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Intimacy in the Urban Grid | Monica Dogra | TEDxDTU


hello everyone good evening I grew up

hello everyone good evening I grew up without a cell phone

without a cell phone

without a cell phone who here grew up without a cell phone

who here grew up without a cell phone

who here grew up without a cell phone still growing up I remember a time when

still growing up I remember a time when

still growing up I remember a time when prank-calling using clips from friends

prank-calling using clips from friends

prank-calling using clips from friends episodes on my answering machine was the

episodes on my answering machine was the

episodes on my answering machine was the cool thing to do like if a boy had a

cool thing to do like if a boy had a

cool thing to do like if a boy had a crush on me he’d stick a recorder next

crush on me he’d stick a recorder next

crush on me he’d stick a recorder next to the television then they’d put that

to the television then they’d put that

to the television then they’d put that recorder onto the phone and then he’d

recorder onto the phone and then he’d

recorder onto the phone and then he’d call me and then my answering machine

call me and then my answering machine

call me and then my answering machine would pick it up because the character’s

would pick it up because the character’s

would pick it up because the character’s name was Monika and she was a really big

name was Monika and she was a really big

name was Monika and she was a really big nerd and I was a really big nerd so it

nerd and I was a really big nerd so it

nerd and I was a really big nerd so it was a very obvious choice

do you remember I don’t know if you

do you remember I don’t know if you would remember but I remember a time

would remember but I remember a time

would remember but I remember a time when there were beepers and there were

when there were beepers and there were

when there were beepers and there were codes that you would use to tell someone

codes that you would use to tell someone

codes that you would use to tell someone that you love them on a beeper anybody

that you love them on a beeper anybody

that you love them on a beeper anybody know that that anyway it was like a 1 2

know that that anyway it was like a 1 2

know that that anyway it was like a 1 2 3 something or the other anyway I

3 something or the other anyway I

3 something or the other anyway I remember a time when there was no

remember a time when there was no

remember a time when there was no Facebook I’m one of the last generations

Facebook I’m one of the last generations

Facebook I’m one of the last generations to know a world like that

to know a world like that

to know a world like that I don’t know much about technology I

I don’t know much about technology I

I don’t know much about technology I know a lot of you do so excuse me for

know a lot of you do so excuse me for

know a lot of you do so excuse me for not being as intelligent as all of you

not being as intelligent as all of you

not being as intelligent as all of you but I do know things about people about

but I do know things about people about

but I do know things about people about human interaction and about

human interaction and about

human interaction and about communication I lived in New York during

communication I lived in New York during

communication I lived in New York during a time when people needed to send text

a time when people needed to send text

a time when people needed to send text messages to their crushes or new

messages to their crushes or new

messages to their crushes or new boyfriends or that be ffff who messed up

boyfriends or that be ffff who messed up

boyfriends or that be ffff who messed up and so you’d send those long text

and so you’d send those long text

and so you’d send those long text messages you know tirades anybody send

messages you know tirades anybody send

messages you know tirades anybody send long text messages that resemble novels

long text messages that resemble novels

long text messages that resemble novels novellas and then you know you want to

novellas and then you know you want to

novellas and then you know you want to change your phone but you want to keep

change your phone but you want to keep

change your phone but you want to keep all the messages because that’s the

all the messages because that’s the

