where are you from how do you think about this question I think it is a
about this question I think it is a
about this question I think it is a pretty simple question made out of four
pretty simple question made out of four
pretty simple question made out of four words only where are you from most
words only where are you from most
words only where are you from most people can answer by using just few
people can answer by using just few
people can answer by using just few words for example I is receive may India
words for example I is receive may India
words for example I is receive may India say ho same Cheska nevertheless there
say ho same Cheska nevertheless there
say ho same Cheska nevertheless there are people in this world I have to use
are people in this world I have to use
are people in this world I have to use more than just your simple words to
more than just your simple words to
more than just your simple words to answer for example me I have to use at
answer for example me I have to use at
answer for example me I have to use at least 12 words to answer I’m half
least 12 words to answer I’m half
least 12 words to answer I’m half Russian half Indian and I live in Czech
Russian half Indian and I live in Czech
Russian half Indian and I live in Czech Republic
Republic
Republic given that our world is getting more
given that our world is getting more
given that our world is getting more globalized there are millions of kids
globalized there are millions of kids
globalized there are millions of kids like me I have to use more than just few
like me I have to use more than just few
like me I have to use more than just few simple words to answer those kids are
simple words to answer those kids are
simple words to answer those kids are known as third culture kids in 1990s
known as third culture kids in 1990s
known as third culture kids in 1990s American sociologist Pollock and one
American sociologist Pollock and one
American sociologist Pollock and one reckon had coined the definition which
reckon had coined the definition which
reckon had coined the definition which is used up now according to it a third
is used up now according to it a third
is used up now according to it a third culture kid is a person who builds
culture kid is a person who builds
culture kid is a person who builds relationships to all of the cultures
relationships to all of the cultures
relationships to all of the cultures that he or she lived it then many third
that he or she lived it then many third
that he or she lived it then many third culture kids in this world for some
culture kids in this world for some
culture kids in this world for some common examples are missionary kids
common examples are missionary kids
common examples are missionary kids children of expatriates children born in
children of expatriates children born in
children of expatriates children born in cross-cultural marriages or children of
cross-cultural marriages or children of
cross-cultural marriages or children of immigrants from their research polygons
immigrants from their research polygons
immigrants from their research polygons one dragon had found that there are many
one dragon had found that there are many
one dragon had found that there are many benefits of being a third culture kid
benefits of being a third culture kid
benefits of being a third culture kid first of all they are very adaptive
first of all they are very adaptive
first of all they are very adaptive meaning we are successful at fitting in
meaning we are successful at fitting in
meaning we are successful at fitting in because we are able to accept and
because we are able to accept and
because we are able to accept and understand many of the core values that
understand many of the core values that
understand many of the core values that drive the behavior in the culture
drive the behavior in the culture
drive the behavior in the culture secondly we can cross and change
secondly we can cross and change
secondly we can cross and change cultures easily meaning because we are
cultures easily meaning because we are
cultures easily meaning because we are adaptive and have combined knowledge
adaptive and have combined knowledge
adaptive and have combined knowledge about other cultures we develop
about other cultures we develop
about other cultures we develop excellent interpersonal and
excellent interpersonal and
excellent interpersonal and intercultural skills thirdly we’re
intercultural skills thirdly we’re
intercultural skills thirdly we’re extremely open-minded as we are raised
extremely open-minded as we are raised
extremely open-minded as we are raised in foreign cultures we get to learn a
in foreign cultures we get to learn a
in foreign cultures we get to learn a lot of diverse values attitudes
lot of diverse values attitudes
lot of diverse values attitudes behaviors and expectations this helps us
behaviors and expectations this helps us
behaviors and expectations this helps us to expand our worldview and last but not
to expand our worldview and last but not
to expand our worldview and last but not the least we live in the moment given
the least we live in the moment given
the least we live in the moment given that every day of experience sense of
that every day of experience sense of
that every day of experience sense of urgency because we realized that the
urgency because we realized that the
urgency because we realized that the moment will not last for long
moment will not last for long
moment will not last for long and would be replaced by something new
and would be replaced by something new
and would be replaced by something new – come we attempt to live in the moment
– come we attempt to live in the moment
