I want to start off my talk today by sharing a somewhat familiar childhood
sharing a somewhat familiar childhood
sharing a somewhat familiar childhood story with you all a friend of mine
story with you all a friend of mine
story with you all a friend of mine agreed to let me tell you about the day
agreed to let me tell you about the day
agreed to let me tell you about the day her parents decided it was time to have
her parents decided it was time to have
her parents decided it was time to have the talk when my friend was 10 her
the talk when my friend was 10 her
the talk when my friend was 10 her parents sat her down on the couch and
parents sat her down on the couch and
parents sat her down on the couch and handed her a pamphlet the pamphlet
handed her a pamphlet the pamphlet
handed her a pamphlet the pamphlet included things like puberty the changes
included things like puberty the changes
included things like puberty the changes she should expect to see in her body and
she should expect to see in her body and
she should expect to see in her body and of course how babies were made and once
of course how babies were made and once
of course how babies were made and once the ten-year-old version of my friend
the ten-year-old version of my friend
the ten-year-old version of my friend finished reading this riveting pamphlet
finished reading this riveting pamphlet
finished reading this riveting pamphlet her well-intentioned parents asked her
her well-intentioned parents asked her
her well-intentioned parents asked her do you have any questions my friend
do you have any questions my friend
do you have any questions my friend immediately looked up at her mother and
immediately looked up at her mother and
immediately looked up at her mother and father and asked if Santa Claus even
father and asked if Santa Claus even
father and asked if Santa Claus even real and that was the day my friends
real and that was the day my friends
real and that was the day my friends entire childhood ended many of us had
entire childhood ended many of us had
entire childhood ended many of us had probably similar experiences growing up
probably similar experiences growing up
probably similar experiences growing up perhaps not as hard crushing but
perhaps not as hard crushing but
perhaps not as hard crushing but probably just as awkward whether you
probably just as awkward whether you
probably just as awkward whether you first learned about sex through your
first learned about sex through your
first learned about sex through your parents or at school or by some other
parents or at school or by some other
parents or at school or by some other means it was most likely an
means it was most likely an
means it was most likely an uncomfortable experience both for you
uncomfortable experience both for you
uncomfortable experience both for you and those teaching you about it and
and those teaching you about it and
and those teaching you about it and ladies and gentlemen it is in this
ladies and gentlemen it is in this
ladies and gentlemen it is in this dynamic that I have finally come to the
dynamic that I have finally come to the
dynamic that I have finally come to the realization that I kearson young and
realization that I kearson young and
realization that I kearson young and weird I know if the kids on the school
weird I know if the kids on the school
weird I know if the kids on the school bus have been right all along I am weird
bus have been right all along I am weird
bus have been right all along I am weird I am weird because I don’t find this
I am weird because I don’t find this
I am weird because I don’t find this weird I’m weird because I don’t find the
weird I’m weird because I don’t find the
weird I’m weird because I don’t find the topics of sexual activity and puberty to
topics of sexual activity and puberty to
topics of sexual activity and puberty to be awkward I’m weird because I’m
be awkward I’m weird because I’m
be awkward I’m weird because I’m perfectly comfortable standing up here
perfectly comfortable standing up here
perfectly comfortable standing up here in front of all of you and proclaiming
in front of all of you and proclaiming
in front of all of you and proclaiming right here right now that I like sex and
right here right now that I like sex and
right here right now that I like sex and today I’m going to try and convince you
today I’m going to try and convince you
today I’m going to try and convince you all to become weirdos just like me and
all to become weirdos just like me and
all to become weirdos just like me and the first step in doing that is talking
the first step in doing that is talking
the first step in doing that is talking about it now don’t worry I know that
about it now don’t worry I know that
about it now don’t worry I know that people of all ages are going to be
people of all ages are going to be
people of all ages are going to be watching this some are too young to know
watching this some are too young to know
watching this some are too young to know about these things yet and while others
about these things yet and while others
about these things yet and while others are too old to remember so I won’t go
are too old to remember so I won’t go
are too old to remember so I won’t go into the details but rather what I want
