sell as a company every service we provide as an
company every service we provide as an
company every service we provide as an organization every way we lead people
organization every way we lead people
organization every way we lead people everywhere we talk in our relationships
everywhere we talk in our relationships
everywhere we talk in our relationships is either forging the future and
is either forging the future and
is either forging the future and becoming more relevant or it’s failing
becoming more relevant or it’s failing
becoming more relevant or it’s failing it and becoming less relevant so we have
it and becoming less relevant so we have
it and becoming less relevant so we have this choice do we learn how to
this choice do we learn how to
this choice do we learn how to increasingly forge the future in
increasingly forge the future in
increasingly forge the future in whatever level that means that it’s
whatever level that means that it’s
whatever level that means that it’s taking our families on a journey of
taking our families on a journey of
taking our families on a journey of transformation away from how they used
transformation away from how they used
transformation away from how they used to be in the 50s
to be in the 50s
to be in the 50s organizations that are running business
organizations that are running business
organizations that are running business models from the 80s that just are not
models from the 80s that just are not
models from the 80s that just are not working today because the most easy way
working today because the most easy way
working today because the most easy way for me to explain this is if you use the
for me to explain this is if you use the
for me to explain this is if you use the dating habits the dating beliefs the
dating habits the dating beliefs the
dating habits the dating beliefs the dating emotions you had when you were 13
dating emotions you had when you were 13
dating emotions you had when you were 13 or 14 years old to find a conscious
or 14 years old to find a conscious
or 14 years old to find a conscious intimate committed relationship when
intimate committed relationship when
intimate committed relationship when you’re 35 it’s probably going to be a
you’re 35 it’s probably going to be a
you’re 35 it’s probably going to be a fail and that’s the same for all the
fail and that’s the same for all the
fail and that’s the same for all the models we use to run every organization
models we use to run every organization
models we use to run every organization on
on
on planet if you’re using old models which
planet if you’re using old models which
planet if you’re using old models which most organizations are and you’re going
most organizations are and you’re going
most organizations are and you’re going to start to feel them fail and that
to start to feel them fail and that
to start to feel them fail and that failure will show up in all sorts of
failure will show up in all sorts of
failure will show up in all sorts of interesting different ways it will show
interesting different ways it will show
interesting different ways it will show up in products that don’t seem to work
up in products that don’t seem to work
up in products that don’t seem to work it was showing staff not wanting to be
it was showing staff not wanting to be
it was showing staff not wanting to be there and not being engaged when they
there and not being engaged when they
there and not being engaged when they are there and so we have this choice so
are there and so we have this choice so
are there and so we have this choice so the question is then why is it so
the question is then why is it so
the question is then why is it so challenging what can we just go okay our
challenging what can we just go okay our
challenging what can we just go okay our model is not working where I’m leading
model is not working where I’m leading
model is not working where I’m leading these people not relevant anymore
these people not relevant anymore
these people not relevant anymore the way I’m talking to my loved one
the way I’m talking to my loved one
the way I’m talking to my loved one doesn’t seem to be creating a nourishing
doesn’t seem to be creating a nourishing
doesn’t seem to be creating a nourishing family environment so I’m just going to
family environment so I’m just going to
family environment so I’m just going to change it and that is for me the great
change it and that is for me the great
change it and that is for me the great question of the human experience I’m
question of the human experience I’m
question of the human experience I’m going to give you a tiny example of how
going to give you a tiny example of how
going to give you a tiny example of how powerful this challenge is that have
powerful this challenge is that have
powerful this challenge is that have deep this challenges this is a six
deep this challenges this is a six
deep this challenges this is a six letter anagram I’d like you to put your
letter anagram I’d like you to put your
letter anagram I’d like you to put your hand up and don’t say anything but your
hand up and don’t say anything but your
hand up and don’t say anything but your hand up when you have done it
so – that’s absolute 3 thank you very
so – that’s absolute 3 thank you very much
much
much that’s actually a probably a record as a
that’s actually a probably a record as a
that’s actually a probably a record as a percentage of the room I’ve shown this
percentage of the room I’ve shown this
percentage of the room I’ve shown this to maybe 50,000 of possibly that some of
to maybe 50,000 of possibly that some of
to maybe 50,000 of possibly that some of the smartest people in the world