– come we attempt to live in the moment as I said there many other cultural kids
as I said there many other cultural kids
as I said there many other cultural kids in this world they’re politicians and
in this world they’re politicians and
in this world they’re politicians and silver discs used to be third culture
silver discs used to be third culture
silver discs used to be third culture kids some now they’re known as adult
kids some now they’re known as adult
kids some now they’re known as adult care culture kids some common examples
care culture kids some common examples
care culture kids some common examples being Barack Obama who’s half Kenny half
being Barack Obama who’s half Kenny half
being Barack Obama who’s half Kenny half skinny and a half American or uma
skinny and a half American or uma
skinny and a half American or uma thurman who was born in Mexico – German
thurman who was born in Mexico – German
thurman who was born in Mexico – German father and a Swedish mother or Freddie
father and a Swedish mother or Freddie
father and a Swedish mother or Freddie Mercury who’s born in Tanzania grew up
Mercury who’s born in Tanzania grew up
Mercury who’s born in Tanzania grew up in India and then in United Kingdom as
in India and then in United Kingdom as
in India and then in United Kingdom as you might have understood there are many
you might have understood there are many
you might have understood there are many benefits of being at their culture gate
benefits of being at their culture gate
benefits of being at their culture gate but there’s the one thing that bothers
but there’s the one thing that bothers
but there’s the one thing that bothers me is it actually an advantage to beat
me is it actually an advantage to beat
me is it actually an advantage to beat their culture kid or let’s put it on in
their culture kid or let’s put it on in
their culture kid or let’s put it on in the other way
the other way
the other way what are disadvantages to being a third
what are disadvantages to being a third
what are disadvantages to being a third culture kid to answer this question let
culture kid to answer this question let
culture kid to answer this question let me first of all tell you my story I was
me first of all tell you my story I was
me first of all tell you my story I was born to my Indian mother father and
born to my Indian mother father and
born to my Indian mother father and Russian matter in Moscow when I was
Russian matter in Moscow when I was
Russian matter in Moscow when I was eight years old my parents decided to
eight years old my parents decided to
eight years old my parents decided to move to the Czech Republic and since
move to the Czech Republic and since
move to the Czech Republic and since then we have lived in Prague it has been
then we have lived in Prague it has been
then we have lived in Prague it has been over ten years that I live here
over ten years that I live here
over ten years that I live here this story is pretty simple isn’t it
this story is pretty simple isn’t it
this story is pretty simple isn’t it but when never share disturb with people
but when never share disturb with people
but when never share disturb with people it seems to be complicated to them they
it seems to be complicated to them they
it seems to be complicated to them they tend to find it confusing so what
tend to find it confusing so what
tend to find it confusing so what usually happens then they try to find
usually happens then they try to find
usually happens then they try to find out which culture out of all three of
out which culture out of all three of
out which culture out of all three of them is the most important for me let me
them is the most important for me let me
them is the most important for me let me give you an example once I was on this
give you an example once I was on this
give you an example once I was on this trip and I met this lovely person Maria
trip and I met this lovely person Maria
trip and I met this lovely person Maria she was sweet
she was sweet
she was sweet and it was really lot of fun to chatter
and it was really lot of fun to chatter
and it was really lot of fun to chatter in her well until this question popped
in her well until this question popped
in her well until this question popped up where are you from whenever I hear
up where are you from whenever I hear
up where are you from whenever I hear the simple question made out of four
the simple question made out of four
the simple question made out of four words only I usually freeze and start
words only I usually freeze and start
words only I usually freeze and start thinking okay I was born in Moscow
thinking okay I was born in Moscow
thinking okay I was born in Moscow handsome Russian the weight my father is
handsome Russian the weight my father is
handsome Russian the weight my father is Indian am i Indian too am I actually
Indian am i Indian too am I actually
Indian am i Indian too am I actually meaning if I lived here in Prague
meaning if I lived here in Prague
meaning if I lived here in Prague maybe I’m Chuck yeah I’m Chuck I grew up
maybe I’m Chuck yeah I’m Chuck I grew up
maybe I’m Chuck yeah I’m Chuck I grew up here right but wait
here right but wait
here right but wait Russian is my mother tongue and I don’t
Russian is my mother tongue and I don’t
Russian is my mother tongue and I don’t even speak Czech so correctly am I then
even speak Czech so correctly am I then
even speak Czech so correctly am I then Russian but if I’m Russian why do I
Russian but if I’m Russian why do I
Russian but if I’m Russian why do I speak in different languages to my
speak in different languages to my
speak in different languages to my parents why do I speak in English to my
