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how are we preparing the next generation
how are we preparing the next generation this is a question I’d like to talk
this is a question I’d like to talk
this is a question I’d like to talk about as well share with you a story
about as well share with you a story
about as well share with you a story from a dark period of my life which led
from a dark period of my life which led
from a dark period of my life which led to this insight in aha moment I had
to this insight in aha moment I had
to this insight in aha moment I had around this whole notion of preparing
around this whole notion of preparing
around this whole notion of preparing the next generation to enter the
the next generation to enter the
the next generation to enter the workforce as well I want to share with
workforce as well I want to share with
workforce as well I want to share with you how TED Talks saved me some of my
you how TED Talks saved me some of my
you how TED Talks saved me some of my favorite TED talks and Ted speakers have
favorite TED talks and Ted speakers have
favorite TED talks and Ted speakers have spoken around this notion of working
spoken around this notion of working
spoken around this notion of working with different generations and as an
with different generations and as an
with different generations and as an executive coach working with senior
executive coach working with senior
executive coach working with senior leaders across North America it was
leaders across North America it was
leaders across North America it was really relevant in the work that I was
really relevant in the work that I was
really relevant in the work that I was doing because what was top of mind for
doing because what was top of mind for
doing because what was top of mind for these senior leaders was how do we work
these senior leaders was how do we work
these senior leaders was how do we work with and engage excuse me for saying
with and engage excuse me for saying
with and engage excuse me for saying this the M word generation now this is
this the M word generation now this is
this the M word generation now this is work I loved because as an executive
work I loved because as an executive
work I loved because as an executive coach working with these leaders I got
coach working with these leaders I got
coach working with these leaders I got to be in the boardroom in billion not
to be in the boardroom in billion not
to be in the boardroom in billion not million but billion dollar deals even
million but billion dollar deals even
million but billion dollar deals even got to meet Warren Buffett so I thought
got to meet Warren Buffett so I thought
got to meet Warren Buffett so I thought I was pretty successful I was flying all
I was pretty successful I was flying all
I was pretty successful I was flying all over North America traveling in
over North America traveling in
over North America traveling in first-class Oh staying at some of the
first-class Oh staying at some of the
first-class Oh staying at some of the finest hotels and one week I’d be in
finest hotels and one week I’d be in
finest hotels and one week I’d be in Houston and Chicago and Montreal and the
Houston and Chicago and Montreal and the
Houston and Chicago and Montreal and the following week Vancouver down to LA and
following week Vancouver down to LA and
following week Vancouver down to LA and Seattle and even enjoying some of the
Seattle and even enjoying some of the
Seattle and even enjoying some of the finest steak dinners that cost more than
finest steak dinners that cost more than
finest steak dinners that cost more than my first dinner although Scott to this
my first dinner although Scott to this
my first dinner although Scott to this day I still don’t appreciate it the way
day I still don’t appreciate it the way
day I still don’t appreciate it the way I was told I should have but as I was
I was told I should have but as I was
I was told I should have but as I was staying at all these fancy hotels one of
staying at all these fancy hotels one of
staying at all these fancy hotels one of the things that hit me was that I was
the things that hit me was that I was
the things that hit me was that I was wetting the bed no not in that sense but
wetting the bed no not in that sense but
wetting the bed no not in that sense but every night from the head down to the
every night from the head down to the
every night from the head down to the knees the bed would be soaked from night
knees the bed would be soaked from night
knees the bed would be soaked from night sweats I didn’t think too much of it so
sweats I didn’t think too much of it so
sweats I didn’t think too much of it so I went to a walk-in clinic and they
I went to a walk-in clinic and they
I went to a walk-in clinic and they didn’t think too much of it but they
didn’t think too much of it but they
didn’t think too much of it but they ordered some tests and then a few more
ordered some tests and then a few more
ordered some tests and then a few more tests then I got called in to see a
tests then I got called in to see a
tests then I got called in to see a doctor now
doctor now
doctor now she had that look on her face I honestly
she had that look on her face I honestly
she had that look on her face I honestly thought she called me Luke and something
thought she called me Luke and something
thought she called me Luke and something about musical therapy but what she told
about musical therapy but what she told
about musical therapy but what she told me
me
me is I had leukemia from which there is no
is I had leukemia from which there is no