the smartest people in the world
the smartest people in the world including people at Yale Oxford very
including people at Yale Oxford very
including people at Yale Oxford very large companies and only a handful have
large companies and only a handful have
large companies and only a handful have ever gotten the answer is of course
ever gotten the answer is of course
ever gotten the answer is of course cubism for those who have three of you
cubism for those who have three of you
cubism for those who have three of you the rest of us we’re probably going be
the rest of us we’re probably going be
the rest of us we’re probably going be music be music be music mmm be music and
music be music be music mmm be music and
music be music be music mmm be music and this is the heart of our biology we have
this is the heart of our biology we have
this is the heart of our biology we have an answer which isn’t right we know it’s
an answer which isn’t right we know it’s
an answer which isn’t right we know it’s not brilliant but it’s the best we’ve
not brilliant but it’s the best we’ve
not brilliant but it’s the best we’ve got and so we just keep saying it be
got and so we just keep saying it be
got and so we just keep saying it be music the music wonder what it could be
music the music wonder what it could be
music the music wonder what it could be music so the question is what’s going on
music so the question is what’s going on
music so the question is what’s going on in here or rather in here and here
in here or rather in here and here
in here or rather in here and here because I don’t believe the mind is just
because I don’t believe the mind is just
because I don’t believe the mind is just in the brain and latest research shows
in the brain and latest research shows
in the brain and latest research shows that our mind and our body are totally
that our mind and our body are totally
that our mind and our body are totally interlinked there one thing we feel with
interlinked there one thing we feel with
interlinked there one thing we feel with our heads as much as we do with our
our heads as much as we do with our
our heads as much as we do with our hearts so what are we doing what’s going
hearts so what are we doing what’s going
hearts so what are we doing what’s going on in here during this moment so a
on in here during this moment so a
on in here during this moment so a breakthrough came in 2012 when a team
breakthrough came in 2012 when a team
breakthrough came in 2012 when a team put some of these guys some rappers into
put some of these guys some rappers into
put some of these guys some rappers into an fMRI scanner an fMRI scanner
an fMRI scanner an fMRI scanner
an fMRI scanner an fMRI scanner basically monitors changing activity in
basically monitors changing activity in
basically monitors changing activity in the brain and they asked these rappers
the brain and they asked these rappers
the brain and they asked these rappers to do two different things one was to
to do two different things one was to
to do two different things one was to share or perform lyrics they’d already
share or perform lyrics they’d already
share or perform lyrics they’d already written so performing live and the other
written so performing live and the other
written so performing live and the other was to totally improvise in the moment
was to totally improvise in the moment
was to totally improvise in the moment which is about as close as we can get
which is about as close as we can get
which is about as close as we can get the pure moment of creativity a pure
the pure moment of creativity a pure
the pure moment of creativity a pure moment of the raw material we need most
moment of the raw material we need most
moment of the raw material we need most to have a breakthrough creative change
to have a breakthrough creative change
to have a breakthrough creative change and what they found was deeply
and what they found was deeply
and what they found was deeply fascinating they found that the part of
fascinating they found that the part of
fascinating they found that the part of our brain that we associate with being
our brain that we associate with being
our brain that we associate with being smart was actually less active during
smart was actually less active during
smart was actually less active during improvisation than it was during the
improvisation than it was during the
improvisation than it was during the moments when usually active and smart so
moments when usually active and smart so
moments when usually active and smart so actually less smart when we’re creating
actually less smart when we’re creating
actually less smart when we’re creating than we are when we’re doing other
than we are when we’re doing other
than we are when we’re doing other things
things
things and this may already give us a glimpse
and this may already give us a glimpse
and this may already give us a glimpse of why so many organizations don’t
of why so many organizations don’t
of why so many organizations don’t change in time for them to stay healthy
change in time for them to stay healthy
change in time for them to stay healthy because they’re full of really smart
because they’re full of really smart
because they’re full of really smart people who are paid to be smart and
people who are paid to be smart and
people who are paid to be smart and since then over the last few years
since then over the last few years
since then over the last few years they’ve been a number of more studies
they’ve been a number of more studies
they’ve been a number of more studies there’s been a rash of science about