all the messages because that’s the beginning of your relationship and

beginning of your relationship and

beginning of your relationship and remember when and all that stuff but at

remember when and all that stuff but at

remember when and all that stuff but at that time we had no Kia phones and just

that time we had no Kia phones and just

that time we had no Kia phones and just to get to the letter C you’d have to

to get to the letter C you’d have to

to get to the letter C you’d have to push a button four times and then if you

push a button four times and then if you

push a button four times and then if you made a mistake you’d have to delete

made a mistake you’d have to delete

made a mistake you’d have to delete everything and it would take forever

everything and it would take forever

everything and it would take forever nevertheless the text messages the text

nevertheless the text messages the text

nevertheless the text messages the text message the invention of the text

message the invention of the text

message the invention of the text message was something that really

message was something that really

message was something that really revolutionized the way that we

revolutionized the way that we

revolutionized the way that we communicated it offered us a certain

communicated it offered us a certain

communicated it offered us a certain type of freedom

type of freedom

type of freedom it eliminated a certain kind of risk I

it eliminated a certain kind of risk I

it eliminated a certain kind of risk I was less intimate and therefore it was

was less intimate and therefore it was

was less intimate and therefore it was the preferred method of communication

the preferred method of communication

the preferred method of communication for those of us who were experienced

for those of us who were experienced

for those of us who were experienced experiencing this new form of technology

experiencing this new form of technology

experiencing this new form of technology at that time you know if one couldn’t

at that time you know if one couldn’t

at that time you know if one couldn’t Google the news while they were bored

Google the news while they were bored

Google the news while they were bored like if any of you are on your cell

like if any of you are on your cell

like if any of you are on your cell phones because you’re not feeling

phones because you’re not feeling

phones because you’re not feeling whatever’s happening on on stage you had

whatever’s happening on on stage you had

whatever’s happening on on stage you had to be present even when something was

to be present even when something was

to be present even when something was boring because you had nowhere to escape

boring because you had nowhere to escape

boring because you had nowhere to escape and now we can just pull something out

and now we can just pull something out

and now we can just pull something out of our pocket and escaped into the

of our pocket and escaped into the

of our pocket and escaped into the snapchats and the Facebook’s and the

snapchats and the Facebook’s and the

snapchats and the Facebook’s and the instagrams and the Reuters news and it’s

instagrams and the Reuters news and it’s

instagrams and the Reuters news and it’s a it’s a different it’s a different time

a it’s a different it’s a different time

a it’s a different it’s a different time people couldn’t open up apps you know

people couldn’t open up apps you know

people couldn’t open up apps you know now I have some friends in New York who

now I have some friends in New York who

now I have some friends in New York who have who have these and I think maybe

have who have these and I think maybe

have who have these and I think maybe you have these apps

you have these apps

you have these apps it’s called happen anybody heard of

it’s called happen anybody heard of

it’s called happen anybody heard of happen yeah are you one happen Monica

happen yeah are you one happen Monica

happen yeah are you one happen Monica Dogra is nearby within 10 meters anyway

Dogra is nearby within 10 meters anyway

Dogra is nearby within 10 meters anyway it’s really amazing actually that you

it’s really amazing actually that you

it’s really amazing actually that you can open up you can open up this app and

can open up you can open up this app and

can open up you can open up this app and it tells you it sends you a photo of who