is I had leukemia from which there is no known cure to therapy so bottom line I
known cure to therapy so bottom line I
known cure to therapy so bottom line I have incurable cancer well
have incurable cancer well
have incurable cancer well what do you do with that told that you
what do you do with that told that you
what do you do with that told that you have incurable cancer I didn’t know what
have incurable cancer I didn’t know what
have incurable cancer I didn’t know what the now what was I actually went back to
the now what was I actually went back to
the now what was I actually went back to work that day didn’t tell anyone for
work that day didn’t tell anyone for
work that day didn’t tell anyone for days and on the walk home
days and on the walk home
days and on the walk home crossing this intersection I had a good
crossing this intersection I had a good
crossing this intersection I had a good cry because what is the now what of
cry because what is the now what of
cry because what is the now what of incurable cancer I didn’t know and I’m
incurable cancer I didn’t know and I’m
incurable cancer I didn’t know and I’m that I went to some very dark places in
that I went to some very dark places in
that I went to some very dark places in that moment and I started just binge
that moment and I started just binge
that moment and I started just binge watching TV because I really didn’t know
watching TV because I really didn’t know
watching TV because I really didn’t know what else to do and I discovered the TED
what else to do and I discovered the TED
what else to do and I discovered the TED channel and I started watching TED talks
channel and I started watching TED talks
channel and I started watching TED talks more and more and more and just I would
more and more and more and just I would
more and more and more and just I would binge watch and some of them I’d watch
binge watch and some of them I’d watch
binge watch and some of them I’d watch over and over and over again from simon
over and over and over again from simon
over and over and over again from simon Sinek to rob Finley’s urban gardener to
Sinek to rob Finley’s urban gardener to
Sinek to rob Finley’s urban gardener to bug save the world and so many more and
bug save the world and so many more and
bug save the world and so many more and these ideas were spreading for me anyway
these ideas were spreading for me anyway
these ideas were spreading for me anyway helped me reframe my own situation in
helped me reframe my own situation in
helped me reframe my own situation in terms of where I was at now anyone who
terms of where I was at now anyone who
terms of where I was at now anyone who does have cancer and know someone who
does have cancer and know someone who
does have cancer and know someone who does you know that we have to go through
does you know that we have to go through
does you know that we have to go through what seems like a full day in multiple
what seems like a full day in multiple
what seems like a full day in multiple of these days at the hospital everything
of these days at the hospital everything
of these days at the hospital everything from going from blood work to chest
from going from blood work to chest
from going from blood work to chest x-rays to getting full physicals as well
x-rays to getting full physicals as well
x-rays to getting full physicals as well as getting an MRI now have you ever been
as getting an MRI now have you ever been
as getting an MRI now have you ever been on one of those MRI tables it’s one of
on one of those MRI tables it’s one of
on one of those MRI tables it’s one of the loneliest experiences ever that
the loneliest experiences ever that
the loneliest experiences ever that hospital that I was at was a teaching
hospital that I was at was a teaching
hospital that I was at was a teaching hospital and the senior oncologists
hospital and the senior oncologists
hospital and the senior oncologists asked me if I wouldn’t mind is his
asked me if I wouldn’t mind is his
asked me if I wouldn’t mind is his clinical clerks could be with me through
clinical clerks could be with me through
clinical clerks could be with me through the day as I was going through all the
the day as I was going through all the
the day as I was going through all the different procedures and and for them to
different procedures and and for them to
different procedures and and for them to be able to do physicals on me so of
be able to do physicals on me so of
be able to do physicals on me so of course I said yes well never again do I
course I said yes well never again do I
course I said yes well never again do I want to have 12 random strangers doing
want to have 12 random strangers doing
want to have 12 random strangers doing an examination of my testicles that was
an examination of my testicles that was
an examination of my testicles that was the most that was a very difficult time
the most that was a very difficult time
the most that was a very difficult time but as I was laying there while they
but as I was laying there while they
but as I was laying there while they were doing what they had to do I was
were doing what they had to do I was
were doing what they had to do I was observing that senior doctor that senior
observing that senior doctor that senior
observing that senior doctor that senior doctor was just asking them questions
doctor was just asking them questions
doctor was just asking them questions Socratic like questions he did tell them
Socratic like questions he did tell them
Socratic like questions he did tell them what to do know instead when he gave
what to do know instead when he gave
what to do know instead when he gave them feedback he gave them feedback not