into the details but rather what I want
into the details but rather what I want to talk to you all about today is the
to talk to you all about today is the
to talk to you all about today is the idea that we are all uncomfortable
idea that we are all uncomfortable
idea that we are all uncomfortable talking about sex
talking about sex
talking about sex we’re uncomfortable when people talk to
we’re uncomfortable when people talk to
we’re uncomfortable when people talk to us about sex we’re uncomfortable when
us about sex we’re uncomfortable when
us about sex we’re uncomfortable when our talk
our talk
our talk ask us about our sexual activity we’re
ask us about our sexual activity we’re
ask us about our sexual activity we’re uncomfortable when the words penis or
uncomfortable when the words penis or
uncomfortable when the words penis or vagina come up in conversation we all
vagina come up in conversation we all
vagina come up in conversation we all tense up and we wonder if that person
tense up and we wonder if that person
tense up and we wonder if that person actually meant to say those words out
actually meant to say those words out
actually meant to say those words out loud a normal conversation you are doing
loud a normal conversation you are doing
loud a normal conversation you are doing a really good job of that right now a
a really good job of that right now a
a really good job of that right now a plus four effort but then we realized
plus four effort but then we realized
plus four effort but then we realized that yes they did mean to say those
that yes they did mean to say those
that yes they did mean to say those words and we try to pretend like we
words and we try to pretend like we
words and we try to pretend like we didn’t just have a mini panic attack and
didn’t just have a mini panic attack and
didn’t just have a mini panic attack and we try to convince ourselves and those
we try to convince ourselves and those
we try to convince ourselves and those around us that we are mature adults that
around us that we are mature adults that
around us that we are mature adults that can handle hearing these words out loud
can handle hearing these words out loud
can handle hearing these words out loud in normal conversation everybody is
in normal conversation everybody is
in normal conversation everybody is uncomfortable talking about sex to some
uncomfortable talking about sex to some
uncomfortable talking about sex to some extent but why why are we so awkward
extent but why why are we so awkward
extent but why why are we so awkward when it comes to this aspect of our
when it comes to this aspect of our
when it comes to this aspect of our lives it’s something that’s all around
lives it’s something that’s all around
lives it’s something that’s all around us something that’s totally natural and
us something that’s totally natural and
us something that’s totally natural and something that well everybody does some
something that well everybody does some
something that well everybody does some better than others in my experience but
better than others in my experience but
better than others in my experience but still we can’t stand being in a room
still we can’t stand being in a room
still we can’t stand being in a room with our parents when a sex scene comes
with our parents when a sex scene comes
with our parents when a sex scene comes on we just look forward don’t make eye
on we just look forward don’t make eye
on we just look forward don’t make eye contact don’t say anything stupid to
contact don’t say anything stupid to
contact don’t say anything stupid to break that awkward silence and then the
break that awkward silence and then the
break that awkward silence and then the scenes over and we can pretend like it
scenes over and we can pretend like it
scenes over and we can pretend like it never even happened but then we walk
never even happened but then we walk
never even happened but then we walk through the mall or we watch TV and
through the mall or we watch TV and
through the mall or we watch TV and we’re bombarded with ads that employ sex
we’re bombarded with ads that employ sex
we’re bombarded with ads that employ sex as a mean to grab our attention and to
as a mean to grab our attention and to
as a mean to grab our attention and to sell their product some ads are a little
sell their product some ads are a little
sell their product some ads are a little more discreet well others are just not
more discreet well others are just not
more discreet well others are just not and do you remember this Super Bowl
and do you remember this Super Bowl
and do you remember this Super Bowl commercial why are we so comfortable
commercial why are we so comfortable
commercial why are we so comfortable watching something like this but not the
watching something like this but not the
watching something like this but not the opening scene two wedding crashers it’s
opening scene two wedding crashers it’s
opening scene two wedding crashers it’s because we convinced ourselves that this
because we convinced ourselves that this
because we convinced ourselves that this isn’t about sex
isn’t about sex
isn’t about sex it’s obviously about hamburgers come on
it’s obviously about hamburgers come on
it’s obviously about hamburgers come on let’s get real people if carl jr’s