it tells you it sends you a photo of who

it tells you it sends you a photo of who is close by and who is single and and

is close by and who is single and and

is close by and who is single and and then if I think the the girl has to

then if I think the the girl has to

then if I think the the girl has to accept the guy first and then the guy

accept the guy first and then the guy

accept the guy first and then the guy can say yes and then you know that

can say yes and then you know that

can say yes and then you know that someone’s close I mean we’re not looking

someone’s close I mean we’re not looking

someone’s close I mean we’re not looking up anymore to discover who’s around us

up anymore to discover who’s around us

up anymore to discover who’s around us we’re looking here um there used to be a

we’re looking here um there used to be a

we’re looking here um there used to be a time when we’d have to take an active

time when we’d have to take an active

time when we’d have to take an active step in order to write the story of our

step in order to write the story of our

step in order to write the story of our day as in physically take an active step

day as in physically take an active step

day as in physically take an active step to write the story of our day there was

to write the story of our day there was

to write the story of our day there was a time when we needed to walk up to a

a time when we needed to walk up to a

a time when we needed to walk up to a stranger and actually speak to them in

stranger and actually speak to them in

stranger and actually speak to them in order to uncover their story but that

order to uncover their story but that

order to uncover their story but that that time those times are starting to

that time those times are starting to

that time those times are starting to change now we can go to a site and I can

change now we can go to a site and I can

change now we can go to a site and I can search for a page and that page

search for a page and that page

search for a page and that page represents an entire person so we find

represents an entire person so we find

represents an entire person so we find that you need dimensional page that

that you need dimensional page that

that you need dimensional page that represents an entire being flesh soul

represents an entire being flesh soul

represents an entire being flesh soul beating heart history family struggle

beating heart history family struggle

beating heart history family struggle achievement

achievement

achievement failures and then I can place a judgment

failures and then I can place a judgment

failures and then I can place a judgment on that singular unit uni-dimensional

on that singular unit uni-dimensional

on that singular unit uni-dimensional page and I can decide whether I like the

page and I can decide whether I like the

page and I can decide whether I like the person whether I don’t like the person

person whether I don’t like the person

person whether I don’t like the person whether I approve of the way that

whether I approve of the way that

whether I approve of the way that they’re living their life and ultimately

they’re living their life and ultimately

they’re living their life and ultimately though I think we can all agree that

though I think we can all agree that

though I think we can all agree that that singular uni-dimensional page is an

that singular uni-dimensional page is an

that singular uni-dimensional page is an inaccurate description of the entire

inaccurate description of the entire

inaccurate description of the entire person that I’m sitting here judging as

person that I’m sitting here judging as

person that I’m sitting here judging as if I’m receiving the whole story correct

if I’m receiving the whole story correct

if I’m receiving the whole story correct incorrect correct so what I’m about to

incorrect correct so what I’m about to

incorrect correct so what I’m about to say is can you change to the next slide

say is can you change to the next slide

say is can you change to the next slide I totally forgot this is what the talk

I totally forgot this is what the talk

I totally forgot this is what the talk is about intimacy in the urban grid

is about intimacy in the urban grid

is about intimacy in the urban grid where technology represents limitless

where technology represents limitless

where technology represents limitless options like happen like tinder like

options like happen like tinder like

options like happen like tinder like Grindr like Facebook like Google in the

Grindr like Facebook like Google in the

Grindr like Facebook like Google in the guise of possibilities every person is a

guise of possibilities every person is a

guise of possibilities every person is a limitless story a limitless posit an

limitless story a limitless posit an

limitless story a limitless posit an infinite possibility but belittles the

infinite possibility but belittles the

infinite possibility but belittles the core the very nature of humans that our

core the very nature of humans that our

core the very nature of humans that our nature was actually to truly connect to

nature was actually to truly connect to

nature was actually to truly connect to grow to build to expand with one another

grow to build to expand with one another

grow to build to expand with one another can you take me to the next slide please