parents why do I speak in English to my
parents why do I speak in English to my father
father
father I’m confused
I’m confused
I’m confused at the end I was not exactly sure how to
at the end I was not exactly sure how to
at the end I was not exactly sure how to answer to Maria so I chose the easier
answer to Maria so I chose the easier
answer to Maria so I chose the easier way I just simply told her all my tots
way I just simply told her all my tots
way I just simply told her all my tots and evaluations
and evaluations
and evaluations she was definitely confused at the
she was definitely confused at the
she was definitely confused at the beginning seriously
beginning seriously
beginning seriously but then she get her confidence and told
but then she get her confidence and told
but then she get her confidence and told me seriously that I should be checked
me seriously that I should be checked
me seriously that I should be checked because I live in Czech Republic
because I live in Czech Republic
because I live in Czech Republic situations like this make me always
situations like this make me always
situations like this make me always wonder could be there’s some reason why
wonder could be there’s some reason why
wonder could be there’s some reason why people in general find it hard to accept
people in general find it hard to accept
people in general find it hard to accept a multiple answer instead of one single
a multiple answer instead of one single
a multiple answer instead of one single answer well I think one of the reason is
answer well I think one of the reason is
answer well I think one of the reason is because we are all cognitive misers
because we are all cognitive misers
because we are all cognitive misers meaning we don’t want to waste time and
meaning we don’t want to waste time and
meaning we don’t want to waste time and energy thinking a lot so make
energy thinking a lot so make
energy thinking a lot so make reductionist and simple conclusions
reductionist and simple conclusions
reductionist and simple conclusions about the phenomenon so instead of
about the phenomenon so instead of
about the phenomenon so instead of analyzing my multi-cultured entity which
analyzing my multi-cultured entity which
analyzing my multi-cultured entity which is made out of three cultures maria
is made out of three cultures maria
is made out of three cultures maria chosen easier VAP she tried to identify
chosen easier VAP she tried to identify
chosen easier VAP she tried to identify me just to one culture this is the first
me just to one culture this is the first
me just to one culture this is the first limitation being a third culture kid
limitation being a third culture kid
limitation being a third culture kid people do not understand my
people do not understand my
people do not understand my multicultural identity and they try to
multicultural identity and they try to
multicultural identity and they try to identify me just to one culture I mean
identify me just to one culture I mean
identify me just to one culture I mean cognitive misers like Maria on daily
cognitive misers like Maria on daily
cognitive misers like Maria on daily basis literally on daily basis and there
basis literally on daily basis and there
basis literally on daily basis and there is one question that tends to be popular
is one question that tends to be popular
is one question that tends to be popular among them and that is which culture do
among them and that is which culture do
among them and that is which culture do you identify with more here’s the
you identify with more here’s the
you identify with more here’s the question for you do you think that for
question for you do you think that for
question for you do you think that for third culture kid it is easy to answer
third culture kid it is easy to answer
third culture kid it is easy to answer this question well before you consider
this question well before you consider
this question well before you consider it let me show you this this is a
it let me show you this this is a
it let me show you this this is a culture iceberg that was constructed by
culture iceberg that was constructed by
culture iceberg that was constructed by cross cultural trainer and consultant
cross cultural trainer and consultant
cross cultural trainer and consultant dr. Robert Cole according to it be
dr. Robert Cole according to it be
dr. Robert Cole according to it be Balarama does he have a surface culture
Balarama does he have a surface culture
Balarama does he have a surface culture by rarely to get to understand and
by rarely to get to understand and
by rarely to get to understand and accept our deep culture the main idea
accept our deep culture the main idea
accept our deep culture the main idea behind this illustration is that it
behind this illustration is that it
behind this illustration is that it shows the importance of culture not just
shows the importance of culture not just
shows the importance of culture not just in shaping our customs and traditions
in shaping our customs and traditions
in shaping our customs and traditions but as well in shaping our abilities and
but as well in shaping our abilities and
but as well in shaping our abilities and values meaning the culture strongly
values meaning the culture strongly
values meaning the culture strongly affects the where personality develops
affects the where personality develops
affects the where personality develops in the way we view world around us
in the way we view world around us
in the way we view world around us taking it in account this think about
taking it in account this think about
taking it in account this think about their culture kids how would their
