[Applause] all right so this is what I want to
all right so this is what I want to
all right so this is what I want to share with you on today I actually have
share with you on today I actually have
share with you on today I actually have a confession to make
a confession to make
a confession to make but before I make that confession I need
but before I make that confession I need
but before I make that confession I need you all to share a little bit of
you all to share a little bit of
you all to share a little bit of information with me by Chopin who in
information with me by Chopin who in
information with me by Chopin who in here has had at least a little bit of
here has had at least a little bit of
here has had at least a little bit of dissatisfaction in their career yes
dissatisfaction in their career yes
dissatisfaction in their career yes perfect show of hands it means a
perfect show of hands it means a
perfect show of hands it means a moderate amount of dissatisfaction in
moderate amount of dissatisfaction in
moderate amount of dissatisfaction in their work career and before you answer
their work career and before you answer
their work career and before you answer I promise not to tell your boss yes so
I promise not to tell your boss yes so
I promise not to tell your boss yes so some people just a little bit stuff are
some people just a little bit stuff are
some people just a little bit stuff are a lot of people just a little bit and
a lot of people just a little bit and
a lot of people just a little bit and some people just a little bit more and I
some people just a little bit more and I
some people just a little bit more and I won’t even ask you how many of you have
won’t even ask you how many of you have
won’t even ask you how many of you have had complete job dissatisfaction inside
had complete job dissatisfaction inside
had complete job dissatisfaction inside of your career yes it’s not ready so
of your career yes it’s not ready so
of your career yes it’s not ready so we’re gonna talk about the tool that
we’re gonna talk about the tool that
we’re gonna talk about the tool that zips on how to get over there but before
zips on how to get over there but before
zips on how to get over there but before we do I want to go ahead and share with
we do I want to go ahead and share with
we do I want to go ahead and share with you what my confession is my confession
you what my confession is my confession
you what my confession is my confession is that I actually have a huge amount of
is that I actually have a huge amount of
is that I actually have a huge amount of job dissatisfaction right so huge in
job dissatisfaction right so huge in
job dissatisfaction right so huge in fact that I think I actually hate my job
well I guess I’m gonna take that back
well I guess I’m gonna take that back because I don’t hate it anymore because
because I don’t hate it anymore because
because I don’t hate it anymore because I actually quit the job hey Frank so
I actually quit the job hey Frank so
I actually quit the job hey Frank so this used to be me how many of you all
this used to be me how many of you all
this used to be me how many of you all can relate to that particular set of
can relate to that particular set of
can relate to that particular set of photos yes I see somebody point I know
photos yes I see somebody point I know
photos yes I see somebody point I know that’s me right there right so I wanted
that’s me right there right so I wanted
that’s me right there right so I wanted to backtrack just a little bit so that I
to backtrack just a little bit so that I
to backtrack just a little bit so that I can tell you a little bit a little bit
can tell you a little bit a little bit
can tell you a little bit a little bit of information about myself so it all
of information about myself so it all
of information about myself so it all started way back when I was searching
started way back when I was searching
started way back when I was searching for my first job my first career and I
for my first job my first career and I
for my first job my first career and I landed on the role in a position of
landed on the role in a position of
landed on the role in a position of teacher so as I landed on that position
teacher so as I landed on that position
teacher so as I landed on that position of teacher I went into that first
of teacher I went into that first
of teacher I went into that first interview and I got that job right after
interview and I got that job right after
interview and I got that job right after the first time so I was elated how many
the first time so I was elated how many
the first time so I was elated how many people could actually say that they’d
people could actually say that they’d
people could actually say that they’d get a job on their first try right so I
get a job on their first try right so I
get a job on their first try right so I went through that I started to fall in
went through that I started to fall in
went through that I started to fall in love with teaching as I received my
love with teaching as I received my
love with teaching as I received my assignment to be a reading an English
assignment to be a reading an English
assignment to be a reading an English teacher I started doing all kinds of