can you take me to the next slide please

can you take me to the next slide please so what’s happening is can you tell me

so what’s happening is can you tell me

so what’s happening is can you tell me what that says that’s right this guy do

what that says that’s right this guy do

what that says that’s right this guy do you make music yes I thought so this

you make music yes I thought so this

you make music yes I thought so this is dangerous so I say to myself as

is dangerous so I say to myself as

is dangerous so I say to myself as well as you and I’m telling myself this

well as you and I’m telling myself this

well as you and I’m telling myself this as well because everybody knows if you

as well because everybody knows if you

as well because everybody knows if you follow me on snapchat or Instagram I’m

follow me on snapchat or Instagram I’m

follow me on snapchat or Instagram I’m highly engaged in social media human

highly engaged in social media human

highly engaged in social media human beings are not uni-dimensional we are

beings are not uni-dimensional we are

beings are not uni-dimensional we are four-dimensional maybe even six

four-dimensional maybe even six

four-dimensional maybe even six dimensional beings depending on how far

dimensional beings depending on how far

dimensional beings depending on how far you are in your meditation practice or

you are in your meditation practice or

you are in your meditation practice or whatever if you line up all the people

whatever if you line up all the people

whatever if you line up all the people I’ve dated over the years they all look

I’ve dated over the years they all look

I’ve dated over the years they all look different they all come from different

different they all come from different

different they all come from different walks of life they’re all you know

walks of life they’re all you know

walks of life they’re all you know surprised why are you laughing huh I

surprised why are you laughing huh I

surprised why are you laughing huh I know Thanks not your show this is this

know Thanks not your show this is this

know Thanks not your show this is this show right now um and you’re distracting

show right now um and you’re distracting

show right now um and you’re distracting me making me shy

me making me shy

me making me shy um okay they all come from different

um okay they all come from different

um okay they all come from different walks of life like occasionally they

walks of life like occasionally they

walks of life like occasionally they were red suits and occasionally um but

were red suits and occasionally um but

were red suits and occasionally um but they all helped me uncover mysteries

they all helped me uncover mysteries

they all helped me uncover mysteries aspects of who I am that I would never

aspects of who I am that I would never

aspects of who I am that I would never have known before if I hadn’t have been

have known before if I hadn’t have been

have known before if I hadn’t have been open to discovering them and by virtue

open to discovering them and by virtue

open to discovering them and by virtue of discovering them discovering an

of discovering them discovering an

of discovering them discovering an aspect of myself

aspect of myself

aspect of myself which brings me to one of my favorite

which brings me to one of my favorite

which brings me to one of my favorite New York City stories next slide please

New York City stories next slide please

New York City stories next slide please so my boyfriend had dumped me right

so my boyfriend had dumped me right

so my boyfriend had dumped me right surprise surprise um and I was down and

surprise surprise um and I was down and

surprise surprise um and I was down and out so I decided to take myself out as

out so I decided to take myself out as

out so I decided to take myself out as girls often as people do so I took

girls often as people do so I took

girls often as people do so I took myself out alone I went to the nearest

myself out alone I went to the nearest

myself out alone I went to the nearest bar and I sat down alone at the bar and

bar and I sat down alone at the bar and

bar and I sat down alone at the bar and I just watched the beautiful bartender

I just watched the beautiful bartender

I just watched the beautiful bartender serving drinks while I served myself

serving drinks while I served myself

serving drinks while I served myself many drinks and suddenly she noticed me

many drinks and suddenly she noticed me

many drinks and suddenly she noticed me she was like hey are you okay and I was

she was like hey are you okay and I was

she was like hey are you okay and I was like hmm I hope so and I obviously you

like hmm I hope so and I obviously you

like hmm I hope so and I obviously you know did not look okay and she laughed

know did not look okay and she laughed

know did not look okay and she laughed and she said you know what nextslide

and she said you know what nextslide

and she said you know what nextslide hope is space crippled sister and I you

hope is space crippled sister and I you

hope is space crippled sister and I you know those moments when you look at a

know those moments when you look at a

know those moments when you look at a perfect stranger in the eye and it’s

perfect stranger in the eye and it’s

perfect stranger in the eye and it’s like laser beams entering into you she

like laser beams entering into you she

like laser beams entering into you she was entering into me and telling me

was entering into me and telling me

was entering into me and telling me something I really needed to hear if

something I really needed to hear if

something I really needed to hear if hope is kripp is hope is faiths crippled

hope is kripp is hope is faiths crippled

hope is kripp is hope is faiths crippled sister what does that mean that means

sister what does that mean that means

sister what does that mean that means that hope is uncertain faith is certain

that hope is uncertain faith is certain

that hope is uncertain faith is certain faith knows that you’ll be okay

faith knows that you’ll be okay

faith knows that you’ll be okay and then she grabbed me by my collar and

and then she grabbed me by my collar and

and then she grabbed me by my collar and she whispered into my ear and this

she whispered into my ear and this

she whispered into my ear and this really loud bar next next slide please

really loud bar next next slide please

really loud bar next next slide please I think you really need to hear this

I think you really need to hear this

I think you really need to hear this she said after a while you learn the

she said after a while you learn the

she said after a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand

subtle difference between holding a hand

subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul and you learn that

and chaining a soul and you learn that

and chaining a soul and you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company

love doesn’t mean leaning and company

love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t always mean security and you

doesn’t always mean security and you

doesn’t always mean security and you begin to learn that kisses aren’t

begin to learn that kisses aren’t

begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises

contracts and presents aren’t promises

contracts and presents aren’t promises and you begin to accept your defeats

and you begin to accept your defeats

and you begin to accept your defeats with your head

with your head

with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of

up and your eyes ahead with the grace of

up and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman not the grief of a child and you

a woman not the grief of a child and you

a woman not the grief of a child and you learn to build your roads on today

learn to build your roads on today

learn to build your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too

because tomorrow’s ground is too

because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a

uncertain for plans and futures have a

uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight after

way of falling down in mid-flight after

way of falling down in mid-flight after a while you learn that even sunshine

a while you learn that even sunshine

a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much so you plant

burns if you get too much so you plant

burns if you get too much so you plant your own garden and you decorate your

your own garden and you decorate your

your own garden and you decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone

own soul instead of waiting for someone

own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers and you learn that

to bring you flowers and you learn that

to bring you flowers and you learn that you really can endure that you really

you really can endure that you really

you really can endure that you really are strong that you really do have Worth

are strong that you really do have Worth

are strong that you really do have Worth and you learn and you learn and you

and you learn and you learn and you

and you learn and you learn and you learn with every goodbye you learn I

learn with every goodbye you learn I

learn with every goodbye you learn I didn’t write that

didn’t write that

didn’t write that Veronica Schaaf Stahl wrote that but it

Veronica Schaaf Stahl wrote that but it

Veronica Schaaf Stahl wrote that but it was said to me in the middle of the

was said to me in the middle of the

was said to me in the middle of the night while I was brokenhearted and this

night while I was brokenhearted and this

night while I was brokenhearted and this tiny conversation at 3:30 a.m. when I

tiny conversation at 3:30 a.m. when I

tiny conversation at 3:30 a.m. when I was 21 became a moment that changed me

was 21 became a moment that changed me

was 21 became a moment that changed me forever this stranger became a spark of

forever this stranger became a spark of

forever this stranger became a spark of light in an otherwise very dim tunnel

light in an otherwise very dim tunnel

light in an otherwise very dim tunnel that I was racing down all because in

that I was racing down all because in

that I was racing down all because in that moment she was open I was open all

that moment she was open I was open all

that moment she was open I was open all because she had the courage to step over

because she had the courage to step over

because she had the courage to step over a social boundary and share with me

a social boundary and share with me

a social boundary and share with me heart to heart maybe this is one of the

heart to heart maybe this is one of the

heart to heart maybe this is one of the most magical aspects of human life that

most magical aspects of human life that

most magical aspects of human life that we have intuition that we can affect the

we have intuition that we can affect the

we have intuition that we can affect the emotional trajectory of someone else’s

emotional trajectory of someone else’s

emotional trajectory of someone else’s life in just a fleeting moment of

life in just a fleeting moment of

life in just a fleeting moment of openness this brings me to the next

openness this brings me to the next

openness this brings me to the next thing that I’ve been thinking about what

thing that I’ve been thinking about what

thing that I’ve been thinking about what I mentioned earlier dating apps dating

I mentioned earlier dating apps dating

I mentioned earlier dating apps dating culture to be honest I’ve never actually

culture to be honest I’ve never actually

culture to be honest I’ve never actually been on one and I felt pretty left out

been on one and I felt pretty left out

been on one and I felt pretty left out of the whole thing because it sounds

of the whole thing because it sounds

of the whole thing because it sounds really cool I mean just imagine the

really cool I mean just imagine the

really cool I mean just imagine the entire single world is at the drop or

entire single world is at the drop or

entire single world is at the drop or the push of a button but over the past

the push of a button but over the past

the push of a button but over the past few years I’ve started to pay attention

few years I’ve started to pay attention

few years I’ve started to pay attention New York has changed even Bombay is

New York has changed even Bombay is

New York has changed even Bombay is changing even India’s deadliest the

changing even India’s deadliest the

changing even India’s deadliest the world is changing if you go out to a bar

world is changing if you go out to a bar

world is changing if you go out to a bar people are mostly now on their cell

people are mostly now on their cell

people are mostly now on their cell phones or they’re interacting with

phones or they’re interacting with

phones or they’re interacting with people that they already know no one’s

people that they already know no one’s

people that they already know no one’s going out to meet new people that sense

going out to meet new people that sense

going out to meet new people that sense of discovery in the physical world it’s

of discovery in the physical world it’s

of discovery in the physical world it’s it’s starting to dwindle it’s been

it’s starting to dwindle it’s been

it’s starting to dwindle it’s been replaced by a sense of discovery in the

replaced by a sense of discovery in the

replaced by a sense of discovery in the digital world because the risk is far

digital world because the risk is far

digital world because the risk is far less

less

less and the options are far more or so we

and the options are far more or so we

and the options are far more or so we think I have so many crazy beautiful

think I have so many crazy beautiful

think I have so many crazy beautiful single friends and most of them say that

single friends and most of them say that

single friends and most of them say that they’ll remain single because the dating

they’ll remain single because the dating

they’ll remain single because the dating world is just so odd it can be fun and

world is just so odd it can be fun and

world is just so odd it can be fun and they definitely think that it’s easy but

they definitely think that it’s easy but

they definitely think that it’s easy but most of the time it lacks a certain kind