let’s get real people if carl jr’s
let’s get real people if carl jr’s hamburgers were this good there’d be a
hamburgers were this good there’d be a
hamburgers were this good there’d be a whole new meaning to the term happy meal
whole new meaning to the term happy meal
whole new meaning to the term happy meal but then when a commercial for Trojan
but then when a commercial for Trojan
but then when a commercial for Trojan condoms comes on or commercial for KY
condoms comes on or commercial for KY
condoms comes on or commercial for KY jelly comes on we immediately feel
jelly comes on we immediately feel
jelly comes on we immediately feel awkward sitting next to dear ol mom and
awkward sitting next to dear ol mom and
awkward sitting next to dear ol mom and dad this social fear about talking about
dad this social fear about talking about
dad this social fear about talking about sex is the problem not only because
sex is the problem not only because
sex is the problem not only because people are uncomfortable talking about
people are uncomfortable talking about
people are uncomfortable talking about sex in normal conversation but because
sex in normal conversation but because
sex in normal conversation but because people are uncomfortable talking about
people are uncomfortable talking about
people are uncomfortable talking about sex during sex which is really confusing
sex during sex which is really confusing
sex during sex which is really confusing people I mean think about how weird it
people I mean think about how weird it
people I mean think about how weird it would be
would be
would be people were uncomfortable talking about
people were uncomfortable talking about
people were uncomfortable talking about football when they were trying to play
football when they were trying to play
football when they were trying to play football if a coach hilt is awkward
football if a coach hilt is awkward
football if a coach hilt is awkward describing a play he wanted to run as
describing a play he wanted to run as
describing a play he wanted to run as people feel describing a sexual act they
people feel describing a sexual act they
people feel describing a sexual act they want their partner to perform then we’d
want their partner to perform then we’d
want their partner to perform then we’d have a really sloppy and uncoordinated
have a really sloppy and uncoordinated
have a really sloppy and uncoordinated game on our hands and we can see this a
game on our hands and we can see this a
game on our hands and we can see this a dynamic play out in some really
dynamic play out in some really
dynamic play out in some really unfortunate ways Paula England is a
unfortunate ways Paula England is a
unfortunate ways Paula England is a sociologist and professor at New York
sociologist and professor at New York
sociologist and professor at New York University who studies sexual activity
University who studies sexual activity
University who studies sexual activity among young adults and she is surveyed
among young adults and she is surveyed
among young adults and she is surveyed thousands of college students across the
thousands of college students across the
thousands of college students across the country on their attitudes of and
country on their attitudes of and
country on their attitudes of and experiences with the hook-up culture
experiences with the hook-up culture
experiences with the hook-up culture dating and relationships and she has
dating and relationships and she has
dating and relationships and she has observed a trend which she terms the
observed a trend which she terms the
observed a trend which she terms the orgasm gap now one of aspect of the
orgasm gap now one of aspect of the
orgasm gap now one of aspect of the orgasm gap is the difference between
orgasm gap is the difference between
orgasm gap is the difference between perceived orgasms and real orgasms
perceived orgasms and real orgasms
perceived orgasms and real orgasms during a hookup between male and female
during a hookup between male and female
during a hookup between male and female students on average male students are
students on average male students are
students on average male students are perceiving their female counterparts to
perceiving their female counterparts to
perceiving their female counterparts to orgasm around 88 to 90 percent of the
orgasm around 88 to 90 percent of the
orgasm around 88 to 90 percent of the time when in actuality their female
time when in actuality their female
time when in actuality their female counterparts are orgasming only roughly
counterparts are orgasming only roughly
counterparts are orgasming only roughly 50% of the time at max I know what
50% of the time at max I know what
50% of the time at max I know what you’re all thinking they should have
you’re all thinking they should have
you’re all thinking they should have taken them to Carl juniors burgers first
taken them to Carl juniors burgers first
taken them to Carl juniors burgers first no but seriously there’s some
no but seriously there’s some
no but seriously there’s some miscommunication obviously going on here
miscommunication obviously going on here
miscommunication obviously going on here and even more interestingly England’s
and even more interestingly England’s
and even more interestingly England’s research showed us that the percentage