their culture kids how would their
their culture kids how would their personality develop considering that
personality develop considering that
personality develop considering that Derek
Derek
Derek both not just to one culture but to many
both not just to one culture but to many
both not just to one culture but to many of them
of them
of them well in my case I’ve noticed that all my
well in my case I’ve noticed that all my
well in my case I’ve noticed that all my cultures have affected the West so
cultures have affected the West so
cultures have affected the West so shattered friends commonly given
shattered friends commonly given
shattered friends commonly given authority for how I simply stand up for
authority for how I simply stand up for
authority for how I simply stand up for myself my friends might have noticed
myself my friends might have noticed
myself my friends might have noticed this but there’s something really funny
this but there’s something really funny
this but there’s something really funny about me making your friends it’s a mega
about me making your friends it’s a mega
about me making your friends it’s a mega friends I believe this friendship is
friends I believe this friendship is
friends I believe this friendship is forever I might know the person for a
forever I might know the person for a
forever I might know the person for a few days if not hours but I believed
few days if not hours but I believed
few days if not hours but I believed that we would become best friends
that we would become best friends
that we would become best friends forever in a surprise but why is it so
forever in a surprise but why is it so
forever in a surprise but why is it so well I think it’s because of my Russian
well I think it’s because of my Russian
well I think it’s because of my Russian culture I’ve noticed there’s no common
culture I’ve noticed there’s no common
culture I’ve noticed there’s no common trend in Russia he actually missed a
trend in Russia he actually missed a
trend in Russia he actually missed a lead resentment of Savoy is lipstick
lead resentment of Savoy is lipstick
lead resentment of Savoy is lipstick damn here takes delete my Indian culture
damn here takes delete my Indian culture
damn here takes delete my Indian culture because of it I believe I’m socially
because of it I believe I’m socially
because of it I believe I’m socially brave person and I can easily make a lot
brave person and I can easily make a lot
brave person and I can easily make a lot of friends but because of my Russian
of friends but because of my Russian
of friends but because of my Russian culture
culture
culture I get very easily attached to my friends
I get very easily attached to my friends
I get very easily attached to my friends and it’s painful for me to lose them
and it’s painful for me to lose them
and it’s painful for me to lose them another example which I personally
another example which I personally
another example which I personally consider to be the most important is
consider to be the most important is
consider to be the most important is that children in India are supposed to
that children in India are supposed to
that children in India are supposed to be respectful towards their parents and
be respectful towards their parents and
be respectful towards their parents and in the way this should be submissive
in the way this should be submissive
in the way this should be submissive well children Russia tend to be more
well children Russia tend to be more
well children Russia tend to be more independent and slightly rebellious
independent and slightly rebellious
independent and slightly rebellious because of these two cultures I find it
because of these two cultures I find it
because of these two cultures I find it difficult to communicate with my own
difficult to communicate with my own
difficult to communicate with my own families sometimes as seen as being too
families sometimes as seen as being too
families sometimes as seen as being too independent to rebellious and sometimes
independent to rebellious and sometimes
independent to rebellious and sometimes as seen as being too submissive to
as seen as being too submissive to
as seen as being too submissive to respectful so I really do not know which
respectful so I really do not know which
respectful so I really do not know which standards should hold even when
standards should hold even when
standards should hold even when communicating with my own families this
communicating with my own families this
communicating with my own families this is one of my biggest dilemmas for me to
is one of my biggest dilemmas for me to
is one of my biggest dilemmas for me to resolve when it comes to the point that
resolve when it comes to the point that
resolve when it comes to the point that I should argue with someone who is older
I should argue with someone who is older
I should argue with someone who is older than me and has some sort of authority I
than me and has some sort of authority I
than me and has some sort of authority I tend to turn onto the Indian submissive
tend to turn onto the Indian submissive
tend to turn onto the Indian submissive side of me not the Russian and I think
side of me not the Russian and I think
side of me not the Russian and I think this could be the reason why sometimes
this could be the reason why sometimes
this could be the reason why sometimes it is really hard for me to get on my
it is really hard for me to get on my
it is really hard for me to get on my confidence and tell the people what I
confidence and tell the people what I
confidence and tell the people what I feel and what I really think and I think
feel and what I really think and I think