teacher I started doing all kinds of
teacher I started doing all kinds of things with my students that got them
things with my students that got them
things with my students that got them recognition inside of the community and
recognition inside of the community and
recognition inside of the community and I eventually ended up becoming Teacher
I eventually ended up becoming Teacher
I eventually ended up becoming Teacher of the Year and I even got a free
of the Year and I even got a free
of the Year and I even got a free education out of it I received my
education out of it I received my
education out of it I received my master’s degree from the University of
master’s degree from the University of
master’s degree from the University of Texas in education and it was paid for
Texas in education and it was paid for
Texas in education and it was paid for by the University of Texas and the
by the University of Texas and the
by the University of Texas and the district how much more sweet
district how much more sweet
district how much more sweet can workplace happiness gift but that
can workplace happiness gift but that
can workplace happiness gift but that bliss soon started to toasty right after
bliss soon started to toasty right after
bliss soon started to toasty right after I stepped into the role of assistant
I stepped into the role of assistant
I stepped into the role of assistant principal who knew that in the case of
principal who knew that in the case of
principal who knew that in the case of leadership I could experience so much
leadership I could experience so much
leadership I could experience so much workplace dissatisfaction so with its
workplace dissatisfaction so with its
workplace dissatisfaction so with its blissful time paint tumbling down I ran
blissful time paint tumbling down I ran
blissful time paint tumbling down I ran into somebody that I like to appoint as
into somebody that I like to appoint as
into somebody that I like to appoint as a work head a work head is a maliciously
a work head a work head is a maliciously
a work head a work head is a maliciously bishop colleague whose primary goal it’s
bishop colleague whose primary goal it’s
bishop colleague whose primary goal it’s a boy the workplace the pile of human
a boy the workplace the pile of human
a boy the workplace the pile of human interaction and use their venomous
interaction and use their venomous
interaction and use their venomous nature to poison the pollution and
nature to poison the pollution and
nature to poison the pollution and culture of the war community I know it
culture of the war community I know it
culture of the war community I know it might sound a little bit harsh in a
might sound a little bit harsh in a
might sound a little bit harsh in a little bit but please take the time to
little bit but please take the time to
little bit but please take the time to hear me out now when I started I
hear me out now when I started I
hear me out now when I started I experienced this workplace had certain
experienced this workplace had certain
experienced this workplace had certain things started to happen to me like
things started to happen to me like
things started to happen to me like being called on my phone and secondly 11
being called on my phone and secondly 11
being called on my phone and secondly 11 times in a row inside of my office where
times in a row inside of my office where
times in a row inside of my office where I was conducting a private meeting even
I was conducting a private meeting even
I was conducting a private meeting even though I told my work head that
though I told my work head that
though I told my work head that she then went like to belittle me in
she then went like to belittle me in
she then went like to belittle me in front of my peers and in front of the
front of my peers and in front of the
front of my peers and in front of the students and finally it ended with her
students and finally it ended with her
students and finally it ended with her actually trying to discredit me in front
actually trying to discredit me in front
actually trying to discredit me in front of my mom I mean who does that
of my mom I mean who does that
of my mom I mean who does that clearly she goes but one of the things
clearly she goes but one of the things
clearly she goes but one of the things that I found out was fast I have a
that I found out was fast I have a
that I found out was fast I have a certain level of what I perceived to be
certain level of what I perceived to be
certain level of what I perceived to be as weakness so I would have my
as weakness so I would have my
as weakness so I would have my confidence to decrease bit by bit and
confidence to decrease bit by bit and
confidence to decrease bit by bit and each day as I had to walk into the
each day as I had to walk into the
each day as I had to walk into the workplace I thought about how much I did
workplace I thought about how much I did
workplace I thought about how much I did not want to be there and I figured that
not want to be there and I figured that
not want to be there and I figured that this dead dissatisfaction just wasn’t
this dead dissatisfaction just wasn’t
this dead dissatisfaction just wasn’t worth the actual sacrifice so I would go
worth the actual sacrifice so I would go