research showed us that the percentage
research showed us that the percentage of female orgasms in a hookup or some
of female orgasms in a hookup or some
of female orgasms in a hookup or some sort of sexual encounter it dramatically
sort of sexual encounter it dramatically
sort of sexual encounter it dramatically increased when the encounter is with a
increased when the encounter is with a
increased when the encounter is with a relationship partner rather than a
relationship partner rather than a
relationship partner rather than a first-time hookup partner in these cases
first-time hookup partner in these cases
first-time hookup partner in these cases we can see doubles sometimes triple the
we can see doubles sometimes triple the
we can see doubles sometimes triple the probability of the hookup ending and
probability of the hookup ending and
probability of the hookup ending and female orgasm and these trends don’t
female orgasm and these trends don’t
female orgasm and these trends don’t just apply to women the same trends are
just apply to women the same trends are
just apply to women the same trends are observed among male participants and can
observed among male participants and can
observed among male participants and can even be applied when first-time hookups
even be applied when first-time hookups
even be applied when first-time hookups are compared to regular hookup partners
are compared to regular hookup partners
are compared to regular hookup partners the orgasm gap showcases this lack of
the orgasm gap showcases this lack of
the orgasm gap showcases this lack of communication that’s happening during
communication that’s happening during
communication that’s happening during sexual activity and I mean it kind of
sexual activity and I mean it kind of
sexual activity and I mean it kind of makes sense its showcase really with
makes sense its showcase really with
makes sense its showcase really with first-time hookup partners and this
first-time hookup partners and this
first-time hookup partners and this makes sense because as people become
makes sense because as people become
makes sense because as people become more comfortable around each other they
more comfortable around each other they
more comfortable around each other they become more comfortable verbalizing
become more comfortable verbalizing
become more comfortable verbalizing their sexual feelings both physical and
their sexual feelings both physical and
their sexual feelings both physical and emotional but becoming more comfortable
emotional but becoming more comfortable
emotional but becoming more comfortable over time is often too little too late
over time is often too little too late
over time is often too little too late sexual consent is a hot conversation
sexual consent is a hot conversation
sexual consent is a hot conversation right now and many colleges are
right now and many colleges are
right now and many colleges are employing programs which teach their
employing programs which teach their
employing programs which teach their students about what consent is who is
students about what consent is who is
students about what consent is who is able to give consent and the dangerous
able to give consent and the dangerous
able to give consent and the dangerous consequences that happen when those two
consequences that happen when those two
consequences that happen when those two criteria are not met still so many
criteria are not met still so many
criteria are not met still so many college students are struggling
college students are struggling
college students are struggling understanding what actually constitutes
understanding what actually constitutes
understanding what actually constitutes consent in a recent poll on whether a
consent in a recent poll on whether a
consent in a recent poll on whether a simple head nod was constitute for
simple head nod was constitute for
simple head nod was constitute for sexual activity 40 percent of college
sexual activity 40 percent of college
sexual activity 40 percent of college students said yes it was and another 40
students said yes it was and another 40
students said yes it was and another 40 percent of college students said no it
percent of college students said no it
percent of college students said no it wasn’t and it is in these discrepancies
wasn’t and it is in these discrepancies
wasn’t and it is in these discrepancies that students are finding themselves in
that students are finding themselves in
that students are finding themselves in a lot of trouble all because a simple
a lot of trouble all because a simple
a lot of trouble all because a simple verbal question and confirmation are is
verbal question and confirmation are is
verbal question and confirmation are is seemed to be awkward and unnatural for a
seemed to be awkward and unnatural for a
seemed to be awkward and unnatural for a person to ask so why are we
person to ask so why are we
person to ask so why are we uncomfortable talking about sex it’s
uncomfortable talking about sex it’s
uncomfortable talking about sex it’s because from a young age we’re taught
because from a young age we’re taught
because from a young age we’re taught that sex is something that should be
that sex is something that should be