feel and what I really think and I think this could be the reason why it’s hard
this could be the reason why it’s hard
this could be the reason why it’s hard for me sometimes to stand up for myself
for me sometimes to stand up for myself
for me sometimes to stand up for myself these are just examples of my daily
these are just examples of my daily
these are just examples of my daily behavior which I believe her strongly
behavior which I believe her strongly
behavior which I believe her strongly affected by the cultures present in my
affected by the cultures present in my
affected by the cultures present in my life I personally consider culture
life I personally consider culture
life I personally consider culture iceberg to be an important
iceberg to be an important
iceberg to be an important because it emphasizes the point why I
because it emphasizes the point why I
because it emphasizes the point why I personally cannot identify myself just
personally cannot identify myself just
personally cannot identify myself just with one culture people might think that
with one culture people might think that
with one culture people might think that I’m Russian check Indian based on the
I’m Russian check Indian based on the
I’m Russian check Indian based on the surface culture but trust me rarely and
surface culture but trust me rarely and
surface culture but trust me rarely and it actually never in my case they
it actually never in my case they
it actually never in my case they understand that real me here inside me
understand that real me here inside me
understand that real me here inside me is actually the mix of my cultures which
is actually the mix of my cultures which
is actually the mix of my cultures which lay in the deep culture so coming back
lay in the deep culture so coming back
lay in the deep culture so coming back to the question do you think the further
to the question do you think the further
to the question do you think the further gotcha kid it is easy to answer this
gotcha kid it is easy to answer this
gotcha kid it is easy to answer this question
question
question well in most cases it’s not this is the
well in most cases it’s not this is the
well in most cases it’s not this is the second limitation of being a third
second limitation of being a third
second limitation of being a third culture kid people do not understand
culture kid people do not understand
culture kid people do not understand that our multicultural experiences do
that our multicultural experiences do
that our multicultural experiences do not teach us just in your language or
not teach us just in your language or
not teach us just in your language or new traditions it shapes and changes our
new traditions it shapes and changes our
new traditions it shapes and changes our personality and the way we view world
personality and the way we view world
personality and the way we view world around us one thing that I really
around us one thing that I really
around us one thing that I really learned from being a third culture kid
learned from being a third culture kid
learned from being a third culture kid is that I understand that people usually
is that I understand that people usually
is that I understand that people usually do not understand me this concept made
do not understand me this concept made
do not understand me this concept made my life easier you want to know how well
my life easier you want to know how well
my life easier you want to know how well I’ll tell you I learned to lie I learned
I’ll tell you I learned to lie I learned
I’ll tell you I learned to lie I learned to change my identity and appearance
to change my identity and appearance
to change my identity and appearance according to the situation I learned to
according to the situation I learned to
according to the situation I learned to tell people what they want me to tell
tell people what they want me to tell
tell people what they want me to tell them I learned to be a chameleon
whenever people would ask me the simple
whenever people would ask me the simple question where are you from my answer
question where are you from my answer
question where are you from my answer would usually vary according to the
would usually vary according to the
would usually vary according to the situation usually a lie to people simply
situation usually a lie to people simply
situation usually a lie to people simply because I just feel tied to explain a
because I just feel tied to explain a
because I just feel tied to explain a lot so I will tell them that I are
lot so I will tell them that I are
lot so I will tell them that I are Junaid only from one country because
Junaid only from one country because
Junaid only from one country because that is what they want me to tell them
that is what they want me to tell them
that is what they want me to tell them that is why most people think I’m
that is why most people think I’m
that is why most people think I’m Russian another time when I tend to lie
Russian another time when I tend to lie
Russian another time when I tend to lie it’s when I meet someone who really does
it’s when I meet someone who really does
it’s when I meet someone who really does not like one culture or another so if I
not like one culture or another so if I
not like one culture or another so if I meet someone who really doesn’t like
meet someone who really doesn’t like
meet someone who really doesn’t like Russia I tend to tell people that I’m
Russia I tend to tell people that I’m
Russia I tend to tell people that I’m Indian if someone really doesn’t like
Indian if someone really doesn’t like
Indian if someone really doesn’t like India I will tell the person that I’m
India I will tell the person that I’m