worth the actual sacrifice so I would go through the motions each day and this
through the motions each day and this
through the motions each day and this may resonate with some of you I would
may resonate with some of you I would
may resonate with some of you I would wake up in the morning pull myself out
wake up in the morning pull myself out
wake up in the morning pull myself out of bed think about why I had to go to
of bed think about why I had to go to
of bed think about why I had to go to work because I needed to make money cool
work because I needed to make money cool
work because I needed to make money cool myself up got to the car drove in
myself up got to the car drove in
myself up got to the car drove in traffic got ready to get the harassment
traffic got ready to get the harassment
traffic got ready to get the harassment that I knew I was worthless in for the
that I knew I was worthless in for the
that I knew I was worthless in for the day and took my verbal beating then cry
day and took my verbal beating then cry
day and took my verbal beating then cry about that verbal beating went home at
about that verbal beating went home at
about that verbal beating went home at the end of the day and crawled back into
the end of the day and crawled back into
the end of the day and crawled back into bed being fearful of what I would have
bed being fearful of what I would have
bed being fearful of what I would have to face again the following day so
to face again the following day so
to face again the following day so because I knew that this was not the way
because I knew that this was not the way
because I knew that this was not the way work life is supposed to feel I realized
work life is supposed to feel I realized
work life is supposed to feel I realized that this type of dissatisfaction was
that this type of dissatisfaction was
that this type of dissatisfaction was not or the sacrifice and I specially
not or the sacrifice and I specially
not or the sacrifice and I specially transferred and after transferring away
transferred and after transferring away
transferred and after transferring away from my work
from my work
from my work I have mentally found myself in a
I have mentally found myself in a
I have mentally found myself in a similar situation though it wasn’t as
similar situation though it wasn’t as
similar situation though it wasn’t as intense I decided that I just couldn’t
intense I decided that I just couldn’t
intense I decided that I just couldn’t deal anymore and quit their job
deal anymore and quit their job
deal anymore and quit their job according to parents is not necessarily
according to parents is not necessarily
according to parents is not necessarily the best method of action so for many of
the best method of action so for many of
the best method of action so for many of us who have parents who’ve been working
us who have parents who’ve been working
us who have parents who’ve been working in jobs for thirty plus years you just
in jobs for thirty plus years you just
in jobs for thirty plus years you just don’t quit and one of the things that
don’t quit and one of the things that
don’t quit and one of the things that you might hear from them is that Oh
you might hear from them is that Oh
you might hear from them is that Oh it’ll be okay
it’ll be okay
it’ll be okay things will get better or if they’re
things will get better or if they’re
things will get better or if they’re another position available within your
another position available within your
another position available within your company why don’t you just try to apply
company why don’t you just try to apply
company why don’t you just try to apply for another position and some of my
for another position and some of my
for another position and some of my favorites oh you should just create a
favorites oh you should just create a
favorites oh you should just create a thick skin you know it’s tough inside of
thick skin you know it’s tough inside of
thick skin you know it’s tough inside of the workplace you should just try that
the workplace you should just try that
the workplace you should just try that brush it off and move on and also I
brush it off and move on and also I
brush it off and move on and also I heard my mom vividly say never let us
heard my mom vividly say never let us
heard my mom vividly say never let us see a slit and I hated that phrase we
see a slit and I hated that phrase we
see a slit and I hated that phrase we thought what does that even mean never
thought what does that even mean never
thought what does that even mean never let them see you sweat
let them see you sweat
let them see you sweat because sometimes we actually have to
because sometimes we actually have to
because sometimes we actually have to lick it out we have to cry but I knew
lick it out we have to cry but I knew
lick it out we have to cry but I knew that coming from my parents who’ve been
that coming from my parents who’ve been
that coming from my parents who’ve been inside their careers for 20 and 30 and
inside their careers for 20 and 30 and
inside their careers for 20 and 30 and 35 years they weren’t going to talk
35 years they weren’t going to talk
35 years they weren’t going to talk about their bosses at work they were