that sex is something that should be kept private that sex are just sexual
kept private that sex are just sexual
kept private that sex are just sexual desires should be kept hidden and that
desires should be kept hidden and that
desires should be kept hidden and that ultimately sex is something that’s bad
ultimately sex is something that’s bad
ultimately sex is something that’s bad for us because we’re taught that sex is
for us because we’re taught that sex is
for us because we’re taught that sex is something to be afraid of sex is
something to be afraid of sex is
something to be afraid of sex is something that we’re not ready for sex
something that we’re not ready for sex
something that we’re not ready for sex is something that can ruin our lives and
is something that can ruin our lives and
is something that can ruin our lives and even that sex is something that can
even that sex is something that can
even that sex is something that can devalue those who take part in it if
devalue those who take part in it if
devalue those who take part in it if you’re like me you didn’t have sexual
you’re like me you didn’t have sexual
you’re like me you didn’t have sexual education in high school and you were
education in high school and you were
education in high school and you were probably okay with that but there are
probably okay with that but there are
probably okay with that but there are thousands of students across the country
thousands of students across the country
thousands of students across the country who are being taught this really
who are being taught this really
who are being taught this really important information in a really
important information in a really
important information in a really negative way for those of you who did
negative way for those of you who did
negative way for those of you who did have sex ed and we’re forced to sit
have sex ed and we’re forced to sit
have sex ed and we’re forced to sit through that as a teenager you probably
through that as a teenager you probably
through that as a teenager you probably can only remember your teacher giving
can only remember your teacher giving
can only remember your teacher giving you reason after reason as to why you
you reason after reason as to why you
you reason after reason as to why you shouldn’t have sex I talked to a group
shouldn’t have sex I talked to a group
shouldn’t have sex I talked to a group of first-year students on campus and I
of first-year students on campus and I
of first-year students on campus and I asked them to describe their sexual
asked them to describe their sexual
asked them to describe their sexual education courses in one word the words
education courses in one word the words
education courses in one word the words I received awkward uncomfortable
I received awkward uncomfortable
I received awkward uncomfortable weird gross unsafe pregnancy abstinence
weird gross unsafe pregnancy abstinence
weird gross unsafe pregnancy abstinence STDs infection demoralizing and just
STDs infection demoralizing and just
STDs infection demoralizing and just don’t don’t do it
don’t don’t do it
don’t don’t do it we are teaching young adults about sex
we are teaching young adults about sex
we are teaching young adults about sex in only negative ways
in only negative ways
in only negative ways sex ed across the country varies from
sex ed across the country varies from
sex ed across the country varies from school district to school district with
school district to school district with
school district to school district with very little guidelines on what should
very little guidelines on what should
very little guidelines on what should and shouldn’t be curriculum
and shouldn’t be curriculum
and shouldn’t be curriculum out of the 50 states only 24 states
out of the 50 states only 24 states
out of the 50 states only 24 states required that sex ed be taught in public
required that sex ed be taught in public
required that sex ed be taught in public schools only 22 of those states require
schools only 22 of those states require
schools only 22 of those states require that information on STDs be included and
that information on STDs be included and
that information on STDs be included and only 13 states require that the
only 13 states require that the
only 13 states require that the information presented be medically
information presented be medically
information presented be medically accurate which makes this infamous scene
accurate which makes this infamous scene
accurate which makes this infamous scene from the movie Mean Girls even more
from the movie Mean Girls even more
from the movie Mean Girls even more realistic than we ever would have
realistic than we ever would have
realistic than we ever would have expected students are hearing about sex
expected students are hearing about sex
expected students are hearing about sex in only bad ways they’re learning about
in only bad ways they’re learning about
in only bad ways they’re learning about STDs and pregnancy and remote emotional
STDs and pregnancy and remote emotional
STDs and pregnancy and remote emotional responsibility and some schools are even
responsibility and some schools are even
responsibility and some schools are even teaching students that sex is directly
teaching students that sex is directly