there’s been a rash of science about
there’s been a rash of science about this part of our brain how our brain
this part of our brain how our brain
this part of our brain how our brain works and this is a summary of what the
works and this is a summary of what the
works and this is a summary of what the picture is this is basically as as fresh
picture is this is basically as as fresh
picture is this is basically as as fresh as you’re going to get it it seems like
as you’re going to get it it seems like
as you’re going to get it it seems like we have two fundamental networks in our
we have two fundamental networks in our
we have two fundamental networks in our brain so you should think of the brain
brain so you should think of the brain
brain so you should think of the brain as modules and now people think of it as
as modules and now people think of it as
as modules and now people think of it as networks so we have this it’s called the
networks so we have this it’s called the
networks so we have this it’s called the cognitive control network how does what
cognitive control network how does what
cognitive control network how does what it says on the tin it’s about control
it says on the tin it’s about control
it says on the tin it’s about control and certainty and then we have this
and certainty and then we have this
and certainty and then we have this other network called the default mode
other network called the default mode
other network called the default mode network which before a few years ago no
network which before a few years ago no
network which before a few years ago no one had any clue existed and in fact
one had any clue existed and in fact
one had any clue existed and in fact neuroscientists believe that will not
neuroscientists believe that will not
neuroscientists believe that will not focus on something our brain is inactive
focus on something our brain is inactive
focus on something our brain is inactive that’s not true when we’re not focused
that’s not true when we’re not focused
that’s not true when we’re not focused on something our default mode network
on something our default mode network
on something our default mode network operates it’s also called the
operates it’s also called the
operates it’s also called the daydreaming Network it’s the network
daydreaming Network it’s the network
daydreaming Network it’s the network that we use when we are creating when we
that we use when we are creating when we
that we use when we are creating when we are thinking new thoughts in fact Fran’s
are thinking new thoughts in fact Fran’s
are thinking new thoughts in fact Fran’s Castro the novelist I read recently in a
Castro the novelist I read recently in a
Castro the novelist I read recently in a biography of his one of the most
biography of his one of the most
biography of his one of the most inventive novelists in the history of
inventive novelists in the history of
inventive novelists in the history of the world used to spend up to eight
the world used to spend up to eight
the world used to spend up to eight hours a day lying down on the floor
hours a day lying down on the floor
hours a day lying down on the floor daydreaming I’ll ask you myself how many
daydreaming I’ll ask you myself how many
daydreaming I’ll ask you myself how many of us would get encouraged to do that at
of us would get encouraged to do that at
of us would get encouraged to do that at work right so that’s the two networks
work right so that’s the two networks
work right so that’s the two networks and so in control mode we’re really good
and so in control mode we’re really good
and so in control mode we’re really good at solving familiar problems we’ve know
at solving familiar problems we’ve know
at solving familiar problems we’ve know that we worked had to do this done it
that we worked had to do this done it
that we worked had to do this done it before just do it again so it’s the
before just do it again so it’s the
before just do it again so it’s the realm of best practice this is how we do
realm of best practice this is how we do
realm of best practice this is how we do things around here this is the right way
things around here this is the right way
things around here this is the right way to do things this is the safe way to do
to do things this is the safe way to do
to do things this is the safe way to do things this is the smart way to do
things this is the smart way to do
things this is the smart way to do things it’s really powerful but when
things it’s really powerful but when
things it’s really powerful but when it’s an extreme it tends toward
it’s an extreme it tends toward
it’s an extreme it tends toward organisations and families and
organisations and families and
organisations and families and communities that are perfectionist got
communities that are perfectionist got
communities that are perfectionist got to find the right way rather than maybe
to find the right way rather than maybe
to find the right way rather than maybe the most appropriate way or the way
the most appropriate way or the way
the most appropriate way or the way that’s going to fit the future got to
that’s going to fit the future got to
that’s going to fit the future got to find the right way then we have this
find the right way then we have this
find the right way then we have this other mode create and connect mode which
other mode create and connect mode which
other mode create and connect mode which is about new problems we’ve never ever
is about new problems we’ve never ever
is about new problems we’ve never ever seen before
seen before
seen before and so our ability to use this
and so our ability to use this