about their bosses at work they were
about their bosses at work they were going to come home they were going to
going to come home they were going to
going to come home they were going to complain about it to their significant
complain about it to their significant
complain about it to their significant other their spouse and then they were
other their spouse and then they were
other their spouse and then they were going to go back to work only to fight
going to go back to work only to fight
going to go back to work only to fight that battle once again however I think
that battle once again however I think
that battle once again however I think we moved past this time especially for
we moved past this time especially for
we moved past this time especially for me and the bet advice couldn’t work from
me and the bet advice couldn’t work from
me and the bet advice couldn’t work from the inside of my workplace
the inside of my workplace
the inside of my workplace situation so I decided to do a little
situation so I decided to do a little
situation so I decided to do a little bit of my own research on work places
bit of my own research on work places
bit of my own research on work places best fashion so some of the research
best fashion so some of the research
best fashion so some of the research that has been conducted by places like
that has been conducted by places like
that has been conducted by places like Gallup or USA Today and even the
Gallup or USA Today and even the
Gallup or USA Today and even the Huffington Post also heard that over 70%
Huffington Post also heard that over 70%
Huffington Post also heard that over 70% of people hate some aspects of their job
of people hate some aspects of their job
of people hate some aspects of their job and as the hands have gone up today we
and as the hands have gone up today we
and as the hands have gone up today we see that to be the truth now this hatred
see that to be the truth now this hatred
see that to be the truth now this hatred steam stems from a range of indicators
steam stems from a range of indicators
steam stems from a range of indicators and those indicators include the commute
and those indicators include the commute
and those indicators include the commute to work the level of economy that you
to work the level of economy that you
to work the level of economy that you might have inside of the workplace and
might have inside of the workplace and
might have inside of the workplace and it might also include you being able to
it might also include you being able to
it might also include you being able to take the reins of your particular
take the reins of your particular
take the reins of your particular position and do what’s necessary for
position and do what’s necessary for
position and do what’s necessary for your role but it also includes those
your role but it also includes those
your role but it also includes those relationships that we have with our
relationships that we have with our
relationships that we have with our bosses and with our co-workers and
bosses and with our co-workers and
bosses and with our co-workers and because these triggers help employees to
because these triggers help employees to
because these triggers help employees to discover a certain level of satisfaction
discover a certain level of satisfaction
discover a certain level of satisfaction it also determines how well we are going
it also determines how well we are going
it also determines how well we are going to assimilate to that particular work
to assimilate to that particular work
to assimilate to that particular work environment so because these indicators
environment so because these indicators
environment so because these indicators are fluid across most particular
are fluid across most particular
are fluid across most particular organizations and come
organizations and come
organizations and come these indicators are something that we
these indicators are something that we
these indicators are something that we can connect with across most jobs what
can connect with across most jobs what
can connect with across most jobs what we come to understand is what our
we come to understand is what our
we come to understand is what our parents say it’s not necessarily true
parents say it’s not necessarily true
parents say it’s not necessarily true sometimes it just doesn’t get better
sometimes it just doesn’t get better
sometimes it just doesn’t get better sometimes we have to stay the course but
sometimes we have to stay the course but
sometimes we have to stay the course but when we consider these findings what we
when we consider these findings what we
when we consider these findings what we must ask ourselves as employees is how
must ask ourselves as employees is how
must ask ourselves as employees is how much am I willing to put up with how
much am I willing to put up with how
much am I willing to put up with how much and I’m willing to brush aside so
much and I’m willing to brush aside so
much and I’m willing to brush aside so that I can find a workplace that fits
that I can find a workplace that fits
that I can find a workplace that fits now a recent workplace bullying survey
now a recent workplace bullying survey
now a recent workplace bullying survey conducted by the workplace bullying