teaching students that sex is directly linked to things like depression suicide
linked to things like depression suicide
linked to things like depression suicide drug abuse and poverty even though
drug abuse and poverty even though
drug abuse and poverty even though there’s no scientific evidence
there’s no scientific evidence
there’s no scientific evidence suggesting any of that to be true now
suggesting any of that to be true now
suggesting any of that to be true now don’t get me wrong
don’t get me wrong
don’t get me wrong learning about the consequences of
learning about the consequences of
learning about the consequences of unsafe sexual activity and the
unsafe sexual activity and the
unsafe sexual activity and the responsibility it takes for young adults
responsibility it takes for young adults
responsibility it takes for young adults to make that decision to become sexually
to make that decision to become sexually
to make that decision to become sexually active is really important information
active is really important information
active is really important information that students should be exposed to but
that students should be exposed to but
that students should be exposed to but shouldn’t those same students have the
shouldn’t those same students have the
shouldn’t those same students have the right to make informed decisions based
right to make informed decisions based
right to make informed decisions based off of information from both sides of
off of information from both sides of
off of information from both sides of the spectrum
the spectrum
the spectrum right now we’re discouraging students
right now we’re discouraging students
right now we’re discouraging students from talking about sex but we need to
from talking about sex but we need to
from talking about sex but we need to encourage students to have that
encourage students to have that
encourage students to have that conversation because right now the
conversation because right now the
conversation because right now the conversations that should be happening
conversations that should be happening
conversations that should be happening aren’t ever occurring the conversations
aren’t ever occurring the conversations
aren’t ever occurring the conversations that should be happening during sexual
that should be happening during sexual
that should be happening during sexual activity conversations people should be
activity conversations people should be
activity conversations people should be having with themselves am i comfortable
having with themselves am i comfortable
having with themselves am i comfortable with this does this feel right is this
with this does this feel right is this
with this does this feel right is this what I want is this what the other
what I want is this what the other
what I want is this what the other person even wants am I even enjoying
person even wants am I even enjoying
person even wants am I even enjoying this we need to provide a space for
this we need to provide a space for
this we need to provide a space for young adults to feel comfortable talking
young adults to feel comfortable talking
young adults to feel comfortable talking about sex and stop presenting this
about sex and stop presenting this
about sex and stop presenting this information in a primarily consequential
information in a primarily consequential
information in a primarily consequential and one-sided way we need to encourage
and one-sided way we need to encourage
and one-sided way we need to encourage young adults to learn about the positive
young adults to learn about the positive
young adults to learn about the positive aspects they can get out of sexual
aspects they can get out of sexual
aspects they can get out of sexual activity things like trust intimacy
activity things like trust intimacy
activity things like trust intimacy connection communication discovery
connection communication discovery
connection communication discovery diversity inclusion exploration and not
diversity inclusion exploration and not
diversity inclusion exploration and not to mention pleasure and satisfaction
to mention pleasure and satisfaction
to mention pleasure and satisfaction it’s not enough to teach young adults
it’s not enough to teach young adults
it’s not enough to teach young adults that sex is something that they should
that sex is something that they should
that sex is something that they should wait I off on until they’re ready and
wait I off on until they’re ready and
wait I off on until they’re ready and older we should be teaching young adults
older we should be teaching young adults
older we should be teaching young adults what
what
what the sexual relationship looks and feels
the sexual relationship looks and feels
the sexual relationship looks and feels like so that when they’re ready to make
like so that when they’re ready to make
like so that when they’re ready to make the decision to become sexually active
the decision to become sexually active
the decision to become sexually active they can do so knowing that it’s the
they can do so knowing that it’s the
they can do so knowing that it’s the right decision for them right now the
right decision for them right now the
right decision for them right now the conversations aren’t ever happening and
conversations aren’t ever happening and