them feedback he gave them feedback not
them feedback he gave them feedback not on the result but on their thought
on the result but on their thought
on the result but on their thought process and this got me thinking as he
process and this got me thinking as he
process and this got me thinking as he was asking these questions
was asking these questions
was asking these questions that was exactly what I did is executive
that was exactly what I did is executive
that was exactly what I did is executive coach with my clients I never once gave
coach with my clients I never once gave
coach with my clients I never once gave my clients the answer I would just ask
my clients the answer I would just ask
my clients the answer I would just ask them questions to help guide them and
them questions to help guide them and
them questions to help guide them and they had to own the answer but that’s
they had to own the answer but that’s
they had to own the answer but that’s what he was doing with the med students
what he was doing with the med students
what he was doing with the med students he never once gave them the answer they
he never once gave them the answer they
he never once gave them the answer they had to only answer through that process
had to only answer through that process
had to only answer through that process he was just there to ask them questions
he was just there to ask them questions
he was just there to ask them questions and that got me thinking why do we have
and that got me thinking why do we have
and that got me thinking why do we have and reserved executive coaches just for
and reserved executive coaches just for
and reserved executive coaches just for executives why not bring executive
executives why not bring executive
executives why not bring executive coaching or that executive coaching
coaching or that executive coaching
coaching or that executive coaching mindset into schools now I know some
mindset into schools now I know some
mindset into schools now I know some people are gonna say this but okay we
people are gonna say this but okay we
people are gonna say this but okay we have support on campus we have guidance
have support on campus we have guidance
have support on campus we have guidance counselor’s on campus my argument will
counselor’s on campus my argument will
counselor’s on campus my argument will be this guidance counselor’s do what
be this guidance counselor’s do what
be this guidance counselor’s do what they provide guidance they provide
they provide guidance they provide
they provide guidance they provide direction I’m not saying we replace that
direction I’m not saying we replace that
direction I’m not saying we replace that but it’s a very different mindset than
but it’s a very different mindset than
but it’s a very different mindset than executive coaching where an executive
executive coaching where an executive
executive coaching where an executive coaches that individual gets to own that
coaches that individual gets to own that
coaches that individual gets to own that process as an executive coach one of the
process as an executive coach one of the
process as an executive coach one of the things that we do one of the matress I
things that we do one of the matress I
things that we do one of the matress I had as I never coached to the story or
had as I never coached to the story or
had as I never coached to the story or to the excuse what I did coach to was
to the excuse what I did coach to was
to the excuse what I did coach to was the now what and of course I certainly
the now what and of course I certainly
the now what and of course I certainly would have a very good excuse
would have a very good excuse
would have a very good excuse incurable cancer but now I focus not on
incurable cancer but now I focus not on
incurable cancer but now I focus not on that but I focus on the now what another
that but I focus on the now what another
that but I focus on the now what another thing that executive coaches do is we
thing that executive coaches do is we
thing that executive coaches do is we help our clients reframe or look at
help our clients reframe or look at
help our clients reframe or look at something different and when you reframe
something different and when you reframe
something different and when you reframe it yes maybe you might feel a bit better
it yes maybe you might feel a bit better
it yes maybe you might feel a bit better about it but more importantly the
about it but more importantly the
about it but more importantly the actions the behaviors that come out of
actions the behaviors that come out of
actions the behaviors that come out of that reframe that’s what’s important I’m
that reframe that’s what’s important I’m
that reframe that’s what’s important I’m gonna share with you an example of what
gonna share with you an example of what
gonna share with you an example of what I mean one of my students came to me in
I mean one of my students came to me in
I mean one of my students came to me in tears and as I was asking questions it
tears and as I was asking questions it
tears and as I was asking questions it turns out that the teacher had given him
turns out that the teacher had given him
turns out that the teacher had given him some feedback on some work and he had
some feedback on some work and he had
some feedback on some work and he had internalized that as the teacher hated
internalized that as the teacher hated
internalized that as the teacher hated him would have been so easy for me to
him would have been so easy for me to
him would have been so easy for me to say no that’s not the case but I didn’t
say no that’s not the case but I didn’t