conducted by the workplace bullying
conducted by the workplace bullying Institute says that 72% of employers
Institute says that 72% of employers
Institute says that 72% of employers denied or defended workplace bullying
denied or defended workplace bullying
denied or defended workplace bullying and 27% of employees have current or
and 27% of employees have current or
and 27% of employees have current or past direct experience with the use of
past direct experience with the use of
past direct experience with the use of conduct at work and because this is over
conduct at work and because this is over
conduct at work and because this is over 1/4 of the workplace community I can’t
1/4 of the workplace community I can’t
1/4 of the workplace community I can’t help but to imagine the level of
help but to imagine the level of
help but to imagine the level of accuracy these people must feel while
accuracy these people must feel while
accuracy these people must feel while alive inside of this particular role but
alive inside of this particular role but
alive inside of this particular role but shockingly enough 89% of female targets
shockingly enough 89% of female targets
shockingly enough 89% of female targets lose their jobs when they are the
lose their jobs when they are the
lose their jobs when they are the subjects of the bully while only 11% of
subjects of the bully while only 11% of
subjects of the bully while only 11% of female perpetrators summer job loss when
female perpetrators summer job loss when
female perpetrators summer job loss when the bullying is against another one
the bullying is against another one
the bullying is against another one conversely women suffer a 30% job loss
conversely women suffer a 30% job loss
conversely women suffer a 30% job loss when that Spain bullying is against
when that Spain bullying is against
when that Spain bullying is against another male
another male
another male so male please feel sure
so male please feel sure
so male please feel sure that your job is safe if you end up
that your job is safe if you end up
that your job is safe if you end up being bullied by a woman now that also
being bullied by a woman now that also
being bullied by a woman now that also supports the research that we have to do
supports the research that we have to do
supports the research that we have to do and the work that we have to do to talk
and the work that we have to do to talk
and the work that we have to do to talk about gender equity across jobs but
about gender equity across jobs but
about gender equity across jobs but that’s another talk all right so similar
that’s another talk all right so similar
that’s another talk all right so similar to my work back this bullying is
to my work back this bullying is
to my work back this bullying is something that you have to start to try
something that you have to start to try
something that you have to start to try to figure out how to eradicate inside of
to figure out how to eradicate inside of
to figure out how to eradicate inside of the workplace and the workplace bullying
the workplace and the workplace bullying
the workplace and the workplace bullying institute defines it as abusive conduct
institute defines it as abusive conduct
institute defines it as abusive conduct based on threatening humiliation or
based on threatening humiliation or
based on threatening humiliation or intimidation work sabotage or verbal
intimidation work sabotage or verbal
intimidation work sabotage or verbal abuse but the stuff despite all of these
abuse but the stuff despite all of these
abuse but the stuff despite all of these statistics there is a race of hope and
statistics there is a race of hope and
statistics there is a race of hope and that rate of hope means that rules have
that rate of hope means that rules have
that rate of hope means that rules have changed and shifted since the times when
changed and shifted since the times when
changed and shifted since the times when our parents gave us that information on
our parents gave us that information on
our parents gave us that information on how to handle workplace bullying so
how to handle workplace bullying so
how to handle workplace bullying so before transferring I want to update you
before transferring I want to update you
before transferring I want to update you all before I transfer from that job I
all before I transfer from that job I
all before I transfer from that job I actually went to my supervisors and I
actually went to my supervisors and I
actually went to my supervisors and I let them know that this was going on and
let them know that this was going on and
let them know that this was going on and through that experience I realized that
through that experience I realized that
through that experience I realized that we have to turn our process and to our
we have to turn our process and to our
we have to turn our process and to our promise and that’s actually me in fact
promise and that’s actually me in fact
promise and that’s actually me in fact my promise right there
my promise right there
my promise right there so sometimes
so sometimes
so sometimes we go through our the process that has
we go through our the process that has
we go through our the process that has to take place in order for us to feel