conversations aren’t ever happening and this is really dangerous because this
this is really dangerous because this
this is really dangerous because this means that our sexual experiences are no
means that our sexual experiences are no
means that our sexual experiences are no longer defined by us they’re defined by
longer defined by us they’re defined by
longer defined by us they’re defined by what societal expectations for sex
what societal expectations for sex
what societal expectations for sex should be like the events that should be
should be like the events that should be
should be like the events that should be happening during sex the proper order of
happening during sex the proper order of
happening during sex the proper order of these events and ultimately how we
these events and ultimately how we
these events and ultimately how we should feel after the events have
should feel after the events have
should feel after the events have occurred how we observe sex outside of
occurred how we observe sex outside of
occurred how we observe sex outside of our personal lives whether it’s from the
our personal lives whether it’s from the
our personal lives whether it’s from the media or pornography is how so many
media or pornography is how so many
media or pornography is how so many people are defining what sex should be
people are defining what sex should be
people are defining what sex should be like for them rather than feeling
like for them rather than feeling
like for them rather than feeling comfortable and capable of making those
comfortable and capable of making those
comfortable and capable of making those decisions on their own but when we open
decisions on their own but when we open
decisions on their own but when we open the floor for conversation and the
the floor for conversation and the
the floor for conversation and the experience becomes a discussion one that
experience becomes a discussion one that
experience becomes a discussion one that we can feel comfortable adding to the
we can feel comfortable adding to the
we can feel comfortable adding to the experience becomes our own one that we
experience becomes our own one that we
experience becomes our own one that we can create and one that we can share I
can create and one that we can share I
can create and one that we can share I know sex is awkward but I also know that
know sex is awkward but I also know that
know sex is awkward but I also know that sex is amazing and it shouldn’t be
sex is amazing and it shouldn’t be
sex is amazing and it shouldn’t be something that we just willingly let
something that we just willingly let
something that we just willingly let others decide for us talking about sex
others decide for us talking about sex
others decide for us talking about sex is uncomfortable even I someone who just
is uncomfortable even I someone who just
is uncomfortable even I someone who just proclaimed their love for sex in front
proclaimed their love for sex in front
proclaimed their love for sex in front of 250 people is completely terrified of
of 250 people is completely terrified of
of 250 people is completely terrified of my future mother-in-law watching this
my future mother-in-law watching this
my future mother-in-law watching this video once it goes live but this is
video once it goes live but this is
video once it goes live but this is really important and something that’s
really important and something that’s
really important and something that’s worth fighting for
worth fighting for
worth fighting for I encourage you all to really think
I encourage you all to really think
I encourage you all to really think about why you’re uncomfortable talking
about why you’re uncomfortable talking
about why you’re uncomfortable talking about sex why are you uncomfortable
about sex why are you uncomfortable
about sex why are you uncomfortable talking about sex in everyday
talking about sex in everyday
talking about sex in everyday conversation in the bedroom with your
conversation in the bedroom with your
conversation in the bedroom with your children and then really question
children and then really question
children and then really question whether or not that’s a good enough
whether or not that’s a good enough
whether or not that’s a good enough reason to continue experiencing sex the
reason to continue experiencing sex the
reason to continue experiencing sex the way that we currently do because how our
way that we currently do because how our
way that we currently do because how our children experience sex throughout the
children experience sex throughout the
children experience sex throughout the rest of their lives depends on that
rest of their lives depends on that
rest of their lives depends on that answer as well as our decision to move
answer as well as our decision to move
answer as well as our decision to move past the awkwardness to move past the
past the awkwardness to move past the
past the awkwardness to move past the uncomfortable moments and to just be
uncomfortable moments and to just be
uncomfortable moments and to just be weirdos
weirdos
weirdos sex let’s talk about it let’s talk
sex let’s talk about it let’s talk
sex let’s talk about it let’s talk during it thank you
during it thank you
during it thank you [Applause]
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