most of the time it lacks a certain kind

most of the time it lacks a certain kind of intimacy in the physical world so

of intimacy in the physical world so

of intimacy in the physical world so could it be possible that much like the

could it be possible that much like the

could it be possible that much like the fast food movement and the fast fashion

fast food movement and the fast fashion

fast food movement and the fast fashion movement now being balanced by the slow

movement now being balanced by the slow

movement now being balanced by the slow organic food movement and people now

organic food movement and people now

organic food movement and people now buying vintage or investing in

buying vintage or investing in

buying vintage or investing in sustainable fashion that it might be

sustainable fashion that it might be

sustainable fashion that it might be time for us to pay attention to the

time for us to pay attention to the

time for us to pay attention to the effects of the fast love movement and

effects of the fast love movement and

effects of the fast love movement and perhaps we can respond to this

perhaps we can respond to this

perhaps we can respond to this realization with a meaningful and

realization with a meaningful and

realization with a meaningful and mindful relationship with digital love

mindful relationship with digital love

mindful relationship with digital love maybe as most of you know much of my

maybe as most of you know much of my

maybe as most of you know much of my work is online I mentioned that earlier

work is online I mentioned that earlier

work is online I mentioned that earlier I actually really love social media I

I actually really love social media I

I actually really love social media I think it’s granted me a lot of power a

think it’s granted me a lot of power a

think it’s granted me a lot of power a lot of autonomy in my career I can

lot of autonomy in my career I can

lot of autonomy in my career I can choose how I represent myself but I work

choose how I represent myself but I work

choose how I represent myself but I work in an image based industry for better or

in an image based industry for better or

in an image based industry for better or worse and digital representation is big

worse and digital representation is big

worse and digital representation is big part of what I do however what goes

part of what I do however what goes

part of what I do however what goes online is actually not at all an

online is actually not at all an

online is actually not at all an accurate description of Who I am

accurate description of Who I am

accurate description of Who I am entirely what’s happening in my day is

entirely what’s happening in my day is

entirely what’s happening in my day is your facebook or your Instagram actually

your facebook or your Instagram actually

your facebook or your Instagram actually a legitimate representation of who you

a legitimate representation of who you

a legitimate representation of who you are no I mean when was the last time

are no I mean when was the last time

are no I mean when was the last time that you decided to tweet hey I woke up

that you decided to tweet hey I woke up

that you decided to tweet hey I woke up with this zit or like you know your

with this zit or like you know your

with this zit or like you know your facebook status was like today

facebook status was like today

facebook status was like today constipation guys that pale Bowie it was

constipation guys that pale Bowie it was

constipation guys that pale Bowie it was rough you do that no okay I mean I don’t