to take place in order for us to feel
to take place in order for us to feel purpose inside of our jobs now this
purpose inside of our jobs now this
purpose inside of our jobs now this process helped me to eradicate belief on
process helped me to eradicate belief on
process helped me to eradicate belief on the job where I served as an assistant
the job where I served as an assistant
the job where I served as an assistant principal and being able to help others
principal and being able to help others
principal and being able to help others who were experiencing that same
who were experiencing that same
who were experiencing that same situation and that process led me to
situation and that process led me to
situation and that process led me to create a team that was no longer
create a team that was no longer
create a team that was no longer dysfunctional but a team that could work
dysfunctional but a team that could work
dysfunctional but a team that could work together and ground together in order to
together and ground together in order to
together and ground together in order to create something great for the school
create something great for the school
create something great for the school which ended up landing us in the top ten
which ended up landing us in the top ten
which ended up landing us in the top ten as far as I state testing scores were
as far as I state testing scores were
as far as I state testing scores were concerned and through that I found my
concerned and through that I found my
concerned and through that I found my purpose of being able to be a success
purpose of being able to be a success
purpose of being able to be a success coach outside of the work place so what
coach outside of the work place so what
coach outside of the work place so what am I trying to say regardless of whether
am I trying to say regardless of whether
am I trying to say regardless of whether your situation is bullying or if it’s
your situation is bullying or if it’s
your situation is bullying or if it’s something else
something else
something else how do you apply that to your particular
how do you apply that to your particular
how do you apply that to your particular life how do you apply that workplace
life how do you apply that workplace
life how do you apply that workplace frustration and dissatisfaction in a way
frustration and dissatisfaction in a way
frustration and dissatisfaction in a way that is meaningful for you what I’m
that is meaningful for you what I’m
that is meaningful for you what I’m saying is that you have to create your
saying is that you have to create your
saying is that you have to create your niche inside of the workplace now you
niche inside of the workplace now you
niche inside of the workplace now you have to consider that there will always
have to consider that there will always
have to consider that there will always be some type of struggle that will exist
be some type of struggle that will exist
be some type of struggle that will exist inside of the workplace but it matters
inside of the workplace but it matters
inside of the workplace but it matters how to shift your mindset in order to
how to shift your mindset in order to
how to shift your mindset in order to tackle those particular things now there
tackle those particular things now there
tackle those particular things now there are certain things that we just can’t
are certain things that we just can’t
are certain things that we just can’t control and one of those things is boxes
control and one of those things is boxes
control and one of those things is boxes and our co-workers those pesky
and our co-workers those pesky
and our co-workers those pesky co-workers that we sometimes can’t seems
co-workers that we sometimes can’t seems
co-workers that we sometimes can’t seems to get along with but just as I
to get along with but just as I
to get along with but just as I eventually found my niche and coaching
eventually found my niche and coaching
eventually found my niche and coaching you can also find their leash on the job
you can also find their leash on the job
you can also find their leash on the job so that means you have to after you part
so that means you have to after you part
so that means you have to after you part that leash devise a plan what does that
that leash devise a plan what does that
that leash devise a plan what does that plan want to look like for you to be
plan want to look like for you to be
plan want to look like for you to be successful and be audacious meaning
successful and be audacious meaning
successful and be audacious meaning walking upright and speaking out towards
walking upright and speaking out towards
walking upright and speaking out towards the injustice that might happen inside
the injustice that might happen inside
the injustice that might happen inside of the workplace now as you do that I
of the workplace now as you do that I
of the workplace now as you do that I also encourage you to win on the job
also encourage you to win on the job
also encourage you to win on the job that means you have to weather the storm
that means you have to weather the storm
that means you have to weather the storm and fight for what is right
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