and so our ability to use this daydreaming mode this allowed us to be
daydreaming mode this allowed us to be
daydreaming mode this allowed us to be here in this room because it’s the thing
here in this room because it’s the thing
here in this room because it’s the thing that’s been able allowed us to be able
that’s been able allowed us to be able
that’s been able allowed us to be able to create new ways in with problems that
to create new ways in with problems that
to create new ways in with problems that we’ve never sold before just the realm
we’ve never sold before just the realm
we’ve never sold before just the realm of breakthroughs this is a realm of
of breakthroughs this is a realm of
of breakthroughs this is a realm of creating with trains rather than trying
creating with trains rather than trying
creating with trains rather than trying to stop change happening and the key
to stop change happening and the key
to stop change happening and the key thing about this model is as a third
thing about this model is as a third
thing about this model is as a third network called the salience network
network called the salience network
network called the salience network which is rooted down in the emotion
which is rooted down in the emotion
which is rooted down in the emotion parts of our brain and so what
parts of our brain and so what
parts of our brain and so what scientists discovered is that the what
scientists discovered is that the what
scientists discovered is that the what determines the mode were in whether it’s
determines the mode were in whether it’s
determines the mode were in whether it’s control and protect or whether it’s
control and protect or whether it’s
control and protect or whether it’s create and connect is our emotions now
create and connect is our emotions now
create and connect is our emotions now this makes perfect sense because if you
this makes perfect sense because if you
this makes perfect sense because if you imagine that we’ve evolved to do really
imagine that we’ve evolved to do really
imagine that we’ve evolved to do really one thing first get out the way of this
one thing first get out the way of this
one thing first get out the way of this stuff and if you kiss coming tight
stuff and if you kiss coming tight
stuff and if you kiss coming tight coming towards you and you’re going hold
coming towards you and you’re going hold
coming towards you and you’re going hold on a minute I’m going to daydream and
on a minute I’m going to daydream and
on a minute I’m going to daydream and think of a crazy breakthrough we’re
think of a crazy breakthrough we’re
think of a crazy breakthrough we’re going to have a disruptive innovation
going to have a disruptive innovation
going to have a disruptive innovation it’s going to be awesome just wait a
it’s going to be awesome just wait a
it’s going to be awesome just wait a minute you’re dead so our system our
minute you’re dead so our system our
minute you’re dead so our system our biology has been very smart it said ok
biology has been very smart it said ok
biology has been very smart it said ok the priority number one is survival for
the priority number one is survival for
the priority number one is survival for tomorrow then if you’re still around we
tomorrow then if you’re still around we
tomorrow then if you’re still around we can have you thriving have you creating
can have you thriving have you creating
can have you thriving have you creating brilliant system so if we feel emotions
brilliant system so if we feel emotions
brilliant system so if we feel emotions like these then we are wired to go into
like these then we are wired to go into
like these then we are wired to go into control and protect mode if we
control and protect mode if we
control and protect mode if we experience emotions like these we open
experience emotions like these we open
experience emotions like these we open our hearts we open our minds we open our
our hearts we open our minds we open our
our hearts we open our minds we open our eyes and we go into creating connect
eyes and we go into creating connect
eyes and we go into creating connect mode this is just how we are wired now
mode this is just how we are wired now
mode this is just how we are wired now have a look at this list of emotions and
have a look at this list of emotions and
have a look at this list of emotions and think to yourself how much does my
think to yourself how much does my
think to yourself how much does my family whether you live with flatmates
family whether you live with flatmates
family whether you live with flatmates partners children parents how much you
partners children parents how much you
partners children parents how much you spend in the emotions of control and
spend in the emotions of control and
spend in the emotions of control and protect and how much you spend in the
protect and how much you spend in the
protect and how much you spend in the emotions of create and connect and I
emotions of create and connect and I
emotions of create and connect and I think about your organization how much
think about your organization how much
think about your organization how much do you spend on the right and how much
do you spend on the right and how much
do you spend on the right and how much you spend on the left and there’s no
you spend on the left and there’s no
you spend on the left and there’s no better or worse they’re both really
better or worse they’re both really
better or worse they’re both really valuable you want both
valuable you want both
valuable you want both but we want to be able to know how to
but we want to be able to know how to