rough you do that no okay I mean I don’t

rough you do that no okay I mean I don’t do that I can’t I don’t do that but

do that I can’t I don’t do that but

do that I can’t I don’t do that but anyway some of you might be brave enough

anyway some of you might be brave enough

anyway some of you might be brave enough to like that guy is brave enough to

to like that guy is brave enough to

to like that guy is brave enough to share these sides of himself but anyways

share these sides of himself but anyways

share these sides of himself but anyways snapchat some girls use the snapchat

snapchat some girls use the snapchat

snapchat some girls use the snapchat filter all the time it thins your face

filter all the time it thins your face

filter all the time it thins your face it narrows your jawline it widens your

it narrows your jawline it widens your

it narrows your jawline it widens your eyes and it makes your skin look

eyes and it makes your skin look

eyes and it makes your skin look glorious and they’re like that’s me

glorious and they’re like that’s me

glorious and they’re like that’s me that’s not you and I speak as someone

that’s not you and I speak as someone

that’s not you and I speak as someone who is regularly photoshopped okay I’m a

who is regularly photoshopped okay I’m a

who is regularly photoshopped okay I’m a regularly Photoshop I am regularly

regularly Photoshop I am regularly

regularly Photoshop I am regularly photoshopped but I’m just saying

photoshopped but I’m just saying

photoshopped but I’m just saying as someone who is photoshopped on the

as someone who is photoshopped on the

as someone who is photoshopped on the regular I’m just saying it’s important

regular I’m just saying it’s important

regular I’m just saying it’s important to create a separation in our minds

to create a separation in our minds

to create a separation in our minds about real life and digital life and the

about real life and digital life and the

about real life and digital life and the gray area that lies between see what I

gray area that lies between see what I

gray area that lies between see what I did there the gray area I reached out

did there the gray area I reached out

did there the gray area I reached out for public funds a few years ago for one

for public funds a few years ago for one

for public funds a few years ago for one of my projects and as a result I hate

of my projects and as a result I hate

of my projects and as a result I hate article about me went viral shared by

article about me went viral shared by

article about me went viral shared by many people I had known and loved over

many people I had known and loved over

many people I had known and loved over the years people who had slept in my

the years people who had slept in my

the years people who had slept in my house people I had made music with

house people I had made music with

house people I had made music with people who I had toured with people who

people who I had toured with people who

people who I had toured with people who I hug people who I loved suddenly I was

I hug people who I loved suddenly I was

I hug people who I loved suddenly I was confronted with this crazy thing where I

confronted with this crazy thing where I

confronted with this crazy thing where I was not a human being two people who

was not a human being two people who

was not a human being two people who knew me personally so suddenly my

knew me personally so suddenly my

knew me personally so suddenly my digital self was being torn apart by

digital self was being torn apart by

digital self was being torn apart by millions of people in India fuelled by

millions of people in India fuelled by

millions of people in India fuelled by hundreds of people I considered friends

hundreds of people I considered friends

hundreds of people I considered friends people who could have just picked up the

people who could have just picked up the

people who could have just picked up the phone and called me people who could

phone and called me people who could

phone and called me people who could have just looked me in my eyes and

have just looked me in my eyes and

have just looked me in my eyes and spoken to me so why was it safe to troll

spoken to me so why was it safe to troll

spoken to me so why was it safe to troll why was it suddenly okay to pass

why was it suddenly okay to pass

why was it suddenly okay to pass baseless judgment why was it safe to

baseless judgment why was it safe to

baseless judgment why was it safe to spread hate digitally I’m just not about

spread hate digitally I’m just not about

spread hate digitally I’m just not about that life so I decided that I at this

that life so I decided that I at this

that life so I decided that I at this point in time I would like look at some

point in time I would like look at some

point in time I would like look at some of you and paste then place baseless

of you and paste then place baseless

of you and paste then place baseless judgment on you like totally

judgment on you like totally

judgment on you like totally inappropriate you know based on nothing

inappropriate you know based on nothing

inappropriate you know based on nothing but superficial aspects of whatever I

but superficial aspects of whatever I

but superficial aspects of whatever I see because that’s what happens to me

see because that’s what happens to me

see because that’s what happens to me all the time like you’re tall so you

all the time like you’re tall so you

all the time like you’re tall so you know you must get lots of ladies which

know you must get lots of ladies which

know you must get lots of ladies which means that you’re never actually going

means that you’re never actually going

means that you’re never actually going to get married and you probably are not

to get married and you probably are not

to get married and you probably are not loyal and you wear a red jacket and you

loyal and you wear a red jacket and you

loyal and you wear a red jacket and you talk whenever I’m on stage so that means

talk whenever I’m on stage so that means

talk whenever I’m on stage so that means that your attention hungry which

that your attention hungry which

that your attention hungry which probably means that I don’t know you’re

probably means that I don’t know you’re

probably means that I don’t know you’re always just going to be looking for

always just going to be looking for

always just going to be looking for attention and not not true

all of you who are clapping you are

all of you who are clapping you are heartless people you are not very kind

heartless people you are not very kind

heartless people you are not very kind to one another

to one another

to one another I’ve decided DTU is a very unkind

I’ve decided DTU is a very unkind

I’ve decided DTU is a very unkind environment it’s just silly it’s not

