ten years ago I was studying here
alice a lyon on theater is a
and besides ten years ago almost day
for day I was almost at the day of my
first land representation here
there on stage and that night it’s me
arrived an incredible story a trick
crazy I had on it’s an adventure
with at least 8 girlfriends that I had just
meet tonight over here and the most
amazing in all this because a
story with a girlfriend still going on
why not but the most incredible
is that this story lasted
until now that we are
inseparable and that for nothing in the world
I will choose one more than the others
it’s him girlfriends came with me
alone either I wanted to present but
to be quite exact before
to go further it seems to me that I
you owe the truth about a detail
these eight girlfriends met one night from
theater are not women but
emotions
you know the emotions everyone
feels 15-16 per day if for example
I approached sir sitting at
first rank innocently and who knows
maybe in the summer dicks he’s
sometimes used to ask the public
to go on stage to interact with
the speaker sir who’s called
baptist according to whom he feels everything
first of the surprise then once the
surprise always spent according to who he
is a Baptist feels either fear
in which case he is already in the process of
do no head before
close
is the inverse of the value of
excitation
in which case he is already standing ready to
answer a question I have not
still posed what I discovered this
that night it’s exactly that Baptist
acted according to his emotions
the emotions they feel it he
feels motivated to act and
adapt to this situation he decides
not by a process strictly
rational to start long
date is saying to himself that’s good if I
do not head long enough
he will end up going to see someone
else it’s his emotion that he pushes
and that’s the etymological meaning of
word emotions of the verb move and
moderate in Latin put in motion
do something and that’s
exactly what I understood this
evening at the theater simon text me
asks to do something if my
text asks me to offer flowers to
a girl because I’m in love there
I must feel the emotion that goes
behind because offering flowers to
a girl because we are in love and
offer flowers to a girl just
because we pretend to be
in love and that it’s written in the
text
these two things entirely different
it’s nothing to see I send you back your
personal experiences
more widely at the stanislavsky theater
a good director a big
director who staged
Chekhov remained famous for a
sentence he was throwing at these actors
when they did not believe in their
emotions when he had the impression
that he was not sincerely playing
was winning towards him the gentleman
was Russian in French I do not believe it
not then said what you play there
the text you interpret is there
not put this emotion that you are
are not entirely
and somewhere that sentence did not hurt me
marked she scarred me for the
following theater shows that
I could play in this scene and
especially she gave in my life all
the place she deserves and amelie
girlfriend then the theater show in
theater show
everything happens I finished my studies I
a
graduated I started to work
and there by cons by starting at
work I thought I was getting the message
that emotions have no place
at work
tanguy lease but yes girlfriend was not by
example in my first two years
on a mission on a construction site
I had built a beautiful painting of
board an excel file that said to
each on the site what they
had to do
how he had to do it to which
moment a real subject for an engineer
newly graduated insa then on
worksite there was a colleague who
had a furious experience that
had been working around the world who
had everything they had all
lived and who somewhere makes a little
little scared also to everyone because
that verbally he could be violent
and one day this colleague in question he
arrives in my office screaming actually
what is this dung of
table board that I’m still imposed as
put in the paws we will not let me
work a little
so me in the face I was dead of
Funk is therefore literally
price the closest reaction that
I had at disposal I bomber the
torso and said it’s like that and not
other
site manager who is understood that it
was shouting he came into the office he was
asked what was going on he asked
to what is explained to him and I think that
the colleague in question was also
afraid to this site manager for only
site manager all he found
to do is bend the torso say
it’s this way and only this way
and this colleague there I’m not sure
but I think he’s pissed off I
think he was angry
what makes me say that is that it
stayed a month without talking to me after
and during that month we go slowly
quietly I realized that my
dashboard it was not used to great
thing and that maybe it was for
that he was angry the base you
imagine how much we had talked about
of our fears if I had talked about my
afraid if the site manager had spoken
of hers if he had just said
why they were angry
would have won at a phenomenal
phenomenal but the emotions have
not their place at work or any
least I thought so and it could have been
continue long years like this
I could have kept my girlfriends
cupboard long enough but two years
after I learned that I had a
multiple sclerosis
there is little thing about multiple sclerosis
inflammation of the SAP system
nervous system that may put
in a wheelchair in 10 or 15 years
my immune system that is attacking
to the nervous system
so that emotional side is a
little disaster
I collapsed I told myself that
nothing was worth to be lived
I wanted to die and I had enough
him and then all because arnaud for
proof I’m here today is
rather happy to be there and suddenly
when I learned that and the time of
digest a little ad I decided to
to change job
I decided to put in the center of my
life the human the management and then
especially my eight girlfriends so I got
trained in coaching to support
of
leaders I associated myself in a
coaching consulting company
management on lyon with pride
loved going to write a book
and in this book there is a chapter
whole that is dedicated to emotions
who’s talking about my girlfriend and if that
book was twice as short I
think I will keep the whole
mary chapter on girlfriends