India I will tell the person that I’m Czech
in a way I should be ashamed of it at
in a way I should be ashamed of it at least I think so I don’t know what you
least I think so I don’t know what you
least I think so I don’t know what you think but that’s the way I am I changed
think but that’s the way I am I changed
think but that’s the way I am I changed my behavior I changed my identity
my behavior I changed my identity
my behavior I changed my identity because it makes my life easier
because it makes my life easier
because it makes my life easier and because it makes me feel safe same
and because it makes me feel safe same
and because it makes me feel safe same as chameleon we changed skin in order to
as chameleon we changed skin in order to
as chameleon we changed skin in order to protect itself well surprisingly I found
protect itself well surprisingly I found
protect itself well surprisingly I found out that I was not the only one who tend
out that I was not the only one who tend
out that I was not the only one who tend to tells lies apparently third culture
to tells lies apparently third culture
to tells lies apparently third culture kids develop a skill of being a cultural
kids develop a skill of being a cultural
kids develop a skill of being a cultural chameleon meaning that they can switch
chameleon meaning that they can switch
chameleon meaning that they can switch language and appearance in order just to
language and appearance in order just to
language and appearance in order just to fit better into the environment although
fit better into the environment although
fit better into the environment although this might sound funny that a kid can
this might sound funny that a kid can
this might sound funny that a kid can become a lizard this is actually a third
become a lizard this is actually a third
become a lizard this is actually a third limitation being a culture kid because
limitation being a culture kid because
limitation being a culture kid because people do not understand us we lie and
people do not understand us we lie and
people do not understand us we lie and because we lie we become chameleons by
because we lie we become chameleons by
because we lie we become chameleons by following this strategy
following this strategy
following this strategy the chameleons strategy we may actually
the chameleons strategy we may actually
the chameleons strategy we may actually never learn how to maintain all of our
never learn how to maintain all of our
never learn how to maintain all of our multicultural identities together so
multicultural identities together so
multicultural identities together so it’s not good well so here we are these
it’s not good well so here we are these
it’s not good well so here we are these are the three disadvantages of being a
are the three disadvantages of being a
are the three disadvantages of being a third culture kid at least these are
third culture kid at least these are
third culture kid at least these are disadvantages which I personally
disadvantages which I personally
disadvantages which I personally consider to be the most important at
consider to be the most important at
consider to be the most important at least for me people might think that I’m
least for me people might think that I’m
least for me people might think that I’m Russian Indian check but they never
Russian Indian check but they never
Russian Indian check but they never understand that this are the
understand that this are the
understand that this are the disadvantages which I have as being a
disadvantages which I have as being a
disadvantages which I have as being a third culture kid although as you’ll
third culture kid although as you’ll
third culture kid although as you’ll heard before
heard before
heard before that Terr culture kids have many
that Terr culture kids have many
that Terr culture kids have many benefits such as being open minded being
benefits such as being open minded being
benefits such as being open minded being adaptive and living in the moment and to
adaptive and living in the moment and to
adaptive and living in the moment and to be quite honest when I found out that
be quite honest when I found out that
be quite honest when I found out that I’m a clerk across Turkey I was very
I’m a clerk across Turkey I was very
I’m a clerk across Turkey I was very happy outside I had a feeling that I do
happy outside I had a feeling that I do
happy outside I had a feeling that I do not belong to any of the countries I
not belong to any of the countries I
not belong to any of the countries I knew that there are many more kids like
knew that there are many more kids like
knew that there are many more kids like me so I belong at least with them
me so I belong at least with them
me so I belong at least with them nevertheless because people do not
nevertheless because people do not
nevertheless because people do not understand me it makes me feel sometimes
understand me it makes me feel sometimes
understand me it makes me feel sometimes isolated and I would wish that people
isolated and I would wish that people
isolated and I would wish that people would know this instead of knowing how
would know this instead of knowing how
would know this instead of knowing how many benefits I have so now let’s think
many benefits I have so now let’s think
many benefits I have so now let’s think how should we as a society interact with
how should we as a society interact with
how should we as a society interact with culture kids considering their
culture kids considering their
culture kids considering their uniqueness thank you
uniqueness thank you
uniqueness thank you [Applause]
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