say no that’s not the case but I didn’t do that I mean would he have had
do that I mean would he have had
do that I mean would he have had listened to the bearded guy so what I
listened to the bearded guy so what I
listened to the bearded guy so what I did is I asked him some more questions
did is I asked him some more questions
did is I asked him some more questions and as I got asking the students some
and as I got asking the students some
and as I got asking the students some questions after about 15 minutes the
questions after about 15 minutes the
questions after about 15 minutes the student himself reframed it as
student himself reframed it as
student himself reframed it as feedback was good especially for the
feedback was good especially for the
feedback was good especially for the career he was going into and one day
career he was going into and one day
career he was going into and one day would make him hyper competitive when he
would make him hyper competitive when he
would make him hyper competitive when he got out into the animation studio again
got out into the animation studio again
got out into the animation studio again would we have got him that same result
would we have got him that same result
would we have got him that same result if I just told him or if I had used
if I just told him or if I had used
if I just told him or if I had used executive coaching to guide him through
executive coaching to guide him through
executive coaching to guide him through to that answer that he got to own I’ll
to that answer that he got to own I’ll
to that answer that he got to own I’ll give you another example imagine you
give you another example imagine you
give you another example imagine you have two students in the exact same
have two students in the exact same
have two students in the exact same program let’s say they’re in a graphic
program let’s say they’re in a graphic
program let’s say they’re in a graphic design web development program so these
design web development program so these
design web development program so these two students are going to be learning
two students are going to be learning
two students are going to be learning the exact same technical things in class
the exact same technical things in class
the exact same technical things in class but success for them post school will be
but success for them post school will be
but success for them post school will be very different one student on one hand
very different one student on one hand
very different one student on one hand might want to be an entrepreneur one day
might want to be an entrepreneur one day
might want to be an entrepreneur one day the other student might want to work at
the other student might want to work at
the other student might want to work at that big design firm in New York or
that big design firm in New York or
that big design firm in New York or Montreal well working one-on-one with an
Montreal well working one-on-one with an
Montreal well working one-on-one with an executive coach we could work with that
executive coach we could work with that
executive coach we could work with that entrepreneur working towards how do you
entrepreneur working towards how do you
entrepreneur working towards how do you build out that entrepreneurial mindset
build out that entrepreneurial mindset
build out that entrepreneurial mindset how do you network but network from the
how do you network but network from the
how do you network but network from the perspective of getting new clients with
perspective of getting new clients with
perspective of getting new clients with that student who wanted to work at that
that student who wanted to work at that
that student who wanted to work at that design firm sure we could work with
design firm sure we could work with
design firm sure we could work with networking but the coaching would be how
networking but the coaching would be how
networking but the coaching would be how do you network to get a job at that
do you network to get a job at that
do you network to get a job at that design firm how do you conduct
design firm how do you conduct
design firm how do you conduct informational interviews to better
informational interviews to better
informational interviews to better position yourself to be successful in
position yourself to be successful in
position yourself to be successful in that panel interview you’ll have one day
that panel interview you’ll have one day
that panel interview you’ll have one day so again both students taking the exact
so again both students taking the exact
so again both students taking the exact same technical course but working
same technical course but working
same technical course but working one-on-one with an executive coach to
one-on-one with an executive coach to
one-on-one with an executive coach to achieve success on however that student
achieve success on however that student
achieve success on however that student or that client decides success looks
or that client decides success looks
or that client decides success looks like now I know I might not have
like now I know I might not have
like now I know I might not have answered fully this question of how are
answered fully this question of how are
answered fully this question of how are we preparing the next generation to
we preparing the next generation to
we preparing the next generation to enter the workforce but at the very
enter the workforce but at the very
enter the workforce but at the very least I hope we’ve started a
least I hope we’ve started a
least I hope we’ve started a conversation today thank you
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