emotions I will change nothing in
will not remove a letter then what is
who has changed
I had the impression in my training
at work in my new job and in
writing that I was spoken all the time
motions why what has
changed for me are two things
there have been two major developments the
first it is already that especially
to write my book I fell
on a lot of research that talks about
emotions in a professional cap I
you present some of them
google sponsored a study for
find the main criterion
efficiency of a team in the
professional world
does it work in people are
smarter
does it work when people
come from varied backgrounds what is this
which makes a team effective
what makes the effectiveness of a
team the only thing he finds
statistically google method
supporting statistics is that what
does the efficiency of a team is
what they call security
psychological is what different
team members feel
sufficiently confident with the
other members
to talk about what they are
deeply to talk about their
emotions to admit that they did
mistakes to share their moments
embarrassment or their personal problems
first study out of four the second
a little older is darwin darwin
who says something that is limpid that is
of biblical simplicity he says no to
theory of evolution
everyone has evolved and we have kept
what worked
so if we have emotions today
it’s that emotions have gone through
example if I am a caveman
someone steals my steak I feel
anger
anger is functional because it
does not lead me to fight to recover
my steak and that there is no reason
that it be stopped at the end of
the age of the caves
it was true at one time it is
still true now the emotions
were functional they are
always
second and third
researchers in artificial intelligence
who say if one day we want to have a
true artificial intelligence
autonomous artificial intelligence
intelligent in the human sense of the term
the next step is no more than
computing power is to create a
emotional system that allow its
regulation
fourth and one lady as you who
demonstrates a neurologist who demonstrates
that in the brain we have a system that
make decisions and we have a system
that allows to bring emotions
in the brain in quotation marks if we
disconnect these two systems
we are crazy to make a decision
rational that goes in our interest
we think all the days of
rational decisions we say here then
b if i did that it’s because those
it’s because it’s behind
all this every time there are our
emotions and if we remove our emotions
we can not make the decision
rational so that’s all that’s
all of these studies and more
it’s the first thing that has changed
and the second thing and that is
perhaps the most important fact that
I stopped but stop listening
those who say that emotions have
no place to work leaders
customer managers including and that’s it
change everything
and that’s phenomenal because
I started to develop a
curiosity for people’s emotions
that I met my colleagues my
clients I started looking
what emotion and feel then
asked how you feel
that she is the emotion that makes you
to say this what emotions that you
actually say that
that you can try it’s the kind
of question when we ask them the
first time we feel one does not have
the usual go ask people
how they feel they do not know this
that we do every day but sometimes
nevertheless people responded to me with
emotions with a little insistence
sometimes and every time their
problematic were illuminated
as if it was the piece of the puzzle
missing leaders who were scared
the rating of their collaborators
managers who were collecting in
guilty of anger against others
people who did not know what to do
they did not know what to say about others
leaders who were ashamed of
decisions that were to take
every time the emotion came clear
their issues as a piece
missing the puzzle as something
who was available and who did not
asked to be dignified then
nevertheless the disadvantage when one
ask someone how it is
is that by default they respond
everything but an emotion how are you
how do you feel very well thank you
especially no problem I have
slept that night it’s nice I spent
a good evening thank you for asking all
except emotions I went a
little further on paper prices
glue scissors and I made a
cube and at each vertex I put a
number of emotions and the blow when
someone answers me with something else
that one of emotion gives him the cube
lively makes an assumption
imagine you felt an emotion
there immediately at the moment t
what emotion his serene where is this
that you would be on the cube and at each
times there are wonderful things that
are already returning the cube in
all the senses wonder
I really do not see too many emotions
I asked you immediately who
feels an emotion
you would probably have very little raised
the hand but if I gave you that you
start looking for backpackers
companies and every time again a
time is the missing piece of the puzzle
how does it work I do not know
maybe as in the theater
when we talk about our emotions to our
interlocutors that they are more
aligned they have the impression of us
to see in coherence with what one feels
and with what we may be doing
the fact possibly more
basically that when we talk about our
emotions
it helps us better ourselves
understand when I was preparing this
help I honestly did not feel
all I took my ass I
searched i am a man not at all
separately from emotion that I got
said it was somewhere between the
fear and shame between fear and
shame for not being up to
to find myself facing you and not
have relevant message to give or
do not know how to read but once
we put your finger on it was taken
there, I closed my eyes
I imagined this specific moment on the
end of rides imagining that all
you had found something that
suited you and I wondered what
that I had done to get there
I rewrote 3 x man head but
especially more important than feeling of
shame or fear was gone
all I can do is
to meet your emotions
your work or in the personal field it
on the fear of embarrassment it is
positive and negative emotions
it is important to go and get to know
she and especially when you cross
but his girlfriend were transmitting their but
this mutation
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