but we want to be able to know how to consciously choose which mode were in to
consciously choose which mode were in to
consciously choose which mode were in to fit the moment so if you want to make a
fit the moment so if you want to make a
fit the moment so if you want to make a cup of tea there’s no need to spend a
cup of tea there’s no need to spend a
cup of tea there’s no need to spend a lot of cognitive creative effort on it
lot of cognitive creative effort on it
lot of cognitive creative effort on it but if you want to speak to our children
but if you want to speak to our children
but if you want to speak to our children in a new way when they trigger us with
in a new way when they trigger us with
in a new way when they trigger us with something that’s really challenging we
something that’s really challenging we
something that’s really challenging we might just want to stop a moment and get
might just want to stop a moment and get
might just want to stop a moment and get out of control and protect and invent
out of control and protect and invent
out of control and protect and invent the future with them and this is
the future with them and this is
the future with them and this is particularly powerful organizations
particularly powerful organizations
particularly powerful organizations where I spend a lot of my time helping
where I spend a lot of my time helping
where I spend a lot of my time helping them understand how to stop doing the
them understand how to stop doing the
them understand how to stop doing the same thing over and over again expecting
same thing over and over again expecting
same thing over and over again expecting it to work better in 2018 than it did in
it to work better in 2018 than it did in
it to work better in 2018 than it did in 1983 and it means getting people in to
1983 and it means getting people in to
1983 and it means getting people in to create and connect and beautifully we
create and connect and beautifully we
create and connect and beautifully we now have some evidence about how
now have some evidence about how
now have some evidence about how powerful this is Google one of the
powerful this is Google one of the
powerful this is Google one of the world’s most innovative companies spent
world’s most innovative companies spent
world’s most innovative companies spent over ten years studying the social
over ten years studying the social
over ten years studying the social social sciences what makes the best
social sciences what makes the best
social sciences what makes the best teams they studied over a hundred teams
teams they studied over a hundred teams
teams they studied over a hundred teams and they couldn’t work it out for year
and they couldn’t work it out for year
and they couldn’t work it out for year after year it wasn’t smart it wasn’t
after year it wasn’t smart it wasn’t
after year it wasn’t smart it wasn’t that usual performance coaching it
that usual performance coaching it
that usual performance coaching it wasn’t all these things they were all
wasn’t all these things they were all
wasn’t all these things they were all not giving us the truth until they came
not giving us the truth until they came
not giving us the truth until they came across one thing which psychologists
across one thing which psychologists
across one thing which psychologists call psychological safety connection
call psychological safety connection
call psychological safety connection feeling okay to risk new thoughts to be
feeling okay to risk new thoughts to be
feeling okay to risk new thoughts to be vulnerable to experiment to have new
vulnerable to experiment to have new
vulnerable to experiment to have new ideas without being shamed and without
ideas without being shamed and without
ideas without being shamed and without being told off without being told that’s
being told off without being told that’s
being told off without being told that’s not how we do things around here
not how we do things around here
not how we do things around here are you crazy so the question all our
are you crazy so the question all our
are you crazy so the question all our lives are based upon is how do we learn
lives are based upon is how do we learn
lives are based upon is how do we learn how to let go of this the thing that’s
how to let go of this the thing that’s
how to let go of this the thing that’s in our mind that’s stopping us have the
in our mind that’s stopping us have the
in our mind that’s stopping us have the new idea because the great tragicomedy
new idea because the great tragicomedy
new idea because the great tragicomedy of the human experience is that we have
of the human experience is that we have
of the human experience is that we have to let go of the old before we get the
to let go of the old before we get the
to let go of the old before we get the new and all of us would love to have the
new and all of us would love to have the
new and all of us would love to have the new before we have to let go of the old
new before we have to let go of the old
new before we have to let go of the old you want the new boyfriend before we let
you want the new boyfriend before we let
you want the new boyfriend before we let go of the old one you want the new
go of the old one you want the new
go of the old one you want the new business model that’s creating loads of
business model that’s creating loads of
business model that’s creating loads of profit and growth in our stock price
profit and growth in our stock price
profit and growth in our stock price before we let go of the old one and
before we let go of the old one and
before we let go of the old one and unfortunately or maybe fortunately