environment it’s just silly it’s not

environment it’s just silly it’s not real it’s not real you know what you’re

real it’s not real you know what you’re

real it’s not real you know what you’re beautiful thank you for speaking up

beautiful thank you for speaking up

beautiful thank you for speaking up you’re very handsome boy I didn’t

you’re very handsome boy I didn’t

you’re very handsome boy I didn’t acknowledge any women you are lovely all

acknowledge any women you are lovely all

acknowledge any women you are lovely all the women are also lovely it’s not all

the women are also lovely it’s not all

the women are also lovely it’s not all I’m trying to get at is we’re sitting

I’m trying to get at is we’re sitting

I’m trying to get at is we’re sitting here looking at you know dimensional

here looking at you know dimensional

here looking at you know dimensional pages passing entire judgments liping

pages passing entire judgments liping

pages passing entire judgments liping left-right yes no I could date him I

left-right yes no I could date him I

left-right yes no I could date him I couldn’t date her no thank you

couldn’t date her no thank you

couldn’t date her no thank you what is happening it’s absurd this talk

what is happening it’s absurd this talk

what is happening it’s absurd this talk is about how quick we are to do these

is about how quick we are to do these

is about how quick we are to do these things when human beings are energy and

things when human beings are energy and

things when human beings are energy and vibration I’m telling you if you haven’t

vibration I’m telling you if you haven’t

vibration I’m telling you if you haven’t allowed yourself to feel attraction and

allowed yourself to feel attraction and

allowed yourself to feel attraction and liftoff of someone who didn’t fit into

liftoff of someone who didn’t fit into

liftoff of someone who didn’t fit into the rubric of what you think you like

the rubric of what you think you like

the rubric of what you think you like and what you think you want then you

and what you think you want then you

and what you think you want then you truly have not lived you truly have not

truly have not lived you truly have not

truly have not lived you truly have not this talk is about the effects of what

this talk is about the effects of what

this talk is about the effects of what those rest rash decisions have on our

those rest rash decisions have on our

those rest rash decisions have on our lives and waves we can become more

lives and waves we can become more

lives and waves we can become more mindful about this beautiful gift of

mindful about this beautiful gift of

mindful about this beautiful gift of living during a technological

living during a technological

living during a technological Renaissance androids have not taken over

Renaissance androids have not taken over

Renaissance androids have not taken over the planet yet there is still time this

the planet yet there is still time this

the planet yet there is still time this is the gray area where we can create

is the gray area where we can create

is the gray area where we can create change animators and scientists and the

change animators and scientists and the

change animators and scientists and the likes have yet to be able to completely

likes have yet to be able to completely

likes have yet to be able to completely digitize a robot sighs it’s okay I don’t

digitize a robot sighs it’s okay I don’t

digitize a robot sighs it’s okay I don’t need it Roboto sighs human beings

need it Roboto sighs human beings

need it Roboto sighs human beings because human beings are actually too

because human beings are actually too

because human beings are actually too complex have you ever seen an animation

complex have you ever seen an animation

complex have you ever seen an animation of a human instantly we know it isn’t

of a human instantly we know it isn’t

of a human instantly we know it isn’t real because we’ve been studying one

real because we’ve been studying one

real because we’ve been studying one another spaces out of our mothers wombs

another spaces out of our mothers wombs

another spaces out of our mothers wombs the second we see an Android a robot a

the second we see an Android a robot a

the second we see an Android a robot a digitized human anybody saw Star Wars

digitized human anybody saw Star Wars

digitized human anybody saw Star Wars that bit really bothered me really

that bit really bothered me really

that bit really bothered me really bothered me he really didn’t look real

bothered me he really didn’t look real

bothered me he really didn’t look real you know because that’s what it is

you know because that’s what it is

you know because that’s what it is human nature is fluid we diversify we’re

human nature is fluid we diversify we’re

human nature is fluid we diversify we’re ever-changing we’re unpredictable we

ever-changing we’re unpredictable we

ever-changing we’re unpredictable we have to be experienced moment to moment

have to be experienced moment to moment

have to be experienced moment to moment and suddenly were something new the

and suddenly were something new the

and suddenly were something new the human spirit cannot be replicated

we are too nuanced we are infinite so I

we are too nuanced we are infinite so I invite you just to consider the infinite

invite you just to consider the infinite

invite you just to consider the infinite possibilities of every being around you

possibilities of every being around you

possibilities of every being around you I invite you to remember the infinite

I invite you to remember the infinite

I invite you to remember the infinite you beyond digital spheres I’m going to

you beyond digital spheres I’m going to

you beyond digital spheres I’m going to attempt at practicing this myself

attempt at practicing this myself

attempt at practicing this myself because even if you experience rejection

because even if you experience rejection

because even if you experience rejection even if things fall apart even if a

even if things fall apart even if a

even if things fall apart even if a person lets you down it is through

person lets you down it is through

person lets you down it is through living you learn it is through

living you learn it is through

living you learn it is through experience that you learn that you

experience that you learn that you

experience that you learn that you really can endure that you really are

really can endure that you really are

really can endure that you really are strong that you really do have Worth and

strong that you really do have Worth and

strong that you really do have Worth and you learn and you learn and you learn

you learn and you learn and you learn

you learn and you learn and you learn with every goodbye you learn thank you

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