unfortunately or maybe fortunately
unfortunately or maybe fortunately that’s just not how it works
so it all becomes about in these crazy
so it all becomes about in these crazy times that we’re in and I think we can
times that we’re in and I think we can
times that we’re in and I think we can all agree the times are pretty strange
all agree the times are pretty strange
all agree the times are pretty strange interesting that the Chinese might say
interesting that the Chinese might say
interesting that the Chinese might say is to be able to know how to switch out
is to be able to know how to switch out
is to be able to know how to switch out of this default mode that we’ve been in
of this default mode that we’ve been in
of this default mode that we’ve been in probably four years since we were very
probably four years since we were very
probably four years since we were very young and first experience threats and
young and first experience threats and
young and first experience threats and concerns and anxiety and shoes in the
concerns and anxiety and shoes in the
concerns and anxiety and shoes in the moments we need to had to get into this
moments we need to had to get into this
moments we need to had to get into this place in our lives and that’s why I
place in our lives and that’s why I
place in our lives and that’s why I learned in the last 13 14 years since
learned in the last 13 14 years since
learned in the last 13 14 years since this photo was taken I gave up that
this photo was taken I gave up that
this photo was taken I gave up that company I gave up those millions
company I gave up those millions
company I gave up those millions literally chose not to go there not to
literally chose not to go there not to
literally chose not to go there not to sign the company away not to work
sign the company away not to work
sign the company away not to work further in that work and I learned how
further in that work and I learned how
further in that work and I learned how to reinvent myself over and over and
to reinvent myself over and over and
to reinvent myself over and over and over again and let go of more and more
over again and let go of more and more
over again and let go of more and more and more until there was nothing left to
and more until there was nothing left to
and more until there was nothing left to give me fear in the middle of the night
give me fear in the middle of the night
give me fear in the middle of the night or in the middle of a fight because
or in the middle of a fight because
or in the middle of a fight because that’s when it the moments right to
that’s when it the moments right to
that’s when it the moments right to switch on and through that experience I
switch on and through that experience I
switch on and through that experience I discovered on my hero’s journey my boon
discovered on my hero’s journey my boon
discovered on my hero’s journey my boon my gift was what I’ve nabbed since
my gift was what I’ve nabbed since
my gift was what I’ve nabbed since become the switch on way which is a way
become the switch on way which is a way
become the switch on way which is a way of essentially turning any pain no
of essentially turning any pain no
of essentially turning any pain no matter how gnarly and difficult and
matter how gnarly and difficult and
matter how gnarly and difficult and scary it is into potential into
scary it is into potential into
scary it is into potential into possibility I’m going to invite you to
possibility I’m going to invite you to
possibility I’m going to invite you to engage in three questions now with the
engage in three questions now with the
engage in three questions now with the thing the problem the pain that you want
thing the problem the pain that you want
thing the problem the pain that you want to break through the beginning of the
to break through the beginning of the
to break through the beginning of the switch runway the first is what habit
switch runway the first is what habit
switch runway the first is what habit belief or feeling is getting in the way
belief or feeling is getting in the way
belief or feeling is getting in the way of your thriving as a business as a
of your thriving as a business as a
of your thriving as a business as a leader in your life so if you can see
leader in your life so if you can see
leader in your life so if you can see what it is without shame without blame
what it is without shame without blame
what it is without shame without blame without complain what would be possible
without complain what would be possible
without complain what would be possible for you if you let go of this what we
for you if you let go of this what we
for you if you let go of this what we possible for your organization what we
possible for your organization what we
possible for your organization what we possible for our world if you could let
possible for our world if you could let
possible for our world if you could let go of this habit this pattern this
go of this habit this pattern this
go of this habit this pattern this belief is mood
belief is mood
belief is mood and the ultimate question is can you
and the ultimate question is can you
and the ultimate question is can you feel connected enough safe enough right
feel connected enough safe enough right
feel connected enough safe enough right now to let go of it and if you can’t
now to let go of it and if you can’t
now to let go of it and if you can’t then that’s the time to go deeper thank
then that’s the time to go deeper thank
then that’s the time to go deeper thank you very much
you very much
you very much [Applause]
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